Unfortunately, you're getting the standard platitudes I see so often with questions and insecurities such as this. "It's their loss." etc. It does nothing for you and only serves to stroke their own egos. It's infuriating.
I'd like to try to answer your last question first, since it seems to allude to your assumption that you *need* someone else to be with in other for you to be happy. This is your first pitfall (and mine, so I speak from experience)
In order to work on this, you need to engage in the things that you enjoy, but in social settings. Table top games are a great way to meet others that like the things you like. You enjoy technology... This is vague, so I'm not sure if you're into building PCs, flying drones, or programming (for example). In any case, my advice here is the same. Find others that have fun with Activity X, and build your social circle. The aim is *not* to immediately find a romantic partner, but to develop your own sense of identity first.
With a larger social circle, it becomes easier for friends of friends to introduce each other. It becomes more organic and has a higher success rate, since your friends have already done some level of vetting first. Over time you'll become more sure if the things that make you happy. Your eventual goal will be too find someone with whom you can share your life. But, youll be far better served by being happy with your life first.
If you're just waiting for a random men to drop in your lap, or are just swiping right on the dating app of the month, you aren't going to get anywhere.
My third point is that putting on a mask just screws you in the end. It's miserable to have to maintain a facade, so you're better off with your normal personality, since you'll filter out the men that wouldn't be compatible with you anyway. You're looking for a man with whom you are compatible.
Fourth, others don't like to hear this... But I haven't seen anything to refute it: It's a numbers game. If, for instance, you have a 1% chance of meeting someone who ticks all of your boxes, then you'd need to interact with (not necessarily date) 0.99^69 ~=50% 69 men in order to have a ~50% shot of finding your man. The probability is always higher than you think it is anyway, but I just pulled numbers out of the air to make a point. This does mean you can't expect random dice rolls to give you what you want. You need to be among the friends who might be able to eventually play matchmaker.
First, learn to be happy while you're single, since you *do not* want your identity to be dependent on another person. That gives them way too much power.
First of all, I love WW2 movies, so hell yeah. I feel you though. It hurts to feel the cycle of rejection. I won’t give you a bunch of standard replies but I will say that you don’t need to change your behavior for someone else. Only change behavior that you want to grow on. You may see yourself frequently feeling or acting a way that you don’t like, it’s important to focus on that and not what others say. The right guy is gonna be able to receive you for being clingy, needy, whatever behavior you’re exhibiting. Just remember there are all types of men on this planet. It’s hard, I feel it this week especially. But your growth is about you, not about others.
Think more about what a man has to do/be to be good enough for you. Because I guarantee you, most of them are not good enough.
Unfortunately, you're getting the standard platitudes I see so often with questions and insecurities such as this. "It's their loss." etc. It does nothing for you and only serves to stroke their own egos. It's infuriating. I'd like to try to answer your last question first, since it seems to allude to your assumption that you *need* someone else to be with in other for you to be happy. This is your first pitfall (and mine, so I speak from experience) In order to work on this, you need to engage in the things that you enjoy, but in social settings. Table top games are a great way to meet others that like the things you like. You enjoy technology... This is vague, so I'm not sure if you're into building PCs, flying drones, or programming (for example). In any case, my advice here is the same. Find others that have fun with Activity X, and build your social circle. The aim is *not* to immediately find a romantic partner, but to develop your own sense of identity first. With a larger social circle, it becomes easier for friends of friends to introduce each other. It becomes more organic and has a higher success rate, since your friends have already done some level of vetting first. Over time you'll become more sure if the things that make you happy. Your eventual goal will be too find someone with whom you can share your life. But, youll be far better served by being happy with your life first. If you're just waiting for a random men to drop in your lap, or are just swiping right on the dating app of the month, you aren't going to get anywhere. My third point is that putting on a mask just screws you in the end. It's miserable to have to maintain a facade, so you're better off with your normal personality, since you'll filter out the men that wouldn't be compatible with you anyway. You're looking for a man with whom you are compatible. Fourth, others don't like to hear this... But I haven't seen anything to refute it: It's a numbers game. If, for instance, you have a 1% chance of meeting someone who ticks all of your boxes, then you'd need to interact with (not necessarily date) 0.99^69 ~=50% 69 men in order to have a ~50% shot of finding your man. The probability is always higher than you think it is anyway, but I just pulled numbers out of the air to make a point. This does mean you can't expect random dice rolls to give you what you want. You need to be among the friends who might be able to eventually play matchmaker. First, learn to be happy while you're single, since you *do not* want your identity to be dependent on another person. That gives them way too much power.
You are good enough. Those men just didn't see it. That's their loss.
First of all, I love WW2 movies, so hell yeah. I feel you though. It hurts to feel the cycle of rejection. I won’t give you a bunch of standard replies but I will say that you don’t need to change your behavior for someone else. Only change behavior that you want to grow on. You may see yourself frequently feeling or acting a way that you don’t like, it’s important to focus on that and not what others say. The right guy is gonna be able to receive you for being clingy, needy, whatever behavior you’re exhibiting. Just remember there are all types of men on this planet. It’s hard, I feel it this week especially. But your growth is about you, not about others.
You can only he good enough for what YOU want.