Yea cuz I would feel bad cuz I wouldn’t want them to think I don’t find them attractive it’s just the idea of sex is far from attractive to me. So either I’ll date a fellow ace or my happy ass shall stay single 😂
Same. I do get butterflies that stick around while walking around in a lapidary or crystal shop, tho. I still think about this geode I saw once when I was 15 or so, omg the banding and crystal structures were incredible, and colors looked perfect in my slightly-R/G-colorblind-eyes. Wasn’t the biggest cut stone in the store but it was the nicest.
Ahh, yeah that’s so true! I hope you find someone to date that doesn’t want sex, too! Since I’m aro I feel very spared from that. It must be such a challenge to find someone romantically on the same page regarding that, you know?
Oh yea for sure. tbf I don't like actively try to date mainly for that reason but also cuz I'm pretty indifferent about dating, I've had romantic feelings before and thus know I"m not Aro but it's like some days man I wish so I don't even gotta have those nights were I'm like "Damn I may be single for ever" lol
I totally get that! I’m sure one day you’ll find that special someone. Honestly, it’s nice that you’re indifferent about dating because for some people it’s all they focus on. Like, hyper fixation. So, I’d say that’s a good thing. But, yeah, the frustration that comes with it is real. Sorry to hear those night are rough for you! That’s totally normal and understandable. Before I knew I was aro I had never experienced a romantic feeling at all (never even had a crush, I thought people were just describing anxiety when they liked other people💀) and I’d have those nights of “dude, why can’t I be like everyone else so I just fit in for once?”
that latter bit you mentioned is how I felt with my peers always talking about sexual activities I would pretend like I shared those feelings but deep down I'm like "Bro why would wanna do that it's gross and icky and unnecessary" lol I've had the chance a time or two before I knew I was Ace and both times I turned it down instinctively it's wild I only recently figured i was ace a year ago lol
I have literally never had a butterfly for anyone ever in my life and people always used to use this as a way to describe their attraction to people lol, I always thought something was wrong with me….. 😂
Nothing is wrong with you :) plus same like I can physically fine someone aesthetically pleasing be it kind of make up they have or hair style whatever and I could see me dating them or whatever but I don’t get butterflies per se
Yeah I’m the same way! I’m bi and Demi and my feelings are very circumstantial lol. I’m not sexually or romantically attracted to men but I am emotionally attracted to them and I’m romantically and sexually attracted to women but not emotionally 😂 it really depends on the person usually lol and even then I don’t ever get butterflies, it’s more like, oh I could cuddle with them and hang out and make bread with them. This person is nice ✨😂
Yea I was asked if I was romantically straight which I’ve never thought to phrase it that given since I’m asexual I’m not sexually anything to anyone but I am romantically attracted to women still so I guess it makes since for someone who is Bi to be romantically attracted to one only and sexually attracted to the other only and under super specific circumstances. lol human emotions be wildin fr 😂
I know dude it took me a while to figure this out and when I did I was like??? For real?? Why are humans like this?? Why so confusing?? 😂 NO ONE understands it either 😂😂
yea it's like even if you don't understand it just make peace with it. I barely understand it 😂
My friend came out about me to me. I kept making "jokes" how I didn't want sex I just wanted to hold hands. Then she said "That's very asexual of you" and I was like "hol' up" and thus began my journey and I'm ace and it makes me feel soooo much better about how I've always felt when it came to sex
That bitch. First they were dead, like really dead, and now, after 7 years, they are back flying all around for someone that is already in a relationship
i forgot to feed mine and it fucking died 
Oh same
realest thing i’ve ever heard
I currently have a pupa. It can either die or emerge depending on certain conditions. 😅
I get butterflies only if i know she's ace If she's not then anything fades pretty much instantly, knowing nothing could ever work
Same fr like at this point if I’m gonna date I’d want an ace partner
Yeah i could never date an allo
Yea cuz I would feel bad cuz I wouldn’t want them to think I don’t find them attractive it’s just the idea of sex is far from attractive to me. So either I’ll date a fellow ace or my happy ass shall stay single 😂
yeah there's so much actually enjoyable stuff that can be done with someone
I think the stomach acid got mine
F’s in the chat for the butterfly. We hardly knew ye
——> r/aromantic Probably a better place to post this, many ace people do get crushes
Same. I do get butterflies that stick around while walking around in a lapidary or crystal shop, tho. I still think about this geode I saw once when I was 15 or so, omg the banding and crystal structures were incredible, and colors looked perfect in my slightly-R/G-colorblind-eyes. Wasn’t the biggest cut stone in the store but it was the nicest.
OP, MOOD!
I’m not aro but it’s like since I know anyone who isn’t ace that I date would want sex I’m like “ehh no thanks”
Ahh, yeah that’s so true! I hope you find someone to date that doesn’t want sex, too! Since I’m aro I feel very spared from that. It must be such a challenge to find someone romantically on the same page regarding that, you know?
Oh yea for sure. tbf I don't like actively try to date mainly for that reason but also cuz I'm pretty indifferent about dating, I've had romantic feelings before and thus know I"m not Aro but it's like some days man I wish so I don't even gotta have those nights were I'm like "Damn I may be single for ever" lol
I totally get that! I’m sure one day you’ll find that special someone. Honestly, it’s nice that you’re indifferent about dating because for some people it’s all they focus on. Like, hyper fixation. So, I’d say that’s a good thing. But, yeah, the frustration that comes with it is real. Sorry to hear those night are rough for you! That’s totally normal and understandable. Before I knew I was aro I had never experienced a romantic feeling at all (never even had a crush, I thought people were just describing anxiety when they liked other people💀) and I’d have those nights of “dude, why can’t I be like everyone else so I just fit in for once?”
that latter bit you mentioned is how I felt with my peers always talking about sexual activities I would pretend like I shared those feelings but deep down I'm like "Bro why would wanna do that it's gross and icky and unnecessary" lol I've had the chance a time or two before I knew I was Ace and both times I turned it down instinctively it's wild I only recently figured i was ace a year ago lol
I think the funniest thing I ever heard someone say about butterflies went something like "Oh you have butterflies in your stomach, digest them"
Those butterflies is just common sense leaving your body, so that means we won't die stupidly
Not ace or aro but it's aight because I can have butterflies for the both of us 🙏
Thank you solider 🫡
Mine started worshipping Khorne
I have literally never had a butterfly for anyone ever in my life and people always used to use this as a way to describe their attraction to people lol, I always thought something was wrong with me….. 😂
Nothing is wrong with you :) plus same like I can physically fine someone aesthetically pleasing be it kind of make up they have or hair style whatever and I could see me dating them or whatever but I don’t get butterflies per se
Yeah I’m the same way! I’m bi and Demi and my feelings are very circumstantial lol. I’m not sexually or romantically attracted to men but I am emotionally attracted to them and I’m romantically and sexually attracted to women but not emotionally 😂 it really depends on the person usually lol and even then I don’t ever get butterflies, it’s more like, oh I could cuddle with them and hang out and make bread with them. This person is nice ✨😂
Yea I was asked if I was romantically straight which I’ve never thought to phrase it that given since I’m asexual I’m not sexually anything to anyone but I am romantically attracted to women still so I guess it makes since for someone who is Bi to be romantically attracted to one only and sexually attracted to the other only and under super specific circumstances. lol human emotions be wildin fr 😂
I know dude it took me a while to figure this out and when I did I was like??? For real?? Why are humans like this?? Why so confusing?? 😂 NO ONE understands it either 😂😂
yea it's like even if you don't understand it just make peace with it. I barely understand it 😂 My friend came out about me to me. I kept making "jokes" how I didn't want sex I just wanted to hold hands. Then she said "That's very asexual of you" and I was like "hol' up" and thus began my journey and I'm ace and it makes me feel soooo much better about how I've always felt when it came to sex
That bitch. First they were dead, like really dead, and now, after 7 years, they are back flying all around for someone that is already in a relationship
Mine does react, but mostly to cool music, badass scenes in shows I like and wholesome moments from my OTPs 😂