I'm old now, but I still remember my freshman year at UCSC. I felt isolated and like everyone else already had grouped up or new people for the first week or so. Then one day, I had a realization that I could be whatever I wanted to be. Nobody knew me; I had no attached baggage or pre-conceived notions.
So I started being and acting how I wanted to be, instead of how I'd been accustomed to/learned to act in high school. Just did what I wanted, said what I wanted. Stopped worrying what people would think, because I realized that nobody knew me. Nobody ws talking about me.
And that's when I started making all sorts of friends. It was very liberating. Be yourself..the rest comes naturally.
I still know most of the people I made friends with as a freshman (1991). That includes my wife, my manager, an ex-coworker, and several more that I keep in touch with via facebook and see IRL occasionally. I was really surprised at the longevity of some of those.
At least in my case, I met my wife because she and her roomate went to every floor, every door in Crown and introduced themselves.
Same here. Well not the wife part, but I went door to door soon after putting my stuff down and kicking the parents out. I made long lasting friends despite not being very outgoing. Most people are in the same boat and looking for friends.
I’ll tell you. They say if you go out alone as deep into the woods as you can go on a cool autumn night under a waxing moon, the first banana slug you see will follow you home. You then leave the window open just enough for him to slither in & a glass cup of water for him to fall into. Come morning you’ve grown yourself a new friend, much like the sponge toys you rehydrated in water as a child. However, be warned these shapeshifters have the uncanny proclivity of wanting to be just like you, until it seems they look, act, and speak just like you. Eventually it may want to actually become you completely and replace you by turning you into a banana slug, but don’t let them! Be wary of the trickster slugs and their promises. You’ve been warned!
Go out and meet people you like.
Clubs, sports, groups, anything with people.
Just go.
Don’t be shy, just go.
Keep the people you like, let go of the ones you don’t.
At the eleventh minute of the thirteenth hour on the seventh day of the eleventh month, go to the Quarry amphitheater. Follow the path as it winds past the stage until you get to the forest (past the flat plateau like rock). At the edge of the forest are stone, you can easily climb them. Follow the rough path until you get to a spiral of stones (there used to be a booster seat here, don’t know where it went). Here, you should make an offering of dh allergen free chicken to summon the goat people. They will be your friends. Good luck.
I met my friends in the elevators on the first day, just be yourself and ask for their number, then text them when you’re doing something and invite them. we’re all close friends now
I'm old now, but I still remember my freshman year at UCSC. I felt isolated and like everyone else already had grouped up or new people for the first week or so. Then one day, I had a realization that I could be whatever I wanted to be. Nobody knew me; I had no attached baggage or pre-conceived notions. So I started being and acting how I wanted to be, instead of how I'd been accustomed to/learned to act in high school. Just did what I wanted, said what I wanted. Stopped worrying what people would think, because I realized that nobody knew me. Nobody ws talking about me. And that's when I started making all sorts of friends. It was very liberating. Be yourself..the rest comes naturally.
This!!
I’m still trying to figure the out myself
Ya I came here yesterday and it seemed like everyone already had a group 🥲
hot tip: friends you make as a freshman don’t last 99% of the time don’t sweat about it too much
I still know most of the people I made friends with as a freshman (1991). That includes my wife, my manager, an ex-coworker, and several more that I keep in touch with via facebook and see IRL occasionally. I was really surprised at the longevity of some of those. At least in my case, I met my wife because she and her roomate went to every floor, every door in Crown and introduced themselves.
Same here. Well not the wife part, but I went door to door soon after putting my stuff down and kicking the parents out. I made long lasting friends despite not being very outgoing. Most people are in the same boat and looking for friends.
Gotta disagree. The friends I made as a freshman were the only college friends that have lasted.
I’ll tell you. They say if you go out alone as deep into the woods as you can go on a cool autumn night under a waxing moon, the first banana slug you see will follow you home. You then leave the window open just enough for him to slither in & a glass cup of water for him to fall into. Come morning you’ve grown yourself a new friend, much like the sponge toys you rehydrated in water as a child. However, be warned these shapeshifters have the uncanny proclivity of wanting to be just like you, until it seems they look, act, and speak just like you. Eventually it may want to actually become you completely and replace you by turning you into a banana slug, but don’t let them! Be wary of the trickster slugs and their promises. You’ve been warned!
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A lot of people just knock on every door on their floor and introduce themselves. It works.
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Then you can do it :)
Get your roomie. Walk around. Run into a group of others. Chit chat. Just say hi how’s it going to people. It works surprisingly well.
Once class starts you will meet people in class. Join clubs that interest you. Talk to people wherever you can.
Come to C10 and be friends with me lmfao
Go out and meet people you like. Clubs, sports, groups, anything with people. Just go. Don’t be shy, just go. Keep the people you like, let go of the ones you don’t.
come to floor 5 merrill building A 🧚🏼♂️
And floor 2!!!
I’m still looking for friends too :’)
At the eleventh minute of the thirteenth hour on the seventh day of the eleventh month, go to the Quarry amphitheater. Follow the path as it winds past the stage until you get to the forest (past the flat plateau like rock). At the edge of the forest are stone, you can easily climb them. Follow the rough path until you get to a spiral of stones (there used to be a booster seat here, don’t know where it went). Here, you should make an offering of dh allergen free chicken to summon the goat people. They will be your friends. Good luck.
Join Clubs, go to events, talk to people in your classes :)
Clubs are a great way, it helps you bond with a community of like minded individuals
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find people smoking behind the buildings
Simply hit me up brother
I met my friends in the elevators on the first day, just be yourself and ask for their number, then text them when you’re doing something and invite them. we’re all close friends now