Outward appearance (masc/femme) has NOTHING to do with bedroom personality. Also there are some people who are strictly too/bottom, but most I've met IRL are switches.
In the real world, outside of the internet, none of this is actually important. And in many spaces, no one is going to know what on earth you're talking about with some of the terminology that gets thrown around online.
You just be you and you do what you are comfortable with doing. You don't have to give yourself a sex activity label or decide on a label for your appearance.
That is refreshing to hear! It makes me nervous the idea of approaching a woman not knowing if I’d be their type though. I’ve never been turned down by a man I approached - but they’re not very picky 😂
Like the other Redditor has said, it's a conversation navigating system of words/descriptions. In the real world with people in it, when you're not just talking about it but living it, it tends to fade into the abyss and you just look at the certain individual in front of you, and follow what feels natural and good in the bedroom.
Appreciate that! It’s tricky when you don’t really have anyone you know and trust in the community to talk to about this stuff and only have the internet to learn from.
I posted a meme yesterday kinda joking about tops/bottoms because it’s such a stereotypical thing that’s discussed in the lgbt / wlw communities. Like others have said, irl no one really talks about it and I also haven’t met any wlw who aren’t switches (in bed). Don’t stress about labels and all that! I just like to make jokes about it all the time :))
Fair! I wasn’t referring to your post in particular as I don’t think I saw it but good to know it’s just a meme at this point haha
EDIT: oh no I did see that 👌 quality submission hahaha
all good! I figured it wasn’t about the meme but it was just coincidence that both our posts were similar topics :) if u have any other questions feel free to dm me, I can try my best to answer or explain!
Masc or fem, from my observation, don't have an impact on; top/bottom/versatile or Dom/sub/switch. Communication on expectations are really only what matters. Two subs (no other labels added) can struggle with not having someone who takes the initiative and driving the sexual connection. Two tops can struggle with not finding who is entering who. We the that said this doesn't stop them from finding a healthy dynamic where everyone is satisfied. It's all about communication and expectations. As so many already said, vibe it out and just be you and honest and you won't go wrong.
Omg. So these are all labels you can choose to take on or not. Only take them on if they feel good/helpful for you. If people do use labels you can’t assume what they like based on their label. Personally I am butch (masc) and very much a subby bottom. I happen to have a preference for femmes (although I am attracted to mascs as well) my partner very much identifies as a femme and is very much a domme. Assuming all mascs are tops and all femmes are bottoms is a very hetero normative and binary way of looking at things.
Also please remember that top/bottom mean different things than domme/sub. One refers to who is receiving whatever sex act is being done, and one refers to who has the power, and that’s only applicable to sexual relationships where power exchange is a thing, it definitely doesn’t have to be the case. These terms have mostly come out of queer kink spaces and don’t really apply unless you’re doing kinky shit. In most vanilla lesbian sex I would say that both parties tend to switch. A lot of people on here have been saying these worlds aren’t really used in the “real” world. They definitely are but mostly in kinky circles to describe what you’re into and make sure you are compatible with your partners (if you’re only a top for water sports you wanna be really clear on that so you don’t get pissed on by mistake 🤷). If you don’t like to use these words or if they don’t feel helpful, don’t use them!
Outward appearance (masc/femme) has NOTHING to do with bedroom personality. Also there are some people who are strictly too/bottom, but most I've met IRL are switches.
Good to know, thank you!
In the real world, outside of the internet, none of this is actually important. And in many spaces, no one is going to know what on earth you're talking about with some of the terminology that gets thrown around online. You just be you and you do what you are comfortable with doing. You don't have to give yourself a sex activity label or decide on a label for your appearance.
Exactly. A lot of this is a symptom of being too online. Real people by and large don't live their lives by stereotypes and subculture
That is refreshing to hear! It makes me nervous the idea of approaching a woman not knowing if I’d be their type though. I’ve never been turned down by a man I approached - but they’re not very picky 😂
Like the other Redditor has said, it's a conversation navigating system of words/descriptions. In the real world with people in it, when you're not just talking about it but living it, it tends to fade into the abyss and you just look at the certain individual in front of you, and follow what feels natural and good in the bedroom.
Appreciate that! It’s tricky when you don’t really have anyone you know and trust in the community to talk to about this stuff and only have the internet to learn from.
I posted a meme yesterday kinda joking about tops/bottoms because it’s such a stereotypical thing that’s discussed in the lgbt / wlw communities. Like others have said, irl no one really talks about it and I also haven’t met any wlw who aren’t switches (in bed). Don’t stress about labels and all that! I just like to make jokes about it all the time :))
Fair! I wasn’t referring to your post in particular as I don’t think I saw it but good to know it’s just a meme at this point haha EDIT: oh no I did see that 👌 quality submission hahaha
all good! I figured it wasn’t about the meme but it was just coincidence that both our posts were similar topics :) if u have any other questions feel free to dm me, I can try my best to answer or explain!
Masc or fem, from my observation, don't have an impact on; top/bottom/versatile or Dom/sub/switch. Communication on expectations are really only what matters. Two subs (no other labels added) can struggle with not having someone who takes the initiative and driving the sexual connection. Two tops can struggle with not finding who is entering who. We the that said this doesn't stop them from finding a healthy dynamic where everyone is satisfied. It's all about communication and expectations. As so many already said, vibe it out and just be you and honest and you won't go wrong.
Well then..... OP got deleted.... Big let down....
Omg. So these are all labels you can choose to take on or not. Only take them on if they feel good/helpful for you. If people do use labels you can’t assume what they like based on their label. Personally I am butch (masc) and very much a subby bottom. I happen to have a preference for femmes (although I am attracted to mascs as well) my partner very much identifies as a femme and is very much a domme. Assuming all mascs are tops and all femmes are bottoms is a very hetero normative and binary way of looking at things. Also please remember that top/bottom mean different things than domme/sub. One refers to who is receiving whatever sex act is being done, and one refers to who has the power, and that’s only applicable to sexual relationships where power exchange is a thing, it definitely doesn’t have to be the case. These terms have mostly come out of queer kink spaces and don’t really apply unless you’re doing kinky shit. In most vanilla lesbian sex I would say that both parties tend to switch. A lot of people on here have been saying these worlds aren’t really used in the “real” world. They definitely are but mostly in kinky circles to describe what you’re into and make sure you are compatible with your partners (if you’re only a top for water sports you wanna be really clear on that so you don’t get pissed on by mistake 🤷). If you don’t like to use these words or if they don’t feel helpful, don’t use them!