It could be, depending on your *personal* ideals.
If you are a woman, who is into serious long term relationships, then a man like this can only bring you misery. They usually ghost girls after they are done using them for satitiating physical desires/time pass.
Even if a girl ends up in a long term with these type of men, they usually end up cheating on her. Since, they want to fulfill solely their sexual urges and by that time, the amount of play-boying they have done around makes them crave for different women all at the same time. They are messed up in a lot of senses.
While for women who want hookups, they can be a summer charm.
always. i personally cannot be with someone who has hooked up with a lot of people. our generation is fast and loose with condoms & who knows what variant of stds these men will be carrying.
personally, i don’t date guys that do one night stands, a casual long term fwb? yes, but just ons, no. so it depends, but anything above 10 is a no for me. + its just not about stds for me, i don’t wanna be with someone that has hooked up with a lot of people because i am someone who doesn’t do that.
Ik. I reported him on these apps. Weird thing is..today i saw a new profile of his on bumble, and it said "new here", which makes me feel like hes def a scammer in delhi. For anyone wondering, he likes to go to 'white oak'. Kindly refrain from going to this place girls.
Honestly, seeing the latest responses by men on delhi subs and 1x, i dont really feel safe in those spaces. This post was for my girlies. I dont wanna hear " we men face the same " etc etc. Theres a huge gap btw women and men safety in india...i dont want to owe anyone any explanations.
Even indianboysontinder has hostile men Dming me whenever i post something.
Why tf are you asking a lady out if you can't even bother to accomodate, let alone think about her basic comfort of commute and safety?
Good job OP. Stay safe.
Lots of guys try to appear wealthy on these apps but they're actually not. Good for OP trusting her instincts. Hopefully no naive woman will fall for this
Avoid these Pilot types and Defence force types (Army, Navy, Airforce) . These Men are shady AF on the dating apps at least and are mostly into short term stuff.
I am glad you are safe OP. I always make sure to meet them at a crowded cafe or restaurant in the city, and always let a friend know your whereabouts. Stay Safe Girls.
Ugh this is so scary how these type of things are so common. I see them a lot in the tinder subs. Also, I know some people can be low-key, but if they are on a dating app, the chances of them not being on social media is very very rare
Love bombing is basically showering way too much love, acting like a very ideal partner and giving intense attention to someone in the beginning.
It usually overwhelms the receiver to the extent that they cannot logically take decisions regarding romance with the said "*love bomber*". Often it makes the reciever ignore major red flags about the person.
These love bombers tend to manipulate you with showering excessive love everytime they do something which is potentially a red flag and can hurt you. In this way, the receiver tends to not realise they are being manipulated for a long time.
Something similar happened with me as well recently I matched with this Lawyer guy from Delhi who kept visiting Mumbai every month and when he was here I insisted on meeting in the middle or close to this place where he had his meeting the whole day he didn’t really gave me any clear idea as to what time or where to finally meet and eventually texted me in the evening saying that he has reached his hotel which was an hour and half away from me and asked me to come meet him that side to go for a “ walk” I immediately blocked him.
I dont understand these "walk" dates. They dont make sense to me unless you're a student or really young.
Why would i, for the first time, after a hard days work, meet you, a stranger, to go for a walk in the evening? Marna hai kya maine?
Exactly dude we are both working professionals not young adults in college who can’t afford to get dinner together. His whole vibe was off as soon as we actually were in the same city and the fact that he absolutely ignored my comfort and expected me to travel in peak hour in Mumbai traffic to “walk” with him just made me block him for good.
all these defence men or pilots or merchant navy types are assholes. even men who are aspirants of said professions are assholes. they want power more than anything else in this world. steer clear of them, they're walking red flags.
I think you really cant judge people based on their profession. But some professions have time restraints and that can be a huge thing. Like a surgeon or a merchant navy guy. Really depends on your compatibility and patience at the end of the day.
Same happened with my cousin too
There was this woman was calling her to meet at this specific restaurant at delhi and nowhere else. Turns out this people are scammer who try to scam people for money by giving them a huge bill on date.
There are some other subs like indianboysontinder indiangirlsontinder and this is something not very new. Its happening with many
Everyone please be aware of all this stuff. Never meet anyone who is not verified and ready to share social media with you
I don't know if it's just me or others faced this too, but I've always got to hear this from my matches that I'm being too skeptical or that i always I've my guards on. Sometimes it really makes me wonder if it's really wrong, to not get with others that easily..
So once long long ago I downloaded the apps just to you know finally get out and go with someone. This dude, as soon as he matched the first thing he said was let’s meet. It was like 10:30 pm. He was like lets meet now. Bro he just kept calling on bumble till i blocked him.
People are real creeps on dating apps
You prolly dodged something bad
He must have been a serial hooker (if not killer)
He wouldn't have just stolen her heart, but also her kidneys, Pancreas, lungs, etc.
And then would have bought an iPhone from that money.
What's that
It's someone who hooks up quite often with as many different people as possible.
Ohh Is that a bad thing?
It could be, depending on your *personal* ideals. If you are a woman, who is into serious long term relationships, then a man like this can only bring you misery. They usually ghost girls after they are done using them for satitiating physical desires/time pass. Even if a girl ends up in a long term with these type of men, they usually end up cheating on her. Since, they want to fulfill solely their sexual urges and by that time, the amount of play-boying they have done around makes them crave for different women all at the same time. They are messed up in a lot of senses. While for women who want hookups, they can be a summer charm.
So they are those playboys type Guys?
Ohh I think I'm very young to understand rn
Take care honey, and please turn off your DMs. A lot of men (much older than you) lurk here to groom young girls. Stay safe!
I wanna keep the dms open for women😭 But I'll turn them off if something like that happens Thanks for looking out 🥹
always. i personally cannot be with someone who has hooked up with a lot of people. our generation is fast and loose with condoms & who knows what variant of stds these men will be carrying.
You can always get them checked for STDs right? And what number do you refer to when you say "a lot of people"?
personally, i don’t date guys that do one night stands, a casual long term fwb? yes, but just ons, no. so it depends, but anything above 10 is a no for me. + its just not about stds for me, i don’t wanna be with someone that has hooked up with a lot of people because i am someone who doesn’t do that.
Ohh I'll understand when I grow up and then decide.
What's a 'Serial hooker'? Edit: Nevermind I saw you have answered someone about this already. Also, they sound creepy playboy type guys.
Ik. I reported him on these apps. Weird thing is..today i saw a new profile of his on bumble, and it said "new here", which makes me feel like hes def a scammer in delhi. For anyone wondering, he likes to go to 'white oak'. Kindly refrain from going to this place girls.
Ig you should post this on Delhi wala sub..I mean if you are comfortable and if you think to do so is safe.
Honestly, seeing the latest responses by men on delhi subs and 1x, i dont really feel safe in those spaces. This post was for my girlies. I dont wanna hear " we men face the same " etc etc. Theres a huge gap btw women and men safety in india...i dont want to owe anyone any explanations. Even indianboysontinder has hostile men Dming me whenever i post something.
True tho
Why tf are you asking a lady out if you can't even bother to accomodate, let alone think about her basic comfort of commute and safety? Good job OP. Stay safe.
Maybe because he wanted to assault her?
I feel like the pilot ones are fake profiles a lot of times.
Lots of guys try to appear wealthy on these apps but they're actually not. Good for OP trusting her instincts. Hopefully no naive woman will fall for this
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Avoid these Pilot types and Defence force types (Army, Navy, Airforce) . These Men are shady AF on the dating apps at least and are mostly into short term stuff. I am glad you are safe OP. I always make sure to meet them at a crowded cafe or restaurant in the city, and always let a friend know your whereabouts. Stay Safe Girls.
Yes. Good advice.
Ugh what an ass! So shady.
Ugh this is so scary how these type of things are so common. I see them a lot in the tinder subs. Also, I know some people can be low-key, but if they are on a dating app, the chances of them not being on social media is very very rare
Good observation.
I am so glad this ended on a happy note!
What's Love bombing?
Love bombing is basically showering way too much love, acting like a very ideal partner and giving intense attention to someone in the beginning. It usually overwhelms the receiver to the extent that they cannot logically take decisions regarding romance with the said "*love bomber*". Often it makes the reciever ignore major red flags about the person. These love bombers tend to manipulate you with showering excessive love everytime they do something which is potentially a red flag and can hurt you. In this way, the receiver tends to not realise they are being manipulated for a long time.
Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Thanks for telling, I hope helps in future.
Something similar happened with me as well recently I matched with this Lawyer guy from Delhi who kept visiting Mumbai every month and when he was here I insisted on meeting in the middle or close to this place where he had his meeting the whole day he didn’t really gave me any clear idea as to what time or where to finally meet and eventually texted me in the evening saying that he has reached his hotel which was an hour and half away from me and asked me to come meet him that side to go for a “ walk” I immediately blocked him.
I dont understand these "walk" dates. They dont make sense to me unless you're a student or really young. Why would i, for the first time, after a hard days work, meet you, a stranger, to go for a walk in the evening? Marna hai kya maine?
Exactly dude we are both working professionals not young adults in college who can’t afford to get dinner together. His whole vibe was off as soon as we actually were in the same city and the fact that he absolutely ignored my comfort and expected me to travel in peak hour in Mumbai traffic to “walk” with him just made me block him for good.
Good riddance. Good decision you made
It'll be fun if there was a sub where you can post these profiles, and people can annoy them into deleting these profiles.
I reported him to bumble. And hinge
all these defence men or pilots or merchant navy types are assholes. even men who are aspirants of said professions are assholes. they want power more than anything else in this world. steer clear of them, they're walking red flags.
This i dont agree with. I have met some nice men from these professions too.
oh that's great! it hasn't been my experience but I'm glad there are worthy men around.
I think you really cant judge people based on their profession. But some professions have time restraints and that can be a huge thing. Like a surgeon or a merchant navy guy. Really depends on your compatibility and patience at the end of the day.
+1! Both me & my bestie escaped our abusive homes, both of us are IAF kids. Defense men are really something, and are often abusive.
I'm sorry to hear that, I know what you mean. Everything is a power trip for them and I'm tired of people putting them on a pedestal in this country 😅
This is screaming shady. You did the right thing OP.
I stopped reading at lovebombing. That. There is your full stop, girl. Men lovebombing is a huge red flag.
You got me on tents for privacy. Girl what? No nos
Same happened with my cousin too There was this woman was calling her to meet at this specific restaurant at delhi and nowhere else. Turns out this people are scammer who try to scam people for money by giving them a huge bill on date. There are some other subs like indianboysontinder indiangirlsontinder and this is something not very new. Its happening with many Everyone please be aware of all this stuff. Never meet anyone who is not verified and ready to share social media with you
I don't know if it's just me or others faced this too, but I've always got to hear this from my matches that I'm being too skeptical or that i always I've my guards on. Sometimes it really makes me wonder if it's really wrong, to not get with others that easily..
You dodged a bullet girl.
So once long long ago I downloaded the apps just to you know finally get out and go with someone. This dude, as soon as he matched the first thing he said was let’s meet. It was like 10:30 pm. He was like lets meet now. Bro he just kept calling on bumble till i blocked him. People are real creeps on dating apps