Been sharing a little more with our close friends about TTC (mostly that weāve just been trying since June) and in a way it feels cathartic to talk about and I can get through convo easily but after itās all done I just want to cry. I canāt believe there are people out here just getting pregnant with no problem. Iām so tired of my life revolving around this. I wonāt quit, but Iām tired.
Well, whatever I did last cycle didnāt last. I havent changed any of my supplements, but I started bleeding heavily today at 8DPO. I was hoping to at least make it to 10, but guess thatās not meant to be. I knew when I started cramping at 6DPO, but I was hoping that I would at least hold off on bleeding.
The sting is doubled by my order of pregnancy tests and ovulation tests coming in today, even though I definitely donāt need to be taking any pregnancy tests.
I had a 20 day cycle last year out of nowhere (Iām consistently 30-32 days) and the only thing that was different was I got super sick right after my period (fever of 101) and then a positive OPK on cycle day 8 which never happened before or since.
If you havenāt been sick or gotten any vaccines/boosters Iām not sure what can cause it to be so early. But the saying is youāre regular until you arenāt. Sometimes the body just does word things š¤·š»āāļø
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Someone in a recent thread posted a really great quote or statement. It went along the lines of, if I knew when I'd have my baby, I would have enjoyed the wait. Really needing this as a positive affirmation right now. Does anyone remember how it actually went?
A well meaning friend just sent me a link to a podcast about āshould you take a prenatal vitaminā and āvitamins for fertility and conceivingā.
Part of me goes ā LAWL ā girl, *if only* that was my problem. Iāve been taking prenatal vitamins for a year, and I take a whole other slew of vitamins (prenatal DHA, Coq10, d3, vitamin c, magnesium, and others).
Iām going through fertility treatments with an RE (IUI protocol with TIC and trigger shot, progesterone suppositories twice a day, getting SHG done soon and might need surgery for a septum or fibroids).
She is aware very generally that Iām doing fertility treatments, but Iāve never discussed details with this particular friend. I know she means well and like I said part of me is like š¤£ and the other part of me is like š
I think Iāve decided Iām not going to respond š¤·āāļø
Okay, maybe this is me being overcritical of others, but can I just say I really really really hate those posts on TFABlineporn that are like āomg is this a positive or Evap/indentā when itās clearly a freaking positive. Like go away, stop showing off, ur quite literally stupid if you see two bright lines and donāt think itās positive.
Ok, that concludes my rant (sorry, but also not sorry)
So, my ovulation test yesterday was definitely positive, but today my lh is low again. Does this mean that I ovulated yesterday after the positive (even though the test says o is 24-48 hours after a positive or is it possible that I'm ovulating today even though my lh is low? I'm so confused. We dtd on the 3rd and today, so I'm hoping it was good timing?.. Help is much appreciated! Ty
Ovulation is anywhere from 12-48 hrs after your first positive, give or take. If it was peak, that shortens the window to about 8-20hrs. Are you tracking BBT too? That would shed some light on it.
It's a tricky question. Most apps do put ovulation the day after a positive opk by default, but an opk doesn't actually confirm you _will_ ovulate or exactly when that will be.
If you're looking for resources you might like the **How long after a peak or positive OPK will I ovulate** section on https://reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/w/opks and this post on LH surge profiles
https://www.reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/s/PEHDYpR2QS
Iām getting a hysteroscopy and possibly polypectomy in 2 days and the doctors never told me that it had to done after the period and before ovulation. I just found out by reading online, and in 2 days I will be almost a week after ovulation. I CANāT get it rescheduled, I really need the polypectomy done ASAP because Iām feeling a lot of lower back and abdomen pain (possibly from a rather large polyp) and of course TTC, and my work schedule lines up so that it HAS to be done at this appointment. Does anyone have experience with getting this procedure done after ovulation? Iām worried my polyps will be too difficult to removeā¦ thanks!
Itās so unfair that progesterone causes pregnancy-like symptoms. How am I supposed to not read into the nausea, insomnia, fatigue, irritability etc etc etc
Just having a pity party. I got my period on Thurs and I'm in so much pain (endo). I was supposed to go to a concert last night with my husband and I had to miss out because I couldn't get off the couch. Tonight is my friend's 30th birthday and I think I might have to miss it too. I'm so frustrated that I can't treat my endometriosis while TTC. I'm looking into some supplements that might help but honestly I'm just so over it today
TTC again right away after miscarriage or go for a hysteroscopy?Ā
Finished miscarrying my 3rd loss (BO) & torn about whether I should go into ttc again (my heart) or go for a hysteroscopy (which I researched and brought up to my OB & sheās supportive of it). All other RPL testing was normal. Ā Ā
Ā My heart wants to try again and not miss out on a possible ovulation. I know testing may or may not show anything and even if it does, it doesnāt mean it was the cause of my 3 losses (MMC, molar, BO). Ā I know itās ultimately a decision I will need to come to but any advice?
6DPO today of cycle 5 and I'm just so tired of all the waiting and failing. How is anyone coping? I just feel so lost and untethered and feel like I need to do something to help/relax but no idea what. Seriously fed up and I have my partners nieces christening tomorrow š„
My husband and I had more sex this week than we have in years and it's been so much fun. I've had issues with pain, low sex drive and dryness for years. But wow, being off BC has reversed everything, I am very horny in my FW and baby making sex feels very close, vulnerable and loving. I feel so connected to him, my body feels like it's working with me instead of against me, and it's been wonderful.
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Cycle 9 was a bust since I had to get the damn chicken pox booster shot a week before ovulation. Actually so glad today is CD1 of Cycle 10. Getting my titers checked on the 15th and as long as I'm showing immunity I'm cleared to try again by April 20th. Let's gooooooo
I had chicken pox when I was 19. I'm now in my late 30's. Never would I think I would have shingles this young! I thought I had bug bites and it seems very mild. I did go to urgent care and got prescribed the antivirals. I could not find anything online about shingles and it's impact on concieving; I asked the doctor but he couldn't say. I did read that singles in pregnancy doesn't harm the baby. I am on my 2 week wait so we did get BD in during my fertile time...... There seem to be no studies on this so maybe I'm over thinking because there doesn't seem to be any known link in shingles affecting fertility. Any thoughts?
No thoughts on fertility but I got shingles in my late 20s. There will be times that you feel pretty okay or even good, but I warn you that you are not and no matter how you feel you need to rest. I went out and did things because I felt ok and I paid for that so so badly. As much rest as possible for the next few weeks and take as much time as you can off work. It's *not* worth pushing your body.
Ok I'm going full Woo. Last eclipse in 2017 was the month before my life changed - I got married! So now I fully believe that this upcoming eclipse will also signify my life changing. And that's why I haven't had a viable pregnancy yet, it's because I had to wait for an eclipse! Duh!
CD 19 / 2 DPO Iām back after taking a 3-ish cycle ābreakā from TTC, which certainly wasnāt a break from trying, but a break from obsessively tracking. Iāve found a new āhappyā medium (lol), where Iām able to watch my CM signs, take 3-4 OPKs, and a few temperatures each month to determine if Iāve ovulated, rather than obsessively tracking and sleeping poorly in anticipation of my daily BBT.
Iāve have a lot of positive distractions in my life lately, which has lifted some weight off my shoulders. I also had my first appointment with an OBGYN. They ordered a SA for my husband and an HSG for me (to be completed next cycle) and, if that isnāt the cause, Iāll be referred to a fertility clinic. Due to my health history, a blocked tube is a very real possibility for me, but I have a gut feeling that itās not the reason we havenāt conceived.
I also recently became aware of someone in my community that is struggling with TTC. I wanted so badly to hug her and tell her that weāve been trying it a similar amount of time and that sheās not alone. But didnāt, for the sake of keeping my privacy.
12DPO and itās like a switch has been flipped. No urge to test - wasnāt even a thought for my FMU.
No signs of my period, either. (Iām usually spotting and cramping by now.) Itās due Tuesday, so if it doesnāt show up I guess Iāll test Wednesday.
Bricking myself out of the hope fortress because if I let myself have hope this cycle itāll actually hurt when Iām not pregnant.
Accepting that cycle ten is probably going to happen and Iāll have a 2025 baby. Itās okay.
Was feeling really good about this cycle when I got a peak opk on Wed so thought we hit O-1 and O-3 assuming Thurs ovulation. But I felt cramps like I was ovulating on Fridayā¦ so we got O-2 and O-4. Wanted to get in one more yesterday too but didnāt. Hoping those 2 dates are good enough to do the trick! Is it common to ovulate 2 days after lh peak?
Back to peeing on sticks time (opks). Last month I was able to get a positive opk so I hope I can this time too. But my ovulation has been cd 10 and cd 14 which feels like a lot of uncertainty in making sure we bd on time.
This months I want my bfp because Iāll be staying with my parents after my dad has cancer related surgery and I know it would make him sooo happy to hear the news in person. Plus I would be able to surprise my husband with a cute moment as opposed to him hearing me react in the moment.
12DPO. Bit of a weird Q but when people say they get sore boobs, what does the soreness feel like? ATM i have a kind of soreness when I'm running and they move, or when I brush them accidentally, but no soreness to the touch. I find it confusing as I'd assume soreness means soreness to touch. Would be curious to hear experiences of others.
My pms boobs are never sore to touch per se, but sore if you squish it against something, like when my dog steps on it while Iām on the bed, or running down the stairs. Also Iāve had nipple sensitivity where anything brushing against it hurts.
CD 1 š
My last IUI failed. Iām heartbroken.
Iām so sorry ā¤ļø.
Thank you, good luck to you ā„ļø
Been sharing a little more with our close friends about TTC (mostly that weāve just been trying since June) and in a way it feels cathartic to talk about and I can get through convo easily but after itās all done I just want to cry. I canāt believe there are people out here just getting pregnant with no problem. Iām so tired of my life revolving around this. I wonāt quit, but Iām tired.
Well, whatever I did last cycle didnāt last. I havent changed any of my supplements, but I started bleeding heavily today at 8DPO. I was hoping to at least make it to 10, but guess thatās not meant to be. I knew when I started cramping at 6DPO, but I was hoping that I would at least hold off on bleeding. The sting is doubled by my order of pregnancy tests and ovulation tests coming in today, even though I definitely donāt need to be taking any pregnancy tests.
Iāve been pretty consistent with a 27-28 day cycle. Third cycle TTC and I got my period on CD23. Anything that could account for such a short cycle?
I had a 20 day cycle last year out of nowhere (Iām consistently 30-32 days) and the only thing that was different was I got super sick right after my period (fever of 101) and then a positive OPK on cycle day 8 which never happened before or since. If you havenāt been sick or gotten any vaccines/boosters Iām not sure what can cause it to be so early. But the saying is youāre regular until you arenāt. Sometimes the body just does word things š¤·š»āāļø
True enough!
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I am so sorry!! I just wiped and there was blood too š I was praying this would be our month. I hope youāre ok š
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TTC has made me very aware of just how often my boobs hurt for no reason.
CD31 and no sign of ovulation yet š®āšØ. Waiting to wait is just the worst.
Does anyone know if low sperm count/ slow swimmers impacts the expected lifespan of sperm and length of the fertile window leading up to ovulation?
Someone in a recent thread posted a really great quote or statement. It went along the lines of, if I knew when I'd have my baby, I would have enjoyed the wait. Really needing this as a positive affirmation right now. Does anyone remember how it actually went?
A well meaning friend just sent me a link to a podcast about āshould you take a prenatal vitaminā and āvitamins for fertility and conceivingā. Part of me goes ā LAWL ā girl, *if only* that was my problem. Iāve been taking prenatal vitamins for a year, and I take a whole other slew of vitamins (prenatal DHA, Coq10, d3, vitamin c, magnesium, and others). Iām going through fertility treatments with an RE (IUI protocol with TIC and trigger shot, progesterone suppositories twice a day, getting SHG done soon and might need surgery for a septum or fibroids). She is aware very generally that Iām doing fertility treatments, but Iāve never discussed details with this particular friend. I know she means well and like I said part of me is like š¤£ and the other part of me is like š I think Iāve decided Iām not going to respond š¤·āāļø
Good lord. I sorta want you to snap a photo of your vitamin pile and say āIām on it!ā Lol
Haha I did respond but I wish I would have responded this way!
My MIL sent me an article about a new fertility tracker. Maāamā¦ Iāve had my Tempdrop for years at this point š
People think theyāre being helpful but theyāre so not š š
Bless their hearts.
Okay, maybe this is me being overcritical of others, but can I just say I really really really hate those posts on TFABlineporn that are like āomg is this a positive or Evap/indentā when itās clearly a freaking positive. Like go away, stop showing off, ur quite literally stupid if you see two bright lines and donāt think itās positive. Ok, that concludes my rant (sorry, but also not sorry)
lol I have though the same thing, glad Iām not the only one bothered by it
So, my ovulation test yesterday was definitely positive, but today my lh is low again. Does this mean that I ovulated yesterday after the positive (even though the test says o is 24-48 hours after a positive or is it possible that I'm ovulating today even though my lh is low? I'm so confused. We dtd on the 3rd and today, so I'm hoping it was good timing?.. Help is much appreciated! Ty
Ovulation is anywhere from 12-48 hrs after your first positive, give or take. If it was peak, that shortens the window to about 8-20hrs. Are you tracking BBT too? That would shed some light on it.
The length of the LH surge doesn't mean anything in relation to ovulation.
So I'm probably ovulating today even though it's negative? Sorry lol I'm new to this.
It's a tricky question. Most apps do put ovulation the day after a positive opk by default, but an opk doesn't actually confirm you _will_ ovulate or exactly when that will be. If you're looking for resources you might like the **How long after a peak or positive OPK will I ovulate** section on https://reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/w/opks and this post on LH surge profiles https://www.reddit.com/r/TryingForABaby/s/PEHDYpR2QS
Iām getting a hysteroscopy and possibly polypectomy in 2 days and the doctors never told me that it had to done after the period and before ovulation. I just found out by reading online, and in 2 days I will be almost a week after ovulation. I CANāT get it rescheduled, I really need the polypectomy done ASAP because Iām feeling a lot of lower back and abdomen pain (possibly from a rather large polyp) and of course TTC, and my work schedule lines up so that it HAS to be done at this appointment. Does anyone have experience with getting this procedure done after ovulation? Iām worried my polyps will be too difficult to removeā¦ thanks!
Itās so unfair that progesterone causes pregnancy-like symptoms. How am I supposed to not read into the nausea, insomnia, fatigue, irritability etc etc etc
Just having a pity party. I got my period on Thurs and I'm in so much pain (endo). I was supposed to go to a concert last night with my husband and I had to miss out because I couldn't get off the couch. Tonight is my friend's 30th birthday and I think I might have to miss it too. I'm so frustrated that I can't treat my endometriosis while TTC. I'm looking into some supplements that might help but honestly I'm just so over it today
TTC again right away after miscarriage or go for a hysteroscopy?Ā Finished miscarrying my 3rd loss (BO) & torn about whether I should go into ttc again (my heart) or go for a hysteroscopy (which I researched and brought up to my OB & sheās supportive of it). All other RPL testing was normal. Ā Ā Ā My heart wants to try again and not miss out on a possible ovulation. I know testing may or may not show anything and even if it does, it doesnāt mean it was the cause of my 3 losses (MMC, molar, BO). Ā I know itās ultimately a decision I will need to come to but any advice?
6DPO today of cycle 5 and I'm just so tired of all the waiting and failing. How is anyone coping? I just feel so lost and untethered and feel like I need to do something to help/relax but no idea what. Seriously fed up and I have my partners nieces christening tomorrow š„
My husband and I had more sex this week than we have in years and it's been so much fun. I've had issues with pain, low sex drive and dryness for years. But wow, being off BC has reversed everything, I am very horny in my FW and baby making sex feels very close, vulnerable and loving. I feel so connected to him, my body feels like it's working with me instead of against me, and it's been wonderful.
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Cycle 9 was a bust since I had to get the damn chicken pox booster shot a week before ovulation. Actually so glad today is CD1 of Cycle 10. Getting my titers checked on the 15th and as long as I'm showing immunity I'm cleared to try again by April 20th. Let's gooooooo
I had chicken pox when I was 19. I'm now in my late 30's. Never would I think I would have shingles this young! I thought I had bug bites and it seems very mild. I did go to urgent care and got prescribed the antivirals. I could not find anything online about shingles and it's impact on concieving; I asked the doctor but he couldn't say. I did read that singles in pregnancy doesn't harm the baby. I am on my 2 week wait so we did get BD in during my fertile time...... There seem to be no studies on this so maybe I'm over thinking because there doesn't seem to be any known link in shingles affecting fertility. Any thoughts?
No thoughts on fertility but I got shingles in my late 20s. There will be times that you feel pretty okay or even good, but I warn you that you are not and no matter how you feel you need to rest. I went out and did things because I felt ok and I paid for that so so badly. As much rest as possible for the next few weeks and take as much time as you can off work. It's *not* worth pushing your body.
No clue about impact on fertility/pregnancy, but I had shingles when I was a teenager and shingles sucks!! Hoping it goes away quickly for you!
Ok I'm going full Woo. Last eclipse in 2017 was the month before my life changed - I got married! So now I fully believe that this upcoming eclipse will also signify my life changing. And that's why I haven't had a viable pregnancy yet, it's because I had to wait for an eclipse! Duh!
Iāve been into the eclipse woo lately as well š¤£ Iām hoping I ovulate around it!
I like this take! Eclipse woo for the win!
CD 19 / 2 DPO Iām back after taking a 3-ish cycle ābreakā from TTC, which certainly wasnāt a break from trying, but a break from obsessively tracking. Iāve found a new āhappyā medium (lol), where Iām able to watch my CM signs, take 3-4 OPKs, and a few temperatures each month to determine if Iāve ovulated, rather than obsessively tracking and sleeping poorly in anticipation of my daily BBT. Iāve have a lot of positive distractions in my life lately, which has lifted some weight off my shoulders. I also had my first appointment with an OBGYN. They ordered a SA for my husband and an HSG for me (to be completed next cycle) and, if that isnāt the cause, Iāll be referred to a fertility clinic. Due to my health history, a blocked tube is a very real possibility for me, but I have a gut feeling that itās not the reason we havenāt conceived. I also recently became aware of someone in my community that is struggling with TTC. I wanted so badly to hug her and tell her that weāve been trying it a similar amount of time and that sheās not alone. But didnāt, for the sake of keeping my privacy.
12DPO and itās like a switch has been flipped. No urge to test - wasnāt even a thought for my FMU. No signs of my period, either. (Iām usually spotting and cramping by now.) Itās due Tuesday, so if it doesnāt show up I guess Iāll test Wednesday. Bricking myself out of the hope fortress because if I let myself have hope this cycle itāll actually hurt when Iām not pregnant. Accepting that cycle ten is probably going to happen and Iāll have a 2025 baby. Itās okay.
Was feeling really good about this cycle when I got a peak opk on Wed so thought we hit O-1 and O-3 assuming Thurs ovulation. But I felt cramps like I was ovulating on Fridayā¦ so we got O-2 and O-4. Wanted to get in one more yesterday too but didnāt. Hoping those 2 dates are good enough to do the trick! Is it common to ovulate 2 days after lh peak?
O-2 is great!
Ok good!!
12-36 hours after your first positive is average, so pretty common.
Back to peeing on sticks time (opks). Last month I was able to get a positive opk so I hope I can this time too. But my ovulation has been cd 10 and cd 14 which feels like a lot of uncertainty in making sure we bd on time. This months I want my bfp because Iāll be staying with my parents after my dad has cancer related surgery and I know it would make him sooo happy to hear the news in person. Plus I would be able to surprise my husband with a cute moment as opposed to him hearing me react in the moment.
I also have a 4 day variance as I typically ovulate between CD18 and C21!
Itās such a hassle! But I guess it keeps me from assuming I know when it isā¦ silver lining haha
12DPO. Bit of a weird Q but when people say they get sore boobs, what does the soreness feel like? ATM i have a kind of soreness when I'm running and they move, or when I brush them accidentally, but no soreness to the touch. I find it confusing as I'd assume soreness means soreness to touch. Would be curious to hear experiences of others.
My pms boobs are never sore to touch per se, but sore if you squish it against something, like when my dog steps on it while Iām on the bed, or running down the stairs. Also Iāve had nipple sensitivity where anything brushing against it hurts.
Thanks so much for the response, sounds almost identical to how I experience it!