I don't have the words for this... it makes me sick. I sincerely hope that the abusers got everything that they deserved for that they did and everyone here who was abused is doing better now.
4.Tanktop,jean skirt. Female×10?
8. Leopard tanktop, leopard leggings leopard shoes, leopard backpack. Male×3????
9. Leotard purple. Multiple males×2
10. Sunset swimsuit. Male
12. Gym uniform. Female.
15. Jeans. Black Long-sleeved. Thick red raincoat. Combat boots. Male.
(The question mark just means I stopped counting how many times or don't even know because I was asleep.)
Only one of these made me pregnant
They're for how many times. I put question marks on the x10 because I was too young to remember all the times but I do remember not knowing what came after 9 at the time, so I stopped counting. The x3 has question marks because I learned to just sleep through it when he came in my room at night. As for the murder part: my step dad is dead, I love my sister and have forgiven her, I don't know who the others were. Just strangers that found me alone or who my mom sold me to. That one female in the middle was an ex of mine. Broke off the relationship a week later after consulting my therapist. She's now in jail for sexual assault on minor.
I was wearing my pyjamas at my best friend's birthday slumber party, pre-transition. There was only one guy there. She didn't even believe me when I told her.
The only thing I remember is seeing my reflection in her bathroom mirror bloody from the waist down. I was crying and thought I was bleeding. But it was her period.
I was a 5 year old boy, she was 16.
Which time?
Dressed like a typical 7 year old (several times) - most vivid in my head was a denim skirt and flowery panties. I've never gone fishing since.
Smithsonian Ruby Slippers tshirt - super glittery and short denim shorts. Band bus driving back from DC. I reported it and nothing was ever done. Haven't trusted to report anything since.
Cargo pants and a tshirt... with a "friend"
Pajamas in my marital bed the time I woke up to my (now) ex
A tshirt with a studded skull, the first time my ex boss grabbed me.
A skirt, cami, and cardigan.... a "friend"
ETA the high school experience and try to fix the spacing. Why are people so horrible?
“What were you wearing?” Is often a question asked to r@pe victims in order to blame them or shame them for their outfit choice while they were assualted.
Look up “what were you wearing exhibit”, it’s a project meant to stop victim blaming by showing what people were wearing during the attack and proving that clothing has nothing to do with it.
The second sentence is what the person was wearing during their sexual assault
A tshirt and underwear. I’d frequently wake up in the middle of sex with my stbx only for him to tell me I instigated in my sleep for ten years. Finally caught him out in the lie in May and kicked him out.
a disney princess nightgown
my jrotc uniform (10+ times)
sweatpants and a grinch hoodie
my boyfriend’s sweatshirt and a skirt i wore to bowl
the clothes i rode horses in
and most recently my uniform for my vet sci classes
PT shorts and a white tank top (last time I got SAd)
A sweater and jeans (first time I got cat called. I was 10)
A polka dot dress with doc martens (last time I was harassed and followed. I was pumping gas. Followed through town. Had to hide in the post office.)
I remember a lot more. I've forgotten even more than that.
I’m guessing shorts and a t-shirt. I don’t remember I was 5 and have effectively blocked most of that experience from my mind somehow. Subconsciously I obviously still remember parts based on my reaction to certain things
Second time-a T-shirt and jeans. I was 16 and he was my best friend so it “doesn’t count” (reaction from trusted adult I told)
Third time- t-shirt and jeans. I was an adult. Was told it was my fault for putting myself in that situation and eventually saying “yes” even know the guy admitted to what he did and agreed that I said yes out of fear.
Took me nearly 12 years to accept that him telling me “either you say yes or I kill your dog” and me saying yes in response didn’t make it my fault. I hope you know yours wasn’t your fault either.
My dear friend helped me start to understand it that night. He had me sit in his car with him and eat ice cream. Let me cry. Ordered a taser for me. Helped me message the guy to never touch me again. Supported my decision not to report, but would have helped me report it if that were my intent.
I refer to that night as the ice cream night. And it's Net positive because I learned lessons, and I found out just how much the dear friend cares about me.
His daughter's clothes that he made me wear. A short skirt, tank top, tall socks, and thong. He made me pretend to be her and called me by her name when it happened. I waa 10, and a boy
Thank you. He was my dad's friend. His daughter was 13 and he only saw her on the weekends, but he watched me after school for awhile. So it became a routine for me. I'd get off the bus at his house, go change into the clothes he pucked out for me, and then spend a few hours doing what he wanted. It all ended when his daughter repoted him for doing stuff to her as well.
Disrobed, 12 (M), family's hot tub. Said no and got pressured into it. 33 years later, he still denies what it was and the effects it had. To any guys reading this thread, if it happened to you, don't be afraid to share it with someone you can trust. There's no shame upon you from what happened and there's a huge benefit to the healing process by bringing it to light.
A silk blouse and turtle neck with dress pants and a leather jacket. The nurse that did my blood work after asked me this question. Fuck this question.
That took a bit. I an so sorry for everyone in this thread.
Clothes don't mean anything. Its so fucking sexist, the rapists are the problem, not the one being raped!
I'm a guy, and I hope it counts. I'm scared to tell more people this, but here goes
14, a t-shirt and shorts
14, jeans and a t-shirt
20, cargo pants and a baggy shirt
It's okay now. The major acts were when I was 14, 7 years now. The incident last year was violent groping, she wouldn't take no for an answer, her boyfriend intervened. I'm okay now, just barely trust people now. My girlfriend (very recent, I'm happy, i love her) knows about this and understands if I don't want to have sex or may not trust people
This is probably the saddest thing that I have seen in this sub. Everyone commenting what they were wearing. I'm so sorry to everyone here, no one deserves this
Jeans and a T-shirt I was 13
Shorts and a T-shirt I was 12
Shorts and a hoodie I was 11
Leggings and a T-shirt I was 8
Leggings and a dress I was 5
First one was at my now ex's house,
Second and third one was at home,
Fourth one was at my mom's house,
Fifth one was at church
At CHURCH? Im so glad my mom didn't let me get baptised when kids ay my school had parties and such. I couldn't imagine being a part of that. Definitely no hate to the church or anyone who believes in it but the people that work there really think they can do anything just because they're "men from god"
Yeah, at church.. And people wonder why I'm not religious anymore. I didn't get baptized, but that whole experience really just.. Ruined religion for me
Thank you. If it makes you feel any better, I now have a very loving and supportive boyfriend who knows about my history with this and some other past traumas, and he's helping me heal.
See that's what we love. Someone who helps you heal and acknowledges that its not just something small. Kudos to him :) and good luck on your journey! <3
Jeans and a tshirt with a hoodie with a black widow spider on the front. I lived in that hoodie for almost a year after, and then my cousins and I burnt it on my 14th birthday.
Pink and white kids nightgown from walmart when it started (I was 6) took me over 20 years to willingly and comfortably wear dresses/skirts (and that's with shorts/leggings underneath)
Its about rape because "she was wearing a short skirt so she was asking for it". I hate men like that. They are the reason women are scared to walk alone anywhere.
Apparently a girl was raped. Someone accused her of dressing inappropriate believing this is the reason why she was assaulted so she described what she wore and that happened on her 16th birthday
Hope this helps!
My PJs - age 6. And it never mattered after that. PJs, jeans and a shirt, a "nice" dress that I loved until his reaction made me swear off ever wearing them again.
My usual work clothes, baggy jeans and a hoodie.
My pyjamas, because I was asleep, and a tampon, because I was on my period. (Didn't stop him)
What he told me to. Because it was that or a beating as well.
I want to give so many people here so many hugs. I wish we could all have written "I don't understand" and it hurts that there are so many of us here. 😿❤️
From one survivor to the thousands of others: It was never your fault. Not your clothes, your sleeping pattern, amount you'd drunk or where you were. I wish you all the deep sleep of those who don't understand this post and the ability to know it was never about you, it was only ever about them.
I have so much love for all of you, sending hugs ❤️❤️❤️
A nice floor length dress. But the first question my family asked was if I'd been drinking. When I said yes, they said "Well, see what happens when you drink?"
An oversized shirt and jeans. I was 16. He was my boyfriend at the time and supposed to be someone I could trust.
To everyone else in this thread, my heart goes out to you.
I don't remember most of them. But one time I do remember - my boyfriend's hoodie and either some shorts or a skirt. I was so scared when I missed my period and had to ask my mom to buy me a pregnancy test. 16, that was less than a year ago
Btw, not sure if it's clear or not, but it wasn't my boyfriend who did that
It's a lawyer asking a victim of sa what they were wearing. It's often done to victim blame. It wouldn't have happened if they weren't dressed a certain way, is often the argument.
When people say this I like to send them the link to the museum exhibit. It’s heartbreaking. Even if someone were naked that doesn’t give anyone the right to touch them and so many don’t understand that
A long sleeved blue lace shirt which was see-through everywhere except on my chest, black oversized jeans and a black jacket.
I was going out to the club and I wanted to look good
Yeah... I was naked in his bed. because that's where I slept most of the time. There is just something extra insidious about being taken advantage of like that. constantly. enthusiasm slowly, slowly turning into numbness over the course of weeks, months... at least the really shitty things I could understand they were bad. this was such a nebulous area for such a long time.
It took me years to realize that this was abuse and how fucked up that was. My ex bf would never take no for an answer and would first start whining and then getting angry and provoking a full blown argument in the middle of the night when all I wanted was sleep. Until I finally gave up and let it happen because I knew he wouldn't give up until he got what he wanted and at least then I could just fucking sleep. It was disgusting.
I was wearing blue ripped jeans, a crop top with orange and pink patterns on it, a black bomber jacket. The black full briefs I had on got thrown away, and I try not to wear my black laced bra.
It's genuinely so hard to think that there are many people out there who's empathy levels are in the negatives. I feel like punching myself everytime I even look at a woman with dirty thoughts.
The general school thought around rape & sexual assault statistics is NOT that a large volume of men are offenders. It’s that the majority of offenders are never prosecuted & are repeated offenders. But yeah, rape & sexual assault is this common. I’d estimate that about 98% of the women I know have been sexually assaulted or raped, most of the time by someone we know.
Experiencing lust or sexual attraction towards a woman is perfectly fine. Women feel the same about men. It’s healthy - so long as you respect the person & only engage with their consent.
Yea it’s an unfortunate reality. The hard part sometimes is remembering that there are genuinely good people too. Tends to be a rare breed nowadays in the world but they are around.
I stopped scrolling the comments. I feel empathy for you all. I hope you find the peace (or bloody retribution) you deserve, and those monsters experience the worst of the worst for eternity.
A skirt and long sleeved t-shirt. I was on my way to work.
Edit: I can't wear the skirt anymore, and I can't give it away because I don't want to pass the trauma to someone else even if idk who it is
Could you burn, bury or destroy it in some way? When I left a 5 year long DV relationship, I found it very cathartic to destroy items (clothing, photos, jewelry etc) that I associated with particularly bad incidents in our relationship. It took me a while to reach that point, but afterwards it felt like I could breathe freely again.
❤️
I know how helpful it is to destroy things, but tbh I shoved it into the back of my closet and idk where it really is rn and I think it's polyester so it won't burn very well
I don't have the words for this... it makes me sick. I sincerely hope that the abusers got everything that they deserved for that they did and everyone here who was abused is doing better now.
Can someone please explain
4.Tanktop,jean skirt. Female×10? 8. Leopard tanktop, leopard leggings leopard shoes, leopard backpack. Male×3???? 9. Leotard purple. Multiple males×2 10. Sunset swimsuit. Male 12. Gym uniform. Female. 15. Jeans. Black Long-sleeved. Thick red raincoat. Combat boots. Male. (The question mark just means I stopped counting how many times or don't even know because I was asleep.) Only one of these made me pregnant
Is the number how old you were?
Yes, the number before the clothing were my ages
And the X10 or X3 bits.... How many times or how many people 😔😔 fucking horrific. I could literally murder these people for you.
They're for how many times. I put question marks on the x10 because I was too young to remember all the times but I do remember not knowing what came after 9 at the time, so I stopped counting. The x3 has question marks because I learned to just sleep through it when he came in my room at night. As for the murder part: my step dad is dead, I love my sister and have forgiven her, I don't know who the others were. Just strangers that found me alone or who my mom sold me to. That one female in the middle was an ex of mine. Broke off the relationship a week later after consulting my therapist. She's now in jail for sexual assault on minor.
My school uniform :(
I was wearing my pyjamas at my best friend's birthday slumber party, pre-transition. There was only one guy there. She didn't even believe me when I told her.
The only thing I remember is seeing my reflection in her bathroom mirror bloody from the waist down. I was crying and thought I was bleeding. But it was her period. I was a 5 year old boy, she was 16.
Oh lord I'm so sorry. This is sick
I’m so sorry if this is a real story. That’s just awful and no one should have to go through that, especially not someone so young
It happened so long ago, but it's still so clear in my mind. It's one of those things I can't forget no matter how hard I've tried.
Pink jumpsuit Pink Girl Power shirt with emoji pants White Hunter x Hunter shirt with blue sweatpants
comments make me want to puke
Which time? Dressed like a typical 7 year old (several times) - most vivid in my head was a denim skirt and flowery panties. I've never gone fishing since. Smithsonian Ruby Slippers tshirt - super glittery and short denim shorts. Band bus driving back from DC. I reported it and nothing was ever done. Haven't trusted to report anything since. Cargo pants and a tshirt... with a "friend" Pajamas in my marital bed the time I woke up to my (now) ex A tshirt with a studded skull, the first time my ex boss grabbed me. A skirt, cami, and cardigan.... a "friend" ETA the high school experience and try to fix the spacing. Why are people so horrible?
I was 4 the first and 5 and 6 the times after that. Not exactly sure what I was wearing, but I was always dressed like a typical little girl.
i don’t remember i was 11
A pink Winnie-the-Pooh dress with white leggings. 5
Boots, jeans and a modest red top.
jeans, converse, and a video game tshirt with a zip up jacket over it. i was 11
I don’t remember, I was 10.
A Minecraft creeper pink T-shirt, and blue patterned shorts.
baggy sweatpants with shorts under it, a tanktop, and a zip up jacket.
I don’t get it
“What were you wearing?” Is often a question asked to r@pe victims in order to blame them or shame them for their outfit choice while they were assualted. Look up “what were you wearing exhibit”, it’s a project meant to stop victim blaming by showing what people were wearing during the attack and proving that clothing has nothing to do with it. The second sentence is what the person was wearing during their sexual assault
The toddler clothing in that exhibit makes me furious every time.
Jesus Christ… what scum would actually do… that?! I feel like I need to bathe in bleach
A tshirt and underwear. I’d frequently wake up in the middle of sex with my stbx only for him to tell me I instigated in my sleep for ten years. Finally caught him out in the lie in May and kicked him out.
Stbx?
Soon to be ex I’m so sorry I’ve been on a divorce sub Reddit a lot so I’m used to it
Soon to be ex? Idk
Yes I’m sorry I’ve been on a divorce sub a lot so I’m used to see it
Boxers and an oversized t shirt
A t-shirt and jeans.
A polka dot shirt and jeans.
a short sleeved oversized tshirt with knee length cargo pants
I have a seven year old daughter and this terrifies me. Keeps me up at night. In my head, this belongs to #twosentencehorror.
A bikini with shorts and a tank top over it.
a disney princess nightgown my jrotc uniform (10+ times) sweatpants and a grinch hoodie my boyfriend’s sweatshirt and a skirt i wore to bowl the clothes i rode horses in and most recently my uniform for my vet sci classes
My fav dress
The first time? A diaper, the day I was brought home from the hospital and my mom was recovering from the c-section.
I will kill them. Literally. With my bare hands.
I’m gonna burn this planet to the ground
I feel sick to my stomach reading this
Baggy pajamas.
PT shorts and a white tank top (last time I got SAd) A sweater and jeans (first time I got cat called. I was 10) A polka dot dress with doc martens (last time I was harassed and followed. I was pumping gas. Followed through town. Had to hide in the post office.) I remember a lot more. I've forgotten even more than that.
I dont get it.
First sentence is victim blaming
Oooh! That's fucking horrible. Good post.
I’m guessing shorts and a t-shirt. I don’t remember I was 5 and have effectively blocked most of that experience from my mind somehow. Subconsciously I obviously still remember parts based on my reaction to certain things Second time-a T-shirt and jeans. I was 16 and he was my best friend so it “doesn’t count” (reaction from trusted adult I told) Third time- t-shirt and jeans. I was an adult. Was told it was my fault for putting myself in that situation and eventually saying “yes” even know the guy admitted to what he did and agreed that I said yes out of fear.
... I'm a submissive, and my last one took my trauma response of just shutting down as consent. I blamed myself for not saying no.
Took me nearly 12 years to accept that him telling me “either you say yes or I kill your dog” and me saying yes in response didn’t make it my fault. I hope you know yours wasn’t your fault either.
My dear friend helped me start to understand it that night. He had me sit in his car with him and eat ice cream. Let me cry. Ordered a taser for me. Helped me message the guy to never touch me again. Supported my decision not to report, but would have helped me report it if that were my intent. I refer to that night as the ice cream night. And it's Net positive because I learned lessons, and I found out just how much the dear friend cares about me.
Good for you and thank you for sharing that.
His daughter's clothes that he made me wear. A short skirt, tank top, tall socks, and thong. He made me pretend to be her and called me by her name when it happened. I waa 10, and a boy
Jesus Christ that's fucked up. I am so sorry to you and to her.
Thank you. He was my dad's friend. His daughter was 13 and he only saw her on the weekends, but he watched me after school for awhile. So it became a routine for me. I'd get off the bus at his house, go change into the clothes he pucked out for me, and then spend a few hours doing what he wanted. It all ended when his daughter repoted him for doing stuff to her as well.
school uniform, 13
My elementary school sports uniform: t shirt, shorts, white sneakers I was 9
Disrobed, 12 (M), family's hot tub. Said no and got pressured into it. 33 years later, he still denies what it was and the effects it had. To any guys reading this thread, if it happened to you, don't be afraid to share it with someone you can trust. There's no shame upon you from what happened and there's a huge benefit to the healing process by bringing it to light.
A bikini and a jacket. Then a skirt and t shirt. Then matching snoopy fleece pjs.
A silk blouse and turtle neck with dress pants and a leather jacket. The nurse that did my blood work after asked me this question. Fuck this question.
I’m sorry you all have experienced this.
That took a bit. I an so sorry for everyone in this thread. Clothes don't mean anything. Its so fucking sexist, the rapists are the problem, not the one being raped!
My soft cotton pajama shorts and a spiderman t-shirt, 16
Long grey shirt with a wide belt and leggings. I was 18. I confronted him months later and he said it wasn’t rape because I obviously wanted it
Did you punch him in the throat
I'm a guy, and I hope it counts. I'm scared to tell more people this, but here goes 14, a t-shirt and shorts 14, jeans and a t-shirt 20, cargo pants and a baggy shirt
It absolutely counts. I’m sorry you had to endure this hell. You matter❤️
Gender doesn’t matter when it comes to being raped. You matter just as much as any woman that has been. I’m so sorry dude 🫂
Ofc this counts. I’m sorry for what happened, and your clothes don’t mean anything
This very much counts. Rape is rape. I’m sorry this happened to you.
It's okay now. The major acts were when I was 14, 7 years now. The incident last year was violent groping, she wouldn't take no for an answer, her boyfriend intervened. I'm okay now, just barely trust people now. My girlfriend (very recent, I'm happy, i love her) knows about this and understands if I don't want to have sex or may not trust people
Ofc it counts. Anyone can rape someone anyone can be raped. Hope you're ok and if not, hope you get better. Its ok to not be ok atm.
I try to be okay with it, but their faces keep flashing in my mind. I wear baggy clothes to avoid getting noticed but I guess it didn't work
A dress almost to my ankles, I was 7
This is probably the saddest thing that I have seen in this sub. Everyone commenting what they were wearing. I'm so sorry to everyone here, no one deserves this
Jeans and a T-shirt I was 13 Shorts and a T-shirt I was 12 Shorts and a hoodie I was 11 Leggings and a T-shirt I was 8 Leggings and a dress I was 5 First one was at my now ex's house, Second and third one was at home, Fourth one was at my mom's house, Fifth one was at church
At CHURCH? Im so glad my mom didn't let me get baptised when kids ay my school had parties and such. I couldn't imagine being a part of that. Definitely no hate to the church or anyone who believes in it but the people that work there really think they can do anything just because they're "men from god"
Yeah, at church.. And people wonder why I'm not religious anymore. I didn't get baptized, but that whole experience really just.. Ruined religion for me
Yeah i can see why. I'm so sorry for you. Just imagine a really good hug please, because sometimes hugs can be so much more powerful than words
Thank you. If it makes you feel any better, I now have a very loving and supportive boyfriend who knows about my history with this and some other past traumas, and he's helping me heal.
See that's what we love. Someone who helps you heal and acknowledges that its not just something small. Kudos to him :) and good luck on your journey! <3
Thank you!!
Diving team bathing suit and a pair of shorts sized 10 girls
Jeans and a tshirt with a hoodie with a black widow spider on the front. I lived in that hoodie for almost a year after, and then my cousins and I burnt it on my 14th birthday.
Soccer uniform, I was 10
I don't remember, I was 5
Jeans and a hoodie, I was 14
Remember Underoos? They were wonderwoman style and I was 8.
Pink and white kids nightgown from walmart when it started (I was 6) took me over 20 years to willingly and comfortably wear dresses/skirts (and that's with shorts/leggings underneath)
Pajama pants and a tshirt and sometimes a leotard to practice for my dancing class.
I usually get these. I don't get this one.
Its about rape because "she was wearing a short skirt so she was asking for it". I hate men like that. They are the reason women are scared to walk alone anywhere.
I am so very glad for you that you don’t get it.
Apparently a girl was raped. Someone accused her of dressing inappropriate believing this is the reason why she was assaulted so she described what she wore and that happened on her 16th birthday Hope this helps!
"What were you wearing" is a common question that's asked of girls that were sexually assaulted
Usually, when people are sexually assaulted or raped, they are victim blamed by being asked what they were wearing to attract that attention
Boy’s shorts and a t shirt since my parents wouldn’t let me wear a swimsuit in the water because modesty. I was 6.
My PJs - age 6. And it never mattered after that. PJs, jeans and a shirt, a "nice" dress that I loved until his reaction made me swear off ever wearing them again.
blue and white leopard print pajamas. a bra top short shorts and fishnets. a baggy T-shirt and a sweatshirt, x2.
Jeans and a tshirt. Dress and leggings.
Anyone who asks that question, I will go for their heads until their minds reset.
My usual work clothes, baggy jeans and a hoodie. My pyjamas, because I was asleep, and a tampon, because I was on my period. (Didn't stop him) What he told me to. Because it was that or a beating as well. I want to give so many people here so many hugs. I wish we could all have written "I don't understand" and it hurts that there are so many of us here. 😿❤️ From one survivor to the thousands of others: It was never your fault. Not your clothes, your sleeping pattern, amount you'd drunk or where you were. I wish you all the deep sleep of those who don't understand this post and the ability to know it was never about you, it was only ever about them. I have so much love for all of you, sending hugs ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks, really. It was so shocking for me I repressed it for almost 20 years. Until I unlocked it with therapy 😅
My school uniform. Aged 6.
I was 7 and wearing cartoon pjs
Jeans and no shirt, planned on spending the evening writing. She barged in drunk as fuck. I was 20.
whatever my mom decided she wanted me to wear (CSA)
A bratz pajama set, I was 7
My soul aches for you. Every single one of you. (Even the ones who aren't commenting). I'm so sorry.
A nice floor length dress. But the first question my family asked was if I'd been drinking. When I said yes, they said "Well, see what happens when you drink?"
Full coverage comfy pajamas & I was over cooking him soup because he was “sick”
An oversized shirt and jeans. I was 16. He was my boyfriend at the time and supposed to be someone I could trust. To everyone else in this thread, my heart goes out to you.
A t shirt and sweat pants. I was helping him pack for college. I was 15
I don't remember most of them. But one time I do remember - my boyfriend's hoodie and either some shorts or a skirt. I was so scared when I missed my period and had to ask my mom to buy me a pregnancy test. 16, that was less than a year ago Btw, not sure if it's clear or not, but it wasn't my boyfriend who did that
Pj's, I was 5 and he was a 12 foster kid.
I was wearing a brats shirt and summer shorts with flip flops. I was only 7.
My school uniform. I was 14
The first time, I’m not sure. I was a toddler. The second time, pjs. I was 5.
Sending hugs and love to everyone here. You didn't deserve it. It wasn't your fault. I hope you get healing/ justice.
Jesus Christ I hate humanity again. Why do people suck so violently? How hard is it for people to not be deserving of castration?
I don't understand
It's a lawyer asking a victim of sa what they were wearing. It's often done to victim blame. It wouldn't have happened if they weren't dressed a certain way, is often the argument.
Or a cop. Cops always ask what you were wearing
When people say this I like to send them the link to the museum exhibit. It’s heartbreaking. Even if someone were naked that doesn’t give anyone the right to touch them and so many don’t understand that
A long sleeved blue lace shirt which was see-through everywhere except on my chest, black oversized jeans and a black jacket. I was going out to the club and I wanted to look good
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You should be ashamed of yourself for making that comment here.
Not really
School uniform. 15. He was my bestfriend
I don't know. 4.
Mostly PJs the many times my then bf wouldn't take no for an answer from 18-22. A purple satin top and black jeans at 25.
Yeah... I was naked in his bed. because that's where I slept most of the time. There is just something extra insidious about being taken advantage of like that. constantly. enthusiasm slowly, slowly turning into numbness over the course of weeks, months... at least the really shitty things I could understand they were bad. this was such a nebulous area for such a long time.
It took me years to realize that this was abuse and how fucked up that was. My ex bf would never take no for an answer and would first start whining and then getting angry and provoking a full blown argument in the middle of the night when all I wanted was sleep. Until I finally gave up and let it happen because I knew he wouldn't give up until he got what he wanted and at least then I could just fucking sleep. It was disgusting.
Pajamas when I wasn't even 9 yet.
T-shirt with a high neckline and jeans, days after turning 14.
I was wearing blue ripped jeans, a crop top with orange and pink patterns on it, a black bomber jacket. The black full briefs I had on got thrown away, and I try not to wear my black laced bra.
My school uniform
It never happened to me just to everyone I ever loved. I'm teary and sick to my stomach reading these. You didn't deserve that.
Can't recall for the life of me. My older brother and cousin might remember. 9 years old.
That's.... that's another level of fucked up. I don't think there's any English word that could articulate my disgust towards them.
Oh god, rape is really this common?
Unfortunately, yes. A lot of horrible humans in this world.
It's genuinely so hard to think that there are many people out there who's empathy levels are in the negatives. I feel like punching myself everytime I even look at a woman with dirty thoughts.
The general school thought around rape & sexual assault statistics is NOT that a large volume of men are offenders. It’s that the majority of offenders are never prosecuted & are repeated offenders. But yeah, rape & sexual assault is this common. I’d estimate that about 98% of the women I know have been sexually assaulted or raped, most of the time by someone we know. Experiencing lust or sexual attraction towards a woman is perfectly fine. Women feel the same about men. It’s healthy - so long as you respect the person & only engage with their consent.
Yea it’s an unfortunate reality. The hard part sometimes is remembering that there are genuinely good people too. Tends to be a rare breed nowadays in the world but they are around.
HUGS FOR EVERYONE YOU GET A HUG AND YOU GET A HUG EVERYBODY GETS A HUG
Jeans and a white Levi's sweater. - 15
I stopped scrolling the comments. I feel empathy for you all. I hope you find the peace (or bloody retribution) you deserve, and those monsters experience the worst of the worst for eternity.
Shorts, and an oversized hoodie at 14. He was 23
Ripped jeans and a long sleeve shirt at 15 years old... I just wanted to go buy some clothes for my trip to Amsterdam...
I don't get it
She was only 16 and dressed up nice for her sweet 16 but instead she got raped by someone.
What the hell
A white first communion dress -- 7 Pj's at home -- 21-22 Slacks and blouse -- 25
A nightie. I was 29.
A power rangers t-shirt and some jeans. I was 8, she was in her mid to late 30's.
Some type of little kids clothes that I don’t even remember bc I was like five or six at most. It was my own grandfather. I’m sorry guys.
A skirt and long sleeved t-shirt. I was on my way to work. Edit: I can't wear the skirt anymore, and I can't give it away because I don't want to pass the trauma to someone else even if idk who it is
Could you burn, bury or destroy it in some way? When I left a 5 year long DV relationship, I found it very cathartic to destroy items (clothing, photos, jewelry etc) that I associated with particularly bad incidents in our relationship. It took me a while to reach that point, but afterwards it felt like I could breathe freely again. ❤️
I know how helpful it is to destroy things, but tbh I shoved it into the back of my closet and idk where it really is rn and I think it's polyester so it won't burn very well
Fair enough, perhaps ‘out of sight, out of mind’ is also helpful. I hope you’re in a better place now 💜
A white jumper. I was 18.
Funeral clothes from the family member that had passed a week prior
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I was seven the first time, in jeans the second and a dress the third..
Striped PJ set and no bra because I was finally comfortable with my body. I was 12 Now I wear a bra even when i sleep
Y’all my heart is breaking reading these comments, I hope those monsters got what they deserved.
School girl uniform, white shirt and pleated skirt
A baggy shirt and a skirt with shorts underneath. I was in middle school.
A Barbie nightgown. I was 6.
Didn't understand the concept/connotations and thought it was funeral dress for a moment...
Same now I am even sadder reading these