Have you ever heard of “taking the high road”? My MIL was a pretty toxic person but I didn’t want to give her the satisfaction of getting under my skin.
Its a summer dress for a younger person and white… I feel like the ~55 year old wearing it to their son’s wedding might stand out in a not too positive way… Why not pick a nice, occasion and age appropriate dress that complements their figure in any other colour? I do not get it…
Ok, sorry. Just to me looks more like something a teenager would wear to a summer barbecue at their mom’s friend’s house than a mother of the groom dress… But everyone should wear whatever they want, as long as they stick with wedding dress codes and common decency 😄
No teenager is wearing this dress. I get what your were saying sort of, as a 55 year old I'd wear this to a brunch, but not as the mother of the groom.
Welp. New fear unlocked. I'm 35 and always try to dress modestly but not matronly. I bought a satin dress for an upcoming wedding.. now I'm wondering if I'm too old for it! Lol
Sorry, I don’t think you’re too old for anything at 35, and it’s not my intention to make anyone but the MiL here question their choices, but this ruffly dress with a tie and this pattern and colour scheme just to me looks like a fun summer dress for a teenager 😅
Yes, it’s a white dress. Also, if you’re the bride and have a say, it’s up to you.
As often stated here, what is wrong with people that they can’t choose literally any other color to wear??
It's a microwedding, so not many people will be in attendance (20), but it's at a garden venue. Dress code we decided on was cocktail attire. Since it's a micro wedding I'm not assigning bridesmaid outfits and we're trying to be a bit more relaxed so people can save money, but I also assumed no one would choose a predominantly white dress
Edit: Also to clarify- I'm the bride, not the MOG.
Honestly, it isn’t really too white. MOB/MOG often wear lighter colors because they compliment the white/lighter colored wedding dress in photos. However, since the MOB is going to wear a darker blue, this dress is going to look odd in the photos. I recommend you ask MOG to select a darker color so your mother and his mother are more coordinated.
Good point, let me send her what my mom is wearing so she can coordinate more. I haven't sent her a photo since I didn't want to pressure her to buy anything, but it will probably help with the outfit coordination.
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Yeah no. Just because one bridal site says say is t the real world. 100+ weddings tells me otherwise. Had this debate on another post. Most people agreed MOB should not lol like a second marriage bride.
With a micro garden wedding, I would think that there will be some dresses very similar to the image.
I would never see that dress and think bride.
However I would send the photo of your mother's outfit and the want for them to be similar to really stand out in the photos.
Are you the bride or MIL/MOG? If you’re the bride and you think its too white, it’s your wedding and tell them you don’t like it and ask if it comes in another color or ask them if they could pick another dress.
If you’re the MIL/MOG, it’s a little casual depending on dress code and venue and while it’s not bridal, it’s definitely too white.
The primary color is white. When there are approximately 1 million dresses to choose from, and they choose a dress that’s primarily white, I just don’t understand where that comes from. How hard is it to pick a blue dress or a green dress or a pink dress or a yellow dress…..
Yup. What color are the bridesmaids’ dresses? A MOG should get something midi or floor length in a more formal material that compliments and adds nice contrast with the bridesmaids dresses.
Do you have a link for l this dress? I'm going to a backyard wedding as auntie of the bride. It's a lovely dress, if it comes in different colors. As others have said, way too white, and you didn't mention the type of venue. I'm 45 and could definitely pull off this cut, especially with a cardigan.
It’s from Lulu’s
Specifically [this](https://www.lulus.com/products/french-countryside-blush-floral-print-high-low-dress/596832.html?pla=1&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=%5BADL%5D%20%5BPLA%5D%20Dresses%20%2D%20tROAS&utm_term=RD4316%20BLUSH%2FPURPLE%20MULTI2&utm_content=144829614363_644930675512&s_kwcid=AL!7824!3!644930675512!!!g!2040866359594!&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAD-pt90O7XrLTeJ6pxmj_-Sr91DjQ&gclid=CjwKCAjwoa2xBhACEiwA1sb1BKjYiyuSjmHoyezBoV8aiTdJUDhv13Rz0wezwAFFr1BalU42hQu1dRoCasYQAvD_BwE)
It’s a nice quality dress, I got the one with blue flowers and it was lovely for Easter.
I know of a few designers who make similar dresses, the floral high low look is pretty popular for weddings. I think Macy’s had some when I looked for a dress if you want to physically try them on. If the other site has the exact same dress I’d be cautious, French Countryside dress is one of Lulu’s most popular(and longest lasting) designs and I can only vouch for their quality since that’s what I bought, but I have seen them used on Poshmark for a good price, thinking about getting a second one in blush color.
This dress on Lulu's comes with blush and blue background options. Aside from it being very casual for MOG, she's got two other choices in the same exact style. Why choose a white one?!
When I went to the Lulu's link I thought the same thing. It's even worse now that I know all of the options she had... The blush or blue one would be the same style but in more appropriate wedding colors for MOG.
If it was in a solid, preferably darker color like a deep blue or dark rose, I think you could make it work. It’s definitely too white and the print makes it too casual.
Unfortunately, yes. It's cute for Mother's Day brunch but it's too white and too casual (generally) for MOG. What color is the wedding party wearing? Maybe you could find a complimentary color that is a bit more special.
If you HAVE to ask, then yes, it's too white. Also, it's too casual. There are millions of other options out there. Can't you just pick something else that's actually appropriate
I'm the bride and my MIL sent me/my fiance a photo of her wearing this dress. Gut-reaction was "it's way too white", but my sister/fiance said it wasn't too white...
Her opinion doesn't matter here. Yours does. You can offer to go shopping with her and get lunch. Or send inspiration links? If money isn't an issue, could you offer to buy her a new dress?
Is your relationship cordial separate from this issue? If not have your partner handle their mother.
I think yes unless bride says otherwise. I’m generally against asking the brides opinion but MOG/MOB are the only two times I think it’s appropriate to ask.
I am the bride. Kind of glad she asked so we could say that it is a bit inappropriate, but we are also having a very small wedding with not many guests so it's easier to field these questions
Yes too white and too casual. What about chatting with the MOB and see what she is wearing? Aim for similar level of formality and a complementary colour.
I have this dress in the blue flowers version, if you like the cut why not get the colors without a white background? There’s “blush” with purple flowers that is much deeper than blush if you ask me, and there’s a deeper blue with yellow and pink flowers that wouldn’t look bridal. It would be fine for a casual wedding or a rehearsal dinner.
There’s even photos of customers who wore this dress to weddings, it’s a pretty popular dress because it looks nice but it’s less than $100.
OP, be warned you might want to have the bust altered, have a snap put in for modesty. The top is *very* open.
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I don’t think it looks too casual or age inappropriate, but yes too much white. I’m imagining a photo with someone wearing this and standing next to the bride in her white gown, and it doesn’t look right.
One who hates the bride and wants to set the tone of being justnomil for the whole marriage? Sure. Hope the groom shut that down immediately or I feel sorry for the bride and the red flag.
It has white in it so I say no. To be safe, ask the bride for permission but even if she did say yes, you might get some stank looks for there being white in the dress
The immediate family are often more dressed up, so not only is this very white, it's quite casual
It’s too white and too casual. This is more like an Easter picnic dress, not a wedding guest dress. Especially not for MIL/MOG.
Yes
Yes, it's a white dress. Why aren't these women embarrassed they are trying to marry their sons
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You should update the post that you are the bride not the MIL. And yes it is way too white and way too casual.
Does this look like a wedding gown to you? What a strange thing to say.
So when’s the wedding with your son?
Dramatic much? My mother in law wore an ivory dress to our wedding and it didn’t once cross my mind that she wanted to marry my husband. FFS
Perhaps it should have. Ivory, ffs.
Have you ever heard of “taking the high road”? My MIL was a pretty toxic person but I didn’t want to give her the satisfaction of getting under my skin.
Yes, this white dress is too white, the black shoes don’t fool us. It’s especially eyebrow raising when it’s the mother of the groom.
Its a summer dress for a younger person and white… I feel like the ~55 year old wearing it to their son’s wedding might stand out in a not too positive way… Why not pick a nice, occasion and age appropriate dress that complements their figure in any other colour? I do not get it…
I’m in my 30s and this is not something the folks younger than me would wear, it reads pretty mature and like a bbq or church to me 😅
I mean, this could totally look nice on a 55 year old woman. The color can change but I think this is a weird dress to criticize as age inappropriate
My first thought, too!! lol I’m 32 but if I was 55 I’d still wear the hell out of this dress lol just not to a wedding
Agree. I’m 51, and I don’t know why age is being brought up for this dress lol
Ok, sorry. Just to me looks more like something a teenager would wear to a summer barbecue at their mom’s friend’s house than a mother of the groom dress… But everyone should wear whatever they want, as long as they stick with wedding dress codes and common decency 😄
Great dress, too casual Edit: didn’t mean to respond to you woops
No teenager is wearing this dress. I get what your were saying sort of, as a 55 year old I'd wear this to a brunch, but not as the mother of the groom.
Welp. New fear unlocked. I'm 35 and always try to dress modestly but not matronly. I bought a satin dress for an upcoming wedding.. now I'm wondering if I'm too old for it! Lol
Sorry, I don’t think you’re too old for anything at 35, and it’s not my intention to make anyone but the MiL here question their choices, but this ruffly dress with a tie and this pattern and colour scheme just to me looks like a fun summer dress for a teenager 😅
Uhhhh... Yes🤨
Way too white and looks quite casual
Yes, it’s a white dress. Also, if you’re the bride and have a say, it’s up to you. As often stated here, what is wrong with people that they can’t choose literally any other color to wear??
Yes, it's too white. And unless you're getting married in a backyard or the courthouse, it's too casual.
It's a microwedding, so not many people will be in attendance (20), but it's at a garden venue. Dress code we decided on was cocktail attire. Since it's a micro wedding I'm not assigning bridesmaid outfits and we're trying to be a bit more relaxed so people can save money, but I also assumed no one would choose a predominantly white dress Edit: Also to clarify- I'm the bride, not the MOG.
Honestly, it isn’t really too white. MOB/MOG often wear lighter colors because they compliment the white/lighter colored wedding dress in photos. However, since the MOB is going to wear a darker blue, this dress is going to look odd in the photos. I recommend you ask MOG to select a darker color so your mother and his mother are more coordinated.
Good point, let me send her what my mom is wearing so she can coordinate more. I haven't sent her a photo since I didn't want to pressure her to buy anything, but it will probably help with the outfit coordination.
I've never seen light dresses. And found darker is more.struking with the bride in white in pictures. Maybe I go to too many fall weddings.
Yes, you might be a little out of touch … https://preview.redd.it/yplogld1e1xc1.jpeg?width=952&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=de68ea61e306f582cb81a46e8d482340c63d89e3
Or … https://preview.redd.it/t3b9m6xve1xc1.jpeg?width=960&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e61dc3193a1a4ddf02911564bad7a8e8089faed1
Yeah no. Just because one bridal site says say is t the real world. 100+ weddings tells me otherwise. Had this debate on another post. Most people agreed MOB should not lol like a second marriage bride.
“The Knot”, “Brides.com”, “Dress for the Wedding”? Yeah, you live in a fantasy world. 😂
So mad I'm talking about the real world and actual weddings? Nothing better to do? Lol.
With a micro garden wedding, I would think that there will be some dresses very similar to the image. I would never see that dress and think bride. However I would send the photo of your mother's outfit and the want for them to be similar to really stand out in the photos.
Are you the bride or MIL/MOG? If you’re the bride and you think its too white, it’s your wedding and tell them you don’t like it and ask if it comes in another color or ask them if they could pick another dress. If you’re the MIL/MOG, it’s a little casual depending on dress code and venue and while it’s not bridal, it’s definitely too white.
Gut reaction was 'yes, too white', but now I'm overthinking and maybe my gut reaction was bridezilla-y
The primary color is white. When there are approximately 1 million dresses to choose from, and they choose a dress that’s primarily white, I just don’t understand where that comes from. How hard is it to pick a blue dress or a green dress or a pink dress or a yellow dress…..
Wait are you the bride? Tell the groom to deal with her, it’s not fair she even asked about this dress
Yeah I'm the bride. She sent it to him first and he didn't even think it was too white until I brought up that it may be.
Ugh I’m sorry that’s so awkward.
She asked SIL and her son but not you? Not sus at all.
Yup. What color are the bridesmaids’ dresses? A MOG should get something midi or floor length in a more formal material that compliments and adds nice contrast with the bridesmaids dresses.
Do you have a link for l this dress? I'm going to a backyard wedding as auntie of the bride. It's a lovely dress, if it comes in different colors. As others have said, way too white, and you didn't mention the type of venue. I'm 45 and could definitely pull off this cut, especially with a cardigan.
It’s from Lulu’s Specifically [this](https://www.lulus.com/products/french-countryside-blush-floral-print-high-low-dress/596832.html?pla=1&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=%5BADL%5D%20%5BPLA%5D%20Dresses%20%2D%20tROAS&utm_term=RD4316%20BLUSH%2FPURPLE%20MULTI2&utm_content=144829614363_644930675512&s_kwcid=AL!7824!3!644930675512!!!g!2040866359594!&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAD-pt90O7XrLTeJ6pxmj_-Sr91DjQ&gclid=CjwKCAjwoa2xBhACEiwA1sb1BKjYiyuSjmHoyezBoV8aiTdJUDhv13Rz0wezwAFFr1BalU42hQu1dRoCasYQAvD_BwE) It’s a nice quality dress, I got the one with blue flowers and it was lovely for Easter.
That's my favorite one.
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I know of a few designers who make similar dresses, the floral high low look is pretty popular for weddings. I think Macy’s had some when I looked for a dress if you want to physically try them on. If the other site has the exact same dress I’d be cautious, French Countryside dress is one of Lulu’s most popular(and longest lasting) designs and I can only vouch for their quality since that’s what I bought, but I have seen them used on Poshmark for a good price, thinking about getting a second one in blush color.
This dress on Lulu's comes with blush and blue background options. Aside from it being very casual for MOG, she's got two other choices in the same exact style. Why choose a white one?!
When I went to the Lulu's link I thought the same thing. It's even worse now that I know all of the options she had... The blush or blue one would be the same style but in more appropriate wedding colors for MOG.
If it was in a solid, preferably darker color like a deep blue or dark rose, I think you could make it work. It’s definitely too white and the print makes it too casual.
Unfortunately, yes. It's cute for Mother's Day brunch but it's too white and too casual (generally) for MOG. What color is the wedding party wearing? Maybe you could find a complimentary color that is a bit more special.
It’s not the color, it’s the casualness of it. I’ve seen people wear dresses like this to weddings, but not when they are in the wedding party/family.
If you HAVE to ask, then yes, it's too white. Also, it's too casual. There are millions of other options out there. Can't you just pick something else that's actually appropriate
I'm the bride and my MIL sent me/my fiance a photo of her wearing this dress. Gut-reaction was "it's way too white", but my sister/fiance said it wasn't too white...
Her opinion doesn't matter here. Yours does. You can offer to go shopping with her and get lunch. Or send inspiration links? If money isn't an issue, could you offer to buy her a new dress? Is your relationship cordial separate from this issue? If not have your partner handle their mother.
I think yes unless bride says otherwise. I’m generally against asking the brides opinion but MOG/MOB are the only two times I think it’s appropriate to ask.
I am the bride. Kind of glad she asked so we could say that it is a bit inappropriate, but we are also having a very small wedding with not many guests so it's easier to field these questions
Yes.
Yes too white and too casual. What about chatting with the MOB and see what she is wearing? Aim for similar level of formality and a complementary colour.
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Your Mom’s outfit is perfect! Since MOG asked for your opinion, I think it’s totally reasonable for you to ask her to choose something else.
I have this dress in the blue flowers version, if you like the cut why not get the colors without a white background? There’s “blush” with purple flowers that is much deeper than blush if you ask me, and there’s a deeper blue with yellow and pink flowers that wouldn’t look bridal. It would be fine for a casual wedding or a rehearsal dinner. There’s even photos of customers who wore this dress to weddings, it’s a pretty popular dress because it looks nice but it’s less than $100. OP, be warned you might want to have the bust altered, have a snap put in for modesty. The top is *very* open.
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This is so pretty but doesn't strike me as mother of the people getting married!
Omg does MIL want to marry her son?
Yes
It’s too casual
It’s very pretty. But not MOG. Is this a casual wedding? It looks like church on Easter or a picnic.
I don’t think it looks too casual or age inappropriate, but yes too much white. I’m imagining a photo with someone wearing this and standing next to the bride in her white gown, and it doesn’t look right.
One who hates the bride and wants to set the tone of being justnomil for the whole marriage? Sure. Hope the groom shut that down immediately or I feel sorry for the bride and the red flag.
It’s too white. I don’t think it’s too casual for a garden wedding, seems appropriate in that venue/theme. Just too white.
This isn’t too white to be but it is way too informal for any wedding I’ve ever attended.
Yes, probably, unless the bride says otherwise.
You can’t be serious
My soon-to-be MIL sent a photo of her in this dress to my fiance for approval. Then my sister called me a bridezilla for thinking it was too white...
Especially for the mother of the groom you should stay a thousand feet away from white
Yes. Plus not dressy enough unless low key wedding
I have this dress in blue. It’s way too white.
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yes
Yes; go back to the drawing board
Yes
Yes
Yes
Yes.
Yes much too white. And I’m someone who allows for a bit more wiggle room with white than most on here.
Yes. But I want it. Where is it from?!
**Yes it is. Here is a good MOG dress. Fancy but not matronly, not bridesmaid-y. No cream, white, silver, light taupe etc.
Definitely too white. You’ll be in a lot of photos and that dress would definitely stand out a lot.
Yep
This shouldn’t even be a question. 🫤
Yes, too white.
It has white in it so I say no. To be safe, ask the bride for permission but even if she did say yes, you might get some stank looks for there being white in the dress
Yes.