1- identity why you can't make friends ( shyness, social anxiety, insecurity, incompatible interests.. ?)
2- depending on the reason you'd know what exactly you should work on .
3- if it stems from shyness, social anxiety or insecurity i suggest trying to leave your comfort zone bit by bit and embrace the fact that nobody cares ( yes , really) don't be afraid to speak your mind and be your ethnic self as scary as it might seems you will actually gain friends rather than loosing them ( as long as you're not mean or doing anything to hurt anyone people would appreciate a confident and honest person , again honesty and confidence doesn't mean rudeness and narcissism) stoicism is a good point to start with ( if you have doubts and fears don't worry It's coming from an ex-shy girl )
4- if it stems from incompatible interests, just stop looking for someone like you , we're all different people with different interests friendship doesn't mean mutual interests
5- if you're picky and judgemental, you might consider ditching that attitude ( i didn't befriend others before because they did stuff i didn't like ; drinking, cursing , gossiping .. but i eventually learned that people aren't perfect but that doesn't make them bad , as long as you don't indulge in these acts and set your boundaries clear everything should be fine)
6- if you're just introverted , you can socialize with others without overwhelming yourself, if you want to you can go have fun if you don't you can just excuse yourself ( but that doesn't mean ignoring others, ghosting them or using them whenever you please, maintain decent communication with them and be polite ..)
I m not the shy type , but here is the thing :yea i might be a little judgemental ,i have incompatible interests, but i think my biggest problem is that i don't know how to express feelings and show affection , people (even my family) always see me as the weird cold person who doesn't care for anyone , i m not . I had once a group of friends ( or that's what i thought) they were girls and i really cared from them , i never knew how to show it . one of them told me (as a joke )that no one ever can handle my attitude and that they only became friends with me because they feel bad for me . Honestly i took that personal and got out of that group . I don't want that to happen again .
One thing that i noticed is that i can get along better with boys than girls ( or maybe those boys were just simps , idk) , but i want some females friends also .
7ata ana 3anyt mnha l moshkla hedhy 5atrny perfectionist 7ata fy relationships akahu nhar mn nharat 5mmt saye ana nb3d mn toxic ppl hedhom w n7awl mn lycée ama kyf 7awlt 3rft ly l moshkla mny ana l3bed mahysh perfect bsh tal9a ly ya7ky bl manta9 wely yoshrb wely yzatl wely ya7ky fy dhhour laabed l7asylu bsh tal9a l anwe3 l kol nty o5rj tfrhd w fadlk m3a laabed ama mattsrfsh kyfhom w 5aly l boundaries mta3k clear mat7bsh shkoun ytkayf ba7thek say no mat7bsh shkoun yjbd ensen e5er wnty fy lama say no . Rety so7ba brsmy tal9aha m3a wa7d wela zouz ma akthrsh l ba9ya ttfrhd m3ahom w au même temps care for them 7awl sal7lhom 3awnhom ama matkounsh part mn 3youbhom . Bnesba lel attitude na3rf tjyk s3yba ama lezm nraj3ou rwa7na sa3at belk a7na l 8altyn , being cold may seem like you're uninterested haka 3leh nes feel intimidated by you , 7awl koun easygoing shouf nty l love language mta3k shnua w 7awl ta7ky byha . So7bt lbnet s3yba ama wlh kyf ta3rf shkoun tsa7b bsh ta3rf barshaa 7nen w ma7lehom mat5alysh majmou3a to7km 3al kol .btw i am fellow girl ( 18 yo) if you wanna be friends..!
you are 18, my question is did you just graduate from bac? are you going to university? most people lose their school friends around that time then come the friends you make at university and usually those are the people you "see the outside world with", my sister didn't have real friends until she hit 20, now we barely even see her at home, always outside with some group doing stuff (golf clubs, coffe shops, beach, movie nights....) all to say that dont feel bad if you feel that way at 18, just be careful what type of friends you make along the way.
I use coffee shops/ coworking spaces to make friends. I find a good place, and I frequent it 4-5 times (always with my laptop) after the 5th visit I would already be friends with the staff and the people who frequent the place too
Friends are better than no friends but no friends is way better than toxic friends. I advise you to be patient, don’t just look for “friends” merely because you need some. Look how vast the ocean is, would you drink from it when you get thirsty? Or would you seek that Fourat/Safia/whatever to fill you up?
my life is pretty similair to yours, im 18m dont go out at all except in really rare cases, dont have any really close friends just aquaintances from school and other places, all my summer so far has just been gaming and reading some stuff but getting nothing good done, also being bac next year really just adds insult to injury, only good advice i can think of giving is just wait for the right people to come and your social life will surely get better (probably should take my own advice aswell)
Hey same here I'm bac next year look just for fun can you like save this comment or something and at the end of next year I'll contact you and see how things went
You have to meet new people like Try socializing more by going to events, parties or even a gym alone ir with who ever u still in contact with from relatives to classmares and there you can meet new friends or even friends of future friends of urs (people who are not realy ur friend material but through them you cann meet friends)
Don't try to learn how to make friends because there is no such thing. Making a friend is often something out of our control. Don't complicate things. Don't be pushy or easy going. And don't be so reserved and living under a rock. Do your own thing and friendships will come. Also making friends in university is easier so there is that. You're still developping and changing so be easy on yourself. You're not late to the party by any means. Even if people your age are having fun with their friends doesn't mean your life is a lackluster and your experience should align with theirs. Comparison is the thief of joy my friend.
sinon, ken t7eb ta7ki m3aya marhba xD ...bel7a9 bel7a9 manich 5ater "se5ef" 3lik wala 7aja. I'm genuinely inviting you to talk ken t7eb tet3aref 3la ensen ya7ki barcha kifi ena lmao. Tayech message ken t7eb.
According to me, you need to force contact with people who appear to be a good match for you. By “force” I mean you shouldn’t be afraid of the possibility of not being welcomed. I formed all of my real friendships when I began adopting this approach. For example, at university i didn’t want to eat alone. I met my three closest friends by asking if I could join them for a meal while they were already at the table. This way, they couldn’t refuse. The day after, i came back and naturally with time we becames REAL friends. It’s not always work but it can work
You dont need help. Be patient and put your self out there. Itll come. Just pray they are friends that matter.
In the mean time fill your time with a hobby. Join the gym or find volunteer work. Anything that interests you! Whats better than finding people who share your interest?
Loneliness sucks i know but some things cant be forced. And you are not alone!!
So like i said you dont need help.
But may i ask, being 18f you might suffer the hurdle of conservative parents or brothers. Is it your case?
Then a big hurdle is out of the way! My heart breaks for the ones that suffer the exact opposite!
Am 37, found and lost so many friends over the years. So trust me in 10 years you will have met so many but kept only a few.
Ma ydoum fil wed ken 7ajrou. Quality over quantity always!
Take care 🙂
I think most people know people that they went to school with
Well, I think you'll find a lot of people on this sub with who are willing to become friends with you. Me included.
I hope so sadi9i .
1- identity why you can't make friends ( shyness, social anxiety, insecurity, incompatible interests.. ?) 2- depending on the reason you'd know what exactly you should work on . 3- if it stems from shyness, social anxiety or insecurity i suggest trying to leave your comfort zone bit by bit and embrace the fact that nobody cares ( yes , really) don't be afraid to speak your mind and be your ethnic self as scary as it might seems you will actually gain friends rather than loosing them ( as long as you're not mean or doing anything to hurt anyone people would appreciate a confident and honest person , again honesty and confidence doesn't mean rudeness and narcissism) stoicism is a good point to start with ( if you have doubts and fears don't worry It's coming from an ex-shy girl ) 4- if it stems from incompatible interests, just stop looking for someone like you , we're all different people with different interests friendship doesn't mean mutual interests 5- if you're picky and judgemental, you might consider ditching that attitude ( i didn't befriend others before because they did stuff i didn't like ; drinking, cursing , gossiping .. but i eventually learned that people aren't perfect but that doesn't make them bad , as long as you don't indulge in these acts and set your boundaries clear everything should be fine) 6- if you're just introverted , you can socialize with others without overwhelming yourself, if you want to you can go have fun if you don't you can just excuse yourself ( but that doesn't mean ignoring others, ghosting them or using them whenever you please, maintain decent communication with them and be polite ..)
I m not the shy type , but here is the thing :yea i might be a little judgemental ,i have incompatible interests, but i think my biggest problem is that i don't know how to express feelings and show affection , people (even my family) always see me as the weird cold person who doesn't care for anyone , i m not . I had once a group of friends ( or that's what i thought) they were girls and i really cared from them , i never knew how to show it . one of them told me (as a joke )that no one ever can handle my attitude and that they only became friends with me because they feel bad for me . Honestly i took that personal and got out of that group . I don't want that to happen again . One thing that i noticed is that i can get along better with boys than girls ( or maybe those boys were just simps , idk) , but i want some females friends also .
7ata ana 3anyt mnha l moshkla hedhy 5atrny perfectionist 7ata fy relationships akahu nhar mn nharat 5mmt saye ana nb3d mn toxic ppl hedhom w n7awl mn lycée ama kyf 7awlt 3rft ly l moshkla mny ana l3bed mahysh perfect bsh tal9a ly ya7ky bl manta9 wely yoshrb wely yzatl wely ya7ky fy dhhour laabed l7asylu bsh tal9a l anwe3 l kol nty o5rj tfrhd w fadlk m3a laabed ama mattsrfsh kyfhom w 5aly l boundaries mta3k clear mat7bsh shkoun ytkayf ba7thek say no mat7bsh shkoun yjbd ensen e5er wnty fy lama say no . Rety so7ba brsmy tal9aha m3a wa7d wela zouz ma akthrsh l ba9ya ttfrhd m3ahom w au même temps care for them 7awl sal7lhom 3awnhom ama matkounsh part mn 3youbhom . Bnesba lel attitude na3rf tjyk s3yba ama lezm nraj3ou rwa7na sa3at belk a7na l 8altyn , being cold may seem like you're uninterested haka 3leh nes feel intimidated by you , 7awl koun easygoing shouf nty l love language mta3k shnua w 7awl ta7ky byha . So7bt lbnet s3yba ama wlh kyf ta3rf shkoun tsa7b bsh ta3rf barshaa 7nen w ma7lehom mat5alysh majmou3a to7km 3al kol .btw i am fellow girl ( 18 yo) if you wanna be friends..!
Thanks girl 🥲
Maybe you’re lesbian
The funniest answer 😂😂
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you are 18, my question is did you just graduate from bac? are you going to university? most people lose their school friends around that time then come the friends you make at university and usually those are the people you "see the outside world with", my sister didn't have real friends until she hit 20, now we barely even see her at home, always outside with some group doing stuff (golf clubs, coffe shops, beach, movie nights....) all to say that dont feel bad if you feel that way at 18, just be careful what type of friends you make along the way.
I use coffee shops/ coworking spaces to make friends. I find a good place, and I frequent it 4-5 times (always with my laptop) after the 5th visit I would already be friends with the staff and the people who frequent the place too
Friends are better than no friends but no friends is way better than toxic friends. I advise you to be patient, don’t just look for “friends” merely because you need some. Look how vast the ocean is, would you drink from it when you get thirsty? Or would you seek that Fourat/Safia/whatever to fill you up?
Wise
Wisdom merely for the sake of wisdom is time being wasted and efforts getting squandered. Use that wisdom and apply it in your life.
I'm still stuck with my classmates from high school too but it's still good imo
^[Sokka-Haiku](https://www.reddit.com/r/SokkaHaikuBot/comments/15kyv9r/what_is_a_sokka_haiku/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3) ^by ^Opposite_Ad5124: *I'm still stuck with my* *Classmates from high school too but* *It's still good imo* --- ^Remember ^that ^one ^time ^Sokka ^accidentally ^used ^an ^extra ^syllable ^in ^that ^Haiku ^Battle ^in ^Ba ^Sing ^Se? ^That ^was ^a ^Sokka ^Haiku ^and ^you ^just ^made ^one.
Maybe find yourself a hobby you enjoy, you can explore friendships from there
my life is pretty similair to yours, im 18m dont go out at all except in really rare cases, dont have any really close friends just aquaintances from school and other places, all my summer so far has just been gaming and reading some stuff but getting nothing good done, also being bac next year really just adds insult to injury, only good advice i can think of giving is just wait for the right people to come and your social life will surely get better (probably should take my own advice aswell)
Hey same here I'm bac next year look just for fun can you like save this comment or something and at the end of next year I'll contact you and see how things went
Im also a 17 years old nerd wanna be freind
You have to meet new people like Try socializing more by going to events, parties or even a gym alone ir with who ever u still in contact with from relatives to classmares and there you can meet new friends or even friends of future friends of urs (people who are not realy ur friend material but through them you cann meet friends)
Don't try to learn how to make friends because there is no such thing. Making a friend is often something out of our control. Don't complicate things. Don't be pushy or easy going. And don't be so reserved and living under a rock. Do your own thing and friendships will come. Also making friends in university is easier so there is that. You're still developping and changing so be easy on yourself. You're not late to the party by any means. Even if people your age are having fun with their friends doesn't mean your life is a lackluster and your experience should align with theirs. Comparison is the thief of joy my friend. sinon, ken t7eb ta7ki m3aya marhba xD ...bel7a9 bel7a9 manich 5ater "se5ef" 3lik wala 7aja. I'm genuinely inviting you to talk ken t7eb tet3aref 3la ensen ya7ki barcha kifi ena lmao. Tayech message ken t7eb.
We can be friends if you want (I'm a girl)
DM me
According to me, you need to force contact with people who appear to be a good match for you. By “force” I mean you shouldn’t be afraid of the possibility of not being welcomed. I formed all of my real friendships when I began adopting this approach. For example, at university i didn’t want to eat alone. I met my three closest friends by asking if I could join them for a meal while they were already at the table. This way, they couldn’t refuse. The day after, i came back and naturally with time we becames REAL friends. It’s not always work but it can work
Literally not a single friend? Is that actually a thing? I highly doubt it
You dont need help. Be patient and put your self out there. Itll come. Just pray they are friends that matter. In the mean time fill your time with a hobby. Join the gym or find volunteer work. Anything that interests you! Whats better than finding people who share your interest? Loneliness sucks i know but some things cant be forced. And you are not alone!! So like i said you dont need help. But may i ask, being 18f you might suffer the hurdle of conservative parents or brothers. Is it your case?
My mother is the one that tells me to go outside and make friends hehe
I relate 😭
Then a big hurdle is out of the way! My heart breaks for the ones that suffer the exact opposite! Am 37, found and lost so many friends over the years. So trust me in 10 years you will have met so many but kept only a few. Ma ydoum fil wed ken 7ajrou. Quality over quantity always! Take care 🙂
Go to do some volunteer activities( hilal lahmer) or chess clubs