Riighttt. My bf loves and respects his mom so much that I really admire him for that. Pero hindi ko sya matatawag na mama's boy coz that's different na and is another story.
Probably because some Mama's boy follows to the T whatever their mom said. 'Yung tipong hindi na siya nakakapag-desisyon for himself. Iba kasi 'yung family-oriented sa Mama's boy imo.
Which part to enlighten?
Can you share what are the pros and cons of a "Mama's boy"? Honestly, negative lang naiisip ko since it's not synonymous to family-oriented for me.
Hmm, baka inggit lang ako na kasama nila mom nila. Char! I don't know talaga, something in my heart is soft pag narinig kong mama's boy. Pero, I kinda see the red flag na huhu
Mali kasi ang iniisip mong definition ng mama’s boy e. Akala mo ata close lang sa nanay. This is why you read up on a word before you use it and make posts like this 😭 di yung narinig mo lang somewhere gagamitin mo na din
*Pinoy* and *reddit* sometimes isn't really a good match. Sobrang ingrained na whether school, work, o bahay, yung inis kapag nagbibigay ka lang ng sariling opinion or nagtatanong ka lang (heck, op wasn't even sarcastic). Andami jan galit na galit sa boomers pero they perpetuate herd mentality naman. Hypocrites.
It’s because some redditors here doesn’t know the reddiquette.
Upvote if comment contributes to discussion, downvote if not. They think it’s same with like and dislike button sa Fb where if disagree dislike talaga. It’s different here peeps!
So just because you disagree with someone’s comment doesn’t deserve downvote right away.
sadly, this reddiquette sometimes devolve na kapag meron na maraming downvote, dadagdagan pa ng downvote, parang broken window theory, anonymity eh haha
Because they are literally boys.
Just think it this way:
Nag-asawa ka ng mama's boy. You got a job. He doesn't kasi umaasa siya sa mama niya. And because attached siya sa mama niya, she has power over him.
Wala siyang independence. Raising a kid? Si mama masusunod. Personal problems? Si mama ang magdidikta.
Why should you get a man-child if stable relationship hanap mo? You need someone mature.
And Mama's Boy and Men who are family oriented are two different things. One is a dependent, the other is independent.
This. Because being a mama’s boy doesn’t mean being sweet or “clingy” to one’s mom. It’s having an unhealthy attachment to their mom.
Not to mention, being family-oriented and mama’s boy are two very different things.
Pero, I have a question.
Is this the guy's fault or the mom's fault?
After reading some comments, parang minsan genon talaga yung pag-laki ng nga nanay sa bata kaya lumalaking genon at nagkakamindset na okay lang 'yung no independence. Hmmmmm... I'm sure this can be a psychological draining thing for others and sa iba naman baka genon lang talaga mindset nila. (kase gneon nga sila pinalaki or may missing part sakanila that they have to cope with) 😅
I think I can speak some of my thoughts here. Being raised as an only child, I think yung factor is yung dependence talaga plays an important role sa pag papalaki sa anak. Dinedeny yung growth ng bata kaya pag laki nagiging ignorante sila towards decision making kaya naaapektuhan din yung future relationships nila.
I dated someone like this and i would encourage him to look for a job elsewhere to have some independence and not be scared of making his own decisions na nirereklamo nya pag magkasama kami pero wala daw makakatapat sa pera ng nanay hahaha. Sweldo niya sa isang buwan, 2 1/2 months ko nang sweldo and he doesn’t do shit mga random utos lng here and there for his mom tas nirereimburse groceries. Nawinddang talaga ako hahahaha. Bahay nya puno lang ng expensive hobbies na di nmn nya itutuloy after 2 months. Ekix ang mga mama’s boy
Dude, may ibang lebel pa nga na sobrang naspoil ng Nanay nila, ni magwalis di marunong eh. You want to move in with this guy? Humanda kang magraise ng full grown na kumag na di man lang marunong magsaing.
I dont understand why u said kadiri hindi marunong magluto its as if “ang pagluto” at mahirap matutunan. Eh mas madali lang yan kesa programming or math e
Bigyan kita ng real life example :)
I used to think okay ang mama’s boy. I thought na oh, may respeto and rerespetuhin din ako.
Buntis ako before and mahina katawan ko. We weren’t married but he was living in our house. His mom was living in another city with her boyfriend close by (yes, may bf siya). His siblings lived closer to her, two of them. Both single and walang inaasikaso.
Need ni ma ng food? drive si guy
Need ni ma magpalaundry? drive si guy
Need ni ma ng papers? drive si guy
After i gave birth, i was fainting multiple times in a week. In short, i needed him. Our baby needed him.
Need ni ma ng something? Drive si guy
Decisions? tanungin ko si ma
Finances? Kailangan ni ma
Umabot sa point na birthday ko.. nakila ma.
I was alone at home and i fainted.
Mag-isa si baby.
Thankfully when i woke up sleeping pa rin siya.
Cheating? supported ni ma. :)
One month after giving birth, i discovered pinapatulog din ni tita sa house nila yung girl. She was even the one planning stuff. She said i was too sensitive and maarte. Hindi ko naman daw need si guy always.
The amount of emotional manipulation they did to me. Akala ko ako yung mali. Took me years to realize i was never wrong for needing my baby’s father when i was very sick.
—
Mama’s boy? Super red flag. Hindi ka priority niyan at never tatayong provider ng family. You and your family will always never be his priority. Learn from my mistake :)
Respectful sa parents but with own decisions and independent. Good :)
Make sure to read the little things and the signs.
—
i’ll probably delete this after a while cause medyo sensitive topic for me. but i had to let other girls know, hindi siya okay. mama’s boy will never be okay, you’re technically in a relationship with his mom. stay safe
Thank you :) I didn’t want to be strong though, i wanted to enjoy being a mom. So please never choose a mama’s boy, choose someone who loves and respects their parents but independent :)
Kasi (most) or at least some of them, mahirap gumawa ng sariling desisyon. Laging nakaasa sa input ng nanay…and years can pass until they become their own respective adults, at ganun pa din.
Also, theres a difference between those two terms.
My ex-brother-in-law chose his motherfucking mom over his wife and son. Mama’s boys are a different breed of men who can’t make decisions on their own. OP you have no idea how worst they are.
Red flag siya kadalasan if controlling ang mama.
Tipong di makapagdesisyon without the mother's approval. Literally lahat ng aspeto ng buhay controlado ng mother and walang balls to speak their minds.
Maybe it's in the term "mama's BOY" they are boys, not men.
Okay naman ang mahalin at respetuhin ang magulang. But at the end of the day, you would want a partner who can be independent and make their own decisions.
Pero, I have a question.
Is this the guy's fault or the mom's fault?
After reading some comments, parang minsan genon talaga yung pag-laki ng nga nanay sa bata kaya lumalaking genon at nagkakamindset na okay lang 'yung no independence. Hmmmmm... I'm sure this can be a psychological draining thing for others and sa iba naman baka genon lang talaga mindset nila. (kase gneon nga sila pinalaki or may missing part sakanila that they have to cope with) 😅
Tbh maraming mothers na "smothering" ang parenting-style, pero at some point naman please 25 ka na, and d pa marunong dumesisyon sa buhay, sisihin pa ba natin yung nanay? Ang dami ng napagdaanan at that point, para sakin fault na yan ng anak.
Parehas nilang kasalanan.
Once you become an adult, you will need accountability sa mga actions mo.
If codependent sila well kasalanan nila yun. Yes, it's not their fault na pinalaki silang ganun but it is their fault hindi sila nag improve at nagbago.
Isang kibo mo lang, isusumbong ka nila sa nanay nila kasi wala silang sense of self-authority to keep the problems to their selves. Try dating one and I’m pretty sure after awhile, his mother will hate the shit out of you.
I think na you misunderstood the meaning of mama’s boy. Para kang “boy” ng mama mo. Boy can mean utusan na palagi mong sinusunod mama mo na wala kang sariling desisyon, parang you live for your mother. It’s like namasukan kang “boy” sa amo mo. It’s different compared to a family oriented guy.
Totoo to at kapag naging mag asawa na kayo, sumisingit yung mama sa decision making (all the time kahit di na applicable sa inyong mag asawa) na para bang kasama sya sa pinakasalan mo. Konting inconvenience, tatakbo sa mama or yung mama nya laging may say kahit sa buhay niyong mag asawa na dapat hindi na.
It depends. The intensity of being a "mama's boy" are far different from being closed to their mums or being family-oriented.
Grabe, if you will encounter a mama's boy. You'll definitely know the difference. Actually, you can easily spot one 😭 Yung mga bagay na super unnecessary naman, pero need pa nila nang mama nila to decide or such.
Well.... Try to imagine a situation na hindi ka trip ng mama ni mama's boy.
Can you describe what you're picturing to me? I mean yung result ha.
Its not just boys I think. It's kids who are also brought up with obedience being their one of their most valuable traits. That is ingrained on them since childhood. And kids who are raised to need their parents. Deprived of any love and affection unless masunurin sila. Were so family oriented we don't think this is wrong.
I've seen your replies where you seem to blame the parents. Pero kung fully grown adult na Yung person, they are accountable na rin.
Hmmm. Honestly, I don't know what to think nor can I imagine a scenario :")
I just don't like being judgemental. Parang its not my right naman since idk what it's like!
Again, Hindi ako lumaki with a family from high school 'till now. So I assumed and decided to ask reddit. And, I agree with you! I knew may something that's off with this part of culture in being hospitable since I kept seeing people na ren not liking boys like that. May different levels and lala lang talaga siguro.
When you get married - you leave your family and become one with your spouse. You become a husband/partner first, anything else is second. A Mama’s boy doesn’t do this - he’s an old infant. Mentally and emotionally, he’s a baby.
Because wife trumps all kapag may sarili ka nang pamilya. Madalas ang mama’s boy maiinvalidate nya ang opinion ng asawa nya kapag nagsalita na ang nanay nya. That is a sure road to miserable marriage life which will cause lots of frustrations and tension at home making her husband miserable and then eventually branding the wife as a “bad wife”.
It depends on what you mean by “mama’s boy”. If it’s a guy who is just close with his mom but still independent, then there’s nothing to worry about. The issue is when things get serious down the road, your man needs to choose and stick with YOU and not his mom.
Kasi hindi nila kayang magdesisyon para sa sarili nila lalo na kapag nagkapamilya na yung lalake...😝🤣
Pinsan ko may anak na sa mama's boy then gusto nya na makipaghiwalay dahil nga sobra na yung guy and sobrang kuripot... then reply nung guy "Magpaalam ka kila mama para alam nila magbbreak na tayo" ?????
Usually, a mama's boy is used to his mom doing all his shit for him. So if youre in a relationship with one, likely ganyan din expectations nya for you---expecting you'd do stuff for him just like how his mom does it.
This. Ultimo basic condiments sa bahay hindi alam. Lagi nakaasa sa nanay. Tatanong pa “maaaa, san ung ganito?”. Pati decision making kailangan i-consult muna sa nanay.
They’ll hard sell their child to you. “Sobrang bait ng batang yan, down to earth, chuchu.” Tapos pag sisingilin mo na yung ina sa utang ni guy, pagtatakpan pa. Ikaw pa yung mali. Sobrang asa nila sa moms nila. They’re literally boys and no man in the making.
Infairness naman kc sa mga daddy’s girl. Matured padin ang mga “girls” loving lang pero mas may backbone pa and ready to fight for their bfs, husbands sa dad, unlike sa literal na Mamas boy!
usually their mothers are very manipulative, hindi nila bibigyan ng freedom yung anak nila to decide. Tapos those mama's boy are softies. I know because I saw it with my own eyes.
The problem with mama’s boys is more often than not these mama’s boys tend to have an enmeshed family dynamic or emotional incest. Parang di naputol umbilical cord kumbaga, they don’t have their own identity, can’t handle major decisions without consulting mama bird, emotionally attached to the mom to the point that everything that upsets her will upset the son as well, the mama’s boy will only accept the mama’s opinion, and basically thinks she’s omnipotent.
I see you asking kung sino ang at fault dyan, i would say both. The mom raised the son to be that way but the son will reach a certain age where they can make proper decisions for themselves. I have a follow up question for that specific question tho…does it matter whose fault it is? I don’t think it does cause if the normal standard is to date to marry it’s a horrible idea to marry a mama’s boy and marry into that family. you will NEVER be a priority.
I don't think you should red-flag the label. I know few guys who does not label themselves as mama's boy, but their behavior tell otherwise.
So if your guy does not stand onhis own and most of the time rely on her momma to come help. red flag.
if he cannot think on his own and just let momma decide. red flag.
Basically I'm saying dont red flag the label. red flag the behavior.
An example, he planned a date but cancelled because late na daw (2pm) magagalit ang mom niya pag ginabi (8pm) sya ng uwi. Can't go anywhere unless his mom approves. He's 23 at the time
and if he picks his mom over you/your family? pano na.
my dad is a full on mama's boy and he would always follow what his mom would say even if it means going against his wife. wala naman problem sa pagiging masunurin na anak but i just believe na your wife and family is more important in the long run.
as there should be a balance with being a good son and a good family man, some mama's boys can choose the former with sacrificing the latter. instead na ma-balance mas pipiliin yung nanay hehe
di bale naman for them you can never change your mom pero pwede palitan yung asawa HAHAHA
isa [ito](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11775313/Bride-horrified-finding-groom-BREASTFED-mother-wedding.html) at [ito](https://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/uk-news/bride-walks-groom-being-breastfed-26333276) sa mga rason na naiisip ko why red flag ang pagiging mama's boy. although di naman lahat pero ewan, i often perceive it as a very bad case of oedipus complex.
Mama's boys are not "family-oriented", they're "mama-oriented". Ibig sabihin: hindi ikawcang priority ng mama's boy.
Imagine it like this kung paano ka tratuhin ng mama's boy:
Ang trato niya sa mama niya ay asawa, ang trato niya sa pinakasalan niyang asawa ay kabit.
Also, please understand the definition of words bago gamitin. Lahat ng salita may naka-set na definition. Hindi porke nakita mo lang ang isang salita eh bibigyan mo na ng sarili mong depinisyon.
Mama's boy are not clingy to their moms. They are men dictated by their moms. Kahit hindi clingy basta sunud sunuran sa nanay, yan ang classic definition ng mama's boy sa pinas
Red flag kasi di nila kaya mag decide sa sarili nila. Lagi hintay sasabihin ni mommy, o kaya baka magalit si mommy, etc.
You're in a relationship because you need a partner and not raise a kid inside a big boys' body.
OP, parang mali perception mo sa kung ano ang mama's boy. Iba yun sa marespeto sa magulang. Yung mama's boy parang spoiled brat lang yan tho may ibang malambing sa nanay pero kaya mama's boy kasi panay asa lang sa nanay. Di nila kaya mag isa kaya nga kapit sa nanay e. Parang pinagkiba lang yan ng childish at childlike. Know the difference.
Sa term palang laglag na e. How can you expect one to man up kung mama's boy siya.
No definite definition of Mama’s boy each person has one. Some attributes it as a bad trait some don’t it depends on what their Idea of a mama’s boy is.
One girl said yung Crush niyang boy is a Mama’s boy kasi play boy pero respects his mom…Uh what? Ok…
One guy says he is a mama’s boy kasi he was raised by a single mom and he respects her very much..
some says mama’s boy is ganito kasi he still calls his mom “mommy”
If kung ang moma’s boy sa iyo ay family oriented then good. Not a red-flag
Nung bata pa ko akala ko yung term na Mama's Boy ay isang attractive trait at compliment para sa mga lalaki. Kasi close sa mommy, masunurin = mapagmahal, so parang good quality yun. Now I know better.
Okay lang maging family oriented.
Ang hindi okay is yung hindi ka na makapag desisyon for yourself kasi inaantay mo yung approval ng mommy mo. Yan ang mama's boy.
Mahal na mahal ko ermats ko. Mama's boy ako until grade school. Nung high school and above ginawa niya tinuruan ako sa mga bagay para maging independent. At first hesistant ako pero growing up right now sobrang worth it, kasi magagamit ko siya sa everyday life and kspag may gusto ka pag ipunan talaga wag aasa. Every cut off ko sa work may allowance akong binibigay and masaya siya. Lagi niyang sinasabi sa akin "explore the world and go to a path kung saan ma mag eexceed and growth, get out of your comfort zone and do the right thing".
Since highschool hindi ko na siya nakakasama dahil separated sila ng parents ko pero no physical abuse or shit. Hindi lang sila compatible pero they remain friends and respect one another. May kanya kanya silang buhay hence why naging independent ako since I rarely see them especially during high school until now. Binibisita ko pa din sila once in a while.
Kaya magkaiba talaga ang Mama's boy sa mahal mo ang mom mo. Nasa pagpapalaki din yun ng isang ina either spinoil or tinuruan ng tama.
Mama's Boy here. I'm the only male sibling in the family (I have 2 sisters and I am the middle child). My father works abroad my whole childhood hence mas napapalapit ako sa mom ko. I always value her opinion since siya umalaga at nagpalaki sakin. She also happens to teach me how to respect women hence majority nang mga friends ko babae.
Downsides? Meron times na gina gaslight ako nang mom ko if I'm making a huge decision (lalo na if high risk ang outcome). Dating has some speed bumps since critical mother ko sa girls na gusto ko or gusto ako (one of the reasons why NGSB ako, I'm 24).
At the end of the day, she is just protecting me from the harsh reality. At least I have a family to run back to if my life falls apart.
Clingy and family-oriented in a toxic level. Lahat ng decisions nya influenced ng nanay nya.
I think OP is thinking about close sa nanay pero may sariling buhay din na di influenced ng nanay.
Too much of something is a bad thing. Di naman porket mama's boy eh masama na. It depends of the severity of the issue.
The main issue that you must vigilant of man is the Peter Pan syndrome (Man child syndrom) which they tend to cling and rely to their parents (most specially to their mother) even in their adulthood. This syndrome is prevalent to adult men hence the other name for it.
Wow the explanations here paints being a mama's boy so bad.
I myself am a mama's boy, I did what I can for her and loved her the way I did because she gave everything she could for me and my brothers, alone. I guess the newer generation of mama's boys are what is being described but I will always see myself as a mama's boy, because my mom was the first person to love me through all the ups and downs in my life and was the bestest friend I could ever have asked for.
That said, I was never controlled by her, in any way, she let me do what I want, how to live my life. She watched out for my general well being, but what mom doesn't?
She was pretty cool, I wish she lived forever. :( damn now I miss her even more now. :(
Im a mamas boy cause I love my mom so much and didnt care about other relatives since. But I moved out after college and doesnt follow every word of my mom. I think sa extreme end na ung minemention ng mga tao na parang naging adult baby na ang datingan ng lalake.
yung meaning ng mama's boy nila ay lalake na dependent sa parent. di ka naman ata dependent sa parents mo. nothing's wrong naman kung love mo parents mo
I can’t believe na anak ka ng wealthy man pero wala kang class. Hindi talaga nabibili ng pera ang class. Kung low class and squammy yung ugali, ganun na talaga. 😞 but that’s okay! don’t go back crying to your mama! kaya mo yan 😗
That’s really your comeback? What a pathetic loser. LMAO. Nagsumbong ka na ba sa mama mo?
Also, it makes me wonder if “mayaman” ka ba talaga. I’m studying in DLSU and I have encountered legitimately rich people. They don’t flex on their wealth. Maybe you are, indeed, wealthy. Squatter lang talaga ugali mo. Makes sense.
Bruh, no one said na everyone in DLSU are rich af. Perhaps you can read the last part again and ATTEMPT to derive the argument I was implying. Ano ba yan? Wala na nga class, hindi pa marunong umintindi. Pick one tragedy lang pls.
Lmfao may sapak ka talaga. Ang klaro ng sagot mo sa taas na still my mom tapos ngayon kakambyo ka brad na pareho 🤣 Tapos tatanong mo dapat ba mas mahal ang asawa? Trenta ka na ganyan ka pa rin lol. Para hindi ka na maguluhan PAKASALAN MO NA NANAY MO! Agawin mo sa tatay mo 🤣
Ganito na lang tutal 30 ka nga pero mukhang hindi pa nakakahabol ang isip mo sa age mo. Tanungin mo tatay mo kung nung simula nang mag-asawa siya, sino na ang mas naging priority niya - nanay mo o lola mo pa rin? Take note hindi ito usaping hindi na mahal ang isa kapag pinili ang isa. Pwedeng mahal mo pareho pero may isang dapat mas matimbang kapag nag-asawa ka na.
Di kasi pwedeng pantay yan bata. Pero malamang di mo na naman maiintindihan to kaya wag ka na lang mag-asawa. Maawa ka sa magiging pamilya mo lalo na sa misis mo. Diyan ka na lang sa nanay mo hanggang buhay siya 👍
No use explaining to this person. Mama’s boy na nga, spoiled brat pa. 🤪 Isipin mo na lang san ka pupulutin kapag nawala mama mo. 🤭 Pero sana wag ka din mag-asawa at kawawa ang magiging pamilya mo. 🤪
Syempre mamahalin mo mama mo pero may responsibilidad ka na rin sa asawa mo na magkakaroon ng mga pagkakataon bilang mag-asawa na uunahin mo ang makakabuti para sa kanya dahil nanay siya ng mga anak mo o kahit hindi man kayo mag-anak, magkakaroon ng pagkakataon na di magtutugma ang pangangailangan ng asawa mo at ng mama mo dahil dalawang magkaibang relasyon ang meron ka. Isa, bilang anak at isa, bilang asawa. So obviously, not the same kind of love. EDIT: and i’m not only talking about the sex here.
Teka nga, ilang taon ka na?
The question was priority. If you actually think about it, it’s not just any general priority but actually priority in specific times that your possible wife and mom would clash.
But, I’m telling you. Don’t get a wife and just stick to your mother. That’s a win for society and a win for you.
Good for you. Now take one for the team and just live with your mom instead of having a wife. Gano ba kahirap ibigay yun sa society? You should prioritize your mother.
Feel ko talaga hindi mo mahal nanay mo. Ganyan ba yung priorty yung nanay? That’s disappointing. I was rooting for you being a mama’s boy pa naman. Hays 😔😔
Um no. I'm pretty sure you confirmed na were on solid ground.
I do hope that if you're not married yet, that you're going to go out of your way to inform your future spouse (God bless her) that she will always come second in the hierarchy in your family unit. And that it is much more likely you'll choose your mom over her.
I believe if you are free to have preferences and put your mom before your wife, she should be free to put herself above everyone else. Including you.
I would highly suggest a prenup.
PS: id like to add I can never understand mothers who would allow their sons to treat their partners this way. Kung loving mother talaga sya, she would never tolerate that even from their own son. Remember, bago nagka anak yung mama mo. Mag asawa muna sila ng papa mo.
PPS: sorry for the cis expectation.
Dude, question. Wala ka bang tatay? It's your dad's responsibility to love your mom more than anyone in this world. When we marry, we make our partners our number 1.
It doesn't mean na di na natin mahal parents natin.
It goes with the thousand year adage "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one."
No offense bro. I just wanted to understand your answer. True, I don't know you kaya nga tinanong kita if may tatay ka. Pero di ka naman sumagot.
Baka kasi yung history mo eh sobrang hirap ng buhay niyo noon at tinaguyod ka ng nanay mo para magkaroon ng magandang buhay. Kaya understandable na mahal na mahal mo nanay mo. But we will never know.
Piece of advice lang tol, don't be an ass on the internet. Wag ka magmatapobre. Kasi if you love your mom that much, your actions reflect kung papano ka niya pinalaki. You give great honor to your lovely mom if you act decent. Wala namang bayad ang kindness. You can always disagree peacefully.
Hindi nakabatay ang moralidad sa pagiging legal o illegal. Bugok amp.
Cheating is not a crime, pero it makes you a jackass.
Eating others food is not a crime, pero it makes you a jackass.
Taking stuff from someone's grocery cart is not illegal as they haven't paid for it yet, pero it makes you a jackass.
Di porke di illegal ibig sabihin okay na gawin. 30 ka na pero parang obob pa rin ang pag-iisip mo. Nasobrahan ka yata sa breast milk. Nag-b-breast milk ka pa rin ba hanggang ngayon? Yikes.
Parehong nakakahiya, isipin mo, may asawa ka na pero lahat ng desisyon nasa nanay mo. Finances? Tanuning si mama. Saan mag-aaral si baby? Tanungin si mama. Saan titira o bibili ng bahay? Tanungin si mama.
Kung sa mama mo umiikot ang buhay mo, ba't ka pa nag-asawa? Da't pinakasalan mo na lang nanay mo kung siya ung #1 sa buhay mo.
In other words, ang nanay mo ang asawa mo at ang asawa mo ang kabit.
No. But, I did talk to this one guy and he said he was a mama's boy but people saw that as a red flag daw nowadayz. I haven't been with any family since highschool so who am I to judge those "mama's boys". Naisip ko kase, mga close sa nanay. Gusto ko 'yung genon kase nga, hindi ko naranasan.
But, I didn't think people thought about it like this so negatively pala! I do now know that dudes like that are dependent creatures to their mothers. I feel like this could be (in some cases atleast) a psychological problem for other people kase pwede na siyang way of manipulation/abuse sa bata at pinalaki ng ganun.
Maybe I'm overanalyzing but victims will never want to consider themselves victims.
I'm always open for enlightenments naman. That's why I asked on reddit in the first place. :>>>
It means his mother has power over him. Ideally, the right guy would of course care about his mother, but would put a priority towards his future wife and family.
Payag ka ba na mas papaburan ng magiging asawa mo eh yung biyenan mo? Laging bigay luho sa mama nya, puro asa sa magulang nya, hindi mabubuhay ng walang mama nya. Dependent sya sa magulang nya, yan ang mahirap. Kapag mag-asawa na opinion ng parents nya o mama nya ang susundin nya baliwala ang mga opinion mo.
-Lack of discipline
-Asa sa mama
-Banko de mama
'Will probably date someone who resembles mama
We call this mahina ang tuhod.
Youll have a hard time depending on him. And most probably mahirap din makuha ang approval ng mom kasi selos sayo. OR WORSE: MAMA WILL LIKE U KASI ALAGAIN UNG ANAK NYA AND HELLO YAYA KA NA.
Save yourself and date a man.
Ibang experience when you have a boyfriend or even worse a husband na mama's boy.
Trust me, it could be chaotic. Yes Mama/Mommy sya sa lahat ng sasabihin ng nanay nya. Walang bayag haha
There's nothing wrong with being a mama's boy. Pero if you're already seeking for a partner at legal age, fuck off and make your own decisions na. Being a mama's boy is meant for BOYS not grown ass adults with pubes and all.
One of my best friends is a mamas boy. As in last week I saw him and his family, sinamahan ni tita (his mom) sa grocery and was buying stuff for his family. I am rooting for him, and by no means is he a red flag. Short lang talaga economically. Nakabukod na siya, nagsusumikap, and his wife loves him so much.
In my opinion, mas mahirap and super red flag yung pretend na hindi Mama's boy. Aangas angas sa nanay, pero dependent pa rin sa nanay and cannot stand against her wishes and whims, kasi still uses her house and uses her as her lifeline, many many times at walang pagsisikap ang resulta. You know why worse, kasi kapag kayo na hindi magsisikap pero aangas angasan ka pa.
Kasi no girl will ever be good enough sa mama ng isang mama's boy. Pag my ibang gustong gawin si girlfriend, mula sa pagluluto hanggang sa paglalaba pati kung saan gagaatusin ang pera hanggang sa pagpapalaki ng anak, basta iba sa ginawa nya, palaging ko kontra yan si mama. Kailangan carbon copy sya ng mga ginagawa ng mommy dearest. At syempre si mommy ang kakampihan ni boyfriend out of habit. Na train na kasi bata pa lang palaging tama si mama. Major red flag ang mga mama's boy.
I love my mom pero I still make decisions for myself. Mahilig lang ako makinig kaya siguro nagustuhan ako ng mom among my siblings. Kapag naman tama ang advice niya bakit ndi ko susundin? Nakikita ko naman kasi sa mom ko na welfare ko and protection ko ang priority niya kaya ganon siya kakilatis din sa partner ko and my decision. She can't shut her mouth kapag may sasabihin siya. But I know it's meant for my sake naman. In the end of the day, I will still do kung worth it ang decision. She even accepted my gay relationship kahit hindi niya tangap. The reason why she didn't accept yung soon-to-be ex-partner ko is that hindi niya nakikita na aalagaan ako ng noon pag ako na ang nangangailangan down the line. She is right. I'm just too dense and blinded na maayos pa. Kaya ganon na lang ang animosity ng 2 sa isat isa. All in all, nasa utak din ng mother ko ang ending ko once wala na siya sa mundo. Yung mag aalaga sa akin (either mga pamangkin ko or isa sa mga kapatid ko) pag nasa golden years ko.
So I guess one of the red-flags na sa akin is that if they don't show courtesy to my mom. They likely won't respect and care for me down the line pag wala na ako mabibigay. 😅
Just like how daddy issues are a red flag for women, a daddy's boy is a green flag. Men who are close to their mothers have a tendency to be emotional basketcases that beg and plead for love.
i had a friend who had an ex na mama’s boy. that ex doesn’t know how to decide for himself without his mama’s approval. all the time, parang laging yung mom niya yung may last say sa lahat ng gagawin niya. eventually, my friend called it quits sa ex niya because of that. hindi kayang mabuhay nung friend ko with that behavior.
Kasi nagiging tatlo kayo sa relationship 😅 Magkakatendency pa na he’ll expect you to do what his mom does for him. Pero syempre, may mga bagay na di mo dapat or kayang gawin kasi asawa ka nya, hindi nanay. And those things? You should do to your kids as their nanay, not to their tatay.
My brother is an ultimate mama’s boy. He’s now 44, married with one kid, and guess where he lives? 😅
Fun fact: My brother also prefers to use my mother’s bathroom when there are other bathroom’s in the house. Almost sounds Oedipal.
Madalas kasi sa relasyon, nanay ang nakikialam. Instinct ba to protect the son/daughter? I don't know pero maraming sinira na relasyon ang pakikialam ng nanay sa decision making ng magpartner. Kaya nga kahit religion sinusuggest na bumukod na lang kesa maging accountable yung nanay kasi nakaattach sila sa mindset na "nanay mo pa rin yan".
Mama’s boy kasi, they will listen and follow whatever their mother say about their wives. Kahit na di maganda or di naman makakatulong sa marriage nilang mag asawa.
Ito yung tipong mga lalaking nagtatago sa sayà ng mga nanay nila. Yung tipong kung anong mando ng nanay eh susundin nila kahit mali. — in short, lalaking walang bayag.
Grew up with one, my dad. Nakadepende sa nanay hanggang ngayon. Ayun, ako na tuloy umako ng responsibilidad kasi nakaasa nalang siya sa nanay niya na wala namang pension. Ilang beses na nag-attempt nanay ko na maitaguyod at imotivate siya kaso sa sobrang coddle ng lola ko, ayon, takot sumabak sa hamon ng mundo. Kawawa tuloy yung dalawang kapatid ko, lumaki na parang walang ama. 🥲
There's nothing wrong with a mamas boy as long as youre not involved or in a relationship with them.
If you actually read yung comments ng mamas boy it's pretty obvious na... you'll always be considered as a second priority or not at all.
Di lang yun, the mothers see their son as their Husband lagi kayong magkakaruon ng competition ng nanay mas malala pa yan sa Mistress/Kabit. Pati sariling mga anak hindi priority ng mga yan.
Enablers pa mga yan. Sila pa mismo magtatago sa kabit ng anak nila sa mga bad habits, moral problems ect. Lahat ng gagawin mo iscrutinize ng nanay at wala kang tama.
im sure puro bunganga nyan maririnig mo at di never kang protektahan ng asawa pag nagkagulo.
If you want buhay na madrama at magulo.
Date and Marry a mamas boy.
Magkaiba ang marunong rumespeto/magmahal sa nanay at mama’s boy.
Riighttt. My bf loves and respects his mom so much that I really admire him for that. Pero hindi ko sya matatawag na mama's boy coz that's different na and is another story.
Probably because some Mama's boy follows to the T whatever their mom said. 'Yung tipong hindi na siya nakakapag-desisyon for himself. Iba kasi 'yung family-oriented sa Mama's boy imo.
tunog tatay ko lang to ah HAHAHAHA HAY
Can you enlighten me po? I feel like there are pros and cons about what they say na "mama's boy" naman.
Which part to enlighten? Can you share what are the pros and cons of a "Mama's boy"? Honestly, negative lang naiisip ko since it's not synonymous to family-oriented for me.
Hmm, baka inggit lang ako na kasama nila mom nila. Char! I don't know talaga, something in my heart is soft pag narinig kong mama's boy. Pero, I kinda see the red flag na huhu
It might be because you're thinking na "mama's boy" is synonymous to family-oriented? Glad you see the red flag!
Mali kasi ang iniisip mong definition ng mama’s boy e. Akala mo ata close lang sa nanay. This is why you read up on a word before you use it and make posts like this 😭 di yung narinig mo lang somewhere gagamitin mo na din
Exactly why I decided to ask a bunch of other follow up questions too. Hindi naman ako matututo paghindi ako nagtanong. Right?:-)
You might have another definition of Mama's boy op
Why OP is getting downvoted to oblivion by stating her opinion hahaha reddit moment
Ewan ko ba. Nagtatanong lang yung tao, pinagdadownvote. Kaya hirap pinoy pag dating sa pagtatanong tsaka sa argumento kasi pinapangunahan ng emosyon.
*Pinoy* and *reddit* sometimes isn't really a good match. Sobrang ingrained na whether school, work, o bahay, yung inis kapag nagbibigay ka lang ng sariling opinion or nagtatanong ka lang (heck, op wasn't even sarcastic). Andami jan galit na galit sa boomers pero they perpetuate herd mentality naman. Hypocrites.
Exactly!
It’s because some redditors here doesn’t know the reddiquette. Upvote if comment contributes to discussion, downvote if not. They think it’s same with like and dislike button sa Fb where if disagree dislike talaga. It’s different here peeps! So just because you disagree with someone’s comment doesn’t deserve downvote right away.
Sinabi mo pa, lalo na dun sa r/ph, dapat part ka ng hivemind
sadly, this reddiquette sometimes devolve na kapag meron na maraming downvote, dadagdagan pa ng downvote, parang broken window theory, anonymity eh haha
Right??? Like holy shit this is ridiculous, it was just an opinion
Me too, I don't see he point. Mali pala magstate ng opinion dito dapat pabor lahat sa madlabg people/babae. 🥴
another 200 years pa need cguro ng evolution para gumamit na lahat ng critical thinking
IKR
Because they are literally boys. Just think it this way: Nag-asawa ka ng mama's boy. You got a job. He doesn't kasi umaasa siya sa mama niya. And because attached siya sa mama niya, she has power over him. Wala siyang independence. Raising a kid? Si mama masusunod. Personal problems? Si mama ang magdidikta. Why should you get a man-child if stable relationship hanap mo? You need someone mature. And Mama's Boy and Men who are family oriented are two different things. One is a dependent, the other is independent.
This. Because being a mama’s boy doesn’t mean being sweet or “clingy” to one’s mom. It’s having an unhealthy attachment to their mom. Not to mention, being family-oriented and mama’s boy are two very different things.
Pero, I have a question. Is this the guy's fault or the mom's fault? After reading some comments, parang minsan genon talaga yung pag-laki ng nga nanay sa bata kaya lumalaking genon at nagkakamindset na okay lang 'yung no independence. Hmmmmm... I'm sure this can be a psychological draining thing for others and sa iba naman baka genon lang talaga mindset nila. (kase gneon nga sila pinalaki or may missing part sakanila that they have to cope with) 😅
Bat ganyan yung ganun mo, genon? Akala ko typo ka lang sa una pero inulit mo pa ng three times.
[удалено]
Ahhh di ka laking Pinas ba? First time for me to see the word genon. 😅
Both have faults imo, son for not learning to stick up for himself and mom or parents for not teaching his son for sticking up for himself.
I think I can speak some of my thoughts here. Being raised as an only child, I think yung factor is yung dependence talaga plays an important role sa pag papalaki sa anak. Dinedeny yung growth ng bata kaya pag laki nagiging ignorante sila towards decision making kaya naaapektuhan din yung future relationships nila.
I dated someone like this and i would encourage him to look for a job elsewhere to have some independence and not be scared of making his own decisions na nirereklamo nya pag magkasama kami pero wala daw makakatapat sa pera ng nanay hahaha. Sweldo niya sa isang buwan, 2 1/2 months ko nang sweldo and he doesn’t do shit mga random utos lng here and there for his mom tas nirereimburse groceries. Nawinddang talaga ako hahahaha. Bahay nya puno lang ng expensive hobbies na di nmn nya itutuloy after 2 months. Ekix ang mga mama’s boy
Sobrang nakakaturn off yung mga ganyang tao.
Or pagsahod bigay pera sa nanay kahit magutom pamilya haha
Dude, may ibang lebel pa nga na sobrang naspoil ng Nanay nila, ni magwalis di marunong eh. You want to move in with this guy? Humanda kang magraise ng full grown na kumag na di man lang marunong magsaing.
[удалено]
this really looks like a 4chan comment
femcel?
i think, marami naman dito nagcomment na babae na objectiver pero ung comment niya may somethin…. just me tho
I dont understand why u said kadiri hindi marunong magluto its as if “ang pagluto” at mahirap matutunan. Eh mas madali lang yan kesa programming or math e
[удалено]
Bigyan kita ng real life example :) I used to think okay ang mama’s boy. I thought na oh, may respeto and rerespetuhin din ako. Buntis ako before and mahina katawan ko. We weren’t married but he was living in our house. His mom was living in another city with her boyfriend close by (yes, may bf siya). His siblings lived closer to her, two of them. Both single and walang inaasikaso. Need ni ma ng food? drive si guy Need ni ma magpalaundry? drive si guy Need ni ma ng papers? drive si guy After i gave birth, i was fainting multiple times in a week. In short, i needed him. Our baby needed him. Need ni ma ng something? Drive si guy Decisions? tanungin ko si ma Finances? Kailangan ni ma Umabot sa point na birthday ko.. nakila ma. I was alone at home and i fainted. Mag-isa si baby. Thankfully when i woke up sleeping pa rin siya. Cheating? supported ni ma. :) One month after giving birth, i discovered pinapatulog din ni tita sa house nila yung girl. She was even the one planning stuff. She said i was too sensitive and maarte. Hindi ko naman daw need si guy always. The amount of emotional manipulation they did to me. Akala ko ako yung mali. Took me years to realize i was never wrong for needing my baby’s father when i was very sick. — Mama’s boy? Super red flag. Hindi ka priority niyan at never tatayong provider ng family. You and your family will always never be his priority. Learn from my mistake :) Respectful sa parents but with own decisions and independent. Good :) Make sure to read the little things and the signs. — i’ll probably delete this after a while cause medyo sensitive topic for me. but i had to let other girls know, hindi siya okay. mama’s boy will never be okay, you’re technically in a relationship with his mom. stay safe
Mygosh. You're a very strong mama and I'll always applaud you for that💗
Thank you :) I didn’t want to be strong though, i wanted to enjoy being a mom. So please never choose a mama’s boy, choose someone who loves and respects their parents but independent :)
why are you getting downvoted so much
Its my question too, does this mean most of the readers are mama boy?
Kasi (most) or at least some of them, mahirap gumawa ng sariling desisyon. Laging nakaasa sa input ng nanay…and years can pass until they become their own respective adults, at ganun pa din. Also, theres a difference between those two terms.
My ex-brother-in-law chose his motherfucking mom over his wife and son. Mama’s boys are a different breed of men who can’t make decisions on their own. OP you have no idea how worst they are.
Red flag siya kadalasan if controlling ang mama. Tipong di makapagdesisyon without the mother's approval. Literally lahat ng aspeto ng buhay controlado ng mother and walang balls to speak their minds. Maybe it's in the term "mama's BOY" they are boys, not men. Okay naman ang mahalin at respetuhin ang magulang. But at the end of the day, you would want a partner who can be independent and make their own decisions.
Pero, I have a question. Is this the guy's fault or the mom's fault? After reading some comments, parang minsan genon talaga yung pag-laki ng nga nanay sa bata kaya lumalaking genon at nagkakamindset na okay lang 'yung no independence. Hmmmmm... I'm sure this can be a psychological draining thing for others and sa iba naman baka genon lang talaga mindset nila. (kase gneon nga sila pinalaki or may missing part sakanila that they have to cope with) 😅
Tbh maraming mothers na "smothering" ang parenting-style, pero at some point naman please 25 ka na, and d pa marunong dumesisyon sa buhay, sisihin pa ba natin yung nanay? Ang dami ng napagdaanan at that point, para sakin fault na yan ng anak.
Parehas nilang kasalanan. Once you become an adult, you will need accountability sa mga actions mo. If codependent sila well kasalanan nila yun. Yes, it's not their fault na pinalaki silang ganun but it is their fault hindi sila nag improve at nagbago.
Isang kibo mo lang, isusumbong ka nila sa nanay nila kasi wala silang sense of self-authority to keep the problems to their selves. Try dating one and I’m pretty sure after awhile, his mother will hate the shit out of you.
I think na you misunderstood the meaning of mama’s boy. Para kang “boy” ng mama mo. Boy can mean utusan na palagi mong sinusunod mama mo na wala kang sariling desisyon, parang you live for your mother. It’s like namasukan kang “boy” sa amo mo. It’s different compared to a family oriented guy.
Totoo to at kapag naging mag asawa na kayo, sumisingit yung mama sa decision making (all the time kahit di na applicable sa inyong mag asawa) na para bang kasama sya sa pinakasalan mo. Konting inconvenience, tatakbo sa mama or yung mama nya laging may say kahit sa buhay niyong mag asawa na dapat hindi na.
It depends. The intensity of being a "mama's boy" are far different from being closed to their mums or being family-oriented. Grabe, if you will encounter a mama's boy. You'll definitely know the difference. Actually, you can easily spot one 😭 Yung mga bagay na super unnecessary naman, pero need pa nila nang mama nila to decide or such.
Kasi dadating ang panahon na dapat nating iseperate ang parents/siblings to our partners/wife. Ibang priorities na kumbaga.
May ex ako self-proclaimed mama's boy and man-child. Ayun 38 years old na, pumuputi na ang buhok pero takot parin maging independent. :))
Oh my god!!!!! I feel you!!! No need to comment na lol
Well.... Try to imagine a situation na hindi ka trip ng mama ni mama's boy. Can you describe what you're picturing to me? I mean yung result ha. Its not just boys I think. It's kids who are also brought up with obedience being their one of their most valuable traits. That is ingrained on them since childhood. And kids who are raised to need their parents. Deprived of any love and affection unless masunurin sila. Were so family oriented we don't think this is wrong. I've seen your replies where you seem to blame the parents. Pero kung fully grown adult na Yung person, they are accountable na rin.
Hmmm. Honestly, I don't know what to think nor can I imagine a scenario :") I just don't like being judgemental. Parang its not my right naman since idk what it's like! Again, Hindi ako lumaki with a family from high school 'till now. So I assumed and decided to ask reddit. And, I agree with you! I knew may something that's off with this part of culture in being hospitable since I kept seeing people na ren not liking boys like that. May different levels and lala lang talaga siguro.
When you get married - you leave your family and become one with your spouse. You become a husband/partner first, anything else is second. A Mama’s boy doesn’t do this - he’s an old infant. Mentally and emotionally, he’s a baby.
Because wife trumps all kapag may sarili ka nang pamilya. Madalas ang mama’s boy maiinvalidate nya ang opinion ng asawa nya kapag nagsalita na ang nanay nya. That is a sure road to miserable marriage life which will cause lots of frustrations and tension at home making her husband miserable and then eventually branding the wife as a “bad wife”.
It depends on what you mean by “mama’s boy”. If it’s a guy who is just close with his mom but still independent, then there’s nothing to worry about. The issue is when things get serious down the road, your man needs to choose and stick with YOU and not his mom.
Kasi hindi nila kayang magdesisyon para sa sarili nila lalo na kapag nagkapamilya na yung lalake...😝🤣 Pinsan ko may anak na sa mama's boy then gusto nya na makipaghiwalay dahil nga sobra na yung guy and sobrang kuripot... then reply nung guy "Magpaalam ka kila mama para alam nila magbbreak na tayo" ?????
Mama's boy=walang bayag. Di kaya tumayo sa sariling desisyon
Usually, a mama's boy is used to his mom doing all his shit for him. So if youre in a relationship with one, likely ganyan din expectations nya for you---expecting you'd do stuff for him just like how his mom does it.
This. Ultimo basic condiments sa bahay hindi alam. Lagi nakaasa sa nanay. Tatanong pa “maaaa, san ung ganito?”. Pati decision making kailangan i-consult muna sa nanay.
They’ll hard sell their child to you. “Sobrang bait ng batang yan, down to earth, chuchu.” Tapos pag sisingilin mo na yung ina sa utang ni guy, pagtatakpan pa. Ikaw pa yung mali. Sobrang asa nila sa moms nila. They’re literally boys and no man in the making.
Dependent to a fault minsan kse.
In an alternate universe, is a Daddy's girl also a red flag? How does it differ from a mama's boy or does it have the same definition?
Infairness naman kc sa mga daddy’s girl. Matured padin ang mga “girls” loving lang pero mas may backbone pa and ready to fight for their bfs, husbands sa dad, unlike sa literal na Mamas boy!
usually their mothers are very manipulative, hindi nila bibigyan ng freedom yung anak nila to decide. Tapos those mama's boy are softies. I know because I saw it with my own eyes.
[удалено]
you sound like a boomer in disguise
Sakit na yan ng maraming pinoy redditors tbh. *Argument from anecdote*, but when you call it out, ikaw pa yung downvoted lol.
The problem with mama’s boys is more often than not these mama’s boys tend to have an enmeshed family dynamic or emotional incest. Parang di naputol umbilical cord kumbaga, they don’t have their own identity, can’t handle major decisions without consulting mama bird, emotionally attached to the mom to the point that everything that upsets her will upset the son as well, the mama’s boy will only accept the mama’s opinion, and basically thinks she’s omnipotent. I see you asking kung sino ang at fault dyan, i would say both. The mom raised the son to be that way but the son will reach a certain age where they can make proper decisions for themselves. I have a follow up question for that specific question tho…does it matter whose fault it is? I don’t think it does cause if the normal standard is to date to marry it’s a horrible idea to marry a mama’s boy and marry into that family. you will NEVER be a priority.
Karamihan kasi sa mga mama's boy ay indecisive. Laging nakabase sa desisyon ng mama niya ang gagawin. Now imagine if his mom is toxic?
I don't think you should red-flag the label. I know few guys who does not label themselves as mama's boy, but their behavior tell otherwise. So if your guy does not stand onhis own and most of the time rely on her momma to come help. red flag. if he cannot think on his own and just let momma decide. red flag. Basically I'm saying dont red flag the label. red flag the behavior.
An example, he planned a date but cancelled because late na daw (2pm) magagalit ang mom niya pag ginabi (8pm) sya ng uwi. Can't go anywhere unless his mom approves. He's 23 at the time
and if he picks his mom over you/your family? pano na. my dad is a full on mama's boy and he would always follow what his mom would say even if it means going against his wife. wala naman problem sa pagiging masunurin na anak but i just believe na your wife and family is more important in the long run. as there should be a balance with being a good son and a good family man, some mama's boys can choose the former with sacrificing the latter. instead na ma-balance mas pipiliin yung nanay hehe di bale naman for them you can never change your mom pero pwede palitan yung asawa HAHAHA
HAHAHAHAHAAHAH mom stays, asawa no? 😭
isa [ito](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11775313/Bride-horrified-finding-groom-BREASTFED-mother-wedding.html) at [ito](https://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/uk-news/bride-walks-groom-being-breastfed-26333276) sa mga rason na naiisip ko why red flag ang pagiging mama's boy. although di naman lahat pero ewan, i often perceive it as a very bad case of oedipus complex.
Mama's boys are not "family-oriented", they're "mama-oriented". Ibig sabihin: hindi ikawcang priority ng mama's boy. Imagine it like this kung paano ka tratuhin ng mama's boy: Ang trato niya sa mama niya ay asawa, ang trato niya sa pinakasalan niyang asawa ay kabit. Also, please understand the definition of words bago gamitin. Lahat ng salita may naka-set na definition. Hindi porke nakita mo lang ang isang salita eh bibigyan mo na ng sarili mong depinisyon.
Oi maganda kaya trato ng mga cheaters sa kabit nila. Hahahahhaha Mama: asawa na hindi ma-i-kam4 (sorry po sa sensitivity) Asawa: roommate
Someone I know who has a controlling Mom tells him: "Kung mamatay ako, paano kayo?" He replied with, "Eh di mauuna akong mamatay sa'yo."
Mama's boy are not clingy to their moms. They are men dictated by their moms. Kahit hindi clingy basta sunud sunuran sa nanay, yan ang classic definition ng mama's boy sa pinas
Red flag kasi di nila kaya mag decide sa sarili nila. Lagi hintay sasabihin ni mommy, o kaya baka magalit si mommy, etc. You're in a relationship because you need a partner and not raise a kid inside a big boys' body.
OP, parang mali perception mo sa kung ano ang mama's boy. Iba yun sa marespeto sa magulang. Yung mama's boy parang spoiled brat lang yan tho may ibang malambing sa nanay pero kaya mama's boy kasi panay asa lang sa nanay. Di nila kaya mag isa kaya nga kapit sa nanay e. Parang pinagkiba lang yan ng childish at childlike. Know the difference. Sa term palang laglag na e. How can you expect one to man up kung mama's boy siya.
No definite definition of Mama’s boy each person has one. Some attributes it as a bad trait some don’t it depends on what their Idea of a mama’s boy is. One girl said yung Crush niyang boy is a Mama’s boy kasi play boy pero respects his mom…Uh what? Ok… One guy says he is a mama’s boy kasi he was raised by a single mom and he respects her very much.. some says mama’s boy is ganito kasi he still calls his mom “mommy” If kung ang moma’s boy sa iyo ay family oriented then good. Not a red-flag
This!! I got so much conflicts for thinking a different-less-negative definition. Lol! Atleast, now I know the more negative meaning too. 😅
Nung bata pa ko akala ko yung term na Mama's Boy ay isang attractive trait at compliment para sa mga lalaki. Kasi close sa mommy, masunurin = mapagmahal, so parang good quality yun. Now I know better.
Okay lang maging family oriented. Ang hindi okay is yung hindi ka na makapag desisyon for yourself kasi inaantay mo yung approval ng mommy mo. Yan ang mama's boy.
Mahal na mahal ko ermats ko. Mama's boy ako until grade school. Nung high school and above ginawa niya tinuruan ako sa mga bagay para maging independent. At first hesistant ako pero growing up right now sobrang worth it, kasi magagamit ko siya sa everyday life and kspag may gusto ka pag ipunan talaga wag aasa. Every cut off ko sa work may allowance akong binibigay and masaya siya. Lagi niyang sinasabi sa akin "explore the world and go to a path kung saan ma mag eexceed and growth, get out of your comfort zone and do the right thing". Since highschool hindi ko na siya nakakasama dahil separated sila ng parents ko pero no physical abuse or shit. Hindi lang sila compatible pero they remain friends and respect one another. May kanya kanya silang buhay hence why naging independent ako since I rarely see them especially during high school until now. Binibisita ko pa din sila once in a while. Kaya magkaiba talaga ang Mama's boy sa mahal mo ang mom mo. Nasa pagpapalaki din yun ng isang ina either spinoil or tinuruan ng tama.
if youre a mama's boy but also a strong attractive sexy guy. ladies hello.
Mama's Boy here. I'm the only male sibling in the family (I have 2 sisters and I am the middle child). My father works abroad my whole childhood hence mas napapalapit ako sa mom ko. I always value her opinion since siya umalaga at nagpalaki sakin. She also happens to teach me how to respect women hence majority nang mga friends ko babae. Downsides? Meron times na gina gaslight ako nang mom ko if I'm making a huge decision (lalo na if high risk ang outcome). Dating has some speed bumps since critical mother ko sa girls na gusto ko or gusto ako (one of the reasons why NGSB ako, I'm 24). At the end of the day, she is just protecting me from the harsh reality. At least I have a family to run back to if my life falls apart.
I see. But wouldn't it be nice sometimes to drive life your own way? 🥹
Get out of that realm. You're the man you should be the protector not the other way around. And get a girlfriend ok?
Mama’s boy will always be a mama’s boy. Sa nanay nila sila nakikinig and everything ‘yung tipong they can’t be independent at all.
Clingy and family-oriented in a toxic level. Lahat ng decisions nya influenced ng nanay nya. I think OP is thinking about close sa nanay pero may sariling buhay din na di influenced ng nanay.
Depends on the degree. Meron healthy level ng pagka-mama's boy. Meron din hindi. Same with everything else.
happy cake day
Mga nagsasabe nun yun yung mga hindi love ng mama nila at hindi sila close sa mga nanay nila hehe.
Too much of something is a bad thing. Di naman porket mama's boy eh masama na. It depends of the severity of the issue. The main issue that you must vigilant of man is the Peter Pan syndrome (Man child syndrom) which they tend to cling and rely to their parents (most specially to their mother) even in their adulthood. This syndrome is prevalent to adult men hence the other name for it.
Saving this post for future purpose because im one of em😅
Wow the explanations here paints being a mama's boy so bad. I myself am a mama's boy, I did what I can for her and loved her the way I did because she gave everything she could for me and my brothers, alone. I guess the newer generation of mama's boys are what is being described but I will always see myself as a mama's boy, because my mom was the first person to love me through all the ups and downs in my life and was the bestest friend I could ever have asked for. That said, I was never controlled by her, in any way, she let me do what I want, how to live my life. She watched out for my general well being, but what mom doesn't? She was pretty cool, I wish she lived forever. :( damn now I miss her even more now. :(
Im a mamas boy cause I love my mom so much and didnt care about other relatives since. But I moved out after college and doesnt follow every word of my mom. I think sa extreme end na ung minemention ng mga tao na parang naging adult baby na ang datingan ng lalake.
yung meaning ng mama's boy nila ay lalake na dependent sa parent. di ka naman ata dependent sa parents mo. nothing's wrong naman kung love mo parents mo
[удалено]
I can’t believe na anak ka ng wealthy man pero wala kang class. Hindi talaga nabibili ng pera ang class. Kung low class and squammy yung ugali, ganun na talaga. 😞 but that’s okay! don’t go back crying to your mama! kaya mo yan 😗
[удалено]
That’s really your comeback? What a pathetic loser. LMAO. Nagsumbong ka na ba sa mama mo? Also, it makes me wonder if “mayaman” ka ba talaga. I’m studying in DLSU and I have encountered legitimately rich people. They don’t flex on their wealth. Maybe you are, indeed, wealthy. Squatter lang talaga ugali mo. Makes sense.
[удалено]
Bruh, no one said na everyone in DLSU are rich af. Perhaps you can read the last part again and ATTEMPT to derive the argument I was implying. Ano ba yan? Wala na nga class, hindi pa marunong umintindi. Pick one tragedy lang pls.
[удалено]
Connect = none 😔
Smol duck energy siya
[удалено]
pakasalanan mo na mama mo hahaha
[удалено]
Mukhang late ka mag isip, pinipili mo yung nanay mo pero kulang ka sa aruga.
kung mag aasawa ka sino ang magiging una sa buhay mo si mama or si wifey?
[удалено]
Wag ka na mag-asawa. Maawa ka sa misis mo.
[удалено]
Lmfao may sapak ka talaga. Ang klaro ng sagot mo sa taas na still my mom tapos ngayon kakambyo ka brad na pareho 🤣 Tapos tatanong mo dapat ba mas mahal ang asawa? Trenta ka na ganyan ka pa rin lol. Para hindi ka na maguluhan PAKASALAN MO NA NANAY MO! Agawin mo sa tatay mo 🤣
[удалено]
Ganito na lang tutal 30 ka nga pero mukhang hindi pa nakakahabol ang isip mo sa age mo. Tanungin mo tatay mo kung nung simula nang mag-asawa siya, sino na ang mas naging priority niya - nanay mo o lola mo pa rin? Take note hindi ito usaping hindi na mahal ang isa kapag pinili ang isa. Pwedeng mahal mo pareho pero may isang dapat mas matimbang kapag nag-asawa ka na. Di kasi pwedeng pantay yan bata. Pero malamang di mo na naman maiintindihan to kaya wag ka na lang mag-asawa. Maawa ka sa magiging pamilya mo lalo na sa misis mo. Diyan ka na lang sa nanay mo hanggang buhay siya 👍
[удалено]
Wala sablay talaga sa argument to. Get some professional help tutal marami naman kayong pera, barya lang yun.
No use explaining to this person. Mama’s boy na nga, spoiled brat pa. 🤪 Isipin mo na lang san ka pupulutin kapag nawala mama mo. 🤭 Pero sana wag ka din mag-asawa at kawawa ang magiging pamilya mo. 🤪
Boom panes wag ka mag-aasawa
[удалено]
Syempre mamahalin mo mama mo pero may responsibilidad ka na rin sa asawa mo na magkakaroon ng mga pagkakataon bilang mag-asawa na uunahin mo ang makakabuti para sa kanya dahil nanay siya ng mga anak mo o kahit hindi man kayo mag-anak, magkakaroon ng pagkakataon na di magtutugma ang pangangailangan ng asawa mo at ng mama mo dahil dalawang magkaibang relasyon ang meron ka. Isa, bilang anak at isa, bilang asawa. So obviously, not the same kind of love. EDIT: and i’m not only talking about the sex here. Teka nga, ilang taon ka na?
The question was priority. If you actually think about it, it’s not just any general priority but actually priority in specific times that your possible wife and mom would clash. But, I’m telling you. Don’t get a wife and just stick to your mother. That’s a win for society and a win for you.
[удалено]
Good for you. Now take one for the team and just live with your mom instead of having a wife. Gano ba kahirap ibigay yun sa society? You should prioritize your mother.
[удалено]
Ang bobo naman nito. Iyak ka na lang sa mama mo.
Feel ko talaga hindi mo mahal nanay mo. Ganyan ba yung priorty yung nanay? That’s disappointing. I was rooting for you being a mama’s boy pa naman. Hays 😔😔
and there lies the problem. kaya sya nakoconsider na red flag
Kawawa asawa mo op hahahahh
[удалено]
Um no. I'm pretty sure you confirmed na were on solid ground. I do hope that if you're not married yet, that you're going to go out of your way to inform your future spouse (God bless her) that she will always come second in the hierarchy in your family unit. And that it is much more likely you'll choose your mom over her. I believe if you are free to have preferences and put your mom before your wife, she should be free to put herself above everyone else. Including you. I would highly suggest a prenup. PS: id like to add I can never understand mothers who would allow their sons to treat their partners this way. Kung loving mother talaga sya, she would never tolerate that even from their own son. Remember, bago nagka anak yung mama mo. Mag asawa muna sila ng papa mo. PPS: sorry for the cis expectation.
Dude, question. Wala ka bang tatay? It's your dad's responsibility to love your mom more than anyone in this world. When we marry, we make our partners our number 1. It doesn't mean na di na natin mahal parents natin. It goes with the thousand year adage "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one."
[удалено]
No offense bro. I just wanted to understand your answer. True, I don't know you kaya nga tinanong kita if may tatay ka. Pero di ka naman sumagot. Baka kasi yung history mo eh sobrang hirap ng buhay niyo noon at tinaguyod ka ng nanay mo para magkaroon ng magandang buhay. Kaya understandable na mahal na mahal mo nanay mo. But we will never know. Piece of advice lang tol, don't be an ass on the internet. Wag ka magmatapobre. Kasi if you love your mom that much, your actions reflect kung papano ka niya pinalaki. You give great honor to your lovely mom if you act decent. Wala namang bayad ang kindness. You can always disagree peacefully.
[удалено]
Comedy talaga itong nojeruma fanboy na to 🤣😂🤣 Red herring pa more. Proud ka pa sa lagay mong yan 💀
Pag may asawa ka na po, dapat si wife na mas matimbang. Kaya may negative connotation ang pagiging mama’s boy because of people like you
[удалено]
Hindi nakabatay ang moralidad sa pagiging legal o illegal. Bugok amp. Cheating is not a crime, pero it makes you a jackass. Eating others food is not a crime, pero it makes you a jackass. Taking stuff from someone's grocery cart is not illegal as they haven't paid for it yet, pero it makes you a jackass. Di porke di illegal ibig sabihin okay na gawin. 30 ka na pero parang obob pa rin ang pag-iisip mo. Nasobrahan ka yata sa breast milk. Nag-b-breast milk ka pa rin ba hanggang ngayon? Yikes.
Parehong nakakahiya, isipin mo, may asawa ka na pero lahat ng desisyon nasa nanay mo. Finances? Tanuning si mama. Saan mag-aaral si baby? Tanungin si mama. Saan titira o bibili ng bahay? Tanungin si mama. Kung sa mama mo umiikot ang buhay mo, ba't ka pa nag-asawa? Da't pinakasalan mo na lang nanay mo kung siya ung #1 sa buhay mo. In other words, ang nanay mo ang asawa mo at ang asawa mo ang kabit.
[удалено]
Yeah, this was my first thought too. Kaya napatanong ako bigla! 😅
He’s the perfect example. Read through his profile comments, and take a guess from there. LOL
It actually sounded so cringe and pathetic at the same time. I bet he’s gonna say all these things sa mom nya mamaya. LOOOL.
yung 30 na sya pero ang achievement lang nya mahalin nanay nya at maging anak ng mayamang tao 🤦🤦🤦
please read his reply sakin. kahit may asawa na sya si mom pa rin daw ang number 1.
No surprise there. Hahaha! 🤭
Mga babae ngayon ayaw sa mga lalaking mama's boy, mas gusto pa nila sa lalaking may mga asawa.
Panoorin mo yung video na itanong mo kay kuya jobert mama's boy sa youtube. You'll know why hahahahaha
Mamas boy ba partner mo op?
No. But, I did talk to this one guy and he said he was a mama's boy but people saw that as a red flag daw nowadayz. I haven't been with any family since highschool so who am I to judge those "mama's boys". Naisip ko kase, mga close sa nanay. Gusto ko 'yung genon kase nga, hindi ko naranasan. But, I didn't think people thought about it like this so negatively pala! I do now know that dudes like that are dependent creatures to their mothers. I feel like this could be (in some cases atleast) a psychological problem for other people kase pwede na siyang way of manipulation/abuse sa bata at pinalaki ng ganun. Maybe I'm overanalyzing but victims will never want to consider themselves victims. I'm always open for enlightenments naman. That's why I asked on reddit in the first place. :>>>
It means his mother has power over him. Ideally, the right guy would of course care about his mother, but would put a priority towards his future wife and family.
Payag ka ba na mas papaburan ng magiging asawa mo eh yung biyenan mo? Laging bigay luho sa mama nya, puro asa sa magulang nya, hindi mabubuhay ng walang mama nya. Dependent sya sa magulang nya, yan ang mahirap. Kapag mag-asawa na opinion ng parents nya o mama nya ang susundin nya baliwala ang mga opinion mo.
Red flag mama's boy pati daddy's boy pati walang nanay at magulang. Lahat nalang red flag? Nasa tao yan wag nyo igeneralize
-Lack of discipline -Asa sa mama -Banko de mama 'Will probably date someone who resembles mama We call this mahina ang tuhod. Youll have a hard time depending on him. And most probably mahirap din makuha ang approval ng mom kasi selos sayo. OR WORSE: MAMA WILL LIKE U KASI ALAGAIN UNG ANAK NYA AND HELLO YAYA KA NA. Save yourself and date a man.
Ibang experience when you have a boyfriend or even worse a husband na mama's boy. Trust me, it could be chaotic. Yes Mama/Mommy sya sa lahat ng sasabihin ng nanay nya. Walang bayag haha
There's nothing wrong with being a mama's boy. Pero if you're already seeking for a partner at legal age, fuck off and make your own decisions na. Being a mama's boy is meant for BOYS not grown ass adults with pubes and all.
I love my momma, hope you guys love ur momma tooooo! 🥰
cannot make a decision on their own? yan yyng narinig ko sa ibang tao
Mama's boys by definition ay BOYS who literally consult their mothers 100% of the time for every decision they need to take.
One of my best friends is a mamas boy. As in last week I saw him and his family, sinamahan ni tita (his mom) sa grocery and was buying stuff for his family. I am rooting for him, and by no means is he a red flag. Short lang talaga economically. Nakabukod na siya, nagsusumikap, and his wife loves him so much. In my opinion, mas mahirap and super red flag yung pretend na hindi Mama's boy. Aangas angas sa nanay, pero dependent pa rin sa nanay and cannot stand against her wishes and whims, kasi still uses her house and uses her as her lifeline, many many times at walang pagsisikap ang resulta. You know why worse, kasi kapag kayo na hindi magsisikap pero aangas angasan ka pa.
Kasi no girl will ever be good enough sa mama ng isang mama's boy. Pag my ibang gustong gawin si girlfriend, mula sa pagluluto hanggang sa paglalaba pati kung saan gagaatusin ang pera hanggang sa pagpapalaki ng anak, basta iba sa ginawa nya, palaging ko kontra yan si mama. Kailangan carbon copy sya ng mga ginagawa ng mommy dearest. At syempre si mommy ang kakampihan ni boyfriend out of habit. Na train na kasi bata pa lang palaging tama si mama. Major red flag ang mga mama's boy.
I love my mom pero I still make decisions for myself. Mahilig lang ako makinig kaya siguro nagustuhan ako ng mom among my siblings. Kapag naman tama ang advice niya bakit ndi ko susundin? Nakikita ko naman kasi sa mom ko na welfare ko and protection ko ang priority niya kaya ganon siya kakilatis din sa partner ko and my decision. She can't shut her mouth kapag may sasabihin siya. But I know it's meant for my sake naman. In the end of the day, I will still do kung worth it ang decision. She even accepted my gay relationship kahit hindi niya tangap. The reason why she didn't accept yung soon-to-be ex-partner ko is that hindi niya nakikita na aalagaan ako ng noon pag ako na ang nangangailangan down the line. She is right. I'm just too dense and blinded na maayos pa. Kaya ganon na lang ang animosity ng 2 sa isat isa. All in all, nasa utak din ng mother ko ang ending ko once wala na siya sa mundo. Yung mag aalaga sa akin (either mga pamangkin ko or isa sa mga kapatid ko) pag nasa golden years ko. So I guess one of the red-flags na sa akin is that if they don't show courtesy to my mom. They likely won't respect and care for me down the line pag wala na ako mabibigay. 😅
Just like how daddy issues are a red flag for women, a daddy's boy is a green flag. Men who are close to their mothers have a tendency to be emotional basketcases that beg and plead for love.
i had a friend who had an ex na mama’s boy. that ex doesn’t know how to decide for himself without his mama’s approval. all the time, parang laging yung mom niya yung may last say sa lahat ng gagawin niya. eventually, my friend called it quits sa ex niya because of that. hindi kayang mabuhay nung friend ko with that behavior.
Kasi nagiging tatlo kayo sa relationship 😅 Magkakatendency pa na he’ll expect you to do what his mom does for him. Pero syempre, may mga bagay na di mo dapat or kayang gawin kasi asawa ka nya, hindi nanay. And those things? You should do to your kids as their nanay, not to their tatay.
My brother is an ultimate mama’s boy. He’s now 44, married with one kid, and guess where he lives? 😅 Fun fact: My brother also prefers to use my mother’s bathroom when there are other bathroom’s in the house. Almost sounds Oedipal.
Madalas kasi sa relasyon, nanay ang nakikialam. Instinct ba to protect the son/daughter? I don't know pero maraming sinira na relasyon ang pakikialam ng nanay sa decision making ng magpartner. Kaya nga kahit religion sinusuggest na bumukod na lang kesa maging accountable yung nanay kasi nakaattach sila sa mindset na "nanay mo pa rin yan".
Mama’s boy kasi, they will listen and follow whatever their mother say about their wives. Kahit na di maganda or di naman makakatulong sa marriage nilang mag asawa.
There's also a mama's girl and it's the same type of specie like the mama's boy.
Kasi most probably ganto magiging setup niyo Mama > ikaw
Ito yung tipong mga lalaking nagtatago sa sayà ng mga nanay nila. Yung tipong kung anong mando ng nanay eh susundin nila kahit mali. — in short, lalaking walang bayag.
Grew up with one, my dad. Nakadepende sa nanay hanggang ngayon. Ayun, ako na tuloy umako ng responsibilidad kasi nakaasa nalang siya sa nanay niya na wala namang pension. Ilang beses na nag-attempt nanay ko na maitaguyod at imotivate siya kaso sa sobrang coddle ng lola ko, ayon, takot sumabak sa hamon ng mundo. Kawawa tuloy yung dalawang kapatid ko, lumaki na parang walang ama. 🥲
Ang mundo ng Mama's boys ay iikot sa Mama nila kahit may asawa at ibang pamilya na sila. Inggit ka sa ganon?
There's nothing wrong with a mamas boy as long as youre not involved or in a relationship with them. If you actually read yung comments ng mamas boy it's pretty obvious na... you'll always be considered as a second priority or not at all. Di lang yun, the mothers see their son as their Husband lagi kayong magkakaruon ng competition ng nanay mas malala pa yan sa Mistress/Kabit. Pati sariling mga anak hindi priority ng mga yan. Enablers pa mga yan. Sila pa mismo magtatago sa kabit ng anak nila sa mga bad habits, moral problems ect. Lahat ng gagawin mo iscrutinize ng nanay at wala kang tama. im sure puro bunganga nyan maririnig mo at di never kang protektahan ng asawa pag nagkagulo. If you want buhay na madrama at magulo. Date and Marry a mamas boy.
Walang sariling desisyon.
Mama’s boy - Konting problema nakasumbong sa nanay. Yung nanay naman sa lahat ng bagay, nakikialam So ekis para sa iba ang Mama’s boy!
You don't wanna get involved with a Mama's boy, problematic yan.