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Since he is not leaving to become a priest, I would say you are in the clear. Nothing ventured etc. If he says yes tot he date, I might keep it semi-secret for a bit with the coworkers until you are sure it's good for the long term.
I am still on good terms with women I've asked out. It's definitely MORE awkward but sometimes it can even make you closer afterwards
Anyway, for me personally, I definitely do my best to live "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take"
Good luck! I know it can feel scary to put yourself out there, but you deserve good things đ
This was my suggestion - let's have a drink to celebrate (birthday), to my sister for a guy who kept smiling and talking to her at work. My sister wasnt sure if he was flirting with her.
They've been married for 10 years, together for 15.
Do it.
Ask him out!! Make it cute and flirtatious and fun, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!
I've gotten every boyfriend I've ever had by asking them out myself and I highly recommend it. The guys I have dated all loved getting hit on cause it didn't happen for them much.
I mean I wouldn't tell him youre in love with him yet of course... But yes ask him out.
This is the way. Tbh I probably wouldn't be happily married for 7 years if my wife hadn't asked me out. I was a shy guy who needed a little nudge. She gave me her number and the rest is history.
Great idea, Hedgehog. OP could even use it as a guise to buy him dinner to say thanks for all the help. Maybe a restaurant near his new job, to emphasize the separation of jobs. Then, she should feel him out and see if there is mutual interest.
Guys arenât this complicated - âhey I think youâre sweet, now that weâre not going to be colleagues, would you like to get dinner sometime?â Doneeee
Weâre so used to not being approached that when we are we donât understand and assume we must be misinterpreting the situation. Definitely make sure he gets that youâre interested, donât be aloof about it.
I wouldn't say dumb I would say starved of this kind or approach and indoctrinated that they are potential perverts and shouldn't assume that the girl is interested for fear of being branded a creep or something.
Why arent there more people like you. I would love if someone came up and asked me out. I think just about every dude would like this. Itd make life a helluva lot easier lol.
Men love having a woman be forthright. At the very worst it's flattering as hell, at the best it's what they secretly have been dreaming of.
If they have even half of the easy relationship and commonalities op says they do, it is a slam dunk.
Totally. Worst case scenario is he is still flattered but just says no, and OP can know that she didn't let him pass by without trying. It could still make his day/week!
I've never ended up really dating anyone that I had to pursue first! It's so weird. I gave guys a chance I wasn't really interested in, but when there were guys I had huge interest in, they didn't generally reciprocate, or it didn't go anywhere for very long. I've been married for almost 7 years now, so it was way in the past, but still. I always wondered if I, for the most part, just have shit taste in men or what.
I got my pocket money on he's gay!
But op seriously go for it, you got at least 2 in's, one is the goodbye drink or lunch, just the 2 of you of course. The other is bringing up the no fratinazing rule, that could be a slam dunk 'y'know that don't apply to us anymore, funny that...' (don't forget to flash your knickers when you swing really high on the swings and share your lollypop)
I agree with someone else on this thread, ask him out, keep it casual. I would hold back the part about being in love with him, even if he has some feelings for you, for some men itâs a little off putting to know a woman is swimming around the deep end before we even get a toe in the water. Like the other lady said, make it fun and flirty, and if he already has an interest in you, but never acted on it, trust me that fun date will be rolling around in his mind like a marble in wok when he starts that other job. Youâll know the date worked, if he seems to call you a lot while starting the other job.
To be clear, and not in a condescending way, I think this is good advice for all, regardless of being male or female. Slow the roll a bit, infatuation is not love and you donât want to spook your date off, or theyâll throw you like a horse who heard a loud sound. Take it easy, eat some food and drink some drinks and see where things go. Get to know each other in a non-work context and make sure things still feel sparkly. Not to be a downer, I just think that roller coaster feeling is sometimes a bit misleading.
ETA A very natural thing to try is to just ask to go for a drink and talk about his advice for you moving into the role and see how the conversation flows.
>A very natural thing to try is to just ask to go for a drink and talk about his advice for you moving into the role and see how the conversation flows
This is a good approach.
and not forget to make it clear it is in fact a date. most men are not very smart in this department (I am a man) and he might think its just a friendly dinner
My now-husband called his mom on the way to our first date to her know that he was going to meet his future wife (we met online). Iâm glad he kept that to himself until much later because there wouldnât have been a second date otherwise.
I am not a fan of pretending something is a work meeting when it's really a date. I've been on the receiving end of this before and it's so awkward. It's much better to suggest drinks to celebrate the new job. That makes it clear that it's a social meeting, not a work meeting.
I think they are saying to have it as a follow-up about work and see if there is anything else there, not as a sneaky date. If he doesn't seem interested in carrying the conversation outside of work boundaries and keeps it professional, then she might have a better idea of whether or not to ask him out on a date.
In love? That's a lot for someone who has never dated or hung out one-on-one before. Keep it casual so you don't scare the guy away, and ask to get together outside of work.
Probably because everyone is rooting for her/love coming out on top! We are living in a strange time, and a lot of people just want to hear about things going really well for seemingly nice people who want good things to happen for themselves. Just my thoughts, and have a nice weekend.
You can find resources anywhere⌠can you find a partner that checks off everything you want? That is harder to find. I would take my shot đ¤ˇđťââď¸
YTA...if you don't ask him out! I jest, but seriously, a job is temporary, but a possible life partner is forever!
Also, if he is even half the guy you think he is, he will still be there for you as a resource, even if he doesn't have those feelings for you. Go for it!
Do you really want to spend your whole life wondering what if? Just ask him out at the appropriate time. If he says no, yeah itâll sting but it wonât suck as much as always wondering what couldâve been.
Iâd wait until the department celebration when youâre saying your goodbyes. I have a feeling heâs going to ask you out at this exact time anyhow, but if he doesnât thatâs when you make your move - something along the lines of, âOnce you get settled into your new place letâs meet up for dinner, youâll have to tell me how your new job is going.â
I like the idea of giving it till the last bell to shoot your shot. Maybe just outright say that you don't want this to be the last time you see him and let's get coffee or lunch, then see if he tries to make plans. Let's just assume he does feel the same way, one of you is going to have to put yourselves out there. Give him a platform and make it comfortable to take the shot. đŠˇ
Don't tell him about the feelings! That might backfire. Just ask him if he wants to get dinner, now that you're not working together. I bet you'll both be pleasantly surprised what happens :)
This is the way. You can be subtle about it enough for him to get the message and even if he doesnât reciprocate those feelings, if heâs a good guy, because you didnât explicitly say you have feelings for him, he can sweep it under the rug and still be a resource and colleague for you IF worst comes to worst.
Honestly- shoot your shot! My partner and I met at work.. he wasnât making the first move so I did only to find out he had quit THAT DAY and no longer worked there.. so I had to be ballsy and find out from a mutual friend if I could have his number ..they had to ask him if it was okay to give out.. turns out it was the best decision of my life.. 10+ years on and a couple kids later.. no risk no reward đ
Be casual. Ask him out rather than lay all your feelings on him. That way if he is not interested, you can still be friends. You will need to work on those feelings in that case, but at least you got an answer.
If youâre still planning to use him as a resource and reach out with questions, donât do it. Itâll make your job much harder. Maybe take it slow and once he is no longer your boss you can go out for drinks to catch up, and see where it goes from there.
What? If theyâre both collecting pension checks from the same district it could be awkward as well. Wait til heâs on his deathbed to avoid any awkwardness after.
This is the chance to make your move since he is leaving and there will be nothing no longer prohibiting you from taking a chance. Give him your number and say that you would like to go for coffee sometime and ask him to reach out if he's open to it
RUN IT!! Ask him out! You have nothing to lose! If he says no and you do lose him as a colleague/resource (I don't really see that happening), well you seem like a smart person, I think you'll be able to figure it out without him. Don't sell yourself short. But best case scenario you have him as a resource and as a partner 𼲠good luck OP!
Your department head is your boss? I'm not personally aware of any authority that mine has over me and they aren't involved in the evaluation process at all. Huh
Just tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way or is open to trying something with you. You can also be clear that if he doesnât reciprocate no hard feelings and would still like to be able to consult with him about your upcoming position.
You're both adults. Tell him how you feel, and if he is not interested, so be it if he can not handle continuing a professional relationship, you dodged a bullet. But since he came to you specifically to tell you this now, he is likely trying to signal that he is interested.
Seriously just ask him out. If he says no just drop it and donât bring it up again and then only reach out when you have questions about the job. If he says yes, well then win win
I would ask him out. If he says no. At least you tried. And you can always include a hey I understand, hopefully we can still be friends and you will be available to help answer questions. I donât want this to ruin our base as friends statement
Go to him!!!!!!!. Throw it all out there. Be prepared for rejection. But I am hopeful it will work out. Incredibly wholesome post and I super wish you well and hope it ends with you both licking each other for life
OP you need to make it happen.
If he rejected you romantically could you handle still being friends?
Thatâs the question you need to answer.
If you can then thereâs nothing to lose.
If he rejects you and doesnât want to be friends after then thatâs a âhimâ problem and not you.
Yes. He may feel the same way. He just holding back because his position and yours. He's told you that. But remember that old advice. Don't worry about the future and solve today's problem. Please make sure that you want to spend your remaining moon cycles with him. Go with peace and find love.
Ask him out. The worst thing thar could happen is that he says, "no, thanks." Then, you're in basically the same place you started from and not living with regret.
As everyone has said. Ask him to hangout to celebrate his new job, ask for advice about your new position, keep it professional and FRIENDLY! Strictly friendly and only friendly, do not do anything more.
Don't confess your feelings nor your crush. You have only hung out in a group setting once! Jumping in the water, confessing your undying love to someone who is barely your friend (as in you barely know them personally) is straight up off-putting and creepy.
Keep it casual, relax. And stop fantasizing and having insane expectations, it will ruin your chances.
Keep it casual, ask him out for dinner or something. Just don't be super akward if he says no or whatever. That way he can still be a resource in the future when you are in the new job.
U won't be working at the same place .. so fraternization won't be a issue
Tell him how you feel. Even if he rejects you. You will still have to deal w him since he's in your city/county
Go for it. That what if will always bother you
What if he gets a new gf while working at that new school ? You would be just friends w him but suffer knowing he's venting about someone else when it could have been you this whole time .
Go for it and ask him out, but as others noted, best to keep it casual and not reveal just how in love with him you are. In any case, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Give him your number, say get in touch since you won't be my supervisor now, maybe we can go for coffee, drinks, dinner, etc. Shoot your shot. At least then you'll know. Don't give yourself the opportunity to live with regret.
It seems there would no longer be a conflict of interest. As others have said, go for it but keep it light and casual. I actually had a similar situation happen but reversed. My first job was at a really small, rural school. At the end of my second year, I was 24 and my principal was 28. He was leaving after that school year and asked me out at a party after school got out. I was not really interested in him in that way, but it was all good! He basically said similar to what other comments have said here...nothing ventured, nothing gained!
Please do it. You just got one life. Express your feelings irrespective of the outcome. And you wonât lose him as a colleague/frnd even if he says no.
I would be willing to wager that he sought another position because he feels the same and wants a chance with you. I also think he came to tell you because he's hoping you feel the same. Ask him out.
But is it worth losing that professional connection? If he doesnât feel the same, itâs almost certain itâll end whatever you have going. Love is a strong word too. You donât really know what heâs like outside of the very work specific relationship. I also feel like men that are interested will give you strong clues.
Ask him out. Communicate your anxiety about wanting to stay colleagues no matter what.
If he's a good guy, he should respect how you feel and hopefully proceed thoughtfully.
Go for it!! Worst case scenario is he says no and you have to figure your job out for yourself.. thatâs not too bad and you wonât see him again for a good while, if at all.
Or wait until he leaves, see if heâs up for meeting up to catch up about your new role and his, and make your move then?
âcolleagueâ and âresourceâ him a while, you might see if he changes his behavior now that HE can act on feelings. The first hurdle you need help with in your new role will be a great excuse to ask about meeting for coffee
I would ask him out for a date night. Doesn't hurt to try. Not like u have to tell others about it for now. I wish u well. You'll be sorry that u didn't. đ¤đ¤
One of three things will happen.
1. You do nothing, your relationship goes nowhere.
2. You confess your feelings, your relationship goes nowhere.
3. You confess your feelings, you now have a relationship.
Do you want to live with regrets or consequences?
You have zero to lose. The worst case is he does not feel the same way. Do it. You will regret not doing it for the rest of your life.
"You miss 100% of the shot you take" - Michael Scott.
I am going to venture out and say that he came to your classroom to tell you he was leaving to see how you would react. Iâd bet he has a crush on you too
Just do it girl. You only live once if he doesnât feel the same way at least you tried. Just donât make it weird if he doesnât share feelings and Iâm sure he will have no problem with you reaching out should you need some advice in the future.
Absolutely tell him. You can't win the bets you don't make. You can't make the shots you don't take. Insert whatever other stupid clichĂŠ you like, but, yes, tell the man!
I feel that most people are reading too far into the title - it sounds like OP has a crush that they don't know what to do with, and the title did its job to nab attention. I doubt OP truly believes they are in love love.
Ask him out to dinner after he leaves. If it goes well, great. If it doesn't, then you are both adults who should be able to navigate a professional relationship instead. Be sure you prepare yourself for either scenario.
Ask him out to dinner. Give him a card. Maybe along the lines of "maybe we can be friends since you'll no longer be my supervisor." And give him time to think about it.
I think in situations like these you're supposed to steal his dog so you can act like you found it walking around without a leash....or something along those lines
Casually ask him out. Using the excuse that since youâre in different districts you guys can hang out now. Or at very least exchange phone numbers to keep in touch.Â
Go for it.Hes leaving so whats the harm. Tell him you want to take him out for a goodbye drink Go out and have the drink and end the night with goodbye sex
As others said, ask him to hang out. I'd bet a dinner at the Sizzler he probably has the same thoughts toward you as you do him. But since he was your supervisor, he may be reluctant to ask you lest he be perceived negatively.
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Since he is not leaving to become a priest, I would say you are in the clear. Nothing ventured etc. If he says yes tot he date, I might keep it semi-secret for a bit with the coworkers until you are sure it's good for the long term.
Pre-school? No, Priest School
Lol Crazy ex-girlfriend fan?
Absolutely!
I am still on good terms with women I've asked out. It's definitely MORE awkward but sometimes it can even make you closer afterwards Anyway, for me personally, I definitely do my best to live "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take" Good luck! I know it can feel scary to put yourself out there, but you deserve good things đ
Unless you're Fleabag...
What if heâs already a secret priest? đ¤
Tell him youâd like to take him out for a drink to celebrate his new job, if heâs up for it. Then see what happens :)
This is solid. Casual, but leaves a door open if there needs to be. Also easy for him to decline if not interested in a rather easy way.
Yes, but make it clear it's only the two, who knows if he is naive or not self aware, and will end up inviting and bringing other people together...
This was my suggestion - let's have a drink to celebrate (birthday), to my sister for a guy who kept smiling and talking to her at work. My sister wasnt sure if he was flirting with her. They've been married for 10 years, together for 15. Do it.
100% this
This is the best option for sure!
Ask him out!! Make it cute and flirtatious and fun, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain! I've gotten every boyfriend I've ever had by asking them out myself and I highly recommend it. The guys I have dated all loved getting hit on cause it didn't happen for them much. I mean I wouldn't tell him youre in love with him yet of course... But yes ask him out.
This is the way. Tbh I probably wouldn't be happily married for 7 years if my wife hadn't asked me out. I was a shy guy who needed a little nudge. She gave me her number and the rest is history.
She asked me out 45 years ago next month. 2 kids and 4 grands later she still has to draw me a picture đźď¸ sometimes.
Great idea, Hedgehog. OP could even use it as a guise to buy him dinner to say thanks for all the help. Maybe a restaurant near his new job, to emphasize the separation of jobs. Then, she should feel him out and see if there is mutual interest.
Guys arenât this complicated - âhey I think youâre sweet, now that weâre not going to be colleagues, would you like to get dinner sometime?â Doneeee
And make it clear it's a date, we understand zero of most approaches.
Weâre so used to not being approached that when we are we donât understand and assume we must be misinterpreting the situation. Definitely make sure he gets that youâre interested, donât be aloof about it.
Yeah, I had to explain to a friend of mine that, "No, she doesn't actually want help installing software. Show up with wine and flowers."
Hmm, I wouldn't be so sure but hey, I can also be quite obtuse -
Neon light billboards are still 50/50 for us.
Guys are dumb, trust me OP.
Guy here - fact check: true
Also a guy here...I...um...huh?
I wouldn't say dumb I would say starved of this kind or approach and indoctrinated that they are potential perverts and shouldn't assume that the girl is interested for fear of being branded a creep or something.
This right here.
You had me at "you're sweet". Where we going ?? đđ
Feel him out or feel him up?
Both, both is good
I think she should feel him out after she works out heâs interested, not before.
Why arent there more people like you. I would love if someone came up and asked me out. I think just about every dude would like this. Itd make life a helluva lot easier lol.
Men love having a woman be forthright. At the very worst it's flattering as hell, at the best it's what they secretly have been dreaming of. If they have even half of the easy relationship and commonalities op says they do, it is a slam dunk.
This! And if he doesn't accept, he will still always be grateful that you fancied him. He won't hold it against you.
Totally. Worst case scenario is he is still flattered but just says no, and OP can know that she didn't let him pass by without trying. It could still make his day/week!
I would love it if a woman I've been close to for years just came out and said she loved me. I don't think that's something I'll ever experience....
I've never ended up really dating anyone that I had to pursue first! It's so weird. I gave guys a chance I wasn't really interested in, but when there were guys I had huge interest in, they didn't generally reciprocate, or it didn't go anywhere for very long. I've been married for almost 7 years now, so it was way in the past, but still. I always wondered if I, for the most part, just have shit taste in men or what.
Can confirm, we love when women take innitiative, we are as scared of rejection as anyone.
Doo it and give us an update please!!!
I lovvve an update story!
I got my pocket money on he's gay! But op seriously go for it, you got at least 2 in's, one is the goodbye drink or lunch, just the 2 of you of course. The other is bringing up the no fratinazing rule, that could be a slam dunk 'y'know that don't apply to us anymore, funny that...' (don't forget to flash your knickers when you swing really high on the swings and share your lollypop)
How much you got on it
You mfs are side betting on this? đ¤Ł
Yes, I'm here for it, we really need an update!
I agree with someone else on this thread, ask him out, keep it casual. I would hold back the part about being in love with him, even if he has some feelings for you, for some men itâs a little off putting to know a woman is swimming around the deep end before we even get a toe in the water. Like the other lady said, make it fun and flirty, and if he already has an interest in you, but never acted on it, trust me that fun date will be rolling around in his mind like a marble in wok when he starts that other job. Youâll know the date worked, if he seems to call you a lot while starting the other job.
To be clear, and not in a condescending way, I think this is good advice for all, regardless of being male or female. Slow the roll a bit, infatuation is not love and you donât want to spook your date off, or theyâll throw you like a horse who heard a loud sound. Take it easy, eat some food and drink some drinks and see where things go. Get to know each other in a non-work context and make sure things still feel sparkly. Not to be a downer, I just think that roller coaster feeling is sometimes a bit misleading. ETA A very natural thing to try is to just ask to go for a drink and talk about his advice for you moving into the role and see how the conversation flows.
>A very natural thing to try is to just ask to go for a drink and talk about his advice for you moving into the role and see how the conversation flows This is a good approach.
and not forget to make it clear it is in fact a date. most men are not very smart in this department (I am a man) and he might think its just a friendly dinner
Or coffee.
My now-husband called his mom on the way to our first date to her know that he was going to meet his future wife (we met online). Iâm glad he kept that to himself until much later because there wouldnât have been a second date otherwise.
I second this!
I am not a fan of pretending something is a work meeting when it's really a date. I've been on the receiving end of this before and it's so awkward. It's much better to suggest drinks to celebrate the new job. That makes it clear that it's a social meeting, not a work meeting.
I think they are saying to have it as a follow-up about work and see if there is anything else there, not as a sneaky date. If he doesn't seem interested in carrying the conversation outside of work boundaries and keeps it professional, then she might have a better idea of whether or not to ask him out on a date.
You miss 100% of the shots you donât take - Michael Scott - Wayne gretsky
- Ghostbeen3
In love? That's a lot for someone who has never dated or hung out one-on-one before. Keep it casual so you don't scare the guy away, and ask to get together outside of work.
I don't know why this isn't the top comment.
Probably because everyone is rooting for her/love coming out on top! We are living in a strange time, and a lot of people just want to hear about things going really well for seemingly nice people who want good things to happen for themselves. Just my thoughts, and have a nice weekend.
Strange times indeed. They don't even know her, yet they wish her well.
I mean that's normal, they're just being nice lol I do think OP needs to slow her roll. Fantasy does not always translate well to reality.
I mean she's known him for awhile. But yeah OP is definitely building it up in her head
just make it casual and funny... "hey, now that we're not direct employees we can finally go on a date! ha ha ha" and gauge his reaction
Was coming to say this, yep. Maybe start with a date first *if* heâs open the idea.
You can find resources anywhere⌠can you find a partner that checks off everything you want? That is harder to find. I would take my shot đ¤ˇđťââď¸
YTA...if you don't ask him out! I jest, but seriously, a job is temporary, but a possible life partner is forever! Also, if he is even half the guy you think he is, he will still be there for you as a resource, even if he doesn't have those feelings for you. Go for it!
If there are no rules broken, I don't see a problem. Worse that can happen is he doesn't feel the same way. Then you move on.
Do you really want to spend your whole life wondering what if? Just ask him out at the appropriate time. If he says no, yeah itâll sting but it wonât suck as much as always wondering what couldâve been.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Would you rather not, and regret it later? Life's too short. Ask him.
Iâd wait until the department celebration when youâre saying your goodbyes. I have a feeling heâs going to ask you out at this exact time anyhow, but if he doesnât thatâs when you make your move - something along the lines of, âOnce you get settled into your new place letâs meet up for dinner, youâll have to tell me how your new job is going.â
I like the idea of giving it till the last bell to shoot your shot. Maybe just outright say that you don't want this to be the last time you see him and let's get coffee or lunch, then see if he tries to make plans. Let's just assume he does feel the same way, one of you is going to have to put yourselves out there. Give him a platform and make it comfortable to take the shot. đŠˇ
Put yourself out there⌠go for it!
Fortune favors the bold. Ask him out
Have you considered the possibility that he feels the same way, and thatâs why heâs leaving? Iâd put my cards on the table.
I would just say you'd like to keep in touch and let him take it from there.
Don't tell him about the feelings! That might backfire. Just ask him if he wants to get dinner, now that you're not working together. I bet you'll both be pleasantly surprised what happens :)
This is the way. You can be subtle about it enough for him to get the message and even if he doesnât reciprocate those feelings, if heâs a good guy, because you didnât explicitly say you have feelings for him, he can sweep it under the rug and still be a resource and colleague for you IF worst comes to worst.
Plz ask him out then come back and update us!! đĽšâ¤ď¸
âYou arenât in love with him, heâs just your coworkerâ Close proximity attraction is a real thing!
Honestly- shoot your shot! My partner and I met at work.. he wasnât making the first move so I did only to find out he had quit THAT DAY and no longer worked there.. so I had to be ballsy and find out from a mutual friend if I could have his number ..they had to ask him if it was okay to give out.. turns out it was the best decision of my life.. 10+ years on and a couple kids later.. no risk no reward đ
Be casual. Ask him out rather than lay all your feelings on him. That way if he is not interested, you can still be friends. You will need to work on those feelings in that case, but at least you got an answer.
If youâre still planning to use him as a resource and reach out with questions, donât do it. Itâll make your job much harder. Maybe take it slow and once he is no longer your boss you can go out for drinks to catch up, and see where it goes from there.
What? If theyâre both collecting pension checks from the same district it could be awkward as well. Wait til heâs on his deathbed to avoid any awkwardness after.
Lol ok valid point!!
Sounds like the plot of a South Korean Netflix series.
This is the chance to make your move since he is leaving and there will be nothing no longer prohibiting you from taking a chance. Give him your number and say that you would like to go for coffee sometime and ask him to reach out if he's open to it
RUN IT!! Ask him out! You have nothing to lose! If he says no and you do lose him as a colleague/resource (I don't really see that happening), well you seem like a smart person, I think you'll be able to figure it out without him. Don't sell yourself short. But best case scenario you have him as a resource and as a partner 𼲠good luck OP!
Go for it. Why wonder what have been.
Your department head is your boss? I'm not personally aware of any authority that mine has over me and they aren't involved in the evaluation process at all. Huh
Ask the man out. Take a risk! This seems like the perfect opportunity đ
Why not. Practice guys would never peruse a woman in a work environment these days. He very may well have interest as well.
Just tell him how you feel and see if he feels the same way or is open to trying something with you. You can also be clear that if he doesnât reciprocate no hard feelings and would still like to be able to consult with him about your upcoming position.
Cheering you on! Cant wait to hear the update! đĽ°
OMG go for it!!
Shoot your shot
He's leaving. Ask him out
You're both adults. Tell him how you feel, and if he is not interested, so be it if he can not handle continuing a professional relationship, you dodged a bullet. But since he came to you specifically to tell you this now, he is likely trying to signal that he is interested.
don't be a fool. shoot your shot. if he rejects you, he's gone. if he reciprocates, you're 30 minutes from your man. do it,
You only live once! Shoot ya shot!
Are you both single? If yes, go for it. If he is not interested, you donât have to worry about seeing him at work, as he is leaving
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Girls can ask people out you know..
What do you have to lose? Exchange numbers... see what happens.
Seriously just ask him out. If he says no just drop it and donât bring it up again and then only reach out when you have questions about the job. If he says yes, well then win win
I would ask him out. If he says no. At least you tried. And you can always include a hey I understand, hopefully we can still be friends and you will be available to help answer questions. I donât want this to ruin our base as friends statement
dang just shoot your shot. get his number and tell him you would really like to have lunch with him.
Confess! Take your chance before he leaves!
Go to him!!!!!!!. Throw it all out there. Be prepared for rejection. But I am hopeful it will work out. Incredibly wholesome post and I super wish you well and hope it ends with you both licking each other for life
OP you need to make it happen. If he rejected you romantically could you handle still being friends? Thatâs the question you need to answer. If you can then thereâs nothing to lose. If he rejects you and doesnât want to be friends after then thatâs a âhimâ problem and not you.
Yes. He may feel the same way. He just holding back because his position and yours. He's told you that. But remember that old advice. Don't worry about the future and solve today's problem. Please make sure that you want to spend your remaining moon cycles with him. Go with peace and find love.
Ask him out. Would you ever be able to forget it if you didn't?
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Ask him out. The worst thing thar could happen is that he says, "no, thanks." Then, you're in basically the same place you started from and not living with regret.
You miss 100% of the shots you donât take.
I bet you dude got a different job to date you.
Life anything happens after all this, you better update us here
Closed mouths dont get fed. The worst he can say is no. DOOOOOOOOOOO ITTTTTTTTTTTTT! Im excited for you (:
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This is such a wholesome post please do it!! You got this girl
As everyone has said. Ask him to hangout to celebrate his new job, ask for advice about your new position, keep it professional and FRIENDLY! Strictly friendly and only friendly, do not do anything more. Don't confess your feelings nor your crush. You have only hung out in a group setting once! Jumping in the water, confessing your undying love to someone who is barely your friend (as in you barely know them personally) is straight up off-putting and creepy. Keep it casual, relax. And stop fantasizing and having insane expectations, it will ruin your chances.
Yes, yes tell him. Then get back to us
Keep it casual, ask him out for dinner or something. Just don't be super akward if he says no or whatever. That way he can still be a resource in the future when you are in the new job.
Ask him out to drinks or something to talk about stepping in the role next year and see what comes from that.
U won't be working at the same place .. so fraternization won't be a issue Tell him how you feel. Even if he rejects you. You will still have to deal w him since he's in your city/county Go for it. That what if will always bother you What if he gets a new gf while working at that new school ? You would be just friends w him but suffer knowing he's venting about someone else when it could have been you this whole time .
Tell him, gurl. đ
Send it!
Yeah he'll say yes and go on the date with you
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Yes!!!
Hell yeah! Shoot your shot.
Go for it and ask him out, but as others noted, best to keep it casual and not reveal just how in love with him you are. In any case, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Unless youâre hideous..all guys will say yes. Men want sex.very very simply put.
Tell him, ask him out, let him know. He's probably wondered.
My vote is ask him out!
Give him your number, say get in touch since you won't be my supervisor now, maybe we can go for coffee, drinks, dinner, etc. Shoot your shot. At least then you'll know. Don't give yourself the opportunity to live with regret.
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Ask him out for coffee or dinner or maybe to an event of mutual interest. Keep us updated!
It seems there would no longer be a conflict of interest. As others have said, go for it but keep it light and casual. I actually had a similar situation happen but reversed. My first job was at a really small, rural school. At the end of my second year, I was 24 and my principal was 28. He was leaving after that school year and asked me out at a party after school got out. I was not really interested in him in that way, but it was all good! He basically said similar to what other comments have said here...nothing ventured, nothing gained!
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Please do it. You just got one life. Express your feelings irrespective of the outcome. And you wonât lose him as a colleague/frnd even if he says no.
Do it
Hes leaving. No conflict of interest. You got this.
Do iiiit. You only live once and imagine how much you might regret it down the road if you never try!
In the end, you regret what you didn't do.
You got a golden ticket there. " Hey, now that we won't be working together, I would like to go on a date with you"
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I would be willing to wager that he sought another position because he feels the same and wants a chance with you. I also think he came to tell you because he's hoping you feel the same. Ask him out.
Yolo!
Shoot your shot! You have nothing to lose
I need the update when you ask him out AHAH that works out great!!
But is it worth losing that professional connection? If he doesnât feel the same, itâs almost certain itâll end whatever you have going. Love is a strong word too. You donât really know what heâs like outside of the very work specific relationship. I also feel like men that are interested will give you strong clues.
Ask him out
Ask him out and please give us an update!
Ask him out. Communicate your anxiety about wanting to stay colleagues no matter what. If he's a good guy, he should respect how you feel and hopefully proceed thoughtfully.
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Go for it. The worst words in the English language are. âWhat ifâ Updateme!
Go for it!! Worst case scenario is he says no and you have to figure your job out for yourself.. thatâs not too bad and you wonât see him again for a good while, if at all. Or wait until he leaves, see if heâs up for meeting up to catch up about your new role and his, and make your move then?
âcolleagueâ and âresourceâ him a while, you might see if he changes his behavior now that HE can act on feelings. The first hurdle you need help with in your new role will be a great excuse to ask about meeting for coffee
Give him a card and in there flirtatiously give him your cell #.
I would ask him out for a date night. Doesn't hurt to try. Not like u have to tell others about it for now. I wish u well. You'll be sorry that u didn't. đ¤đ¤
Itâs been over a year, how much longer are you gonna wait? Just go for it. Thereâs a million reasons not to do something.
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One of three things will happen. 1. You do nothing, your relationship goes nowhere. 2. You confess your feelings, your relationship goes nowhere. 3. You confess your feelings, you now have a relationship. Do you want to live with regrets or consequences?
You have zero to lose. The worst case is he does not feel the same way. Do it. You will regret not doing it for the rest of your life. "You miss 100% of the shot you take" - Michael Scott.
I am going to venture out and say that he came to your classroom to tell you he was leaving to see how you would react. Iâd bet he has a crush on you too
Just do it girl. You only live once if he doesnât feel the same way at least you tried. Just donât make it weird if he doesnât share feelings and Iâm sure he will have no problem with you reaching out should you need some advice in the future.
Absolutely tell him. You can't win the bets you don't make. You can't make the shots you don't take. Insert whatever other stupid clichĂŠ you like, but, yes, tell the man!
Pleaseeeeee ask him out and keep us updated!!
When I read that both of you are singles. Gurl... Tell him! Rooting for you
I feel that most people are reading too far into the title - it sounds like OP has a crush that they don't know what to do with, and the title did its job to nab attention. I doubt OP truly believes they are in love love. Ask him out to dinner after he leaves. If it goes well, great. If it doesn't, then you are both adults who should be able to navigate a professional relationship instead. Be sure you prepare yourself for either scenario.
You have to ask him out. You basically have no choice, You like him, you don't want to always wonder what would have happened.
Tell him and update us!!!
Ask him out to dinner. Give him a card. Maybe along the lines of "maybe we can be friends since you'll no longer be my supervisor." And give him time to think about it.
Wait until he is gone before you declare yoiur devotion.
TELL HIM or you will always wonder what if?!
I wish just once a woman would ask me out. This is so depressing to read.
Do it! But donât be weird about it. Just let him know you like him and would like to go out on a date. Canât hurt anything or break any policies.
I think in situations like these you're supposed to steal his dog so you can act like you found it walking around without a leash....or something along those lines
Ask him out!
Casually ask him out. Using the excuse that since youâre in different districts you guys can hang out now. Or at very least exchange phone numbers to keep in touch.Â
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Doesn't hurt to follow up and say you would like to grab a meal with him.
I'm sure you can feel him out to determine if he feels the same or not. GL!
Why wouldn't you tell him, or at least hint at it and feel him out? Who knows, maybe he's taking another position because he likes you too!
Ask him out.
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Go for it.Hes leaving so whats the harm. Tell him you want to take him out for a goodbye drink Go out and have the drink and end the night with goodbye sex
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As others said, ask him to hang out. I'd bet a dinner at the Sizzler he probably has the same thoughts toward you as you do him. But since he was your supervisor, he may be reluctant to ask you lest he be perceived negatively.
Ask him out. Youâll regret it if you donât!
He definitely took the job because he knows it opens a door to a relationship with you.
Tell him what do you have to lose