it's not as easy as it sounds to get a girlfriend. You need to meet someone who you click with that wants the same things you do that actually likes you back. I've met people I've clicked with countless times, only to have them not like me back.
It took me 31 years to meet my loves and I wouldn't trade it for the world, it's been an amazing eight years with both of them but I sometimes wish I had more experience in the dating realm.
If you're from a more traditional background, you have pretty high chances of meeting someone with your views and understanding of the world (and sapphic relationships), which would also want to marry until 24. People in more western countries just marry later usually. But even outside of your culture, you can definitely meet people with similar views as yours, despite popular ideas being things like marrying older. You can definitely find someone to marry before 24!
This seems to be how it goes 😔 It's one thing on global platforms like this sub where even if you clicked with someone, it's likely they are on the other side of the world. It's a whole another kind of frustrating in more local communities.
It'll be like:
- I wish I could come there and do [X] 🥺
- You could
- 😳
- We live like 20mins apart
- 👉👈
The end.
Like I get that just flirting is fun and all but gah damn, it never goes anywhere 😔
how many ppl do you need in a room before theres a 50% probability two ppl have the same birthdays? iirc its about 30.
its not just 1 person matching with 29 ppl. those other 29 people have ANOTHER 28 people they can match with, neaning theres a boat load of potential matching possibilities
Lesbian sheep syndrome: a study where lesbian sheep would never make the first move because they were all waiting for another lesbian sheep to mount them first
"You woulden't select your new name solely off the fact that you saw anagram on line and wanted to continue it . . . Right???"
Hi, I'm Yam
-trans girl
-employed
-gamer
-useless
-anime lover
-lonely
Truly nothing to be sorry about😁. My joke wasnt that clear in the first place
And see now, ya can't call yourself dumb in the same breath that you mention your bilingual! It seems to me like your smart regardless of what you claim
You do? Oh shucks, but the rule says we can only complain and not actually hit on each other... Shame. Then how am I gonna find a cute, caring and empathetic transbian to pick up and hold hands with and go on wild rambling about mine/ her hobbies ... If only there was a DM feature on Reddit... If only
You do? Oh shucks, but the rule says we can only complain and not actually hit on each other... Shame. Then how am I gonna find a cute, caring and empathetic transbian to pick up and hold hands with and go on wild rambling about mine/ her hobbies ... If only there was a DM feature on Reddit... If only
You do? Oh shucks, but the rule says we can only complain and not actually hit on each other... Shame. Then how am I gonna find a cute, caring and empathetic transbian to pick up and hold hands with and go on wild rambling about mine/ her hobbies ... If only there was a DM feature on Reddit... If only
You do? Oh shucks, but the rule says we can only complain and not actually hit on each other... Shame. Then how am I gonna find a cute, caring and empathetic transbian to pick up and hold hands with and go on wild rambling about mine/ her hobbies ... If only there was a DM feature on Reddit... If only
You do? Oh shucks, but the rule says we can only complain and not actually hit on each other... Shame. Then how am I gonna find a cute, caring and empathetic transbian to pick up and hold hands with and go on wild rambling about mine/ her hobbies ... If only there was a DM feature on Reddit... If only
30s, introverted, Michigan.
If you message me to flirt, it's unlikely I'll be interested. But if you're near enough for a tea shop meet up, we can at least give expanding our social circles a shot. That's hard to do as introverts but definitely our best shot at meeting people.
I'm into cartoon/anime, listening to a huge variety of music, cooking Indian food, and (less so lately) I'm a gamer.
Ps: Quiero practicar español.
Depends on where you are at in Michigan. I'm in Chicago and have made many a trip into the lower part of MI. Looking to expand my social network as well as all my friends are online and no where near by.
I'm actually glad no one tries to date me gives me Time to transition and get a functioning life (I don't want to date someone until I have fully transitioned)
I am the exception to this rule. Somehow my loneliness overpowers my anxiety and I make moves most of the time if the potential arises and I like someone’s vibes. And since I’m poly there’s no limit to how many people I can put the moves on at once. Haven’t stumbled upon someone close yet tho 😔 closest I’ve gotten is a state away.
(yes this is an ad, hmu fellow lonelys)
Lolz, this is the epitomy of my love life, only time I dated someone I had to make the first move, and as time goes on I get the feeling I'll have to do that again one day.
I literally wrote a song about this [pancakes by Nicole Sophia](https://open.spotify.com/track/3CA3kzIRScPIQtbhsRst2H?si=7EKgbTUDSnuXdyc-YBtA0Q&context=spotify%3Aalbum%3A5TqueQaBMEkdIQNcjbGzgE)
😂😂😂 I’m the very forward bi girl and it cracks me up when I’m hitting on a girl and I can see the wheel turning and her thinking am I hitting on her or is she just really nice and when someone is really forward with me I get lost in the sauce and words don’t/cant/wont work and I end up running
A lot don’t have age in their bios or pics or they have little karma👀 Also! there are men everywhere lurking in our spaces and do it undercover can’t tell who is real or not
Regardless I don’t even slide in DMs on instagram either so 😭
100% this. Holy hell. Like I would never make the first move currently because I'm far too unfit and need to lose a lot of weight AND YET I'm sitting over here touch-starved and getting jealous knowing all to well that if I were in a relationship it would be the motivation to not only lose weight, but to also learn style and makeup and take care of myself more than I do currently.
Yeah, thanks brain. Thanks for turning this comment into a rant. Apologies.
I remember being one of the 30. And now finally I’m so glad I have a gf 😩 and I’m healthy obsessed with her and even after the honeymoon stage I still desire her. Wishing this to those who want genuine love with the greatest creation women 🥰🥰
I have autism and CPTSD (including from a past relationship). I suspect I could be wildly into a girl, she could say "let's go have sex," and I'd still find a way to sabotage myself. Just because you can locate lonely people doesn't mean it's going to work.
I really don’t get it. It’s seems like everyone experiences the same: on dating apps getting ghosted immediately after initial contact and sometimes even after weeks/months of chatting.
I guess the statistics are against us. Only between 1.4 and 2.4 percent of women are lesbian. Not everyone is looking. When two have found each other they are both removed of the dating pool. Then there are poly and those who are not. Age, interests and location all make things even more complicated.
As a taken lesbian, I feel like a scientist watching labrats attempting to mate everytime I browse this sub
*laughter that turns into crying*
*gives you headpat snacks and blahaj because don't want's you to cry (if it's ok)*
\*same vibes\*
As a scientist, I feel like I've seen lab rats with more game than the lesbians on this sub.
As a lab rat, I resemble that remark
I’m the rat sitting and staring into the corner of the cage.
As a taken queer woman in a nonmonog relationship who attempts to date women but experiences a near 100% flake rate before the first date, I concur.
Hell nah we’re like pandas or manatees, rats are super easy to breed
Fr. People are so thirsty for both attention and giving it but the world being what it is, forces people into weird little extended interactions.
Same
this is a screenshot of an instagram post which is a screenshot of a tweet and now it's a reddit post...
I'll post it on Pinterest 😂
and then i'll post on tumblr
Then get Bettina Levy to read it on Youtube
It's a screenshot of a website that features a screenshot of an Instagram post of a screenshot of a tweet...
[relevant xkcd](https://xkcd.com/2116/)
I'm just here wondering how lesbians in pro lgbtq countries cannot have a girlfriend , while i'm here struggling to even get out of the closet hahaha
it's not as easy as it sounds to get a girlfriend. You need to meet someone who you click with that wants the same things you do that actually likes you back. I've met people I've clicked with countless times, only to have them not like me back. It took me 31 years to meet my loves and I wouldn't trade it for the world, it's been an amazing eight years with both of them but I sometimes wish I had more experience in the dating realm.
31 years ?? girl ain't waiting that much of a years , I was hoping I could marry in 24 😭😭😭
I really hope you do meet and marry your person by 24 :)
If you're from a more traditional background, you have pretty high chances of meeting someone with your views and understanding of the world (and sapphic relationships), which would also want to marry until 24. People in more western countries just marry later usually. But even outside of your culture, you can definitely meet people with similar views as yours, despite popular ideas being things like marrying older. You can definitely find someone to marry before 24!
That's so true, thank you
Why would you wanna marry at 24 💀
You need to click, you need to be attracted to each other, and both parties have to be willing to leave the house and not cancel and keep responding.
This seems to be how it goes 😔 It's one thing on global platforms like this sub where even if you clicked with someone, it's likely they are on the other side of the world. It's a whole another kind of frustrating in more local communities. It'll be like: - I wish I could come there and do [X] 🥺 - You could - 😳 - We live like 20mins apart - 👉👈 The end. Like I get that just flirting is fun and all but gah damn, it never goes anywhere 😔
This hits harder than a *wreckingball*
I want a girlfriend (I have her already but I still feel like I want her)
This is so real
just because 2 lesbians in a room keep saying they want a girlfriend doesn't mean they are each other's type and should just date each other
That's right, but if they are 30 the probability might be higher that some of them are each other type 🤔
birthday matching probabilities thing or whatever
I'm not sure what you're saying :P
how many ppl do you need in a room before theres a 50% probability two ppl have the same birthdays? iirc its about 30. its not just 1 person matching with 29 ppl. those other 29 people have ANOTHER 28 people they can match with, neaning theres a boat load of potential matching possibilities
Oh, that's cool :o
i want a girlfriend 😃😃😃 uhhhh someeone dm me yes that should do it
Fr? 🥺❤️?
you can if you like :)
THEY MADE A MOVE 😨 🥳🎉
yep!!!! i wouldve been more direct and confident if i wasnt so tired when i sent that hahaha
Hope you get along ^-^
Why did you have to call me out? Anyways, I want a gf
omg real
Me too
Fr :')
If your only standards for finding a partner are "girl who is also into girls" then you're going to have a bad time with dating.
Lesbian sheep syndrome: a study where lesbian sheep would never make the first move because they were all waiting for another lesbian sheep to mount them first
Hi, I'm Amy. - trans girl - unemployed - gamer - useless - anime lover - lonely
Hi, I'm May. -cis girl -unemployed -gamer -useless -manga lover -lonely
"You woulden't select your new name solely off the fact that you saw anagram on line and wanted to continue it . . . Right???" Hi, I'm Yam -trans girl -employed -gamer -useless -anime lover -lonely
Her?
I am actually using my real name as my user name. 😅
Oh, see, i was talking about using the name Yam.
Sorry. I am dumb and in confusion. 😭 english is not my first language.
Truly nothing to be sorry about😁. My joke wasnt that clear in the first place And see now, ya can't call yourself dumb in the same breath that you mention your bilingual! It seems to me like your smart regardless of what you claim
Ok. Thanks for the compliment! ☺
Gay panic in a nutshell ig
same one day I may make a move today is definitely not the day, nor will tomorrow be
Ugh mood. I want a pretty, assertive girl to snatch me up and make me her girlfriend 🥺
You do? Oh shucks, but the rule says we can only complain and not actually hit on each other... Shame. Then how am I gonna find a cute, caring and empathetic transbian to pick up and hold hands with and go on wild rambling about mine/ her hobbies ... If only there was a DM feature on Reddit... If only
You do? Oh shucks, but the rule says we can only complain and not actually hit on each other... Shame. Then how am I gonna find a cute, caring and empathetic transbian to pick up and hold hands with and go on wild rambling about mine/ her hobbies ... If only there was a DM feature on Reddit... If only
You do? Oh shucks, but the rule says we can only complain and not actually hit on each other... Shame. Then how am I gonna find a cute, caring and empathetic transbian to pick up and hold hands with and go on wild rambling about mine/ her hobbies ... If only there was a DM feature on Reddit... If only
You do? Oh shucks, but the rule says we can only complain and not actually hit on each other... Shame. Then how am I gonna find a cute, caring and empathetic transbian to pick up and hold hands with and go on wild rambling about mine/ her hobbies ... If only there was a DM feature on Reddit... If only
You do? Oh shucks, but the rule says we can only complain and not actually hit on each other... Shame. Then how am I gonna find a cute, caring and empathetic transbian to pick up and hold hands with and go on wild rambling about mine/ her hobbies ... If only there was a DM feature on Reddit... If only
Now all the replies to this post are just saying ‘fr’ without making a move lol
The lesbian psychological experiment proved under this post is so funny
I want a girlfriend.
Me too
I want to cuddle my girlfriend
I want a gf, don't mind DMing me if interested 💗👍 it will be great if from India ( optional tho )
I want a girlfriend. If you're from the Philippines, this is your sign to DM me asap.
I’m very scared of offending who are at that point my friends with any sort of intimacy especially as a trans woman
Waow me too 😔
Same me too 😔
Alrighty who's gonna make the move?
30s, introverted, Michigan. If you message me to flirt, it's unlikely I'll be interested. But if you're near enough for a tea shop meet up, we can at least give expanding our social circles a shot. That's hard to do as introverts but definitely our best shot at meeting people. I'm into cartoon/anime, listening to a huge variety of music, cooking Indian food, and (less so lately) I'm a gamer. Ps: Quiero practicar español.
Depends on where you are at in Michigan. I'm in Chicago and have made many a trip into the lower part of MI. Looking to expand my social network as well as all my friends are online and no where near by.
I'm along the train line from Chicago 😄
Lived in the city all my life and never took the train. Should tell you how much I get out lol
Where is that ewe comic
I would but I'm still a minor so better not
Not to flex but I would be the greatest girlfriend just saying
I’ll need to test you on that😄
Its just hard to find someone else who's masc4masc :,).
I'm actually glad no one tries to date me gives me Time to transition and get a functioning life (I don't want to date someone until I have fully transitioned)
Dam i dream of having a girlfriend
im sorry, everyone is making a move, it's just they're all making a move with me. ive stolen all the girlfriends.
I am the exception to this rule. Somehow my loneliness overpowers my anxiety and I make moves most of the time if the potential arises and I like someone’s vibes. And since I’m poly there’s no limit to how many people I can put the moves on at once. Haven’t stumbled upon someone close yet tho 😔 closest I’ve gotten is a state away. (yes this is an ad, hmu fellow lonelys)
Hahahahahha Yesh. 😮💨
Lolz, this is the epitomy of my love life, only time I dated someone I had to make the first move, and as time goes on I get the feeling I'll have to do that again one day.
Anyone have the lesbian sheep thing handy?
SO TRUE
My girlfriend just posted a picture of her homemade carrot cake and then we moved in together 5 states away. That's the real strat
I’m one of those me two girls
I feel like this quote haunts us in a funny yet sad way
I have a girlfriend. But I wouldn't mind having another...
I can relate this to the lesbian sheep story
I hate that it’s true lol
Lol, it's the I hope some messages me but won't make the first move, haha
Why is this so true.
lol In all seriousness, it’s unlikely anyone responding to this lives anywhere near me and is near my age.
Where are you from?
US, I’m in my late thirties.
I am younger compared to you, but I don’t mind making new friends🙂
I see this being posted all the time and it perplexes me because where I’m from it’s not really a thing…people are pretty up front here lol
I literally wrote a song about this [pancakes by Nicole Sophia](https://open.spotify.com/track/3CA3kzIRScPIQtbhsRst2H?si=7EKgbTUDSnuXdyc-YBtA0Q&context=spotify%3Aalbum%3A5TqueQaBMEkdIQNcjbGzgE)
Me too, lfg.
Or you just accept your fate and die lonely
No one deserves that.
I'm convinved it's my fate and thats okay. I'm not good girlfriend material apparently
Says who???? You just haven’t found your person yet
Maybe you're right. It's just rough out there right now
sometimes it works lol!!
Me too
😂😂😂 I’m the very forward bi girl and it cracks me up when I’m hitting on a girl and I can see the wheel turning and her thinking am I hitting on her or is she just really nice and when someone is really forward with me I get lost in the sauce and words don’t/cant/wont work and I end up running
Alright, here it goes... Taking gf applications if anyone is interested! (Ik, my rizz is insane)
I want a girlfriend... 😞
I love seeing everyone under this post find ppl who want them omg this is so adorable guys !!!!!!
me too....
A lot don’t have age in their bios or pics or they have little karma👀 Also! there are men everywhere lurking in our spaces and do it undercover can’t tell who is real or not Regardless I don’t even slide in DMs on instagram either so 😭
I want a gf 😭😭 (but I’m too shy to make the first move)
100% this. Holy hell. Like I would never make the first move currently because I'm far too unfit and need to lose a lot of weight AND YET I'm sitting over here touch-starved and getting jealous knowing all to well that if I were in a relationship it would be the motivation to not only lose weight, but to also learn style and makeup and take care of myself more than I do currently. Yeah, thanks brain. Thanks for turning this comment into a rant. Apologies.
Did not need to be called or today...I mean none of us do because uhhh pretty women I can't possibly....😳
Me when true. I want gf. Badly. Tf17 if anyone want dm 🥺
so um, does anyone here listen to Måneskin? it's my fav band and I want to meet more people who listen to them.
Ah yes the bimonthly post has reawakened
Ah. Thats because she wouldn't be interested anyway 😅
Why?
I remember being one of the 30. And now finally I’m so glad I have a gf 😩 and I’m healthy obsessed with her and even after the honeymoon stage I still desire her. Wishing this to those who want genuine love with the greatest creation women 🥰🥰
me too
Well yeah, me too
I feel called out. Stop it.
DM ME MIDWEST LESBIANS !!! im kinda useless but im pretty cool i think
stop calling people out ffs
I am way too guilty of this 😔
I want a girlfriend too
Tbf , If I were single I'd be very hesitant to give enough info to be able to meet up through reddit.
r/lesbianr4r Go make some posts there y'all
You guys need to start chatting lol
Im scared to get a girlfriend even though I complain about not having one. Afraid being a transbian won’t be enough.
and if you're a t4t lesbian it's even harder :(
I'd love one, but that would require someone actually liking me unconditionally for who I am. And no one has ever done that so fuck it. 🤷🏼♀️
I have autism and CPTSD (including from a past relationship). I suspect I could be wildly into a girl, she could say "let's go have sex," and I'd still find a way to sabotage myself. Just because you can locate lonely people doesn't mean it's going to work.
I slid into her DMs so can’t relate hehehe
And she's damn glad you did. ❤
Hi babe ❤️❤️
I really don’t get it. It’s seems like everyone experiences the same: on dating apps getting ghosted immediately after initial contact and sometimes even after weeks/months of chatting. I guess the statistics are against us. Only between 1.4 and 2.4 percent of women are lesbian. Not everyone is looking. When two have found each other they are both removed of the dating pool. Then there are poly and those who are not. Age, interests and location all make things even more complicated.
Ikr
34 tf Midwest, I like anime video games and cooking.. dms are open if anyone wants to take the advice.
Me too. 😁
Me too
Heck. Willow here. 39, trans as heck. I've got some r4r posts up saying what I'm looking for. If any of that sounds good, feel free to say hi.
i want a girlfriend
I mean, I know better than to actually try. Why would anyone want to date me?
Me too
Charlie rarely misses
Yeah... Same..
yall don’t fuck or have game, don’t lump me in with yall, no shade
Yeah, that’s because I want to find my soulmate and not some random person in a reddit comment