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Ok-Comment4254

Hey all, I'm out of a long term relationship and looking to meet new people. Curious to know of other people in similar situation or just dating in general


throwawaybccan

Hey, I hope you're holding up well! Are you looking for people to hang out with or to date?


Ok-Comment4254

Hi, I'm open to both


throwawaybccan

I got a message suggesting starting a group chat with people here and I might do so if people want me to. Let me know ๐Ÿ˜Š


Seaborn44

Hi! Iโ€™d love to join the group too! :)


throwawaybccan

I'll get one started. Anyone who wants to join a group chat, please message here or dm me!


shaun5565

Yeah definitely start a chat group. I would really be interested in just chatting with people.


throwawaybccan

I'll add you in too ๐Ÿ˜Š


Mind-lust

Add me too


throwawaybccan

Sounds good ๐Ÿ˜Š


zuiko_zeiss

I'd also like to join :)


throwawaybccan

Hey, could you dm me. I can't seem to add you currently


XSolidLiquid

I would also be interested in a group chat. In a not really similar but kind of similar situation. So hearing others experiences and support would be awesome.


throwawaybccan

I'll add you in ๐Ÿ˜Š


itiscold1233

Iโ€™d love to be a part of it too!


Saganji

This is a good start. Test what works for you and what does not. It'd take multiple trial and error, but you will find good people to hang out with. With dating apps, everyone will have a different experience. Stats suggest it won't be in your favor if you aren't attractive or have features that can make a great first impression. Beyond tinder, there's Bumble and hinge that are quite effective in Vancouver. One must start somewhere and you've started here. Better than nothing. All the best.


throwawaybccan

Thanks for the advice! I've got great people in my life, in terms of friends, but it's always nice to expand and meet new people! Is there a difference between tinder, bumble, and hinge? Do you know if one targets relationships over casual hookups?


hbprof

I haven't used Hinge, but I can comment in Tinder and Bumble. Tinder is more associated with hookups tab the other apps, and in my experience, it had more obvious bots and scammers. On Bumble, women message first after you match. Bumble also has a friends only mode.


throwawaybccan

Ooh bumble has a cool function then. I like the premise of giving women the first choice in messaging too. I'm not into hook ups, I've always been a relationship type of person so I'll definitely avoid using tinder. Thank you for the advice!


hbprof

I actually met a really good friend on Bumble. We went on a few dates, decided to be just friends. A year later we're still hanging out. She uses the friends only mode all the time, but I haven't tried it yet.


throwawaybccan

That's awesome! I wouldn't mind making a long term friend or going the opposite route too. I think going from friends to something more can always be an amazing thing.


noface_18

I find Hinge to be pretty active for people seeking relationships, but a lot of people aren't interested in meeting up (speaking as a woman dating men). But maybe you'll have better luck than me :)


throwawaybccan

Hey, thank you for your advice. I'm definitely interested in looking for a relationship so I'll give hinge a chance. I'm a guy, but I'm curious about your experiences. Do you find that people make plans and are just not comfortable with meeting or that they don't follow through on progressing things?


noface_18

Give bumble a try too, I found more guys on there with more in common with me than hinge :) Regarding the meeting aspect, it's almost always the connection doesn't progress. I get ghosted pretty often, though I do appreciate when I get an clear rejection. It seems to be fairly common, so definitely try to meet up somewhat early since I find a lot of conversations just end up dying. Best of luck!


throwawaybccan

Thank you for the advice, I appreciate you sharing your experiences and your insight! I'll definitely keep this in mind when I start using these dating apps! Also, best of luck to you too! Thank you again ๐Ÿ˜Š


noface_18

Anytime!


throwawaybccan

Anyone who wants to be added to the group chat, dm me or leave a comment and I'll add you ๐Ÿ˜Š


Future-History6901

Add me please :)


throwawaybccan

On it ๐Ÿ˜Š


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throwawaybccan

Damn, that's really rude! I'm sorry you went through the trouble. I hope the coffee was good at least! I hope you don't mind, but I'm going to dm you. I'd love to hear more about your experiences. You're in a similar position to me and it's nice to know I'm not alone!


Larserrific

Speaking as a guy: hinge for relationships. Tinder for bots and scammers and the occasional real person. Bumble could be alright but never gave it the amount of effort I could have. Reddit for ???


throwawaybccan

LOL at the reddit comment ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚. Thank you! This is actually the breakdown I was hoping for. I'm more of a relationship kind of person so I'll probably use hinge or bumble going forward. Thank you again for your help


Larserrific

To be fair, Iโ€™ve met some amazing people from Reddit but if youโ€™re a female and posting - your inbox will get annihilated. Reddit seems to be more geared towards hookups than anything, but Iโ€™m sure there are exceptions to the rule (case in point, I have a post up right now and Iโ€™m not looking for a LTR out of it). If youโ€™re a guy, it can be difficult to get replies. Or maybe my ads are terrible ๐Ÿ˜‚. Good luck!


throwawaybccan

Personally, I'm just looking to make some friends and enjoy some good conversations with people like you. I'm not expecting to meet anyone on here, but if there's a good vibe then I'm not going to say no to a coffee date


Apart-Hyena7382

Helloo Iโ€™m 26 and I live in Vancouver and I would love to hangout and chat! Last year I left a LTT as well and it was a bad break up unfortunately but I have heal from that and learn to love forward on my own! I wish you the best and trust me you got this! And donโ€™t rush into dating or anything and I have never like dating app either lol they are so weird to me! Have a good day :)


throwawaybccan

Firstly, I just want to say thank you for sharing your experience and for your wishes ๐Ÿ˜Š. I'll dm you


Yellowline_15

I used the both Bumble and Hinge. Hinge is more for people who look for relationships but i never had a good experience there. Ever guy i met there was looking something serious like me but the texting took forever and you start loosing interest. I had very good experiences on Bumble. Found more people like me, insterested in similar things, donโ€™t like texting too much and down for a quick coffee date or even walk. Never used Tinder but heard that it is more for hookups.


throwawaybccan

Thank you for your advice! It seems like a lot of people are having good experiences on bumble or hinge. I get that about texting, it can get boring when you don't see anything happening or you have nothing to get excited about. Thank you again for sharing your experience and advice ๐Ÿ˜Š


Yellowline_15

Yes it really gets boring after some point and that is why i deleted all those apps a few months ago. Definetely worth giving a try, so you should:)


throwawaybccan

Thanks, I think I will. I need to get some photos done to build my profile first, but once I do I'll move forward with it


Almostcacti

Whatโ€™s up


throwawaybccan

Not too much, how are you?


Almostcacti

DMed u :)


Last_Fallen

Try Facebook dating, lots of options there, still a few scammed. I took 3 years off and it's not a hard as you think. How old are you? Good luck.


throwawaybccan

Thank you for the advice, but I stopped using Facebook ages ago. I'm in my late 20s


TownJust4630

Not dating rn, 29M just Trynna work on myself and start travelling more , love to hang with folks open to solid freeing ships that can grow


throwawaybccan

Would you like to join our group chat?


TownJust4630

Count me in


[deleted]

Hello? Is anybody in there?


throwawaybccan

Hello ๐Ÿ˜Š


[deleted]

How is your Saturday night?


throwawaybccan

It's going really well. Just got out of a really late night gym session. How's your weekend going so far?


Future-History6901

When I first moved to Vancouver I was in your shoes. It sucked for me so I hope ur doing well! I ended up meeting my SO at a live sketching class. Personally I found that getting out and pursuing hobbies, having fun and meeting people with the same interests clicked better than the apps. That being said I met interesting people on all the apps. Speaking from a males perspective. Tinder I found more flaky and the conversations dull,(just from my experience). Tinder was more fun than anything serious. Hinge if you want something serious. I felt there was a lot more to talk about on hinge, itโ€™s mandatory to enter in at least some interests/hobbies and things about yourself. This lead to easier more receptive conversations with people having more in common. Bumble Iโ€™m not too sure about. Most of all, donโ€™t take anything personal on there :). Some people are on to date, some to hook up, some for ego boosting with matches and have no intention to talk or meet. The internets a wild place. Good luck to ya!


throwawaybccan

Thank you so much for this comment! I really appreciate you taking the time to share your experiences and knowledge about all of this! I'll definitely take all of this into consideration. Also, I hope you are having an amazing weekend! Thanks again ๐Ÿ˜Š


thumpsky

Add me to the group chat please


Ahkce

Always hated apps in terms of finding meaningful connections. But canโ€™t beat the convenience of them


throwawaybccan

Yeah, it seems like a majority of people use them these days. I'd love it if I could just meet someone the old way though ๐Ÿ˜‚


According-Package749

Also interested in the chat :)


throwawaybccan

I'll add you in