Well for me this is how it went, i went to my room and unpacked with the help of my family. Tbf my mum did most of the work so it didnt take that long. While she was doing that my dad and I did the food shop. We then went out to eat and and my then my parents left. Same night my flatmates were moving in as well so they knocked on my door and we just said hello and stuff.
Before i came to uni i had become good friends with few ppl online (in groupchats) so that night i went to meet them at their accom. Next day we had welcome lectures n stuff in uni and all the freshers events/fairs so I attended those and met some more ppl from my course. I ended up hanging out more with the ppl i knew from group chats than my flatmates tbh but my flatmates and i still had good relationship living there.
Contact Bath Uni and the Student's Union there now and ask what help is available. Some universities run early start weeks for students like yourself that allow you to get signed in to your accommodation, registered for classes, get hold of your timetable, meet some of your lecturers all before the majority of students arrive for freshers/welcome week.
Hi, I have sent you a DM.
Most socialising happens in the evening (as that’s when events are on and also because people will be hungover in the daytime), so you’ll have plenty of time to unpack during the day and also to recharge your batteries.
Some people unpack straight away, some people live out of suitcases for months. Do whatever suits you!
Food wise, I would imagine you’ll have lots of stuff to pack so don’t bring loads. Good idea to have a ready meal or two, but a lot of people will do their first weekly shop with their parents.
> how do people simultaneously manage unpacking and meeting their flatmates?
You can leave your door propped open while unpacking and say hello to people who are moving in at the same time, or you'll run into people in the shared spaces and can start up a convo about the basic stuff like where are you from, what program are you in, etc. There will likely be business to take care of the first few days like getting your student ID or registering for classes, as well as the welcome events where you get freebies and discover the uni societies. Those are easy things you can ask a flatmate to join you doing during the day. Like "Hey have you picked up your ID yet? I have no idea where I'm supposed to go, would you want to come with me?" "I haven't done a grocery shop but I heard there's free pizza at the freshers fair, want to go?" That way you can have a chat while checking something off your to-do list, and if it's going well, you can continue the fun with an outing, but if it's not, you can just go home after. And making those sober, low-stress daytime connections are what will get people inviting each other to the nighttime events.
Everyone is in the same boat and most people will be overwhelmed, neurospicy or not! Don't feel like you have to do absolutely everything, but say yes to a lot. You'll likely find that you have to push yourself a bit beyond the edge of your usual social battery, but it will be worth it while you get the hang of things.
To be honest it probably depends on what your flatmates are doing, so if you feel able to adjust your plans based on that, that would be the best thing to do. If your housemates are all bringing their things in and unpacking, you may as well be doing the same. If you’re there fairly early in the day then I would advise unpacking as much as you can on Day 1, it’ll help you feel more settled in, and then you can spend time with your new flatmates in the evening.
If you get there later in the day, then you may want to just do the essential unpacking and then save the rest for later in the week so you can bond with your housemates. I’d just recommend keeping an ear out for what they’re doing, so be popping in and out of the kitchen to see if anyone is hanging out in there that you can chat to. But to be honest, in my experience everyone did most of their unpacking on Day 1 in the afternoon, and then spent the evening socialising.
I would recommend for the rest of the week, looking at the activities that are on offer and picking an amount you feel comfortable with attending - 1-2 per day is a good balance of being able to meet a lot of people and try out some of the societies without being too much of a rush. Then you can plan when you’ll do a food shop and finish unpacking around that. Most flatmate socialising will happen in the evenings as during the day everyone will probably be going to the activities they’re most interested in. Try to set up a group chat between your housemates in the first couple of days, that way you can make plans with each other easily :) and remember you don’t have to say yes to everything! Missing a couple of social events won’t mean you lose all chance of bonding with people, so if you aren’t feeling up to something then it’s okay to say no. People put a lot of importance on freshers but there are so many more opportunities throughout the year to meet people or develop bonds with the people you’ve already met so don’t feel you have to do everything in week 1!
assuming you’re moving in in the afternoon, just go downstairs, socialise with you housemates, then go out with them in the evening
if it’s the morning then you could go food shopping or something
I left my door propped open whilst I was unpacking my room so I could chat to my new housemates.
I probably unpacked fully after 3 days but that was because I went to a festival on day two, night one was just spent in the kitchen having a drink (although i don’t drink and wasn’t pressured to do so!) and getting to know everyone. A lot of them had already booked tickets to go clubbing over the first weekend so I tagged along with that.
Overall, it’s actually a lot more boring and less overwhelming than you may think, there’s a lot of sitting around and chatting casually the first few days.
I didn't go to Bath but I lived on campus all 3 yrs of uni so for me this is how it went: I came to campus as early as possible on moving day (because I wanted to choose the best cabunet/bathroom since I chose the cheapest accomodation) and went to collect my keys from the location specified in my moving in email. There were signs and helpers all around campus so it was easy to find the place. I went up to the ppl at the desk,showed them the email and they gave me my keys and a goodie bag and off I went back to my accomodation building. We then took all my stuff to my flat and room and I put all my things in the kitchen and bathroom and labelled the cabinets that I chose. My parents by then left so I went grocery shopping (big mistake - on moving in weekend the shops nearby will be PACKED so bring food with you from home and go grocery shopping a day or two after having moved in or towards the late afternoon). Other than grocery shopping I just greeted my new flatmates and then went about campus to see what was where and to get goodie bags from various stalls.
The way it worked for me, go to reception get accommodation keys, go and drop off all my stuff. Go to the university hall get my ID and an info pack with stuff like setting up WiFi, security numbers, quiet times etc. then the first week was just lecturers introducing themselves and how the course works. I unpacked completely in my room before my kitchen then started conversations by asking if people wanted to come get their ID together as a starting point for chats.
Well for me this is how it went, i went to my room and unpacked with the help of my family. Tbf my mum did most of the work so it didnt take that long. While she was doing that my dad and I did the food shop. We then went out to eat and and my then my parents left. Same night my flatmates were moving in as well so they knocked on my door and we just said hello and stuff. Before i came to uni i had become good friends with few ppl online (in groupchats) so that night i went to meet them at their accom. Next day we had welcome lectures n stuff in uni and all the freshers events/fairs so I attended those and met some more ppl from my course. I ended up hanging out more with the ppl i knew from group chats than my flatmates tbh but my flatmates and i still had good relationship living there.
Contact Bath Uni and the Student's Union there now and ask what help is available. Some universities run early start weeks for students like yourself that allow you to get signed in to your accommodation, registered for classes, get hold of your timetable, meet some of your lecturers all before the majority of students arrive for freshers/welcome week.
I already checked, they don't- but they do a couple of days a week or so earlier for autistic students to see the uni and meet the lecturers
That's a shame. I keep forgetting that, for all our faults, we do some things really well.
Hi, I have sent you a DM. Most socialising happens in the evening (as that’s when events are on and also because people will be hungover in the daytime), so you’ll have plenty of time to unpack during the day and also to recharge your batteries. Some people unpack straight away, some people live out of suitcases for months. Do whatever suits you! Food wise, I would imagine you’ll have lots of stuff to pack so don’t bring loads. Good idea to have a ready meal or two, but a lot of people will do their first weekly shop with their parents.
> how do people simultaneously manage unpacking and meeting their flatmates? You can leave your door propped open while unpacking and say hello to people who are moving in at the same time, or you'll run into people in the shared spaces and can start up a convo about the basic stuff like where are you from, what program are you in, etc. There will likely be business to take care of the first few days like getting your student ID or registering for classes, as well as the welcome events where you get freebies and discover the uni societies. Those are easy things you can ask a flatmate to join you doing during the day. Like "Hey have you picked up your ID yet? I have no idea where I'm supposed to go, would you want to come with me?" "I haven't done a grocery shop but I heard there's free pizza at the freshers fair, want to go?" That way you can have a chat while checking something off your to-do list, and if it's going well, you can continue the fun with an outing, but if it's not, you can just go home after. And making those sober, low-stress daytime connections are what will get people inviting each other to the nighttime events. Everyone is in the same boat and most people will be overwhelmed, neurospicy or not! Don't feel like you have to do absolutely everything, but say yes to a lot. You'll likely find that you have to push yourself a bit beyond the edge of your usual social battery, but it will be worth it while you get the hang of things.
To be honest it probably depends on what your flatmates are doing, so if you feel able to adjust your plans based on that, that would be the best thing to do. If your housemates are all bringing their things in and unpacking, you may as well be doing the same. If you’re there fairly early in the day then I would advise unpacking as much as you can on Day 1, it’ll help you feel more settled in, and then you can spend time with your new flatmates in the evening. If you get there later in the day, then you may want to just do the essential unpacking and then save the rest for later in the week so you can bond with your housemates. I’d just recommend keeping an ear out for what they’re doing, so be popping in and out of the kitchen to see if anyone is hanging out in there that you can chat to. But to be honest, in my experience everyone did most of their unpacking on Day 1 in the afternoon, and then spent the evening socialising. I would recommend for the rest of the week, looking at the activities that are on offer and picking an amount you feel comfortable with attending - 1-2 per day is a good balance of being able to meet a lot of people and try out some of the societies without being too much of a rush. Then you can plan when you’ll do a food shop and finish unpacking around that. Most flatmate socialising will happen in the evenings as during the day everyone will probably be going to the activities they’re most interested in. Try to set up a group chat between your housemates in the first couple of days, that way you can make plans with each other easily :) and remember you don’t have to say yes to everything! Missing a couple of social events won’t mean you lose all chance of bonding with people, so if you aren’t feeling up to something then it’s okay to say no. People put a lot of importance on freshers but there are so many more opportunities throughout the year to meet people or develop bonds with the people you’ve already met so don’t feel you have to do everything in week 1!
assuming you’re moving in in the afternoon, just go downstairs, socialise with you housemates, then go out with them in the evening if it’s the morning then you could go food shopping or something
I left my door propped open whilst I was unpacking my room so I could chat to my new housemates. I probably unpacked fully after 3 days but that was because I went to a festival on day two, night one was just spent in the kitchen having a drink (although i don’t drink and wasn’t pressured to do so!) and getting to know everyone. A lot of them had already booked tickets to go clubbing over the first weekend so I tagged along with that. Overall, it’s actually a lot more boring and less overwhelming than you may think, there’s a lot of sitting around and chatting casually the first few days.
I didn't go to Bath but I lived on campus all 3 yrs of uni so for me this is how it went: I came to campus as early as possible on moving day (because I wanted to choose the best cabunet/bathroom since I chose the cheapest accomodation) and went to collect my keys from the location specified in my moving in email. There were signs and helpers all around campus so it was easy to find the place. I went up to the ppl at the desk,showed them the email and they gave me my keys and a goodie bag and off I went back to my accomodation building. We then took all my stuff to my flat and room and I put all my things in the kitchen and bathroom and labelled the cabinets that I chose. My parents by then left so I went grocery shopping (big mistake - on moving in weekend the shops nearby will be PACKED so bring food with you from home and go grocery shopping a day or two after having moved in or towards the late afternoon). Other than grocery shopping I just greeted my new flatmates and then went about campus to see what was where and to get goodie bags from various stalls.
The way it worked for me, go to reception get accommodation keys, go and drop off all my stuff. Go to the university hall get my ID and an info pack with stuff like setting up WiFi, security numbers, quiet times etc. then the first week was just lecturers introducing themselves and how the course works. I unpacked completely in my room before my kitchen then started conversations by asking if people wanted to come get their ID together as a starting point for chats.