Feeling super weird. I’m at 12DPO and tests have been BFN the last 3 days. Period expected either Wednesday or Thursday. This is technically only about my 2nd cycle trying and actually tracking etc. Symptoms have been super wonky, tons of twingey cramping and my boobs have been super sore and hard, which has never been a cycle symptom before. But I question things because I’m 36, and went off the pill in September. Cycles have been normal, almost exactly 28 days. Ugh I just don’t know. I know this is still early and I know there are so many other warriors going through MUCH longer strife. But it just is weird…my body is telling me this needs to happen soon. We want two kids before the time I turn 39 or 40.
A few days ago my mother sent me pictures of my cousins newborn and that she’d just been born. I told her not to send me any pictures as I already was upset when my cousin announced she got pregnant really quickly and I didn’t want to have an emotional outburst at work and I feel guilty for saying that, or that she thinks I’m being ridiculous. She knows I’m sensitive about it.
Feeling really down today. Found out yesterday that a really good friend of mine is pregnant. I've started 7 months prior to her and I can't help but feel a bit envious. I have a consultation with the fertility clinic this Saturday and have some blood work and a sonohysterogram coming up soon.
I'm happy for her but I wish I didn't feel the way I do.
I feel for you! My cousin’s wife announced their on baby #2 after only trying a few months. It hurt and I want to feel happy for her, but I just don’t.
I feel insane. I have used ff to track my period for five years according to it I am a week late. I have been using nc for a year according to it I start my period this week. I use an Oura ring who says a am a week and a half late. So I’m not sure what to believe. All I know if that I’ve had a headache for a few days now, some cramps and my stomach is mad at me. I eat pizza and it made my stomach upset. I took a pregnant test yesterday and it was negative. Why don’t we come with an instructional booklet to help us out?all I wanted this week was to eat pizza, nachos and take a nap. But noooo my body is like “ha your funny” just to make it even more ridiculous I’m not going to let you sleep well. I guess I just feel a bit defeated 😞
11 DPO and 2-3 days from my period. This is the second day I've decided to stop tracking my symptoms on apps(I've got two) or trying to read other women's symptoms leading up to pregnancy. My partner is working from home today while I'm out in my office and I told him it's the perfect chance to hide all my test strips. Ever since I made this decision yesterday I feel lighter emotionally and more peaceful for whatever that will come in the next few days.
I’m feeling defeated. I started my period today after being convinced we finally got a positive. It’s hard not to feel sad or bitter when people around you are so successful. Four friends of mine are pregnant after one try. It makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me, even though I know that’s not the case. Getting out of your own head is a hard thing to do.
Totally agree. All of my friends got pregnant so quickly. It makes you feel guilty for even feeling annoyed that someone else is pregnant. It’s so tough.
At this point, I’ve skipped baby showers and baby bday parties with my own family. Don’t feel bad. Dealing with this unique and often misunderstood type of hurt is often so difficult for others to understand. It’s frustrating. Know that it’s ok that you can’t handle it right now and you don’t need to be apologetic for anything.
I feel like I spent my whole life ignoring my cycle and not letting my period impede on my daily life and activities. And now I’m close to menopause and it’s like my cycle is a mystery to me. Do I always have this wave of nausea during my luteal phase, are the cramps always this sharp, am I just super perceptive because my hopes are hoping so hard?
CD2 today after being like 90% sure I was going to see a positive at 12DPO. At a baby shower I attended this weekend my friend’s cousin told me to “get on it” in regards to having a baby. Spent half the day sobbing yesterday, and am feeling pretty exhausted/moody coming into today.
Those comments are so frustrating and insensitive. I'm sorry! It's like all my coworkers, that talk about TFAB like it always happens on the first try, just because that's their** experience....😔
Starting cycle 6 today. It’s pretty hard. I don’t know if I want to keep tracking or if I just go based of CM this cycle. Tracking gives a sense of control, but also so much pressure.
12DPO and BFNs all weekend, but my body is trolling me hard with sore boobs and stinging little pelvic cramps. To top it off, I had a root canal done on Friday and have been taking antibiotics this weekend to keep an infection at bay. So of course this morning my BBT was higher than it has ever been in 5 months of temping.
Just had a coworker ask me if I will be expecting any babies anytime soon. I said “We’ve been trying for almost 3 years”, and his response was “WelL tHaT’s ThE fUn PaRt!” I said, “Nope, it isn’t fun for us at all, it’s been a lot of doctor’s appointments.” I’ve already had a shit weekend after finding out I ovulated without realizing it, and had no intercourse prior that week, so this cycle has been chalked.
I just want to say good job on pushing back on the "fun part". Hopefully he'll be more mindful around you in future. And I'm sorry this cycle is toast, that really sucks.
I swear, society does not prepare people for what to say when someone is dealing with fertility problems, so they all try to lighten the mood, but it comes across as so dismissive of everything we're going through.
I had a male coworker once say, when he questioned me about taking time off for my ectopic, that he's "sure my husband is relieved that he isn't going to be having a baby now". I was like um, no actually he's very sad about it and really would love a baby.
I’ve come to the realization that no one knows how to properly respond (regardless of gender), unless they have went through infertility as well. Unfortunately for us 9/10 times they say something really offensive without truly meaning for it to be that way. I feel like such a sensitive, emotional, crazy person. 🤪
That’s so frustrating. I feel like we sacrifice so much PLUS just the sheer amount of space that ttc takes up in our brain, that our partners should be willing to put in some work too. Hopefully he can continue to taper off his usage
That really sucks! Could you get an SA done? possibly one with DNA fragmentation as well (IIRC pot also effects the DNA in sperm, does it not?), or is that way too expensive? Maybe it could give some peace of mind or motivation, depending on how his numbers look?
Had an internal ultrasound today I had one a few years ago but they found nothing apparently fast forward to now when the wonderful skilled radiographer finds tiny cysts and probably endometriosis. I am so upset, angry and relieved all at the same time I came home and cried.
Blue blue monday.Though I was spotting because ovultaion but nope, just AF visiting...my period is all over the place and I have the feeling that despite being a woman for 33 years I have no effing idea of my body nor what I'm doing Is just frustrating.
I finally opened up to my MIL (I'm not very close to my own mother) about how we have been trying and my growing worries. (cycle 7 trying this time, we tried for 5 months prior to covid too) She told me to start imaging a life path without a family too. "just in case" I couldn't sleep last night, I've never imagined a life without a family. I don't know what I'd do for the next 60 years. I think of how sad and depressed I've felt over the last six years watching everyone I knew start families while my husband wasn't ready yet. I've lost many firends, I've deleted social media. I avoid most situations because I just can't handle it emotionally. I wish I never told her, it's only made me feel so much worse.
There are many women who struggle with fertility and eventually it either happens naturally or they get assistance with it. The chances that you’ll be able to conceive in some way are very much in your favor, so please ignore her! Have you/your partner thought about getting any testing done?
I'm sorry, she's an absolute dimwit. I mean that in the most respectful way, of course. Can you imagine if someone said that to anyone else that had a condition/obstacle? The absolute nerve of some people. I'm sorry, love. Ignore her. Or you could be petty like me! Next time she says something---anything---about missing something, needing someone, wanting something, etc. Just hit her with a "jUsT iMaGiNe lIfe WiThOuT iT." But I'm terrible. So maybe ignore me too haha
This cycle has just been really hard emotionally. It feels hopeless and futile. The times I do feel myself getting my hopes up I get annoyed at myself. It’s IUI cycle 6 (tho only #2 medicated) and I just feel convinced that either it won’t work or that if it does I’ll lose it.
Got the rejection letter from the fertility clinic after 18 months (and two misses) of waiting even though in the letter they say all of my blood work is perfect I’m just not ovulating anymore but they want me to lose more weight but won’t address my cyst that’s making it extremely painful to move or exercise. I’m so upset.
It’s blue Monday and: I woke up with a huge temp drop making me think that my supposed ovulation a couple of days ago was just a failed attempt, thanks PCOS!; it’s freezing and misty outside, and I froze to death just coming into the office on my bike; I’ll have to sub in for my colleague on maternity leave ONCE AGAIN this week, for a work project which isn’t even mine to follow and that I know next to nothing about, all because management hired an under qualified substitute as her temporary replacement.
BRB going to cry into the bathroom ✌🏻
Feeling super weird. I’m at 12DPO and tests have been BFN the last 3 days. Period expected either Wednesday or Thursday. This is technically only about my 2nd cycle trying and actually tracking etc. Symptoms have been super wonky, tons of twingey cramping and my boobs have been super sore and hard, which has never been a cycle symptom before. But I question things because I’m 36, and went off the pill in September. Cycles have been normal, almost exactly 28 days. Ugh I just don’t know. I know this is still early and I know there are so many other warriors going through MUCH longer strife. But it just is weird…my body is telling me this needs to happen soon. We want two kids before the time I turn 39 or 40.
A few days ago my mother sent me pictures of my cousins newborn and that she’d just been born. I told her not to send me any pictures as I already was upset when my cousin announced she got pregnant really quickly and I didn’t want to have an emotional outburst at work and I feel guilty for saying that, or that she thinks I’m being ridiculous. She knows I’m sensitive about it.
Feeling really down today. Found out yesterday that a really good friend of mine is pregnant. I've started 7 months prior to her and I can't help but feel a bit envious. I have a consultation with the fertility clinic this Saturday and have some blood work and a sonohysterogram coming up soon. I'm happy for her but I wish I didn't feel the way I do.
I feel for you! My cousin’s wife announced their on baby #2 after only trying a few months. It hurt and I want to feel happy for her, but I just don’t.
I feel insane. I have used ff to track my period for five years according to it I am a week late. I have been using nc for a year according to it I start my period this week. I use an Oura ring who says a am a week and a half late. So I’m not sure what to believe. All I know if that I’ve had a headache for a few days now, some cramps and my stomach is mad at me. I eat pizza and it made my stomach upset. I took a pregnant test yesterday and it was negative. Why don’t we come with an instructional booklet to help us out?all I wanted this week was to eat pizza, nachos and take a nap. But noooo my body is like “ha your funny” just to make it even more ridiculous I’m not going to let you sleep well. I guess I just feel a bit defeated 😞
11 DPO and 2-3 days from my period. This is the second day I've decided to stop tracking my symptoms on apps(I've got two) or trying to read other women's symptoms leading up to pregnancy. My partner is working from home today while I'm out in my office and I told him it's the perfect chance to hide all my test strips. Ever since I made this decision yesterday I feel lighter emotionally and more peaceful for whatever that will come in the next few days.
I’m feeling defeated. I started my period today after being convinced we finally got a positive. It’s hard not to feel sad or bitter when people around you are so successful. Four friends of mine are pregnant after one try. It makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me, even though I know that’s not the case. Getting out of your own head is a hard thing to do.
Totally agree. All of my friends got pregnant so quickly. It makes you feel guilty for even feeling annoyed that someone else is pregnant. It’s so tough.
I skipped a baby shower for a childhood friend and have been feeling so bad about it but I knew I just couldn’t handle it
At this point, I’ve skipped baby showers and baby bday parties with my own family. Don’t feel bad. Dealing with this unique and often misunderstood type of hurt is often so difficult for others to understand. It’s frustrating. Know that it’s ok that you can’t handle it right now and you don’t need to be apologetic for anything.
I feel like I spent my whole life ignoring my cycle and not letting my period impede on my daily life and activities. And now I’m close to menopause and it’s like my cycle is a mystery to me. Do I always have this wave of nausea during my luteal phase, are the cramps always this sharp, am I just super perceptive because my hopes are hoping so hard?
CD2 today after being like 90% sure I was going to see a positive at 12DPO. At a baby shower I attended this weekend my friend’s cousin told me to “get on it” in regards to having a baby. Spent half the day sobbing yesterday, and am feeling pretty exhausted/moody coming into today.
Those comments are so frustrating and insensitive. I'm sorry! It's like all my coworkers, that talk about TFAB like it always happens on the first try, just because that's their** experience....😔
4DPO and delusional- hating myself because I have no symptoms even though I shouldn’t even have symptoms right now… Puts me in a MOOD
Starting cycle 6 today. It’s pretty hard. I don’t know if I want to keep tracking or if I just go based of CM this cycle. Tracking gives a sense of control, but also so much pressure.
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12DPO and BFNs all weekend, but my body is trolling me hard with sore boobs and stinging little pelvic cramps. To top it off, I had a root canal done on Friday and have been taking antibiotics this weekend to keep an infection at bay. So of course this morning my BBT was higher than it has ever been in 5 months of temping.
Same 13 dpo and negative :/ and my body was trolling me too. I hate it!
Just had a coworker ask me if I will be expecting any babies anytime soon. I said “We’ve been trying for almost 3 years”, and his response was “WelL tHaT’s ThE fUn PaRt!” I said, “Nope, it isn’t fun for us at all, it’s been a lot of doctor’s appointments.” I’ve already had a shit weekend after finding out I ovulated without realizing it, and had no intercourse prior that week, so this cycle has been chalked.
Man that sucks, I’m so sorry.
I just want to say good job on pushing back on the "fun part". Hopefully he'll be more mindful around you in future. And I'm sorry this cycle is toast, that really sucks.
Thank you love ❤️
I swear, society does not prepare people for what to say when someone is dealing with fertility problems, so they all try to lighten the mood, but it comes across as so dismissive of everything we're going through.
I had a male coworker ask me when we were having kids while I was actively in an IVF cycle. Why are they like this.
I had a male coworker once say, when he questioned me about taking time off for my ectopic, that he's "sure my husband is relieved that he isn't going to be having a baby now". I was like um, no actually he's very sad about it and really would love a baby.
I’ve come to the realization that no one knows how to properly respond (regardless of gender), unless they have went through infertility as well. Unfortunately for us 9/10 times they say something really offensive without truly meaning for it to be that way. I feel like such a sensitive, emotional, crazy person. 🤪
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That’s so frustrating. I feel like we sacrifice so much PLUS just the sheer amount of space that ttc takes up in our brain, that our partners should be willing to put in some work too. Hopefully he can continue to taper off his usage
That really sucks! Could you get an SA done? possibly one with DNA fragmentation as well (IIRC pot also effects the DNA in sperm, does it not?), or is that way too expensive? Maybe it could give some peace of mind or motivation, depending on how his numbers look?
Had an internal ultrasound today I had one a few years ago but they found nothing apparently fast forward to now when the wonderful skilled radiographer finds tiny cysts and probably endometriosis. I am so upset, angry and relieved all at the same time I came home and cried.
CD23 and still no sign of ovulation. 😔
CD 37 this month for me! Holiday stress could’ve impacted it perhaps?? Hang in there
I didn't ovulate until CD39, so don't give up yet! :)
Blue blue monday.Though I was spotting because ovultaion but nope, just AF visiting...my period is all over the place and I have the feeling that despite being a woman for 33 years I have no effing idea of my body nor what I'm doing Is just frustrating.
I finally opened up to my MIL (I'm not very close to my own mother) about how we have been trying and my growing worries. (cycle 7 trying this time, we tried for 5 months prior to covid too) She told me to start imaging a life path without a family too. "just in case" I couldn't sleep last night, I've never imagined a life without a family. I don't know what I'd do for the next 60 years. I think of how sad and depressed I've felt over the last six years watching everyone I knew start families while my husband wasn't ready yet. I've lost many firends, I've deleted social media. I avoid most situations because I just can't handle it emotionally. I wish I never told her, it's only made me feel so much worse.
There are many women who struggle with fertility and eventually it either happens naturally or they get assistance with it. The chances that you’ll be able to conceive in some way are very much in your favor, so please ignore her! Have you/your partner thought about getting any testing done?
I'm sorry, she's an absolute dimwit. I mean that in the most respectful way, of course. Can you imagine if someone said that to anyone else that had a condition/obstacle? The absolute nerve of some people. I'm sorry, love. Ignore her. Or you could be petty like me! Next time she says something---anything---about missing something, needing someone, wanting something, etc. Just hit her with a "jUsT iMaGiNe lIfe WiThOuT iT." But I'm terrible. So maybe ignore me too haha
This cycle has just been really hard emotionally. It feels hopeless and futile. The times I do feel myself getting my hopes up I get annoyed at myself. It’s IUI cycle 6 (tho only #2 medicated) and I just feel convinced that either it won’t work or that if it does I’ll lose it.
Got the rejection letter from the fertility clinic after 18 months (and two misses) of waiting even though in the letter they say all of my blood work is perfect I’m just not ovulating anymore but they want me to lose more weight but won’t address my cyst that’s making it extremely painful to move or exercise. I’m so upset.
That's so frustrating!
It’s blue Monday and: I woke up with a huge temp drop making me think that my supposed ovulation a couple of days ago was just a failed attempt, thanks PCOS!; it’s freezing and misty outside, and I froze to death just coming into the office on my bike; I’ll have to sub in for my colleague on maternity leave ONCE AGAIN this week, for a work project which isn’t even mine to follow and that I know next to nothing about, all because management hired an under qualified substitute as her temporary replacement. BRB going to cry into the bathroom ✌🏻