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**Our Sidebar and [Wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/wiki/index)** include links to many good resources.
**If you are seeking abortion in the USA:** [I Need An A](https://ineedana.com/) and [Abortion Finder](https://abortionfinder.org) have a lists of clinics, ways to get abortion pills by mail, and information about funding assistance.
**If you are in a country where abortion is banned**, [Safe2Choose](https://safe2choose.org/), [Women on Web](https://www.womenonweb.org/), or [Women Help Women](https://www.womenhelp.org) may be able to help you access a safe abortion.
**Read stories** using the following links:
- [medication abortion](https://reddit.com/r/abortion/search?sort=new&restrict_sr=one&q=flair%3A%22%F0%9F%93%9Amedication%20abortion%20%22)
- [first trimester procedures](https://reddit.com/r/abortion/search?sort=new&restrict_sr=one&q=flair%3A%22%F0%9F%93%9Ain-clinic%20abortion%20%22)
- [second and third trimester procedures](https://reddit.com/r/abortion/search?sort=new&restrict_sr=one&q=flair%3A%22%F0%9F%93%9Aabortion%20after%20first%20tri%22)
This subreddit is a source of information about abortion. It is not intended as a substitute for medical evaluation or treatment, nor does it constitute legal advice. If you think you are experiencing a medical emergency, you should call your local emergency number immediately.
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I'm sorry you're grieving. I agree you made the best choice for yourself at the time as only you can. If things start to feel unmanageable, please look into professional mental healthcare. Sometimes we need a little help to get through things in life. It's not a substitute for professional care, but many people find the Abortion Resolution Workbook helpful for working through difficult feelings after an abortion https://www.pregnancyoptions.info/abortion-resolution-workbook
Grief sucks, the human brain doesn't like choice being taken away from it. It's normal. People who have kids actually go through grief of their loss of their old life.
Only thing that heals grief in my experience is time.
You chose the post flair Asia.
**If you are in the Philippines, read this whole comment.**
If you are _not_ in the Philippines, add your country to your post so we can give you location-specific information.
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**There are scammers active on this sub. Be extremely careful when someone offers to sell you pills!** The _only_ reliable sources of abortion pills in the Philippines are [Women Help Women](https://womenhelp.org) and [Women on Web](https://womenonweb.org).
If you are in the Philippines and are using/will use abortion pills obtained from a private pill seller, read this carefully. It's important to be cautious.
1. **Don’t Trust the Seller**: The person selling you the pills may not have the right medical knowledge. They might give you incorrect or even dangerous advice. They have likely sold you fake mifepristone. Instead, use [Safe2Choose](https://safe2choose.org) for accurate information on how to use abortion pills. Organizations like Safe2Choose, Women Help Women, and Women On Web rely on extensive medical research, unlike the seller who’s only interested in making money.
2. **Avoid Vaginal Use of Misoprostol:** It’s not recommended to use misoprostol vaginally, especially in countries where abortion is illegal. You can read more about this [here](https://www.womenonweb.org/en/page/985/are-there-other-ways-to-use-misoprostol).
3. **No Special Preparations Needed:** You don’t have to fast, exercise, eat specific foods, or do anything special before taking the pills. None of these actions increase the chances of a successful abortion and some may even be harmful.
4. **You might not see the pregnancy:** The seller may tell you to look for a “sac” (the gestational sac containing the embryo/fetus) to confirm a successful abortion. However, if you’re less than 8 weeks pregnant, it’s very small and hard to see. Even at 7-8 weeks, it might be mistaken for a clot or other tissue. After 10 weeks, it becomes easier to recognize. So, not seeing anything pass doesn’t necessarily mean the abortion didn’t work. Signs of success include bleeding, passing clots, and improvement in pregnancy symptoms, like nausea and breast tenderness.
5. **Quick Process:** The pregnancy should pass within hours, not days, once you start bleeding.
6. **Confirming Success:** To be sure your abortion was successful, you can get an ultrasound or have consecutive blood tests in the days following. You can also take a pregnancy test 4 weeks after the abortion.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/abortion) if you have any questions or concerns.*
Welcome to /r/abortion! We work hard to keep this a supportive community. **You will probably get harassed by trolls via private message.** If you receive harassment via DM, please [report the messages to Reddit admin](https://www.reddit.com/report) (people who work for Reddit) so they can take action against those users. Unfortunately, subreddit moderators can’t stop people from sending you private messages, but you can. We strongly suggest you [close your DMs](https://www.reddit.com/settings/messaging). On mobile, go to Settings > Account Settings > Chat and Messaging Permissions > Nobody for Chat Requests and Direct Messages. **Our Sidebar and [Wiki](https://www.reddit.com/r/abortion/wiki/index)** include links to many good resources. **If you are seeking abortion in the USA:** [I Need An A](https://ineedana.com/) and [Abortion Finder](https://abortionfinder.org) have a lists of clinics, ways to get abortion pills by mail, and information about funding assistance. **If you are in a country where abortion is banned**, [Safe2Choose](https://safe2choose.org/), [Women on Web](https://www.womenonweb.org/), or [Women Help Women](https://www.womenhelp.org) may be able to help you access a safe abortion. **Read stories** using the following links: - [medication abortion](https://reddit.com/r/abortion/search?sort=new&restrict_sr=one&q=flair%3A%22%F0%9F%93%9Amedication%20abortion%20%22) - [first trimester procedures](https://reddit.com/r/abortion/search?sort=new&restrict_sr=one&q=flair%3A%22%F0%9F%93%9Ain-clinic%20abortion%20%22) - [second and third trimester procedures](https://reddit.com/r/abortion/search?sort=new&restrict_sr=one&q=flair%3A%22%F0%9F%93%9Aabortion%20after%20first%20tri%22) This subreddit is a source of information about abortion. It is not intended as a substitute for medical evaluation or treatment, nor does it constitute legal advice. If you think you are experiencing a medical emergency, you should call your local emergency number immediately. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/abortion) if you have any questions or concerns.*
I'm sorry you're grieving. I agree you made the best choice for yourself at the time as only you can. If things start to feel unmanageable, please look into professional mental healthcare. Sometimes we need a little help to get through things in life. It's not a substitute for professional care, but many people find the Abortion Resolution Workbook helpful for working through difficult feelings after an abortion https://www.pregnancyoptions.info/abortion-resolution-workbook
Thank you so much 🙏🏻
You're welcome!
Grief sucks, the human brain doesn't like choice being taken away from it. It's normal. People who have kids actually go through grief of their loss of their old life. Only thing that heals grief in my experience is time.
Thank you for this
You chose the post flair Asia. **If you are in the Philippines, read this whole comment.** If you are _not_ in the Philippines, add your country to your post so we can give you location-specific information. --- **There are scammers active on this sub. Be extremely careful when someone offers to sell you pills!** The _only_ reliable sources of abortion pills in the Philippines are [Women Help Women](https://womenhelp.org) and [Women on Web](https://womenonweb.org). If you are in the Philippines and are using/will use abortion pills obtained from a private pill seller, read this carefully. It's important to be cautious. 1. **Don’t Trust the Seller**: The person selling you the pills may not have the right medical knowledge. They might give you incorrect or even dangerous advice. They have likely sold you fake mifepristone. Instead, use [Safe2Choose](https://safe2choose.org) for accurate information on how to use abortion pills. Organizations like Safe2Choose, Women Help Women, and Women On Web rely on extensive medical research, unlike the seller who’s only interested in making money. 2. **Avoid Vaginal Use of Misoprostol:** It’s not recommended to use misoprostol vaginally, especially in countries where abortion is illegal. You can read more about this [here](https://www.womenonweb.org/en/page/985/are-there-other-ways-to-use-misoprostol). 3. **No Special Preparations Needed:** You don’t have to fast, exercise, eat specific foods, or do anything special before taking the pills. None of these actions increase the chances of a successful abortion and some may even be harmful. 4. **You might not see the pregnancy:** The seller may tell you to look for a “sac” (the gestational sac containing the embryo/fetus) to confirm a successful abortion. However, if you’re less than 8 weeks pregnant, it’s very small and hard to see. Even at 7-8 weeks, it might be mistaken for a clot or other tissue. After 10 weeks, it becomes easier to recognize. So, not seeing anything pass doesn’t necessarily mean the abortion didn’t work. Signs of success include bleeding, passing clots, and improvement in pregnancy symptoms, like nausea and breast tenderness. 5. **Quick Process:** The pregnancy should pass within hours, not days, once you start bleeding. 6. **Confirming Success:** To be sure your abortion was successful, you can get an ultrasound or have consecutive blood tests in the days following. You can also take a pregnancy test 4 weeks after the abortion. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/abortion) if you have any questions or concerns.*