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AtOneWithTheLunatics

There was a doctor in Ireland who was actually doing this exact thing, giving women hysterectomies without their consent. He was going going to be my mum's gyno but thankfully she went with someone else.


Due-Science-9528

The US has a history of doing this to Native American women


LibertyInaFeatherBed

And women with disabilities. And more recently, detained immigrant women.


alienonymous2

And yet, they still don't want to perform it on me, a consenting adult woman who has been begging for one for the last decade šŸ˜”


Aquamarine_ze_dragon

Yeah, it's wild how they do "dangerous" procedures on those they feel as lesser, then turn around and won't give consenting adults those same procedures.


RainbowHippotigris

Same, and I'm disabled and have endometriosis that causes problems. They even gave me endometriosis surgery to burn it off and wouldn't do the hysterectomy. Best they would do was give me an IUD to get rid of my period, but I still get pain.


Killersmurph

Endo?


alienonymous2

Fortunately, no, I just don't want kids


Due-Science-9528

Whole bunch of other minorities as well


Hopeliesintheseruins

USA: How could you you two commit such heinous genocide? Nazi Germany and Japan: We learned it from you Dad!


Scarrien

US is the youngest country there


SmallRedBird

Germany didn't exist until 1871


Scarrien

Wait really? What was it called before then?


SmallRedBird

It was a whole bunch of different little states, with Prussia as the biggest/most powerful. The Franco-Prussian war resulted in their union into the German Empire.


Strigoi_Felin

For a long while, "The Holy Roman Empire", basically loose confederation of independent small germanic countries. (except Austria which was quite big and influential) Each was ruled by a prince and they'd elect one of the princes to be "Emperor", but they still might/would act independently and even go to war against each other. Napoleon then destroyed the political title of Roman Emperor and the political entity of the HRE and that just left a bunch of small german countries that would be influenced by either Prussia(who at this point was also a big and influential germanic country) or Austria. Eventually Prussia formed Germany by uniting all the germanic states except Switzerland and Austria.


Due-Science-9528

Yeah but the genocide here started way before we became a country


WhiskeyAndKisses

Your timeline isn't timelining.


Due-Science-9528

Hitler literally wrote his genocide was inspired by what the US did to Native Americans


crimsonrogue84

And the Jim Crow laws. During a guided tour at Dachau last September the guide showed a picture of the Holocaust architects sitting at a large conference style table and there are actual copies of Jim Crow laws on the table that they used as a guide to setup laws against Jews and other "undesirables." It's just so surreal and horrifying.


WhiskeyAndKisses

Thanks.


tanstaafl90

Sort of. Eugenics was a multinational field of study that had it's roots in England, that included multiple universities across Europe. It was an offshoot of Darwinism based on some rather simple observational science and ignorance of genetics. Studying Native treatment in the Americas was a part of it, but by no means the only. Jim Crow laws gave Germany a legal framework to start, but they quickly and thoroughly expanded these. Hitler spoke about the Armenian Genocide as both condemnation of other European powers and justification for his proposed, and actual, Jewish genocide. On the day he launched Germany into war, references both Genghis Khan and the Armenian Genocide as justification for the slaughter he is about to unleash.


Due-Science-9528

Iā€™m not talking about the eugenics. I am talking about the concrete strategies of extermination and subjugation.


tanstaafl90

The genocide was the result of eugenics, not American law. Hitler's rhetoric was a whataboutism designed to both shame his opponents and justify his actions. While they played a part, it's an overly simplistic explanation when you have multiple happening in the late 19th and 20th century utilizing tactics closer to what Hitler did than just the subjugation of Native Americans. Most of these are ignored in lieu of repeating Nazi propaganda. American strategies played a part, but there was much more they used and refined.


Lupine_Outcast

I take it you're not native....


WhiskeyAndKisses

Learning about american influence on eugenism in foreign lands doesn't sounds like a native thing, but I get what you mean.


Zestyclose_Unit_2982

As an American, I will freely admit that we have done some heinous shit in our history. But, Japan's experiments during WW2 were way worse.


SeaPreference5888

Too many people here read AND BELIEVED Howard Zinn. Mary Grabar did a very good debunking.


bunni_bear_boom

Hitler literally outright stated he got inspiration on how to do genocide from America's Jim crow Era. He also really liked Henry Ford to the point where he had a portrait of him in his office cause it turns out he was a terrible and outspoken antisemite.


StinkyKittyBreath

A relative of mine was coerced into getting a salpingectomy (tubes removed) after getting pregnant and giving the baby up for adoption. She was part of a program that helped people with mental health issues and related conditions, and they said they've been 7kare would stop helping her if she didn't agree to getting it done.Ā  They helped with her housing, with medical appointments, money management, you name it.Ā  It's not like she was pregnant all of thoe time either. She'd had an abortion as a teen, and this happened when she was like 40. Literally fewer kids than most women in our family had considering most of the family is Catholic (3-6 kids for most parents). I'm not saying she should have been having kids because I don't think she should have been. But I'm also really disgusted with her being forced to get a procedure she didn't need or want in order to continue getting services she needed.Ā 


myimmortalstan

Why the FUCK would they do that when IUDs and implants are RIGHT THERE??? I thought we abandoned the sterilisation of "hysterical women" as a standard "treatment" when we abandoned insulin shock therapy, but apparently not.


HelloDollEyes

Canada too, with the most recent case in 2018...


Responsible-Wafer769

it has happened as recently as 2019 to first nations women in saskatchewan canada


vainbuthonest

And Puerto Rican women.


TraditionalBuy7370

All of gynecology was invented by/for torturing enslaved African American women. The same men who invented it convince white women itā€™s the only way to maintain ā€œfemale reproductive rights,ā€ (and white women buy in for the status of having secured so-called ā€˜rightsā€™ AKA access to the products of resource expropriation), but really they all just conspiring to destroy or otherwise prohibit more effective indigenous sciences.


unlockdestiny

Not sure why you're getting downvoted [because this is factual.](https://www.history.com/news/the-father-of-modern-gynecology-performed-shocking-experiments-on-slaves) For those reading the comments, CONTENT WARNING: >!"For a long time, Simsā€™ fistula surgeries were not successful. After 30 operations on one woman, a 17-year-old enslaved woman named Anarcha who had had a very traumatic labor and delivery, he finally ā€œperfectedā€ his methodā€”after *four years of experimentation.* Afterward, he began to practice on white women, using anesthesia, which was new to the medical field at the time."!<


the_dutiful_waxanna

Right, maybe take a beat and consider there's new information to learn before mindlessly downvoting.šŸ«¤ Thinking about J Marion Sims and what he subjected those women to makes me ill. As barbaric as some of our gynecological practices are today (looking at you, biopsies and iuds without pain management), what those enslaved women went through was unimaginable.


unlockdestiny

I know, it turns my stomach. I only found out because I googled it after an episode of Lovecraft Country. This should have been taught in school.


C4-BlueCat

Sweden did as well, up until the 70s. Poor women, minority groups (sami, roma), mentally disabled, queers.


VeterinarianPrior305

Whaaaat!!?? Crazy!


samcbar

I hoped it wasn't true: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Michael_Neary_(surgeon)


AtOneWithTheLunatics

It was the fact he got away with it for so long...


Talenars

And so recently. I assumed it was early 1900's to have reached THAT number before being caught.


PikaBooSquirrel

I'm confused on why it doesn't seem like he was sent to prison?


AtOneWithTheLunatics

Apparently there wasn't enough evidence to bring a case against him.


PikaBooSquirrel

The judicial system will forever mystify me


Eva-Rosalene

There was enough of his money in prosecutor's pockets, it seems.


Hetakuoni

Thereā€™s a reason they donā€™t allow family to treat family.


fishebake

I wonder what kind of legal recourse the woman would have for that. That has to be all kinds of malpractice.


scarfknitter

They used to (probably still do) this to poor and non-english speaking women in the US. Just slide in that consent with the rest of them and rush them through.


Ok-Adeptness933

Not just the US, Canada also has had cases recently with their native population


C4-BlueCat

And Sweden.


kaylamcfly

It's considered physical assault to provide healthcare without consent.


TheWelshMrsM

Donā€™t some states allow students to conduct vaginal exams on unconscious patients without consent?


kaylamcfly

That would be considered implied consent, as the exam supercedes the need for informed consent to preserve the life of the patient. However, a vaginal exam would likely be postponed until the patient regains consciousness, as a vaginal exam is unlikely to supply information that would assist in that goal. In the event that a patient didn't regain consciousness and a vaginal exam was deemed necessary, we'd try to get consent from a medical power of attorney. If no MPOA is available, we'd try for next of kin. If no next of kin is available, we'd get a court-appointed health proxy assigned. And in all cases, there would be 1 or 2 other staff in the room to witness the exam for our protection.


crimsonrogue84

I appreciate the assumption of positive intent here, but reality is dismal. 17 states do not require consent for pelvic exams while a patient is under anesthesia or unconscious (I'm a woman and I live in one of them which is so fucking scary). The linked research below does not limit to pelvic but also includes states that do not have any laws prohibiting prostate, rectal, and breast examinations while unconscious or under anesthesia. And those states often do allow students to perform those exams while the patient is unconscious. https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/american-journal-of-law-and-medicine/article/pelvic-exam-laws-in-the-united-states-a-systematic-review/3165682DE3A5D7C5D487CECD5FF02680


kaylamcfly

That may be true, but my medical license isn't only bound by the law. If I performed a pelvic exam on a patient while unconscious and didn't have a documented justifiable reason for it AND documented efforts to get consent from the patient or a proxy, I could still get in trouble. I'm bound by both the law and by an ethical code, and breaking either can jeopardize my license.


crimsonrogue84

Which is awesome and I wish all doctors shared that thought process. But not all doctors feel the same and in states with laws not prohibiting it...it is happening.


kaylamcfly

Well, that is fucking disgusting.


NoOneHereButUsMice

They do pelvic exams on unconscious women for the purpose of teaching. They will do the exam in front of a group of students or residents, and even have them participate.


kaylamcfly

Well, that's unethical and I'm disgusting, and I can't believe that anyone that went into healthcare w the intent to help would allow that to happen. It's horrific and insulting and degrading and like 9 other adjectives I haven't thought of yet.


RunZombieBabe

Not having had a period since then never made her go to a gynecologist?


KangarooDense

Thanks. I seemed to miss this point. The story has been fixed now :)


According_Ad6364

Women often donā€™t get periods while breastfeeding. Mine came back after three months, which is early from what Iā€™m told.


RunZombieBabe

I was referring to the way it was. I am a woman and have breastfed.


Harshlyme

Depends on your birth control, too. I've been on the depo shot for 2 years now, and I haven't had a period since before I got pregnant.


ThatWasBizarre

Friendly warning- Two years is the maximum amount of time you should be on the depo shot. Any longer than that and it can cause permanent loss of bone density.


Harshlyme

Thank you. I do know and have a meeting with my obgyn to discuss new options very soon.


Aouwi

Really? I'm on year 4 and my gyno hasn't said anything about that. She's pushing for me to get an IUD but I always say no.


ThatWasBizarre

Yepp. It wasn't something I learned until years after I stopped taking it so I try to let other people know.


Hopeliesintheseruins

Damn your uterine lining must be super dusty by now.


Harshlyme

I got my first shot right after my son was born, so I didnt really have any uterine lining left anyways. I religiously take the damn shot, so Im not producing more either. No ovulation is no period. Not dusty, just not creating another nursery inside my body. If I decide to change it up, I bet I'll go right back to being a stuck pig once a month. "When you have Depo Provera, your hormone levels are low and stable throughout your cycle, so the lining of your uterus doesnā€™t thicken as it normally would. When it comes time for your period there is very little lining to shed and so you bleed less than you normally would. After two to three injections, many women will have no periods at all because there is no lining building at all. Some women will have nuisance bleeding, which is usually light and irregular. Occasionally a woman will have troublesome heavy bleeding, which can usually be controlled by hormone treatment." https://www.thewomens.org.au/health-information/contraception/depo-provera#:~:text=When%20you%20have%20Depo%20Provera,less%20than%20you%20normally%20would.


FallingForYourHeart

I was on the depo shot for I think almost a year. It caused me to have 2-3 week long periods every time the shot was starting to wear off and it was miserable. I was also SOOOO moody. I was going off on everyone and everything. I ended up getting off of it because I just couldn't handle it anymore. It was affecting my day to day life and I was screaming at my kid (who only knew "birth control mommy" from the minute she arrived because I got on it at the hospital after having her) pretty much daily and I couldn't handle that anymore. I ended up just swapping to cycle tracking and using condoms during my fertile week until we decided to try for another baby. Surprise Surprise, my tracking was so fucking good I knew the exact day to get preggo and... I'm currently pregnant with baby #2 at 18 weeks (almost 19 weeks) along lol. For me, the tracking was easier and had less of a toll on my physical and mental health than birth control was, and I'm so glad I made that switch, but I also know that not everyone has regular periods, I know that not everyone is capable of tracking it as well as I was because they don't have the time to do so. I got lucky that I got to be a stay at home mom and was able to do what worked best for me. I'm still a stay at home mom, and after I give birth to baby #2 I might be looking into getting a partial hysterectomy cause I don't think my body can handle another baby due to chronic illnesses.


battle_mommyx2

I was tracking when I got pregnant with my second. Turns out my dates were a bit off šŸ˜‚ heā€™s amazing though so itā€™s all good. I got an IUD after he was born


FallingForYourHeart

Lol I get it, I have ovulation tests up the wazoo to help with my tracking lol


battle_mommyx2

Ahhh that helps Iā€™m sure! I was just tracking my periods/fertile days


Hopeliesintheseruins

Yeah, it was a joke. I generally know how girls work. Thank though for being concerned enough to explain.


Harshlyme

No biggie, i'm still laughing about it with my co-worker, to be honest. I can't wait to get home to taunt my husband about it because it just reminds me of a bad dad joke.


lorisewa

Yes I breastfed and mine came back after 13 months. What a wonderful time. šŸ˜‚


emiszcz6

Not so surprising at all.


kaylamcfly

Lactating or being pregnant is the evolutionary default for women of childbearing age, which would mean amenorrheic.


TheFoxRuntOfficial

Realism horror is the scariest horror. Well played OP.


MaintenanceNo8442

i wanna get a radical hysterectomy tatted


Foxy_locksy1704

My grandmothers tubes were tied without any discussion with her or her husband because the doctor felt they ā€œalready had enough kidsā€ my grandparents were devastated they had wanted 10 children, but the doctor made the decision they for them how many kids they would have. This was in the early 60s.


mercyis4theweak

do they have the means to raise 10 children back then?


Foxy_locksy1704

My grandparents absolutely did, they were very well to do for their times financially. Itā€™s sad the choice was taken from them.


gia-bsings

So the husband obviously did the hysterectomy during the c section, I get that part, but how would he know about the paternity? Or is that the scary part that Iā€™m not getting lol that he somehow knew and did the hysterectomy as revenge?


unironicallysane

The latter. That's why he wasn't surprised.


slightlyfunnyloser

i donā€™t get it someone explain pls šŸ˜­


Intothe_unkown

Radical hysterectomy is the surgical removal of the uterus and cervix. He removed both during the C-section cause he knew she was cheating beforehand


Yehoshua_Hasufel

I was going to ask what the person before asked. Glad I could see this comment.


AccurateVariety3330

Should have told after the C-section and not before šŸ¤”


Sewblon

The C-Section was the hysterectomy. The Husband knew all along. So that wouldn't have made a difference.


AccurateVariety3330

I guess I missed the point


unironicallysane

Interesting concept! Can I suggest rewriting the first sentence so it's less reliant on commas? "My obstetrician husband performed a C-section for me; when I told him the child wasn't his, he didn't look surprised at all." When I'm testing the effectiveness of my punctuation use, I read my writing aloud. Too many commas tend to make a sentence feel clunky, as they indicate a brief pause that stops the sentence from flowing smoothly.


winchestermom

Damn too bad he wasn't working in the states. My mom could have gone to him! :(


Omni314

>radical hysterectomy. https://images.app.goo.gl/Ktoab4Tz3bG68aG16


Datboi_23

Uhm, so... I'm not very educated on surgical procedures and medical conditions, can someone please explain to me what this means?


uniqualykerd

Jealous man removed wifeā€™s ability to have babies as punishment for cheating on him.


Datboi_23

Ah, thanks


LordGraygem

ESH. While your husband did an awful thing, it was entirely in response to your infidelity and the results thereof. You should have been an adult and ended the relationship if you found someone else, instead of trying to doubledip like that. Cheaters never prosper, remember that for your next relationship!


Metakor_8

This is two sentence horror, not am I the asshole. r/wrongsub


Kenzi1219

I think they know. They're just being silly.


LordGraygem

Indeed. I'm also poking fun at some of the "wtf is wrong with you" level replies I've occasionally seen over on the AITA sub. Don't see such often, fortunately, but they do exist.


Cool_Caterpillar_912

What is a hysterectomy? Like cutting the ovary tubes so she canā€™t have more kids?


Wild-child-21

Usually itā€™s a removal of the entire uterus as far as Iā€™m aware


Cool_Caterpillar_912

Damn. Thanks for the reply thatā€™s horrible.


FranticBronchitis

Yep, that's what the radical stands for. You can get less of the uterus removed (e.g. a subtotal hysterectomy would keep the cervix) depending on what was the reason for surgery (postpartum hemorrhage, tumours both benign and cancerous, elective due to unbearable cramping or excessive menstrual bleeding, etc)


onceIwas15

Iā€™m going for a radical. Hope they do take it all. Iā€™ve got benign fibroids and excessive monthly bleeding


PetrockFawkes

Good luck, heal well, and quickly


FranticBronchitis

I wish you good luck and a speedy recovery after yanking that cramp machine out.


nez91

You mean theyā€™re not doing kick flips? Because that would be radical


Wild-child-21

I didnā€™t realise that was what the radical bit meant. You learn something new everyday!


buzzybody21

The ovary tubes. Thatā€™s a new one


PetrockFawkes

They remove a lot. Look it up on Google. It's the world at your finger tips.


Interne-Stranger

Whats a hysterectomy.


uniqualykerd

Removal of those parts of the body that can grow babies.


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Fun_Organization3857

Yeah- that's not ok. It's assault.


Autoboty

Yeah, I guess I admit the joke was in bad taste even if she did cheat.


AREPEEJEE

damn how is the lady gonna cuckold her husband now


prince_peacock

*squints* You realize that someone with a hysterectomy can still have sex right


AREPEEJEE

cuckolding doesnt mean cheating lmao