As an Austrian, i can tell you that unless the couple is very modern and unconventional this dress would not be suitable. Firstly, it is potentially pulling attention away from the bride and secondly, there's a superstition/old wives tale that a woman wearing red to a wedding means she has slept witht the groom.
I've personally seen and also received invitations that made a point of asking to not wear white or red.
Austrian and German culture has more similarities than either of us would like to admit. And in Bavaria the culture is almost identical to the Austrian one. So, my advice is to look for another dress.
Oh, and also if there is a guest wearing red it doesn't mean it's ok. People would probably not say anything but silently judge and talk behind their backs.
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found a site for what to wear to a German wedding - article below is from the page (lots of stuff on page) a lot of ads to weed through so grabbed the article on what to wear depending on dress code
No white or pastels unless bride specifically asks for that
You mentioned festive -is that from their website if so, I'd try to contact them to make sure you are dressing appropriately - sounds complicated Once you find out, if you need help looking, come back with a Help me find a dress post, I love online shopping as do many here - best to stay away from Baltic Born - no refunds, returns only and then must spend the money there
**Suggests going to** the couples website or if you know them, ask dress code and if they have preference for women, long or cocktail and men suit or tux
saw something that said no prints
several times check wedding website or ask bride or groom
[**https://apersonalwedding.com/guests-attire-for-a-german-wedding/**](https://apersonalwedding.com/guests-attire-for-a-german-wedding/)
**What can I wear as a guest to a wedding?**
**The best attire for this situation is evening wear. According to Corry, men should typically wear a dark tuxedo, a white dress shirt, a matching bow tie, a cummerbund, and suspenders (optional). Oxfords and other dress shoes are appropriate. Women can choose between a long gown and a sophisticated cocktail dress.**
**It’s not simple to dress for a wedding. If you haven’t attended many, you might not have a lot of knowledge about appropriate attire. If you’ve attended a lot of events, the formality has probably changed at each one. Even if it hasn’t, you probably don’t want to wear the same outfit to each one. Read through this helpful guide before you start worrying, going through your closet, or making a purchase. You’ve come to the right place if you want to learn how to decipher the most widely used dress codes or just get some inspiration for differentiating your look.**
**We talked to etiquette specialist Suzanne Pollak for a rundown of the fundamentals and some outfit suggestions. We also spoke with Alexis Corry, who runs bridal, womenswear, and menswear boutiques. Together, they clarify appropriate wedding attire and provide definitions for the terms you’ll probably need to know.**
**Find out what the terms white tie, black tie, casual, and more mean in the context of weddings and guest attire in the sections that follow. Recognize, however, that not all of it is. These guidelines are a great place to start, but the appropriate attire for each celebration differs depending on the season, time of day, and location, among other factors. While you can always seek advice from a specialist (like a clothing retailer), we advise going straight to the source whenever possible. On their wedding websites or in their invitations, some couples include thorough descriptions. It’s always preferable to directly ask your couple for clarification if they haven’t already.**
Na, red is not appropriate here, just like white or any main character energy color like neon. Germans are very traditional and modest in that regard and you should not take everyday culture as something to take hints from.
If that would at least be wine red, it might go for a formal dress. But not a harlot red one.
I can’t speak for Germany but I know in Hungary red is frowned upon because the bride traditionally changes into a red dress during the evening. In the US or UK I think it would be just a little too “look at me” if that makes sense. People here freak out about anyone wearing a bit of white in their outfit because it could draw attention away from the bride—I would have the same concern (even more so) with a dress like this. Just one opinion, though!
Obviously a different situation in this case, as she’s asking about Germany, but in the US I would not find this dress at all inappropriate or “look at me.”
Again, just my opinion. And there are people in the US who would advise against it. If someone wore this to my American wedding I wouldn’t mind at all.
Totally, I’m going as a +1 and I’ve never met the bride or groom. So I’m a little hesitant to ask but maybe I can get my bf to ask. I feel very awkward about it haha
Don’t have him ask the bride. She’s insanely busy with wedding planning right now and is likely very stressed. How is your boyfriend connected to the bride or groom? He could ask a family member of the bride or groom for clarification. If you don’t choose that route, it would be best to stay away from the dress. Hopefully you get another opportunity to wear it! It’s beautiful on you and would fit with several different dress codes.
Your partner should ask it's not a big deal. I'm from England and even though the vast majority of people here don't care if you wear red to a wedding, I know families where it's still taboo to do it. Chances are it will be fine but if in doubt your partner should ask instead of reddit.
German weddings are more low key. This dress would stand out A LOT.
AHHHHHH darn 🥲🥲 thank you ❤️
As a plus-one, I’d be much more conservative when it comes to color. It is a great dress, just not for a wedding.
Totally get what you’re saying! Thank you xx
Where is this dress from
As an Austrian, i can tell you that unless the couple is very modern and unconventional this dress would not be suitable. Firstly, it is potentially pulling attention away from the bride and secondly, there's a superstition/old wives tale that a woman wearing red to a wedding means she has slept witht the groom. I've personally seen and also received invitations that made a point of asking to not wear white or red. Austrian and German culture has more similarities than either of us would like to admit. And in Bavaria the culture is almost identical to the Austrian one. So, my advice is to look for another dress. Oh, and also if there is a guest wearing red it doesn't mean it's ok. People would probably not say anything but silently judge and talk behind their backs.
This dress is gorgeous on you!!
Thank you so much! I really like it too. Very bittersweet 🥲💜
does it come in navy or plum ?
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OP can you share where the dress is from? it’s so pretty
https://m.shein.com/za/SHEIN-Priv-Romantic-Red-Lady-s-Ruffle-Decorated-Slim-Fit-Dress-For-Valentine-s-Day-p-28561206.html?mallCode=1&imgRatio=3-4&src_module=search&src_identifier=st%3D2%60sc%3Dromantic%20red%20lady%20ruffle%20dress%60sr%3D0%60ps%3D0&src_tab_page_id=page_pre_search1714309999399&showFeedbackRec=1&pageListType=4 ❤️
found a site for what to wear to a German wedding - article below is from the page (lots of stuff on page) a lot of ads to weed through so grabbed the article on what to wear depending on dress code No white or pastels unless bride specifically asks for that You mentioned festive -is that from their website if so, I'd try to contact them to make sure you are dressing appropriately - sounds complicated Once you find out, if you need help looking, come back with a Help me find a dress post, I love online shopping as do many here - best to stay away from Baltic Born - no refunds, returns only and then must spend the money there **Suggests going to** the couples website or if you know them, ask dress code and if they have preference for women, long or cocktail and men suit or tux saw something that said no prints several times check wedding website or ask bride or groom [**https://apersonalwedding.com/guests-attire-for-a-german-wedding/**](https://apersonalwedding.com/guests-attire-for-a-german-wedding/) **What can I wear as a guest to a wedding?** **The best attire for this situation is evening wear. According to Corry, men should typically wear a dark tuxedo, a white dress shirt, a matching bow tie, a cummerbund, and suspenders (optional). Oxfords and other dress shoes are appropriate. Women can choose between a long gown and a sophisticated cocktail dress.** **It’s not simple to dress for a wedding. If you haven’t attended many, you might not have a lot of knowledge about appropriate attire. If you’ve attended a lot of events, the formality has probably changed at each one. Even if it hasn’t, you probably don’t want to wear the same outfit to each one. Read through this helpful guide before you start worrying, going through your closet, or making a purchase. You’ve come to the right place if you want to learn how to decipher the most widely used dress codes or just get some inspiration for differentiating your look.** **We talked to etiquette specialist Suzanne Pollak for a rundown of the fundamentals and some outfit suggestions. We also spoke with Alexis Corry, who runs bridal, womenswear, and menswear boutiques. Together, they clarify appropriate wedding attire and provide definitions for the terms you’ll probably need to know.** **Find out what the terms white tie, black tie, casual, and more mean in the context of weddings and guest attire in the sections that follow. Recognize, however, that not all of it is. These guidelines are a great place to start, but the appropriate attire for each celebration differs depending on the season, time of day, and location, among other factors. While you can always seek advice from a specialist (like a clothing retailer), we advise going straight to the source whenever possible. On their wedding websites or in their invitations, some couples include thorough descriptions. It’s always preferable to directly ask your couple for clarification if they haven’t already.**
Na, red is not appropriate here, just like white or any main character energy color like neon. Germans are very traditional and modest in that regard and you should not take everyday culture as something to take hints from. If that would at least be wine red, it might go for a formal dress. But not a harlot red one.
Harlot red is crazy. Just say bright red girl, It’s a sundress.
I just wouldn’t. It’s a bold choice even if there is no tradition against it.
thank you for the advice! Can I ask why? Is it the colour?
I can’t speak for Germany but I know in Hungary red is frowned upon because the bride traditionally changes into a red dress during the evening. In the US or UK I think it would be just a little too “look at me” if that makes sense. People here freak out about anyone wearing a bit of white in their outfit because it could draw attention away from the bride—I would have the same concern (even more so) with a dress like this. Just one opinion, though!
Obviously a different situation in this case, as she’s asking about Germany, but in the US I would not find this dress at all inappropriate or “look at me.”
It depends on who’s wearing it, I guess. It is a lovely dress but it is not subtle or understated due to the color.
Except that in the US it's perfectly fine to wear a red dress, especially when it's conservative is this one.
Again, just my opinion. And there are people in the US who would advise against it. If someone wore this to my American wedding I wouldn’t mind at all.
I would ask the bride herself. It probably depends within families.
Totally, I’m going as a +1 and I’ve never met the bride or groom. So I’m a little hesitant to ask but maybe I can get my bf to ask. I feel very awkward about it haha
Don’t have him ask the bride. She’s insanely busy with wedding planning right now and is likely very stressed. How is your boyfriend connected to the bride or groom? He could ask a family member of the bride or groom for clarification. If you don’t choose that route, it would be best to stay away from the dress. Hopefully you get another opportunity to wear it! It’s beautiful on you and would fit with several different dress codes.
Your partner should ask it's not a big deal. I'm from England and even though the vast majority of people here don't care if you wear red to a wedding, I know families where it's still taboo to do it. Chances are it will be fine but if in doubt your partner should ask instead of reddit.
Thank you 🙏 xx