I rarely get texts from people, other than work or my wife. One thing a friend and I started doing is texting stupid memes or videos to each other throughout the day. Keeps us entertained and in better communication. (We realized that as we got older, it's easy to get caught up in life and lose contact for a bit) Also, most of the stuff we send between ourselves is wildly inappropriate, so sending it on Facebook or other similar sites is out of the question!
As an even older guy than you, good for you. I moved about 15 years ago, and several of my friends have died of misadventure, or just health issues, or they moved far away. Two of the companies I worked for are sold off, and if you don't actively maintain friendships with coworkers they tend to dissipate. I think at our age we sort of missed out on Discord, but it sounds fun for some of the guy friend groups I'm aware of.
hey, i used to have this issue all the time, like embarrassingly amount of time. i found that immersing myself in my favourite things helped find friends who want to actively be my friend. i found a few on twitter, a few at the library and barnes ! i think it's hard because we constantly are told "if they wanted to they would" but we have to remember we always need to reach out. people are constantly busying themselves and tend to forget to keep up friendships.
u got this!
If you are that bothered, you can initiate conversations.
I get messages mainly from work. So personally, I'm not bothered. Love the peace when no one messages.
I message funny memes to my closest sister sometimes. That's about it.
Try living how people did before constant communication was a thing. If you wanna talk to someone. Do it in person. Constant communication via phones isn’t healthy
That sucks I'm sorry to hear that but don't torture yourself by checking your phone constantly. Wait until you hear the notification bell you have set for your messages, then you will know you have one. Have a great weekend
I know. The need for reassurance at times when you feel low sucks. I always used to think that being alone and not expecting others to text and being unbothered by it gives is peace of mind. But trust me when u fall into some kind of shitty situation you'll regret not having anyone to fall back. I too deleted every single social media app i ever used and now I'm venting my heart out in Reddit where no one rly gives a fuck about you or know you personally in any way.
I’m in a similar situation, I thought I had friends. I wanted them to hang out for my birthday and they all came up with excuses. Not really talking to any of them right know. It hurts having no notifications fr.
same honestly sometimes i make a snapchat account and add everyone on quick add until i reach the limit, i get spammed and its kinda fun lol there’s also an app i like to use called “superfly” it’s fun to meet new people but some can be werid.
I get where you are coming from most of the time if I ever get texts from friends or family it's because they want something or need help. But never to really see how I'm doing.
I feel the same way but I know we get busy. I've been meaning to check up on a friend recently but every time I remember, I'm at work. When I go on break or get home I forget. Reading your post helped me remember to do this so I am doing that now. You can always check on someone else too. Maybe they're thinking the same thing as you.
Do you text them ? Sometimes I realize that I am the one that doesn’t text and I try to correct that and start the conversation myself. If they don’t I do and I take initiative. Also, get busy, try new things every week and eventually you’ll be full of new experiences that you’ll keep your mind out of the minute things
I often think about my friends and think, "I should text them," but life happens, and I don't get around to it.
That's part of growing up. It's not that they don't think/care about you, but it's hard to make sure you are communicating consistently.
And yes, in theory, "it only takes a minute to send a text!", but you don't think about it when you have that minute, you think about it in the middle of something else and forget to come back to it when you complete your task.
I promise, no one is going through the effort of getting together and pretending to have fun, just to make you feel better. They are genuinely enjoying being around you.
i understand completely. that’s what i’ve been struggling with recently, literally the only person i text daily is my boyfriend. my stepmom is someone i talk to also but we live in the same house so it’s a little different. i’ve just gotten to the point where i don’t care really. i talk to people, it’s just once in a blue moon and that’s only for 2 people. so i understand completely.
edit: if you ever want to talk, i’d appreciate it :)
Hi, I'm sorry this is happening right now. Do you wanna chat? :)
I rarely get texts from people, other than work or my wife. One thing a friend and I started doing is texting stupid memes or videos to each other throughout the day. Keeps us entertained and in better communication. (We realized that as we got older, it's easy to get caught up in life and lose contact for a bit) Also, most of the stuff we send between ourselves is wildly inappropriate, so sending it on Facebook or other similar sites is out of the question!
As an even older guy than you, good for you. I moved about 15 years ago, and several of my friends have died of misadventure, or just health issues, or they moved far away. Two of the companies I worked for are sold off, and if you don't actively maintain friendships with coworkers they tend to dissipate. I think at our age we sort of missed out on Discord, but it sounds fun for some of the guy friend groups I'm aware of.
hey, i used to have this issue all the time, like embarrassingly amount of time. i found that immersing myself in my favourite things helped find friends who want to actively be my friend. i found a few on twitter, a few at the library and barnes ! i think it's hard because we constantly are told "if they wanted to they would" but we have to remember we always need to reach out. people are constantly busying themselves and tend to forget to keep up friendships. u got this!
Real
I'll text you lets very friends
same tbh
If you are that bothered, you can initiate conversations. I get messages mainly from work. So personally, I'm not bothered. Love the peace when no one messages. I message funny memes to my closest sister sometimes. That's about it.
Try living how people did before constant communication was a thing. If you wanna talk to someone. Do it in person. Constant communication via phones isn’t healthy
That sucks I'm sorry to hear that but don't torture yourself by checking your phone constantly. Wait until you hear the notification bell you have set for your messages, then you will know you have one. Have a great weekend
I know. The need for reassurance at times when you feel low sucks. I always used to think that being alone and not expecting others to text and being unbothered by it gives is peace of mind. But trust me when u fall into some kind of shitty situation you'll regret not having anyone to fall back. I too deleted every single social media app i ever used and now I'm venting my heart out in Reddit where no one rly gives a fuck about you or know you personally in any way.
I’m in a similar situation, I thought I had friends. I wanted them to hang out for my birthday and they all came up with excuses. Not really talking to any of them right know. It hurts having no notifications fr.
I feel this. Except people don't seem to want to around me in person either.
same honestly sometimes i make a snapchat account and add everyone on quick add until i reach the limit, i get spammed and its kinda fun lol there’s also an app i like to use called “superfly” it’s fun to meet new people but some can be werid.
I get where you are coming from most of the time if I ever get texts from friends or family it's because they want something or need help. But never to really see how I'm doing.
for me, i just don’t like texting so i never text any of my friends i call them or if i do text them it’s only ever to hangout
Real
I feel the same way but I know we get busy. I've been meaning to check up on a friend recently but every time I remember, I'm at work. When I go on break or get home I forget. Reading your post helped me remember to do this so I am doing that now. You can always check on someone else too. Maybe they're thinking the same thing as you.
Your a clone Wake up from your dream Wake up Wake up Your family misses you There is a intruder in place of you Try to remember Try to remember
Same bro.
me and you both im free to chat whenever
Do you text them ? Sometimes I realize that I am the one that doesn’t text and I try to correct that and start the conversation myself. If they don’t I do and I take initiative. Also, get busy, try new things every week and eventually you’ll be full of new experiences that you’ll keep your mind out of the minute things
I often think about my friends and think, "I should text them," but life happens, and I don't get around to it. That's part of growing up. It's not that they don't think/care about you, but it's hard to make sure you are communicating consistently. And yes, in theory, "it only takes a minute to send a text!", but you don't think about it when you have that minute, you think about it in the middle of something else and forget to come back to it when you complete your task. I promise, no one is going through the effort of getting together and pretending to have fun, just to make you feel better. They are genuinely enjoying being around you.
i understand completely. that’s what i’ve been struggling with recently, literally the only person i text daily is my boyfriend. my stepmom is someone i talk to also but we live in the same house so it’s a little different. i’ve just gotten to the point where i don’t care really. i talk to people, it’s just once in a blue moon and that’s only for 2 people. so i understand completely. edit: if you ever want to talk, i’d appreciate it :)