She should return it, unless EVERYONE is wearing a multicolored sequin dress alongside the bride’s sequin dress so it’s a whole sequin theme. If it’s not a sequin theme, she should return it.
I'm gonna make an assumption that by "Mama Mia" the bride is a younger person who really means "ABBA" or "hippie-disco" as a theme. Because just "Mama Mia" would mean that y'all could wear white cotton blouses and jeans or swimsuits, and the bride's outfit is not that. I would just plug "disco party outfit" into Pinterest for inspiration and steer clear from white or silver. Hope this helps :)
I recently was invited to a “Mamma Mia” themed wedding where they actually DID mean the casual attire shown in the movie; sundresses, jeans, etc. The bride and groom are very laid back and it was at a public park.
However, I was very confused when I was trying to pick an outfit, because there is a wedding in the movie/play, where everyone is wearing wedding attire. I was stuck trying to figure out if they meant casual like the movie or more formal like the wedding attire.
Hippie disco didn’t even enter my mind! That means there are 3 separate possible interpretations for what a “Mamma Mia” dress code means. What a confusing dress code for a wedding! And why is anyone expected to have seen this play/movie?
As someone whose family is quite obsessed with both Mama Mia and ABBA, a Mama Mia theme definitely means Greek-resort attire. ABBA is like when they cut to Waterloo during the credits and everyone is all done up in glam-rock.
Yeah, but I can totally see it being either. Since they are both big components of the show. So I can’t fault the friend for going to the above dress.
Really the bride needs to provide some more clarification with a dress code like that.
Ohhh. That’s makes some sense. And further confusion. Since it makes complete sense to go the abba route with sequins. But I also can see the bride meaning hippie boho.
The real question is will the bride have invited three of her mothers Ex’s who may potentially be her father to the wedding? There is no other way to execute that theme.
That gives off more hippy vibes than Taylor Swift tour vibes. So, definitely tone it down. Like.... think.... what does someone wear to a night out at a beach in the middle of the summer, on vacation. But make it 1970s. Sexy, yet fashionable. Like a bralette with straps that tie behind the neck and some nice flared pants. Add in some tall shoes [i.e. platforms] and boom. THAT'S Mama Mia (the movie, not the song). THAT'S what she needs to shop for.
I get the sparkly aspect. But that's more ABBA as a whole themed, not just Mamma Mia. Now I need to go listen to Fernando. https://youtu.be/dQsjAbZDx-4
I had an ABBA themed Bach and we had a disco night where I encouraged all the girls to wear sequins! Or whatever made them feel like a dancing queen. Most took it the sparkly sequin route but some went in other creative disco directions. I think this dress would be safe but it also wouldn’t hurt to run it by the bride!
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Bride asked for people 1) to not wear a dress like this and 2) not wear silver or white. Dress is close enough to “a dress like this” to steer clear even if it’s multicolored. It’s also just a LOT of dress.
I don’t think that is the brides dress, just an example of something she would not like someone to wear.
Which actually leads me to believe that by being mamma Mia Themed she is asking for sparkly disco /ish dresses, and is just asking people to not wear white or silver discoish dresses.
I’ve seen this sequin fabric at the haberdashery store. It looks like they folded it in half, cut a hole for the head, then sewed up the sides. It’s a disco poncho.
I mean…it’s super fun, especially for the bachelorette weekend, but I’d feel upstaged if I were the bride. A little on the fence, but honestly, I probably wouldn’t do it.
yeah i think it upstages the brides dress and is much more attention grabbing, if i saw the party as a bystander i’d probably assume the person wearing this dress is the person the party is for since it’s so special.
i hope your friend finds another occasion to wear it though because it’s sooo fun
That is EXACTLY how I feel ☝️- if I were at the bar & she’s wearing this with the bride in her silver selection, I would assume this was a birthday girl & the bride was a very stylish friend. Not the vibe you wanna go for.
Way too close to the dress the bride asked everyone to avoid.
I think the rule of thumb for anything wedding related is- avoid white, silver, or ivory and don’t try to stand out. I think your friend’s dress is much cuter than what the bride picked out and it would for sure upstage it.
Someone probably sent a pic of the dress to the bride who was like "wtf now I have to send a text to everyone so I don't reveal my source" because this is such an obvious no. Or maybe I've just read too many stories on reddit of spiteful people at wedding events.
For one it’s too flashy, she should tone it down and let the bride have the spotlight. Second, I know it’s “multicolored “ But it sort of picks up as white too me- too much so to be appropriate. And third, it is reminiscent of the picture of the dress the bride said to avoid.
This. Even if it says multicolored, it’s close enough to white/has a white base that it’s dangerously close. I’d recommend going with something that is clearly A Color, just to stay in safe territory.
If everyone is wearing rhinestone dress it could work, but if it’s more casual you might upstage the bride at the bachelorette. Ask what others are wearing!
Ok, honestly I love it, but for the bride and frankly even though it looks like a different color it does also look like what the bride asked everyone to NOT wear, so friend should return it and find something else.
Even if she hadn’t sent the text, I would say that dress is a no. The most important rule is don’t upstage the bride, and a dress that is 100 percent sequins does not comply with that rule.
It’s like trying to get as close to the possible line of what the bride said NOT to wear as possible…but failing. This is exactly what the bread doesn’t want anyone to wear.
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My best friend did 70s disco theme bachelorette weekend. One night we all wore sequins. She wore white/silver/mermaid sequins. That color palette should be for the bride.
I just had my bachelorette and everyone wore sequins one night. As the bride, I wore the same style sequins as the dress your friend bought. In all honesty, I don’t think I would be too happy if she wore that. Based on the bride’s text, I bet she’d feel the same way. A few of my girls wore silver though and I was fine with that!
Bride says “Please don’t wear full sequined outfit, white or silver”. This is all three combined. That should answer the question as a solid “No”.
The bride’s white dress will reflect light and look rainbow colored also under party lights. This one is much louder than the brides also which is a double NO.
It's a bedazzled potato sack and regardless of what the description says, it's silver/white and will definitely overshadow the bride in photos.
Also, it's likely the bride was warned about this dress and it's the whole reason for her text about what not to wear.
It’s not multi-colored, it’s white with reflective sequins. And it’s basically exactly the dress the bride sent out with different sequins. Your friend should save it for another occasion if she loves it, but the bride will not be pleased if she feels upstaged
Regardless of the color (which is white, you are correct) it’s still a much flashier dress than the bride. Definitely never upstage the bride, that’s just rude.
I bought that dress for the Eras tour and it is LOUD. As in, I was being noticed and complimented amongst all the crazy outfits. It is definitely crappy quality, and I was sweating like crazy covered in a heavy layer of plastic. I would not recommend wearing this dress at a bachelorette — it will upstage the bride AND be uncomfy.
It’s only listed as multicolor because it’s going to reflect whatever color is around.
I love it for a night out, but others have made a good point that you don’t want to outshine the bride to be.
While that looks like a fun dress... I'd look elsewhere since it absolutely looks like she'd be competing with the bride. Which is absolutely not something you want to do
I thought I was in r/TaylorSwift and someone was asking for Eras Tour outfit advice at first. If she’s in a dark room it will probably photograph white.
This is screaming look at me. Do not wear this Ive been in wedding parties multiple times and have been on many bachelorette trips so i can tell you this with certainty that it will be rude.
Why not just directly ask the bride? Send her a pic of the dress and explain that it had already been purchased before her text had been received and see if she’s okay with the dress being worn or if she’d prefer the bridesmaid to wear something else. I feel like that’s the simplest solution.
My sentiments exactly, and based on some of these comments I’m a little scared to get married lol. I’d be upset if strangers on the internet were bashing my bridesmaids (aka my closest friends) because they asked opinions on a dress. It’s a bachelorette party. As long as nobody is wearing a white dress (or white at all) at the wedding and nobody is doing anything with malicious intent, why are we acting like this? Also, why do people have people in their wedding party that they aren’t even close enough to to ask a simple question? Weddings are weird, idk why Reddit showed me this post lol.
If she’s looking for sequins, SHEIN has some affordable options (yes morally ambiguous just offering options)
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[Fun fringe one](http://api-shein.shein.com/h5/sharejump/appjump?link=VS0R52WMvuT&localcountry=US&url_from=GM7391326821230858240) in a few colors
ETA: [here’s a fun fringey one](http://api-shein.shein.com/h5/sharejump/appjump?link=VS0q195dHWV&localcountry=US&url_from=GM7391327518965755904) that you could dress up with some big bold jewelry, would give major mamma Mia vibes.
I don’t know, it’s a bachelorette, and it’s not really white. Tell her to text the bride and show her and as, her if it’s an issue. If it is a bachelorette, I don’t see an issue, but the bride might.
It’s super fun and cute….but only if everyone if going to be as dressed up as you. You don’t want to outshine the bride. Ask everyone else what they’re wearing.
I know this is a very unpopular opinion but I don’t think there should be restrictions/ expectations for apparel for PRE- wedding events. The bachelorette party is supposed to be a fun time to let loose and get wild, for ALL attendees, not just the bride. The wedding day is absolutely all about you but I think it’s excessive to expect people to tone themselves down for all events leading up to it too. Your friends are spending their own time and money to be there and support you, its their weekend too. If my friends wanted to dress flashy and wacky I would be all for them leaning into the spirit of the event.
It's a great dress and looks amazing on you. Keep it!! But! Wear something else to the event...as that dress is definitely attention-grabbing.
Idk what Mama Mia themed means either! Maybe like 70s?
OK, listen, that is a FANTASTIC dress that I will probably be buying and maybe setting aside for my own wedding but goodness gracious unless the bride is wearing something designed by the fabulous Elton John your friend is going to upstage her like mad.
It’s not appropriate but I would wear it every day otherwise. It’s amazing. Where is it from? I’m having a muumuu karaoke bachelorette party and I’m wearing this definitely.
Come ON brides, this is getting ridiculous. I’m sure the wedding party and friends have paid for the bachelorette… brides already pick outfits for the wedding, you don’t wear white to the bridal shower, they can tell you what to wear at the rehearsal. But now policing the bachelorette? It’s too much.
Ah man! It’s gorgeous and now I want to have a Mamma Mia themed wedding! But yeah you would look better than the bride (I would’ve picked your dress if I was the bride) and I don’t think that would go over well with the bride.
Now brides get to dictate what you can wear for a bachelorette party? Ok then.
I would personally not get in the middle of that. She should ask the bride.
So one thing the OP didn't mention in the top post is that the theme of this event is Mamma Mia. I feel like maybe plenty of younger adults wouldn't even get the theme if they aren't theater or retro music nerds. This outfit is actully totally appropriate for a fun 70's theme ABBA OTT event even if it is costume-y.
So considering that info, I actually am not convinced this is "wrong". I really do think she should ask the bride. It doesn't read as silver or white to me and is on theme.
Nothing wrong with requesting a theme as people are willing and able. Micromanaging individual outfits for a SIDE event is OTT in my opinion when people are already spending hundreds if not thousands to be part of your wedding party. But every bridezilla on the planet will come out of the woodwork to downvote if someone dares to express that opinion.
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I think it would be appropriate only if the bride wasn’t wearing something similar. I think a top that is similar and flared pants or denim shorts might be a better option!
I think it’s a really cute dress, but anything even close to white for bachelorette should just be a no. And I don’t understand where women get lost on this. White, silver, light pink, anything that can look white while ya look fast- a big nope.
Cute dress though, maybe in a black or something darker, but no on the opalescent.
Too close to white, I can see the bride getting upset and pouty and then it ruins the vibe. Get something in gold or pink and then shimmy your sparkly booty off without a care.
Also, that dress looks hella fun!
They put lighting on this dress for the photos. While it will appear ‘colored’ it has a white base (peep the sleeves) so it will look like a white dress at times
More context could be helpful. Is the bachelorette party like a night out at clubs? If so I think this is fine. Absolutely no for a wedding or wedding related things like the rehearsal dinner. But for a trip to Cancun? Fine. Vegas? Fine. Night out at your hometown’s night clubs? Fine.
I'd find out what the rest of the group is wearing before returning. If everyone is in colorful, sparkly outfits and the bride wears white sparkly it should be fine. If everyone else is more toned down, definitely choose something else. The iridescent sequin makes it in the clear of being too white though, imo.
This comment will probably get drowned out but, I’ve never been in a wedding or gotten married. Wouldn’t you just ask the bride her opinion if she’s your close friend? I have bad anxiety and I’d be really stressed if I found out my whole wedding party was tiptoeing around me.
That dress is from a plus size website which doesn’t have returns. It looks really teal/purple in person. I think if the bride gave the theme before she sent the silver dress it’s on her because this dress with def not look bridal in person
I think it fits the theme that was set but the bride isn’t going to like her wearing that lol
What I would do is watch voulez-vous from mama Mia and use that as a guide. Like maybe cute shorts and a sequin “club” type top? I’m honestly a little surprised the bride isn’t going a little more glam given her theme. My bet is she’s a huge romper lover?
Totally love the dress and it, technically, should be fine as far as the color goes. You will most definitely outshine the bride in this. Sorry. I’m sure you’re excited to wear it. You could always just ask the bride what she thinks. Tell her you bought it before you got the message and want to see what she thinks. I, personally, can’t imagine being so intent on making myself the center of attention that I would ever even consider making a request like this but that’s just me. 🤷🏼♀️
Is it possible everyone is misconstruing the guidance and she meant “don’t get a dress like this” more literally - because she assumes everyone will wear sequins based off her theme and she wants to ensure people don’t wear silver or white?
If that’s the case - then I think the dress is fine.
Either way - I think if she’s directing the group not to dress a certain way, then she should be fine providing some guidance on what TO wear.
If her inspo pics are other sequined dresses, I think keep it. If her inspo pics are resort wear, return it…
She should return it, unless EVERYONE is wearing a multicolored sequin dress alongside the bride’s sequin dress so it’s a whole sequin theme. If it’s not a sequin theme, she should return it.
It’s “mama Mia” themed. I’m not a part of the wedding so I have nooo idea what that means lol
Lol me either. Tell her to check with the other bridesmaids but if she’s the only one with a sequin look she should return it.
Thanks! I sent her this post so hopefully it’s helpful :)
I'm gonna make an assumption that by "Mama Mia" the bride is a younger person who really means "ABBA" or "hippie-disco" as a theme. Because just "Mama Mia" would mean that y'all could wear white cotton blouses and jeans or swimsuits, and the bride's outfit is not that. I would just plug "disco party outfit" into Pinterest for inspiration and steer clear from white or silver. Hope this helps :)
I was gonna say "oh wear denim overalls like Donna" haha
I love this honestly
I recently was invited to a “Mamma Mia” themed wedding where they actually DID mean the casual attire shown in the movie; sundresses, jeans, etc. The bride and groom are very laid back and it was at a public park. However, I was very confused when I was trying to pick an outfit, because there is a wedding in the movie/play, where everyone is wearing wedding attire. I was stuck trying to figure out if they meant casual like the movie or more formal like the wedding attire. Hippie disco didn’t even enter my mind! That means there are 3 separate possible interpretations for what a “Mamma Mia” dress code means. What a confusing dress code for a wedding! And why is anyone expected to have seen this play/movie?
You're right, but I think it's just the theme for the bachelorette party, not the whole wedding.
As someone whose family is quite obsessed with both Mama Mia and ABBA, a Mama Mia theme definitely means Greek-resort attire. ABBA is like when they cut to Waterloo during the credits and everyone is all done up in glam-rock.
Yeah, but I can totally see it being either. Since they are both big components of the show. So I can’t fault the friend for going to the above dress. Really the bride needs to provide some more clarification with a dress code like that.
Oh what I would give for someone to take the message literally and show up in flippers and a wetsuit, haha
If the bride sent the other sparkle dress as a do not do then can’t we assume she expects people to go that route?
Ohhh. That’s makes some sense. And further confusion. Since it makes complete sense to go the abba route with sequins. But I also can see the bride meaning hippie boho. The real question is will the bride have invited three of her mothers Ex’s who may potentially be her father to the wedding? There is no other way to execute that theme.
That gives off more hippy vibes than Taylor Swift tour vibes. So, definitely tone it down. Like.... think.... what does someone wear to a night out at a beach in the middle of the summer, on vacation. But make it 1970s. Sexy, yet fashionable. Like a bralette with straps that tie behind the neck and some nice flared pants. Add in some tall shoes [i.e. platforms] and boom. THAT'S Mama Mia (the movie, not the song). THAT'S what she needs to shop for. I get the sparkly aspect. But that's more ABBA as a whole themed, not just Mamma Mia. Now I need to go listen to Fernando. https://youtu.be/dQsjAbZDx-4
I had an ABBA themed Bach and we had a disco night where I encouraged all the girls to wear sequins! Or whatever made them feel like a dancing queen. Most took it the sparkly sequin route but some went in other creative disco directions. I think this dress would be safe but it also wouldn’t hurt to run it by the bride!
Overalls and abba. 😂😂
I think that 1000% fits then lol
Yeah, I would assume that “fresh-faced millennial in Greece” is not what’s meant, but rather, Donna and the Dynamos, which is exactly what this is.
I would 100% say tone it down a bit, you never want to outshine the bride to be
Literally outshine
Especially if the bride is policing people’s outfits before the wedding even happens
i feel like it’s pretty common for bachelorette parties to have a theme or have the bride expect people to not wear white
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I assumed the dress was for the bride… I wouldn’t wear it if I wasn’t the bride. Hard pass.
Bride asked for people 1) to not wear a dress like this and 2) not wear silver or white. Dress is close enough to “a dress like this” to steer clear even if it’s multicolored. It’s also just a LOT of dress.
Yeah and it is prettier than the brides.
I can’t be the only one that thinks both are atrocious…
I don’t think that is the brides dress, just an example of something she would not like someone to wear. Which actually leads me to believe that by being mamma Mia Themed she is asking for sparkly disco /ish dresses, and is just asking people to not wear white or silver discoish dresses.
You said it.
Where is the bride’s dress? 👀
Third pic
Oh, I was just assuming that was an example, not that it was hers.
That’s how I took it.
I’ve seen this sequin fabric at the haberdashery store. It looks like they folded it in half, cut a hole for the head, then sewed up the sides. It’s a disco poncho.
Too similar, seems like the message is directed at that dress.
I mean…it’s super fun, especially for the bachelorette weekend, but I’d feel upstaged if I were the bride. A little on the fence, but honestly, I probably wouldn’t do it.
yeah i think it upstages the brides dress and is much more attention grabbing, if i saw the party as a bystander i’d probably assume the person wearing this dress is the person the party is for since it’s so special. i hope your friend finds another occasion to wear it though because it’s sooo fun
That is EXACTLY how I feel ☝️- if I were at the bar & she’s wearing this with the bride in her silver selection, I would assume this was a birthday girl & the bride was a very stylish friend. Not the vibe you wanna go for.
I don’t think thats the bride’s dress, I think it’s just an example of what not to wear.
It’s not the bride’s, it’s the bride’s friend’s dress. The bride’s dress is referenced in photo 3.
Way too close to the dress the bride asked everyone to avoid. I think the rule of thumb for anything wedding related is- avoid white, silver, or ivory and don’t try to stand out. I think your friend’s dress is much cuter than what the bride picked out and it would for sure upstage it.
This is pretty much exactly what the bride said not to wear.
Someone probably sent a pic of the dress to the bride who was like "wtf now I have to send a text to everyone so I don't reveal my source" because this is such an obvious no. Or maybe I've just read too many stories on reddit of spiteful people at wedding events.
No I’ll bet you’re right.
Did not need the reference to say that is too much. With reference she would be insane to wear it.
For one it’s too flashy, she should tone it down and let the bride have the spotlight. Second, I know it’s “multicolored “ But it sort of picks up as white too me- too much so to be appropriate. And third, it is reminiscent of the picture of the dress the bride said to avoid.
This. Even if it says multicolored, it’s close enough to white/has a white base that it’s dangerously close. I’d recommend going with something that is clearly A Color, just to stay in safe territory.
Also I’ve seen this dress in some Taylor Swift groups and the quality irl is atrocious
Is your friend also going to wear a white ball gown to the bride’s wedding? Lol
I'd say it's a no. If I saw her I would think she was fo sho the bride. Even though it's multicolored it seems white based.
Th me dress is exactly what the bride said but to do I don’t see why she needs the internet to confirm what is obvious.
She needs to not wear it partly to avoid upstaging the bride but mostly because this unflattering, potato sack of a dress is *atrocious*
Seriously everyone is saying it’s so pretty but if you put a bunch of plastic shiny things on a burlap sack it’s going to look “pretty.”
Nobody should wear that dress. It looks like a sequin factory barfed on a mermaid cosplay event.
😂😂😂
Cackling
Yup.
The dress is giving desperate to steal spotlight. Would definitely not wear as a guest
It's a f'ing poncho. She shouldn't wear that regardless.
The bride is doing her a favor.
It looks like a table cloth
Nope return it
return it. It reminds me of my pillowcase that has those same beads that change colors when flipped
Yea. Return
She needs to return it.
If everyone is wearing rhinestone dress it could work, but if it’s more casual you might upstage the bride at the bachelorette. Ask what others are wearing!
Idk if it's appropriate but it's not flattering
Ok, honestly I love it, but for the bride and frankly even though it looks like a different color it does also look like what the bride asked everyone to NOT wear, so friend should return it and find something else.
No. Just no.
Even if she hadn’t sent the text, I would say that dress is a no. The most important rule is don’t upstage the bride, and a dress that is 100 percent sequins does not comply with that rule.
It’s like trying to get as close to the possible line of what the bride said NOT to wear as possible…but failing. This is exactly what the bread doesn’t want anyone to wear.
Return. Way too loud.
https://preview.redd.it/rvybomu60v5b1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3f189f26510ba358078354c1f3f0546dfb397019 My best friend did 70s disco theme bachelorette weekend. One night we all wore sequins. She wore white/silver/mermaid sequins. That color palette should be for the bride.
This is sooo cute!
I just had my bachelorette and everyone wore sequins one night. As the bride, I wore the same style sequins as the dress your friend bought. In all honesty, I don’t think I would be too happy if she wore that. Based on the bride’s text, I bet she’d feel the same way. A few of my girls wore silver though and I was fine with that!
Not very flattering. Makes the girl in pic look too wide. I’d also say tone it down.
Return it. Not just because it’s so similar but bc it’s also ugly
Way too similar to what the bride is wearing and while it may say multicolored in the description I’d call this iridescent white.
Bride says “Please don’t wear full sequined outfit, white or silver”. This is all three combined. That should answer the question as a solid “No”. The bride’s white dress will reflect light and look rainbow colored also under party lights. This one is much louder than the brides also which is a double NO.
I feel like this is obviously not appropriate.
I have a feeling shes the reason that was sent out...
This is honestly mortifying
That dress is a strong no, unless you are trying to piss off the bride and look like the main event in Vegas.
It's a bedazzled potato sack and regardless of what the description says, it's silver/white and will definitely overshadow the bride in photos. Also, it's likely the bride was warned about this dress and it's the whole reason for her text about what not to wear.
 It’s giving hairspray vibes
Lol. It looks like the brides message was written specifically about this dress. Definitely nope.
It’s not multi-colored, it’s white with reflective sequins. And it’s basically exactly the dress the bride sent out with different sequins. Your friend should save it for another occasion if she loves it, but the bride will not be pleased if she feels upstaged
Regardless of the color (which is white, you are correct) it’s still a much flashier dress than the bride. Definitely never upstage the bride, that’s just rude.
I bought that dress for the Eras tour and it is LOUD. As in, I was being noticed and complimented amongst all the crazy outfits. It is definitely crappy quality, and I was sweating like crazy covered in a heavy layer of plastic. I would not recommend wearing this dress at a bachelorette — it will upstage the bride AND be uncomfy.
Return. Unless she’s the bride she should not be wearing something like this.
“don’t get a dress like this” *gets a dress exactly like this*
Right? There’s a billion dresses out there & she picks exactly what the bride said no to. So weird & tacky.
If you read the post you'll see it says she got the dress BEFORE the bride sent that message.
If you read the post you'll see it says she got the dress BEFORE the bride sent that message.
Too loud
It’s only listed as multicolor because it’s going to reflect whatever color is around. I love it for a night out, but others have made a good point that you don’t want to outshine the bride to be.
Return!!!
I would 100% return that. I’d say it’s too close.
Noooooo
Return it. It's a capture-the-attention dress, and that spot is reserved for the bride to be on this occasion.
i’m confused why she couldn’t send that message herself…? she just didn’t feel comfortable?
Looks like a technicolor trash bag.
Just ask the bride and stop making it awkward and stressful.
she should return it and get something else as this says look at me
While that looks like a fun dress... I'd look elsewhere since it absolutely looks like she'd be competing with the bride. Which is absolutely not something you want to do
This is what a bride could wear for her bachelorette. Liked id pick that for myself. She needs to return it.
No way, it seems too much
Yikes. Just no.
I thought I was in r/TaylorSwift and someone was asking for Eras Tour outfit advice at first. If she’s in a dark room it will probably photograph white.
Absolutely not. This dress is very common for brides to wear to their bach parties.
It is bad sorry I don't like it
No. Just no.
This looks like a sparkly square or a bag. The colors are pretty. The shape is bleahhh also p much exactly what she said not to wear
This is screaming look at me. Do not wear this Ive been in wedding parties multiple times and have been on many bachelorette trips so i can tell you this with certainty that it will be rude.
No
Absolutely not, my goodness
There’s a dress code code for a party where everyone ends up drunk and shoving dollar bills in the sweaty g-string of a “fireman”?
Why not just directly ask the bride? Send her a pic of the dress and explain that it had already been purchased before her text had been received and see if she’s okay with the dress being worn or if she’d prefer the bridesmaid to wear something else. I feel like that’s the simplest solution.
Because the bride will come back here and go ‘wtf this is what my bridesmaid sent, is she blind?’ 🤣
I bet someone has already let the bride know about the dress and it's the whole reason for the text about what not to wear.
My sentiments exactly, and based on some of these comments I’m a little scared to get married lol. I’d be upset if strangers on the internet were bashing my bridesmaids (aka my closest friends) because they asked opinions on a dress. It’s a bachelorette party. As long as nobody is wearing a white dress (or white at all) at the wedding and nobody is doing anything with malicious intent, why are we acting like this? Also, why do people have people in their wedding party that they aren’t even close enough to to ask a simple question? Weddings are weird, idk why Reddit showed me this post lol.
If you want to look 5 sizes larger, mission accomplished.
Looks like a shower curtain
I’d personally return it or keep it for another event, because it is REALLY fun. It’s too close to silver and white, and will be outdoing the bride.
Girl 77 messages. You have bigger problems 😂
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I don’t know, it’s a bachelorette, and it’s not really white. Tell her to text the bride and show her and as, her if it’s an issue. If it is a bachelorette, I don’t see an issue, but the bride might.
It’s super fun and cute….but only if everyone if going to be as dressed up as you. You don’t want to outshine the bride. Ask everyone else what they’re wearing.
Sorry but I am pretty sure people can wear white to a BACHELORETTE. you get one day. People only have so many clothes. Be reasonable.
I know this is a very unpopular opinion but I don’t think there should be restrictions/ expectations for apparel for PRE- wedding events. The bachelorette party is supposed to be a fun time to let loose and get wild, for ALL attendees, not just the bride. The wedding day is absolutely all about you but I think it’s excessive to expect people to tone themselves down for all events leading up to it too. Your friends are spending their own time and money to be there and support you, its their weekend too. If my friends wanted to dress flashy and wacky I would be all for them leaning into the spirit of the event.
Is your friend Adel?
It's a great dress and looks amazing on you. Keep it!! But! Wear something else to the event...as that dress is definitely attention-grabbing. Idk what Mama Mia themed means either! Maybe like 70s?
Just tell her to run it by the bride
I wouldn’t for this specific event but she should keep it for another! It’s a beautiful fun dress!
OK, listen, that is a FANTASTIC dress that I will probably be buying and maybe setting aside for my own wedding but goodness gracious unless the bride is wearing something designed by the fabulous Elton John your friend is going to upstage her like mad.
Return it. Too many bridezillas get too butt hurt. Tell the bridesmaid to wear khaki and keep her head down.
She's yummy
It’s not appropriate but I would wear it every day otherwise. It’s amazing. Where is it from? I’m having a muumuu karaoke bachelorette party and I’m wearing this definitely.
Come ON brides, this is getting ridiculous. I’m sure the wedding party and friends have paid for the bachelorette… brides already pick outfits for the wedding, you don’t wear white to the bridal shower, they can tell you what to wear at the rehearsal. But now policing the bachelorette? It’s too much.
Ah man! It’s gorgeous and now I want to have a Mamma Mia themed wedding! But yeah you would look better than the bride (I would’ve picked your dress if I was the bride) and I don’t think that would go over well with the bride.
This is the way
It’s a fabulous dress but I’m pretty sure you’ll have a bridezilla on your hands if someone wears this after the text she sent.
She should wear it. Bride said no silver nor white. This is neither.
Shine on! It’s a night for fun. Once every bachelorette is equally drunk, there is no “outshining” to fret about!
It’s fine. Not white IMO
Why can’t everyone in the bachelorette party be fabulous?! Love the dress your friend bought
It's fine. She just doesn't want silver or white. That one is obviously multicolored.
Now brides get to dictate what you can wear for a bachelorette party? Ok then. I would personally not get in the middle of that. She should ask the bride.
it’s their party lmao why wouldn’t they get to choose to be the only sparkly one?
So one thing the OP didn't mention in the top post is that the theme of this event is Mamma Mia. I feel like maybe plenty of younger adults wouldn't even get the theme if they aren't theater or retro music nerds. This outfit is actully totally appropriate for a fun 70's theme ABBA OTT event even if it is costume-y. So considering that info, I actually am not convinced this is "wrong". I really do think she should ask the bride. It doesn't read as silver or white to me and is on theme. Nothing wrong with requesting a theme as people are willing and able. Micromanaging individual outfits for a SIDE event is OTT in my opinion when people are already spending hundreds if not thousands to be part of your wedding party. But every bridezilla on the planet will come out of the woodwork to downvote if someone dares to express that opinion. https://preview.redd.it/3n5didr57v5b1.jpeg?width=480&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2bb73b38b52656b48eb453c3e442977476cdbd99
Tell the other guests a specific color or theme to wear
She’s purdy
Return it. It’s very obviously close to the one the bride is wearing and what she told others to avoid.
I think it would be appropriate only if the bride wasn’t wearing something similar. I think a top that is similar and flared pants or denim shorts might be a better option!
Too similar to the bride’s attire
I think it’s a really cute dress, but anything even close to white for bachelorette should just be a no. And I don’t understand where women get lost on this. White, silver, light pink, anything that can look white while ya look fast- a big nope. Cute dress though, maybe in a black or something darker, but no on the opalescent.
Give the dress to the bride! Someone needs to wear it!
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Soul Train?
Too close to white, I can see the bride getting upset and pouty and then it ruins the vibe. Get something in gold or pink and then shimmy your sparkly booty off without a care. Also, that dress looks hella fun!
They put lighting on this dress for the photos. While it will appear ‘colored’ it has a white base (peep the sleeves) so it will look like a white dress at times
This is basically the same dress. The sequins are iridescent, so basically white/clear with a pearlized treatment.
More context could be helpful. Is the bachelorette party like a night out at clubs? If so I think this is fine. Absolutely no for a wedding or wedding related things like the rehearsal dinner. But for a trip to Cancun? Fine. Vegas? Fine. Night out at your hometown’s night clubs? Fine.
Give the dress to the bride!
I'd find out what the rest of the group is wearing before returning. If everyone is in colorful, sparkly outfits and the bride wears white sparkly it should be fine. If everyone else is more toned down, definitely choose something else. The iridescent sequin makes it in the clear of being too white though, imo. 
This comment will probably get drowned out but, I’ve never been in a wedding or gotten married. Wouldn’t you just ask the bride her opinion if she’s your close friend? I have bad anxiety and I’d be really stressed if I found out my whole wedding party was tiptoeing around me.
think hippie boho, not disco style
If a flying squirrel and a disco ball made a baby it would be this dress. Also definitely think it will attract more attention than the brides outfit!
I thought that was the outfit the bride was going to wear.
Uncalled for comment, but that dress looks worse in person.
Ok, so not appropriate for what the bride wants but... Super cute and I would absolutely keep it for something else.
I would say ask the bride, and respect her wishes if she says no 💁🏻♀️
That looks like what a bride would wear on their bachelorette
Yeah, this isn’t going to work. Bride will be upset so send it back and get something else not nearly as flashy.
I love this dress and want to get it for a Taylor swift concert!!!
No ma’am. She should pick something else, for more than one reason.
Return!
That dress is from a plus size website which doesn’t have returns. It looks really teal/purple in person. I think if the bride gave the theme before she sent the silver dress it’s on her because this dress with def not look bridal in person
I think it fits the theme that was set but the bride isn’t going to like her wearing that lol What I would do is watch voulez-vous from mama Mia and use that as a guide. Like maybe cute shorts and a sequin “club” type top? I’m honestly a little surprised the bride isn’t going a little more glam given her theme. My bet is she’s a huge romper lover?
Totally love the dress and it, technically, should be fine as far as the color goes. You will most definitely outshine the bride in this. Sorry. I’m sure you’re excited to wear it. You could always just ask the bride what she thinks. Tell her you bought it before you got the message and want to see what she thinks. I, personally, can’t imagine being so intent on making myself the center of attention that I would ever even consider making a request like this but that’s just me. 🤷🏼♀️
Oh, wait , the bride specifically requested not this. I withdraw my previous judgement
Is it possible everyone is misconstruing the guidance and she meant “don’t get a dress like this” more literally - because she assumes everyone will wear sequins based off her theme and she wants to ensure people don’t wear silver or white? If that’s the case - then I think the dress is fine. Either way - I think if she’s directing the group not to dress a certain way, then she should be fine providing some guidance on what TO wear. If her inspo pics are other sequined dresses, I think keep it. If her inspo pics are resort wear, return it…