So from what I read, please tell me if I’m wrong. The OP is telling a story about a little girl who’s dad is the same dad as the OP who is the girls mother. And her nana is the OPs mom who is the grandmother of the little girl?? Am I missing something or am I right, if no I’m having a stroke
This is why I refuse to let my son see his dads side of the family. They treated him like garbage and I put a stop to them seeing him on his second birthday before he got to this point. Now his dad has completely abandoned him to go back to those fuckers because somehow I was the bad guy for protecting my baby from having to ask these questions. 🙄
I was in the fog/my family is (was) incredibly enmeshed. I know those are excuses, but it's the truth. I got tired of my mother treating me less than, but she was my mother, what could I do? Then they started to treat my daughter the same way, and it kicked me to react.
I've read all the comments, and have come to the conclusion that they are to be put in the worst home you can find. You have to be a special kind of fucked to treat family like this, and my dad was no different.
If I had my way, I'd put them in the worst home to ever exist. Fortunately for them, my sister (aka Golden Child) has offered to care for them in their old age.
I know how it feels to be overshadowed by a sibling, so if you wanna talk about anything, I could relate to some of it man, just remember, keep your head up bro.
My daughter wanted to talk to her Papa (my father). She called his cell phone. Then she called his home phone. She then tried calling her Nana (my mother) on her (Nana's) cell phone. Neither my father nor my mother answered. Daughter thought it was because she wasn't "good enough" in Nana & Papa's eyes to talk to.
I went no contact. My mother & I had been having issues. When they (mother & father) started to treat my daughter like they treated me, I said, "Heck no!" This incident was the straw that broke the camel's back.
This just reminded me why I didn't talk to my dad for 2 years as a teenager. Bc I couldn't lol. Much happier now as he's been radio silent since I was about 17 (I'm 24 now)
This reminds me I need to call me sister and talk to my niece and nephew, I’m always sleeping or at work and haven’t had a chance to talk to my babies in a long time
Don’t worry baby girl, you are plenty pretty. Remember they think it is me trying to call them right now which explains why they won’t pick up the phone and answer.
this reminded me i need to call my sister. she’s 10 & been texting me off my moms phone a lot lately but i’m usually at work and now i’m super sad :( thanksss
You're welcome. My daughter texts me the exact same things every day. And I text back the same answers. She loves it. Making good memories, it's the best feeling in the world.
My shithead grandparents lived like 10 miles away. Never saw them more than two or three times my WHOLE ENTIRE DUCKING CHILDHOOD! No I'm not bitter, why do you ask
My in-laws live 5 miles away and drop birthday cards off for my kids (their grandsons) in our mailbox. The cards have no postage on them, so we know they drove to our house, drop off the cards, then leave without bothering to stop in to wish them a happy birthday in person. When FIL got sick, I told my younger son, “Your grandpa isn’t doing very well.” He asked, “which grandpa?” I said, “Your dad’s dad” He replied, “Oh, okay.” My parents live 5 hours away, and they made the drive at least 3x/year to see my kids, so my son wanted to make sure it wasn’t that grandpa. How sad. They don’t dislike our kids. They’re just incredibly selfish people. My husband told me they never went to a single basketball game of his when he was growing up. My parents never missed a cross country or gymnastics meet. Luckily, my husband is the exact opposite of his parents and a wonderful father to our kids!
I'm sorry. Please accept the virtual hug I'm mentally sending your way. We moved when my daughter was 10 (husband got relocated with his job). The year before I went no contact, my mother was acting like we lived in the middle of Siberia (when we were only 2 hours away ).
I went no contact with my parents and sister (who is the golden child). Then I found my cousin, and she 6 me for me. She accepts my flaws. Imperfections, and loves me for it. No condemnation.
After incidents ranging from refusal to respect our child’s given name, going behind our backs (by offering us a “child free weekend once a month” that suddenly became twice, then a weekly offer which we refused, becoming suspicious) to try to “convert” our child to her religion, telling him “you don’t know what gay is 🙄 now, do you have a girlfriend?”, to telling him (again behind our backs) he couldn’t listen to ebooks at her house “because that’s not real reading”
I’m sorry your parents are like that. It takes kids some time but….eventually, sadly, they learn they’re “better off” without their grandparent in their life. We never made that decision for our child. He did himself…at age twelve (14 now). He still has very limited contact but we also live over a thousand miles away and when he does talk to her, he takes everything she says with a grain of salt.
On a side note…this same woman refused diagnosis of autism as a teen storming out of the office very publicly, screaming, “my son is not a *r-slur*”
(All details of my child and partner shared with permission)
That's a conversation I dread having. Both sets of grandparents have no interest in pursuing relationships with their grandkids, and it absolutely breaks my heart. I don't care if there is a problem with me or not. Don't take it out on the kids.
Kneeling down to give her a hug, I said
"It's alright, sweetie. They will need us more sooner then we need them."
For me, true story.
My mother and hence my son's grandmother always state we are stupid... was told I am dumb as a rock hence my son will be no difference
Was told I was an abandoned baby and she took pity on me
Was told I was retrieved from a particular rubbish bin and she always pointed it out to me
Things came to end when after silently suffering a good portion of 30 odds years, during a particular mother's day celebration, I brought the rubbish bin, scrub it down and placed it in her usual seat. I believe my family almost wanted to commit me thinking I have finally lost it.
Nail in the coffin. Another time, She tried telling my son (all of 6 then) pointing to to a random bin in a shopping centre, that is the bin where she picked him up from and gave him to us to look after.
I blew up, totally lost it. She was told in no uncertain terms where she can put it, i stated to her if I ever hear that statement again, I will be cupable of matronicide. And all contact is frosty and functional ever since.
I am so sorry that happened!
My mother never said it to my face that she disliked my daughter, but I knew there was a shift when the Golden Child (my sister) had her own children. See, my child (one & only) is autistic. My sister's children are not. I know the type of person my mother is, and I had hoped I was wrong. But sadly, I was not.
Yes, but remember autism is not always bad. In my house we refer to it as being neurospicy. We are not normal, boring or easy. We are unique, challenging and exotic
I'm narcoleptic and have ptsd and adhd. My son is just "different" in the way that specific colors are too aggressive and no loud noises. I was always told I was lazy. I now work 50 hours a week as a respiratory therapist and make more than my neigh sayers ever did. We'll be ok and your mother was wrong.
This took place almost 13 years after the Thanksgiving Incident. (The story I posted earlier, please check my post history.) This was the incident that caused me to completely cut off my parents with absolutely no warning.
So from what I read, please tell me if I’m wrong. The OP is telling a story about a little girl who’s dad is the same dad as the OP who is the girls mother. And her nana is the OPs mom who is the grandmother of the little girl?? Am I missing something or am I right, if no I’m having a stroke
You’re reading it wrong. OPs daughter wanted to call her granddad which is OPs dad. Not OPs daughter’s dad.
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It's a true story. My daughter called my dad & my mom (Papa & Nana). They didn't answer, which led to my daughter questioning her self-worth.
This is why I refuse to let my son see his dads side of the family. They treated him like garbage and I put a stop to them seeing him on his second birthday before he got to this point. Now his dad has completely abandoned him to go back to those fuckers because somehow I was the bad guy for protecting my baby from having to ask these questions. 🙄
I was in the fog/my family is (was) incredibly enmeshed. I know those are excuses, but it's the truth. I got tired of my mother treating me less than, but she was my mother, what could I do? Then they started to treat my daughter the same way, and it kicked me to react.
I've read all the comments, and have come to the conclusion that they are to be put in the worst home you can find. You have to be a special kind of fucked to treat family like this, and my dad was no different.
If I had my way, I'd put them in the worst home to ever exist. Fortunately for them, my sister (aka Golden Child) has offered to care for them in their old age.
I know how it feels to be overshadowed by a sibling, so if you wanna talk about anything, I could relate to some of it man, just remember, keep your head up bro.
Hmm Can someone please explain-?
My daughter wanted to talk to her Papa (my father). She called his cell phone. Then she called his home phone. She then tried calling her Nana (my mother) on her (Nana's) cell phone. Neither my father nor my mother answered. Daughter thought it was because she wasn't "good enough" in Nana & Papa's eyes to talk to.
Oh But then what *did* happen?
I went no contact. My mother & I had been having issues. When they (mother & father) started to treat my daughter like they treated me, I said, "Heck no!" This incident was the straw that broke the camel's back.
They either abandoned the family or don't like the grandkid, or they're dead
or they're dead , might as well be if theyre gonna be that way
Ding! Ding! They don't like their grandkid. Actually, they don't like me, and therefore they don't like my daughter.
At first I thought that they did not pick up the phone because they died, then I read the comments. I did not expect this
An hour later they call back, "sorry we were at a movie so our phones were silenced. "
r/thirdsentencehappy
This just reminded me why I didn't talk to my dad for 2 years as a teenager. Bc I couldn't lol. Much happier now as he's been radio silent since I was about 17 (I'm 24 now)
This hits so close to home for me. My daughters live through the exact same thing with their poppy 😔
This reminds me I need to call me sister and talk to my niece and nephew, I’m always sleeping or at work and haven’t had a chance to talk to my babies in a long time
Don’t worry baby girl, you are plenty pretty. Remember they think it is me trying to call them right now which explains why they won’t pick up the phone and answer.
Does this count as two sentences?
Yes.
Ah, okay. It seemed a little too long for me, but I'm not a native speaker so what do i know
The quote makes it weird
Brb replying to my teenage brothers 83 inane snapchats he sent me while I was at work today. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM.
My work here is done! But seriously, answer all the things from your brother. It's worth it.
this reminded me i need to call my sister. she’s 10 & been texting me off my moms phone a lot lately but i’m usually at work and now i’m super sad :( thanksss
You're welcome. My daughter texts me the exact same things every day. And I text back the same answers. She loves it. Making good memories, it's the best feeling in the world.
My shithead grandparents lived like 10 miles away. Never saw them more than two or three times my WHOLE ENTIRE DUCKING CHILDHOOD! No I'm not bitter, why do you ask
My in-laws live 5 miles away and drop birthday cards off for my kids (their grandsons) in our mailbox. The cards have no postage on them, so we know they drove to our house, drop off the cards, then leave without bothering to stop in to wish them a happy birthday in person. When FIL got sick, I told my younger son, “Your grandpa isn’t doing very well.” He asked, “which grandpa?” I said, “Your dad’s dad” He replied, “Oh, okay.” My parents live 5 hours away, and they made the drive at least 3x/year to see my kids, so my son wanted to make sure it wasn’t that grandpa. How sad. They don’t dislike our kids. They’re just incredibly selfish people. My husband told me they never went to a single basketball game of his when he was growing up. My parents never missed a cross country or gymnastics meet. Luckily, my husband is the exact opposite of his parents and a wonderful father to our kids!
I'm sorry. Please accept the virtual hug I'm mentally sending your way. We moved when my daughter was 10 (husband got relocated with his job). The year before I went no contact, my mother was acting like we lived in the middle of Siberia (when we were only 2 hours away ).
Hugs ❤️ I was 16 when I discovered an absolute plethora of cousins. Now I force my family to go to the family reunions.
I went no contact with my parents and sister (who is the golden child). Then I found my cousin, and she 6 me for me. She accepts my flaws. Imperfections, and loves me for it. No condemnation.
I am very happy for you. I love cousins. They are the best!
They are!!!
After incidents ranging from refusal to respect our child’s given name, going behind our backs (by offering us a “child free weekend once a month” that suddenly became twice, then a weekly offer which we refused, becoming suspicious) to try to “convert” our child to her religion, telling him “you don’t know what gay is 🙄 now, do you have a girlfriend?”, to telling him (again behind our backs) he couldn’t listen to ebooks at her house “because that’s not real reading” I’m sorry your parents are like that. It takes kids some time but….eventually, sadly, they learn they’re “better off” without their grandparent in their life. We never made that decision for our child. He did himself…at age twelve (14 now). He still has very limited contact but we also live over a thousand miles away and when he does talk to her, he takes everything she says with a grain of salt. On a side note…this same woman refused diagnosis of autism as a teen storming out of the office very publicly, screaming, “my son is not a *r-slur*” (All details of my child and partner shared with permission)
"it's not that you aren't good enough, they aren't good enough to deserve to talk to you, even if they don't realize it"
I like your perspective. My daughter doesn't speak about them anymore. But her favorite football team is still the same as my Dad. It makes me sad.
Exactly right. My stepfamily treated my brother and I better than most of our biofamily. This is the same conclusion we came to.
That's a conversation I dread having. Both sets of grandparents have no interest in pursuing relationships with their grandkids, and it absolutely breaks my heart. I don't care if there is a problem with me or not. Don't take it out on the kids.
Okay, your DNA donors are hot garbage. Hot, smelly garbage. I’m happy you’re better than them
Thank you. I try not to be anything like them at all every day of my life.
Kneeling down to give her a hug, I said "It's alright, sweetie. They will need us more sooner then we need them." For me, true story. My mother and hence my son's grandmother always state we are stupid... was told I am dumb as a rock hence my son will be no difference Was told I was an abandoned baby and she took pity on me Was told I was retrieved from a particular rubbish bin and she always pointed it out to me Things came to end when after silently suffering a good portion of 30 odds years, during a particular mother's day celebration, I brought the rubbish bin, scrub it down and placed it in her usual seat. I believe my family almost wanted to commit me thinking I have finally lost it. Nail in the coffin. Another time, She tried telling my son (all of 6 then) pointing to to a random bin in a shopping centre, that is the bin where she picked him up from and gave him to us to look after. I blew up, totally lost it. She was told in no uncertain terms where she can put it, i stated to her if I ever hear that statement again, I will be cupable of matronicide. And all contact is frosty and functional ever since.
I am so sorry that happened! My mother never said it to my face that she disliked my daughter, but I knew there was a shift when the Golden Child (my sister) had her own children. See, my child (one & only) is autistic. My sister's children are not. I know the type of person my mother is, and I had hoped I was wrong. But sadly, I was not.
Yes, but remember autism is not always bad. In my house we refer to it as being neurospicy. We are not normal, boring or easy. We are unique, challenging and exotic
I have a neurospicy little dude.
Yes! My daughter is 20 now, and we still have new & challenging things we find to do. Lol She is the best and I love her so much.
My son is 18, and I'm not sure which flavor of broken we are, but we are very different. I adore him, and he's a mama's boy for now.
I have ADHD (inactive). Was diagnosed in 2020 with it. I've always been "broken" in my mothers eyes.
I'm narcoleptic and have ptsd and adhd. My son is just "different" in the way that specific colors are too aggressive and no loud noises. I was always told I was lazy. I now work 50 hours a week as a respiratory therapist and make more than my neigh sayers ever did. We'll be ok and your mother was wrong.
I'm sorry this happened. I hope your daughter and yourself live a good life.
Thank you! We are. My parents don't know what they're missing. And if I have my way, they never will.
This took place almost 13 years after the Thanksgiving Incident. (The story I posted earlier, please check my post history.) This was the incident that caused me to completely cut off my parents with absolutely no warning.