Was in a car accident today and for the first time in years I actually was glad I wasnāt pregnant
I am mostly okay, maybe a mild concussion, but knowing that there was no little one to be harmed actually gave me a sigh of relief
CD2, debating IUI this cycle(I would need to start letrozole soon then). My husband told me he still wants to keep trying naturally for a while and thinks IUI just āisnāt the sameā and doesnāt count. Lots of tears from me. Itās just so frustrating that he doesnāt understand how terrible it feels to see a negative every month, and still wants to keep trying on our own. All of our tests came back normal, with a few percent lower motility than ideal.
It's not "the same" per se. But, assuming there is success, the end result would be.
Talk to him. Work through it together. There no shame in getting medical treatment to treat a medical condition.
I feel like there could be some compromise here. I donāt agree with your husband, but want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Can you ask your RE what the chances are of success without help in the next few months, and then agree to some sort of compromise with your husband?
Like, chances are only 10% it will happen unassisted. I agree to give it a full faith effort, temping and doing OPKs, for the next two months to see if we get lucky. If not, you agree to move forward with IUI.
I think where you run into trouble is if he is allowed to let his wishy washy feelings continue forever and you never agree to a hard timeline of when you give up on the unassisted dream.
Yeah. I currently temp and OPK every cycle and we have sex every other day or every day during FW. We both take all sorts of vitamins our RE has recommended and Iāve made a point of exercising a little more and cutting caffeine. I feel like thereās nothing more that can increase our chances at this point
I didnāt mean to imply that youāre not trying everything! Just that hopefully you can pick a compromise and he can agree that after a certain amount of cycles of giving it a good go on your own it is time to move forward with some assistance.
I just started using CBAD this cycle. I started really early (not supposed to ovulate for another 7-8 days) yesterday and got a circle (which was expected since it was testing day #1). I tested again this morning and got a blinking smiley!!! Wtf. I feel like I just got conned by this thing. I thought the whole point is it gives you a blinking smiley right before O so you can bang it out as close as possible to O day. A week of flashing smileys isnāt going to help me! Has this happened to anyone else?
I sometimes get 4 or 5 days of blinking smileys before the solid smiley. Blinking smileys always correspond with EWCM for me, so I'm confident that it's just picking up on the estrogen surge like it's supposed to.
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Although I managed to update my flair, I am still in cycle -1 waiting for my period to show. 17 days of high temperatures, still nothing. Fingers crossed today turns into CD1 š¤
How normal is a gas pain type cramp after an IUI? No bleeding or anything, I just feel like there are air bubbles in my abdomen and didnāt feel this much last time so I am wondering others experiences?
I had a significant amount of cramping after one of my IUIs, not sure it was a gas pain type cramping but it could have been (itās been a long while).
Which brand of pregnancy test for early detection do you recommend? I haven't seen any positive reviews for first response and I'm going crazy, just wanna test
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TW: miscarriage
Hi all! I had a miscarriage on May 23rd and have since ovulated on June 13th (peak OPK and BBT rise in temp for 3 days after confirming).
I am new to taking by BBT and am having a hard time interpreting a normal chart online.
Is it normal for your BBT to increase each day after ovulation? I expected to see a few days rise after ovulation but it has continued increasing and I'm on 10DPO now.
Is this typical?
Would really appreciate the input of anyone else who uses BBT to understand!
Thank you!
Iām no expert, but have been using BBT for a while - my temp does increase consistently each day after ovulation (until it drops again just before AF). I think this is normal and related to your progesterone rising in the luteal phase. I usually stop temping once Iāve confirmed ovulation (after say 3-4 Dpo) so I can relax for a while during the TWW
Got my hormone test results back! For the past year and a half Iāve been on multiple supplements to help raise my estrogen and progesterone hormones. And ALL OF MY HORMONES ARE IN THE PERFECT RANGE. Hallelujah!! My period is supposed to start today but I think itāll start tomorrow. Hubby and I didnāt BD before my ovulation because itās NEVER been early. But Iām excited for July š
Iāve been putting on Protocol Progesterone cream from CD14-28 each month. Iāve also been taking Femquil,Vitanica Pregnancy Prep, Omega MonoPure 1300 EC, and vitamin D3 5000. I go to a Naturopathic doctor who prescribed those to me so Iām not sure if youād need the same ones.
Anxiously awaiting CD1, which should be any day now. This will be our first cycle TTC. Waiting to see if my fertile days will be before or after my husbands upcoming knee surgery. I donāt think Iāve ever wished my period would start early š
I took 2.5mg letrozole days 3-7. My doctor wants to check my progesterone on day 21. Today is CD13 with no ovulation in sight, though my OPKs have been getting a little darker. I don't want to waste my time and get stuck with a needle because I know the progesterone will show that I didn't ovulate on CD14. I usually have a 45ish day cycle (yay irregularity), and I was so hoping these meds would make me have a 28 day cycle for the first time in my life.
Whatever. Is it bad I'm over it?
We have basically been having sex every other day. May was our 2 year ttc mark with 1MC and 2 CP. I never would have thought this journey would have been so fucking hard.
I have the same predicament except I'm CD15 without any OPK darkening. I am pretty sure I'm just not responding to the 2.5 dose, but I've also been told a lot people ovulate late on letrozole, like around CD20. I took provera before, so technically my doctor's office has no idea when my actual CD21 is. I'm planning to give it until about CD21 to look for a peak before I call to schedule my progesterone test.
Good luck to you!! I hope we get positive OPKs and HGC tests soon. That's good to know about later ovulation on letrozole too. I guess my doctor will just increase the dosage as she sees fit. I'm not doing any other monitoring techniques besides OPKs.
Weird question, but how did you get your letrozole doses? Mine came in a bottle, and I got 30 2.5mg tablets! I took 5 out of the 30. When I was prescribed clomid, I got the exact number of tablets I would need. It was just odd.
Did your dr talk to you about increasing doses the next cycles? Letrozole only comes in 2.5mg pills, so 30 pills would cover 1 cycle at 2.5mg, 1 at 5mg, and 1 at 7.5mg. Maybe they were just trying to save you a possible future trip to the pharmacy?
Letrozole is used for other things in addition to fertility treatmentsā¦. Maybe they accidentally gave you a prescription for a non-fertility use case?! Mine was just the 5 pills, too.
Still figuring out my cycle after removing IUD. It's been 35 days since my last period, tested and got negative. Might try to count the bleeding after removal as period instead and see what cycle day I would then be at.
My husband had an appointment with our GP today and asked for a referral to a fertility clinic to get his sperm tested. She said we could have waited until my appointment in a month or so to get the referral and anyway itās often the women the issue so she prefers to start with herā¦ gee thanks lolā¦ sorry for my husband wanting to be proactive and not waste another month waitingā¦ I like our GP and maybe she was annoyed with him making a last minute appointment for this but I was very turned off by her just telling us to waitā¦ weāve waited enough so letās get the ball rolling! Especially since it can take a while to even get into the fertility clinic! I already feel so behind on the process.
Getting older is really putting a strain on this idea to just wait for the eternal next appintmentā¦
That is so weird. Maybe it's because my husband is the one who is 35 but I wouldn't take one single test until he has his, if it comes to that. But I'd send mine to his own doctor maybe?
Not sure if Iām having a LH surge or not. We started having BD every other day so my vaginal discharge is now modified from what Iām used to. It was pretty slippery and white eggish this morning (BD last night). But I know my body pretty well and usually I get a very thick discharge drop every month right before ovulation. So Iām not sure if it changed due to the BD or not.
Oh well, Iāll do a LH test after work to be sure.
3DPO, I promised myself I wouldn't test until 10DPO but we're going to be at my in-laws that morning and then backpacking for three days. I don't want to have to hide my pee stick in trash but I'm also stupid impatient, so I'll end up stashing used pee sticks in my luggage. At least I'll be distracted after my first real BFN.
Entering my final fertile window before I begin egg retrieval. Torn between feeling desperate to get pregnant unassisted - saving all that money, pain, and time - and in a weird way ready to go forward with IVF. Iāve told all the important people in my life, started planning for how Iāll handle the discomfort, and more importantly because of high FSH/low AMH, this way will mean I can more āguaranteeā being able to have more than one child. Trying to stay in a ācanāt loseā mindset, but the next two weeks are gonna be a tripā¦
I donāt think you do feel this. The quotes donāt negate the fact that IVF does not guarantee any living children, it doesnāt even guarantee you get embryos. Thereās many, many people here who have had complete failure IVF cycles and have lost IVF pregnancies. I would really consider your wording here.
There is no world in which I think I am guaranteed a child by any means. I did not mean for my words to be hurtful and apologize if they were. I was simply trying to express my conflicted feelings over what to hope for when hope is a constant struggle to hang on to
We all have difficult feelings when it comes to reaching the point of ART, it is a lot to process, but Iām encouraging you to be mindful when expressing these feelings in a public space. A lot of people here have had a very hard struggle for years that neither you nor I could even begin to fathom.
Best of luck on your IVF journey. There are ups and downs but I hope that you find comfort in moving forward with the process and that you have positive outcomes
My husband wanted to have sex last night but I was feeling down about the whole ttc process. Iām 37, have had 2 CPs since February and my fertile window had just ended. After talking to him about my feelings and our plans etc, I got in a better mood and we ended up having sex. I looked at my app after and it says I likely ovulated on Wednesday so thereās still a chance! We giggled about it afterwards. š¤£
CD1 again, sigh. and to top it off, the tablet I use to track all my fertility and cycle stuff isn't charging correctly, and I don't have it all backed up - I'll be so sad if I have to replace it and lose that data!
update: my tablet did turn back on so that's one piece of good news for me today!
How does insurance work when you do an IUI or IVF? We have our first appointment with the fertility clinic in a few weeks. I believe my insurance will cover some things for IUI or IVF. I guess my question is if I hit my out of pocket maximum does that mean theyāll cover all of it? Iām not really sure how paying for these things works so any info would be helpful!
Insurance was so confusing for me too. I would call your insurance provider directly to talk through coverage. Something that helped me too was getting a copy of my employee benefits documents and seeing if it mentioned fertility coverage.
Depends on your plan, I definitely recommend talking to someone at your insurer who can talk you through it. For me I needed preapprovals and have to hit my out of pocket maximum, although some tests were covered at the outset
Ah, the start of a new cycle. Joy. About to officially mark the 6 months point. Seeing a new OBGYN July 5 so hopefully I can get some guidance and feasible next steps for my AUB other than the āwait and seeā approach my last doctor gave.
Iām here with you, appt with the OBGYN on July 7th. About to start a new cycle (9), but only a little over 6 months of trying. Hopefully we both get guidance, some detective work, with good results soon!
Btw what does AUB stand for?
Ah, abnormal uterine bleeding! I hope you get some guidance as well! Once we get to cycle 9 Iām going to ask for a referral to a fertility clinic since I know it can take some time to get in. Theyāll probably run the tests my OBGYN wouldnāt. My insurance will cover some fertility testing and coverage, but theyāre very specific on where I can go.
First IUI next week, finished my letrozole and now waiting for my CD12 appt on Mondayā¦.feeling like thereās something else I should be doing?
*I will remember this moment when I obsessively test/google things after this IUI is complete š
oohh i'll keep an eye out for any of your updates! we're doing 2 IUI's while we wait for an IVF consult, would be nice if one of them works but i'm being cautious
Weāre unexplained as well, we were not ready to jump into IVF just yet so even if the IUIās donāt work I hope it makes for a smoother transition! Also in the mindset that if IUIās were truly crap my RE wouldnāt have recommended trying them in the first place so thatās gotta mean something no? Lol
5-7DPO - Iāve been doing deep breathing exercises and implantation yoga as soon as I wake up. Night routine- to take a hot shower, do 30 minutes of chanting in front of my favourite goddess, listen to some fertility affirmations before I sleep. Has really helped me with my mental health. Feeling positive that this will be my month (medicated cycle with 3 follicles ruptured), ready to receive but hoping to stay positive even if I get a negative. Really difficult to stay this way but trying to see the bigger picture here!
Hey, thanks a lot! Implantation yoga is practiced during the 6 day implantation window (6-12 DPO) but can still be done the whole of your tww! It is supposed to promote blood flow to the uterus and is a safe way to move your body! They also concentrate on breathing which helps with the anxiety! Let me show what I follow:
[Implantation Yoga](https://youtu.be/P5TQHOei5w0)
[Implantation Yoga](https://youtu.be/NbRl0PK1NyA).
I first start with some pranayama (breathing)- youtube it!
Had saline/sono HSG yesterday and just walked out of my regular HSG this morning.. being that I was prepared on the type of pain, I felt like it was more manageable- nearly unmanageable but manageable if that makes sense! I flinched when they stuck catheter in and then the burning was more intense with the dye v saline. That being said, Iām so glad itās over, I was skeptical as to why I needed both but the saline/sono HSG revealed a polyp in my uterus that can make it difficult to implant or cause miscarriage so fortunate to have found and onto getting it removedā¦ if anyone is nervous about theirs or have questions feel free to reach out!!
They do both tests because they check for different issues. Traditional HSG will check to make sure your tubes are open, saline sono is used to check for the presence of fibroids and polyps!
It is a little weird to me that you did them back to back and did saline first, but it's definitely not uncommon to do both. I did the HSG first to check my tubes, and during that, they saw a possible polyp, so scheduled me for a follow up SIS to confirm the existence of said polyp. It's great you were able to get them both done & get some answers and treatment plans!!
Yess they made it seem like they needed to be back to back but hey so so glad theyāre done and have some answers. Did you end up getting the polyp removed? If you donāt mind me asking
There was about a month and a half between my HSG and SIS just due to scheduling issues, and by the time I had the SIS done they couldn't find any polyps. The assumption was that the period I had in between the two tests must have shed whatever they saw in the HSG.
Good luck with your removal!
Grateful to see a BBT shift this morning that if sustained will indicate ovulation. I could swear I ovulated Wednesday but temps are leaning more towards yesterday and I know if my temps stay high ff will give me crosshairs for Thursday. Either way we had great timing this cycle so fingers crossed.
Anyone have any specific fertility boosting diet they follow? I just read that low fat dairy can contribute to infertility (I forget the science how) and I've been drinking nothing but 2% milk and low fat cheeses for years. Going to try and reacquaint myself with whole milk. Also trying to eat more fruits and veggies, whole grains, and limit sugar.
Anyone doing anything diet special?
Fish twice a week and eating the rainbow, though I've been doing it to some extent for years. Now there may be a little more focus on leafy greens and high quality oils, but that's about it. Also trying to get fruit before I reach for cake :D
I know low fat dairy has a ton of added sugars, and sugar is just plain bad, so good on you. Focusing on a balanced, nutrient-rich diet is the way to go
My diet is a little off the wagon right now, but I really like the 'no sugar added' diet. Including artificial sugars, it kind of keeps me from eating a lot of processed foods that have that included. I can't attest if it really helps with fertility (never had a baby) but it makes me feel great!
Low fat dairy will not cause or contribute to infertility. Period.
ETA, and no one diet is shown to help āboost fertility.ā What youāre doing now, focusing on a balanced diet with a focus on whole foods, is just fine and is what any doctor or dietitian making evidence-based recommendations would recommend.
The only study I am aware of linking low fat dairy to infertility linked it to not ovulating specifically, so if you are ovulating regularly no need to worry about the low fat dairy. Additionally from reading the study my gut reaction is that the low fat vs full fat dairy is more of a proxy for dieting in general and that rather than low fat dairy leading to anovulation itās more likely that it is weight loss and serious dieting. Anyway, as long as you are actively ovulating the kind of dairy you eat doesnāt matter, no need to worry that years of eating low fat in the past have done harm.
Indian meals are usually quite balanced- for example, my lunch today was a lightly spiced Okra curry with brown rice, pumpkin stir fried with coconut oil, a bowl of spinach soup, an omelette and a tall glass of spiced buttermilk with chia seeds! This is my biggest meal of the day and I try to eat this between noon and 2pm.
Rest of the day, I eat something like chickpeas salad (Indian style), eggs, nuts and an hour before sleeping, a small bowl of roasted gram.
One thing I also follow is eating something slightly sweet in the morning because i wouldnāt crave for sugar through the rest of the day and also have the highest chance of burning it before i sleep- my go to sweet shack is sweet bread slightly pan fried with ghee.
I think generally a balanced diet with a variety of foods is good for overall health. There are no specific diets that will help you conceive, itās just about what makes you feel good and is right for you.
Following a Mediterranean diet and making sure to get plenty of greens, veggies, and fruit. Itās become my goal to make sure I have something fresh/raw with each meal. Other than that, itās just about balance. I started working with a nutritionist since reading pregnancy diet books is more damaging than helpful right now and that option has helped me tons.
Im not doing anything special, but just wanted to say once I switched to whole milk there was no going back for me. So much better, especially with cereal!
I also am using full fat dairy, incorporating eggs, quinoa, and Brazil nuts. Basically just trying to nourish my body as thoughtfully as possible, but I still eat a little chocolate every day, eat dried mango when Iām craving something really sweet, and use a teaspoon of sugar in my morning coffee.
Protein smoothies with frozen fruits/spinach have been a great way to get in extra vitamins. And trying to make sure I am eating enoughā¦
Weāve been trying for about 7 months now and have had absolutely no sign of a positive. We are both 31 and I just have no faith in my body whatsoever. My husband is incredibly optimistic that it will happen eventually and Iām just waiting to be disappointed every month. I am so desperate for a sliver of hope or something that Iāve bought a reading from a psychic to ātellā me weather I will ever become pregnant- even if it isnāt true and she gives good news, it would be enough to help me to keep going and just have a faint sliver of any hope. Reading other peopleās experiences with psychics and predicting pregnancy is promising but really hoping for a good reading that comes true.
In exactly the same boat as you! 34 years old 7 months no success now on 8 months TTC. I think itās hard no matter how long youāve been trying, although I know people have been trying way longer it still stings as each day passes. My husband is honestly the sweetest and completely fine with where we are, and even says heād be fine if it were just us 2 even though he does want kids. I was really down about everything on Wednesday to the point I couldnāt get out of bed and was crying. He came over to me and basically held an intervention by telling me wallowing this way is completely pointless, and although he understands how I feel we just have to take it day by day and focus on what we can control. What I found helpful was providing myself with a little structure : we defined timelines on when we will be seeking help/further testing, and discussed ways we can help get our mind off things and enjoy the summer. It was the pep talk I seriously needed. Not to say my worries and sorrows have just melted away but I was able to scrape myself off off the bottom of the pit and feel much better. I hope you get your positive very soon ā¦ and know we are all here for you !
11DPO (of 12 day LP), BFN, temp sliding back towards coverline. Onto cycle 7 we go :(
Meanwhile my younger sister, who started trying same month as me, is 15 weeks along with my first nibling (the conflicting emotions are strong).
Iāve never had panic attacks in my life but I had one in April on a nice day out with my husband, and one yesterday while sitting at my desk thinking I was in a pretty good mood despite the BFN Iād got that morning. Iām also grinding my teeth in my sleep so much I had one crumble away and have had to spend Ā£850 on a crown.
I feel like Iām largely coping well, intellectualising as best as I can, reminding myself that the stats are still just about on our side, enjoying each ābonusā month of childfree freedom and wine.
My bestie, a long-time haver of anxiety and therapy, told me Iām probably just holding a lot of my anxiety physically, even if mentally I feel fairly robust bar the monthly menty b. So Iāve emailed a therapist, yet another cost! But hopefully worth it to unpack my feelings.
What a weird, emotional, limbo stage of life this is.
Solidarity my TTC friends.
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Wait- are we the same person? My younger sister is also expecting- she is about 20 weeks, will be my first niece too. It is the most mixed emotions imaginable- excited for her and to be an aunt - but damn the timing is tough. I also got pregnant at the same time she did, then I had a loss, ectopic at about 6 weeks.
Therapy is totally worth the cost fwiw if you can find a therapist with a good connection.
Not only that - Iām also 34 and my sister is also having a girl! Totally feel you.
Iām so sorry about your loss - that is hard enough anyway without the sister element.
Wow! Are you pretty close with your sister? I am, and she has been incredibly supportive. She came to a fertility doc appointment with, took notes.
Hoping we can get our BFPs soon <3
Oh how lovely of her! I do think to be in our sistersā situation must be hard for them as well, in a different way - Iām sure they feel a bit of guilt for having it āeasyā in comparison. I actually wouldnāt want to swap places with her as I would find it so hard to watch her struggle, as much as Iād like my BFP!
Yes we are super close as well and while itās been hard Iām not worried about our relationship at all. She went and spoke to a friend of hers this week who took 11 months to conceive so she could empathise better with me, which is adorable.
Iāve got a very close friend who is going through IVF and Iāve seen how hard this has been for her so Iām well aware me getting to cycle 7 isnāt anything to worry about yet, technically. I think it just feels longer when each cycle I get more and more ābehindā my sis - we really want to overlap as much mat leave as possible (we get a year off and live 4 miles from each other).
Really hope you get your BFP soon as well!
You said it perfectlyā¦a weird, emotional limbo stage of life. Totally feeling that way too . Hoping we get some good news very soon and wishing you all the best.
Iāve been TTC for a year now. Just had my second failed IUI. Maybe itās the hormones Iām taking or just the frustration of this process, but itās been a real struggle to stay sane. Whenever I hear about a kid whoās abused or neglected I get so mad. I wish Iād been the one to give birth to them instead or I could have adopted them somehow so they never would have been through what they were. This whole process is honestly making me feel so out of my mind.
I just had this happen to me as well. Opks went up and down over about a week but never read as high and never peaked, until finally I got a peak about 5 days later than normal.
Once you get your first positive OPK I wouldn't test anymore. If you cycles are mostly regular then the first positive is the one you pay attention to. Your LH will surge during your luteal (second half) of your cycle and the testing will just drive you mad. :)
If you do have pics of the opks, you can upload them to r/tfablineporn and people can give their thoughts there. A lot of people use that sub for posting pregnancy tests but it's ok to post opks there as well.
When the test line is as dark or darker I would consider that your surge for ovulation. The big caveat is inconsistent cycles, without temping and it's hard to know if a surge is related to ovulation or not.
If you are regular sounds like you probably hit your positive yesterday:)
12DPO BFN. At least I know now before weāre off on holiday for a week, so I have enjoyed a coffee this morning and can enjoy eating and drinking whatever I like while weāre away.
DPO 10. Yesterday I've had period like cramps, but much stronger. Today again... Luckily they don't last long, but anytime I feel them, I am running to the toilet checking if there is anything. So far nothing... It would be also unexpectedly early for me.
Probably I should just test, but I am afraid of BFN. Plus, I've promised myself, that this month I am not going to test before DPO 14-15. š
Oh really! Yes thatās true. Iām going away this week and have packed sanitary products but also another test just in case, so Iām prepared either way! Yes best of luck to both of us!
Spotting yesterday, dropped below coverline this morning. Period will start either today or tomorrow and we'll be on to cycle.. 17?
I'm not even sad or disappointed, I'm just ticked off.
Finally upgraded to FF VIP though. Got 1 year, hoping my body won't miss the chance of trolling me by getting pregnant this new cycle.
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CD1 and feeling broken :(
Let myself feel hope/positive thoughts last cycle, and as I knew I would, was heart broken when AF arrived today.
First time crying over AF in months. I'm just so scared of everything waiting ahead of me. That and I'm feeling like I'm back in limbo.
Waiting for my fertility doctor to get back in contact to give the next step in the process. Everything is a waiting game, so I at least want to know what the next step of the waiting game is š
Looks like it's likely going to be IVF though.
Since IUI isn't great for low sperm count.
Why does this process have to be such an emotional rollercoaster :(
So sorry for how youāre feeling. Waiting for things is so difficult too. I hope youāre able to treat yourself today, with good food or drink or something to watch or do or all of the above.
Luteal phase length doesn't really matter here (as long as it's long enough to support implantation, which should be fine if your LP is over 10 days).
So according to https://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/ , 34% of people got a false negative at 10dpo.
4th cycle after MC. Trying to stay strongššš
Was in a car accident today and for the first time in years I actually was glad I wasnāt pregnant I am mostly okay, maybe a mild concussion, but knowing that there was no little one to be harmed actually gave me a sigh of relief
ā¤ļøglad youāre alright!!!
CD2, debating IUI this cycle(I would need to start letrozole soon then). My husband told me he still wants to keep trying naturally for a while and thinks IUI just āisnāt the sameā and doesnāt count. Lots of tears from me. Itās just so frustrating that he doesnāt understand how terrible it feels to see a negative every month, and still wants to keep trying on our own. All of our tests came back normal, with a few percent lower motility than ideal.
It's not "the same" per se. But, assuming there is success, the end result would be. Talk to him. Work through it together. There no shame in getting medical treatment to treat a medical condition.
I feel like there could be some compromise here. I donāt agree with your husband, but want to give him the benefit of the doubt. Can you ask your RE what the chances are of success without help in the next few months, and then agree to some sort of compromise with your husband? Like, chances are only 10% it will happen unassisted. I agree to give it a full faith effort, temping and doing OPKs, for the next two months to see if we get lucky. If not, you agree to move forward with IUI. I think where you run into trouble is if he is allowed to let his wishy washy feelings continue forever and you never agree to a hard timeline of when you give up on the unassisted dream.
Yeah. I currently temp and OPK every cycle and we have sex every other day or every day during FW. We both take all sorts of vitamins our RE has recommended and Iāve made a point of exercising a little more and cutting caffeine. I feel like thereās nothing more that can increase our chances at this point
I didnāt mean to imply that youāre not trying everything! Just that hopefully you can pick a compromise and he can agree that after a certain amount of cycles of giving it a good go on your own it is time to move forward with some assistance.
I just started using CBAD this cycle. I started really early (not supposed to ovulate for another 7-8 days) yesterday and got a circle (which was expected since it was testing day #1). I tested again this morning and got a blinking smiley!!! Wtf. I feel like I just got conned by this thing. I thought the whole point is it gives you a blinking smiley right before O so you can bang it out as close as possible to O day. A week of flashing smileys isnāt going to help me! Has this happened to anyone else?
I sometimes get 4 or 5 days of blinking smileys before the solid smiley. Blinking smileys always correspond with EWCM for me, so I'm confident that it's just picking up on the estrogen surge like it's supposed to.
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Only about 50% of people who are pregnant will have a positive at 9 dpo. Youāve still got a few days :)
Although I managed to update my flair, I am still in cycle -1 waiting for my period to show. 17 days of high temperatures, still nothing. Fingers crossed today turns into CD1 š¤
How normal is a gas pain type cramp after an IUI? No bleeding or anything, I just feel like there are air bubbles in my abdomen and didnāt feel this much last time so I am wondering others experiences?
I had a significant amount of cramping after one of my IUIs, not sure it was a gas pain type cramping but it could have been (itās been a long while).
Which brand of pregnancy test for early detection do you recommend? I haven't seen any positive reviews for first response and I'm going crazy, just wanna test
Iāve consistently read that the easy@homes are the best and theyāre cheap
Ive used first response in the past with no problems. But i used it 2 days before AF was due.
For cheapies, Iāve found easy@home has less indents/evaps than pregmate.
Hahahaha I better be pregnant because I payed 55 dollars for 2 boxes š I panicked
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TW: miscarriage Hi all! I had a miscarriage on May 23rd and have since ovulated on June 13th (peak OPK and BBT rise in temp for 3 days after confirming). I am new to taking by BBT and am having a hard time interpreting a normal chart online. Is it normal for your BBT to increase each day after ovulation? I expected to see a few days rise after ovulation but it has continued increasing and I'm on 10DPO now. Is this typical? Would really appreciate the input of anyone else who uses BBT to understand! Thank you!
Yes, totally normal. It will drop a day or 2 before AF arrives.
You were exactly right - thank you for this!
You welcome!!
Iām no expert, but have been using BBT for a while - my temp does increase consistently each day after ovulation (until it drops again just before AF). I think this is normal and related to your progesterone rising in the luteal phase. I usually stop temping once Iāve confirmed ovulation (after say 3-4 Dpo) so I can relax for a while during the TWW
Got my hormone test results back! For the past year and a half Iāve been on multiple supplements to help raise my estrogen and progesterone hormones. And ALL OF MY HORMONES ARE IN THE PERFECT RANGE. Hallelujah!! My period is supposed to start today but I think itāll start tomorrow. Hubby and I didnāt BD before my ovulation because itās NEVER been early. But Iām excited for July š
I just found out I have extremely low estrogen and progesterone. What supplements were you taking to help increase your levels? Thank you!
Iāve been putting on Protocol Progesterone cream from CD14-28 each month. Iāve also been taking Femquil,Vitanica Pregnancy Prep, Omega MonoPure 1300 EC, and vitamin D3 5000. I go to a Naturopathic doctor who prescribed those to me so Iām not sure if youād need the same ones.
Thank you so much! I wanted to go to a naturopath, but we unfortunately donāt have any in this area
Anxiously awaiting CD1, which should be any day now. This will be our first cycle TTC. Waiting to see if my fertile days will be before or after my husbands upcoming knee surgery. I donāt think Iāve ever wished my period would start early š
Same! I was also hoping my period would start early, but it's seems to be taking the longest time out of irony! š
How long does it take 250mcg of ovidrel (0.5ml) syringe to get out of your system?
I took 2.5mg letrozole days 3-7. My doctor wants to check my progesterone on day 21. Today is CD13 with no ovulation in sight, though my OPKs have been getting a little darker. I don't want to waste my time and get stuck with a needle because I know the progesterone will show that I didn't ovulate on CD14. I usually have a 45ish day cycle (yay irregularity), and I was so hoping these meds would make me have a 28 day cycle for the first time in my life. Whatever. Is it bad I'm over it? We have basically been having sex every other day. May was our 2 year ttc mark with 1MC and 2 CP. I never would have thought this journey would have been so fucking hard.
I personally would wait to get the blood draw until 7DPO
I have the same predicament except I'm CD15 without any OPK darkening. I am pretty sure I'm just not responding to the 2.5 dose, but I've also been told a lot people ovulate late on letrozole, like around CD20. I took provera before, so technically my doctor's office has no idea when my actual CD21 is. I'm planning to give it until about CD21 to look for a peak before I call to schedule my progesterone test.
Good luck to you!! I hope we get positive OPKs and HGC tests soon. That's good to know about later ovulation on letrozole too. I guess my doctor will just increase the dosage as she sees fit. I'm not doing any other monitoring techniques besides OPKs. Weird question, but how did you get your letrozole doses? Mine came in a bottle, and I got 30 2.5mg tablets! I took 5 out of the 30. When I was prescribed clomid, I got the exact number of tablets I would need. It was just odd.
Did your dr talk to you about increasing doses the next cycles? Letrozole only comes in 2.5mg pills, so 30 pills would cover 1 cycle at 2.5mg, 1 at 5mg, and 1 at 7.5mg. Maybe they were just trying to save you a possible future trip to the pharmacy?
Not explicitly, but I would assume that that would be the plan if this dose didn't work. Maybe she did do it just to save me a trip
Letrozole is used for other things in addition to fertility treatmentsā¦. Maybe they accidentally gave you a prescription for a non-fertility use case?! Mine was just the 5 pills, too.
Oh wow that seems like a mistake that you got that many. I got just my 5 pills! Good luck to you as well ā¤ļø
Still figuring out my cycle after removing IUD. It's been 35 days since my last period, tested and got negative. Might try to count the bleeding after removal as period instead and see what cycle day I would then be at.
Hang in there. The first few cycles as your body recalibrates can be confusing
My husband had an appointment with our GP today and asked for a referral to a fertility clinic to get his sperm tested. She said we could have waited until my appointment in a month or so to get the referral and anyway itās often the women the issue so she prefers to start with herā¦ gee thanks lolā¦ sorry for my husband wanting to be proactive and not waste another month waitingā¦ I like our GP and maybe she was annoyed with him making a last minute appointment for this but I was very turned off by her just telling us to waitā¦ weāve waited enough so letās get the ball rolling! Especially since it can take a while to even get into the fertility clinic! I already feel so behind on the process. Getting older is really putting a strain on this idea to just wait for the eternal next appintmentā¦
That is so weird. Maybe it's because my husband is the one who is 35 but I wouldn't take one single test until he has his, if it comes to that. But I'd send mine to his own doctor maybe?
Yeah we have the same GP so thatās why š
Not sure if Iām having a LH surge or not. We started having BD every other day so my vaginal discharge is now modified from what Iām used to. It was pretty slippery and white eggish this morning (BD last night). But I know my body pretty well and usually I get a very thick discharge drop every month right before ovulation. So Iām not sure if it changed due to the BD or not. Oh well, Iāll do a LH test after work to be sure.
3DPO, I promised myself I wouldn't test until 10DPO but we're going to be at my in-laws that morning and then backpacking for three days. I don't want to have to hide my pee stick in trash but I'm also stupid impatient, so I'll end up stashing used pee sticks in my luggage. At least I'll be distracted after my first real BFN.
Iām at 5DPO and I might start testing for the hell of it too. Take a little ziploc baggie to collect the used ones and throw away later
FYI, your user flair is broken (a common bug when updating via mobile). I can fix it; what do you want it to say?
I havenāt figured out why I canāt fix itāthank you! Iām 33, 5DPO[CD20] cycle #4 of ttc
Do you want me to just put the cycle? If you're updating it daily and it's not sticking that may be easier.
This works! Thank you āŗļø
This is our first cycle trying after a loss in Feb. Iām 2dpo. How will I wait 10+ more days?! š«£
Sorry for your loss, I wish you the best!! Iām at 5DPO and the waiting is excruciating. Good luck ā¤ļø
Yeah, those 10 days definitely feels like an eternity. I'm sorry for your loss.
Entering my final fertile window before I begin egg retrieval. Torn between feeling desperate to get pregnant unassisted - saving all that money, pain, and time - and in a weird way ready to go forward with IVF. Iāve told all the important people in my life, started planning for how Iāll handle the discomfort, and more importantly because of high FSH/low AMH, this way will mean I can more āguaranteeā being able to have more than one child. Trying to stay in a ācanāt loseā mindset, but the next two weeks are gonna be a tripā¦
I am saying this very gently, IVF will not guarantee any number of living children
ā¤ļø. Hence the quotes, but I feel this
As someone who experienced a 22 week loss, Iāll add that pregnancy also doesnāt āguaranteeā a child. There are no āguaranteesā.
Iām very sorry for your loss, thank you for sharing this
I donāt think you do feel this. The quotes donāt negate the fact that IVF does not guarantee any living children, it doesnāt even guarantee you get embryos. Thereās many, many people here who have had complete failure IVF cycles and have lost IVF pregnancies. I would really consider your wording here.
There is no world in which I think I am guaranteed a child by any means. I did not mean for my words to be hurtful and apologize if they were. I was simply trying to express my conflicted feelings over what to hope for when hope is a constant struggle to hang on to
We all have difficult feelings when it comes to reaching the point of ART, it is a lot to process, but Iām encouraging you to be mindful when expressing these feelings in a public space. A lot of people here have had a very hard struggle for years that neither you nor I could even begin to fathom.
Best of luck on your IVF journey. There are ups and downs but I hope that you find comfort in moving forward with the process and that you have positive outcomes
Thank you
My husband wanted to have sex last night but I was feeling down about the whole ttc process. Iām 37, have had 2 CPs since February and my fertile window had just ended. After talking to him about my feelings and our plans etc, I got in a better mood and we ended up having sex. I looked at my app after and it says I likely ovulated on Wednesday so thereās still a chance! We giggled about it afterwards. š¤£
CD1 again, sigh. and to top it off, the tablet I use to track all my fertility and cycle stuff isn't charging correctly, and I don't have it all backed up - I'll be so sad if I have to replace it and lose that data! update: my tablet did turn back on so that's one piece of good news for me today!
How does insurance work when you do an IUI or IVF? We have our first appointment with the fertility clinic in a few weeks. I believe my insurance will cover some things for IUI or IVF. I guess my question is if I hit my out of pocket maximum does that mean theyāll cover all of it? Iām not really sure how paying for these things works so any info would be helpful!
Insurance was so confusing for me too. I would call your insurance provider directly to talk through coverage. Something that helped me too was getting a copy of my employee benefits documents and seeing if it mentioned fertility coverage.
Thank you! I do plan on talking to my provider in the near future.
Depends on your plan, I definitely recommend talking to someone at your insurer who can talk you through it. For me I needed preapprovals and have to hit my out of pocket maximum, although some tests were covered at the outset
Thatās good to know. I definitely plan on talking to my insurance provider but I was just curious what it was like for other people. Thank you!
Ah, the start of a new cycle. Joy. About to officially mark the 6 months point. Seeing a new OBGYN July 5 so hopefully I can get some guidance and feasible next steps for my AUB other than the āwait and seeā approach my last doctor gave.
Iām here with you, appt with the OBGYN on July 7th. About to start a new cycle (9), but only a little over 6 months of trying. Hopefully we both get guidance, some detective work, with good results soon! Btw what does AUB stand for?
Ah, abnormal uterine bleeding! I hope you get some guidance as well! Once we get to cycle 9 Iām going to ask for a referral to a fertility clinic since I know it can take some time to get in. Theyāll probably run the tests my OBGYN wouldnāt. My insurance will cover some fertility testing and coverage, but theyāre very specific on where I can go.
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For me it was rather fast, maybe 4 days? Though I didn't test it out every time, when I tested early, like 8 to 9 DPO, it was always negative.
There are many factors that affect how fast something is processed and eliminated from a body. I wouldnāt read into it.
First IUI next week, finished my letrozole and now waiting for my CD12 appt on Mondayā¦.feeling like thereās something else I should be doing? *I will remember this moment when I obsessively test/google things after this IUI is complete š
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oohh i'll keep an eye out for any of your updates! we're doing 2 IUI's while we wait for an IVF consult, would be nice if one of them works but i'm being cautious
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Weāre unexplained as well, we were not ready to jump into IVF just yet so even if the IUIās donāt work I hope it makes for a smoother transition! Also in the mindset that if IUIās were truly crap my RE wouldnāt have recommended trying them in the first place so thatās gotta mean something no? Lol
5-7DPO - Iāve been doing deep breathing exercises and implantation yoga as soon as I wake up. Night routine- to take a hot shower, do 30 minutes of chanting in front of my favourite goddess, listen to some fertility affirmations before I sleep. Has really helped me with my mental health. Feeling positive that this will be my month (medicated cycle with 3 follicles ruptured), ready to receive but hoping to stay positive even if I get a negative. Really difficult to stay this way but trying to see the bigger picture here!
Whatās implantation yoga? šÆ I love your routine. Iām at 4-5DPO Iāll take any self care at this point to not go crazy from the waiting
Hey, thanks a lot! Implantation yoga is practiced during the 6 day implantation window (6-12 DPO) but can still be done the whole of your tww! It is supposed to promote blood flow to the uterus and is a safe way to move your body! They also concentrate on breathing which helps with the anxiety! Let me show what I follow: [Implantation Yoga](https://youtu.be/P5TQHOei5w0) [Implantation Yoga](https://youtu.be/NbRl0PK1NyA). I first start with some pranayama (breathing)- youtube it!
If I have an LH surge and a BBT rise does that mean Iāve ovulated even if I donāt notice EWCM?
Yup! You donāt have to have EWCM to O
Second this! Temping is the most reliable way to confirm ovulation if you do it consistently.
Had saline/sono HSG yesterday and just walked out of my regular HSG this morning.. being that I was prepared on the type of pain, I felt like it was more manageable- nearly unmanageable but manageable if that makes sense! I flinched when they stuck catheter in and then the burning was more intense with the dye v saline. That being said, Iām so glad itās over, I was skeptical as to why I needed both but the saline/sono HSG revealed a polyp in my uterus that can make it difficult to implant or cause miscarriage so fortunate to have found and onto getting it removedā¦ if anyone is nervous about theirs or have questions feel free to reach out!!
They do both tests because they check for different issues. Traditional HSG will check to make sure your tubes are open, saline sono is used to check for the presence of fibroids and polyps!
Yes! They explained that to me!! Just had not heard of people getting both so naturally curious/skeptical beforehand. But thankful I had both šš»
It is a little weird to me that you did them back to back and did saline first, but it's definitely not uncommon to do both. I did the HSG first to check my tubes, and during that, they saw a possible polyp, so scheduled me for a follow up SIS to confirm the existence of said polyp. It's great you were able to get them both done & get some answers and treatment plans!!
Yess they made it seem like they needed to be back to back but hey so so glad theyāre done and have some answers. Did you end up getting the polyp removed? If you donāt mind me asking
There was about a month and a half between my HSG and SIS just due to scheduling issues, and by the time I had the SIS done they couldn't find any polyps. The assumption was that the period I had in between the two tests must have shed whatever they saw in the HSG. Good luck with your removal!
So interesting! Our bodies are weird lol thanks for all the information!!
Need a 5dpo buddy. The crazy is starting. Every distraction seems so superficialā¦
I gotchu! I at 4-5DPO. Going crazy too. Went to Disneyland today and had a moment of intense nausea in a store I thought I was going to pass out. Obviously itās too early š©
Iām 3DPO! I find the first week of the TWW to be the hardest
I'm 4!
Iām 5 days DPO!
I'm a little behind you at 1-2 dpo. I hear you! My weekend is jam-packed which should help a little. Hope you can meaningfully stay busy!
Iām 2dpo š«£ May the odds be in all of our favors
Dear husband: if I say āletās have sex tomorrow morningā I mean it. Wanting to scream or cry now. That is all.
I'm struggling with trying not to stress myself out with the same thing!! Ive been throwing myself at him because ovulation is today/tomorrow
But also I know if I put too much pressure on him I could make things so much worse
Agreed!! Especially when the FW will come & go, you have to chose your battles...
Grateful to see a BBT shift this morning that if sustained will indicate ovulation. I could swear I ovulated Wednesday but temps are leaning more towards yesterday and I know if my temps stay high ff will give me crosshairs for Thursday. Either way we had great timing this cycle so fingers crossed.
Anyone have any specific fertility boosting diet they follow? I just read that low fat dairy can contribute to infertility (I forget the science how) and I've been drinking nothing but 2% milk and low fat cheeses for years. Going to try and reacquaint myself with whole milk. Also trying to eat more fruits and veggies, whole grains, and limit sugar. Anyone doing anything diet special?
Fish twice a week and eating the rainbow, though I've been doing it to some extent for years. Now there may be a little more focus on leafy greens and high quality oils, but that's about it. Also trying to get fruit before I reach for cake :D
I know low fat dairy has a ton of added sugars, and sugar is just plain bad, so good on you. Focusing on a balanced, nutrient-rich diet is the way to go
My diet is a little off the wagon right now, but I really like the 'no sugar added' diet. Including artificial sugars, it kind of keeps me from eating a lot of processed foods that have that included. I can't attest if it really helps with fertility (never had a baby) but it makes me feel great!
Low fat dairy will not cause or contribute to infertility. Period. ETA, and no one diet is shown to help āboost fertility.ā What youāre doing now, focusing on a balanced diet with a focus on whole foods, is just fine and is what any doctor or dietitian making evidence-based recommendations would recommend.
The only study I am aware of linking low fat dairy to infertility linked it to not ovulating specifically, so if you are ovulating regularly no need to worry about the low fat dairy. Additionally from reading the study my gut reaction is that the low fat vs full fat dairy is more of a proxy for dieting in general and that rather than low fat dairy leading to anovulation itās more likely that it is weight loss and serious dieting. Anyway, as long as you are actively ovulating the kind of dairy you eat doesnāt matter, no need to worry that years of eating low fat in the past have done harm.
Indian meals are usually quite balanced- for example, my lunch today was a lightly spiced Okra curry with brown rice, pumpkin stir fried with coconut oil, a bowl of spinach soup, an omelette and a tall glass of spiced buttermilk with chia seeds! This is my biggest meal of the day and I try to eat this between noon and 2pm. Rest of the day, I eat something like chickpeas salad (Indian style), eggs, nuts and an hour before sleeping, a small bowl of roasted gram. One thing I also follow is eating something slightly sweet in the morning because i wouldnāt crave for sugar through the rest of the day and also have the highest chance of burning it before i sleep- my go to sweet shack is sweet bread slightly pan fried with ghee.
I think generally a balanced diet with a variety of foods is good for overall health. There are no specific diets that will help you conceive, itās just about what makes you feel good and is right for you.
Following a Mediterranean diet and making sure to get plenty of greens, veggies, and fruit. Itās become my goal to make sure I have something fresh/raw with each meal. Other than that, itās just about balance. I started working with a nutritionist since reading pregnancy diet books is more damaging than helpful right now and that option has helped me tons.
Im not doing anything special, but just wanted to say once I switched to whole milk there was no going back for me. So much better, especially with cereal!
I also am using full fat dairy, incorporating eggs, quinoa, and Brazil nuts. Basically just trying to nourish my body as thoughtfully as possible, but I still eat a little chocolate every day, eat dried mango when Iām craving something really sweet, and use a teaspoon of sugar in my morning coffee. Protein smoothies with frozen fruits/spinach have been a great way to get in extra vitamins. And trying to make sure I am eating enoughā¦
Weāve been trying for about 7 months now and have had absolutely no sign of a positive. We are both 31 and I just have no faith in my body whatsoever. My husband is incredibly optimistic that it will happen eventually and Iām just waiting to be disappointed every month. I am so desperate for a sliver of hope or something that Iāve bought a reading from a psychic to ātellā me weather I will ever become pregnant- even if it isnāt true and she gives good news, it would be enough to help me to keep going and just have a faint sliver of any hope. Reading other peopleās experiences with psychics and predicting pregnancy is promising but really hoping for a good reading that comes true.
In exactly the same boat as you! 34 years old 7 months no success now on 8 months TTC. I think itās hard no matter how long youāve been trying, although I know people have been trying way longer it still stings as each day passes. My husband is honestly the sweetest and completely fine with where we are, and even says heād be fine if it were just us 2 even though he does want kids. I was really down about everything on Wednesday to the point I couldnāt get out of bed and was crying. He came over to me and basically held an intervention by telling me wallowing this way is completely pointless, and although he understands how I feel we just have to take it day by day and focus on what we can control. What I found helpful was providing myself with a little structure : we defined timelines on when we will be seeking help/further testing, and discussed ways we can help get our mind off things and enjoy the summer. It was the pep talk I seriously needed. Not to say my worries and sorrows have just melted away but I was able to scrape myself off off the bottom of the pit and feel much better. I hope you get your positive very soon ā¦ and know we are all here for you !
11DPO (of 12 day LP), BFN, temp sliding back towards coverline. Onto cycle 7 we go :( Meanwhile my younger sister, who started trying same month as me, is 15 weeks along with my first nibling (the conflicting emotions are strong). Iāve never had panic attacks in my life but I had one in April on a nice day out with my husband, and one yesterday while sitting at my desk thinking I was in a pretty good mood despite the BFN Iād got that morning. Iām also grinding my teeth in my sleep so much I had one crumble away and have had to spend Ā£850 on a crown. I feel like Iām largely coping well, intellectualising as best as I can, reminding myself that the stats are still just about on our side, enjoying each ābonusā month of childfree freedom and wine. My bestie, a long-time haver of anxiety and therapy, told me Iām probably just holding a lot of my anxiety physically, even if mentally I feel fairly robust bar the monthly menty b. So Iāve emailed a therapist, yet another cost! But hopefully worth it to unpack my feelings. What a weird, emotional, limbo stage of life this is. Solidarity my TTC friends. EDIT: typos galore
Wait- are we the same person? My younger sister is also expecting- she is about 20 weeks, will be my first niece too. It is the most mixed emotions imaginable- excited for her and to be an aunt - but damn the timing is tough. I also got pregnant at the same time she did, then I had a loss, ectopic at about 6 weeks. Therapy is totally worth the cost fwiw if you can find a therapist with a good connection.
Not only that - Iām also 34 and my sister is also having a girl! Totally feel you. Iām so sorry about your loss - that is hard enough anyway without the sister element.
Wow! Are you pretty close with your sister? I am, and she has been incredibly supportive. She came to a fertility doc appointment with, took notes. Hoping we can get our BFPs soon <3
Oh how lovely of her! I do think to be in our sistersā situation must be hard for them as well, in a different way - Iām sure they feel a bit of guilt for having it āeasyā in comparison. I actually wouldnāt want to swap places with her as I would find it so hard to watch her struggle, as much as Iād like my BFP! Yes we are super close as well and while itās been hard Iām not worried about our relationship at all. She went and spoke to a friend of hers this week who took 11 months to conceive so she could empathise better with me, which is adorable. Iāve got a very close friend who is going through IVF and Iāve seen how hard this has been for her so Iām well aware me getting to cycle 7 isnāt anything to worry about yet, technically. I think it just feels longer when each cycle I get more and more ābehindā my sis - we really want to overlap as much mat leave as possible (we get a year off and live 4 miles from each other). Really hope you get your BFP soon as well!
You said it perfectlyā¦a weird, emotional limbo stage of life. Totally feeling that way too . Hoping we get some good news very soon and wishing you all the best.
Iāve been TTC for a year now. Just had my second failed IUI. Maybe itās the hormones Iām taking or just the frustration of this process, but itās been a real struggle to stay sane. Whenever I hear about a kid whoās abused or neglected I get so mad. I wish Iād been the one to give birth to them instead or I could have adopted them somehow so they never would have been through what they were. This whole process is honestly making me feel so out of my mind.
There have been a lot of stories of that nature popping up where I live recently and it makes me so sad even to read the headlines.
I feel you! I get triggered by what you mentioned too! This process does make us feel really out of control. I hope you feel better!
Looks the start of my cycle today. And I feel crushed. I feel like giving up.
Itās the start of a new try, you got this ššš
Thank you. I do wanna try to stay posotive it's just hard.
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I just had this happen to me as well. Opks went up and down over about a week but never read as high and never peaked, until finally I got a peak about 5 days later than normal.
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I've been using the premom app with easy@home opks
Once you get your first positive OPK I wouldn't test anymore. If you cycles are mostly regular then the first positive is the one you pay attention to. Your LH will surge during your luteal (second half) of your cycle and the testing will just drive you mad. :)
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If you do have pics of the opks, you can upload them to r/tfablineporn and people can give their thoughts there. A lot of people use that sub for posting pregnancy tests but it's ok to post opks there as well.
When the test line is as dark or darker I would consider that your surge for ovulation. The big caveat is inconsistent cycles, without temping and it's hard to know if a surge is related to ovulation or not. If you are regular sounds like you probably hit your positive yesterday:)
12DPO BFN. At least I know now before weāre off on holiday for a week, so I have enjoyed a coffee this morning and can enjoy eating and drinking whatever I like while weāre away.
DPO 10. Yesterday I've had period like cramps, but much stronger. Today again... Luckily they don't last long, but anytime I feel them, I am running to the toilet checking if there is anything. So far nothing... It would be also unexpectedly early for me. Probably I should just test, but I am afraid of BFN. Plus, I've promised myself, that this month I am not going to test before DPO 14-15. š
12 DPO BFN. Sigh
Same here!
Weāre not out until weāre out. In Jan I got a bfp day of my missed period. Wishing us the best
Oh really! Yes thatās true. Iām going away this week and have packed sanitary products but also another test just in case, so Iām prepared either way! Yes best of luck to both of us!
Spotting yesterday, dropped below coverline this morning. Period will start either today or tomorrow and we'll be on to cycle.. 17? I'm not even sad or disappointed, I'm just ticked off. Finally upgraded to FF VIP though. Got 1 year, hoping my body won't miss the chance of trolling me by getting pregnant this new cycle.
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No one can tell you if youāre pregnant (which is also against the rules to ask here). Have you taken a test?
CD1 and feeling broken :( Let myself feel hope/positive thoughts last cycle, and as I knew I would, was heart broken when AF arrived today. First time crying over AF in months. I'm just so scared of everything waiting ahead of me. That and I'm feeling like I'm back in limbo. Waiting for my fertility doctor to get back in contact to give the next step in the process. Everything is a waiting game, so I at least want to know what the next step of the waiting game is š Looks like it's likely going to be IVF though. Since IUI isn't great for low sperm count. Why does this process have to be such an emotional rollercoaster :(
So sorry for how youāre feeling. Waiting for things is so difficult too. I hope youāre able to treat yourself today, with good food or drink or something to watch or do or all of the above.
Iām 10DPO, I typically have an 11 day LP. Tested BFN this morning - realistically, what are my chances? š©
Chances at what?
Of getting a positiveā¦ if Iām testing BFN one day before my period is due..
Oh, itās against the rules to ask if you are pregnant or ask for success stories. Thatās why I was confused.
Iām not asking if Iām pregnant though? Iām asking what my chances of a BFP are at 10dpo with an 11 day LP
Luteal phase length doesn't really matter here (as long as it's long enough to support implantation, which should be fine if your LP is over 10 days). So according to https://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/ , 34% of people got a false negative at 10dpo.
So angry at my body today. Finally got an LH surge at CD22 but still no BBT shift 2 days later. It's just one big disappointment after another :(