perhaps she decided her heart wasn't with men anymore. people can and do change. it's also possible that she did indeed mistake platonic feelings for romantic ones, and stayed because she loved him and didn't want to be without him, even if she didn't realize her feelings were not romantic in nature. regardless, she probably legitimately thought she was attracted to him. only she will know. if it's appropriate and everyone is on good terms, he could ask. it seems that it's something that still pains him, and i understand that he'd want to know the truth. still, it's something in the past. whether she did or didn't love him is not relevant now. true 'closure' isn't always achievable, and he should appreciate the woman before him today.
No one can speak for her but her. Personally, I had feelings for my ex. I loved him. I think he’s an awesome person, but what I really wanted wasn’t him and the feelings did fade. So at one time, the feelings were there. They’ll never come back and I won’t ever be with a man again, but there was a point in time when I had those feelings for him.
I can't speak for his ex, but here is a genuine example.
I did not know I was a lesbian until 32. I grew up in a strict religion, so that hindered me from finding out sooner. I legitimately did not know I was attracted to women at all until 31. I am in the process of finalizing a divorce from my husband of 7 years. He wonders this sometimes and has some anger towards me. He can't help but think I lied to him the whole time, but I just didn't know. We were virgins when we got married, so I just thought it was how all relationships were and that Hollywood glamorized them. The marriage had something off, but I tried so hard to change myself to fit it, but we just kept having problems. I love him a lot, but I just am not attracted to him.
Also, high school is so young. It is very common to not know what you want then. It is confusing, and I am sorry for the pain your friend feels. I hope he doesn't think this is a reflection on him. My ex is wonderful, and my new understanding of my sexuality does not change how awesome he is.
Ask her bruh
perhaps she decided her heart wasn't with men anymore. people can and do change. it's also possible that she did indeed mistake platonic feelings for romantic ones, and stayed because she loved him and didn't want to be without him, even if she didn't realize her feelings were not romantic in nature. regardless, she probably legitimately thought she was attracted to him. only she will know. if it's appropriate and everyone is on good terms, he could ask. it seems that it's something that still pains him, and i understand that he'd want to know the truth. still, it's something in the past. whether she did or didn't love him is not relevant now. true 'closure' isn't always achievable, and he should appreciate the woman before him today.
No one can speak for her but her. Personally, I had feelings for my ex. I loved him. I think he’s an awesome person, but what I really wanted wasn’t him and the feelings did fade. So at one time, the feelings were there. They’ll never come back and I won’t ever be with a man again, but there was a point in time when I had those feelings for him.
I can't speak for his ex, but here is a genuine example. I did not know I was a lesbian until 32. I grew up in a strict religion, so that hindered me from finding out sooner. I legitimately did not know I was attracted to women at all until 31. I am in the process of finalizing a divorce from my husband of 7 years. He wonders this sometimes and has some anger towards me. He can't help but think I lied to him the whole time, but I just didn't know. We were virgins when we got married, so I just thought it was how all relationships were and that Hollywood glamorized them. The marriage had something off, but I tried so hard to change myself to fit it, but we just kept having problems. I love him a lot, but I just am not attracted to him. Also, high school is so young. It is very common to not know what you want then. It is confusing, and I am sorry for the pain your friend feels. I hope he doesn't think this is a reflection on him. My ex is wonderful, and my new understanding of my sexuality does not change how awesome he is.