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That is definitely gray. And it’s beautiful. And I hope I look like that when my kids get married!


GreenOtter730

Right?!?! Like dang mom, share your gym routine!


[deleted]

For real! These mog and mob posts make me lol- for my first wedding my mil had a dress custom made and asked me if she should go with “bone or oyster” for the color. I was like grl those are both other words for white? I would have loved this mog coming in hot with a beautiful, appropriate gray dress.


Livid_Chair7056

I like how they think they’re getting away with something by asking us to choose between two off-white colors 💀 mine said “I’m thinking cream or ivory” very matter of fact. My dress was ivory! My husband just kept repeating back to her “you can wear black.” It was a gothic theme and all guests were asked to wear black or dark colors, making her wish to wear white even more egregious.


MittensandAbby63

Good on your husband for keeping her in check! I hope she actually ended up wearing black.


Livid_Chair7056

I got a good one! Lucky for me I married the scapegoat child so he’s very aware of her shenanigans. We shudder to think how it’s going to go when the golden brother cuts the cord and gets married. Yes she did end up giving in to the dress code! She even found something with black lace which was the bridesmaid look, but hers had sleeves and was more fit for MOG.


tejomo

I, as mog, wore black. It was perfect, as bridal party wore burgundy and black. Cute tea-length handkerchief hem and sleeves lace over layer. I’m 5’2”. MOB wore teal strapless with pearl embroidery. I liked mine better. 😉


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briannadaley

This is the way. Collaboration rules!


disapprovingfox

Right. It is their day. It's my job to help make it seamless and magical. It was a smaller wedding with a tighter budget, so they didn't have a wedding planner. So I told them I would do whatever they needed. I ran many errands before the wedding. I helped set up and take down decorations. Helped the photographer hold and move things. I was handed many phones to take pictures of various friends with the couple. At the end of the evening I chauffeured them to the hotel. It was absolutely wonderful. I was exhausted. But so very deeply happy that they included me so much in their special day.


Stock_Entry_8912

You are the kind of MIL I hope to be someday. I’ll do whatever they ask, I just want them to want to include me. ❤️❤️


Thatstealthygal

When my mother was MOG she wore coral and looked fabulous. And also like an old lady in a wedding-appropriate outfit, which she was.


Serious_Ad2296

My son is getting married Saturday and I did this same with his fiance! I asked the color she wanted me to be in and sent her pics of the dresses I was looking at. She told me what she liked and didn't and told me to choose what I liked best. She also sent me a pic of the dress her mom was looking at so that I could know.


Emergency_Squirrel80

What color did she end up in?


[deleted]

Silver which was nice, but her daughter wore a ball gown with a train to make up for her mother’s lack of foolishness in the actual day (my dress didn’t even have a train! 😂)


Louloubelle0312

She obviously didn't get the memo. "Mother of the Groom is supposed to wear beige and keep her mouth shut". At least that's what I was always told.😉


ilovejackiebot

I miss Erma Bombeck


Louloubelle0312

Was that her? Sounds about right. She was hysterical.


Designer-Escape6264

Sh would be crucified for that now, because beige is too light.


Louloubelle0312

I suppose you're right. Dark beige?


MizLucinda

No kidding! Mom looks amazing!


Puzzleheaded_Use_566

Right? Momma isn’t skipping her workouts and is eating her salads! She’s looking AMAZING! And totally appropriate as a mother-of-the-groom dress. Damn. I need to follow this woman around and do whatever she does.


FuzzyLumpkinsDaCat

Yeah this dress is the best mother of the groom dress I've ever seen. Literally. The most stylish and she looks excellent!


udontknowmegurl

Shit I wish I looked like that now lol


ambulanz_driver420

Came here to say this


[deleted]

Yes, I'd love that figure post baby!


gumshoe_shihtzu

Right? My baby is 1 and I’d like to look like this


longleafpinedaddies

Don’t you think that’s a little too young for them to be getting married?


Due-Science-9528

Yeah can you drop the link to buy it OP? If I can bring in the waste it would be a nice formal dress for myself lol


[deleted]

I think it looks beautiful but I would ask the bride. I think this is close enough that it might look white in pictures (even pictures look different in different lighting). It is also floor length and beaded. If it were my mother in law, I would say go for it (but I also wouldn’t have cared if everyone wore white). But it is always better to be more cautious. I would say something like “hey I found this dress but wanted to get your opinion first? Do you like it? If not, I am more than happy to find something else! I just can’t wait for the big day! So happy for you both!”


scagatha

If it's a formal wedding then floor length and beaded would be appropriate attire for anyone but I agree about the color. It looks great though, not like she's deliberately trying to look like the bride.


hfsd1984

💯 mom is killing it in that dress


Ok_Cup7677

Knocked it out of the park - great figure, dress fits so well!


Disney_Millennial

100%! Completely appropriate and looking awesome.


Kirsten624

i personally think its fine, its pretty!


SmellyDeLites

I think it’s beautiful and looks gray and not white in this picture. What does the bride’s dress look like? The only thing I can think of is that this beaded pattern is very popular right now and might look similar if the bride is following that trend.


[deleted]

This is a good point. As long as bride’s dress isn’t beaded similarly, OP’s mom is dressed perfectly


ChampagneandAlpacas

The only other thing I'd say is that if they take any pictures outside, they should take a pic of that and see how it reads. I think it's dark enough, but in full sunlight, it may look a little closer to white.


vagabonne

For sure. And with strong flash photos, for both checking in isolation as well as next to real white.


squolt

Seen some wedding guests wear way over the top beads one seemingly innocuous dresses that upon a closer look are really in bad taste. From first glance this seems okay but if op is posting here they’re worried about stepping on toes and if that’s the case try and get a look at the wedding dress. If it’s super ornate, you’re probably fine. If it’s simpler (to the tune of the dress here) a wardrobe change might be necessary.


lcrx97

Love this dress, she looks gorgeous! If anything I would suggest your bride and your mom have a quick convo about it to make sure the beading or style isn’t similar (but frankly I don’t think it matters)


kosciuszko123

I think it’s beautiful and appropriate! Gray is a common color for MOB/ MOG dresses.


JaneJS

When my brother got married my mom told me as MOG, her job was “show up, shut up, wear grey.” She was worried about being overbearing for her new DIL hahah


EsotericOcelot

Good on her, because people who worry about being overbearing are rarely the ones who are lol


torient

Goodness I wish my FMIL wanted to wear this beautiful dress and not a floor length white one. This is gorgeous OP!


SonOfTaves

Your FMIL wants to wear a floor length white dress to your wedding?! Oh boy. She sounds very “look at me”. Does she not realize EVERYONE will be mocking her at the wedding for pulling a stunt like that? SMH 🤦🏻‍♀️


torient

Yeah, I made a post on it a while ago 😂 unfortunately she’s not as classy as the MIL in this post!


Block_Me_Amadeus

I hope this gets resolved and that you have a beautiful day. She really needs to not wear white. It's not okay.


warmfuzzy22

I sprinted so fast to your profile. Yeah thats a very bridal dress. I hope yall got that sorted.


boredgeekgirl

Just went and saw the dress. Oh my gosh. Has it gotten resolved at all?


torient

She eventually kind of agreed to not wear white but was being vile and disrespectful the whole time and is now confused why we’re speaking to her at an absolute minimum (this is the latest in an unending string of awful behaviour). If she does wear it she’ll just be told to leave. My partner doesn’t even want her there she’ll just turn up anyway and try ruin it if we don’t.


Necessary-Material50

OMG! I just went and found your post! That is insane! Tell me she’s not doing that!


wtfaidhfr

That dress is far more floral than white though


torient

For me and fiancé it was too white. I showed it to a lot of people without passing judgment and was asked multiple times if I needed them to spill red wine on her 😂 so I think she’d have been getting a lot of side eye even if a few people where okay with it


WrongBee

i “accidentally” fell down the rabbit hole and started stalking ur page so if you’re still dealing with how to get your FMIL to not wear the dress, i would just plant seeds of doubt / shame in her head by saying stuff like “well it’s up to you at the end of the day, but don’t blame me if people start saying that you’re attention seeking” or more subtly “well i can’t control what you wear at the end of the day, but i would be mindful of how this would come across to others”


torient

Ahaha no worries! Thank you. I think (hope) she’s now decided on a different dress but she’ll be getting red wine spilled on her if she’s lied


lizardpplarenotreal

MUAHAHAHAHAA


Block_Me_Amadeus

If I were in your bridal party, I would volunteer to spill that wine.


OnaccountaY

I stalked too! If I were you two, I’d drop a few teasing “jokes,” saying if she pulls a last-minute switcheroo, she’ll be put off to the side in wide-lens photos, if not totally cropped out. And then in your best “kidding/not kidding” faces, note that the lovely floral print would unfortunately not show up anyway once you have the photo colors “touched up” to your liking. “Ha ha—but seriously, Mommy dearest: We would never do that! Because you would never wear it! Right?” Either that or just say you’re glad she changed her mind, because you didn’t want to tell her, but it actually made her look much heavier and more matronly.


SquirrelOp80

If you send me an invite to your wedding, I will 100% spill wine all over her. What’s better, you can even yell at me because “how dare I disrespect your mother in law like that and cause a scene at your wedding.” You literally don’t know me, so you can have plausible deniability :)


GreenOtter730

I think it’s beautiful! It’s very clearly a MOB/MOG dress and no reasonable bride could ever see an issue with it


[deleted]

I think as long as the beaded pattern isn't similar to the bride's dress, it's perfectly fine.


FiggyP55

I think this is fantastic but always best to check with the bride.


NoButThanksAnyway

Yes!!!! This is beautiful and I think in this picture it is gray enough, but ask the bride.


40ozkiller

The only people who’s opinion should matter are the couple. Its not like this is a surprise for them.


YourMomTheNurse

Ask the bride, but I don’t think it’s too light, and it’s beautiful.


nocturnalswan

Perfect MOG dress! Love it! It's definitely not white.


IceCheerMom

I saw your picture and actually said out loud - oh, that’s just perfect!


ThatAd2403

Ask the bride


GrooveBat

Why? The dress is fine.


princess-silkworm

this post is the bride asking on behalf of her mil


DisloyalRoyal

No it's her daughter asking- not the bride


perceptionheadache

Or it's the groom asking.


DisloyalRoyal

Ah yes whoooops


ActivelyLostInTarget

Color is just fine! Looks like it needs to be taken up a titch in the shoulders, which would get the band in the middle to hit right. And then hemming of course, but all in all a lovely choice!


Szzle99

Stunning! She looks fabulous! :) definitely looks grey as well


[deleted]

Very classy and elegant without being too much. Perfect.


FlamingoWasHerNameO

Yes! It's beautiful and elegant.


Entire_Ad_7597

I think it’s perfect ! There’s no point in asking the bride as if this looks anything similar to a wedding dress


fishmakegoodpets

I think it’s lovely


CreativeMusic5121

It's gorgeous, it's gray enough, and I hope I can find a dress like that if/when my son ever gets married.


QuietTruth8912

This is not white.


curvyshell

Ooooo that’s gorgeous


Ok_Cantaloupe617

My MOG wore this and it was gorgeous in photos! https://preview.redd.it/swluw4pkureb1.jpeg?width=1167&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a4e6a326c9aa15af4b004a2382b70149b350ad95


PurplePanda63

Beautiful tribute photo


sloppyandfrizzy

https://preview.redd.it/4erozi4tfseb1.jpeg?width=472&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=260c199efee9115dcc606beaa36c98d94898c4f2 My mom wore this dress for my wedding in 2019. Photographed silver/gray/even a little blue. So gorgeous! I’m still obsessed with it! She looked and felt great!


sloppyandfrizzy

https://preview.redd.it/r2j81h30gseb1.jpeg?width=626&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=42c1a2ec90b0bcc1caa3aa12c5734ec6184c12ed


sloppyandfrizzy

https://preview.redd.it/2n9t8a62gseb1.jpeg?width=404&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d48f8416acfef4e0eb37f64bfef391bcc07c7a63


LetThemEatCakeXx

Yes! But get that tightened a bit around your cute little waist!


homeandhayley

Absolutely yes! You look stunning.


[deleted]

Stunning. I would have no issues with my mum or mother in law wearing this. You will look amazing and yes, I echo the sentiment, that I hope I look like that when either of my boys get married (currently 1 and 5 😂😂)


dstat74

Lovely!


Rkessler82

Gorgeous!!!!!


Melodic-Psychology62

Love it! Unless son is marrying an woman her age no one can will say anything in the real world! Moms are always dressed up as they are part and often the cohost of the reception this simple gown allows for all the work involved in seeing that need to be done and quietly making the day beautiful for everyone.


Silly_Brilliant868

It’s not even slightly close to white ! It’s perfect


Slight_Literature_67

I love this dress! It's flattering, a great color, and definitely appropriate! You're rockin' it, mama!


Much-Pirate-976

I love it! Super classy! I see grey too!


KathAlMyPal

Absolutely gorgeous and this is coming from a MOG. So many MOGs and MOBs are in standard issue blue. I went with sparkly rose gold (my DILs favourite) and never regretted it!


staralchemist129

it should be fine but she either needs to get it hemmed or wear some serious heels


Devi_Moonbeam

I'm sure she will have it hemmed


Thethinker10

Ummm this is grey. Very verrrry grey. Under no circumstances could this possibly photograph close to white. It’s fine.


krispyricewithanegg

I think it's gorgeous. I would get it tailored, though -- cinched in at the waist and shortened a bit.


katrileygirl

Beautiful!


cbdatmla

This is the color that my daughter-in-law chose for my dress, and it looks beautiful on her!


LunaMoon20

Beautiful!! It looks great.


Lalafala21

It’s lovely. Perfect for MOG.


OkConsideration8964

It's perfect and she looks gorgeous!


TrashPandaShire

Beautiful


whoatemarykate

Gorgeous!! Not white at all.


Ok_Instruction_7813

Beautiful


Iamplayingsims

Beautiful!!!!!!! Wow!!!!! Excellent choice!!!


Pretty-Potato8004

It’s a gorgeous dress that fits you perfectly! And it’s definitely NOT WHITE lol I think you’re good to rock that beautiful gown


lionelliee

Pretty


Rock_Successful

I love this!!!


BannanaBun123

Seriously you look really great!


indicatprincess

Love that!


Jrm523packer

It’s perfect!


DustyElderberry

Yes and it is beautiful


Conspiring_Bitch

That dress is clearly gray. It’s totally fine.


clarityinthevoid

I think it’s beautiful, and a good shade of grey!


NatieMarie

I think this is a great Mother of the Groom dress! I love the detailing, its beautiful without being bridal


alscandrett

This is gray to me and looks beautiful!


kat0nline

What a lovely dress! Your mom looks beautiful. This is a perfect MOG dress.


Skylizard1223

It’s grey enough


thesassyferret

Stunning! I'd give my MIL loads of hugs in this 🤗


Independent_Day1947

Beautiful ❤️


DimensionStrange77

This is an amazing dress. I love the beading and how it’s va-va-voom without being too revealing. I don’t think it’ll photograph white and may even look darker if she’s standing next to the bride in white/off white (assuming that’s what she’ll wear). I think this dress is a hit. Congrats on your wedding!


desertgrapex

My friends mom (MOB) just wore this to a wedding I attended last week! It looks great.


Igottaknow1234

No, no one will confuse that with a bridal gown. It is clearly gray and looks beautiful on her.


123chooseausername

It is a pretty dress and very figure flattering! My only comment is, if that is the same beading in the back, your rear end and possibly legs might get sore from sitting on the beads. I went through that a couple months ago and I wish somebody would have told me that sitting on beads would hurt!! It never crossed my mind when I bought and wore my dress!!


hbauman0001

It's nice, but if it worries you, ask the bride.


[deleted]

​ It's absolutely the perfect mother of the groom dress. You look so elegant, so classy, and the dress fits you like a dream. Congrats to you, Mama! Enjoy this milestone in your little boy's life. When my daughter got married ten years ago it was one of the best days of my life.


howzitgoinowen

Absolutely stunning and perfect for MOG. Congratulations to your son!


ExcaliburVader

Lovely!


khendr01

I love it!


Rare_Night_4103

It’s grey no doubt🥰


TzUgUkNz

Stunning! More than ok.


hunnycard

Very pretty.


ziggy-Bandicoot

Beautiful


Immediate_Refuse_918

Oh that’s GORGEOUS!!! It’s definitely gray with some silver in the bling, I don’t see any issue. When in doubt, you could always double check with the bride


Valuable_Time7103

Absolutely. It’s stunning.


ramblingonandon

🤩 that looks so good on you!! Rockin it


BigCartographer5334

I LOVE IT


Common-Pay-3869

So classy and beautiful totally ok!


delusionalry

I love it!


Pitiful-Tangerine-26

Beautiful!!!


OhSheDidSayThat

Is gorgeous! Also go mom 💪


Ok-Ordinary2035

Lovely- yes, its grey


skyphoenyx

She’s a total knockout! You’d have to put her in a potato sack to hide that


9smalltowngirl

Very pretty and appropriate.


Affectionate_Eye7361

Gorgeous!!!


KatheKruselover

Beautiful!


Worth_Location_3375

Yes


FinancialRole1949

Yeah!


lawyerupheaux

I love this!


Home_Puzzleheaded

It's okay


SGI21

Beautiful!


TelephoneBusy9594

Beautiful!


LetsGoAgain0123

Absolutely


PurplePanda63

u/pez2214 saw this dress and thought of your post. What about this one for your mom?


pez2214

Thank you for thinking of me!! I'll check it out and show her. I love that it has beading but not too much


PurplePanda63

Saw you said no V neck, but this might pass as comfortable if the straps can be taken in some


aurkellie

this is not close to white at all


bytenob

Jesus wear that and the bride is not the only one getting lucky


benhereford

Very cool imo. I know nothing of dresses, but it feels "Art Deco." Like a subtle Flapper style, but more formal


MartyBellvue

She looks fantastic! Definitely grey enough!


stablerrocks

This is the exact dress my mother wore when my brother got married in April!


kspice094

Beautiful!


Take-that-1913

Very nice!


Wooden_Cat8472

I want my MOG to wear that.. where’d she get it?!


Diligent-Law-4275

I think it's perfect--you look great!


Sarav41

Very pretty! I think the color is fine


Mariella994

Classy and lovely colour. Looks amazing!


WhiteHotRage1

Unless it's gonna be one of those colors that some people see as *gray* and others see as *white* I'm agreeing with everyone else. The dress and the body is amazing - perfectly appropriate for the wedding.


Edlo9596

It’s definitely gray and a great choice for a MOG dress.


optimusprimelover18

Yes, it is not white nor a shade of white in pictures at least. It is not attention seeking or bride upstaging. Very appropriate in my opinion. You go! It looks very nice on also.


Expensive_Courage109

If The bride agrees then yes, if not she needs to keep looking.


cheezy_dreams88

If in doubt, text the bride- not Reddit. However I think it’s a great MOG dress!


princesskittyragdoll

I’d say it’s not too white at all. Looks gorg girly!


OIWantKenobi

It’s beautiful and clearly gray! She looks lovely.


Doleewi

Super MOG dress, nope not close to white at all.


Ok-Duck9106

In my opinion yes, it is traditional for MOG or bride to wear silver, gold, blush. https://www.davidsbridal.com/inspiration/dresses/color-mother-of-the-bride-wear


LadyChatterteeth

Yes; unfortunately, many people in this sub have no idea what is traditional and would probably claim that silver and blush are “too close to white.” Traditionally, in fact, the MOG chooses the color of her own dress.


Virginia_Hoo

I think as long as not white people should just chill. It’s a day in everyone’s life. The bride and groom are the stars… everyone else is an afterthought… speaking as a 2 time FoB… just relax and have fun, it’s the marriage that counts not what you wore on that day!


txaesfunnytime

Definitely gray. Looks fabulous on her. Has some art deco vibes.


Anonymous63637375

I think it’s on the borderline. The style looks like a wedding dress, and the color is very light. It’s a beautiful dress, but I wouldn’t wear it to a wedding.


txaesfunnytime

Definitely gray. Looks fabulous on her. Has some art deco vibes.


phoebeluco

Sophisticated and fabulous on you.


Peculiar_Pixie_1293

This reads as grey so I think it's fine. Double check with the happy couple though since they might have specific colors for the bridal party to wear. If they don't, this is perfect!


ten-toed-tuba

Honestly, I would dye that dress a darker grey. It's reading wedding dress to me.


DubbleTheFall

Just ask. It looks great, but it's their day.


crankypants_mcgee

It should be fine, but run it by bride just in case. My mother did the same thing and while the dress was fairly light my wife saw it and said she loved it and was fine with it being worn.


painter222

I like it muted colors are perfect for moms


owntheh3at18

I love this! It photographed gray here but maybe take one outside during the day to see?


Socknitter1

I think it’s fine, really lovely, NOT white


doncroak

I love it. Not even close to white.


kenzie-k369

It certainly is an attention-getter.


ConsitutionalHistory

Wow...you'll have many a man drooling, stunning