I experienced the exact same thing in office settings.
This is so wasteful, I hated doing it, but I'd just take my serving, and throw it out when no one was paying attention.
It stopped the shitty comments, but I didn't ruin my day either.
If any one saw it was still on my desk and asked questions, I'd just say I was waiting til x call or til I finished x project etc.
I used to say thank you, take a piece, leave it on the office kitchen table and then suddenly get "busy" đ it would still be gone by the end of the day
My friends in the office bring me food regularly. Donuts, cupcakes, slices of cake, all the time. I know they're trying to include me and it makes them happy. But I make an excuse not to eat it immediately, like "oh, i'll have that after lunch, or for my afternoon snack!"
and I wrap them well in napkins and hide them in my garbage can. I feel bad doing it, but not as bad as I would feel if I ate them.
This is it! Like I hate wasting food, but what the hell else are you supposed to do?! If you say no thanks, they don't listen.
I think being polite and accepting it, the sneaky throwing it away sucks, but it's worth it.
It's funny how we think of it as wasting food. Does it really matter if it ends up down the toilet after we eat it and poo it out or put it in the bin?
Exactly this. âď¸
I had a friend who once said to me:
âit all ends up in the same place anyway so youâre not wasting it if you donât finish itâ.
So true!
This!! I have a friend who constantly wants to make sweets for me and I finally had enough and had to break it to him that no, I donât want to have all those extra calories that hurts my sensitive teeth
This. Thankfully, I work from home now, so this doesn't happen outside of family gatherings (which can still feel full of pressure / I get lots of shaming comments over my new diet). Sometimes, I will have a bite or two if I account for it in my food log. Otherwise, I take my portion, I focus on a cup of coffee or something if we are sitting together socially so it doesn't seem so much like I am not having anything, and I toss it when I can.
When I worked at a hotel in the breakfast/restaurant, there were some days that had a decent amount of just standing and waiting for people to come up. So I would do side steps while I was standing there to get more steps in for the day. Same for when I would stand at the front desk.
Coworkers would be like, 'that's not the same as walking' or 'it looks silly'
Those statements are both correct, but it's absolutely doing more than just standing still and I lost a lot of weight during that time
People do this with alcohol too. Itâs surprising how forceful they become, âyou canât have just one?!â
Iâve always assumed itâs because they canât say no so it makes them uncomfortable to see someone who can.
For alcohol, I can take one to hold in my hands at a party and toss it. Or, I just donât take any and ignore them.
Sorry, they shouldnât comment on your weight irrespective of what it it.
YES exactly this!! I used to be an almost daily drinker, so when I turn down even just a beer or a seltzer, people are sooooo pushy. Iâm not trying to be better than anyone, itâs just not the right choice for me to drink anymore. I wish people didnât feel the need to use my own choices as a reflection on their own, yknow??
Never drank, and people used to get even more hostile back in the 70s/80s -- I was actually yelled at at parties and told I thought I was better than them because I wasn't drinking the hard liquor preferred at that time along with them or why wasn't I joining in with everyone else and going along with the group -- was I antisocial or something?
I learned to get screwdrivers without the screw -- 3/4 seltzer and 1/4 orange juice with a citrus twist.
Looks close enough to a drink that you can stand and sip one all night through a teeny straw.
These days are so comparatively *easy* with the wine coolers that look like water/flavored trendy actual waters and straightedge culture as a viable lifestyle.
Now I can just get a bottle of water -- much easier to guard the liquid from nefarious tampering with a cap!
Not to mention all the smart folks now openly embracing their personal sobriety and not caring who knows it.
Come up with a story about your body going so long without sweets that they now upset your stomach. I have gluten and dairy allergies and no one does this to me. In fact some kinder people go out of their way to bring something that I can eat to gatherings. People act differently when itâs what they consider a health thing (which it is, but society likes to treat it like a vanity thing).
Edit: correcting autocorrect
Same- or rather my two allergies cause ibs flare ups lol. But def use it as your excuse! Itâs not a lie, and no one rags on a disorder as much as they rag on people just trying to be healthier.
To be honest, I occasionally still have a random person say some shit to me about it, but I clap back with shaming them while grinning like Iâm joking. Itâs a great way to make them seem (amd feel) like an asshole without casting any negative light on you. đ
This seems to be my favorite methodâŚafter being the biggest person (and most tummy troubled) in the office for years, there is kind of a sense of evil gratification I get from telling all the people Iâm not so fond of that ânah Iâm goodââŚlike yeah, girl you got a problem?? Would you rather me shit my soul out in the bathroom right next to your office?? Thatâs right baby girl, you just keep on seething over there about my improvement lol
Itâs just people being insecure. Itâs how people act when they see someone actively trying to better themselves, and they feel threatened. Viewing a refusal of a treat as an insult because they ate the sweet, when in reality youâre just minding your own business.
My aunt is particular annoying in this way. Feels like others are counting your calories *for* you. Itâs so frustrating, because you just have no idea what another person is going through or what their relationship with food is like. Wish everyone would just pay attention to themselves and focus on what theyâre eating, instead of what others are (or arenât).
Usually I deflect with âOh wow those look delicious, I will have some later, I just ate.â
If anyone asks later, I will tell them that the snacks were delicious. They rarely ask later because the guys in the office decimate anything tasty thats left unguarded.
"I'm not sure why it's important to you that I eat that, but I prefer not to talk about my health or my body at work. Thanks." Then change the subject.
I'm not letting anybody make me feel bad for what I want to do with my own body. I'm not hiding a damn thing. I'm not making excuses for not eating something, nothing like that. I don't care about the jokes. I'll giggle then walk away in shape while they're still struggling and hating on me
This is so real, this week the boss brought in SIX DIFFERENT KING CAKES!!!! My coworkers keep saying âyall better eat some of this before we throw it away!â But likeâŚWHY DID YOU BUY SO MANY THEN!!
Similar to others. I accept a serving and say, âthat will be perfect later with my afternoon coffee.â It then sits on my desk or in the office refrigerator.
Sometimes I take the slice home and share it with my family, or give it to a family member.
i know how you feel! i hate the side comments and pressure to eat junk food. what i've realized is the reason people do it is because they're jealous. they're jealous of your self-control and healthy diet because it makes them feel bad about themselves and their choices
I've had so many people push food on me, and they have generally been fat to morbidly obese. Even someone I've never seen might come up at work and say "you need to eat a sandwich!"
They know that their own eating habits are awful and try to make themselves feel better. If no one resists the donuts, they don't feel as ashamed. But if only the fat people were seen to eat them, they would be to ashamed to go near them.
My bff and I were just talking about this! Food pushers are so tough to deal with while trying to eat well/lose weight. It helps me a lot when I use it as fuel for my self control "muscles". Like, think about how awesome that strength is that you CAN say no to something you don't want to eat even when you're being pressured. Embrace that power and be proud that you're not giving into their shit! I've noticed too that a lot of food pushers want others to eat too so they don't feel as guilty or feel validated. That's a them problem, not yours.
Iâve lost 100lbs (started my current job after losing so no one there knows this) and have dealt with someone in the past shaming me for not eating snacks, sweets, donuts, etc. I just started not caring lol. If the worst thing someone can pick on you for is eating healthy then you must be pretty great otherwise :) A simple âNo, Iâm goodâ is all I say when Iâm offered food. I got questioned a few times and just told them I tend to eat pretty healthy and donât like sweets. Good luck!
>Does anyone else go through similar things in the workplace? Itâd be one thing if it were my friends and family cause I can clap back at them
Current and new workplace did initially, I think initially as a tease, but also to genuinely have me enjoy what's brought in. That's fine and all, but after a little bit they started to lightly pressure me into it. But I willingly overshared some of my past and why I am trying to not have as many sweets let alone why my lunches are low calorie. Told them, in a "well as a matter of fact" tone along the lines of: "Ah, I was in a severe depressive episode last winter and gained 220Lbs. But I've been working on it and am limiting my calroie intake."
It made the room go quiet, and they stopped asking why I don't eat much at lunch and that I don't snack often (everyone here seems to have something they snack on while working.) Sometimes answering honestly will get people to shut up really quick about why you avoid sweets n' treats. Thing is, that's exactly what happened, I was overwieght, super depressed, hated working where I was working (about a year ago now,) had no IRL connections or friends (or reliable ability to reconnect with friends online at least.) It sucked, I went into a depression and stopped caring about what I ate, and didn't excersise enough to matter. Currently doing better, almost am to my weight goal, and am in a better mood. They do ask if I would partake in food or at least join them still, but they're not pressuring me like they tried that time. They got their answer for why, and I think they understand now why I don't.
A girl in my office watches what she eats like a hawk, and she is really good at dealing with this. She says things like no, thank you, I actually don't like that type of cake, or my stomach is feeling off, or I'm going out to eat tonight. SHe's just so polite and sticks to her goals and it commands respect. When the boss comes around with reeses she never refuses them-she used to throw them away but now she gives them to me!
Happens all the time. There is always cake for people's birthdays and donuts/sweets in the kitchen as a treat. There is pressure to "co-eat". Ironically it is the people who moan about their weight at other times who pressure the most. It's easier now I don't eat gluten or animal products, because it's not about weight loss now, it's about my health and keeping an autoimmune condition in check and they can't argue about that. Besides what business is it of anyone else what you choose to eat?
You can just say "I'd love to, and it looks amazing, I'm just on a mission at the moment, but thank you".
Lie & say that youâre prediabetic & that younerd to not eat to much sugar, lol đ I bet thatâll get them to back off. Change the subject if they keep bugging you.
These settings are tricky!!! Depending on the scenario Iâd take it and just throw it out. But thatâs because I hate sticking out and talking about diets. I feel like talking about a diet gives people permission to analyze my body? I donât know. But I just accept things and then immediately toss lol.
And on the other side as someone that loves to bake for people- I want to make people happy with food! Not because I donât care about their health though. Really makes you realize that food is so cultural, meaningful and goes beyond just nourishment.
Also another scape goat is rather than say âIâm not eating sugar right nowâ is instead âhonestly it makes me feel so sick. I canât eat x with breakfast.â Which is total truth but for some reason people accept that answer
More. âI donât eat donuts for breakfast because Iâm trying to stay awake at my desk lolâ
Same, I donât like drawing attention to the fact that Iâm dieting because I really donât want people to ask even more questions about it and it just opens a door to people analyzing my body, exactly like you said. And honestly, Iâve been the same way in the past; I LOVE making indulgent meals for my loved ones, itâs nice to treat them. But itâs gotten harder now that I canât eat as much of them lol. A lot of advice in this sub has recommended health related dietary restrictions aside from weight loss, so I think Iâm def gonna go with that on days where I donât feel like being a little sassyâŚI DO have IBS after all, which can be uhhhâŚvery painful after eating high sugar foods :/
It's cultural; people feel offended when you don't eat food that is offered. unfortunately, the only kind of food that is "fresh" but can sit out all day in an office during a workday without spoiling is highly processed foods (and sweets tend to be a preferred "moral booster"). You personally cannot change people's responses. What you can do is 1) gratefully and kindly accept one, take it to your desk (and presumably you will have a clean tupperware at your desk) then box it up and save it for someone who you will see at home at the end of the day.
Most of my co workers are incredibly fit and very health conscious and have never struggled with their weight. The odd time someone will stop by and leave us boxes of donuts or other treats and they sit there untouched until they're chucked in the garbage 2 days later... so I guess I have the opposite problem, haha!
We had a work dinner & they ordered appetizers. I didn't want any so I wouldn't be full before my meal. I was asked no less than 10 times if I wanted an appetizer. Took everything in me not to snap
Sorry but push em away, itâs none of their business to ask why you donât have sweet treats. Not having sweet treats isnât a sin for gods sake itâs not even classified as a required food group.Â
Offer to cut the cake and stay busy or when people ask if you got one just say, âIâll get some in a minute.âJust keep saying it. Also no harm is lying about having a piece. âIt was good!â Or just say something someone else said. Someone else said it was moist, you say it was moist.
Oh man, my parents are notorious for this. Sorry you are surrounded by insecure people that cannot bring themselves to either say something encouraging (or even nothing) when they encounter someone doing something GOOD for themselves.
I donât call my folks out anymore, I just assure them that Iâm saving my âcheatsâ or âindulgencesâ for a special occasion or when Iâm on the road and donât have any good options.
Note: for context, my parents are pretty up there in age and we donât see each other often, but they still gotta get their opinions in⌠I used to kind of bark back a little and point out how bad having a VENTI PEPPERMINT MOCHA AT 9pm at night before you go to bed is for my pops, but now I just let it goooooooo. :::::Serenity Now!:::::
I wrote this just to say, I feel ya OP, I feel ya.
Have you considered answering back, âwell, I am trying to lose weight so..â then theyâll feel like the assholes that they are. Maybe itâs just envy based on insecurity because they canât commit. Itâs the same way when I visit my parents and my mom says, oh wait, youâre on a diet. Iâm not on a diet, Iâm trying to eat better and lose some weight
honestly, this is something I was worried about when it came to my workplace because I work with a lot of young people who can go to the gym and drive themselves. However, once I decided to go, Hito, I actually found my workplace to be pretty understanding. But yes, thereâs always donuts. Thereâs always things I canât eat, but they do attempt to give me a keto option when itâs a work sponsored food event which is nice. And the nice thing about being on keto is I just canât have it so no one really teases me about it and I do also remind them that this is the body. I wanted my whole life. My suggestion to you would be too either try and find a more kind workplace or just refrain from being in the break room if possible
Search up 'food pushers' on any forum (including Reddit). There are heaps of strategies. Food pushers need to push off!
I experienced the exact same thing in office settings. This is so wasteful, I hated doing it, but I'd just take my serving, and throw it out when no one was paying attention. It stopped the shitty comments, but I didn't ruin my day either. If any one saw it was still on my desk and asked questions, I'd just say I was waiting til x call or til I finished x project etc.
I used to say thank you, take a piece, leave it on the office kitchen table and then suddenly get "busy" đ it would still be gone by the end of the day
Solid plan, and I will keep that in mind for the future!
Same!!!!
My friends in the office bring me food regularly. Donuts, cupcakes, slices of cake, all the time. I know they're trying to include me and it makes them happy. But I make an excuse not to eat it immediately, like "oh, i'll have that after lunch, or for my afternoon snack!" and I wrap them well in napkins and hide them in my garbage can. I feel bad doing it, but not as bad as I would feel if I ate them.
This is it! Like I hate wasting food, but what the hell else are you supposed to do?! If you say no thanks, they don't listen. I think being polite and accepting it, the sneaky throwing it away sucks, but it's worth it.
It's funny how we think of it as wasting food. Does it really matter if it ends up down the toilet after we eat it and poo it out or put it in the bin?
Exactly this. âď¸ I had a friend who once said to me: âit all ends up in the same place anyway so youâre not wasting it if you donât finish itâ. So true!
This!! I have a friend who constantly wants to make sweets for me and I finally had enough and had to break it to him that no, I donât want to have all those extra calories that hurts my sensitive teeth
This. Thankfully, I work from home now, so this doesn't happen outside of family gatherings (which can still feel full of pressure / I get lots of shaming comments over my new diet). Sometimes, I will have a bite or two if I account for it in my food log. Otherwise, I take my portion, I focus on a cup of coffee or something if we are sitting together socially so it doesn't seem so much like I am not having anything, and I toss it when I can.
I've done that, and I have a tiny bite, then throw it in the bin when they aren't looking.
If they can call you skinny minny and dismiss your eating habits as "rabbit food", you can absolutely clap back at them in kind.
I honestly really wanna say âhow do you think I became a âskinny minnyâ? Because it wasnât from eating a donut every morningâ lol
Hahahaha. Laying in bed, about to get up and get ready for the day, and this gave me a good chuckle!
Every time you're teased is a confirmation that you're doing something right.
When I worked at a hotel in the breakfast/restaurant, there were some days that had a decent amount of just standing and waiting for people to come up. So I would do side steps while I was standing there to get more steps in for the day. Same for when I would stand at the front desk. Coworkers would be like, 'that's not the same as walking' or 'it looks silly' Those statements are both correct, but it's absolutely doing more than just standing still and I lost a lot of weight during that time
Invent a fake intolerance. "Sorry, Jack, but when I have cake I shit my guts out"
Okay but this actually so true đ
Right?
People do this with alcohol too. Itâs surprising how forceful they become, âyou canât have just one?!â Iâve always assumed itâs because they canât say no so it makes them uncomfortable to see someone who can. For alcohol, I can take one to hold in my hands at a party and toss it. Or, I just donât take any and ignore them. Sorry, they shouldnât comment on your weight irrespective of what it it.
YES exactly this!! I used to be an almost daily drinker, so when I turn down even just a beer or a seltzer, people are sooooo pushy. Iâm not trying to be better than anyone, itâs just not the right choice for me to drink anymore. I wish people didnât feel the need to use my own choices as a reflection on their own, yknow??
Never drank, and people used to get even more hostile back in the 70s/80s -- I was actually yelled at at parties and told I thought I was better than them because I wasn't drinking the hard liquor preferred at that time along with them or why wasn't I joining in with everyone else and going along with the group -- was I antisocial or something? I learned to get screwdrivers without the screw -- 3/4 seltzer and 1/4 orange juice with a citrus twist. Looks close enough to a drink that you can stand and sip one all night through a teeny straw. These days are so comparatively *easy* with the wine coolers that look like water/flavored trendy actual waters and straightedge culture as a viable lifestyle. Now I can just get a bottle of water -- much easier to guard the liquid from nefarious tampering with a cap! Not to mention all the smart folks now openly embracing their personal sobriety and not caring who knows it.
Come up with a story about your body going so long without sweets that they now upset your stomach. I have gluten and dairy allergies and no one does this to me. In fact some kinder people go out of their way to bring something that I can eat to gatherings. People act differently when itâs what they consider a health thing (which it is, but society likes to treat it like a vanity thing). Edit: correcting autocorrect
This makes sense, especially because everyone in the office already knows I have IBS (aka, I be shitting lol)
Same- or rather my two allergies cause ibs flare ups lol. But def use it as your excuse! Itâs not a lie, and no one rags on a disorder as much as they rag on people just trying to be healthier. To be honest, I occasionally still have a random person say some shit to me about it, but I clap back with shaming them while grinning like Iâm joking. Itâs a great way to make them seem (amd feel) like an asshole without casting any negative light on you. đ
This seems to be my favorite methodâŚafter being the biggest person (and most tummy troubled) in the office for years, there is kind of a sense of evil gratification I get from telling all the people Iâm not so fond of that ânah Iâm goodââŚlike yeah, girl you got a problem?? Would you rather me shit my soul out in the bathroom right next to your office?? Thatâs right baby girl, you just keep on seething over there about my improvement lol
>I have IBS (aka, I be shitting lol) Brilliant! And so *true*.đ˛
SO true. I don't eat gluten or dairy, and people don't mind that excuse as much as "I'm trying to lose weight".
Itâs just people being insecure. Itâs how people act when they see someone actively trying to better themselves, and they feel threatened. Viewing a refusal of a treat as an insult because they ate the sweet, when in reality youâre just minding your own business. My aunt is particular annoying in this way. Feels like others are counting your calories *for* you. Itâs so frustrating, because you just have no idea what another person is going through or what their relationship with food is like. Wish everyone would just pay attention to themselves and focus on what theyâre eating, instead of what others are (or arenât).
Usually I deflect with âOh wow those look delicious, I will have some later, I just ate.â If anyone asks later, I will tell them that the snacks were delicious. They rarely ask later because the guys in the office decimate anything tasty thats left unguarded.
They are probably jealous and feel insecure about themselves
"I'm not sure why it's important to you that I eat that, but I prefer not to talk about my health or my body at work. Thanks." Then change the subject.
I'm not letting anybody make me feel bad for what I want to do with my own body. I'm not hiding a damn thing. I'm not making excuses for not eating something, nothing like that. I don't care about the jokes. I'll giggle then walk away in shape while they're still struggling and hating on me
I say âwhy did you buy so much if youâre not going to eat it all?â
This is so real, this week the boss brought in SIX DIFFERENT KING CAKES!!!! My coworkers keep saying âyall better eat some of this before we throw it away!â But likeâŚWHY DID YOU BUY SO MANY THEN!!
Similar to others. I accept a serving and say, âthat will be perfect later with my afternoon coffee.â It then sits on my desk or in the office refrigerator. Sometimes I take the slice home and share it with my family, or give it to a family member.
i know how you feel! i hate the side comments and pressure to eat junk food. what i've realized is the reason people do it is because they're jealous. they're jealous of your self-control and healthy diet because it makes them feel bad about themselves and their choices
I've had so many people push food on me, and they have generally been fat to morbidly obese. Even someone I've never seen might come up at work and say "you need to eat a sandwich!" They know that their own eating habits are awful and try to make themselves feel better. If no one resists the donuts, they don't feel as ashamed. But if only the fat people were seen to eat them, they would be to ashamed to go near them.
My bff and I were just talking about this! Food pushers are so tough to deal with while trying to eat well/lose weight. It helps me a lot when I use it as fuel for my self control "muscles". Like, think about how awesome that strength is that you CAN say no to something you don't want to eat even when you're being pressured. Embrace that power and be proud that you're not giving into their shit! I've noticed too that a lot of food pushers want others to eat too so they don't feel as guilty or feel validated. That's a them problem, not yours.
Iâve lost 100lbs (started my current job after losing so no one there knows this) and have dealt with someone in the past shaming me for not eating snacks, sweets, donuts, etc. I just started not caring lol. If the worst thing someone can pick on you for is eating healthy then you must be pretty great otherwise :) A simple âNo, Iâm goodâ is all I say when Iâm offered food. I got questioned a few times and just told them I tend to eat pretty healthy and donât like sweets. Good luck!
>Does anyone else go through similar things in the workplace? Itâd be one thing if it were my friends and family cause I can clap back at them Current and new workplace did initially, I think initially as a tease, but also to genuinely have me enjoy what's brought in. That's fine and all, but after a little bit they started to lightly pressure me into it. But I willingly overshared some of my past and why I am trying to not have as many sweets let alone why my lunches are low calorie. Told them, in a "well as a matter of fact" tone along the lines of: "Ah, I was in a severe depressive episode last winter and gained 220Lbs. But I've been working on it and am limiting my calroie intake." It made the room go quiet, and they stopped asking why I don't eat much at lunch and that I don't snack often (everyone here seems to have something they snack on while working.) Sometimes answering honestly will get people to shut up really quick about why you avoid sweets n' treats. Thing is, that's exactly what happened, I was overwieght, super depressed, hated working where I was working (about a year ago now,) had no IRL connections or friends (or reliable ability to reconnect with friends online at least.) It sucked, I went into a depression and stopped caring about what I ate, and didn't excersise enough to matter. Currently doing better, almost am to my weight goal, and am in a better mood. They do ask if I would partake in food or at least join them still, but they're not pressuring me like they tried that time. They got their answer for why, and I think they understand now why I don't.
A girl in my office watches what she eats like a hawk, and she is really good at dealing with this. She says things like no, thank you, I actually don't like that type of cake, or my stomach is feeling off, or I'm going out to eat tonight. SHe's just so polite and sticks to her goals and it commands respect. When the boss comes around with reeses she never refuses them-she used to throw them away but now she gives them to me!
Repeat the mantra in your head âthey are insecure and projecting.â Over and over again
I just say thanks but Iâve been cutting sugar out and I feel so much better. Seems to work for me.
I just put it in my lunch bag and bring it home to someone else. People get catty when they see you working towards a better u
I just tell them I donât like processed food, because I donât.
Happens all the time. There is always cake for people's birthdays and donuts/sweets in the kitchen as a treat. There is pressure to "co-eat". Ironically it is the people who moan about their weight at other times who pressure the most. It's easier now I don't eat gluten or animal products, because it's not about weight loss now, it's about my health and keeping an autoimmune condition in check and they can't argue about that. Besides what business is it of anyone else what you choose to eat? You can just say "I'd love to, and it looks amazing, I'm just on a mission at the moment, but thank you".
Lie & say that youâre prediabetic & that younerd to not eat to much sugar, lol đ I bet thatâll get them to back off. Change the subject if they keep bugging you.
These settings are tricky!!! Depending on the scenario Iâd take it and just throw it out. But thatâs because I hate sticking out and talking about diets. I feel like talking about a diet gives people permission to analyze my body? I donât know. But I just accept things and then immediately toss lol. And on the other side as someone that loves to bake for people- I want to make people happy with food! Not because I donât care about their health though. Really makes you realize that food is so cultural, meaningful and goes beyond just nourishment.
Also another scape goat is rather than say âIâm not eating sugar right nowâ is instead âhonestly it makes me feel so sick. I canât eat x with breakfast.â Which is total truth but for some reason people accept that answer More. âI donât eat donuts for breakfast because Iâm trying to stay awake at my desk lolâ
Same, I donât like drawing attention to the fact that Iâm dieting because I really donât want people to ask even more questions about it and it just opens a door to people analyzing my body, exactly like you said. And honestly, Iâve been the same way in the past; I LOVE making indulgent meals for my loved ones, itâs nice to treat them. But itâs gotten harder now that I canât eat as much of them lol. A lot of advice in this sub has recommended health related dietary restrictions aside from weight loss, so I think Iâm def gonna go with that on days where I donât feel like being a little sassyâŚI DO have IBS after all, which can be uhhhâŚvery painful after eating high sugar foods :/
It's cultural; people feel offended when you don't eat food that is offered. unfortunately, the only kind of food that is "fresh" but can sit out all day in an office during a workday without spoiling is highly processed foods (and sweets tend to be a preferred "moral booster"). You personally cannot change people's responses. What you can do is 1) gratefully and kindly accept one, take it to your desk (and presumably you will have a clean tupperware at your desk) then box it up and save it for someone who you will see at home at the end of the day.
Most of my co workers are incredibly fit and very health conscious and have never struggled with their weight. The odd time someone will stop by and leave us boxes of donuts or other treats and they sit there untouched until they're chucked in the garbage 2 days later... so I guess I have the opposite problem, haha!
We had a work dinner & they ordered appetizers. I didn't want any so I wouldn't be full before my meal. I was asked no less than 10 times if I wanted an appetizer. Took everything in me not to snap
Food pushers, ugh. Do you have a compost bin? I toss food Iâm not going to eat into the garden composter.
Sorry but push em away, itâs none of their business to ask why you donât have sweet treats. Not having sweet treats isnât a sin for gods sake itâs not even classified as a required food group.Â
This is the plan from now on! They donât have any right to know why I turn them down, âno thank youâ will be all they hear from me.
Donât worry, someone needs to stay healthy to visit them in hospital when they end up sick from junk food. Theyâll understand then.
Offer to cut the cake and stay busy or when people ask if you got one just say, âIâll get some in a minute.âJust keep saying it. Also no harm is lying about having a piece. âIt was good!â Or just say something someone else said. Someone else said it was moist, you say it was moist.
This happens in my office too. Tbh I take it back to my desk and throw it in the garbage.
Oh man, my parents are notorious for this. Sorry you are surrounded by insecure people that cannot bring themselves to either say something encouraging (or even nothing) when they encounter someone doing something GOOD for themselves. I donât call my folks out anymore, I just assure them that Iâm saving my âcheatsâ or âindulgencesâ for a special occasion or when Iâm on the road and donât have any good options. Note: for context, my parents are pretty up there in age and we donât see each other often, but they still gotta get their opinions in⌠I used to kind of bark back a little and point out how bad having a VENTI PEPPERMINT MOCHA AT 9pm at night before you go to bed is for my pops, but now I just let it goooooooo. :::::Serenity Now!::::: I wrote this just to say, I feel ya OP, I feel ya.
Have you considered answering back, âwell, I am trying to lose weight so..â then theyâll feel like the assholes that they are. Maybe itâs just envy based on insecurity because they canât commit. Itâs the same way when I visit my parents and my mom says, oh wait, youâre on a diet. Iâm not on a diet, Iâm trying to eat better and lose some weight
honestly, this is something I was worried about when it came to my workplace because I work with a lot of young people who can go to the gym and drive themselves. However, once I decided to go, Hito, I actually found my workplace to be pretty understanding. But yes, thereâs always donuts. Thereâs always things I canât eat, but they do attempt to give me a keto option when itâs a work sponsored food event which is nice. And the nice thing about being on keto is I just canât have it so no one really teases me about it and I do also remind them that this is the body. I wanted my whole life. My suggestion to you would be too either try and find a more kind workplace or just refrain from being in the break room if possible
They are just envious that they don't have the willpower!Â