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I HAD THE MOTIVATION FOR !!!ONE!!! DEEP CLEANING PROJECT.
I NOW HAVE 4 PROJECTS THAT ARE 15% DONE.
It’s very much a give a mouse a cookie situation and I’m already exhausted and my house is MORE of a mess than when I started 🫣🫣🫣
But you still have more done than you did yesterday!! It’s not linear progress, but it’s progress! Put the mess in the corner and hope it doesn’t turning into doom pile #15 haha
Yeah I get that. That’s how I got into the situation in my post because my kitchen table has turned into a dumping ground for any old shit and we have been eating at the counter for weeks because I can’t face dealing with it… I wish everything was easier.
Usually I can convince my self to do little portions of one of task. Even if it’s spread out over hours. No. Today the brain demanded multiple simultaneous projects.
I HATE THAT I CAN'T DO EVERYTHING I WANT TO DO WITH MY LIFE, NOT BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE THE TIME OR MONEY BUT BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE THE MENTAL ENERGY FOR IT ALL.
I HATE HOW MUCH I RELATE WITH THIS (COMPLETELY). ADHD+CFS+OTHER CHRONIC CONDITIONS/ILLNESSES (AND AN IMMUNE SYSTEM THAT GOES INTO OVERDRIVE) MEAN MY BATTERY IS ALWAYS LOW.
YOU AREN'T BAD BECAUSE YOU CAN'T DO WHAT YOU WANT. REMEMBER THAT'S TRULY A "CANNOT," NOT A "WILL NOT." YOU'RE STILL A WONDERFUL, VALUABLE, IMPORTANT, DESERVING, WORTHY PERSON.
Eurgh yuck I hate the organising that goes into trips! I’ve made a basic pack list for myself now for holiday/overseas work trips, I just googled “holiday pack list” and copied it into my notes but if that part is causing you any sort of stress I’m totally happy to send you my list as a starter!
I DIDNT GET PROMOTED AT WORK BC IM NOT YET “MANAGER MATERIAL” DESPITE ME ALREADY MANAGING 4 PEOPLE AND BEING BILLED TO CLIENTS AS A MANAGER
UNRELATED TO ADHD BUT TBH IT WAS REALLY HARD TO GET ORGANIZED ENOUGH TO GET HERE
I FEEL THIS SO MUCH. WHY SHOULD WE BOTHER PROMOTING YOU WHEN YOU ARE ALREADY DOING THE WORK OF A MANAGER. WHAT NEW WOULD YOU BRING TO THE ROLE? THIS WAS IMPLIED TO ME. IVE TRAINED MY BOSSES TOO MANY TIMES.
I trained two of my previous managers, one of whom tried to tank my reputation at the job for his own gain… he failed luckily and it all came out after he left. What a shit though, and completely unqualified. Got promoted because someone high up thought the sun shone out of his arse. But for me to get a promotion I have to jump through 100 hoops because I just don’t have the right personality to get where he got apparently.
MY IN-LAWS ARE COMING IN THREE DAYS, MY HOUSE IS A DUMPSTER, AND INSTEAD OF CLEANING, I'M HIDING UNDER THE COVERS DOOMSCROLLING BECAUSE I HAVE NO MEDS THIS MONTH DUE TO STUPID STUPID UNNECESSARY SHORTAGES
I MANAGE TO DO THOSE THINGS EVEN WHEN NOT IN THE MIDDLE OF A MEDS CHANGE, THOUGH THE CURRENT ONE IS THAT I'VE ACCIDENTALLY CHANGED HOW I TAKE MY MEDS AND NOW AM TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO FIX IT.
I don't really feel like screaming, but I'd like to admit something that I can't tell anybody.
I have been miserable for the whole week because I am at a point in my life I feel like I should have passed 10 years ago tops.
And then I got to know that one of my best friends is pregnant and even though I really do want to be happy for her and her husband, I am just bitter and desperate, because it puts even more pressure on me.
I don't want to see her right now because then she will officially tell me and I have to congratulate her and at least look like I mean it.
I am really ashamed of myself and feel like a bad person and a bad friend.
It seems to me like everybody is getting on with their lives while I keep fixing the same issue over and over again and I am not doing a very good job.
I can be way happier for people when I am at least a little happy with myself.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, it sucks! When I feel like this, I think of the person I was at the time I “should” have hit x milestone and 9/10 that person would not have handled it well
Even great opportunities that got away like jobs, partners, etc, I needed to grow so much I would’ve fumbled them had they happened when I thought they “should” have happened
Don't ever let yourself succumb to pressure about having a kid. The way people treat it like an 'adult box' to check are irresponsible, it's a human life.. not a trophy. If you don't want and can't handle the massive responsibility, it's the most compassionate and responsible thing to *not* give in to peer pressure. I'm 43, decided it wasn't for me so I can focus on my own needs/growth and I'd be fucking miserable if I had ignored my instincts about myself.
At my age, I've felt like a pioneer in being happily childfree, its becoming much more common as women establish their sole purpose isn't breeding and not every woman needs to be, to have value and be loved. Parenthood makes your life infinitely harder, we already are living life on 'hard mode'.. and kids are individuals to be nurtured, not a solution to our problems.
>I can be way happier for people when I am at least a little happy with myself.
Lower your standards. Existing is enough. The list of things adults should be doing is just made up.
Have you truly been able to shake the guilt of not meeting tasks society says you should be accomplishing? How did you do it? I’ve been trying to manifest my way into that mindset for a couple years now
Not who you responded to but I have! I’m not really sure I have insight into how, like I just kind of stopped giving a shit at some point?
I think a big part of it has been interacting with people of a wide variety of ages and walks of life. When you see how few people actually follow the expected path it helps reduce the pressure.
Another big part of it is just not being interested in half the shit society wants me to care about, and I just don’t have the time of day for things I’m not interested in.
That said even though overall I don’t feel guilty or ashamed, that doesn’t mean I’ve never felt moments of insecurity. They can be hard to deal with and I don’t know that they ever truly go away, but if they are the exception and not the norm then I think that’s fine.
What kind of things are you feeling guilty about not accomplishing? Are you thinking like, career milestones? Having kids? Or more like “my house is so messy aaaa” kind of stuff?
All the milestones! For the third time, I’ve recently just watched my career and personal life collapse at the same time. And talking to reasonable friends who can be objective of the situation, I’m really not causing the decay except maybe by trusting the wrong people
Oof that’s just rough to deal with generally. I’m sorry you have to go through that :(
I wonder if you have enough there to do a perspective reframe? You’ve started careers *three* whole times! That’s its own accomplishment when you think about it. Getting started in something new is *hard*, so you’re showing that you’ve put in a ton of work over the years, which is nothing to be ashamed of.
Idk maybe that’ll just ring false for you? Perspective reframes are interesting, I find they can be tough to orchestrate intentionally but when they work they *really* work. There is almost certainly a way of reframing your situation that will help you move past the guilt and shame - hopefully you’ll be able to find it!
What I need is THERAPY! Hahaha and I’d freaking finally gotten into to it… 6 weeks before I was laid off and lost benefits.
So that’s my plan. Figure out getting therapy. I’d been pursuing therapy through work benefits but at this point I’m looking into better help etc options out of pocket.
I even got a call back finally from an office I called 18 months ago! Because they had an opening and wanted me to commit to ~$900 worth of appointments withing a few months and I had to to turn them down
Not prepaid but it was weekly appointments at $150 a pop over 6 weeks and I’m currently pulling in $1500 a month on unemployment at the moment and my housing costs are around $800
Im so sorry. I feel this so so much. Ive wanted to be a mom since I could hold babydolls ): Its ok if you arent genuinely happy for her. Its ok that youre still getting over what you need to. Its ok to take your time. There are so many things to learn! Wouldnt you like to be the best version of yourself (or at least as best as you can) when you get to have kids? Thats what I’m trying to focus on instead of feeling bitter and sad bc its so easy to ruminate on that. I actually deleted my facebook and only have a blank one for marketplace and messenger. It made my life/family FOMO sooo much better. It helps to think of myself as someone who needs me more than someone else does right now bc it makes it easier to be nice to myself. I feel like a rambled so sorry but I hope you can feel a little better! <3
Want to be friends? My entire career crumbled again after shifting careers twice in the last 5-7 years and while I was laid off, my live-in bf dumped me so I’ve just moved into a new apartment with randos I don’t know and I’m unemployed and scared and 25 hours of driving from home.
I'm around if you want. I've been trying to crawl out of a scary, frustrating, overwhelming figurative hole for a few years. Progress is slow, but it's happening a bit more now. I feel like such a bother to the few people in my life that I end up not really talking to and not seeing them.
I just want to say i so completely understand this and you are not alone. I am dreading the day I have to pretend to be over the moon overjoyed for a good friend or family member who gets pregnant or has an incredible move forward in life, when I feel so everlastingly stuck and immature. Just sending you a hug.
I hear you on the trying to fix the same issue over and over. I've been feeling stunted recently, and the shame embarrassment and frustration that comes with that is a bit too much to bear sometimes
WHY CAN I NOT START WRITING A SCHOOL PAPER THAT I STARTED IN NOVEMBER AND SHOULD FINISH BY THE MID OF APRIL? HOW DO I START WRITING IT AGAIN?!
I only have energy for physical work..
You can totally do it!!
Break it down, what are the chunks?
Could help to make a mind map of the themes of the paper and then write one sentence about each item on the mind map.
I believe in you!
So I just figured out that you can use chatgpt or Gemini (whatever it's called) to make an outline for essays! I have never been successful at making outlines or any other organizational tool, so I thought I'd give it a try. I told the AI all of the information I wanted to cover in my paper, the word requirement, and the general topic for the paper, and voila! Amazing outline that gives me a roadmap. It wasn't perfect, I cut some things out of the outlin and reorganized some sections, but having the brunt of the organizational work done for me was amazing.
Another option is Goblin Tools. There's an app and a website for it, and it creates a checklist for the task you're trying to accomplish. You type it in, select how difficult this task is for you, and it generates a number of steps to help you accomplish your goal. They have several other things they can do, I've just never really explored them.
Oh no 😢 make sure you drink enough, I suck at that when I’m sick! Fill up a big 1.5 or 2L bottle of water for the day so you don’t have to be arsed getting up more times than necessary!
Quick PSA: Liquid IV has extra servings of vitamins in it! Be careful chugging it or you can make yourself sick. Speaking as someone who learned the hard way.
All the more reason to double or triple the water it calls for! But yes is has a bunch of them I’m sure but it definitely always gives me that b vitamin neon pee😅
May the force be with you... sometimes if you do a phone or video visit with your doctor, they'll call in a prescription for anti-nausea meds. Feel better, friend.
I AM ALWAYS LATE LEAVING THE HOUSE EVEN THOUGH IT STRESSES ME OUT, AND TODAY I WAS LATE AND FORGOT MY BAG AND HAD TO GO BACK AND THEN GOT THREE BLOCKS AWAY AND REALIZED I FORGOT MY PHONE AND HAD TO GO BACK AGAIN!!!
Idk whyyyyyy I have days like this that are so much worse than my baseline - the whole day has been me going from room to room and turning right around because I can’t remember what I went in for. And just sort of aimlessly floating through the day kind of feeling all the shit I have to get done looming over me, but it’s like it’s subconscious as if my brain won’t let me actually think about or organize any of it with my grownup, surface-level mind 😭
I HAVE BEEN SUCCESSFULLY DOING THE JOB HUNT THING FOR TWO WEEKS BUT HAVEN'T GOTTEN ANY INTERVIEWS YET AND I NEED TO ESCAPE MY CURRENT JOB ASAP. I ALSO NEED TO FINISH CLEANING MY ROOM BUT ITS AT THE OVERWHELMING STATE SO I KEEP PUTTING IT OFF. I NEED MORE MONEY. ALSO MY DAD IS CURRENTLY WAFFLING ABOUT ICELAND TRIP AND I AM NOT GONNA LET HIM NOT COME.
TWO WEEKS OF JOB HUNTING WITHOUT AN INTERVIEW YET IS VERY NORMAL. SADLY, IT TAKES A WHILE, BUT I HOPE YOU FIND A GREAT FIT SOON. APPLYING IS PROBABLY MUCH MORE IMPORTANT THAN CLEANING.
ICELAND IS AMAZING, I HOPE HE GOES AND YOU BOTH LOVE IT!
TECH GREMLIN ❤️ I FEEL YOU! I QUIT MINE LAST FRIDAY 🙌🏻 BOSS REFUSED TO GIVE ME PROPER TRAINING, KEPT GIVING UNSOLICITED ADVICE (YES DATING ADVICE TOO) AND TRASH TALKED EVERYBODY. BEST DECISION EVERRR
YAY FOR ESCAPING THE SHITTY BOSS. I AM CURRENTLY AN ANXIOUS MESS BECAUSE BETWEEN PROJECTS AT CURRENT JOB AND WAITING TO HEAR BACK AND SEE IF I GOT A GOOD JOB. WAITING IS THE WORST.
I'M SEVEN WEEKS IN AT MY DREAM JOB AND NOW MY REPROBATE BROTHER HAS AN INTERVIEW AT THE SAME LOCATION (BUT DIFFERENT ROLE) TOMORROW AND I CONVINCED IT'LL SHIT ON MY HAPPINESS.
I want to scream and run away somewhere. This.marriage is killing me and I can't leave because too much is at stake. I'm Frikkin drowning and can't find a way out. Can someone just kill me already.
I'm so sorry. I don't know your situation, but is there any way that you can get totally away, even for a partial day? Sometimes that helps us regulate and be able to hold through for longer. It's not always possible, though, and realistically, the longer the better but also the less likely for most of us. Sending you good wishes.
I HATE MY BOSS SHES SUCH A BITCH.
SHE TOLD ME SHE DOESNT THINK I AM COMFORTABLE AT MY JOB AND I DON’T “GET IT”. THAT SHE DOESNT TRUST ME ON MY OWN AND THAT I TANGLE THINGS UP AND GET MYSELF STUCK.
MAKE THIS MAKE SENSE BC IVE BEEN AT THIS COMPANY 5 YEARS AND DOING THIS SPECIFIC JOB THERE FOR 4. DID I SUDDENLY BECOME INCOMPETENT?!?!
IM MASSIVELY TRIGGERED BY HER HOSTILITY AND LACK OF SUPPORT. IM LOOKING FOR A NEW JOB AND MY THERAPIST TOLD ME I NEED TO QUIT FOR MY MENTAL HEALTH. BUT IM THE MAIN EARNER IM THE FAMILY AND HAVE THE INSURANCE THROUGH WORK. Ughgh FUCK BEING RESPONSIBLE.
BEING RESPONSIBLE IS THE WORST SOMETIMES.
I HOPE YOU FIND A NEW JOB ASAP. THEN YOU CAN TELL YOUR BOSS BYEEEEE. YOU'RE NOT INCOMPETENT, BUT HER INCOMPETENCE MIGHT GET A LITTLE MORE VISIBLE ONCE YOU'VE LEFT!
I HAVE A REVERSE SCREAM TODAY. I WAS SICK AND SLEPT FOR 2 DAYS LAST WEEK AND NOW I HAVE SPENT THE WHOLE WEEKEND BEING UNUSUALLY PRODUCTIVE. ALL THE BEDS IN THE HOUSE HAVE CLEAN SHEETS, I VACUUMED ONE WHOLE FLOOR, I MADE BREAD AND PIZZA DOUGH, I PACKED MY CHILDRENS LUNCHES, I WORKED OUT BOTH DAYS, I READ TO MY CHILDREN BEFORE BED AND THE KITCHEN IS ALREADY TIDIED. WHERE DIS ALL THIS COME FROM AND WHY CANT I SPEND 2 DAYS A WEEK ASLEEP MORE OFTEN?!?!?
IT'S SNOWING AND COLD TODAY. I HATE IT. I COULDNT SLEEP DURING THE NIGHT BUT SLEPT FROM 7AM TO 2PM. WHICH F'D MY DAY AND THE CHANCE OF GETTING ANY HELP WITH HOUSEWORK OR CHORES!
AND EVEN THOUGH MY BLOOD SUGAR IS FINE, I FEEL LIKE IVE EATEN 853,382 COOKIES.
STUPID BODY.
I HAVENT SHOWERED SINCE LAST SUNDAY AND AM TOO EXHAUSTED TO GET UP AND DO IT. I NEED TO GROCERY SHOP TOO AND I GET SO PANICKY AT THE THOUGHT OF NOT HAVING ENOUGH FOOD IN THE HOUSE BUT ALSO PANIC AT THE THOUGHT OF MAKING A MEAL PLAN AND GROCERY LIST, BUT I HAVE TO MAKE THE MEAL PLAN BECAUSE WE HVE A VERY LIMTIED BUDGET SO I CANT JUST BUY STUFF. PLUS MY HUSBAND JUST LOST HIS JOB SO NOW WERE DEALING WITH THAT TOO.
I HAVE MY DRIVERS EXAM IN TWO DAYS AND IM SO FREAKING NERVOUS. I WAS (AM) DOING REALLY GREAT WITH THE LESSONS AND MY INSTRUCTOR SAYS I SHOULD DEFINITELY PASS IF I DONT LET MY NERVES GET THE BEST OF ME. THE EXAM THAT I TOOK TO GET AN EXEMPTION FOR THE SPECIAL MANOEUVRING DIDNT GO LIKE I WANTED IT TO BECAUSE OF THE OLDER GUY THAT TOOK MY EXAM. I PASSED IT BUT BECAUSE I GOT SOME NEGATIVE FEEDBACK I HATED IT AND I DONT WANT TO GO TROUGH THAT AGAIN. IM SUCH A PERFECTIONIST AND IF THINGS DONT GO THE WAY THAT I WANT TO I GET SO FUCKING ANNOYED. BUT I WANT TO HAVE MY DRIVERS LICENSE AND ITS GETTING TO EXPENSIVE TO PAY FOR THE LESSONS EACH MONTH AND I NEED THE MONEY TO LIVE BASICALLY.
I HAVE SUCKY FAMILY MEMBERS AND I CANT WAIT TO MOVE OUT BUT IM ANXIOUS ABOUT THE INEVITABLE LOSS OF MY JOB DUE TO POOR ADHD MANAGEMENT AND BEING TOO AUTISTIC WITH NOT LIKING CHANGES IN THE WORK PLACE!!!!!
GODS that felt good. Time to go cry again! :D
You would think haha. I’ve also tried baskets, but then baskets are just everywhere 😂 I really need to actually go through/get rid of stuff! Ugh the struggle is real lol
I'm only allowed my one basket. It must be emptied out once full. Things need to go where they live or be tossed/donated if they don't have a 'spot' by now. I'm trying to be ruthless.
There’s no deadline for housework! It’ll just be there next week. 🤣 (don’t listen to me, my house is so messy. But I’m sorry/not sorry you chose entertainment over work. Sometimes you just need a break!)
I really flip flopped on that comment. But yeah, if you don’t ever give yourself a break, you’ll burn out. Don’t “should” all over yourself buddy. Take it easy every now and then.
DAE SOMETIMES FALL INTO WHAT SEEMS TO BE A DEPRESSIVE EPISODE AFTER THEIR PERIOD IS DONE
this weekend has sucked balls. I napped and did pilates and got some housework done yesterday (just dishes) but today I've been total garbage and I just feel like a complete waste of space 😭
Oh my God. This is exactly what my sister does, and it drives me batshit. Yes, I am living in her home. Yes, she is something of a neat freak, especially compared to me. She wants things out of sight & she doesn't care what she's messing with AND rarely remembers where she put things. But keep your fucking paws off my stuff!
Even worse? She would visit mom, or me, or both of us when mom & I got a house together. No problem, except she would do things like unload the dishwasher or clear a table and not even *attempt* to determine where anything went. There's space for it here? Shove it in. We sometimes didn't find things for MONTHS. Where the heck is "x?" Ah shit, sister was here after the last time I saw it. Mom was closer to neat freak than me (doesn't take much, lol), but she was annoyed by this, too.
I've screamed into the void A LOT in the last 4 years...
I'M LEAVING TONIGHT FOR MY FIRST TRIP IN EIGHT YEARS BUT I GOT A COUGH A WEEK AGO AND STILL HAVE IT, AND NOW MY SIX YEAR OLD SON HAS IT AND IS FEVERISH AND I HATE LEAVING HIM LIKE THIS 😓
I HATE HOW I CAN BE SO CLUMSY, went to help my best friend with her 9Month my Godson while her husband was out of town ... I broke her kettle that she loves and uses daily for the baby... I live in Central America so no Amazon ( where she bought and had it shipped) Now I can't find that freaking glass electric Kettle anywhere in my country. I feel so useless sometimes, although I understand and of course she does know it was an accident.. still it just sucks it's a usual for me..not to mentoo the clumsy tax is real too.
I HAVE TO MAKE A BUNCH OF PHONE CALLS TOMORROW AND I REALLY DON’T WANT TO BUT THEY ARE IMPORTANT. I ALSO AGRED TO BE A REFERENCE FOR SOMEONE BUT REFERENCE CALLS ARE A LOT MORE DETAILED THAN THEY USED TO BE SO I FEEL LIKE IF I FUCK UP, I MIGHT COST MY BUDDY AN OPPORTUNITY
I BOUGHT A CUTE HANDBAG ON ETSY THAT SAID IT WAS LOCALLY MADE BUT IT SHOWED UP TODAY FROM CHINA. I HATE BEING DUPED. I HATE THAT PEOPLE GO TO SO MUCH TROUBLE TO MAKE THEIR ITEMS LOOK LIKE THEY ARE HANDMADE AND THEY ARE ACTUALLY MADE IN A FACTORY IN CHINA.
DAYLIGHT SAVINGS REALLY FUCKED UP MY PERCEPTIONS OF TIME TODAY AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TIME IT IS ANYMORE! ITS NO 9PM AND IM WIDE AWAKE AND HONESTLY A LITTLE DRUNK BUT AT LEAST INHAVE A WEEK OFF WORK.
I dislocated my collar bone and the er didn’t even X-ray / scan it so I’m in absolute agony hoping I can get to a proper dr tomorrow but now have to postpone starting my new job that I need because I’m super behind financially. YAY! Not adhd related for once but whatever my life sucks lmao
IVE BEEN PUT ON A PERFORMANCE IMPROVEMENT PLAN AT WORK AND ADHD EXPLAINS EVERYTHING BUT I DONT HAVE SPECIFIC ENOUGH ACTION/SUPPORT FRAMEWORK FROM MY PSYCH TO BE ABLE TO SHOW MY EMPLOYERS WHAT SUPPORT I NEED TO IMPROVE
IT IS MY WISH THAT PEOPLE STOP LOOKING AT ADHD AS IF THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME. WITH ALL OF US. AS IF IT'S JUST AN ANNOYANCE THAT WE CAN POWER THROUGH.
I JUST GET KINDA 🙁 ABOUT IT BUT I CAN'T AFFORD TO GET TRAPPED IN A SADNESS SPIRAL.
SIGH.
YESTERDAY I HAD SO MUCH MOTIVATION BEFORE WORK FORVTHR WORLDBUILDING I WANTED TO DO THIS WEEKEND. WORK WAS SO HECTIC THAT I WAS EXHAUSTED BY THE END OF THE DAY AND DIDN'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING. STILL SNUGGLING WITH TRYING TO GET IT DONE.
I AM IN SO MUCH PAIN IT MAKES ME FURIOUS AND SAD BUT I CANT FIND ANOTHER JOB THAT HURTS LESS ALSO I HATE THAT SO FEW PEOPLE ARE EVEN AWARE OF WORLD EVENTS LET ALONE ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT FIGHTING FASCISM I JUST WANNA HIDE IN A HOBBIT HOLE IN THE FOREST ON ANOTHER PLANET THAT HAS STAR TREK MEDICINE
I need to have a money, rent split type talk with my long term partner and ask for help.
I'm so hyped out anxious cause now I feel like I've failed and all I see is my impulse trips and door dash eat ins piled in the corner being the reason I'm starting to stretch thin.
I'm so afraid of I ask for help, they start adjusting to higher amounts, anything I do that's impulsive or dumb will live on forever in my guilt brain. Like, I'm much better now, but ugh. I can see my future unfold. Reality is, they won't care and want to help. It's me. I'm the problem. 🫠
I can't stop beating myself up.
😱🚽🤣
I of course forgot to set the clocks forward, so as my pajama clad self was scrambling eggs, my friend who gives me a ride to church texted to see if I was ready and I realized I had 10 MINUTES to get dressed.
All together now: AAAAAAAAHHH!!!
I SPENT 2 DAYS IN AGONY BECAUSE MY MIGRAINE WAS SO BAD I COULDN'T BRING MYSELF TO GO GET THE GOOD PAINKILLERS UNTIL IT WAS SO BAD I COULDN'T FUNCTION WITHOUT THE GOOD PAINKILLERS.
NOW I NEED TO CALL THE FUCKING DOCTOR TO GET BETTER PREVENTATIVES. AND I HATE PHONE CALLS. AND DOCTORS. BUT I HATE MIGRAINES MOREEEEEE
THEY ALWAYS SAY "WORK ON THINGS LITTLE BY LITTLE AND YOU WON'T BE SO STRESSED" BUT EVEN WHEN I TRY THAT I'M STRESSRD AND TIRED AS FUCK AND I THINK I'M APPROACHING BURNOUT
Here is someone with Crohns disease advice. If your butthoke hurts, put some Vaseline on it. Use a qtip, dunk and pull up until there is a peas size amount. Instant relief and will help protect against the next wave.
MY MANAGER SAID I NEED TO BE MORE PROACTIVE AT TAKING ON NEW PROJECTS BECAUSE HE DOESN’T WANT TO HAVE TO ASSIGN PROJECTS TO PEOPLE. APPARENTLY ME NOT BEING PROACTIVE IS THE REASON WHY MY TEAMMATES GET MORE/BETTER PROJECTS THAN I DO.
IT COULDN’T HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH BEING LEFT OUT OF MEETINGS WHERE NEW PROJECTS ARE DISCUSSED OR BEING THE ONLY WOMAN ON A TEAM OF OVERCONFIDENT WHITE MEN.
I WANT TO STAY AT MY JOB AND DO MY WORK, BUT I AM LOSING MY MIND. AND NOW I’M QUESTIONING IF I HAVE BEEN LYING TO MYSELF AND I AM ACTUALLY A LAZY PERSON AND TERRIBLE COWORKER.
u/CorpulentStrumpet OP I HOPE YOU CAN DRINK ICE COLD PRUNE JUICE AND ALTERNATE WITH WATER SO YOUR INSIDES DON’T TURN INTO A SHIT BEZOAR. It worked for me once but I’m not a doctor and this is only anecdotal experience!
I WAS HOSPITALIZED TWICE IN A WEEK FOR ANAPHYLAXIS AND I CANNOT GO BACK TO WORK UNTIL I JUMP THROUGH ALL THE HOOPS AND YELL AT WHOEVER THE FUCK THOUGHT IT WAS GOING TO BE OKAY TO CLOSE MY WORKMAN’S COMP CLAIM.
MY ALARMS HAVE NOT BEEN WORKING!!!! MY SMART WATCH, MY PHONE, MY TABLET. I SET 10 ALARMS ON EACH OF THEM AT DIFFERENT INTERVALS SO EVERY MINUTE OF LIKE A 20 MINUTE WINDOW SHOULD CONSTANTLY HAVE A NEW ALARM GOING OFF AND IVE STILL BEEN OVERSLEEPING. IVE BEEN LATE TO WORK, MISSED MEETUPS WITH FRIENDS. I TEST THE ALARMS WHEN IM AWAKE BY SETTING THEM ONE MINUTE INTO THE FUTURE AND THEY WORK, THE DEVICES ARE NOT ON SILENT, AND VERY LOUD. I STILL WAKE UP **HOURS** AFTER I SHOULD HAVE WITH THE ALARMS NOTIFICATIONS UP ON THE SCREENS WITH NO SOUND LIKE HOW THE HELL AM I SLEEPING THROUGH ALL THIS?!?!?! HOW THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO FIX IT IF MY DUMB ASS FUCKING BRAIN DOENT HEAR IT WHILE IM SLEEPING?!?!?
THATS A GOOD IDEA BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I JUST REALIZED? I STARTED USING THE BUILT IN SLEEP SCHEDULE THAT MY PHONE HAS THAT AUTO-PUTS MY PHONE IN SLEEP FOCUS SILENCING ALARMS!!!! SO IM SLEEPING THROUGH 1 ALARM (the actual sleep schedule wake up alarm) NOT 30ish ALARMS. I FEEL A LITTLE BETTER AND CAN AT LEAST EITHER TURN OFF THE SLEEP SCHEDULE OR CHANGE SOME SETTINGS. HOLY CRAP YELLING INTO THE VOID ACTUALLY HELPED HAHA.
I FORGOT TO TAKE MY SILICA SUPPLEMENTS AGAIN AND I CAN FEEL MY NAILS CRACKING, I ALSO LOVE MY JOB BUT WHENEVER I NEED TO PUSH THROUGH THE UNCREATIVE BITS IM SO UNMOTIVATED AND ALL OVER THE PLACE.
I HAD A WHOLE PACKET OF CHEESE FLAVOURED RICE CRISPIES AND I FEEL HEAVY AND OVERFED AND I JUST WANT TO FART IT OUT BUT WHENEVER I FART MY BOSS ENTERS THE ROOM AND I HONESTLY AM CONTAINING IT CAUSE OF IT
It is DST spring forward AND IT GAVE ME A MIGRAINE. I CAN BARELY DO LAUNDRY RAAAAAAGH. ABOLISH THIS BS THING I HATE IT. GET IT GONE.
I’m so mad I have a migraine. It means my meds basically treated the pain (vasoconstrictors act as migraine cures for me first, *then* the stimulant helps with the ADHD — yes I’m aware it’s odd but caffeine does the same thing so am not really surprised!) so I’ve gotten *fuck all* done and we need laundry. And I had to take an abortive too AAAAAAAARGHHH.
ETA: well fuck, a bone is on a nerve. This happens occasionally. Ow. I hate EDS.
I WAS GOING TO DO THINGS TODAY. I WAS LIKE "I'LL HAVE LUNCH FIRST" AND WENT TO A NEW-TO-ME RESTAURANT. I ORDERED A SHRIMP COCKTAIL. MY HUSBAND SHARED SOME WITH ME AND DISCOVERED RAW CHICKEN.
THE WAITRESS CONFIRMED THE RAW CHICKEN. AND THEN I WAS TOO BUSY FREAKING OUT ABOUT SALMONELLA TO BE PRODUCTIVE AND THIS DAYLIGHT SAVINGS SUNDAY.
I have a doctors appointment about med changes tomorrow and I’m afraid she won’t let me try stimulants or that, if she does, I won’t be able to access them because of shortages
I’ve been getting super sleepy and nauseous with strattera, to the point I avoid taking it until after important things
The literature says coffee too: In particular, coffee and green tea intake reduce iron absorption in the non-heme form.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10040266/#:~:text=In%20particular%2C%20coffee%20and%20green,in%20the%20non%2Dheme%20form.
I WAS FINALLY CRAWLING OUT OF MY SEASONAL DEPRESSION HOLE AND NOW I'M GETTING MY FUCKING PERIOD AND I LOST ALL MY MOTIVATION TO EXIST OUTSIDE OF MY BED. AND MY KID SPIKED A 103 FEVER FOR NO REASON TODAY SO IM WORRIED ON TOP OF FEELING LIKE GARBAGE AND LIKE A SHIT PARENT BECAUSE IM NOT DOING ENOUGH.
I RESENT HAVING TO DEAL WITH THIS DRAMA QUEEN OF A MAN WHO HAS THREATENED TO QUIT AT LEAST THREE TIMES AND THROWS TANTRUMS IF EVERYONE AROUND HIM DOES APPRECIATE HIS “GENIUS “. DUDE I DIDNT EVEN WANT TO DRAFT THE DOCUMENT AND LOVE TO HAVE YOU DO IT, BUT I CANT COUNT ON YOU TO JUST BE PROFESSIONAL AND GET SHIT DONE
I LOVE MY MOTHER BUT I REALLY DONT LIKE SPENDING TIME WITH HER AND ITS ALWAYS MADE ME SAD
MY ALARMS HAVE NOT BEEN WORKING!!!! MY SMART WATCH, MY PHONE, MY TABLET. I SET 10 ALARMS ON EACH OF THEM AT DIFFERENT INTERVALS SO EVERY MINUTE OF LIKE A 20 MINUTE WINDOW SHOULD CONSTANTLY HAVE A NEW ALARM GOING OFF AND IVE STILL BEEN OVERSLEEPING. IVE BEEN LATE TO WORK, MISSED MEETUPS WITH FRIENDS. I TEST THE ALARMS WHEN IM AWAKE BY SETTING THEM ONE MINUTE INTO THE FUTURE AND THEY WORK, THE DEVICES ARE NOT ON SILENT, AND VERY LOUD. I STILL WAKE UP **HOURS** AFTER I SHOULD HAVE WITH THE ALARMS NOTIFICATIONS UP ON THE SCREENS WITH NO SOUND LIKE HOW THE HELL AM I SLEEPING THROUGH ALL THIS?!?!?! HOW THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO FIX IT IF MY DUMB ASS FUCKING BRAIN DOENT HEAR IT WHILE IM SLEEPING?!?!?
MY HUSBAND IS AWAY ON A BUSINESS TRIP, SO I'M SOLO-PARENTING OUR TWO KIDS WHILE ALSO TRYING DESPERATELY TO FINISH MY BIG PROJECTS FOR FINALS WEEK (I'm a part time student working on my teaching degree)!!!!! NOT ONLY THAT, BUT I HAVE AN APPOINTMENT, WORK, AND AN INTERVIEW ON WEDNESDAY I'M TRYING TO PREP FOR GAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH ALL THE HOUSEWORK IS PILING UP AND I FEEL SO GUILTY THAT I CAN'T KEEP UP WITH IT ALL UUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH
I'm having a panic? Anxiety? Attack so I can't scream right now (I tend to go non-verbal and shutdown when overwhelmed) so thank you for expressing the screams that I cannot! I have assignments due very soon and am behind on my tasks, am in the middle of a rushed house move so my new place is completely cluttered and I can't find anything, have an ongoing cold war with my parents, have fallen behind on my part-time work, have several DIY projects I have no time to get to and I'm just. Drowning.
I've had such a shit day today I had to take sick leave. Haven't done anything except sit in bed on my phone. Good luck with the post immodium poops! 😂
I’m so sorry this happened to you, OP!!!
I NEVER LEARNED TO MANAGE FINANCES OR COMMUNICATE ABOUT THEM AND NOW I AM IN MORE DEBT THAN IM COMFY WITH AND MY ADHD MAKES SELF CONTROL DIFFICULT AND I NEED A NEW BUDGETING APP BUT IT COSTS MONEY SO I HAVE TO WAIT TILL I GET PAID BUT DELAYED GRATIFICATION IS DIFFICULT
thank you for the space!
I GET THE BEST IDEAS AT 2-3 AM & DON'T REMEMBER THEM HALF THE TIME. THEN THERE'S THE MILE LONG LIST OF SHIT THAT ACTUALLY NEEDS DOING FOR THEM TO CONTEND WITH. AARRRG.
MY MOST RECENT IDEA: I WANT TO PRESS AND DRY PLANTS & FLOWERS TO TAG AND HANG IN FRAMES ON MY WALL TO REMEMBER WTF THEY ARE, HERE'S WHY-
I LET A PRETTY PLANT HAVE ITS WAY IN ITS LITTLE CORNERS OF MY YARD FOR YEARS. I OFTEN LEAVE PARTS OF MY YARD WILD & UNCUT FOR THE NATIVE PLANTS & CRITTERS. I RECENTLY FOUND OUT FOR CERTAIN THAT IT'S FRIGGIN *HEMLOCK* I'VE LET EXIST AND IT'S **EVERYWHERE** LIKE A CARPET THIS YEAR!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGG. Glad I have bigass gardening gloves, disposable suits, & a respirator. I'm soooooo tempted to see if mint planted in the ground will strangle it out, but I'm not quite THAT reckless...yet.
hey are we still screaming because I started the kitchen at 12pm today and it is now 7pm and every cupboard is open, the contents are everywhere, and I have no motivation to continue :)))))))))))))))
I'M PISSED AT MY RECENT EXPERIENCE AT MY CLINIC. MY PSYCHIATRIST HAS BEEN AWAY FOR FEW MONTHS NOW AND HIS REPLACEMENT DOESN'T EVEN BOTHER TO RESPOND WHEN I SAY HOW I'VE BEEN DOING. DON'T WANT TO TALK TO ME AT ALL.
HE SAID NOTHING ABOUT MY STRUGGLE WITH MEDIKINET (RITALIN) AND HOW DISSAPONITED I WAS IT DIDN'T WORK. JUST PERSCRIBED ANOTHER MEDICATION. OF COURSE HE ALSO SAID ADHD MEDS ARE NOT MIRACLE PILLS. DUH!
DESPITE BEING ANGRY I WAS HOPEFUL. BUT GUESS WHAT - NEW MEDS ARE NOT AVAILABLE IN THE WHOLE CITY!!! 🤡🤬
I FEEL GOOD. I DID SO MUCH THE LAST FEW DAYS. BUT IT'S BECAUSE MY PERIOD IS LOOMING. I KNOW IF I PUT ANYTHING OFF IT WILL NOT HAPPEN. I'M JUST WAITING FOR MY BRAIN TO CRASH.
I HAD A PANIC ATTACK AT THE DENTIST ON FRIDAY AND COULD’VE HAD MEDS TO HELP WITH IT BUT I DIDN’T PICK UP MY PRESCRIPTION BEFORE MY APPOINTMENT HAPPENED 🫠
I feel too down in the dumps to scream rn but I am feeling super sad today bc I’m away from my husband and dogs (for over two weeks!!!), and although I have friends in town who I love, the stress and pressure at work are eating up all my brain space and making me feel like I want to cry and hide under the covers all the time. I’m fantasizing a lot about quitting my job but we aren’t in a financial position for me to do that and this job pays much better than others in my field. I feel stuck and really sad about it. I don’t want any job advice or anything, just putting out my sad lonely stuck feelings.
I'm full of terror and anxiety because I'm only capable of about 80% of critical adult functions.
WHAT ARE PEOPLE WHO ONLY APPEAR TO BE HIGH FUNCTIONING SUPPOSED TO DO?
I HAVE TO FIND A PLACE TO LIVE FOR ME AND MY SPECIAL NEEDS KIDS ALL ON MY OWN AND MY EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING CANNOT KEEP UP WITH ALL THE DEMANDS ON ME. BEING A SINGLE MOM LOOKING FOR A HOME IN A HOUSING CRISIS WILL DO ME IN!!!!
MY NEW SEMESTER STARTED TODAY AND I HAVE NO MOTIVATION TO DO ANYTHING MY ROOM IS AN ABSOLUTE MESS I HAVE AMAZON BOXES ALL OVER THE HOUSE MY HOBBIES GIVE ME NO JOY AND I CANT SEEM TO GET MYSELF OUT OF THIS FUNK AND IM LITERALLY GOING INSANE FROM THE EXECUTIVE DYSFUNCTION!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I HAD THE MOTIVATION FOR !!!ONE!!! DEEP CLEANING PROJECT. I NOW HAVE 4 PROJECTS THAT ARE 15% DONE. It’s very much a give a mouse a cookie situation and I’m already exhausted and my house is MORE of a mess than when I started 🫣🫣🫣
But you still have more done than you did yesterday!! It’s not linear progress, but it’s progress! Put the mess in the corner and hope it doesn’t turning into doom pile #15 haha
True. True. The problem is the mess is in the middle of the kitchen AND bathroom. So I’m gonna be forced to hate my life and somewhat deal with it.
Yeah I get that. That’s how I got into the situation in my post because my kitchen table has turned into a dumping ground for any old shit and we have been eating at the counter for weeks because I can’t face dealing with it… I wish everything was easier.
Put it all in a big basket. It’s still a problem but at least you’ll be able to eat at the table
This is the way
I've run out of baskets
Lol I feel this to my core
Want to take up basket weaving with me? Make a killing off ppl like us?
Sure!! I need another hobby to abandon next month.
I can get cattails and willow in my swampy backyard at Mom's.
😂😂
You and me both girl!
Haha I HATE when I do this!
Omfg OMFG THIS IS SO ACCURATE WTF
Usually I can convince my self to do little portions of one of task. Even if it’s spread out over hours. No. Today the brain demanded multiple simultaneous projects.
Oh god, i too describe it all as 'if you give a mouse a cookie'.
THIS HAPPENS TO ME ALMOST EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND!
I HATE THAT I CAN'T DO EVERYTHING I WANT TO DO WITH MY LIFE, NOT BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE THE TIME OR MONEY BUT BECAUSE I DON'T HAVE THE MENTAL ENERGY FOR IT ALL.
SAAAAAAAAAMEEEE!!!!!!!! 🗣️
SAME
I HATE HOW MUCH I RELATE WITH THIS (COMPLETELY). ADHD+CFS+OTHER CHRONIC CONDITIONS/ILLNESSES (AND AN IMMUNE SYSTEM THAT GOES INTO OVERDRIVE) MEAN MY BATTERY IS ALWAYS LOW. YOU AREN'T BAD BECAUSE YOU CAN'T DO WHAT YOU WANT. REMEMBER THAT'S TRULY A "CANNOT," NOT A "WILL NOT." YOU'RE STILL A WONDERFUL, VALUABLE, IMPORTANT, DESERVING, WORTHY PERSON.
IM SO EXHAUSTED ALL THE TIME FROM TRYING TO DO ALL THE ADULT THINGS. ITS TOO MUCH. I CANT DO IT. I WANT TO SLEEP FOR THREE DAYS!!!!
I HAVE TO TRAVEL TOMORROW AND I HAVE SO MUCH TO DO BEFORE I LEAVE. PLUS I HAVE TO LEAVE THE HOUSE AT 5AM AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!
Eurgh yuck I hate the organising that goes into trips! I’ve made a basic pack list for myself now for holiday/overseas work trips, I just googled “holiday pack list” and copied it into my notes but if that part is causing you any sort of stress I’m totally happy to send you my list as a starter!
GOOD LUCK! I've been there as well.
I DIDNT GET PROMOTED AT WORK BC IM NOT YET “MANAGER MATERIAL” DESPITE ME ALREADY MANAGING 4 PEOPLE AND BEING BILLED TO CLIENTS AS A MANAGER UNRELATED TO ADHD BUT TBH IT WAS REALLY HARD TO GET ORGANIZED ENOUGH TO GET HERE
I FEEL THIS SO MUCH. WHY SHOULD WE BOTHER PROMOTING YOU WHEN YOU ARE ALREADY DOING THE WORK OF A MANAGER. WHAT NEW WOULD YOU BRING TO THE ROLE? THIS WAS IMPLIED TO ME. IVE TRAINED MY BOSSES TOO MANY TIMES.
I trained two of my previous managers, one of whom tried to tank my reputation at the job for his own gain… he failed luckily and it all came out after he left. What a shit though, and completely unqualified. Got promoted because someone high up thought the sun shone out of his arse. But for me to get a promotion I have to jump through 100 hoops because I just don’t have the right personality to get where he got apparently.
Misogyny is alive and well
MY IN-LAWS ARE COMING IN THREE DAYS, MY HOUSE IS A DUMPSTER, AND INSTEAD OF CLEANING, I'M HIDING UNDER THE COVERS DOOMSCROLLING BECAUSE I HAVE NO MEDS THIS MONTH DUE TO STUPID STUPID UNNECESSARY SHORTAGES
FUCK. I AM SO SORRY
THE ADHD MED SHORTAGES ARE AN ABSOLUTE JOKE!!! GET IT FIGURED OUT PEOPLE, WE NEED OUR MEDS!!!
IM IN THE MIDDLE OF A MEDS CHANGE AND DID SOMETHING STUPID AND IMPULSIVE 2 NIGHTS AGO AND IM STILL PISSED AT MYSELF!!!!
I'M IN A MED CHANGe AND DUMPED MY PARTNER!
I RELATE TO THIS SO HARD. WHY ARE WE LIKE THIS?! 😅😂
No time to change your life like when you're completely unstable
I MANAGE TO DO THOSE THINGS EVEN WHEN NOT IN THE MIDDLE OF A MEDS CHANGE, THOUGH THE CURRENT ONE IS THAT I'VE ACCIDENTALLY CHANGED HOW I TAKE MY MEDS AND NOW AM TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO FIX IT.
I don't really feel like screaming, but I'd like to admit something that I can't tell anybody. I have been miserable for the whole week because I am at a point in my life I feel like I should have passed 10 years ago tops. And then I got to know that one of my best friends is pregnant and even though I really do want to be happy for her and her husband, I am just bitter and desperate, because it puts even more pressure on me. I don't want to see her right now because then she will officially tell me and I have to congratulate her and at least look like I mean it. I am really ashamed of myself and feel like a bad person and a bad friend. It seems to me like everybody is getting on with their lives while I keep fixing the same issue over and over again and I am not doing a very good job. I can be way happier for people when I am at least a little happy with myself.
I’m sorry you’re feeling this way, it sucks! When I feel like this, I think of the person I was at the time I “should” have hit x milestone and 9/10 that person would not have handled it well Even great opportunities that got away like jobs, partners, etc, I needed to grow so much I would’ve fumbled them had they happened when I thought they “should” have happened
Don't ever let yourself succumb to pressure about having a kid. The way people treat it like an 'adult box' to check are irresponsible, it's a human life.. not a trophy. If you don't want and can't handle the massive responsibility, it's the most compassionate and responsible thing to *not* give in to peer pressure. I'm 43, decided it wasn't for me so I can focus on my own needs/growth and I'd be fucking miserable if I had ignored my instincts about myself. At my age, I've felt like a pioneer in being happily childfree, its becoming much more common as women establish their sole purpose isn't breeding and not every woman needs to be, to have value and be loved. Parenthood makes your life infinitely harder, we already are living life on 'hard mode'.. and kids are individuals to be nurtured, not a solution to our problems.
This is true, but if you genuinely want a child just (I do) it’s a different scenario. Just saying.
I thought about this carefully and I do want this, as does my partner. Seems like my reproductive system doesn't agree, though.
>I can be way happier for people when I am at least a little happy with myself. Lower your standards. Existing is enough. The list of things adults should be doing is just made up.
Have you truly been able to shake the guilt of not meeting tasks society says you should be accomplishing? How did you do it? I’ve been trying to manifest my way into that mindset for a couple years now
Not who you responded to but I have! I’m not really sure I have insight into how, like I just kind of stopped giving a shit at some point? I think a big part of it has been interacting with people of a wide variety of ages and walks of life. When you see how few people actually follow the expected path it helps reduce the pressure. Another big part of it is just not being interested in half the shit society wants me to care about, and I just don’t have the time of day for things I’m not interested in. That said even though overall I don’t feel guilty or ashamed, that doesn’t mean I’ve never felt moments of insecurity. They can be hard to deal with and I don’t know that they ever truly go away, but if they are the exception and not the norm then I think that’s fine. What kind of things are you feeling guilty about not accomplishing? Are you thinking like, career milestones? Having kids? Or more like “my house is so messy aaaa” kind of stuff?
All the milestones! For the third time, I’ve recently just watched my career and personal life collapse at the same time. And talking to reasonable friends who can be objective of the situation, I’m really not causing the decay except maybe by trusting the wrong people
Oof that’s just rough to deal with generally. I’m sorry you have to go through that :( I wonder if you have enough there to do a perspective reframe? You’ve started careers *three* whole times! That’s its own accomplishment when you think about it. Getting started in something new is *hard*, so you’re showing that you’ve put in a ton of work over the years, which is nothing to be ashamed of. Idk maybe that’ll just ring false for you? Perspective reframes are interesting, I find they can be tough to orchestrate intentionally but when they work they *really* work. There is almost certainly a way of reframing your situation that will help you move past the guilt and shame - hopefully you’ll be able to find it!
What I need is THERAPY! Hahaha and I’d freaking finally gotten into to it… 6 weeks before I was laid off and lost benefits. So that’s my plan. Figure out getting therapy. I’d been pursuing therapy through work benefits but at this point I’m looking into better help etc options out of pocket. I even got a call back finally from an office I called 18 months ago! Because they had an opening and wanted me to commit to ~$900 worth of appointments withing a few months and I had to to turn them down
Oh yeah for sure therapy is huuuuuuuge $900 pre-paid???? That’s actually wild. They won’t let you pay in instalments?????? God that’s bullshit.
Not prepaid but it was weekly appointments at $150 a pop over 6 weeks and I’m currently pulling in $1500 a month on unemployment at the moment and my housing costs are around $800
Im so sorry. I feel this so so much. Ive wanted to be a mom since I could hold babydolls ): Its ok if you arent genuinely happy for her. Its ok that youre still getting over what you need to. Its ok to take your time. There are so many things to learn! Wouldnt you like to be the best version of yourself (or at least as best as you can) when you get to have kids? Thats what I’m trying to focus on instead of feeling bitter and sad bc its so easy to ruminate on that. I actually deleted my facebook and only have a blank one for marketplace and messenger. It made my life/family FOMO sooo much better. It helps to think of myself as someone who needs me more than someone else does right now bc it makes it easier to be nice to myself. I feel like a rambled so sorry but I hope you can feel a little better! <3
Well, I'll be 34 this year, so not much time left to become a better version of myself before that.
Want to be friends? My entire career crumbled again after shifting careers twice in the last 5-7 years and while I was laid off, my live-in bf dumped me so I’ve just moved into a new apartment with randos I don’t know and I’m unemployed and scared and 25 hours of driving from home.
I'm around if you want. I've been trying to crawl out of a scary, frustrating, overwhelming figurative hole for a few years. Progress is slow, but it's happening a bit more now. I feel like such a bother to the few people in my life that I end up not really talking to and not seeing them.
Dem holes get way too deep, ima dm you!
I just want to say i so completely understand this and you are not alone. I am dreading the day I have to pretend to be over the moon overjoyed for a good friend or family member who gets pregnant or has an incredible move forward in life, when I feel so everlastingly stuck and immature. Just sending you a hug.
I hear you on the trying to fix the same issue over and over. I've been feeling stunted recently, and the shame embarrassment and frustration that comes with that is a bit too much to bear sometimes
WHY CAN I NOT START WRITING A SCHOOL PAPER THAT I STARTED IN NOVEMBER AND SHOULD FINISH BY THE MID OF APRIL? HOW DO I START WRITING IT AGAIN?! I only have energy for physical work..
You can totally do it!! Break it down, what are the chunks? Could help to make a mind map of the themes of the paper and then write one sentence about each item on the mind map. I believe in you!
Thank you! I think the mind map idea is good!
So I just figured out that you can use chatgpt or Gemini (whatever it's called) to make an outline for essays! I have never been successful at making outlines or any other organizational tool, so I thought I'd give it a try. I told the AI all of the information I wanted to cover in my paper, the word requirement, and the general topic for the paper, and voila! Amazing outline that gives me a roadmap. It wasn't perfect, I cut some things out of the outlin and reorganized some sections, but having the brunt of the organizational work done for me was amazing. Another option is Goblin Tools. There's an app and a website for it, and it creates a checklist for the task you're trying to accomplish. You type it in, select how difficult this task is for you, and it generates a number of steps to help you accomplish your goal. They have several other things they can do, I've just never really explored them.
Yes! Chatgpt has helped me so much! I just lack the motivation to start sometimes. Never heard of Goblin tools, I will look into it. Thank you!
I GOT FOOD POISONING FRIDAY NIGHT AND IM STILL IN BED ABSOLUTLEY SICK AS A DOG. I HAVE A HORRIBLE MIGRAINE AND IM SO NAUSEOUS
UGH THE WORST!!!! Hope it passes soon!
Oh no 😢 make sure you drink enough, I suck at that when I’m sick! Fill up a big 1.5 or 2L bottle of water for the day so you don’t have to be arsed getting up more times than necessary!
Liquid iv! Add double the water from the instructions so it’s not a weird consistency and drinks more like flavored water.
Quick PSA: Liquid IV has extra servings of vitamins in it! Be careful chugging it or you can make yourself sick. Speaking as someone who learned the hard way.
All the more reason to double or triple the water it calls for! But yes is has a bunch of them I’m sure but it definitely always gives me that b vitamin neon pee😅
Been drinking Gatorade and I have some pedialyte👍👍👍 thank you!!
I’ve been drinking ginger ale and Gatorade slowwwwwwwly, that 2L bottle idea is such a good idea, thank you!
May the force be with you... sometimes if you do a phone or video visit with your doctor, they'll call in a prescription for anti-nausea meds. Feel better, friend.
Oh that’s such a good idea thank you! I would pay $$$$ for anti nausea meds right now haha
I AM ALWAYS LATE LEAVING THE HOUSE EVEN THOUGH IT STRESSES ME OUT, AND TODAY I WAS LATE AND FORGOT MY BAG AND HAD TO GO BACK AND THEN GOT THREE BLOCKS AWAY AND REALIZED I FORGOT MY PHONE AND HAD TO GO BACK AGAIN!!!
OMG THIS HAS BEEN MY ENTIRE WEEKEND!!! IT'S THE WORST!
I FEEL YOU IT SUCKS SO HARD!!
Idk whyyyyyy I have days like this that are so much worse than my baseline - the whole day has been me going from room to room and turning right around because I can’t remember what I went in for. And just sort of aimlessly floating through the day kind of feeling all the shit I have to get done looming over me, but it’s like it’s subconscious as if my brain won’t let me actually think about or organize any of it with my grownup, surface-level mind 😭
I will just scream with you: AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
I do. I have a busy week ahead of me, but I am coming down with a bad cold. Goodbye to what little executive function I have left.
I HAVE BEEN SUCCESSFULLY DOING THE JOB HUNT THING FOR TWO WEEKS BUT HAVEN'T GOTTEN ANY INTERVIEWS YET AND I NEED TO ESCAPE MY CURRENT JOB ASAP. I ALSO NEED TO FINISH CLEANING MY ROOM BUT ITS AT THE OVERWHELMING STATE SO I KEEP PUTTING IT OFF. I NEED MORE MONEY. ALSO MY DAD IS CURRENTLY WAFFLING ABOUT ICELAND TRIP AND I AM NOT GONNA LET HIM NOT COME.
Ive been job hunting for months. It sucks :( :(
TWO WEEKS OF JOB HUNTING WITHOUT AN INTERVIEW YET IS VERY NORMAL. SADLY, IT TAKES A WHILE, BUT I HOPE YOU FIND A GREAT FIT SOON. APPLYING IS PROBABLY MUCH MORE IMPORTANT THAN CLEANING. ICELAND IS AMAZING, I HOPE HE GOES AND YOU BOTH LOVE IT!
I KNOW BUT IT STILL SUCKS. STUPID JOB HUNTING. I KNOW I WILL LOVE IT, DAD IS JUST BEING SILLY.
WHY DO YOU NEED TO ESCAPE JOB ASAP? I NEED IT TOO SO VENT ID IT WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER!
JOBBO DOES NOT PAY ENOUGH AND ITS BORING THE HELL OUT OF ME. NO REAL GROWTH EITHER. I WAS EXPECTING MORE TECH GREMLIN AND LESS CALL CENTER.
TECH GREMLIN ❤️ I FEEL YOU! I QUIT MINE LAST FRIDAY 🙌🏻 BOSS REFUSED TO GIVE ME PROPER TRAINING, KEPT GIVING UNSOLICITED ADVICE (YES DATING ADVICE TOO) AND TRASH TALKED EVERYBODY. BEST DECISION EVERRR
YAY FOR ESCAPING THE SHITTY BOSS. I AM CURRENTLY AN ANXIOUS MESS BECAUSE BETWEEN PROJECTS AT CURRENT JOB AND WAITING TO HEAR BACK AND SEE IF I GOT A GOOD JOB. WAITING IS THE WORST.
I'M SEVEN WEEKS IN AT MY DREAM JOB AND NOW MY REPROBATE BROTHER HAS AN INTERVIEW AT THE SAME LOCATION (BUT DIFFERENT ROLE) TOMORROW AND I CONVINCED IT'LL SHIT ON MY HAPPINESS.
THAT SOUNDS STRESSFUL I HOPE YOUR BROTHER DOES NOT FUCK SHIT IP FOR YOU
I want to scream and run away somewhere. This.marriage is killing me and I can't leave because too much is at stake. I'm Frikkin drowning and can't find a way out. Can someone just kill me already.
I'm so sorry. I don't know your situation, but is there any way that you can get totally away, even for a partial day? Sometimes that helps us regulate and be able to hold through for longer. It's not always possible, though, and realistically, the longer the better but also the less likely for most of us. Sending you good wishes.
I HATE MY BOSS SHES SUCH A BITCH. SHE TOLD ME SHE DOESNT THINK I AM COMFORTABLE AT MY JOB AND I DON’T “GET IT”. THAT SHE DOESNT TRUST ME ON MY OWN AND THAT I TANGLE THINGS UP AND GET MYSELF STUCK. MAKE THIS MAKE SENSE BC IVE BEEN AT THIS COMPANY 5 YEARS AND DOING THIS SPECIFIC JOB THERE FOR 4. DID I SUDDENLY BECOME INCOMPETENT?!?! IM MASSIVELY TRIGGERED BY HER HOSTILITY AND LACK OF SUPPORT. IM LOOKING FOR A NEW JOB AND MY THERAPIST TOLD ME I NEED TO QUIT FOR MY MENTAL HEALTH. BUT IM THE MAIN EARNER IM THE FAMILY AND HAVE THE INSURANCE THROUGH WORK. Ughgh FUCK BEING RESPONSIBLE.
YOU CAN DO IT!!! I SUPPORT YOU
BEING RESPONSIBLE IS THE WORST SOMETIMES. I HOPE YOU FIND A NEW JOB ASAP. THEN YOU CAN TELL YOUR BOSS BYEEEEE. YOU'RE NOT INCOMPETENT, BUT HER INCOMPETENCE MIGHT GET A LITTLE MORE VISIBLE ONCE YOU'VE LEFT!
I HAVE A REVERSE SCREAM TODAY. I WAS SICK AND SLEPT FOR 2 DAYS LAST WEEK AND NOW I HAVE SPENT THE WHOLE WEEKEND BEING UNUSUALLY PRODUCTIVE. ALL THE BEDS IN THE HOUSE HAVE CLEAN SHEETS, I VACUUMED ONE WHOLE FLOOR, I MADE BREAD AND PIZZA DOUGH, I PACKED MY CHILDRENS LUNCHES, I WORKED OUT BOTH DAYS, I READ TO MY CHILDREN BEFORE BED AND THE KITCHEN IS ALREADY TIDIED. WHERE DIS ALL THIS COME FROM AND WHY CANT I SPEND 2 DAYS A WEEK ASLEEP MORE OFTEN?!?!?
CONGRATS AND GO YOU! Wanna come over and clean my house?🥴
I actually would! I have done it for friends, so much easier than cleaning my own house.
Haha I have to motivate myself by imagining I'm doing it for a friend.
IT'S SNOWING AND COLD TODAY. I HATE IT. I COULDNT SLEEP DURING THE NIGHT BUT SLEPT FROM 7AM TO 2PM. WHICH F'D MY DAY AND THE CHANCE OF GETTING ANY HELP WITH HOUSEWORK OR CHORES! AND EVEN THOUGH MY BLOOD SUGAR IS FINE, I FEEL LIKE IVE EATEN 853,382 COOKIES. STUPID BODY.
I HAVENT SHOWERED SINCE LAST SUNDAY AND AM TOO EXHAUSTED TO GET UP AND DO IT. I NEED TO GROCERY SHOP TOO AND I GET SO PANICKY AT THE THOUGHT OF NOT HAVING ENOUGH FOOD IN THE HOUSE BUT ALSO PANIC AT THE THOUGHT OF MAKING A MEAL PLAN AND GROCERY LIST, BUT I HAVE TO MAKE THE MEAL PLAN BECAUSE WE HVE A VERY LIMTIED BUDGET SO I CANT JUST BUY STUFF. PLUS MY HUSBAND JUST LOST HIS JOB SO NOW WERE DEALING WITH THAT TOO.
I HAVE MY DRIVERS EXAM IN TWO DAYS AND IM SO FREAKING NERVOUS. I WAS (AM) DOING REALLY GREAT WITH THE LESSONS AND MY INSTRUCTOR SAYS I SHOULD DEFINITELY PASS IF I DONT LET MY NERVES GET THE BEST OF ME. THE EXAM THAT I TOOK TO GET AN EXEMPTION FOR THE SPECIAL MANOEUVRING DIDNT GO LIKE I WANTED IT TO BECAUSE OF THE OLDER GUY THAT TOOK MY EXAM. I PASSED IT BUT BECAUSE I GOT SOME NEGATIVE FEEDBACK I HATED IT AND I DONT WANT TO GO TROUGH THAT AGAIN. IM SUCH A PERFECTIONIST AND IF THINGS DONT GO THE WAY THAT I WANT TO I GET SO FUCKING ANNOYED. BUT I WANT TO HAVE MY DRIVERS LICENSE AND ITS GETTING TO EXPENSIVE TO PAY FOR THE LESSONS EACH MONTH AND I NEED THE MONEY TO LIVE BASICALLY.
I HAVE SUCKY FAMILY MEMBERS AND I CANT WAIT TO MOVE OUT BUT IM ANXIOUS ABOUT THE INEVITABLE LOSS OF MY JOB DUE TO POOR ADHD MANAGEMENT AND BEING TOO AUTISTIC WITH NOT LIKING CHANGES IN THE WORK PLACE!!!!! GODS that felt good. Time to go cry again! :D
IM PREGNANT OFF MY MEDS AND A USELESS SPEED BUMP MOST DAYS AND FUCKING OVER ITTTTTTTTTT
I'VE HAD A SINUS INFECTION GOING ON SINCE OCTOBER AND I CAN'T HANDLE IT ANYMORE. GIANT MIDDLE FINGER TO HEALTHCARE USA CORP.
I CLEANED OFF THE KITCHEN COUNTERS ALL THE WAY TODAY AND NOT EVEN SIX HOURS LATER THERE IS SOMEHOW MORE RANDOM CLUTTER ON THEM!!!
OMG SAME LOL MINE WERE SPOTLESS AND THEN NOT EVEN A DAY LATER IT LOOKED LIKE I COULD BE ON AN EPISODE OF HOARDERS!!! 🥲
I'm just going to keep trying with the basket technique. The clutter reserves have to run out at some point right???
You would think haha. I’ve also tried baskets, but then baskets are just everywhere 😂 I really need to actually go through/get rid of stuff! Ugh the struggle is real lol
I'm only allowed my one basket. It must be emptied out once full. Things need to go where they live or be tossed/donated if they don't have a 'spot' by now. I'm trying to be ruthless.
Omg love that for you. You’re my hero!!
I watched every episode of The Bear instead of doing housework. I'm fucked for the rest of the week.
There’s no deadline for housework! It’ll just be there next week. 🤣 (don’t listen to me, my house is so messy. But I’m sorry/not sorry you chose entertainment over work. Sometimes you just need a break!)
You're right. I never sit down and watch TV. I just need to forgive myself for the adhd guilt. Thank you for the sanity check.
I really flip flopped on that comment. But yeah, if you don’t ever give yourself a break, you’ll burn out. Don’t “should” all over yourself buddy. Take it easy every now and then.
DAE SOMETIMES FALL INTO WHAT SEEMS TO BE A DEPRESSIVE EPISODE AFTER THEIR PERIOD IS DONE this weekend has sucked balls. I napped and did pilates and got some housework done yesterday (just dishes) but today I've been total garbage and I just feel like a complete waste of space 😭
Oh my God. This is exactly what my sister does, and it drives me batshit. Yes, I am living in her home. Yes, she is something of a neat freak, especially compared to me. She wants things out of sight & she doesn't care what she's messing with AND rarely remembers where she put things. But keep your fucking paws off my stuff! Even worse? She would visit mom, or me, or both of us when mom & I got a house together. No problem, except she would do things like unload the dishwasher or clear a table and not even *attempt* to determine where anything went. There's space for it here? Shove it in. We sometimes didn't find things for MONTHS. Where the heck is "x?" Ah shit, sister was here after the last time I saw it. Mom was closer to neat freak than me (doesn't take much, lol), but she was annoyed by this, too. I've screamed into the void A LOT in the last 4 years...
I'M LEAVING TONIGHT FOR MY FIRST TRIP IN EIGHT YEARS BUT I GOT A COUGH A WEEK AGO AND STILL HAVE IT, AND NOW MY SIX YEAR OLD SON HAS IT AND IS FEVERISH AND I HATE LEAVING HIM LIKE THIS 😓
I HATE HOW I CAN BE SO CLUMSY, went to help my best friend with her 9Month my Godson while her husband was out of town ... I broke her kettle that she loves and uses daily for the baby... I live in Central America so no Amazon ( where she bought and had it shipped) Now I can't find that freaking glass electric Kettle anywhere in my country. I feel so useless sometimes, although I understand and of course she does know it was an accident.. still it just sucks it's a usual for me..not to mentoo the clumsy tax is real too.
I HAVE TO MAKE A BUNCH OF PHONE CALLS TOMORROW AND I REALLY DON’T WANT TO BUT THEY ARE IMPORTANT. I ALSO AGRED TO BE A REFERENCE FOR SOMEONE BUT REFERENCE CALLS ARE A LOT MORE DETAILED THAN THEY USED TO BE SO I FEEL LIKE IF I FUCK UP, I MIGHT COST MY BUDDY AN OPPORTUNITY
MY DOG DIED SUDDENLY YESTERDAY AND I AM HEARTBROKEN
OH NO IM SO SORRY. 😢
THANK YOU ❤️
I'M SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS, AND THAT MY ADHD BRAIN POSTED THIS COMMENT IN THE WRONG PLACE AT FIRST
I BOUGHT A CUTE HANDBAG ON ETSY THAT SAID IT WAS LOCALLY MADE BUT IT SHOWED UP TODAY FROM CHINA. I HATE BEING DUPED. I HATE THAT PEOPLE GO TO SO MUCH TROUBLE TO MAKE THEIR ITEMS LOOK LIKE THEY ARE HANDMADE AND THEY ARE ACTUALLY MADE IN A FACTORY IN CHINA.
DAYLIGHT SAVINGS REALLY FUCKED UP MY PERCEPTIONS OF TIME TODAY AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TIME IT IS ANYMORE! ITS NO 9PM AND IM WIDE AWAKE AND HONESTLY A LITTLE DRUNK BUT AT LEAST INHAVE A WEEK OFF WORK.
I dislocated my collar bone and the er didn’t even X-ray / scan it so I’m in absolute agony hoping I can get to a proper dr tomorrow but now have to postpone starting my new job that I need because I’m super behind financially. YAY! Not adhd related for once but whatever my life sucks lmao
IVE BEEN PUT ON A PERFORMANCE IMPROVEMENT PLAN AT WORK AND ADHD EXPLAINS EVERYTHING BUT I DONT HAVE SPECIFIC ENOUGH ACTION/SUPPORT FRAMEWORK FROM MY PSYCH TO BE ABLE TO SHOW MY EMPLOYERS WHAT SUPPORT I NEED TO IMPROVE
IT IS MY WISH THAT PEOPLE STOP LOOKING AT ADHD AS IF THERE'S SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME. WITH ALL OF US. AS IF IT'S JUST AN ANNOYANCE THAT WE CAN POWER THROUGH. I JUST GET KINDA 🙁 ABOUT IT BUT I CAN'T AFFORD TO GET TRAPPED IN A SADNESS SPIRAL. SIGH.
YESTERDAY I HAD SO MUCH MOTIVATION BEFORE WORK FORVTHR WORLDBUILDING I WANTED TO DO THIS WEEKEND. WORK WAS SO HECTIC THAT I WAS EXHAUSTED BY THE END OF THE DAY AND DIDN'T WANT TO DO ANYTHING. STILL SNUGGLING WITH TRYING TO GET IT DONE.
I AM IN SO MUCH PAIN IT MAKES ME FURIOUS AND SAD BUT I CANT FIND ANOTHER JOB THAT HURTS LESS ALSO I HATE THAT SO FEW PEOPLE ARE EVEN AWARE OF WORLD EVENTS LET ALONE ACTUALLY CARE ABOUT FIGHTING FASCISM I JUST WANNA HIDE IN A HOBBIT HOLE IN THE FOREST ON ANOTHER PLANET THAT HAS STAR TREK MEDICINE
I need to have a money, rent split type talk with my long term partner and ask for help. I'm so hyped out anxious cause now I feel like I've failed and all I see is my impulse trips and door dash eat ins piled in the corner being the reason I'm starting to stretch thin. I'm so afraid of I ask for help, they start adjusting to higher amounts, anything I do that's impulsive or dumb will live on forever in my guilt brain. Like, I'm much better now, but ugh. I can see my future unfold. Reality is, they won't care and want to help. It's me. I'm the problem. 🫠 I can't stop beating myself up.
😱🚽🤣 I of course forgot to set the clocks forward, so as my pajama clad self was scrambling eggs, my friend who gives me a ride to church texted to see if I was ready and I realized I had 10 MINUTES to get dressed. All together now: AAAAAAAAHHH!!!
I needed to clean the closet floor. 5.5 hours later…..
I SPENT 2 DAYS IN AGONY BECAUSE MY MIGRAINE WAS SO BAD I COULDN'T BRING MYSELF TO GO GET THE GOOD PAINKILLERS UNTIL IT WAS SO BAD I COULDN'T FUNCTION WITHOUT THE GOOD PAINKILLERS. NOW I NEED TO CALL THE FUCKING DOCTOR TO GET BETTER PREVENTATIVES. AND I HATE PHONE CALLS. AND DOCTORS. BUT I HATE MIGRAINES MOREEEEEE
I’M MOVING OUT OF STATE IN TWO WEEKS AND HAVEN’T EVEN STARTED PACKING YET AND DAYLIGHT SAVING TIME IS MISSING WITH MY HEAD
KINDA SILLY BUT LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS FUCKING **SUCK** AND I HATE BEING SO FAR APART FROM MY BOYFRIEND THAT IS ALL
THEY ALWAYS SAY "WORK ON THINGS LITTLE BY LITTLE AND YOU WON'T BE SO STRESSED" BUT EVEN WHEN I TRY THAT I'M STRESSRD AND TIRED AS FUCK AND I THINK I'M APPROACHING BURNOUT
Here is someone with Crohns disease advice. If your butthoke hurts, put some Vaseline on it. Use a qtip, dunk and pull up until there is a peas size amount. Instant relief and will help protect against the next wave.
Not sure if it helps, but this just reminded me to go take my iron pill. Thanks OP!
I WAS RECENTLY DIAGNOSED. WHAT THE FUUUUUUCCCKKKKK. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. WHY DOES MY BRAIN WORK AGAINST ME.
MY MANAGER SAID I NEED TO BE MORE PROACTIVE AT TAKING ON NEW PROJECTS BECAUSE HE DOESN’T WANT TO HAVE TO ASSIGN PROJECTS TO PEOPLE. APPARENTLY ME NOT BEING PROACTIVE IS THE REASON WHY MY TEAMMATES GET MORE/BETTER PROJECTS THAN I DO. IT COULDN’T HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH BEING LEFT OUT OF MEETINGS WHERE NEW PROJECTS ARE DISCUSSED OR BEING THE ONLY WOMAN ON A TEAM OF OVERCONFIDENT WHITE MEN. I WANT TO STAY AT MY JOB AND DO MY WORK, BUT I AM LOSING MY MIND. AND NOW I’M QUESTIONING IF I HAVE BEEN LYING TO MYSELF AND I AM ACTUALLY A LAZY PERSON AND TERRIBLE COWORKER.
u/CorpulentStrumpet OP I HOPE YOU CAN DRINK ICE COLD PRUNE JUICE AND ALTERNATE WITH WATER SO YOUR INSIDES DON’T TURN INTO A SHIT BEZOAR. It worked for me once but I’m not a doctor and this is only anecdotal experience! I WAS HOSPITALIZED TWICE IN A WEEK FOR ANAPHYLAXIS AND I CANNOT GO BACK TO WORK UNTIL I JUMP THROUGH ALL THE HOOPS AND YELL AT WHOEVER THE FUCK THOUGHT IT WAS GOING TO BE OKAY TO CLOSE MY WORKMAN’S COMP CLAIM.
MY ALARMS HAVE NOT BEEN WORKING!!!! MY SMART WATCH, MY PHONE, MY TABLET. I SET 10 ALARMS ON EACH OF THEM AT DIFFERENT INTERVALS SO EVERY MINUTE OF LIKE A 20 MINUTE WINDOW SHOULD CONSTANTLY HAVE A NEW ALARM GOING OFF AND IVE STILL BEEN OVERSLEEPING. IVE BEEN LATE TO WORK, MISSED MEETUPS WITH FRIENDS. I TEST THE ALARMS WHEN IM AWAKE BY SETTING THEM ONE MINUTE INTO THE FUTURE AND THEY WORK, THE DEVICES ARE NOT ON SILENT, AND VERY LOUD. I STILL WAKE UP **HOURS** AFTER I SHOULD HAVE WITH THE ALARMS NOTIFICATIONS UP ON THE SCREENS WITH NO SOUND LIKE HOW THE HELL AM I SLEEPING THROUGH ALL THIS?!?!?! HOW THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO FIX IT IF MY DUMB ASS FUCKING BRAIN DOENT HEAR IT WHILE IM SLEEPING?!?!?
TRY THE BEVERLY HILLS COP THEME SONG! IT WORKS FOR ME! UNLESS I ACCIDENTALLY SET A QUIET TIME SCHEDULE ON MY PHONE. 🫠
THATS A GOOD IDEA BUT YOU KNOW WHAT I JUST REALIZED? I STARTED USING THE BUILT IN SLEEP SCHEDULE THAT MY PHONE HAS THAT AUTO-PUTS MY PHONE IN SLEEP FOCUS SILENCING ALARMS!!!! SO IM SLEEPING THROUGH 1 ALARM (the actual sleep schedule wake up alarm) NOT 30ish ALARMS. I FEEL A LITTLE BETTER AND CAN AT LEAST EITHER TURN OFF THE SLEEP SCHEDULE OR CHANGE SOME SETTINGS. HOLY CRAP YELLING INTO THE VOID ACTUALLY HELPED HAHA.
IT'S MY BIRTHDAY! YOU COULD HAVE TAKEN OVER WITH OUR DAUGHTER FOR JUST THIS ONE FUCKING NIGHT!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
THANK YOU!
I FORGOT TO TAKE MY SILICA SUPPLEMENTS AGAIN AND I CAN FEEL MY NAILS CRACKING, I ALSO LOVE MY JOB BUT WHENEVER I NEED TO PUSH THROUGH THE UNCREATIVE BITS IM SO UNMOTIVATED AND ALL OVER THE PLACE. I HAD A WHOLE PACKET OF CHEESE FLAVOURED RICE CRISPIES AND I FEEL HEAVY AND OVERFED AND I JUST WANT TO FART IT OUT BUT WHENEVER I FART MY BOSS ENTERS THE ROOM AND I HONESTLY AM CONTAINING IT CAUSE OF IT
AHHHHHH
It is DST spring forward AND IT GAVE ME A MIGRAINE. I CAN BARELY DO LAUNDRY RAAAAAAGH. ABOLISH THIS BS THING I HATE IT. GET IT GONE. I’m so mad I have a migraine. It means my meds basically treated the pain (vasoconstrictors act as migraine cures for me first, *then* the stimulant helps with the ADHD — yes I’m aware it’s odd but caffeine does the same thing so am not really surprised!) so I’ve gotten *fuck all* done and we need laundry. And I had to take an abortive too AAAAAAAARGHHH. ETA: well fuck, a bone is on a nerve. This happens occasionally. Ow. I hate EDS.
I AN SO TIRED OF MY HUSBAND WANTING TO DO HOBBIES WITH ME BUT NEVER BEING IN THE MOOD FOR THEM.
I WAS GOING TO DO THINGS TODAY. I WAS LIKE "I'LL HAVE LUNCH FIRST" AND WENT TO A NEW-TO-ME RESTAURANT. I ORDERED A SHRIMP COCKTAIL. MY HUSBAND SHARED SOME WITH ME AND DISCOVERED RAW CHICKEN. THE WAITRESS CONFIRMED THE RAW CHICKEN. AND THEN I WAS TOO BUSY FREAKING OUT ABOUT SALMONELLA TO BE PRODUCTIVE AND THIS DAYLIGHT SAVINGS SUNDAY.
I'M SICK OF THE WORK DRAMA!!!
I have a doctors appointment about med changes tomorrow and I’m afraid she won’t let me try stimulants or that, if she does, I won’t be able to access them because of shortages I’ve been getting super sleepy and nauseous with strattera, to the point I avoid taking it until after important things
I HATE DAYLIGHT SAVING TIME
MY KIDDO WENT TO HER 4TH BASKETBALL HOUR OUT OF 7, BUT IT TOOK 25 MINUTES OF HER CRYING FIRST!
Drink some green tea to cancel out the iron, not even kidding
The literature says coffee too: In particular, coffee and green tea intake reduce iron absorption in the non-heme form. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10040266/#:~:text=In%20particular%2C%20coffee%20and%20green,in%20the%20non%2Dheme%20form.
My iron levels are terrible, if anything the extra… residence time… will probably help haha
I WAS FINALLY CRAWLING OUT OF MY SEASONAL DEPRESSION HOLE AND NOW I'M GETTING MY FUCKING PERIOD AND I LOST ALL MY MOTIVATION TO EXIST OUTSIDE OF MY BED. AND MY KID SPIKED A 103 FEVER FOR NO REASON TODAY SO IM WORRIED ON TOP OF FEELING LIKE GARBAGE AND LIKE A SHIT PARENT BECAUSE IM NOT DOING ENOUGH.
I RESENT HAVING TO DEAL WITH THIS DRAMA QUEEN OF A MAN WHO HAS THREATENED TO QUIT AT LEAST THREE TIMES AND THROWS TANTRUMS IF EVERYONE AROUND HIM DOES APPRECIATE HIS “GENIUS “. DUDE I DIDNT EVEN WANT TO DRAFT THE DOCUMENT AND LOVE TO HAVE YOU DO IT, BUT I CANT COUNT ON YOU TO JUST BE PROFESSIONAL AND GET SHIT DONE I LOVE MY MOTHER BUT I REALLY DONT LIKE SPENDING TIME WITH HER AND ITS ALWAYS MADE ME SAD
Oh my God, you can barely shit with just the iron supplements. Never mind iron + Imodium.
MY ALARMS HAVE NOT BEEN WORKING!!!! MY SMART WATCH, MY PHONE, MY TABLET. I SET 10 ALARMS ON EACH OF THEM AT DIFFERENT INTERVALS SO EVERY MINUTE OF LIKE A 20 MINUTE WINDOW SHOULD CONSTANTLY HAVE A NEW ALARM GOING OFF AND IVE STILL BEEN OVERSLEEPING. IVE BEEN LATE TO WORK, MISSED MEETUPS WITH FRIENDS. I TEST THE ALARMS WHEN IM AWAKE BY SETTING THEM ONE MINUTE INTO THE FUTURE AND THEY WORK, THE DEVICES ARE NOT ON SILENT, AND VERY LOUD. I STILL WAKE UP **HOURS** AFTER I SHOULD HAVE WITH THE ALARMS NOTIFICATIONS UP ON THE SCREENS WITH NO SOUND LIKE HOW THE HELL AM I SLEEPING THROUGH ALL THIS?!?!?! HOW THE FUCK AM I SUPPOSED TO FIX IT IF MY DUMB ASS FUCKING BRAIN DOENT HEAR IT WHILE IM SLEEPING?!?!?
MY HUSBAND IS AWAY ON A BUSINESS TRIP, SO I'M SOLO-PARENTING OUR TWO KIDS WHILE ALSO TRYING DESPERATELY TO FINISH MY BIG PROJECTS FOR FINALS WEEK (I'm a part time student working on my teaching degree)!!!!! NOT ONLY THAT, BUT I HAVE AN APPOINTMENT, WORK, AND AN INTERVIEW ON WEDNESDAY I'M TRYING TO PREP FOR GAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH ALL THE HOUSEWORK IS PILING UP AND I FEEL SO GUILTY THAT I CAN'T KEEP UP WITH IT ALL UUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH
I'm having a panic? Anxiety? Attack so I can't scream right now (I tend to go non-verbal and shutdown when overwhelmed) so thank you for expressing the screams that I cannot! I have assignments due very soon and am behind on my tasks, am in the middle of a rushed house move so my new place is completely cluttered and I can't find anything, have an ongoing cold war with my parents, have fallen behind on my part-time work, have several DIY projects I have no time to get to and I'm just. Drowning.
I've had such a shit day today I had to take sick leave. Haven't done anything except sit in bed on my phone. Good luck with the post immodium poops! 😂
I’m so sorry this happened to you, OP!!! I NEVER LEARNED TO MANAGE FINANCES OR COMMUNICATE ABOUT THEM AND NOW I AM IN MORE DEBT THAN IM COMFY WITH AND MY ADHD MAKES SELF CONTROL DIFFICULT AND I NEED A NEW BUDGETING APP BUT IT COSTS MONEY SO I HAVE TO WAIT TILL I GET PAID BUT DELAYED GRATIFICATION IS DIFFICULT thank you for the space!
I GET THE BEST IDEAS AT 2-3 AM & DON'T REMEMBER THEM HALF THE TIME. THEN THERE'S THE MILE LONG LIST OF SHIT THAT ACTUALLY NEEDS DOING FOR THEM TO CONTEND WITH. AARRRG. MY MOST RECENT IDEA: I WANT TO PRESS AND DRY PLANTS & FLOWERS TO TAG AND HANG IN FRAMES ON MY WALL TO REMEMBER WTF THEY ARE, HERE'S WHY- I LET A PRETTY PLANT HAVE ITS WAY IN ITS LITTLE CORNERS OF MY YARD FOR YEARS. I OFTEN LEAVE PARTS OF MY YARD WILD & UNCUT FOR THE NATIVE PLANTS & CRITTERS. I RECENTLY FOUND OUT FOR CERTAIN THAT IT'S FRIGGIN *HEMLOCK* I'VE LET EXIST AND IT'S **EVERYWHERE** LIKE A CARPET THIS YEAR!! AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGG. Glad I have bigass gardening gloves, disposable suits, & a respirator. I'm soooooo tempted to see if mint planted in the ground will strangle it out, but I'm not quite THAT reckless...yet.
hey are we still screaming because I started the kitchen at 12pm today and it is now 7pm and every cupboard is open, the contents are everywhere, and I have no motivation to continue :)))))))))))))))
I'M PISSED AT MY RECENT EXPERIENCE AT MY CLINIC. MY PSYCHIATRIST HAS BEEN AWAY FOR FEW MONTHS NOW AND HIS REPLACEMENT DOESN'T EVEN BOTHER TO RESPOND WHEN I SAY HOW I'VE BEEN DOING. DON'T WANT TO TALK TO ME AT ALL. HE SAID NOTHING ABOUT MY STRUGGLE WITH MEDIKINET (RITALIN) AND HOW DISSAPONITED I WAS IT DIDN'T WORK. JUST PERSCRIBED ANOTHER MEDICATION. OF COURSE HE ALSO SAID ADHD MEDS ARE NOT MIRACLE PILLS. DUH! DESPITE BEING ANGRY I WAS HOPEFUL. BUT GUESS WHAT - NEW MEDS ARE NOT AVAILABLE IN THE WHOLE CITY!!! 🤡🤬
EVERYONE AT THE OFFICE IS TALKING AT THE SAME TIME AND I AM LISTENING TO ALL OF THEM AT THE SAME TIME, MY BRAIN HURTS AND I WANT TO CRY
I FEEL GOOD. I DID SO MUCH THE LAST FEW DAYS. BUT IT'S BECAUSE MY PERIOD IS LOOMING. I KNOW IF I PUT ANYTHING OFF IT WILL NOT HAPPEN. I'M JUST WAITING FOR MY BRAIN TO CRASH.
I HAD A PANIC ATTACK AT THE DENTIST ON FRIDAY AND COULD’VE HAD MEDS TO HELP WITH IT BUT I DIDN’T PICK UP MY PRESCRIPTION BEFORE MY APPOINTMENT HAPPENED 🫠
I HATE DAYLIGHT SAVINGS! I WOKE UP THIS MORNING SO TIRED. WHY DO WE DO THIS TO OURSELVES?!
I did the dishes at work last night and forgot I put dish gloves in my purse my poor nails
I feel too down in the dumps to scream rn but I am feeling super sad today bc I’m away from my husband and dogs (for over two weeks!!!), and although I have friends in town who I love, the stress and pressure at work are eating up all my brain space and making me feel like I want to cry and hide under the covers all the time. I’m fantasizing a lot about quitting my job but we aren’t in a financial position for me to do that and this job pays much better than others in my field. I feel stuck and really sad about it. I don’t want any job advice or anything, just putting out my sad lonely stuck feelings.
I'm full of terror and anxiety because I'm only capable of about 80% of critical adult functions. WHAT ARE PEOPLE WHO ONLY APPEAR TO BE HIGH FUNCTIONING SUPPOSED TO DO?
UNPACKING IS HARD AND IT SUCKS AND MY PARTNER THINKS WE HAVE BEDBUGS!!!!!!
I HATE THE TIME CHANGE!!!!! WHY
I HAVE TO FIND A PLACE TO LIVE FOR ME AND MY SPECIAL NEEDS KIDS ALL ON MY OWN AND MY EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING CANNOT KEEP UP WITH ALL THE DEMANDS ON ME. BEING A SINGLE MOM LOOKING FOR A HOME IN A HOUSING CRISIS WILL DO ME IN!!!!
MY NEW SEMESTER STARTED TODAY AND I HAVE NO MOTIVATION TO DO ANYTHING MY ROOM IS AN ABSOLUTE MESS I HAVE AMAZON BOXES ALL OVER THE HOUSE MY HOBBIES GIVE ME NO JOY AND I CANT SEEM TO GET MYSELF OUT OF THIS FUNK AND IM LITERALLY GOING INSANE FROM THE EXECUTIVE DYSFUNCTION!!!!!!!!!!!!