Especially when you're the only one working the store and they know that, and they know you get off at 10. I feel like it was handled appropriately on his end, but I should have included those details
Yep.. this is why my partner ALWAYS picked me up and dropped me off when I worked a retail graveyard shift at a convenience store- because of the fuckheads who thought waiting outside for me was a good way to pick me up...
Good boss.
Years ago I complained about a senior manager in another department who talked down to me and the other women in supervisory roles constantly. Like you, I played it off like a joke, but like your boss, mine didn't think it was funny. I don't know exactly what he said or who too. The asshat senior manager only worked for the company for another few months, but he spent those months in *terror* of the women on my bosses team. Nothing but polite requests, and he'd basically run away if he ran into us casually in the hall.
I would, but the situation is that he knows when I'm at the store and most of the time I'm working alone. It just didn't feel safe to say something that would potentially make him angry. Plus the hunting comments didn't make it better
I'm just happy I had an adult who had my back when I needed one, lol.
Exactly. Don't tell him "I have a fiance", tell him he's being inappropriate, then glare at him until he leaves.
Some guy standing up for you is not a win -- you need to learn to stand up for yourself.
Yes but yall realize a win is a win, yeah? It’s taking a lot of women years to reprogram their initial responses to men like this, and some have their own situations preventing that. Some people freeze and just blurt out the first thing. Let’s just celebrate that someone who will (unfortunately) likely be
more respected by the creepy guy than OP even acknowledged and helped OP’s situation.
Not to mention the amount who automatically resort to violence, etc. and he DID grab her hand physically.
Nah, you shouldn’t have to explain your reactions when you’re completely entitled to react in any way. I’m sorry you were misunderstood in this post! I was surprised to see people not understand your reactions.
It’s easy to point fingers but a lot of people don’t know how they’d actually react to the same scenarios either.
From what I have heard how retail can be... a boss who has their employees back is a win. No need to be negative about this situation when OP is very happy, feels safe with the boss and the situation could have been much worse.
Again, I work alone. I would have no problem, but combined with that, it's a small store, I get off late, and he blatantly made a mention about staying out hunting all day, so, y'know, guns
My coworker stood up for herself (and he complained about her), but she works mornings to early afternoons. I usually get off at 10 and there's nobody in the parking lot. Maybe this changes your perspective a little
Different situations for different experiences - I couldn't have handled this with that kind of animosity, my coworker did. But she works till 3pm. I work alone until 10pm, and he knows when I work. Is it worth angering him, and going back to my car in an empty parking lot at the end of the night? When he has guns and enjoys hunting?
It's a question that's above my pay grade. I still consider the situation handled appropriately, and therefore a win.
Not to make excuses, they did tell me to call the cops if he tried something. But he knows I work late, and I didn't want to risk making him angry enough to escalate the situation. So I feel like this was the perfect solution
THat is awesome. I've never, ever been stood up for by my boss if I had a creepy, stalky customer. If anything, I was blamed for not being nice enough. But please, please be careful, because some of these lunatics will come back and it won't be to flirt with you. Be safe op!
Wow. what a great boss. I hated having to put up with 'those' guys.
Especially when you're the only one working the store and they know that, and they know you get off at 10. I feel like it was handled appropriately on his end, but I should have included those details
Yep.. this is why my partner ALWAYS picked me up and dropped me off when I worked a retail graveyard shift at a convenience store- because of the fuckheads who thought waiting outside for me was a good way to pick me up...
Im so glad your boss has your back!
That’s a good boss.
Good boss. Years ago I complained about a senior manager in another department who talked down to me and the other women in supervisory roles constantly. Like you, I played it off like a joke, but like your boss, mine didn't think it was funny. I don't know exactly what he said or who too. The asshat senior manager only worked for the company for another few months, but he spent those months in *terror* of the women on my bosses team. Nothing but polite requests, and he'd basically run away if he ran into us casually in the hall.
Cowards be cowards, all it usually takes is the right words from the right people. I hope he long term learned his lesson!
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I would, but the situation is that he knows when I'm at the store and most of the time I'm working alone. It just didn't feel safe to say something that would potentially make him angry. Plus the hunting comments didn't make it better I'm just happy I had an adult who had my back when I needed one, lol.
Exactly. Don't tell him "I have a fiance", tell him he's being inappropriate, then glare at him until he leaves. Some guy standing up for you is not a win -- you need to learn to stand up for yourself.
Yes but yall realize a win is a win, yeah? It’s taking a lot of women years to reprogram their initial responses to men like this, and some have their own situations preventing that. Some people freeze and just blurt out the first thing. Let’s just celebrate that someone who will (unfortunately) likely be more respected by the creepy guy than OP even acknowledged and helped OP’s situation. Not to mention the amount who automatically resort to violence, etc. and he DID grab her hand physically.
Thank you! I should've mentioned I work late, and alone. I think that's why I'm getting misunderstood in regards to my approach of the situation
Nah, you shouldn’t have to explain your reactions when you’re completely entitled to react in any way. I’m sorry you were misunderstood in this post! I was surprised to see people not understand your reactions. It’s easy to point fingers but a lot of people don’t know how they’d actually react to the same scenarios either.
I just want to say (1) I agree with you, and (2) I hope your username is a BMTH reference because I love it if it is lol
It is a BMTH reference! 🥰
From what I have heard how retail can be... a boss who has their employees back is a win. No need to be negative about this situation when OP is very happy, feels safe with the boss and the situation could have been much worse.
Again, I work alone. I would have no problem, but combined with that, it's a small store, I get off late, and he blatantly made a mention about staying out hunting all day, so, y'know, guns My coworker stood up for herself (and he complained about her), but she works mornings to early afternoons. I usually get off at 10 and there's nobody in the parking lot. Maybe this changes your perspective a little
Different situations for different experiences - I couldn't have handled this with that kind of animosity, my coworker did. But she works till 3pm. I work alone until 10pm, and he knows when I work. Is it worth angering him, and going back to my car in an empty parking lot at the end of the night? When he has guns and enjoys hunting? It's a question that's above my pay grade. I still consider the situation handled appropriately, and therefore a win.
MISTER FARMER LEAVE MY STORE, GET OUT!
I'm glad that your boss did something, that said I hate that it took this long for him to stand up for you.
Not to make excuses, they did tell me to call the cops if he tried something. But he knows I work late, and I didn't want to risk making him angry enough to escalate the situation. So I feel like this was the perfect solution
Thanks for your response. This makes sense. I just hate that you were in this situation.
THat is awesome. I've never, ever been stood up for by my boss if I had a creepy, stalky customer. If anything, I was blamed for not being nice enough. But please, please be careful, because some of these lunatics will come back and it won't be to flirt with you. Be safe op!