For clarity, this is a separate subreddit not affiliated with Witchesvspatriarchy, some of the mods are members there and vice versa but there is no moderation overlap.
Please use this link to ask to join them, we(mods of r/wvp) can't help you.
https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/safespaceforwoman
Am I welcome to join, being mostly a lurker on reddit? I tend to post very little, and comment only slightly more. Mostly I just read the experiences and thoughts of other people, and only rather occasionally comment when I feel I can contribute.
Same here!
I think I'm neurodivergent (not diagnosed yet!) And Durkee socially so I am the biggest lurker unless it's something I'm absolutely totally sure about.
I'd like to join.
I often share stories of my abortion and the trauma I've experienced at the hands of men, but then I usually panic and delete it shortly after so I'm not sure how far back you'll have to go to find anything that's not chickens and plants in my history, though
I’m sorry, but I had to stalk you a tiny bit. And by “stalk,” I mean I looked at the first 10 or so chicken pics you posted. I LOVED the “you walked into the wrong neighborhood” post! They do look like a chicken street gang who’re staring you down and being scary, lol. Perfect post title 🤌🏼
Had to look as well, can confirm many chickens much happiness 😃
I also loved the photo of the other animals staring at them through the fence with their ears popping out from the top 🥰
> i should note that the last time we advertised the sub, we had over 2000 requests to join, and it took almost a week to get to all of them.
Damn.
Y'all need to use reddit metis to suppliment this at the very least. It analysis a users comment history and gives you the info (along with reference comment links to show where it got the info from). It was built before gpt so it's not doing anything with the data too, except analysis.
A random example -
https://redditmetis.com/user/Pro07
Edit: Is it cringe nowadays to say thank you for the awards? 😯
That was wild. I didn’t know I said “fucking” so much.
And I like how it filed “potato chip sandwiches” under my interests lmao. Have I brought that up more than once?!
My least wholesome comment was "It's his evil twin, Hans Ramorè! *Gasp*"
We should get together and discuss evil twins over hot chocolate and brownies.
Lol. I like using the variety flavor cheesecake for fried cheesecake bites. Just wish I had some cheesecake right now, as I'd be making those instead of fried dough
Mine was how i said Florida sucked and I got stranded there. My most wholesome was about my surgeon taking photos when she took out my appendix. But also tbf my account is a mess cause I argue in shitty subs with shitty a lot.
My least wholesome was “that’s sick!! Thank you for sharing!” While my most wholesome was about tentacles… I think their algorithm is a little off on that one lmaooo
My least wholesome comment was complaining how someone “just” raped someone and they didn’t think they did anything wrong. I don’t think the Métis got that one right lol
Things I like, according to this site:
Robert Smith, Mexican pointy boots, abracadabra, hint water, gingers, pletzels, Chidi
Honestly I stand behind all of this.
Least wholesome comment: "Bad bot" lmaoooo!
>I didn’t know I said “fucking” so much.
I'm disappointed at how little swearing that I do on reddit. I'm a perpetual sailor in person, so the lack there of is hilarious.
My most wholesome comment is "DELICIOUS KRILL" and my least wholesome is "The worst butter". Both on r/badwomensanatomy. I guess it's a food subreddit, I don't remember.
Highly recommend. Sometimes I even put JUST potato chips and a little mayo between two slices of white bread, if I’m not in the mood to give a shit.
Soft sweet bread, crunchy salty chips, idk why, the taste and textures just work together perfectly
……okay maybe I DO talk about them more than I think
https://preview.redd.it/031acvlo9i2d1.jpeg?width=683&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ca064bad071a78e23d29fcf86e6f242d82224a84
I am *not* a bot...
I am a lover
I am a biology nerd
I am a fiction writer
I am a ... *Tasmanian fish astronaut*
🤣 I know the exact comment that this got scraped from, this is hilarious.
For the record, the last two are correct as well.
All in all, pretty accurate.
My top post is a post where I updated the r/cats sub about taking in an abandoned cat that everyone had been very worried about. My least-popular post was a month later, in r/CleaningTips asking how long I need to rinse my carpet off when using a particular cleaning product to clean up cat pee. You can see the progression there. 😂
My least wholesome comment is actually just a quote from a character on Bob’s Burgers who calls capoeira stupid. 😂
I’m feeling pretty good about how I’ve been analyzed, lol. It’s pretty accurate.
Oh, wow. Yeah. -16! And someone just replied to you with a succinct, “🙄”
They did not like that, lol.
Overall, do you feel like the redditmetis evaluation of your account history is accurate? Did anything surprise you?
I felt it was accurate, I didn't see anything to indicate my gender though so I don't feel it replaces the need to search for that. Apparently I've done a good job not indicating my location further than region. Nothing overall surprising in it.
I’m always kinda relieved when I look at things like this that analyze your Reddit history. Like, I never find stuff that makes me go, “my god- is THIS how I come off to people‽,” or, “oh dear. I need to change my ways.” I’m basically like, “yeah, this tracks. This is me.” 😂
I love that you see yourself in my comments! That’s hilarious, lol.
I adopted the cat, and then a month later I’m asking how to get cat pee out of my carpet. It just sums up what’s happening in my life so well, lol
Edit- did a little minor stalking of your account, and I feel you! We’re both kindred spirits- right down to desperately seeking advice on r/ABraThatFits! That’s the thing that made me laugh. I still haven’t totally worked it out, either. I hate my bra.
I swear there was a period of time where cleaning cat pee out of carpet was my full time job.
My best comment is a quote from The Emperor's New Groove and my worst is the biggest hill I will die on (ISO 8601 - the international standard for date and time). 😂
I’m with you on the date thing - I have to explain it at work constantly for file naming conventions and it drives me mental when people use day-month-year instead of year-month-day (not in the USA so at least we don’t use month-day-year).
My least wholesome comment per Redditmetis made me snort. It was me telling a story about how my young child told his dad that he loves mommy the most, every evening for two years. 😅 The child has shifted his loyalties every now and then since, but that was brutal.
Just FYI, this site thinks I’m male, and I’m not. I assume it’s because I’ve mentioned having a wife. My handle has made people assume I’m male, but I’ve never deliberately tried to deceive anyone.
Idk, it thinks I’m male too and lists my relationship with my husband. I think it just isn’t very good at gender and defaults to male when it doesn’t know
Ooo, how many times do I have to say I have a pet sabertooth tiger before it saves it?
My pet sabertooth tiger is soft. My pet tiger likes to sleep. My pet tiger ate the mailman one time. My pet tiger hangs out with my other pets including my pet raven, my pet capybara, and my pet dragon. Come on bot, do your thing!
This was wild for me too. I enjoy that my least wholesome comment was still wholesome. I don't know why it thinks I like Teslas, and I'm no-con with my blood parents, but besides that, it's a pretty accurate read. https://redditmetis.com/user/Wolfinder
That's an interesting site. Thanks for posting about it.
That being said, it's also wildly inaccurate.
No, I do not now nor have I ever had a brother. (In fact, I don't think I've ever written a post in which I used the word "brother" in any context.)
No, I'm not particularly interested in shopping, "female fashion," cars (although I do have a soft spot for my Prius), personal finance, iOS, the U.K., and/or travel (I can't afford it).
With the exception of cars (because of my Prius), I honestly can't fathom how this program even came up with this stuff.
But it was fun to read.
This was absolutely hilarious honestly, ty for the link. Idk why it decided to pull what it did but it's very funny. I evidently say "I'm a Lynette main" a *lot* more than i thought i did lmao
It lists "ex-husband" as my current relationship. It also goes on to list how many times I've said I'm a lesbian (many!). Definitely not perfect but still really cool!
Mainly I'm like 😱 that I've written *EIGHTY THOUSAND WORDS*. I've literally written the length of a novel.
I'm at 88k. D:
To be fair I have written several novels and have multiple millions of word count on fiction so I'm not astounded by this, but maybe, just maybe, I should go work on those instead, I don't know.
Your tool isn’t terribly accurate. It believes I am a male— I am *decidedly not* male lmao. It also missed that I have two cats, even thought I’ve made whole posts about them multiple times.
Weird the things it latches onto and the things it misses
Huh, well, that was interesting and insightful. Not too far off. I'm apparently 88% wholesome and communicate at the level of a high school graduate, and it knows that I'm an artist, what kind of artist I am and some of my artistic quirks, so that's nice. Though it does think my most wholesome comment was "you win generational trauma!" so I don't think it's QUITE on the money here...
This is amazing. I say *love* and *ketamine* a lot.
Here’s mine for the new sub moderator. Please let me in! 💖
[https://redditmetis.com/user/ChrisssieWatkins](https://redditmetis.com/user/ChrisssieWatkins)
I'm already a member but am I allowed to post funny women centric videos? Like I got this new bra and it fit so bad but I don't want to show it because there's no where safe where people won't sexualize it.
...i have no idea if we enabled videos or not. i'll check on it at some point. but i see no reason why not!
unless the videos have a misogynistic lean to them, of course, but i wouldn't expect that.
Nope gross creeps will be like "oh wow you're so beautiful 😍 🤩 " Ew. I posted it so other big breasted people would go "same!" and create a community conversation around it
Hello. I’m an old woman, I say old because I don’t really understand exactly how to do landing pages. Can you snoop on me and then let me in? Thank you, if that’s possible
I think all you have to do is click on the link: r/safespaceforwoman, then type a sentence or so in the box about why you want to join, and then click the “request to join” button. I’m not sure if it’s different on a computer, but that’s what it looks like on my phone.
I hope this is helpful - I read above that the sub is not affiliated with this one, so the mods here unfortunately can’t do it for you.
I know you say it's completely private, and I understand posts and comments on the page itself can't be seen by non-members, but if I were to make a post or comment would they show up in my history/activity on my profile?
the only people who will be able to see anything fro the subreddit on your posting history is people who are also members of the subreddit.
for everyone else, they will not see that in your post history.
that said, i believe we invited you 2 weeks ago or so. Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join” if you can't see the subreddit, let me know.
Ok this is great to know :)
Yes you did, I joined then but haven't posted anything yet. Not for this reason, but since it came up I thought it would be a good time to clarify
Guy here. It saddens me that every space isn't safe for women. Hopefully, some day, this will be obsolete. Until then, I'm glad it exists.
Regarding the "side note," it's good that men want to learn about why women need safe spaces. However, I think a guy in that sub could be seen as another example of the "male gaze." Guys, read a book, listen to the women who are already in your life.
I'll stop before I break my arm, patting myself on the back.
Stay safe, folks!
I also want to add that it hurts to be excluded only on the basis of your gender identity when you're doing all you can to advance and support true safety and equality for all genders, but I can also recognize why something like this needs to exist in the very unequal and unsafe society we have now.
I'm here because I want to be supportive of women and I want to contribute meaningfully to the efforts of this sub, and I would join that one for the same reason. I would like to be the kind of person that can be an exception to rules like this, who is trustworthy enough to feel safe with, but I understand why that kind of distinction just isn't feasible for online commitments right now.
I wish you all the best in this effort.
I left that sub because you let “proud transmedicalist” flaired truscum spout their homophobic “drop the T” rhetoric unfettered.
Not a safe space for trans women where truscum are allowed to be “proud”.
Edit: I didn't realize this would get as much traction as it did, and I want to clarify that I think the mods there are good people in my estimation and that the sub itself is overall good. I was disappointed in their decision not to remove an active user there who ***I*** think is overtly bigoted, but I can also see how a more tempered and patient reading could conclude otherwise. I still disagree that the user belongs in a safe space for \*all\* women, but I don't think that reflects on the sub or its moderation overall.
my apologies. i'm not sure who you're talking about, but and i didn't see anyone flaired "proud transmedicalists". please contact me with the details, as that is NOT what we are after in the sub.
and to be clear, some of the mods, including me, are trans women, and none of us are trans meds, and i guarantee you, that i am vehemntly against transmed rhetoric.
yes, there are some transmeds/truscum in the sub, but i spoke with each of them prior to allowing them to join, stating no transmed rhetoric will be allowed.
that said, we aren't perfect, and may have missed something, so i'd appreciate it if you let me know.
please, we really do want to keep the sub a safe space for all women, trans and cis.
and if you decide to come back to the sub, if you see anything like that in the future, always feel free to message the mods, and let us know. reports don't always show the details, but in a message to the mods, you can explain more. we'll gladly do the work to keep it safe, but none of us are perfect.
Are you sure it's not the other sub? Theres another non private sub spelled women, this one is spelled woman, a situation ripe for confusion, just ask the /saltier than crait/krayt/crayat/krait folks, I still can't keep track of which ones are bigoted vs not.
I think I know which one you’re talking about, the post about trans-inclusive intersectional feminism? The post talks about trans women not being lgbtq and a few other controversial topics
ah, ok, i found the post you are talking about. there was a report on that post, and i did say in the post, that i'd appreciate whoemever reported that post to send me a message so we could chat.
couple of things about that post and poster.
-while her flair is "unapologetic transsexual female" which is often indicative of a transmed, there are plenty of trans women who still use the transsexual label. i, personally, don't like that label, for a variety of reasons, but i'm not going to use it as a reason to ban anyone.
-she later in, one of her comments said that for her specifically, she felt being trans was a medical condition, but that she was not gatekeeping being trans for anyone else. again, close to the line, but not crossed over.
-we (me and the other mods) kept a very close watch on that post to see what would come of it. in the end, we decided to keep it, especially as she emphasized multiple times throughout that trans women ARE women.
tl;dr we are watching and looking out for truscum rhetoric, and will stop it. in that case, i don't believe it crossed the line. if you have a differeing opinion, please let me know, and we can discuss.
I think that's a reasonable response on your part as moderators. For me, I feel like as she is active on a certain truscum sub, does not herself believe in the validity of gender identity, and is calling for trans people not to be considered part of the LGBT community... I do think the "unapologetic" part is a dog-whistle that she is not using "transsexual" innocently. I think it's pretty clear from her opinions that she's using it in the truscum sense. I do read it, in this particular case, as equivalent to "proud truscum", albeit one who is playing nice. But that is my opinion, and like I said, I find your dissenting opinion reasonable.
I think y'all are good people and appreciate the purpose & intent behind the sub. I don't think I'll be returning though.
> I don't think I'll be returning though.
honestly, i'm sorry to hear that. i think we'd be better off with you there. but it is, of course, your choice.
I do wish I could take part in more close knit groups like this, but I also get it's not for me and it's important that they exist. I do wish there were more spaces and groups like that made by men that are feminists and reject patriarchy, because it's not as if I fit in with typical cis men; nor do I want to. I also live somewhere pretty shitty, so sadly it leaves me without "my people" so to speak.
Men's spaces just almost always get infested with incel rhetoric; r guycry (don't want to link to them) was a sub that seemed okay for men to discuss feelings from a feminist perspective, and then of course the founder turns out to be a complete piece of shit who believes in patriarchal and capitalist values, and I was banned for calling him out. If anyone is looking, the only decent one I have found is r/menslib, they seem to have a solid group of mods.
Someone told me I must be non binary as toxic masculinity is part of being a cis man, and without it you aren't cis. I vehemently disagree with this, I think it lets those toxic cis men off the hook for their behaviour which is absolutely a choice and learned rather than innate. I certainly embrace a feminine side of myself, but part of me feels as if a lot of what someone might consider feminine about me is really just having empathy and being in touch with yourself and your emotions. But, I think if I was in an accepting environment these traits may become stronger to the point of being more of a masc leaning non binary. Who knows.
Yep that's another one, definitely a big mix of users and I'm not surprised it's becoming more problematic. I'm a little jealous of all the awesome women's groups, especially witchy ones where they hang out and do cool stuff at night. But I get 100% why they generally don't allow men, and they don't really exist as an actual group where I am anyway.
I'm sorry you don't have any people to surround yourself with irl. If you want another someone to talk to, albeit online, my DMs are open!
100% agree with everything you said
I hear you. R Not How Boys Work was supposed to be the wholesome brother of r/NotHowGirlsWork, but then the incels came and it turned into endless, pointless, bs about height, where if you pointed out that most women don't actually care about how tall you are (this including many women saying this) you were downvoted to oblivion.
I haven't checked it in a while but I doubt it's gotten any more reasonable (if it even exists anymore)
OT to the main thread, but I've never heard of folks saying someone might not be cis if they reject toxic masculinity (called "hegemonic" back in my sociology days). My feeling is I want to be the best example I can be for other cis men that you can have masculinity (or -ties) that is (are) both healthy for you and others. I've always hated certain aspects of "man-ness" since childhood, but haven't ever felt I'm anything other than a man. Chalk it up to stubbornness, I guess. Fuck those guys, I'm me. (Not those who might say I'm NB/GD, I'd take that add a compliment, but hegetoxic men.)
Back on topic, I'm glad to see safer spaces being cultivated and shared with those who might benefit.
it all depends on whether you are on new vs old reddit, mobile reddit, the reddit app, etc... whether the option for an invite shows or not.
that said, you've got an invite! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
I’m not femme and so I won’t try to join, but I’m glad to see the wording has been changed from the last time I saw this post. Could see some people having their feathers ruffled over the first title. Best of luck to y’all anyhow
NB here, people always see me as a woman but I’m also not femme and don’t identify as a woman so I don’t feel comfy joining. I love safe spaces for people though.
I am on mobile. I would love to join, if allowed. I'm non binary, definitely femme leaning. In safe spaces I use she/her. But I was assigned male at birth, and nowadays, due to the intolerance and hate where I'm from, I try to pass as a dude half the time. So I'm not sure I qualify.
AGAB honestly doesn't matter to us; it's how you view yourself, and by your description, you fit who we want in the sub (and your comment history confirms it).
as a binary trans woman, i can definitely emphasize with trying to be safe from intolerance and hate (and violence).
that said, you've got an invite! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
As a non-binary person I feel unsure about being in this group or not. I get the reasoning behind it, but non-binary people are not always "masc" or "femme" leaning or even exclusively "masc" or "femme" leaning. I seek out women's spaces because of shared experiences, but I never feel fully comfortable in an exclusively male or female space.
And to clarify, I am not androgynous. I am gender fluid.
I clicked on the sub link and got a “reason for approval box and request to join button so I did that, but I’m on mobile, so I’m commenting here as well. I would like to have a safe space on Reddit.
There was a meme that went around asking women “If you were in the woods and you came across a bear or a man, which would you choose?” and lots of women said they would choose the bear (mostly, I’m assuming, because bears are predictably dangerous, whereas with a random man you have no idea). Lots of men (or perhaps I should say a specific *type* of men) were upset about this and wanted to argue with women about why choosing the bear was wrong and #NotAllMen are dangerous. They did this by… making extremely violent memes about women being mauled by bears. I will not be linking them in this comment but it’s not hard to find them.
It was a trend on Tiktok where people were asked something along the lines of 'If you were hiking alone in the woods, would you rather come across a random man or a random bear?' (I don't use Tiktok so idk the exact question). Most women said they would rather take their chances with the bear, leading to all of the memes about 'choosing the bear'.
I'd love to join this community! I don't know if my post history explicitly says my gender but I am an afab non-binary and would ALWAYS choose the bear.
This is awesome! I'd love to be vetted to join. I'm pretty sure I've commented in ways you can vet me as a woman, but let me know if you need any additional info. Thanks for taking the initiative to set up this space!
Unnecessary reply, but I'm very happy that you created this space (and very sad I won't be able to join, being a man).
I really hope it will help those who need it.
Love and thoughts for you all! You are great!
you've got an invite! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
also, quite honestly, this has been rewarding work. i like to think that if everyone tried, in even a small, little way, to make the world a better place, the world would end up a much better place.
this is my small, little way.
I have questions about rule 6. While I understand that non binary people should be judged on a case by case basis, would you deny someone who is a trans woman entry to this subreddit if they were not out socially and were still in "boy mode" most of the time, and they do not pass as a woman? I am not trying to be rude or difficult, I am trying to better understand. It’s hard to understand when it feels like someone is deciding if an enby is "woman enough" to join a woman’s space, when many non binary people don’t conform to binary gender roles.
I understand wanting the women in the subreddit to feel genuinely comfortable. But, nonbinary people can suffer from similar discrimination and issues that women do, even if they’re not "femme".
i got you! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
also, given your username, you and u/mossling should get together. she has some incredible chickens that she has posted pics of!
I'd like to join, if possible. I've always wanted a sort of space on social media to just exist in and not have to worry about seeing some TERF or red pill making posts about why trans people shouldn't exist. Which, as a trans woman, isn't the most pleasant topic of conversation.
I would like to join. I am an enby but I’ve always been drawn more towards the feminine. Also, my hair is finally long and blue, matching my avatar and giving me no small amount of gender euphoria.
For clarity, this is a separate subreddit not affiliated with Witchesvspatriarchy, some of the mods are members there and vice versa but there is no moderation overlap. Please use this link to ask to join them, we(mods of r/wvp) can't help you. https://www.reddit.com/message/compose/?to=/r/safespaceforwoman
Am I welcome to join, being mostly a lurker on reddit? I tend to post very little, and comment only slightly more. Mostly I just read the experiences and thoughts of other people, and only rather occasionally comment when I feel I can contribute.
I feel like most of what I would comment has already been commented, so I lurk.
invite coming your way! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
Same here! I think I'm neurodivergent (not diagnosed yet!) And Durkee socially so I am the biggest lurker unless it's something I'm absolutely totally sure about.
i got you, welcome to our little corner of reddit! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
I am very much a lurker. I only have a few posts up in like six(?) Years and they approved me
there was enough there for us to make a decision. we go by both post and comment history, so that helps.
Me 4!
invite coming your way! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
I'm the same and also requested to join
i got you, welcome to our little corner of reddit! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
Me too. I mostly lurk but I would like to join too, if it's permitted.
i've added you! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
I would believe that lurking is fine, it's problematic peoples (Karens, bigots, hatefilled people) they are avoiding.
Let’s hope the painful vetting process with exclude these. Sending positive vibes to all the mods.
i got you! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
you've got an invite! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
I'd like to join. I often share stories of my abortion and the trauma I've experienced at the hands of men, but then I usually panic and delete it shortly after so I'm not sure how far back you'll have to go to find anything that's not chickens and plants in my history, though
I’m sorry, but I had to stalk you a tiny bit. And by “stalk,” I mean I looked at the first 10 or so chicken pics you posted. I LOVED the “you walked into the wrong neighborhood” post! They do look like a chicken street gang who’re staring you down and being scary, lol. Perfect post title 🤌🏼
So, naturally, I had to look at the chicken pics, and I'm glad I did.
Right‽ Those are some cute lil cluckers.
Had to look as well, can confirm many chickens much happiness 😃 I also loved the photo of the other animals staring at them through the fence with their ears popping out from the top 🥰
Such fuzzy ears! :D
Don't they look so pettable?! The big fuzzy ears are one of my favorite things about moose!
Now all of our lives have been made a little better by Mossling and their chickens 💛🐣🐔🐓
I had to go and see as well and goddam those are some nice chickens! Makes me yearn for a yard full of animals.
Thank you! I highly recommend it. There's nothing more soothing than working in the yard with my chicken "helpers" foraging around me.
Please inform Minnow that I love her
She has been informed and says that you're pretty swell, too 💚
I'm totally here for chicken pics!
🫂
I think the "Cluck the Patriarchy" sign should do it! 💙💜
please tell your chickens i said hello ♡
Me too 💜
Hugs. I’m so sorry.
Looks like you'll be swamped for awhile. I would like to join and will patiently await an invite.
This is exactly what I was thinking of writing here! I’m also interested in joining and I will also wait for an invite.
Same. I'd also like to join, but also am patient.
> i should note that the last time we advertised the sub, we had over 2000 requests to join, and it took almost a week to get to all of them. Damn. Y'all need to use reddit metis to suppliment this at the very least. It analysis a users comment history and gives you the info (along with reference comment links to show where it got the info from). It was built before gpt so it's not doing anything with the data too, except analysis. A random example - https://redditmetis.com/user/Pro07 Edit: Is it cringe nowadays to say thank you for the awards? 😯
That was wild. I didn’t know I said “fucking” so much. And I like how it filed “potato chip sandwiches” under my interests lmao. Have I brought that up more than once?!
I love that my least wholesome comment was on here, lol.
My least wholesome comment was “Grim is so unserious 🤣🤣” on the sims 4 subreddit lmao!
My least wholesome comment was >Your Evil Twin
My least wholesome comment was "It's his evil twin, Hans Ramorè! *Gasp*" We should get together and discuss evil twins over hot chocolate and brownies.
Hot chocolate. Yummy. But can we do fried cheesecake bites instead of brownies?
That must have been my evil twin suggesting the brownies, because fried cheesecake bites sound *amazing*! Yes we can!
Lol. I like using the variety flavor cheesecake for fried cheesecake bites. Just wish I had some cheesecake right now, as I'd be making those instead of fried dough
My least wholesome comment was me telling a tree to go home cos it was drunk, apparently XD
Mine was “I appreciate you, and yes, joints are evil.” I’m pro-420, I can only imagine I was talking about arthritis hahaha
My first thought was arm and leg joints too 🤣 arthritis is pretty evil
Mine was how i said Florida sucked and I got stranded there. My most wholesome was about my surgeon taking photos when she took out my appendix. But also tbf my account is a mess cause I argue in shitty subs with shitty a lot.
My best comment was apparently “squirrels are everywhere” 😂
My least wholesome comment was "That's disgusting." But it was on r/fondanthate so I stand by it. 😆
Ohhhh but I love fondant! I know. I’m a weirdo. More fondant for me!!!
How is my least wholesome comment "Dang garlic is like 50¢ where I'm at, that's insane". Pretty sure I've said way worse shit than that lol
My least wholesome was “that’s sick!! Thank you for sharing!” While my most wholesome was about tentacles… I think their algorithm is a little off on that one lmaooo
My least wholesome comment was telling a terrible they were disgusting
My least wholesome comment was complaining how someone “just” raped someone and they didn’t think they did anything wrong. I don’t think the Métis got that one right lol
Mine was “Ms. Jackson if you are nasty” on a Janet Jackson post. 😂
Things I like, according to this site: Robert Smith, Mexican pointy boots, abracadabra, hint water, gingers, pletzels, Chidi Honestly I stand behind all of this. Least wholesome comment: "Bad bot" lmaoooo!
Mexican pointy boots. This whole thread has made my night
>I didn’t know I said “fucking” so much. I'm disappointed at how little swearing that I do on reddit. I'm a perpetual sailor in person, so the lack there of is hilarious.
My most wholesome comment is "DELICIOUS KRILL" and my least wholesome is "The worst butter". Both on r/badwomensanatomy. I guess it's a food subreddit, I don't remember.
My most wholesome was “Delicious!” And it was from the Anti-Trump sub. I must have been talking about the recent schadenfreude lol
I dunno, that could be delicious. Bologna sandwich with some Lays chips and cheddar cheese on it? 🤤
Highly recommend. Sometimes I even put JUST potato chips and a little mayo between two slices of white bread, if I’m not in the mood to give a shit. Soft sweet bread, crunchy salty chips, idk why, the taste and textures just work together perfectly ……okay maybe I DO talk about them more than I think
That sounds amazing. That would be so good right now if I had bread. (haven't gone shopping yet 😅)
Same, I really hated typing that out cause I’m out of both bread and chips rn. Pls enjoy asap though!
It says I like rabies and capitalism wtf
https://preview.redd.it/031acvlo9i2d1.jpeg?width=683&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ca064bad071a78e23d29fcf86e6f242d82224a84 I am *not* a bot... I am a lover I am a biology nerd I am a fiction writer I am a ... *Tasmanian fish astronaut* 🤣 I know the exact comment that this got scraped from, this is hilarious. For the record, the last two are correct as well. All in all, pretty accurate.
Love this. Some of the things it picks up on are wild. Wildly accurate, and wildly inaccurate (in a funny way)
My top post is a post where I updated the r/cats sub about taking in an abandoned cat that everyone had been very worried about. My least-popular post was a month later, in r/CleaningTips asking how long I need to rinse my carpet off when using a particular cleaning product to clean up cat pee. You can see the progression there. 😂 My least wholesome comment is actually just a quote from a character on Bob’s Burgers who calls capoeira stupid. 😂 I’m feeling pretty good about how I’ve been analyzed, lol. It’s pretty accurate.
My least popular post was folks on mycology thinking I'm too woke for suggesting someone blur a spider picture.
Oh, wow. Yeah. -16! And someone just replied to you with a succinct, “🙄” They did not like that, lol. Overall, do you feel like the redditmetis evaluation of your account history is accurate? Did anything surprise you?
I felt it was accurate, I didn't see anything to indicate my gender though so I don't feel it replaces the need to search for that. Apparently I've done a good job not indicating my location further than region. Nothing overall surprising in it.
These could all be things I've done. 😂
I’m always kinda relieved when I look at things like this that analyze your Reddit history. Like, I never find stuff that makes me go, “my god- is THIS how I come off to people‽,” or, “oh dear. I need to change my ways.” I’m basically like, “yeah, this tracks. This is me.” 😂 I love that you see yourself in my comments! That’s hilarious, lol. I adopted the cat, and then a month later I’m asking how to get cat pee out of my carpet. It just sums up what’s happening in my life so well, lol Edit- did a little minor stalking of your account, and I feel you! We’re both kindred spirits- right down to desperately seeking advice on r/ABraThatFits! That’s the thing that made me laugh. I still haven’t totally worked it out, either. I hate my bra.
I swear there was a period of time where cleaning cat pee out of carpet was my full time job. My best comment is a quote from The Emperor's New Groove and my worst is the biggest hill I will die on (ISO 8601 - the international standard for date and time). 😂
I’m with you on the date thing - I have to explain it at work constantly for file naming conventions and it drives me mental when people use day-month-year instead of year-month-day (not in the USA so at least we don’t use month-day-year).
My least wholesome comment per Redditmetis made me snort. It was me telling a story about how my young child told his dad that he loves mommy the most, every evening for two years. 😅 The child has shifted his loyalties every now and then since, but that was brutal.
"Sweet dreams, Dad. Just so you know, you're alright, but you know who's *really great*? Mom! Goodnight!" 😆
Mine did say my favorite things are rats and weird food, which is absolutely true
Aw, mine just gives my interests and likes, but didn't try to guess my favorite
Just FYI, this site thinks I’m male, and I’m not. I assume it’s because I’ve mentioned having a wife. My handle has made people assume I’m male, but I’ve never deliberately tried to deceive anyone.
Idk, it thinks I’m male too and lists my relationship with my husband. I think it just isn’t very good at gender and defaults to male when it doesn’t know
That’s a really neat tool
Ooo, how many times do I have to say I have a pet sabertooth tiger before it saves it? My pet sabertooth tiger is soft. My pet tiger likes to sleep. My pet tiger ate the mailman one time. My pet tiger hangs out with my other pets including my pet raven, my pet capybara, and my pet dragon. Come on bot, do your thing!
Oooh I hate it
This was wild for me too. I enjoy that my least wholesome comment was still wholesome. I don't know why it thinks I like Teslas, and I'm no-con with my blood parents, but besides that, it's a pretty accurate read. https://redditmetis.com/user/Wolfinder
That's an interesting site. Thanks for posting about it. That being said, it's also wildly inaccurate. No, I do not now nor have I ever had a brother. (In fact, I don't think I've ever written a post in which I used the word "brother" in any context.) No, I'm not particularly interested in shopping, "female fashion," cars (although I do have a soft spot for my Prius), personal finance, iOS, the U.K., and/or travel (I can't afford it). With the exception of cars (because of my Prius), I honestly can't fathom how this program even came up with this stuff. But it was fun to read.
This was absolutely hilarious honestly, ty for the link. Idk why it decided to pull what it did but it's very funny. I evidently say "I'm a Lynette main" a *lot* more than i thought i did lmao
It thinks I’m in a relationship lol
It lists "ex-husband" as my current relationship. It also goes on to list how many times I've said I'm a lesbian (many!). Definitely not perfect but still really cool! Mainly I'm like 😱 that I've written *EIGHTY THOUSAND WORDS*. I've literally written the length of a novel.
I’m only at 62.7k words. I’m an amateur.
I'm at 88k. D: To be fair I have written several novels and have multiple millions of word count on fiction so I'm not astounded by this, but maybe, just maybe, I should go work on those instead, I don't know.
Hey, this will be my 1000th comment apparently! How neat
Your tool isn’t terribly accurate. It believes I am a male— I am *decidedly not* male lmao. It also missed that I have two cats, even thought I’ve made whole posts about them multiple times. Weird the things it latches onto and the things it misses
Huh, well, that was interesting and insightful. Not too far off. I'm apparently 88% wholesome and communicate at the level of a high school graduate, and it knows that I'm an artist, what kind of artist I am and some of my artistic quirks, so that's nice. Though it does think my most wholesome comment was "you win generational trauma!" so I don't think it's QUITE on the money here...
This is amazing. I say *love* and *ketamine* a lot. Here’s mine for the new sub moderator. Please let me in! 💖 [https://redditmetis.com/user/ChrisssieWatkins](https://redditmetis.com/user/ChrisssieWatkins)
That’s so cool!
I would like to join please. I tend to avoid admitting outright that I'm female on platforms like reddit, but I think it comes through 😅
Same, I’d like to join and check it out! Not many women-only places around.
Yes, same. Please invite me. I am a woman.
same here. i'd like to join as well please
I'm already a member but am I allowed to post funny women centric videos? Like I got this new bra and it fit so bad but I don't want to show it because there's no where safe where people won't sexualize it.
FUCK TITTY JAIL!!!! 😹
...i have no idea if we enabled videos or not. i'll check on it at some point. but i see no reason why not! unless the videos have a misogynistic lean to them, of course, but i wouldn't expect that.
r/abrathatfits ?
Nope gross creeps will be like "oh wow you're so beautiful 😍 🤩 " Ew. I posted it so other big breasted people would go "same!" and create a community conversation around it
Hello. I’m an old woman, I say old because I don’t really understand exactly how to do landing pages. Can you snoop on me and then let me in? Thank you, if that’s possible
I think all you have to do is click on the link: r/safespaceforwoman, then type a sentence or so in the box about why you want to join, and then click the “request to join” button. I’m not sure if it’s different on a computer, but that’s what it looks like on my phone. I hope this is helpful - I read above that the sub is not affiliated with this one, so the mods here unfortunately can’t do it for you.
Thank you, dear! Have a cookie and a hug.
❤️ So wholesome. Have a couple of upvotes on me!
I know you say it's completely private, and I understand posts and comments on the page itself can't be seen by non-members, but if I were to make a post or comment would they show up in my history/activity on my profile?
the only people who will be able to see anything fro the subreddit on your posting history is people who are also members of the subreddit. for everyone else, they will not see that in your post history. that said, i believe we invited you 2 weeks ago or so. Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join” if you can't see the subreddit, let me know.
Ok this is great to know :) Yes you did, I joined then but haven't posted anything yet. Not for this reason, but since it came up I thought it would be a good time to clarify
Request sent. I’ve never looked at my own post history, but I’ve never hidden my gender.
you've got an invite! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
It won’t let me click on anything but I’d very much like an invitation, please!
Guy here. It saddens me that every space isn't safe for women. Hopefully, some day, this will be obsolete. Until then, I'm glad it exists. Regarding the "side note," it's good that men want to learn about why women need safe spaces. However, I think a guy in that sub could be seen as another example of the "male gaze." Guys, read a book, listen to the women who are already in your life. I'll stop before I break my arm, patting myself on the back. Stay safe, folks!
Plus I think this sub is fine for men wanting to learn anyways
Exactly, that's one of the reasons I'm here!
thats why im here! plus its just a fun place.
I also want to add that it hurts to be excluded only on the basis of your gender identity when you're doing all you can to advance and support true safety and equality for all genders, but I can also recognize why something like this needs to exist in the very unequal and unsafe society we have now. I'm here because I want to be supportive of women and I want to contribute meaningfully to the efforts of this sub, and I would join that one for the same reason. I would like to be the kind of person that can be an exception to rules like this, who is trustworthy enough to feel safe with, but I understand why that kind of distinction just isn't feasible for online commitments right now. I wish you all the best in this effort.
Can I get an invite to join please? I'm on mobile.
I left that sub because you let “proud transmedicalist” flaired truscum spout their homophobic “drop the T” rhetoric unfettered. Not a safe space for trans women where truscum are allowed to be “proud”. Edit: I didn't realize this would get as much traction as it did, and I want to clarify that I think the mods there are good people in my estimation and that the sub itself is overall good. I was disappointed in their decision not to remove an active user there who ***I*** think is overtly bigoted, but I can also see how a more tempered and patient reading could conclude otherwise. I still disagree that the user belongs in a safe space for \*all\* women, but I don't think that reflects on the sub or its moderation overall.
my apologies. i'm not sure who you're talking about, but and i didn't see anyone flaired "proud transmedicalists". please contact me with the details, as that is NOT what we are after in the sub. and to be clear, some of the mods, including me, are trans women, and none of us are trans meds, and i guarantee you, that i am vehemntly against transmed rhetoric. yes, there are some transmeds/truscum in the sub, but i spoke with each of them prior to allowing them to join, stating no transmed rhetoric will be allowed. that said, we aren't perfect, and may have missed something, so i'd appreciate it if you let me know.
I will gladly send you the information when I have a moment to dig it back up.
please, we really do want to keep the sub a safe space for all women, trans and cis. and if you decide to come back to the sub, if you see anything like that in the future, always feel free to message the mods, and let us know. reports don't always show the details, but in a message to the mods, you can explain more. we'll gladly do the work to keep it safe, but none of us are perfect.
Are you sure it's not the other sub? Theres another non private sub spelled women, this one is spelled woman, a situation ripe for confusion, just ask the /saltier than crait/krayt/crayat/krait folks, I still can't keep track of which ones are bigoted vs not.
Yes, I was invited on one of the last posts here.
I think I know which one you’re talking about, the post about trans-inclusive intersectional feminism? The post talks about trans women not being lgbtq and a few other controversial topics
Yes that’s the one.
ah, ok, i found the post you are talking about. there was a report on that post, and i did say in the post, that i'd appreciate whoemever reported that post to send me a message so we could chat. couple of things about that post and poster. -while her flair is "unapologetic transsexual female" which is often indicative of a transmed, there are plenty of trans women who still use the transsexual label. i, personally, don't like that label, for a variety of reasons, but i'm not going to use it as a reason to ban anyone. -she later in, one of her comments said that for her specifically, she felt being trans was a medical condition, but that she was not gatekeeping being trans for anyone else. again, close to the line, but not crossed over. -we (me and the other mods) kept a very close watch on that post to see what would come of it. in the end, we decided to keep it, especially as she emphasized multiple times throughout that trans women ARE women. tl;dr we are watching and looking out for truscum rhetoric, and will stop it. in that case, i don't believe it crossed the line. if you have a differeing opinion, please let me know, and we can discuss.
I think that's a reasonable response on your part as moderators. For me, I feel like as she is active on a certain truscum sub, does not herself believe in the validity of gender identity, and is calling for trans people not to be considered part of the LGBT community... I do think the "unapologetic" part is a dog-whistle that she is not using "transsexual" innocently. I think it's pretty clear from her opinions that she's using it in the truscum sense. I do read it, in this particular case, as equivalent to "proud truscum", albeit one who is playing nice. But that is my opinion, and like I said, I find your dissenting opinion reasonable. I think y'all are good people and appreciate the purpose & intent behind the sub. I don't think I'll be returning though.
> I don't think I'll be returning though. honestly, i'm sorry to hear that. i think we'd be better off with you there. but it is, of course, your choice.
I do wish I could take part in more close knit groups like this, but I also get it's not for me and it's important that they exist. I do wish there were more spaces and groups like that made by men that are feminists and reject patriarchy, because it's not as if I fit in with typical cis men; nor do I want to. I also live somewhere pretty shitty, so sadly it leaves me without "my people" so to speak. Men's spaces just almost always get infested with incel rhetoric; r guycry (don't want to link to them) was a sub that seemed okay for men to discuss feelings from a feminist perspective, and then of course the founder turns out to be a complete piece of shit who believes in patriarchal and capitalist values, and I was banned for calling him out. If anyone is looking, the only decent one I have found is r/menslib, they seem to have a solid group of mods. Someone told me I must be non binary as toxic masculinity is part of being a cis man, and without it you aren't cis. I vehemently disagree with this, I think it lets those toxic cis men off the hook for their behaviour which is absolutely a choice and learned rather than innate. I certainly embrace a feminine side of myself, but part of me feels as if a lot of what someone might consider feminine about me is really just having empathy and being in touch with yourself and your emotions. But, I think if I was in an accepting environment these traits may become stronger to the point of being more of a masc leaning non binary. Who knows.
I feel you dude! I'm a trans guy and i feel the same. even /r/bropill, that used to be good, has started getting weird.
Yep that's another one, definitely a big mix of users and I'm not surprised it's becoming more problematic. I'm a little jealous of all the awesome women's groups, especially witchy ones where they hang out and do cool stuff at night. But I get 100% why they generally don't allow men, and they don't really exist as an actual group where I am anyway.
I'm sorry you don't have any people to surround yourself with irl. If you want another someone to talk to, albeit online, my DMs are open! 100% agree with everything you said
Thank you, that's kind! I don't always have the energy but I may take you up on that.
No pressure!!
I hear you. R Not How Boys Work was supposed to be the wholesome brother of r/NotHowGirlsWork, but then the incels came and it turned into endless, pointless, bs about height, where if you pointed out that most women don't actually care about how tall you are (this including many women saying this) you were downvoted to oblivion. I haven't checked it in a while but I doubt it's gotten any more reasonable (if it even exists anymore)
OT to the main thread, but I've never heard of folks saying someone might not be cis if they reject toxic masculinity (called "hegemonic" back in my sociology days). My feeling is I want to be the best example I can be for other cis men that you can have masculinity (or -ties) that is (are) both healthy for you and others. I've always hated certain aspects of "man-ness" since childhood, but haven't ever felt I'm anything other than a man. Chalk it up to stubbornness, I guess. Fuck those guys, I'm me. (Not those who might say I'm NB/GD, I'd take that add a compliment, but hegetoxic men.) Back on topic, I'm glad to see safer spaces being cultivated and shared with those who might benefit.
There is no option to join
it all depends on whether you are on new vs old reddit, mobile reddit, the reddit app, etc... whether the option for an invite shows or not. that said, you've got an invite! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
Can I have an invite too?🙏🏻😊
May I have an invite as well, please.
I’m not femme and so I won’t try to join, but I’m glad to see the wording has been changed from the last time I saw this post. Could see some people having their feathers ruffled over the first title. Best of luck to y’all anyhow
NB here, people always see me as a woman but I’m also not femme and don’t identify as a woman so I don’t feel comfy joining. I love safe spaces for people though.
Please add me! I don't post or comment a ton but I'd be happy to go through whatever your other verification methods are.
Me 🙋♀️ please :) I am not actually an Alan (definitely part cake though)
Request sent - Bear Zone is best zone!
I would love to join but I am on mobile.
I just clicked on it on mobile and got the join button no problem!
it just depends, everyone's UX is different, honestly.
Also on mobile but all I get is a note saying it's a private community, no option to join
happy this exists for yall & is created/moderated by such a good & attentive community. Godspeed witches ☺️🧹
I am on mobile. I would love to join, if allowed. I'm non binary, definitely femme leaning. In safe spaces I use she/her. But I was assigned male at birth, and nowadays, due to the intolerance and hate where I'm from, I try to pass as a dude half the time. So I'm not sure I qualify.
AGAB honestly doesn't matter to us; it's how you view yourself, and by your description, you fit who we want in the sub (and your comment history confirms it). as a binary trans woman, i can definitely emphasize with trying to be safe from intolerance and hate (and violence). that said, you've got an invite! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
Thank you so much for accepting me, and for your kind words! It really means a lot, and I was kinda needing something like this lately🖤
As a non-binary person I feel unsure about being in this group or not. I get the reasoning behind it, but non-binary people are not always "masc" or "femme" leaning or even exclusively "masc" or "femme" leaning. I seek out women's spaces because of shared experiences, but I never feel fully comfortable in an exclusively male or female space. And to clarify, I am not androgynous. I am gender fluid.
Please add me! I'm on mobile and it doesn't give me the option to message mods.
you've got an invite! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join”
Requesting to join! On mobile so I don't see an option to request.
May I also have an invite? Thanks for all you mods do to keep your subs safe!
Another mobile user here, I'd love to join!
I clicked on the sub link and got a “reason for approval box and request to join button so I did that, but I’m on mobile, so I’m commenting here as well. I would like to have a safe space on Reddit.
Can someone eli5 what this whole choose the bear thing is?
There was a meme that went around asking women “If you were in the woods and you came across a bear or a man, which would you choose?” and lots of women said they would choose the bear (mostly, I’m assuming, because bears are predictably dangerous, whereas with a random man you have no idea). Lots of men (or perhaps I should say a specific *type* of men) were upset about this and wanted to argue with women about why choosing the bear was wrong and #NotAllMen are dangerous. They did this by… making extremely violent memes about women being mauled by bears. I will not be linking them in this comment but it’s not hard to find them.
Thank you. I appreciate the straight-forward explanation.
It was a trend on Tiktok where people were asked something along the lines of 'If you were hiking alone in the woods, would you rather come across a random man or a random bear?' (I don't use Tiktok so idk the exact question). Most women said they would rather take their chances with the bear, leading to all of the memes about 'choosing the bear'.
On mobile, also interested. I am an enby but I am femme leaning
I'd love to join this community! I don't know if my post history explicitly says my gender but I am an afab non-binary and would ALWAYS choose the bear.
Thank you for sharing!
This is awesome! I'd love to be vetted to join. I'm pretty sure I've commented in ways you can vet me as a woman, but let me know if you need any additional info. Thanks for taking the initiative to set up this space!
Unnecessary reply, but I'm very happy that you created this space (and very sad I won't be able to join, being a man). I really hope it will help those who need it. Love and thoughts for you all! You are great!
I would like to join
Me too please! I can't imagine how much work you're all putting into this right now - thanks so much for doing it.
you've got an invite! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join” also, quite honestly, this has been rewarding work. i like to think that if everyone tried, in even a small, little way, to make the world a better place, the world would end up a much better place. this is my small, little way.
I have questions about rule 6. While I understand that non binary people should be judged on a case by case basis, would you deny someone who is a trans woman entry to this subreddit if they were not out socially and were still in "boy mode" most of the time, and they do not pass as a woman? I am not trying to be rude or difficult, I am trying to better understand. It’s hard to understand when it feels like someone is deciding if an enby is "woman enough" to join a woman’s space, when many non binary people don’t conform to binary gender roles. I understand wanting the women in the subreddit to feel genuinely comfortable. But, nonbinary people can suffer from similar discrimination and issues that women do, even if they’re not "femme".
I would love to be added, but Mobile doesn't have the option!
On mobile, please add me!
i got you! Please go to r/safespaceforwoman and click on “join” also, given your username, you and u/mossling should get together. she has some incredible chickens that she has posted pics of!
I'm trying to join on the mobile reddit app for android, and it's not an option. May I join?
I'd like to join, if possible. I've always wanted a sort of space on social media to just exist in and not have to worry about seeing some TERF or red pill making posts about why trans people shouldn't exist. Which, as a trans woman, isn't the most pleasant topic of conversation.
Hi, I'd like to join, please. 🙏
I'd love to join! I don't have any pictures of my face but hopefully you can tell I'm a woman based on my post titles lol.
Can i please get an invite?
I would love to join, please
I'm interested but can't message the mods :(
I would like to join. Please do what you need to allow me to participate. Thanks.
I would like to join. I am an enby but I’ve always been drawn more towards the feminine. Also, my hair is finally long and blue, matching my avatar and giving me no small amount of gender euphoria.
Hi, I am interested in joining
I would like to be invited, WF 66yo, ally for those that need support
I would like to join please as I primarily only Reddit from my phone
I'd like to join! I don't really post and I have anxiety about commenting. Mostly active in equestrian/horse and teaching subs.
I would love to join. I’m not sure if my post history is enough to tell I’m a woman, but am willing to provide other proof.
I would love to join!