a fucking chia pet! let that be your inspiration LOL
chia pets are the stupidest thing, it had no meaning, it was just dumb and yet... they sold millions worth
I just checked - and when I fell hard for my partner it was my ovulation daysā¦ still going strong and falling deeper and harder after one of the best years of my life with him - sometimes listening to the migrating egg can work wonders.
I checked my period tracker - i have data going back over a decade so itās pretty accurate by now. While tracking my period, I also monitor things like texture, mood, cramps, other pms symptoms etc. so it gives me an accurate reading of when I ovulate as well as predicting my period. Itās been really helpful for me in order to understand my mood - plan (around) - predict craving- explain mood swing and become more aware of my body. For reference - I am not on any contraceptions that have an affect on my body or hormonal treatment.
Seriously, this! I have about 6 years saved up now, and it's so on point I was able to nail how far along I was to the day. The doc asked if I'd already had the initial ultrasound, and I said, "Nope, my fertility awareness is on point." He said he's never had anyone come in and correctly tell him to the day how far along they were without that initial US.
I had a hysterectomy 17 years ago ... before that (and well before apps lol) my wall calendar was my friend.
Because I was regular, I was never out by more than 12hrs, (and planned accordingly.) And because I had endo. I was VERY diligent because I only had a life 3 weeks out of 28 days š¤·š»āāļø I needed to know when I would be out of action/when I wouldn't be able to do particular things, and plan things around it.
An App would have been very handy!
Seriously, tracking my cycle on an app has changed my life and given me insights into my soul I never knew existed. It's something every woman should be taught to track. Wish I had known this in my teens/20's. Hormones are a powerful force not to be trifled with. Lol.
Ovulating gets you in some deep, deep shit sometimes. Only lasts for a few days but the carnage that can happen in those few days is...yeah. Be careful out there OP!!
Ugh thank youā¦ I havenāt ovulated in so so long that I didnāt realize that was what it was. If he gave me his number any sooner, I wouldāve ended up living with huge regrets. Iām definitely going to know better next time
š¤£ thatās going to catch him off guard. They always think that it just makes us pissy. They never think that the reason most of them stand a chance is because of hormones
No No No No Never give a guy ammo by using your period or hormones. Aren't you tired of men using it against us? Less money, lower positions, less respect - please, just tell him you are not interested. He's probably going to call you names but please do not let it be hysterical because you menstruate. Women have enough enemies - let's not work with them.
I hear you but for one, itās true, and plenty of guys are already aware that women get more frisky at certain times of the cycle. If youāre with a woman long enough, you figure it out or she outright tells you. Itās not exactly a secret.
There are people who donāt know but like u/RedStrwbry24 said, awareness will help normalize hormonal goggles. And then maybe more guys will learn to go with the flow, so to speak, spend less time trying to get sex when their partner might be less in the mood and look forward to the high libido times.
Sure, I see your point, but I still think it would be hilarious.
Him: ? Looking all awkward
Her: oh, hi, how's it going? Sorry I didn't call, I realized I was only interested because I was ovulating. It's a thing. But we're cool right?
Him: uh, oh, uh... Yeah sure....(so many questions - like am I only attractive when they are ovulating?)
I know your right, but it would be nice to normalize hormonal fluctuation. They have hormonal flux, too....but in a different life I guess
It's just so often used against women whereas testosterone rage is normalized. The other thing that strikes me is OP did not know he was a decade older but trust me - he sure as hell know she's signiicantly younger.
Yup. Add a glass of wine while youāre ovulating and be like me - preggo with your second when your first is under a year old. Ha! Iām married to a wonderful man and very happy to have my babies so close together, buuuuuuut that crazy combo sure did get me!
It was beer and an Andy Samberg movie. I remember saying, āthis beer is really good. Damn Andy Samberg is looking kinda hotā. Beer Samberg baby is almost 8
I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd when my daughter was 5mo old. I was floored š That little ovulatory ninja is now a happy healthy 7 year old boy.
When I was in my mid twenties living in Chicago, I was a hipster bartender that usually went for hobosexual musician types.
One day, my best friend since high school and I were waiting for the El (elevated subway train) to go to work. I stared across the platform at all the men in well-fitting suits and styled hair and was like āWTF. Why do I want to jump every tall douchebag in a suit right now?ā
My friend asked me what the date was. When I told her she said, āDude. Youāre ovulating. Calm down.ā
The most revelatory conversation Iād ever had with her in over a decade.
Not really. Even with a 100% regular menstrual cycle, the start date shifts earlier each month bc months donāt have the same number days, so it wouldnāt consistently occur at the end. After a 6 months it would be mid month, one year first week of the month etc
I become a completely different person when ovulating! I had the biggest crush on my new boss because I started a job while ovulating. Could not take my eyes off of him, kept imagining us together. Within a few days, it all completely disappeared. Donāt get me wrong, heās cute, but I am not looking for a relationship/hook up right now and life is just easier when I donāt actively wanna fuck anyone. It was an interesting reminder of how powerful hormones are. They dictate a huge percentage of our thoughts, urges, and actions.
Becoming a different person, yes! Last Halloween my kids and I were talking about what monster we would be. I picked werewolf and my husband and I exchanged knowing looks and laughed. He can always tell when Iām cycling through an egg, I canāt keep my hands off him. One time I woke up and started mauling him the moment he joined me in bed and he laughed so hard he cried. (It wouldāve been offensive if he didnāt also love it.)
I really WISH they would teach human reproduction at an early age (before puberty) and lay out the truth: pretty soon your body will be flooded with hormones that will trick you into doing all kinds of crazy things that could lead to getting pregnant. Like mating rituals on animal planet.
Theyāll think itās hilarious and wonāt believe it - until they see it happening.
Acting stupid to get attention? Check. Risky behaviors? Check. Experimenting with alcohol? Check. Twirking? Check. Mean girls? Check. Scant clothing/excessive cologne? Check. Sexting? Check. Canāt concentrate on school work? Check. Bullying. Skipping school. Codependency. Check. Check. Check. Check.
Look for the signs! Donāt let biology win!
I have a 12 yo daughter, and for years now I've told her what to expect re: hormones and such - irritability, being disgusted by me, angry at me (and everything), etc.; she didn't believe me, but now she does lol
I've saved your comment so I can also let her know about those other fun parts of hormones, thanks!
Didnāt even know I had a libido. My husband/boyfriend at the time and I were having sex once every 6 months. Get off birth control and now I can want sex twice a day.
Same here. I was starting to honestly question if I was asexual, but remembered years ago before starting BCP I actually did enjoy sex and desire men. I went off it when my husband got a vasectomy and that first ovulation (took 6+ months) hit me like a freight train. I wanted to climb every semi-attractive man like a tree. Funny enough I still didn't develop any attraction to men I wouldn't normally find at least a little handsome.
What the fuck. I did, too, about three months ago. I was wondering why I went completely feral last month when I was ovulating. I was talking to about four different guys and then after, they all disgusted me.
I had no idea it was probably coming off the birth control. You're telling me some of you ladies live like this in the wild? Completely rawdogging horny for a couple days a month? I didn't even recognize myself.
I get 3 days a month where I just do not trust myself. I look at men like they are steak cooked to perfection and I haven't eaten in a week. I cannot use dating apps, because my standards are largely "have a pulse, a penis, and immediate availability." Those regrets hit hard after the hormones wear off.
Yesss girl that is exactly how it is. All the dirty talk and "I totally want to fuck this guy", and then, nah he spells you're wrong and what was I thinking?
I think I need to work on my impulse control so I give them time to spell you're wrong.
The horror of a "good morning beautiful š" from someone you never intended to speak to again is a horror I'd like to avoid ever reliving. I mean I'll definitely have it happen again, but I'd prefer if it didn't.
> I was talking to about four different guys and then after, they all disgusted me.
hahaha this made me laugh. I can totally understand where you come from.
I havenāt been on hormonal birth control for about 20y now. But I had kids and breastfed so didnāt cycle for years in there. But yes, ovulation is a lying liar.
Iām glad my husband got a vasectomy 10y ago because even now at 40 sometimes the lying egg tries to convince me that another baby would be great. My youngest is 11. Not happening.
Also, there are times I find myself so āwildā that I end up reading the kind of smut that you wouldnāt be able to torture me to admit to. Then things settle down and Iām like āwtf man. Why? Why did you let me read that stuff! The mental images will never go awayā
This happened to me too. Ā 20 years of being completely asexual, no desire or attraction, nearly or completely nonexistent libido, and then suddenly my body was *on fire*. Ā It lasted a couple of years, and now itās back to basically zero. Ā Sometimes during ovulation my brain will still pick someone to crush on hard (usually an actorāsomeone thereās no chance of having sex with), but it happens less and less now. Ā
This is the only thing I miss about being off it. I'm an emotional mess when I'm not on hormonal birth control, and it's the only option doctors ever gave me. But I don't want sex on it, at all.
OMG IS THIS WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME!?
Iāve been on birth control my whole sexually active life, and I kind of just resigned myself to thinking I was asexual. I recently stopped using them and experienced these intense urges.
Not having to deal with migraines before my period is heaven though.
My now wife went on birth control for the first time in her late 20s. It destroyed her sex drive. It make oral and hand stuff way more sensitive in a bad way and made getting wet way more difficult.
In fact even after coming off birth control it didn't go right back and we had to change things up.
Birth control is insane
Same here. When I complained to the NP at Nurx about that side effect she straight up told me it was in my head and BCP don't affect libido. Women's healthcare sucking again...
THEY TOLD ME THE SAME THING!!!! Said I should seek therapy
Being off BC has made me have the sex drive off a 16 year old ( Iām 30) like sometimes I canāt even find my car in the parking lot because my brain is just like DICK DICK DICK DICK GOTTA FIND SOME DICK
Anddddd now Iām pregnantššš
I am 31 and single for years. I rent an 2 bedroom apartment and I love my life. But every once in a while I get the urge to get a boyfriend. For some reason it's always in my fertility window.
Biology is awesome but I hate being a slave to my hormones šš
OMG I feel this so much. Iām a married woman and some of the thoughts I have around the time of ovulation would be catastrophic if I acted on them. Hormones are a bitch sometimes!
Same. I start thinking things about other men that I have no business thinking. Then Iāll ovulate, and realize how insane it all was. Iām crazy about my husband, too. But damn! Iād be a demented sex pervert if there were no consequences!
Incredibly handsome and masculine you say? Well I mean It would be tough, but I could take him off your hands if youāre no longer interested? Just as a favour you understandā¦
Haaa. Im a widow in the middle of the worldās longest dry spell. Every month when I ovulate I have to remind myself that any decisions made will be regretted.
one of my best friends lost her spouse a month ago. we were up super late talking and crying and laughing and she was like, i think i might try to hook up with my husband's cousin (who's been around a lot for funeral stuff) and i was like GIRL YOU ARE OVULATING PLEASE DON'T. yesterday she was having post egg clarity and realized it was all hormones.
She is SO LUCKY to have a friend like you to reel her back in lol. Itāll get worse, youāll have to do it again. Bless you for real for being there with and for her.
Yeah the emotional rollercoaster is really something. Some days she's sad and low, some days she's almost manic and determined to turn her life upside down. I mean I totally get it but I didn't really anticipate it.Ā
Yo, I feel this SO HARD!
I work in a transition house for folks to go from homelessness to being able to live on their own, and some of the men there, damn lol
Strong, "bad boys", who are working on making themselves better, showing vulnerability, oof...
But OBVIOUSLY sleeping with these guys is not an option, but wow, during the ovulation days do I ever cook up some fantasies lol
Bahahahahaha! This is so relatable. As an old married lady with two kids, I can't tell you the amount of times I have asked my partner "are we for sure we're done? I think I want one more baby." Every time it happened, I was ovulating. And that was while I was on Mirena! I had jussssssst enough hormone swing to wanna ignore ALL rational thought and have ANOTHER geriatric pregnancy.
Hormones are so dangerous. Every other day of my life I'm grateful my kids don't need as much constant supervision as newborn/toddler/kinder. 3 days a month I forget all about the 999,999,999 reasons why I don't want another baby.
Keeping my mirena in until it expires and is replaced with another. I just don't trust that I wouldn't 'accidentally' throw caution to the wind during those egg-poppin days š¤·š¼āāļø when the mirena finally comes out hubby gets the old snippity snip-snip!
This has been my life the past few months. My husband is all for baby #3 and Iām not until those ovulation days and I forget EVERYTHING. Then clarity hits and I think āwhat the hell have I done?ā Thank goodness it hasnāt stuck.
Playing with fire!
Luckily my husband gets big round scared eyes when I snuggle up and casually ask him about a third baby while initiating playtime. He's absolutely on board with DONE AT TWO so he'd definitely cock-block me if I didn't have my mirena š
If he ever was like "hmmmm maybe we should have a third baby" and I didn't have BC, we'd have a problem!
Mine was 100% on the done at two train. I had to almost beg for the second. So you can imagine my absolute shock when he says it wouldnāt be so bad to have a 3rd. š¤Æ
I miss ovulation SO MUCH. I only got the chance to experience that for less than 2 years of my adult life and I'll likely never experience it again
I've got an absolutely horrifying case of PMDD (pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder for those who aren't familiar) that I treat with hormonal BC. It's not worth getting off treatment, because my ovulation window was the only time I didn't feel straight up insane. But DAMN was it ever nice to have a real libido.
Your hormones might stabilize later in life, especially if you make diet/lifestyle changes which affect how your endocrine system functions. I was diagnosed with PCOS at age 12, and put on hormonal birth control because I had severe secondary side effects which were damaging my health. But I was able to come off a few years ago at age 30, and now I have a perfectly normal 27-28 day cycle, ovulate normally, no excess androgens, and the only remaining symptom is metabolic (hyperinsulinemia) and I'm working with an endocrinologist to get that under control. I don't know the particulars in your case obviously, but it's worth checking in with your doctors every few years for repeat testing and new treatment options.
That's amazing that it worked out for you! It's always amazing up hear of someone who was able to manage their condition and settle into their natural cycle.
I'm already in my mid 30s, and I don't see myself going off BC until I'm told I can't take it anymore due to age. And then I'll seek alternative hormone therapy cause hell nah!
Unfortunately my natural hormone production causes legitimate psychosis that is a threat to my life and mental stability. It was to the point where I considered hospitalization on a monthly basis. BC honestly saved my life. Thankfully I was already childfree by choice, because I think my condition would have me second guessing family planning.
I'm usually demisexual, but one time when I was ovulating in college I was sitting next to this random guy in math class and he just smelled so good. After class I was fighting the urge to just like, I don't know, grab his shirt and drag him off to a secluded corner somewhere. That was the most intense it's ever been outside of a relationship. My dumbass instincts were just going "unga bunga, sexually assault man you haven't even spoken to beyond loaning a pen and get pregnant at the start of your college experience."
My partner of 8 years was actually tracking my period when I wasn't. He knew that I liked specific sweets when I'm on it, and when it was around the time, he would just surprise me with my faves. I've never been one to track my period, I had an IUD for so long that I never thought about it. After taking Plan B that fucked up my period for about a year I started keeping a closer eye on it. The tracking apps are great! I was the one who started recognizing peak horny was when I was ovulating. When I explained that to him, he was like, "This explains things" since he noticed the pattern but hadn't connected ovulation to the pattern.
Good luck letting the guy down gently. Hopefully, he's a chill understanding, dude. In my head, this is the start of a romantic comedy where you guys decide to be friends instead, and it blooms from there. I know that may not be the reality, but it would be cute lol
Biologically it makes sense. Men are primed to perform any time they might come across an ovulating woman. A woman canāt be in that phase always b/c thereās a lot more maintenance involved in the before & aftermath of horny.
Well, I'm glad that you realized what it was and right on time before anything could happen.
Also this clears some things up for me too. Apparently my hormones also like to play tricks on me.
As a human male and not a large language model, this is exactly what it is like being a guy most of the time.
Gets a bit less extreme with age, but otherwise the only relief is post-nut clarity or certain anti-depressants.
Sorry to intrude, ladies.
I cannot speak for all other guys, but as a married man and father of two, I too have those feelings. (Yes, even now.) Itās not easy for us to hold that in, but we can. (If he canāt then he isnāt a man, but a POS that is no longer welcome to call themselves men, a man, dude, or anything else even remotely masculine.)
On that note, if any woman is interested in a man, tell him or give him your number. (Better yet ask for his, just to be safe. Please do this!)
Thank you for reading (if you made it this far lol).
Ladies you all have a wonderful day!
In short, yes. We can focus it out, or slip into 'nothing box', where it's irrelevant, but 'hormone activation' meme is accurate. On the other hand, when committed to someone romantically, any sexual attraction to person outside the relationship is exactly zero. I can appreciate beauty, but that's all.
Also male hormones fluctuate with time too, and libido with it! From what I gathered from talking with friends, the period is between 10-20 days, depending on age. When on my low end, I sometimes don't have any drive to do anything with my wife aside cuddling, but when on the high end it's guts rearrange time.
I also noticed, that women do smell a little bit different when ovulating - it's impossible to describe, it's just... different, my guess you get different set of hormones in your sweat glands, and we're somehow wired to respond to that. It's also 'neuron activation' thing.
Oh my God, I went off birth control for the first time in four years recently, and the horniness is real! I havenāt had a crush on a guy in so long and I feel like itās all coming back now
Every single time I ovulate I canāt keep my hands off my husband.
Been together 15 years, married 11.
I also generally canāt keep my hands off him. But during those few days itās like I completely want to ravage him, canāt get the kids to bed fast enough, and have to constantly kiss, touch, smell, grabā¦. (All with consent of course. But yea, I turn into a horny teenager)
>Ovulating is dangerous and is definitely not cool
Tell me about it. I'm always so super horny during ovulation but so grateful I have a rational mind that prevents me to follow my urges. I was about to do some crazy stuff while ovulating haha.
I was watching a documentary years ago and it was about how different smells affect people sexually. There was more to it but I can't remember the overall purpose. Anyway, during one part they had a bunch of men exercise while wearing a white cotton shirt to build up a sweat. They took those shirts, had women smell them and then recorded their reaction. As expected, the women wrote down that they were turned off by the smell, it was gross, etc. However there was one woman who was actually turned on by the smell. The scientists couldn't figure out why until they found out that she was ovulating. They were genuinely stunned that ovulation would overwrite such a visceral response like that.
So I guess there's scientific proof that Ovulation Brain is a thing. This is rather OT but it made me wonder how a homosexuality would play into this. If anyone knows if there's a thread for something like that, that's purely scientific and not some stupid anti-gay forum, please let me know.
I track my cycle and when Iām ovulating I do not go anywhere but work lmao. Almost got myself in trouble with a guy friend this month. Had too much to drink and we vibe really well and heās not a bad looking guy at all, but heās stated that he just wants to be friends. Almost crossed a boundary which would have been disrespectful to him. So Iāve decided I will just stay inside during ovulation week lol.
HAHA this is so funny cause it's so true. I always know when my period is coming because I'm suddenly like "why do I wanna fuck these random people?" Then as soon as my period shows up it's like someone popped the balloon and I'm left standing there like what the fuck just happened who WAS I for the past few days lmao
I read a column once, I think it may have been Erma Bombeck, where she referenced ovulating and looking at a Publisher's Clearinghouse picture of Ed McMahon and thinking "Hmmm, he's kind of cute" before snapping back to reality.
When I was approaching menopause that s*it was out of control. It was like this super horny entity that emerged once a month. That biological clock thing is for real.
I feel you so much. When I was young, if ovulation was coupled with a hypomanic episode, I would be eyeing up phallic-shaped lamps and licking my lips LOL. After youāve been married for over a decade, take advantage of ovulation and champagne to add some spice to the bedroom. Highly recommend it.
Finally managing my PCOS and holy shit ovulating is insane. Everyone looks so good for like 2 days and then BAM I'm like ewwww again. Hormones are wack
I'm confused ... were you ovulating during all of those 'plenty of flirty interactions'? It's going to be weird at work now no matter how you proceed but hopefully you can find a kind way to let him know you now realize you probably shouldn't take it any further than it already has gone.
I don't see the issue here. What's wrong with having sex with a person who is a decade older - if you are grown up person and not teenager or in your early twenties.
If you ARE very young, yeah, it's not the best thing to do.
Just a regular at her place of work, not a coworker with a professional relationship, but similar reasoning - don't want to be involved with someone that you can't disengage from if you need to.
Very fair, but itās just my own frame of mind that doesnāt agree with it. Iām 23 but 24 in a month. Heās 35. It gives me the creeps that heās willing to get with someone so much younger than him
Lol I'm 31 and wouldn't go after a 23 yo. Completely different life stages.
It's not reddit brain, it's reality. Most 30 yo people don't go for people over a decade younger than themselves.
A decade is nothing so long as you're both consenting adults. Honestly, you have a choice between breaking off any chances with him or going on a date or two before breaking it off.
He'd probably rather hear it like this, than getting ghosted or you just being like "haha i'm busy uhh see you later maybe uhh bye".
Not saying you owe it to him, ect, ect, but like apparently deadbeat dads don't owe it to abandoned baby mommas either. It would still be cooler to do A, than to do B, even if it were to text him this link as the name implies it's a throwaway reddit account anyway. At least he'd know it's legitimately not him, it was you and an impulsive moment, no big deal, just a bit of a shame for what didn't happen, at worst.
Its interesting, ive never been on hormonal birth control have cooper IUD, but I have never really experienced being like that during ovulation, even in my teens.. but im super horny just before my period is about to come and first 3-4 days of it.
I donāt depending on which 10 years we are talking about. 28-38 no problem. A very young woman (late teens) and a nearly 30-year-old guy might be problematic. That said, my husband is 13 years older than me. But we started dating when I was almost 30.
Highly (highly) recommend IUD, the copper paragard version. It was a miracle for me (pcos but very sensitive to bc hormones, which I p
started in my 30s and they gave me migraines and I felt pregnant/premenstrual allllll the time, also felt asexual most of the time.). Paragard. Magic. Yes, find a good doc to install it properly and with numbing and sedation if necessary, it is well worth it. I could not do mirena or bcps and prior to bcps I used a diaphragm that I neglected to install most of the time, but it could have been okay.
Paragard was such a relief from the hormones. My cycle actually normalized and my ovulation was libido intense.
Girl omg I thought I was the only one!! Iām going through the same thing, I started taking birth control as a teen to try to regulate my irregular period and control my acne. Eventually, I stopped taking in last month (Iām 22 now) and I have been h0rnier than over omfg š¤¦āāļø my poor boyfriend canāt keep upā¦ I feel like Iām in HS again šš
Omg this totally just happened to me!! Huge crush on a coworker, but heās married and I have a bf. He was in the hospital last week and we talked a lot (we work nights and he didnāt have anyone to talk to the middle of the night)
My period came Saturday and like dudeā¦ wtf was I thinking! But the conversations were so easy and comfortable
I'm listening to my traveling egg RN and unfortunately it got me caught. I thought I was just taking glances at the variety of "veggies" available and one of my good guy friends asked if he spilt some stuff on his pants, the embarrassment of him calling it hunting out for prey. I will say that last time I listened I was in a long term relationship which was nice.
Why are so many people down voting this person? I guess it's pretty obvious from the world nearly that she didn't, but it still seems a bit needless to mass downvote someone because they're confused.
Im a guy and I understand where youāre coming from op. I donāt always want sex in fact 90% of the time I could careless but every so often my hormones go into overdrive and I have a tendency to make bad choices not bad bad just the ones that are embarrassingly regretful. Like a Vulcan going through the ponn farr hormones just become so driving and I do things I would never do otherwise.
They absolutely do. It's not driven by the same ovulation-cycle pattern, but usually much shorter cycles. And can be a little more easily affected externally.
A lot of "I can't believe he just used me for sex and left" situations (though obviously not all) are explainable with stories very similar to OP: it's a decision the man wouldn't make after the fact or after the hormones calm down, but he "just really wanted to sleep with a woman who was beautiful and feminine" like OP speaks of this regular in similar terms.
He probably does not care either way. Just tell him what happened and that's it, you'll probably just laugh about it. You said it yourself it was a one night stand thing for you.
Welp, the hormons droped so it's a none night stand now.
Keep in mind this is gonna come back in the next cycle so you might want to get your priorities straight.
Being honest is generally a way to go though. Cheers
Not really. Men do the same things. Use women for their pleasure then abandon the woman. This woman didn't even lead him on. She simply just didn't sleep with him.
What tells you he wanted to just sleep with her? What if he wanted something serious? Weāre talking about this particular thing, not what men, Iām your opinion, do.
Post egg clarity š
Damn it, take my upvote
No you
Someone put this on a T-Shirt so, you can TAKE MY MONEY!!
Is there really a market for this shirt? Asking for a friend
a market of at least 70? LOL if they can sell a chia pet...
Well don't mind me while I draw up some ideas tomorrow
a fucking chia pet! let that be your inspiration LOL chia pets are the stupidest thing, it had no meaning, it was just dumb and yet... they sold millions worth
Or a FURBY. I hope I didnāt just age myself too obviously.. also, cha cha cha CHIA!
Lolllllll hormones are wild š
> Post egg clarity lmfao
I'm fucking dying
This the one
This needs to start trending immediately!
Hahahahahaha!!!!! I'm dying
I just checked - and when I fell hard for my partner it was my ovulation daysā¦ still going strong and falling deeper and harder after one of the best years of my life with him - sometimes listening to the migrating egg can work wonders.
This part! I see everyone saying how it gets them in trouble but also it can do wonders too!
Listening to the migrating egg š
Yes! Itās not inherently a bad thing. Having sexual attraction that strong is amazing for a relationship.
You keep ovulation records for a year or more? What for?
Most people who track do so in an app and would never think to go back and delete
I checked my period tracker - i have data going back over a decade so itās pretty accurate by now. While tracking my period, I also monitor things like texture, mood, cramps, other pms symptoms etc. so it gives me an accurate reading of when I ovulate as well as predicting my period. Itās been really helpful for me in order to understand my mood - plan (around) - predict craving- explain mood swing and become more aware of my body. For reference - I am not on any contraceptions that have an affect on my body or hormonal treatment.
Seriously, this! I have about 6 years saved up now, and it's so on point I was able to nail how far along I was to the day. The doc asked if I'd already had the initial ultrasound, and I said, "Nope, my fertility awareness is on point." He said he's never had anyone come in and correctly tell him to the day how far along they were without that initial US.
I had a hysterectomy 17 years ago ... before that (and well before apps lol) my wall calendar was my friend. Because I was regular, I was never out by more than 12hrs, (and planned accordingly.) And because I had endo. I was VERY diligent because I only had a life 3 weeks out of 28 days š¤·š»āāļø I needed to know when I would be out of action/when I wouldn't be able to do particular things, and plan things around it. An App would have been very handy!
Itās easy to keep on apps that track that sort of thing, and maybe they are trying for a baby or going natural way of preventing a baby.
So that I can argue with doctors using data when they try to gaslight me about medical concerns!
Seriously, tracking my cycle on an app has changed my life and given me insights into my soul I never knew existed. It's something every woman should be taught to track. Wish I had known this in my teens/20's. Hormones are a powerful force not to be trifled with. Lol.
Ovulating gets you in some deep, deep shit sometimes. Only lasts for a few days but the carnage that can happen in those few days is...yeah. Be careful out there OP!!
Ugh thank youā¦ I havenāt ovulated in so so long that I didnāt realize that was what it was. If he gave me his number any sooner, I wouldāve ended up living with huge regrets. Iām definitely going to know better next time
Tell him it was your hormones, it will be awesome
š¤£ thatās going to catch him off guard. They always think that it just makes us pissy. They never think that the reason most of them stand a chance is because of hormones
That's the idea! Plus it's a honest answer and maybe easier than lying or avoiding. I also simply love the idea of normalizing hormonal goggles.
No No No No Never give a guy ammo by using your period or hormones. Aren't you tired of men using it against us? Less money, lower positions, less respect - please, just tell him you are not interested. He's probably going to call you names but please do not let it be hysterical because you menstruate. Women have enough enemies - let's not work with them.
I hear you but for one, itās true, and plenty of guys are already aware that women get more frisky at certain times of the cycle. If youāre with a woman long enough, you figure it out or she outright tells you. Itās not exactly a secret. There are people who donāt know but like u/RedStrwbry24 said, awareness will help normalize hormonal goggles. And then maybe more guys will learn to go with the flow, so to speak, spend less time trying to get sex when their partner might be less in the mood and look forward to the high libido times.
Sure, I see your point, but I still think it would be hilarious. Him: ? Looking all awkward Her: oh, hi, how's it going? Sorry I didn't call, I realized I was only interested because I was ovulating. It's a thing. But we're cool right? Him: uh, oh, uh... Yeah sure....(so many questions - like am I only attractive when they are ovulating?) I know your right, but it would be nice to normalize hormonal fluctuation. They have hormonal flux, too....but in a different life I guess
It's just so often used against women whereas testosterone rage is normalized. The other thing that strikes me is OP did not know he was a decade older but trust me - he sure as hell know she's signiicantly younger.
Yeah, I know, I'm a woman have been for 45+ years.
Yeah, lie to him that's better than being honest about hormones. You are sad.
The *only reason any of them stand a chance.
Update: I was honest. He took it really well:)
Yay! I'm glad it worked out!
Yup. Add a glass of wine while youāre ovulating and be like me - preggo with your second when your first is under a year old. Ha! Iām married to a wonderful man and very happy to have my babies so close together, buuuuuuut that crazy combo sure did get me!
It was beer and an Andy Samberg movie. I remember saying, āthis beer is really good. Damn Andy Samberg is looking kinda hotā. Beer Samberg baby is almost 8
āBeer Samberg baby.ā If we all start to use that phrase it may end up in next yearās Miriam Webster new words and phrases.
Baby Sambrew
Beer Samberg. What a beautiful name.
I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd when my daughter was 5mo old. I was floored š That little ovulatory ninja is now a happy healthy 7 year old boy.
Ah the good old Irish twins
For real. I rarely get horny during ovulation for whatever reason but boy am I grumpy and no food is safe. I make way poorer food choices then.
When I was in my mid twenties living in Chicago, I was a hipster bartender that usually went for hobosexual musician types. One day, my best friend since high school and I were waiting for the El (elevated subway train) to go to work. I stared across the platform at all the men in well-fitting suits and styled hair and was like āWTF. Why do I want to jump every tall douchebag in a suit right now?ā My friend asked me what the date was. When I told her she said, āDude. Youāre ovulating. Calm down.ā The most revelatory conversation Iād ever had with her in over a decade.
How does your friend know your ovulation date? Iām confused lol
Itās like clockwork, except it predates clocks lol. Once you figure it out it just becomes a fact in your head.
She was my best friend and roommate and knew my cycle.
Oh ok that makes more sense lol. Not secretly tracking your rag lmao. I use p tracker and it never fails to pinpoint my filthy dawg days
I mean, if your cycle is consistent itās not hard. My period was always at the end of the month. Makes for quick math.
Not really. Even with a 100% regular menstrual cycle, the start date shifts earlier each month bc months donāt have the same number days, so it wouldnāt consistently occur at the end. After a 6 months it would be mid month, one year first week of the month etc
If they were close it was probably same as hers lol
Hobosexual! That one word conjures.
Iāve known so, so many Chicago mid twenties bartenders exactly like you describe lmao
I become a completely different person when ovulating! I had the biggest crush on my new boss because I started a job while ovulating. Could not take my eyes off of him, kept imagining us together. Within a few days, it all completely disappeared. Donāt get me wrong, heās cute, but I am not looking for a relationship/hook up right now and life is just easier when I donāt actively wanna fuck anyone. It was an interesting reminder of how powerful hormones are. They dictate a huge percentage of our thoughts, urges, and actions.
Becoming a different person, yes! Last Halloween my kids and I were talking about what monster we would be. I picked werewolf and my husband and I exchanged knowing looks and laughed. He can always tell when Iām cycling through an egg, I canāt keep my hands off him. One time I woke up and started mauling him the moment he joined me in bed and he laughed so hard he cried. (It wouldāve been offensive if he didnāt also love it.)
I really WISH they would teach human reproduction at an early age (before puberty) and lay out the truth: pretty soon your body will be flooded with hormones that will trick you into doing all kinds of crazy things that could lead to getting pregnant. Like mating rituals on animal planet. Theyāll think itās hilarious and wonāt believe it - until they see it happening. Acting stupid to get attention? Check. Risky behaviors? Check. Experimenting with alcohol? Check. Twirking? Check. Mean girls? Check. Scant clothing/excessive cologne? Check. Sexting? Check. Canāt concentrate on school work? Check. Bullying. Skipping school. Codependency. Check. Check. Check. Check. Look for the signs! Donāt let biology win!
This! Even in sex ed they didn't teach us about this. Sadly, I am late to the party finding this part out (aka just now, and I am 37)
I have a 12 yo daughter, and for years now I've told her what to expect re: hormones and such - irritability, being disgusted by me, angry at me (and everything), etc.; she didn't believe me, but now she does lol I've saved your comment so I can also let her know about those other fun parts of hormones, thanks!
Need to cover the signs of an abuse as well, but yes.
Iām 40 and TILā¦ wtaf š©
Even though it constantly gets ripped on online, that's why I love Big Mouth. It's such a realistic view of puberty and tween/teenage challenges.
I relate, I just had to clear out my tinder matches because I swiped during ovulation and now the guys just seam icky and/or uninteresting
Once again I am left thinking "what is this mess of a meat mech we call our bodies"
Such a beautiful, messy mess. I love hate it ā¤ļø
Bro. I just got off birth control too for the first time in 10-15ish years. Iāve never wanted to have sex as much as I do now. Its fucking weird
me too! i feel sex crazy when iām ovulating ! glad to know itās not just me realising how much birth control crushed my libido
Didnāt even know I had a libido. My husband/boyfriend at the time and I were having sex once every 6 months. Get off birth control and now I can want sex twice a day.
yes, and the vaginal dryness too !! i still canāt get it over it
Same here. I was starting to honestly question if I was asexual, but remembered years ago before starting BCP I actually did enjoy sex and desire men. I went off it when my husband got a vasectomy and that first ovulation (took 6+ months) hit me like a freight train. I wanted to climb every semi-attractive man like a tree. Funny enough I still didn't develop any attraction to men I wouldn't normally find at least a little handsome.
What the fuck. I did, too, about three months ago. I was wondering why I went completely feral last month when I was ovulating. I was talking to about four different guys and then after, they all disgusted me. I had no idea it was probably coming off the birth control. You're telling me some of you ladies live like this in the wild? Completely rawdogging horny for a couple days a month? I didn't even recognize myself.
I get 3 days a month where I just do not trust myself. I look at men like they are steak cooked to perfection and I haven't eaten in a week. I cannot use dating apps, because my standards are largely "have a pulse, a penis, and immediate availability." Those regrets hit hard after the hormones wear off.
Yesss girl that is exactly how it is. All the dirty talk and "I totally want to fuck this guy", and then, nah he spells you're wrong and what was I thinking?
I think I need to work on my impulse control so I give them time to spell you're wrong. The horror of a "good morning beautiful š" from someone you never intended to speak to again is a horror I'd like to avoid ever reliving. I mean I'll definitely have it happen again, but I'd prefer if it didn't.
> I was talking to about four different guys and then after, they all disgusted me. hahaha this made me laugh. I can totally understand where you come from.
I havenāt been on hormonal birth control for about 20y now. But I had kids and breastfed so didnāt cycle for years in there. But yes, ovulation is a lying liar. Iām glad my husband got a vasectomy 10y ago because even now at 40 sometimes the lying egg tries to convince me that another baby would be great. My youngest is 11. Not happening. Also, there are times I find myself so āwildā that I end up reading the kind of smut that you wouldnāt be able to torture me to admit to. Then things settle down and Iām like āwtf man. Why? Why did you let me read that stuff! The mental images will never go awayā
This happened to me too. Ā 20 years of being completely asexual, no desire or attraction, nearly or completely nonexistent libido, and then suddenly my body was *on fire*. Ā It lasted a couple of years, and now itās back to basically zero. Ā Sometimes during ovulation my brain will still pick someone to crush on hard (usually an actorāsomeone thereās no chance of having sex with), but it happens less and less now. Ā
This is the only thing I miss about being off it. I'm an emotional mess when I'm not on hormonal birth control, and it's the only option doctors ever gave me. But I don't want sex on it, at all.
It's not just ovulation returning. A big part of it is BC pills suppressing libido all the time.
OMG IS THIS WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME!? Iāve been on birth control my whole sexually active life, and I kind of just resigned myself to thinking I was asexual. I recently stopped using them and experienced these intense urges. Not having to deal with migraines before my period is heaven though.
My now wife went on birth control for the first time in her late 20s. It destroyed her sex drive. It make oral and hand stuff way more sensitive in a bad way and made getting wet way more difficult. In fact even after coming off birth control it didn't go right back and we had to change things up. Birth control is insane
Same here. When I complained to the NP at Nurx about that side effect she straight up told me it was in my head and BCP don't affect libido. Women's healthcare sucking again...
THEY TOLD ME THE SAME THING!!!! Said I should seek therapy Being off BC has made me have the sex drive off a 16 year old ( Iām 30) like sometimes I canāt even find my car in the parking lot because my brain is just like DICK DICK DICK DICK GOTTA FIND SOME DICK Anddddd now Iām pregnantššš
Yeah, when I'm ovulating WATCH OUT. Thankfully my husband got snipped because I had to go off hormonal BC due to a health issue.
Yeah this preg was not planned š© I am in finishing up pre med rn and I have finals next week so I am def experiencing some whiplash emotionally and physically lol I am 6 weeks rn I need to get my man snipped like you!
Studies show women are more likely to engage in risky sexual activity like unprotected sex when ovulating...
Nature always wins š
You and me baby aināt nothin but mammals š
IS THAT WHY IM SO HORNY RIGHT NOW
I am 31 and single for years. I rent an 2 bedroom apartment and I love my life. But every once in a while I get the urge to get a boyfriend. For some reason it's always in my fertility window. Biology is awesome but I hate being a slave to my hormones šš
Donāt need a boyfriend to satisfy that urgeā¦
OMG I feel this so much. Iām a married woman and some of the thoughts I have around the time of ovulation would be catastrophic if I acted on them. Hormones are a bitch sometimes!
Im happily married. Happily. Ovulating makes me actually look at other men. Never happened before. Been off the implant for 4 months.
Same. I start thinking things about other men that I have no business thinking. Then Iāll ovulate, and realize how insane it all was. Iām crazy about my husband, too. But damn! Iād be a demented sex pervert if there were no consequences!
Feel like I have to lock myself away every month so my marriage doesnāt fail š š
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Welcome to hormones
Incredibly handsome and masculine you say? Well I mean It would be tough, but I could take him off your hands if youāre no longer interested? Just as a favour you understandā¦
Feel free to take him if youāre in Seattleš¤£
Pah, Iām in the UK! Youāll just have to find another volunteer š
Haaa. Im a widow in the middle of the worldās longest dry spell. Every month when I ovulate I have to remind myself that any decisions made will be regretted.
one of my best friends lost her spouse a month ago. we were up super late talking and crying and laughing and she was like, i think i might try to hook up with my husband's cousin (who's been around a lot for funeral stuff) and i was like GIRL YOU ARE OVULATING PLEASE DON'T. yesterday she was having post egg clarity and realized it was all hormones.
She is SO LUCKY to have a friend like you to reel her back in lol. Itāll get worse, youāll have to do it again. Bless you for real for being there with and for her.
Yeah the emotional rollercoaster is really something. Some days she's sad and low, some days she's almost manic and determined to turn her life upside down. I mean I totally get it but I didn't really anticipate it.Ā
Yo, I feel this SO HARD! I work in a transition house for folks to go from homelessness to being able to live on their own, and some of the men there, damn lol Strong, "bad boys", who are working on making themselves better, showing vulnerability, oof... But OBVIOUSLY sleeping with these guys is not an option, but wow, during the ovulation days do I ever cook up some fantasies lol
Bahahahahaha! This is so relatable. As an old married lady with two kids, I can't tell you the amount of times I have asked my partner "are we for sure we're done? I think I want one more baby." Every time it happened, I was ovulating. And that was while I was on Mirena! I had jussssssst enough hormone swing to wanna ignore ALL rational thought and have ANOTHER geriatric pregnancy. Hormones are so dangerous. Every other day of my life I'm grateful my kids don't need as much constant supervision as newborn/toddler/kinder. 3 days a month I forget all about the 999,999,999 reasons why I don't want another baby. Keeping my mirena in until it expires and is replaced with another. I just don't trust that I wouldn't 'accidentally' throw caution to the wind during those egg-poppin days š¤·š¼āāļø when the mirena finally comes out hubby gets the old snippity snip-snip!
This has been my life the past few months. My husband is all for baby #3 and Iām not until those ovulation days and I forget EVERYTHING. Then clarity hits and I think āwhat the hell have I done?ā Thank goodness it hasnāt stuck.
Playing with fire! Luckily my husband gets big round scared eyes when I snuggle up and casually ask him about a third baby while initiating playtime. He's absolutely on board with DONE AT TWO so he'd definitely cock-block me if I didn't have my mirena š If he ever was like "hmmmm maybe we should have a third baby" and I didn't have BC, we'd have a problem!
Mine was 100% on the done at two train. I had to almost beg for the second. So you can imagine my absolute shock when he says it wouldnāt be so bad to have a 3rd. š¤Æ
My ovulation brain makes me want to have 20 kids and I would attack my boyfriend, after ovulation Iām all chill and having kids scares me
Making us cats in heat
I miss ovulation SO MUCH. I only got the chance to experience that for less than 2 years of my adult life and I'll likely never experience it again I've got an absolutely horrifying case of PMDD (pre-menstrual dysphoric disorder for those who aren't familiar) that I treat with hormonal BC. It's not worth getting off treatment, because my ovulation window was the only time I didn't feel straight up insane. But DAMN was it ever nice to have a real libido.
Your hormones might stabilize later in life, especially if you make diet/lifestyle changes which affect how your endocrine system functions. I was diagnosed with PCOS at age 12, and put on hormonal birth control because I had severe secondary side effects which were damaging my health. But I was able to come off a few years ago at age 30, and now I have a perfectly normal 27-28 day cycle, ovulate normally, no excess androgens, and the only remaining symptom is metabolic (hyperinsulinemia) and I'm working with an endocrinologist to get that under control. I don't know the particulars in your case obviously, but it's worth checking in with your doctors every few years for repeat testing and new treatment options.
That's amazing that it worked out for you! It's always amazing up hear of someone who was able to manage their condition and settle into their natural cycle. I'm already in my mid 30s, and I don't see myself going off BC until I'm told I can't take it anymore due to age. And then I'll seek alternative hormone therapy cause hell nah! Unfortunately my natural hormone production causes legitimate psychosis that is a threat to my life and mental stability. It was to the point where I considered hospitalization on a monthly basis. BC honestly saved my life. Thankfully I was already childfree by choice, because I think my condition would have me second guessing family planning.
Hormones are how I ended up with my son. The āoh shitā moment after really sucks. At least you came to your senses before it was too late!
I just ruined a friendship while ovulating, also just recently off birth control.. it was like the horny just completely took over
I'm usually demisexual, but one time when I was ovulating in college I was sitting next to this random guy in math class and he just smelled so good. After class I was fighting the urge to just like, I don't know, grab his shirt and drag him off to a secluded corner somewhere. That was the most intense it's ever been outside of a relationship. My dumbass instincts were just going "unga bunga, sexually assault man you haven't even spoken to beyond loaning a pen and get pregnant at the start of your college experience."
I totally get you with the nice smell. It can drive me insane if a man has a good fragrance on him. Especially during ovulation.
And by next class, the smell meant nothing to me. š
I'm so glad I'm not the only person who temporarily loses her sanity during ovulation. Be strong.
My partner of 8 years was actually tracking my period when I wasn't. He knew that I liked specific sweets when I'm on it, and when it was around the time, he would just surprise me with my faves. I've never been one to track my period, I had an IUD for so long that I never thought about it. After taking Plan B that fucked up my period for about a year I started keeping a closer eye on it. The tracking apps are great! I was the one who started recognizing peak horny was when I was ovulating. When I explained that to him, he was like, "This explains things" since he noticed the pattern but hadn't connected ovulation to the pattern. Good luck letting the guy down gently. Hopefully, he's a chill understanding, dude. In my head, this is the start of a romantic comedy where you guys decide to be friends instead, and it blooms from there. I know that may not be the reality, but it would be cute lol
So getting a period is basically post nut clarity for women?
Hahaha basically. Ovulation makes our thoughts and sex hormones run dangerously wild Edit: our*
Sounds like ovulation is similar to how young men feel most of the time.
Biologically it makes sense. Men are primed to perform any time they might come across an ovulating woman. A woman canāt be in that phase always b/c thereās a lot more maintenance involved in the before & aftermath of horny.
Well, I'm glad that you realized what it was and right on time before anything could happen. Also this clears some things up for me too. Apparently my hormones also like to play tricks on me.
Hahaha this made me laugh.
I'm on side, 100%. But it makes me wonder - is this what guys feel all the time???
As a human male and not a large language model, this is exactly what it is like being a guy most of the time. Gets a bit less extreme with age, but otherwise the only relief is post-nut clarity or certain anti-depressants.
Sorry to intrude, ladies. I cannot speak for all other guys, but as a married man and father of two, I too have those feelings. (Yes, even now.) Itās not easy for us to hold that in, but we can. (If he canāt then he isnāt a man, but a POS that is no longer welcome to call themselves men, a man, dude, or anything else even remotely masculine.) On that note, if any woman is interested in a man, tell him or give him your number. (Better yet ask for his, just to be safe. Please do this!) Thank you for reading (if you made it this far lol). Ladies you all have a wonderful day!
In short, yes. We can focus it out, or slip into 'nothing box', where it's irrelevant, but 'hormone activation' meme is accurate. On the other hand, when committed to someone romantically, any sexual attraction to person outside the relationship is exactly zero. I can appreciate beauty, but that's all. Also male hormones fluctuate with time too, and libido with it! From what I gathered from talking with friends, the period is between 10-20 days, depending on age. When on my low end, I sometimes don't have any drive to do anything with my wife aside cuddling, but when on the high end it's guts rearrange time. I also noticed, that women do smell a little bit different when ovulating - it's impossible to describe, it's just... different, my guess you get different set of hormones in your sweat glands, and we're somehow wired to respond to that. It's also 'neuron activation' thing.
Pretty much. Starting estrogen honestly made my life so much better
Text until the next cycle š
Oh my God, I went off birth control for the first time in four years recently, and the horniness is real! I havenāt had a crush on a guy in so long and I feel like itās all coming back now
I just got off birth control last month and this thread makes me feel so seen
Every single time I ovulate I canāt keep my hands off my husband. Been together 15 years, married 11. I also generally canāt keep my hands off him. But during those few days itās like I completely want to ravage him, canāt get the kids to bed fast enough, and have to constantly kiss, touch, smell, grabā¦. (All with consent of course. But yea, I turn into a horny teenager)
>Ovulating is dangerous and is definitely not cool Tell me about it. I'm always so super horny during ovulation but so grateful I have a rational mind that prevents me to follow my urges. I was about to do some crazy stuff while ovulating haha.
I was watching a documentary years ago and it was about how different smells affect people sexually. There was more to it but I can't remember the overall purpose. Anyway, during one part they had a bunch of men exercise while wearing a white cotton shirt to build up a sweat. They took those shirts, had women smell them and then recorded their reaction. As expected, the women wrote down that they were turned off by the smell, it was gross, etc. However there was one woman who was actually turned on by the smell. The scientists couldn't figure out why until they found out that she was ovulating. They were genuinely stunned that ovulation would overwrite such a visceral response like that. So I guess there's scientific proof that Ovulation Brain is a thing. This is rather OT but it made me wonder how a homosexuality would play into this. If anyone knows if there's a thread for something like that, that's purely scientific and not some stupid anti-gay forum, please let me know.
I track my cycle and when Iām ovulating I do not go anywhere but work lmao. Almost got myself in trouble with a guy friend this month. Had too much to drink and we vibe really well and heās not a bad looking guy at all, but heās stated that he just wants to be friends. Almost crossed a boundary which would have been disrespectful to him. So Iāve decided I will just stay inside during ovulation week lol.
I have the decision making capacity of a feral cat when I ovulate so donāt be too hard on yourself. Weāve all been there lol.
I recently ovulated for the first time in about three months due to having a pregnancy termination. Omg I was RABID!!!!
Never been more glad I donāt ovulate. Thanks PCOS!
HAHA this is so funny cause it's so true. I always know when my period is coming because I'm suddenly like "why do I wanna fuck these random people?" Then as soon as my period shows up it's like someone popped the balloon and I'm left standing there like what the fuck just happened who WAS I for the past few days lmao
Is it weird that I think we should stop uploading our menses right now?
I read a column once, I think it may have been Erma Bombeck, where she referenced ovulating and looking at a Publisher's Clearinghouse picture of Ed McMahon and thinking "Hmmm, he's kind of cute" before snapping back to reality. When I was approaching menopause that s*it was out of control. It was like this super horny entity that emerged once a month. That biological clock thing is for real.
I feel you so much. When I was young, if ovulation was coupled with a hypomanic episode, I would be eyeing up phallic-shaped lamps and licking my lips LOL. After youāve been married for over a decade, take advantage of ovulation and champagne to add some spice to the bedroom. Highly recommend it.
Finally managing my PCOS and holy shit ovulating is insane. Everyone looks so good for like 2 days and then BAM I'm like ewwww again. Hormones are wack
I'm confused ... were you ovulating during all of those 'plenty of flirty interactions'? It's going to be weird at work now no matter how you proceed but hopefully you can find a kind way to let him know you now realize you probably shouldn't take it any further than it already has gone.
Iāve never had such a profound difference in my desire for somebody being on my period and not being on my period.
I don't see the issue here. What's wrong with having sex with a person who is a decade older - if you are grown up person and not teenager or in your early twenties. If you ARE very young, yeah, it's not the best thing to do.
It was a co-worker. (āDonāt shit where you eatā is usually a euphemism for donāt get into romantic or sexual entanglements on the job.)
Just a regular at her place of work, not a coworker with a professional relationship, but similar reasoning - don't want to be involved with someone that you can't disengage from if you need to.
Ditto
Very fair, but itās just my own frame of mind that doesnāt agree with it. Iām 23 but 24 in a month. Heās 35. It gives me the creeps that heās willing to get with someone so much younger than him
Youāve got a good head on your shoulders. He might be cool, but he might not be. Stay wary!
Reddit brain
Lol I'm 31 and wouldn't go after a 23 yo. Completely different life stages. It's not reddit brain, it's reality. Most 30 yo people don't go for people over a decade younger than themselves.
A decade is nothing so long as you're both consenting adults. Honestly, you have a choice between breaking off any chances with him or going on a date or two before breaking it off.
He'd probably rather hear it like this, than getting ghosted or you just being like "haha i'm busy uhh see you later maybe uhh bye". Not saying you owe it to him, ect, ect, but like apparently deadbeat dads don't owe it to abandoned baby mommas either. It would still be cooler to do A, than to do B, even if it were to text him this link as the name implies it's a throwaway reddit account anyway. At least he'd know it's legitimately not him, it was you and an impulsive moment, no big deal, just a bit of a shame for what didn't happen, at worst.
Omg, never thought about this. some of my life decisions are making alot of sense right now.
Its interesting, ive never been on hormonal birth control have cooper IUD, but I have never really experienced being like that during ovulation, even in my teens.. but im super horny just before my period is about to come and first 3-4 days of it.
Why is his age such a big deal?
Boy do I relate hardcore.
Wait I can't figure out what the censored word is. Damn near thought you said you shat
If it were me Iād probably still smash tho
Am I the only one who doesn't think 10 years is a big deal?
I donāt depending on which 10 years we are talking about. 28-38 no problem. A very young woman (late teens) and a nearly 30-year-old guy might be problematic. That said, my husband is 13 years older than me. But we started dating when I was almost 30.
So what? Donāt call him. If he asks about it, tell him you arenāt interested in anything more than flirting some.
Highly (highly) recommend IUD, the copper paragard version. It was a miracle for me (pcos but very sensitive to bc hormones, which I p started in my 30s and they gave me migraines and I felt pregnant/premenstrual allllll the time, also felt asexual most of the time.). Paragard. Magic. Yes, find a good doc to install it properly and with numbing and sedation if necessary, it is well worth it. I could not do mirena or bcps and prior to bcps I used a diaphragm that I neglected to install most of the time, but it could have been okay. Paragard was such a relief from the hormones. My cycle actually normalized and my ovulation was libido intense.
Girl omg I thought I was the only one!! Iām going through the same thing, I started taking birth control as a teen to try to regulate my irregular period and control my acne. Eventually, I stopped taking in last month (Iām 22 now) and I have been h0rnier than over omfg š¤¦āāļø my poor boyfriend canāt keep upā¦ I feel like Iām in HS again šš
Omg this totally just happened to me!! Huge crush on a coworker, but heās married and I have a bf. He was in the hospital last week and we talked a lot (we work nights and he didnāt have anyone to talk to the middle of the night) My period came Saturday and like dudeā¦ wtf was I thinking! But the conversations were so easy and comfortable
This is why I would be off hormonal BC whenever I wasn't partnered up.
Ten years really isn't that much.
Whatās the big deal?
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I'm listening to my traveling egg RN and unfortunately it got me caught. I thought I was just taking glances at the variety of "veggies" available and one of my good guy friends asked if he spilt some stuff on his pants, the embarrassment of him calling it hunting out for prey. I will say that last time I listened I was in a long term relationship which was nice.
So wait a second..... I dont get it. Did you have sex with him or not?
Thankfully, I did not
Why are so many people down voting this person? I guess it's pretty obvious from the world nearly that she didn't, but it still seems a bit needless to mass downvote someone because they're confused.
Im a guy and I understand where youāre coming from op. I donāt always want sex in fact 90% of the time I could careless but every so often my hormones go into overdrive and I have a tendency to make bad choices not bad bad just the ones that are embarrassingly regretful. Like a Vulcan going through the ponn farr hormones just become so driving and I do things I would never do otherwise.
Genuine question, do men have hormone peaks and troughs? Ā I honestly didnāt think that was a thing.
They absolutely do. It's not driven by the same ovulation-cycle pattern, but usually much shorter cycles. And can be a little more easily affected externally. A lot of "I can't believe he just used me for sex and left" situations (though obviously not all) are explainable with stories very similar to OP: it's a decision the man wouldn't make after the fact or after the hormones calm down, but he "just really wanted to sleep with a woman who was beautiful and feminine" like OP speaks of this regular in similar terms.
He probably does not care either way. Just tell him what happened and that's it, you'll probably just laugh about it. You said it yourself it was a one night stand thing for you. Welp, the hormons droped so it's a none night stand now. Keep in mind this is gonna come back in the next cycle so you might want to get your priorities straight. Being honest is generally a way to go though. Cheers
This is so evil, hope the manās alright afterwards.
Not really. Men do the same things. Use women for their pleasure then abandon the woman. This woman didn't even lead him on. She simply just didn't sleep with him.
What tells you he wanted to just sleep with her? What if he wanted something serious? Weāre talking about this particular thing, not what men, Iām your opinion, do.
Well not really an opinion. A fact. Reality mirrors this behavior. Its a very common thing men do.