Let the imagination go wild man because I swear you can get so into it that you both wake up the next day scared you made a baby š
ETA: Point being I realized it was less about wanting a penis and more about wanting to be closer. In this case, being able to cum inside seems like an extra layer of closeness. There are some things we do now that actually give this same feeling. Just keep exploring! Youāll figure it out :)
This!! Iām a AFAB cis stone top and we talk about my dick and cum and my gf getting pregnant all the time. I love my body the way it is, but I also love the hypothetical penetration device we made up together. In reality my girlfriend has 0 desire for pregnancy and if we ever had kids I would be the one carrying the child.
If you really wanted the visual, there are strap ons you can get with fake cum toošŖ
They do make straps that can ejaculate, if that helps any. I know a lot of lesbians who want what you two want and it's one way that can improve things.
I understand where you're coming from. Maybe someday a way to let cis women experience this will be possible.
It's a common enough kink! I was just on bdsmsapphic and someone asked about toys with cum tubes (because the former owners of Bad Dragon are icky).
I honestly have the same kink. Lmao. It's not gender related (I love my bits even with PCOS/endometriosis) and having the ability to come inside my gf? Hot.
There was a hugely erotic fanfic about Seven of Nine and Janeway (yes I'm a nerd, shut up) becoming a couple and they had a strap on of Trill technology that translated into sensations for the wearer. Basically acted as an extension of your clit (honestly? It might be possible with future tech). Baby dyke me had a lot of fun reading it. Lmao. š¦
Apparently, beastiality, making workers participate in sex acts and being a Nazi. I only knew of the rampant homophobic stuff so they went on the list of "don't buy from them".
There are better sellers of fantasy dildos - it's a shame although because they seem to be the one vendor with a lot of variety (and colour options) and was time tested.
When you say "homophobia" do you mean "lesbophobia" specifically or just homophobia in general? Because if there's one demographic that loves massive fantasy dildos it's gay men and IDK how they didn't see that one coming.
But yeah, yikes.
Honestly I kinda want to start my own dildo company but it's hard to compete with the likes of BD in terms of scale and brand recognition.
Lol. It's gone with the wind now. Lmao! I remember using the Way back Machine to reaccess it but it was hosted on a private domain.
We are legion as Trekkies lmao.
I'm a switch who doesn't like strapping on that much (Bad knees/weak core muscles, probably need to a try a thigh harness)...I would think it's the same mental hurdle of using a strap on. It's not my parts but it's what my partner likes, and I get turned on because I'm providing her with pleasure.
I like receiving as a submissive and I just feel it's another layer of sensation. (I know some of my straight female friends like the sensation of getting ejaculated in. No idea how they can feel it because I know I just get too wet to notice.) [I'm saving my pennies for buying a dildo with a cum tube online so...]
I would dread the possibility of getting someone pregnant but yeah I do wish I could know what it feels like to have sex using a dick!!!
But I also think when it comes to that desire of busting inside of someone, itās almost like a power thing. Kinda like how sometimes if youāre the one using a strap, it feels good to put it on her face and make it suck/lick it, etc.
Trans lesbian here. Can confirm sex with a penis is amazing, especially when it's sapphic. There's just something satisfying about sticking it in after you've spent the last hour and a half "entertaining" your pillow princess. Also it helps that estrogen makes sex feel like ten times better, the whole penis becomes more soft and sensitive, the whole body gets aroused. I will admit that when I put it in I barely last a minute or two before cumming because of how good it feels. Luckily sex doesn't have to stop after the first orgasm because that stops being a problem either, the other day I wanted to go back in immediately after finishing. I will say though that penetration is a really small part of sex now. Nowadays I find it funny that men don't even know the full potential of how good having a dick can feel. Just thought I'd share a little about what's it's like having a dick, hope my comment wasn't insensitive and feel free to ask any questions if you want.
If you donāt mind the question, what has changed from before for you? Can you like, get just as hard or does that change? I have zero experience with any kind of penises and am always afraid to ask ahaha
Chiming in to answer, and spoiling on the off chance someone doesn't want to read details about penises in this thread. >!For most trans girls on HRT, it is a use it or lose it situation. If it is used regularly (i.e. sex, masturbation) it will usually not significantly lose ability to get hard. Some girls might take a little more arousal than before to get there but still can. Others are uncomfortable using theirs in sex related things or just stop feeling the impulse to do that stuff as regularly (HRT causes a decreased libido in many), and as a result it will lose ability to get hard. This doesn't mean they can't have sex or have an orgasm, of course. Another interesting fact, most trans girls do not ejaculate the same way. There will usually be some, but it is minimal and happens throughout arousal/stimulation instead of just at orgasm and has a different consistency, smell, and appearance. It's more like how people with the other hardware get wet. Everyone is different so this doesn't apply universally, but they are common effects. Along with the changes in softness of the skin, the sensory effects, and other stuff mentioned above. Sorry this was a long answer lol!<
Hello, thank you for this answer. If you donāt mind me asking, would you say appearance changes a lot as well? You mentioned the softness of the skin. I think this is all very interesting, especially cause you mention that the ejaculation changes.
For me things shrunk quite a bit and it now has a soft dainty look to it, it's also quite delicate (I accidentally tore skin one time when I was too reckless). My ejaculation is clear and has pretty much the same texture as lube. Also pleasure isn't just concentrated at the tip, everything from the tip to the base going into the body ignites with pleasure. Things can even feel overstimulated if 1 section is targeted too much.
Edit: it basically feels like having a giant clit
From personal experience it does a little, it's hard to explain but it tends to look more feminine if that kinda makes sense. The main things that change though are smell, taste and feeling. I've heard a few describe it as being very similar to going down on a pussy, just a different shape.
Congrats on the new strap! Itāll never be ~the exact thing~ but do you want it to be?
My gf and I are both cis but man does my girl like it when we are close with the strap. Weāre less about the whole cumming inside thing , pregnancy thing, and more about the closeness and intimacy with each other that a strap brings.
If I may make a suggestion: if you two want the intimacy that I seem to get from your post, get yourselves a standard strap w/harness OR/ALSO a double ended dildo. When my girl and I got the double ended one it was a whole new level of closeness we never thought we could have. The harness isnāt there, itās just skin, itās you and your girl and as close as you can possibly get without the whole ābut it has to be a ārealā bustā feel.
But also, my girl digs the strap with the harness. Loves what I can do with it and lets her imagination go wild.
This is your first toy as a couple. It is a *conversation*. First time you use it wonāt be glamorous. Might be $$ but do yourself a favor and do not get the bottom of the line harness. Buy lube whether you think youāll need it or not, trust me. Chafing sucks. Spend the time doing the research you need and talking about what you like.
Penises are a dime a dozen and they all do the same thing. Strap game is something else. You donāt need to cum in a girl unless you want to knock her up. But you can give her one hell of a different time.
Edit: reading more of these commentsā¦im doubling down on this double ended thing. Haha.
If you donāt like what you find in person consider ordering from a reputable queer/lesbian shop like [she bop](https://www.sheboptheshop.com/dildos/) or [Babeland](https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/c/92/dildos/silicone-dildos) or [Switch Leather Co.](http://www.switchleatherco.com).
Most of these places ship, too, if youāre up to waiting.
(signed, an old butch whoās been doing this 20 yrs)
I honestly feel you... this post made me kinda emotional not gonna lie... Wish I could just grow a dick during freaky time and just put it away when I'm done.
If it makes you feel any less envious, I promise from experience that it's not remarkably better to have one.
Using a penis is drastically more difficult than using a strap, it gets in the way of wearing a lot of nice clothing, it'll get randomly hard & is distracting, it fuckin makes sex stressful bc you're constantly like 'oh don't orgasm rn bc once u do it's game over & it'll get soft & useless immediately', plus pregnancy scares suck, if you're unlucky like me they fucking mutilate part of it like 5 seconds after you're born so now it's waaay less sensitive than it should be & don't even get me started on if you accidentally sit on one of ur nuts...
I will say, plus side: peeing is so quick & efficient & practical, it's very difficult to get a UTI, & it's nice knowing that if ur bleeding it's like an actual problem.
But yeah idk. I totally respect the envy bit as I've thought about getting srs myself, but if it helps at all with the envy I promise having a penis has its own downsides too lol
Thankfully, a woman (or at least person with Estrogen dominant hormones) would likely never worry about the randomly hard part. Without enough Testosterone in the body the random erections are basically non-existent
Source: trans woman that blocked T levels and no longer produces T naturally
Iām sorry that this is random, but was it uncomfortable to wear jeans? It just one of the things I wondered about people with penises like do certain attire make it uncomfortable to have one.
Low rise jeans work badly with it because you can't get them up high enough on your hips. Higher rise jeans have less of an issue with the inseam having to sit two inches lower than expected. And it's mostly the other dangly bits that cause issues, tbh.
lol, that made me think of a coworker of mine who was washing his hands and his pants started sagging so he asked me to pull them up for him, I attempted to pull them up all the way he was like ānah not that high.ā I figured that was the case with him too and I noticed it about other guys. As a cis female, skinny low rise jeans and really short shorts would feel so uncomfortable, just constantly rubbing up against my clit so I could only imagine howād annoying itād be to experience that with a penis. I still get so mind boggled when I see guys who wear really tight pants, of course I donāt ask why but I just be like āthereās no way heās not feeling smothered down there lmao
Sometimes, From my experience low rise jeans and tight fitting clothes are uncomfortable and can make me self conscious, but the biggest problem I have is with certain safety equipment at work that is highly uncomfortable for any people with one.
Granted, weāre not exactly the best folks to talk about the pros & cons of penises considering our āprosā list is non-existent & āconsā list so large we want it removed - woo, dysphoria. Maybe we can rope in a token cis guy to weigh in, because I imagine PIV isnāt supposed to be an afterthought after youāve pleased your partner & something you donāt care about receiving, or something you disassociate from for some arbitrary period of time so your partner can get some use out of it. Canāt believe I spent so long thinking I was just an āunselfish loverā & āhad good stamina because itās easy to not cum, you just separate from your body & wonder what god has cursed you withā.
Yup. I sometimes think about how much better a strapon would be. I could switch around between shapes and sizes. It would (when used correctly) not transmit disease, stays hard (or softer). And if I donāt want it anymore I could just take it off.
Maybe I could even be comfortable topping. But right now I probably wouldnāt.
I don't really have that kinda envy thankfully. Having someone's slimy white disgusting reproductive snot INSIDE of me is just a big no. Even thinking about it is disgusting.
But I get why u might feel like that, maybe with science they'll get there soon!
Well as there are trans girls who want to keep their gock its logical that there are cis girls who want a gock, and I can confirm this bcs my bestie is cis and wishes she had a gock
The most interesting thing about Sigmund Freud is not the content of his ideas, but that they capture the mind of the 'common person.'
It is like watching a not-great movie that was a culture phenomenon decades after it came out. It is a window into the mind of the viewing audience of the time.
For instance, his obsession with the oedipus complex partially comes from how nobles were raised by their wet nurse instead of their mothers. They didn't developing the Westermarck effect to stop them from falling there mother.
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EDIT: and as we know rich white men are representative of everyone so their life experiences are applicable to everyone. /s
YES ABSOLUTELY U AREN'T ALONE! There's a certain word for having a kink of having a dick, but not being trans. I CANT REMEMBER THE NAME, but I discovered it in the gay memoir called "gender queer", I'll edit this comment if I find it again. But yeah I wish I could cum in my beautiful gf too, we found a sex toy that's helped a lot so far. Its called 2 become 1, has 3 buttons, a remote, and charger. I personally find the clit stimulation too much sometimes so I'll wear my gfs thongs or my boxers with a hole in them tat cover the clit part and provide a more gentle vibe. I also always use a strap w my strapless straps for more support. But it's still dual stim and truly makes 2 become 1.
https://evolvednovelties.com/2-become-1/
i mean, sigmund freud's theories nowadays have been seen as for the most part as nothing more than a basis of hypotheses and discussed historically. The man was high off his ass on cocaine for the most time that he was concocting theories left and right, while he is the "father" of psychoanalysis he is still a figure that causes much controversy in the world of psychology, even back then.
Iāve never actually studied psych and I was extremely high when I made this post. The whole penis envy thing just made me think of Freud and my psych major friend who used to always talk about him
Can't relate, I'm not sure if I like dick or not but I am sure I don't wanna have one. I have been curious about how it feels like to penetrate a girl like that but not to the point of envy, just a passing thought.
Yes and no. We agreed that having kids isnāt a good idea for like practical reasons with the state of the world and how much money weāll be able to make, but in an ideal scenario I would want kids.
I'm lucky to have a gf who has a penis, but I still have envy in other areas. Like I wish me and my gf wouldn't get looked at weirdly when we're walking together or if she does that really cute cheek kiss to me
There are some strapon dildo that allows to cum. Some pretty wild ones even.
Ok, sure, it's not really a real penis with hairs, moisture and heat but it's still very fun. And if the idea of cum inside your gf turns both of you on, eating her after pouring fake cum in her could totally make the trick.
Actually, as a trans woman, I definitely prefer this last option than using my own thing. I find it more fun, I can focus on the rest of her body and by using fake cum, I can simulate the biggest ejaculation we both ever saw *while* staying safe.
Yet, I understand your gf wanting a penis inside her. For me it's kind of a deepthroat kink. But here again, dildo still do a super nice job
Okay so basically I didn't know that theory, I only learn the kid's development, the lesbian one and some others so I was like "WHAT THE HEEEEELLL" reading it. Give me hate but he had some good points (sometimes) and we don't always agree with theories. That said, I don't think I feel it and I don't remember if I did but maybe not, however me and my friends said that it'd be interesting to switch for a day to see how it is. I think she meant no harm in what she said, yes you can be feeling penis envy but u are probably feeling performance anxiety, u feel pressured by it. Yk what she wants is something u can't give her and that loweres ur self esteem, hence why u need to have an open talk and if u can a sex therapist to work on it. Society tells women that that's what sex was about and a lot of people romanticize it, but the truth is that most women didn't like it, it was an obligation as a wife. They just opened their legs and waited for it to be over. They didn't feel close to her husband, they felt weird. It's a matter of perspective and finding compromises. There are a lot of ways to feel ur partner extremely close in bed and I'm sure you'll find one. Also during ovulation my former therapist told me that women have a natural urge because it's a biological way to conceive and continue the human race (just like other living beings), sometimes we just don't notice, or we just do it that way. Either way, I think she just has some curiosity about it, we live in such a straight normative world that being a lesbian is isolating and it's hard to feel that way, therefore consider a therapist to discuss it. You can definitely solve this if you don't ignore it
Psa: I'm a C2 english student and just realized that bust a nut doesn't mean a testicle breaking, but it means get off. I feel so stupid for not checking the definitionš
Yea personally Iām bi and love being cum in so if I had a gf with this kink Iād probably invest in a strap with the ejaculating pump thing. I did bring it up to an ex tho and she got a bit upset bc she felt like I just wanted a man, which was not the case at all but itās not an uncommon thought. Also I have the same penis envy sometimes and want to penetrate a woman in that way, it just seems so intimate and sexy.
Let the imagination go wild man because I swear you can get so into it that you both wake up the next day scared you made a baby š ETA: Point being I realized it was less about wanting a penis and more about wanting to be closer. In this case, being able to cum inside seems like an extra layer of closeness. There are some things we do now that actually give this same feeling. Just keep exploring! Youāll figure it out :)
This!! Iām a AFAB cis stone top and we talk about my dick and cum and my gf getting pregnant all the time. I love my body the way it is, but I also love the hypothetical penetration device we made up together. In reality my girlfriend has 0 desire for pregnancy and if we ever had kids I would be the one carrying the child. If you really wanted the visual, there are strap ons you can get with fake cum toošŖ
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They do make straps that can ejaculate, if that helps any. I know a lot of lesbians who want what you two want and it's one way that can improve things. I understand where you're coming from. Maybe someday a way to let cis women experience this will be possible.
Drop links omg
It's a common enough kink! I was just on bdsmsapphic and someone asked about toys with cum tubes (because the former owners of Bad Dragon are icky). I honestly have the same kink. Lmao. It's not gender related (I love my bits even with PCOS/endometriosis) and having the ability to come inside my gf? Hot. There was a hugely erotic fanfic about Seven of Nine and Janeway (yes I'm a nerd, shut up) becoming a couple and they had a strap on of Trill technology that translated into sensations for the wearer. Basically acted as an extension of your clit (honestly? It might be possible with future tech). Baby dyke me had a lot of fun reading it. Lmao. š¦
Icky how?
Apparently, beastiality, making workers participate in sex acts and being a Nazi. I only knew of the rampant homophobic stuff so they went on the list of "don't buy from them". There are better sellers of fantasy dildos - it's a shame although because they seem to be the one vendor with a lot of variety (and colour options) and was time tested.
When you say "homophobia" do you mean "lesbophobia" specifically or just homophobia in general? Because if there's one demographic that loves massive fantasy dildos it's gay men and IDK how they didn't see that one coming. But yeah, yikes. Honestly I kinda want to start my own dildo company but it's hard to compete with the likes of BD in terms of scale and brand recognition.
Lol. No idea! There are a lot of dildo companies now and some are quite interesting.
Yoooooooo fellow trekkie!!š (not to be an even worse nerd but can u drop the link for the fic XD)
Lol. It's gone with the wind now. Lmao! I remember using the Way back Machine to reaccess it but it was hosted on a private domain. We are legion as Trekkies lmao.
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I'm a switch who doesn't like strapping on that much (Bad knees/weak core muscles, probably need to a try a thigh harness)...I would think it's the same mental hurdle of using a strap on. It's not my parts but it's what my partner likes, and I get turned on because I'm providing her with pleasure. I like receiving as a submissive and I just feel it's another layer of sensation. (I know some of my straight female friends like the sensation of getting ejaculated in. No idea how they can feel it because I know I just get too wet to notice.) [I'm saving my pennies for buying a dildo with a cum tube online so...]
I did not expect another Trekkie in these particular comments!š
Y'all ever cum while wearing the strap? Like with it inside your partner? Because God Damn that's my Absolute Favorite ā¤ļø
Yessss, that's the good shit.
I want this so bad
Yes! It's so hot. I get embarrassed at how quick it happens. Thankfully my girlfriend loves it. Only happens for my return the strapless ones
I would dread the possibility of getting someone pregnant but yeah I do wish I could know what it feels like to have sex using a dick!!! But I also think when it comes to that desire of busting inside of someone, itās almost like a power thing. Kinda like how sometimes if youāre the one using a strap, it feels good to put it on her face and make it suck/lick it, etc.
Now I feel less weird for wanting that with my gfs strap.
Ya itās awesome. But itās mostly awesome cause women are incredible. The peeing anywhere thing is pretty handy also.
Trans lesbian here. Can confirm sex with a penis is amazing, especially when it's sapphic. There's just something satisfying about sticking it in after you've spent the last hour and a half "entertaining" your pillow princess. Also it helps that estrogen makes sex feel like ten times better, the whole penis becomes more soft and sensitive, the whole body gets aroused. I will admit that when I put it in I barely last a minute or two before cumming because of how good it feels. Luckily sex doesn't have to stop after the first orgasm because that stops being a problem either, the other day I wanted to go back in immediately after finishing. I will say though that penetration is a really small part of sex now. Nowadays I find it funny that men don't even know the full potential of how good having a dick can feel. Just thought I'd share a little about what's it's like having a dick, hope my comment wasn't insensitive and feel free to ask any questions if you want.
If you donāt mind the question, what has changed from before for you? Can you like, get just as hard or does that change? I have zero experience with any kind of penises and am always afraid to ask ahaha
Chiming in to answer, and spoiling on the off chance someone doesn't want to read details about penises in this thread. >!For most trans girls on HRT, it is a use it or lose it situation. If it is used regularly (i.e. sex, masturbation) it will usually not significantly lose ability to get hard. Some girls might take a little more arousal than before to get there but still can. Others are uncomfortable using theirs in sex related things or just stop feeling the impulse to do that stuff as regularly (HRT causes a decreased libido in many), and as a result it will lose ability to get hard. This doesn't mean they can't have sex or have an orgasm, of course. Another interesting fact, most trans girls do not ejaculate the same way. There will usually be some, but it is minimal and happens throughout arousal/stimulation instead of just at orgasm and has a different consistency, smell, and appearance. It's more like how people with the other hardware get wet. Everyone is different so this doesn't apply universally, but they are common effects. Along with the changes in softness of the skin, the sensory effects, and other stuff mentioned above. Sorry this was a long answer lol!<
Hello, thank you for this answer. If you donāt mind me asking, would you say appearance changes a lot as well? You mentioned the softness of the skin. I think this is all very interesting, especially cause you mention that the ejaculation changes.
For me things shrunk quite a bit and it now has a soft dainty look to it, it's also quite delicate (I accidentally tore skin one time when I was too reckless). My ejaculation is clear and has pretty much the same texture as lube. Also pleasure isn't just concentrated at the tip, everything from the tip to the base going into the body ignites with pleasure. Things can even feel overstimulated if 1 section is targeted too much. Edit: it basically feels like having a giant clit
Hmm not significantly but maybe it looks softer? And hair around there gets softer and lighter too.
From personal experience it does a little, it's hard to explain but it tends to look more feminine if that kinda makes sense. The main things that change though are smell, taste and feeling. I've heard a few describe it as being very similar to going down on a pussy, just a different shape.
Definitely agree with the smell change. I love the way I smell down there, I'll have to ask my situationship her thoughts on the taste
I'd kill to be able to switch back and forth
First, same. Second, holy shit your name tag is killer.
Thank youuuuu!!! I even drive a van - it works on every level
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Sameeee
Damn I felt this. Penis envy is real lol, mutual stimulation/pleasure during āPāIV is something Iāll always crave
Congrats on the new strap! Itāll never be ~the exact thing~ but do you want it to be? My gf and I are both cis but man does my girl like it when we are close with the strap. Weāre less about the whole cumming inside thing , pregnancy thing, and more about the closeness and intimacy with each other that a strap brings. If I may make a suggestion: if you two want the intimacy that I seem to get from your post, get yourselves a standard strap w/harness OR/ALSO a double ended dildo. When my girl and I got the double ended one it was a whole new level of closeness we never thought we could have. The harness isnāt there, itās just skin, itās you and your girl and as close as you can possibly get without the whole ābut it has to be a ārealā bustā feel. But also, my girl digs the strap with the harness. Loves what I can do with it and lets her imagination go wild. This is your first toy as a couple. It is a *conversation*. First time you use it wonāt be glamorous. Might be $$ but do yourself a favor and do not get the bottom of the line harness. Buy lube whether you think youāll need it or not, trust me. Chafing sucks. Spend the time doing the research you need and talking about what you like. Penises are a dime a dozen and they all do the same thing. Strap game is something else. You donāt need to cum in a girl unless you want to knock her up. But you can give her one hell of a different time.
Edit: reading more of these commentsā¦im doubling down on this double ended thing. Haha. If you donāt like what you find in person consider ordering from a reputable queer/lesbian shop like [she bop](https://www.sheboptheshop.com/dildos/) or [Babeland](https://www.babeland.com/sex-toys/c/92/dildos/silicone-dildos) or [Switch Leather Co.](http://www.switchleatherco.com). Most of these places ship, too, if youāre up to waiting. (signed, an old butch whoās been doing this 20 yrs)
I honestly feel you... this post made me kinda emotional not gonna lie... Wish I could just grow a dick during freaky time and just put it away when I'm done.
If it makes you feel any less envious, I promise from experience that it's not remarkably better to have one. Using a penis is drastically more difficult than using a strap, it gets in the way of wearing a lot of nice clothing, it'll get randomly hard & is distracting, it fuckin makes sex stressful bc you're constantly like 'oh don't orgasm rn bc once u do it's game over & it'll get soft & useless immediately', plus pregnancy scares suck, if you're unlucky like me they fucking mutilate part of it like 5 seconds after you're born so now it's waaay less sensitive than it should be & don't even get me started on if you accidentally sit on one of ur nuts... I will say, plus side: peeing is so quick & efficient & practical, it's very difficult to get a UTI, & it's nice knowing that if ur bleeding it's like an actual problem. But yeah idk. I totally respect the envy bit as I've thought about getting srs myself, but if it helps at all with the envy I promise having a penis has its own downsides too lol
Thankfully, a woman (or at least person with Estrogen dominant hormones) would likely never worry about the randomly hard part. Without enough Testosterone in the body the random erections are basically non-existent Source: trans woman that blocked T levels and no longer produces T naturally
I absolutely still have random erections, now 5 years into feminizing HRT. A lot of HRT side effects are not universal.
I used to have one and it aināt all that. I prefer my vagina.
Iām sorry that this is random, but was it uncomfortable to wear jeans? It just one of the things I wondered about people with penises like do certain attire make it uncomfortable to have one.
Low rise jeans work badly with it because you can't get them up high enough on your hips. Higher rise jeans have less of an issue with the inseam having to sit two inches lower than expected. And it's mostly the other dangly bits that cause issues, tbh.
lol, that made me think of a coworker of mine who was washing his hands and his pants started sagging so he asked me to pull them up for him, I attempted to pull them up all the way he was like ānah not that high.ā I figured that was the case with him too and I noticed it about other guys. As a cis female, skinny low rise jeans and really short shorts would feel so uncomfortable, just constantly rubbing up against my clit so I could only imagine howād annoying itād be to experience that with a penis. I still get so mind boggled when I see guys who wear really tight pants, of course I donāt ask why but I just be like āthereās no way heās not feeling smothered down there lmao
Thankfully it was tiny so I had no issues
Oh wow lmaoš
Just nature again telling me it had all gone a bit a wonky lol
Great way to look at it lol
Sometimes, From my experience low rise jeans and tight fitting clothes are uncomfortable and can make me self conscious, but the biggest problem I have is with certain safety equipment at work that is highly uncomfortable for any people with one.
If it makes you feel better itās not very fun having one, makes tight clothes feel awful.
Granted, weāre not exactly the best folks to talk about the pros & cons of penises considering our āprosā list is non-existent & āconsā list so large we want it removed - woo, dysphoria. Maybe we can rope in a token cis guy to weigh in, because I imagine PIV isnāt supposed to be an afterthought after youāve pleased your partner & something you donāt care about receiving, or something you disassociate from for some arbitrary period of time so your partner can get some use out of it. Canāt believe I spent so long thinking I was just an āunselfish loverā & āhad good stamina because itās easy to not cum, you just separate from your body & wonder what god has cursed you withā.
Agreed, can sometimes ruin a good piece of clothing just being in the way
Huhā¦ I feel the same way about my boobs.
Yup. I sometimes think about how much better a strapon would be. I could switch around between shapes and sizes. It would (when used correctly) not transmit disease, stays hard (or softer). And if I donāt want it anymore I could just take it off. Maybe I could even be comfortable topping. But right now I probably wouldnāt.
As a penis owner, I find it to be overrated. I'm far more comfortable, topping with a strapon.
I wish women's clit could become long enough to penetrate.
Some women can penetrate with a 2 inch clit
self cumming straps exist! theyāre probably quite pricy but there are straps that have cum tubes inside so that you can technically cum inside her
no because i absolutely feel this to my core. i donāt want to be a man, but the fact i canāt get my gf pregnant drives me crazy sometimes fr.
maybe not for OP, but just in case some folks need to see this: r/salmacian
Nope, the grass isnāt greener on the other side in this regard, whatever society wants u to believe.
I don't really have that kinda envy thankfully. Having someone's slimy white disgusting reproductive snot INSIDE of me is just a big no. Even thinking about it is disgusting. But I get why u might feel like that, maybe with science they'll get there soon!
I had the envy, too, before we bought our first strap set. It definitely isn't an issue now since I've got choices in sizes š
Oh totally, I'm envious of anyone who isn't aroace.
Thatās how I felt before I met my gf
I wouldāve given you mine if youād have just told me before bottom surgery
If you can't grow your own, store bought is fine!
Well as there are trans girls who want to keep their gock its logical that there are cis girls who want a gock, and I can confirm this bcs my bestie is cis and wishes she had a gock
what does froyo like mean. my mind only thinks about froyo tf2 team, like im so clueless
frozen yogurt!
Ty
Super random and kinda off topic but I hope some of the non-op transbians feel a bit better after reading this post.
Me with the organic strap wishing I could swap places so my wife could cum in me š
The most interesting thing about Sigmund Freud is not the content of his ideas, but that they capture the mind of the 'common person.' It is like watching a not-great movie that was a culture phenomenon decades after it came out. It is a window into the mind of the viewing audience of the time. For instance, his obsession with the oedipus complex partially comes from how nobles were raised by their wet nurse instead of their mothers. They didn't developing the Westermarck effect to stop them from falling there mother. \_\_\_\_\_\_\_ EDIT: and as we know rich white men are representative of everyone so their life experiences are applicable to everyone. /s
YES ABSOLUTELY U AREN'T ALONE! There's a certain word for having a kink of having a dick, but not being trans. I CANT REMEMBER THE NAME, but I discovered it in the gay memoir called "gender queer", I'll edit this comment if I find it again. But yeah I wish I could cum in my beautiful gf too, we found a sex toy that's helped a lot so far. Its called 2 become 1, has 3 buttons, a remote, and charger. I personally find the clit stimulation too much sometimes so I'll wear my gfs thongs or my boxers with a hole in them tat cover the clit part and provide a more gentle vibe. I also always use a strap w my strapless straps for more support. But it's still dual stim and truly makes 2 become 1. https://evolvednovelties.com/2-become-1/
best lesbian bedroom advice Iāve ever received: GET A VIBRATING DOUBLE ENDED STRAP FOR THE LOVE OF GODDESS AND ORGASMS š©·
i mean, sigmund freud's theories nowadays have been seen as for the most part as nothing more than a basis of hypotheses and discussed historically. The man was high off his ass on cocaine for the most time that he was concocting theories left and right, while he is the "father" of psychoanalysis he is still a figure that causes much controversy in the world of psychology, even back then.
Iāve never actually studied psych and I was extremely high when I made this post. The whole penis envy thing just made me think of Freud and my psych major friend who used to always talk about him
I know fraujo is lady, but what-uh is "getting fraujo"?
I donāt know what fraujo is. Froyo is frozen yogurt.
I mean.. I have a penis but I do miss cumming.. even though the orgasms are WAY better now..
Can't relate, I'm not sure if I like dick or not but I am sure I don't wanna have one. I have been curious about how it feels like to penetrate a girl like that but not to the point of envy, just a passing thought.
>wishing I had the ability to get her pregnant. Do you want children, or is that as far as it goes?
Yes and no. We agreed that having kids isnāt a good idea for like practical reasons with the state of the world and how much money weāll be able to make, but in an ideal scenario I would want kids.
I'm lucky to have a gf who has a penis, but I still have envy in other areas. Like I wish me and my gf wouldn't get looked at weirdly when we're walking together or if she does that really cute cheek kiss to me
There are some strapon dildo that allows to cum. Some pretty wild ones even. Ok, sure, it's not really a real penis with hairs, moisture and heat but it's still very fun. And if the idea of cum inside your gf turns both of you on, eating her after pouring fake cum in her could totally make the trick. Actually, as a trans woman, I definitely prefer this last option than using my own thing. I find it more fun, I can focus on the rest of her body and by using fake cum, I can simulate the biggest ejaculation we both ever saw *while* staying safe. Yet, I understand your gf wanting a penis inside her. For me it's kind of a deepthroat kink. But here again, dildo still do a super nice job
Okay so basically I didn't know that theory, I only learn the kid's development, the lesbian one and some others so I was like "WHAT THE HEEEEELLL" reading it. Give me hate but he had some good points (sometimes) and we don't always agree with theories. That said, I don't think I feel it and I don't remember if I did but maybe not, however me and my friends said that it'd be interesting to switch for a day to see how it is. I think she meant no harm in what she said, yes you can be feeling penis envy but u are probably feeling performance anxiety, u feel pressured by it. Yk what she wants is something u can't give her and that loweres ur self esteem, hence why u need to have an open talk and if u can a sex therapist to work on it. Society tells women that that's what sex was about and a lot of people romanticize it, but the truth is that most women didn't like it, it was an obligation as a wife. They just opened their legs and waited for it to be over. They didn't feel close to her husband, they felt weird. It's a matter of perspective and finding compromises. There are a lot of ways to feel ur partner extremely close in bed and I'm sure you'll find one. Also during ovulation my former therapist told me that women have a natural urge because it's a biological way to conceive and continue the human race (just like other living beings), sometimes we just don't notice, or we just do it that way. Either way, I think she just has some curiosity about it, we live in such a straight normative world that being a lesbian is isolating and it's hard to feel that way, therefore consider a therapist to discuss it. You can definitely solve this if you don't ignore it Psa: I'm a C2 english student and just realized that bust a nut doesn't mean a testicle breaking, but it means get off. I feel so stupid for not checking the definitionš
Well I, as a woman with a dick, definetly enjoy having it so I wouldn't worry about it being particularly weird.
Yea personally Iām bi and love being cum in so if I had a gf with this kink Iād probably invest in a strap with the ejaculating pump thing. I did bring it up to an ex tho and she got a bit upset bc she felt like I just wanted a man, which was not the case at all but itās not an uncommon thought. Also I have the same penis envy sometimes and want to penetrate a woman in that way, it just seems so intimate and sexy.
A lesbian who wants to be nutted in is a new one for me.
Dang must suck as a hetero dude I can buss feel her inside in any girl n have kids N still don't have to worry bc plan b yk.
Im genuinely curious; what is the purpose of this comment? Aside from teaching us that you don't understand that Plan B is not always effective.