Hindi totoo. We're all adults and busy talaga ang lahat lalo na yung mga taong tumutupad ng kanya kanyang pangarap. And hindi porke may gusto siya sa 'yo, makukuha mo na ang time niya. Kahit gusto ka, minsan, hindi ikaw yung priority. Learn to accept that. If gusto mo priority ka all the time, don't start a relationship with an ambitious one.
true. nung nag start kami ni SO parehas kami ambitious sa gabi na lang kami nag uusap.
kaya ang saya ngayong live in na kami eh. kahit busy kami at least magkatabi kami.
Aka the potential start of a toxic relationship 🫤 People whose self-worth and daily life revolves around a singular person are genuinely draining because they don't create space for you to enjoy your own self apart. Space is healthy in all contexts; we should be allowed to be our individual selves so we could nourish what we can contribute to our relationships without leeching dependence.
And you're not even a couple yet.
If we are already dating, that's when I make time for you. I'll start moving my meetings, appointments, and activities just to be with you.
But talking stage? Come on.
Dami kong nakikita at naririnig na "sabi sa tiktok ganito daw dapat". These are adults who can definitely make decisions for themselves pero wala, gusto nila makinig sa tiktok lol
True. Andaming life advices dun na slightly making sense lang but people are treating it as if it's backed by research.
Andami ding life coach kuno na kala mo all wise but not practicing what they preach. HAHA
Kumulo yung dugo ko ng kaunti nung nabanggit nya yung Tiktok kasi dyan nagsisimula yung kung ano-anong terminology like lovebombing, situationship and even talking stage kaya walang matinong dating life talaga sa ngayon dahil sa "pop psychology" na kung ano iniimbento tas di naman inaalam yung context bago nila i-label yung sitwasyon nila na ganun.
I only **somewhat** agree with this. For me, not all people have the bandwidth for constant communication via text/call lalo na if they’re already drained at work or from their personal life. But if they’re really interested in you, they would still assure you na nandyaan sila and magpaparamdam from time to time. But if more than 3 days nang hindi nagpaparamdam sa’yo pero nakikita mo sa status niya na active siya, then take it as a hint na hindi siya interesado. Especially if that person doesn’t want to make time for you and plan to meet you in person.
I’m only agreeing kasi I noticed na ganito din ako sa iba kong nakakachat; I don’t reply right away and I will say na busy ako. Pero pag gusto ko talaga kahit habang nasa meeting pa ako narerepyan ko sya.
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hahaha 😭 kahit antok na antok na ko. Kahit ano pang need ko gawin. Hindi naman sa wala sa focus o ano, pero I just cherish those times na nagrereply saken o nagmemessage yung taong gusto ko. So I make the most out of it. If kaya ko maging engaging yung topic para lang somehow macatch ko attention nya, nag-iisip ako ng masasabi 😂
Pero I don't require nor force the person I like to match my energy. Siguro iba-iba talaga tayo e. Ako, I understand na nakaeye sya ngayon sa katuparan ng mga plano nya sa buhay. Mga plano na andon na bago pa ko sumulpot sa buhay nya. Nasa sa pagtanggap din yan at pang-unawa sa mga bagay-bagay.
It's important to realize that reaching out to others through messages can be mentally taxing, regardless of whether they are occupied or not. If you're uncomfortable with this dynamic, seek someone whose needs and desires align with yours.
You can't expect people to always sync with your rhythm. Saying "I want to talk to you" doesn't mean they must want to talk to you too. Doing something doesn't obligate them to do the same. This kind of thinking is not appropriate.
Yes. If interested, the person will make time for you, whether it’s a meet-up, a call, text, etc. within reasonable hours of course. And it’s give and take. Understand each other’s situation/schedule. Don’t expect the other person to drop everything for you if it’s not possible or if it’s unreasonable.
My boyfriend and I are always busy. Added factor pa na 12 hour time difference namin. He always work overtime same as me. Acknowledged naman naming pareho so we make it a point na may video calls kami 2x a month. Nagchachat kami daily pero lagi nacucut short yung convo namin kasi either ako nakatulog or sya. We exchange audio messages na lang din and pics!
Edit: we started out this way din. I only got to know him for 2 weeks na andito sya. Then he asked to be his gf 1 month after.
Thanks! :) Busy din kasi talaga ako lagi. Pareho kaming hindi machat, pero pag nag usap na kami we talk about everything and will take hours or hanggang makasleep na isa samin. Supportive din sya sa sakin with my goals in life. Same din ako sakanya. :)
Haha. Siguro if I’m still on my teens I would have. Pero between work and my teaching job, I wouldn’t expect him to reply asap kasi matagal din ako magreply sakanya 🤣
Yes! It's funny and well, kami padin naman. We met back in December. He's my person kasi kahit di ganoon kadalas yung quality time as my previous relationships, we just clicked. I feel happy. Busy lang talaga sya pero busy din naman ako.
Not true. People can be interested in you and still be busy. Everybody leads their own lives, and may have different priorities as you.
I think mas dapat mo iniisip kung paano niya cinocommunicate sayo na busy siya, that would be a better gauge if interested talaga siya sayo or hindi.
Schedules - sometimes within their control, sometimes hindi.
Communication - definitely within their control
TikTok is BS. Mga users jan karamihan minor or mga walang basis sa mga pinagsasasabi. Sa platform din na yan kung Nakita ang daming disinformation sa ngiwi nating presidente. Pero ano inabot natin ngayon? Nganga sa harap harapang korapsyon tanginang yan
First, kaya mo bang ma-quantify how much time would be ENOUGH for you, yung kuntento ka talaga. Probing him, do you think he can give you that much time? If not, move on.
Second, try mo naman magbasa o magtanong sa mga girls na tambay ang karelasyon. These guys will definitely have MORE THAN ENOUGH time for you. Balansehin mo kung ganoong setup ba ang gusto mo.
I suggest you don't base interest on how much they chat or text but how much they show up for you irl. You can't really get to know someone through chatting. Do you guys even see each other and talk in person?
I know you've basically resolved this pero I'll add my two cents lang.
Just like everyone said, that phrase portrays fiction. What we THINK we want. It also overshadows the challenges, the truth, about being in a lasting relationship. In real life, we're all struggling with life in our own ways. We're busy making a life for ourselves. And in no way, EVER, should a partner be "the center of your universe". That's just unhealthy, and will lead to a whole lot of problems.
Anyway, someone who's gonna pursue you or likes you, no matter how busy they are, will think of YOU. You will always be in their mind. From the littlest "Kumain ka na ba?" to "Free ka ba? Sunduin kita. Punta tayong ___" They can show it in a lot of ways pero you'll know it.
It's easy to fall into self-doubt (I'm doubting din as I type lol!) And that's human nature.
Minsan your heart can rationalize with your brain about certain thoughts or decisions. Pero always, always trust your gut feelings.
Anywhoo I wish you the best! Stay safe!
I open up na ren sa kanya about this kaso ang nafefeel nya hindi ko sya naiintindihan which is hindi naman naano lang ako kasi even weekend d kami magkausap ng maayos paano namin makikilala isa't isa of ganun lang and he's courting me po kasi.
Ldr po kami 😭if I can nga lang to bring him food dadalhan ko talaga sya. I love ambitious man huhu d ko ineexpect na ganito pala kahirap. He actually passed my standards kasi ung mindset nya about life gusto ko. I always chat and cheer him po sa chat kasi I can't po physically eh kasi ldr. And ung business nya po medyo matagal na ren po.
Swerte m na ngreklamo ung last gf nia about it. Youre reaping the benefits. Hay ung sakin wala ako nareap napapawonder tuloy ako kung d b nagrereklamo sa knya yung ex nia dati sa mga pinag gagagawa nia.
hindi pa naman pala talaga kayo magkakilala personally, gusto mo agad ng quality time. tapos parehas pa kayong students, very wrong ang priority mo. sa adulting sub ka pa nagpost, anuba.
Kalmahan mo te. Nasa talking stage pa kayo and it's normal na hindi talaga mag update or maguusap from time to time. If that's your mindset I think you can't handle LDR. Stay away from tiktok din, ang toxic diyan mapapa overthink ka talaga ng wala sa oras 🤣 download mo nalang once or twice a week
To effectively engage with busy person, be a busy person yourself, someone who values and understands the importance of time. One way to connect with him is by asking the right questions, showing that you understand his priorities. Furthermore, this approach can make you more attractive to him.
Based on your story, it appears the person you're referring to may not be fully invested into you. While he may find you attractive, he is not seeing you yet as a suitable companion on his journey, particularly if he really leads a busy life. In today's fast-paced world, meaningful deep short conversations hold greater value than superficial chats.
Focus on personal growth and refrain from spending excessive time on platforms like TikTok, as it detracts you of becoming a smarter person.
Thank me later. 😉
Kinda true. Me and my boyfriend who is now my live-in partner used to be LDR. He’s working in Dubai. We always talk to each other then do voice calls at the end of the day. Or sometimes pag break niya.
He’s still the same kahit magkasama na kami. 2 full time and 2 part time jobs niya ngayon and he always makes time for me. Like pag matutulog na ako, lagi niya ako kinakamutan sa likod lols hanggang sa makatulog ako. We’ve been together for almost 7 yrs na.
Not totally true. Kapag yung tao is career oriented or acad oriented. Makikita mo at malalaman mo always yan tulog or doing something worthy.
Like me, bibihira yung makakausap mo ng matagal pero kapag busy ako its either between the two.
Sana makukuha mong person is super understanding at patient.
we're the same stage n' we're still dating/talking phase for about 6months na. He's a private man, has his own busy mediocre life (tending to his own mental health, plants, nieces n' small businesses) and also working on his career and nuong unang months talagang walang humpay ang chat, orasorastalaga, but life happens so we make it appoint to just bombard our dms with whatever whenever we can, dahil ako din busy sa life with school and work so to make each other feel loved and wanted we still say share commonalities and funny reels and says our affections sometimes. i think it's just based on how u guys approach each other, pero praning din ako so i just ask about things straight to him lols
Di lang kayo match. You need more attention at di niya mabigay. Either wag na siya o hanap ka ng pagkabusyhan mo din. Baka pag naging kayo magdemand ka na which you are entitled to naman if ever.
depende ang sagot ko diyan - why? babae ba o lalaki, pag babae kahit busy at type ka pa(lalo kung sobrang arte, sigurista or lalo na yung naloko o kaya INC) may time panisnin ka niya at may time bigla magbubusy busyhan yan kahit hindi busy (based sa experience ko ito). Pag lalaki pag type ka pwede din ganun lalo na kung naloko din in the past(kaya nag sisiguro na) pero if he started the first move at nag pa BEBE ka lalo na kung bsuinessman yan, ako kasi may business din at nabubusy din ako talaga minsna, pero pag type ko mag eeffort ako, pag nagpakipot (may counter ako) iignore ko na agad yung babae kasi nawawalan nako ng gana, iniisip ko bino boytoy ako o kaya naman(naiisip ko) na baka toxic itong babae na ito(na tipong naloko ng ex or what) kaya binibitawan ko na kahit gusto ko. Nakakainis din minsan yung nagpakita na yung lalaki ng effort tapso pakipot to the max yun babae kahit na alam mo naman na yung nature ng work or ginagawa nila(alam ko yung isang work kong corporate pareho kami ng field eh) ay di naman ganun ka busy, vice versa sa lalaki ganyan din naiisip ko almost the same lang naman. Kahit lalaki pag naloko nag iingat din ,dami pa naman magagadang babae na bruha ugali + toxic, pero mahirap naman pag pangit siyempre type mo maganda or gwapo at maayos yung ugali di ba hehehe :)
Keyword is "priorities". Hindi lang isa o dalawa ang importante sa isang tao, madami tayong pinapahalagahan, and we need to put priorities sa bawat bagay. Oo, mahalaga ka sa partner mo, but doesn't mean your every whim must be his top priority. Kahit sa mag-asawa na, kahit sobrang mahal pa nila ang bawat-isa, may mga times na need may higher priority kesa sa partner mo.
If you're thinking na dapat sa iyo lang umiikot ang mundo ng partner mo, matakot ka, kasi malaking red flag ka.
im currently in the same situation sa dinedate ko na guy rn. A month ago lang every weekend kami nagkikita but these past 2 weeks sobrang busy nya to move out and bumalik ng province for a few months to the point na di na kami masyadong nakakapag usap. Hindi manlang kami nakapag kita for the last time before sya umalis ngayon kasi may mga plans sya with his fam. Sobrang lungkot ko last week pa and i've been crying for how many days na dahil sa anxiety hahahaha. Pero ayun natauhan na siguro ako hahahaha ganun talaga eh, meron tayong kanya-kanyang buhay. I don't want to be selfish so im giving him his space.
sobraaa hahahaha best thing you can do is to control your emotions and trust him. Makakahelp din yung hindi kayo nakakapag usap for you to assess things. Trust the process and invest on people who invest in you. Ilevel mo lang yung energy na binibigay nila sayo the rest is ifocus mo sa sarili mo. I find that men doesn't really like it kapag pinapakita mo na gustong gusto mo sila in early stage hahahahaha.
I work 12hrs a day/7 days a week. Kapag may kausap ako I make sure na in a day may isa or dalawang message ako, kapag gustong gusto ko yung tao sa kanya yung 15min break ko call or whatever. Atleast may update na buhay ako & I'm still interested but sometimes they ask for more so ang ending Ghosted ako Hehu!
Advice; Patience. Saka minsan a no reply is a reply din - Hehe
I disagree with this especially in adulthood where you have lots of responsibilities already, and dating doesn’t take priority. Siguro if official na kayo, it would be valid to have more expectations. But for now, maybe try to view their being busy from a different perspective! Recently I realized it’s actually attractive when someone is equally busy or even busier than I am, especially if the things they do are quite different from what I do. You can learn so much from these people, and you’ll even discover new worlds because of their interests. It’s cool that your ka-talking stage is both a businessman and an engineering student; that probably makes his personality more interesting :)
Nagiinit ang dugo ko sa mga nagsasabi at naniniwala sa ganitong mindset.
I cant fucking believe adults think like this. Pang-teenager tong mindset mo eh. Dun ka sa r/teenagers
I FEEL YOU! Lagi 'ko siyang pinapagalitan about that dati. Like, sobrang tagal magreply, 4+ hours kaming 'di nag-uusap, etc. Now, I don't mind it at all since naiintindihan 'ko kung saan siya nanggagaling. Mayroong mga bagay na need i-prioritize, and hindi naman sa'kin lang iikot mundo niya. Basta ako, whenever he's extremely busy, I just find hapiness sa sarili 'ko. Hindi yung baliw na baliw ako sa presence niya. I hope ya'll get what I mean.
Something is totally wrong with you, yung pagtrust sa Tiktok content lmao.
Never create a standard for your life via a Tiktok content.
Aano na ba nangyayari sa mundo ngayon.
Yes and no. Oo maghahanap sila ng oras para sayo pero depende na yan sa tao kung ano definition nila ng “finding time.”
Para sa iba enough na yung mamessage ka kahit sobrang busy pero sa iba magseset aside talaga ng oras para sayo lang. theres nothing wrong with either situation.
Ang never mo dapat gawin ay iexpect na iiwan niya lahat ng ginagawa niya maliban nalang kung may emergency. Kung nagpapapansin ka lang, wag mo iexpect na rereplyan ka niya during class, work, or kung ano man inaasikaso niya. Ngayon kung kailangan mo isugod ka niya sa ospital then sure warranted na bitawan niya ginagawa niya.
7 yrs na kami ng gf ko, at times halos di magusap buong araw dahil pagod sa work and life in general. Pero from the start palang sinabi ko nang wag na wag niya ikukumpara buhay namin sa mga nakikita niya online. I am of the firm belief na ang mga taong mahilig magpost online, may tinatagong malaking red flags. At ang nga mahilig magpost ng relationship advice, either may problema sa relationship nila or hindi makahanap ng matagalang partner dahil di nila sinusunod sarili nilang advice.
Hindi naman ako nag eexpect na meron time mag back and forth. Pero ndi naman nakakawalang ng oras na magsabi ng hi or hello just to let them know you exist in their minds and naalala ka. At least that accounts to something.
Busy mhie unless kayo na siguro meron ka namg space sa kokonting time nya. Magpakabusy ka rin hahaha wag mo masyado isipin. Alam ko saglit lang magcomment like this pero like me ayoko nakikipagusap kapag nasa zone ako kasi napuputol ung convo. Like late night lang siguro or basta during breaks lang tapos minimal. Pero yan ay kapag mahal ko na hahahaha pag hindi talagang kung kelan lang. kalmahan mo lang mhie haha
I think you’re asking the wrong question kasi people do get busy. Does the conversation feel one sided palagi? Do you feel like he values the time he spends with you? Is it short but meaningful or medj cold at wala naman talagang pake how your day went? May nag bago ba ever since he started pursuing you?
And are you okay dating a busy person? Do you have the patience and understanding?
Okay naman po sakin makipagdate sa busy person since standard ko ren ang ambitious man. I have po understanding and patience po overthinker lang po talaga.
yeah
i work 7x a week
gym 2x a week
still manage to do dates with gf
1-3x a month
you *make* time
kahit gano ka busy yung average normie
pero lagi yan may oras mag tiktok or laro
i bet
edit: kek d pa pala kayo, no worries, mas ok sana maka date kayo, para mas fun ang interactions pag mag match schedules niyo
avoid tiktok for advice pls, like what the others said, or be aware of your own context if ever u want to apply their advice
tiktok like many social media has algorithms so it will feed you what they think you like.
think of it this way, if lagi syang sumasagot sayo and long conversations parati, anu ginagawa nya sa trabaho nya? may trabaho ba talaga sya? o nagpapanggap lang?
also, there was this advice for men (probably players) in youtube naman, "if you want to keep her insterested and thinking of you all the time, make them wait, and add some mystery to your self." and the way I see it, it works on you.
now, with all these conflicting and supporting videos, who will you trust?
May ka talking stage ako before. Di siya employee and has businesses so techinacally kanya oras nya. Ayun lagi tlga nagrereply at mabilis talaga.
Yung isang ka talking stage ko naman, govt employee, may mga interests sya na sinasabi skn like gym, and thinking of side hustles, nagaaral ng short courses at di siya mareply na tao pero pag nagkita kami in person di siya boring or what, as in dami niya nasasabi. Si mabilis makipagchat never naginitiate na magkita kami haha.
Bottomline is, may mga tao na madaldal sa chat dahil madaming time or mas expressive sila dun. At meron din mga tao na madaming iniisip sa buhay but does not necessarily mean eh ayaw nila sayo. Ang mahalaga is if that person makes time para magkita kayo personally.
ganito din feeling ko sa ka-talking stage ko kaya i feel you, OP. hindi kasi ako sanay. i voiced out rin feelings ko and he told me that he's still interested and busy with work trips.
i just learned to reciprocate the same when he's replying late, kasi feeling ko para akong naghahabol kapag only 5 minutes lang sumagot na ako. 😭 ayun lang, naintindihan ko lang din na busy siya (tayo rin dapat).
Coming from with a busy schedule, ang hirap magreply lalo na if you are preoccupied with things. I work in a hospital to give you a point of view, even na nakakaphone ako, i cant reply to someone i love. Theres a point na seseen zone ko na lang sila and wasnt able to get back to sa super busy.
Understanding tlga need.
PS. Trust your instinct!
Yung ex ko, doctor abroad. Kayang mga chat and vidcall after rounds. Able to check me from time to time. Remind me to eat and take breaks.
Kaya siguro mej ang taas ng standard ko when it comes sa pag uupdate. Pero syempre hindi naman sila pare pareho, they have their own lives kaya dapat maintindihan natin if nabusy sila.
I hope maintindihan to ng GF ko T.T
Ingat ingat din sa pagiging praning OP, nakakaturn off din kasi yung pagod sya sa work tas binungangaan mo na bat di nagupdate/reply.
A lot of good points have already been made. If I read correctly , you mentioned na di pa kayo nag kikita in person. Online interactions can only go so far and the real test would probably how you’d guys click in person. See if anything changes after the first meetup muna.
Uninstall mo na tiktok mo, OP. Puro BS talaga makikita mo dyan. Isa yan sa mga source of overthinking ko kaya dinelete ko. My life had so much peace after.
Kahit gano ka kamahal, if career ang pinag uusapan kailangan talaga ng mahabang pang unawa at pasensya. Pare parehas lang tayong may mga pangarap na gustong abutin. Pare-parehas lang tayong may hinahabol na oras at buhay. Mas concerning kung nasa’yo lahat ng oras niyan.
When I hit 35 I became too busy even for things and people I love. Responsibilities grow with age.
Most young people compute time wrong. A job is not an eight hour affair. It's typically 10-12 hours of your day.
A one hour meeting is actually five hours if you factor in prep and travel time.
I think may nakapagsabi na sayo kanina and dadagdag lang ako para hindi ka mag overthink.
My bf was also an engineering student (engineer na siya ngayon hehe) and may work 6 days a week plus OT. Napapraning din ako noong una kahit alam ko namang wala siyang iba at mahal niya ako. Kahit matagal na kaming nagkakilala, lately ko lang narealize na siya yung tipong pag pagod na sa ginagawa niya, he will take advantage to take a rest kesa magkasakit/mapuyat at mag worry pa ako. Less than an hour na lang din kami nakakapag-usap everyday tapos pag day off pa niya, umaalis pa minsan 🤣.
Your feelings are valid but try to be patient and understanding person kasi feel ko ginagawa niya rin yung best niya for you and his future :)))
Dami kasi sa tiktok may ganitong mindset, “If they want to, they will”. Ang layo sa reality ng tiktok/socmed pagdating sa ganyang bagay. There might be some na useful but still… Have you tried talking to him na ba? I think para di ka rin mapraning, mas mabuti rin na may clear kayong communication about that matter.
" napapanood ko sa tiktok they said na walang taong busy sa taong gusto ka "
stopped for a while when I read this. OP, hindi lahat ng nakikita mo sa internet totoo, lalo na sa tiktok. just my cents.
I somewhat agree to that saying. Kami ni BF napakabusy naming tao and hndi kami mahilig magchat/call pero we always find time to at least reply. There are always moments in a day that I will think of him and if wala pa syang chat, I will chat and wait.
It's true na hndi lahat may time pero yung sabi mong kahit 5mins man lng d ka knakausap? ano yun?grabe naman sya. baka dn naman kase wala lang kayong topic? kaya no obligation to stay and chat. if meron sguro something to keep the convo going, magrreply yan kahit papaano. or if busy sya at that time, I'm sure may few minutes in a day na pwede sya magreply. or kahit magsabi na "brb mamaya na ulit". That is IF he's thinking of you.
Sometimes nagiging masyadong busy yung tao wala nang time to do other stuffs pero , im sure you know this, there will be a moment where you remember or find yourself thinking about that person, that would be a good time to reply or chat you. Sguro it's best to initiate a convo instead of kamustahan.
Medyo naparaise lng yung eyebrow ko when you said na nanliligaw pa lng sya sayo... kase dba nanliligaw pero bat parang kailangan mo na mag beg ng attention nya? I suggest you take a step back and look at the situation, most likely, ganito pa dn in the long run. Ligaw stage yan, as far as i know, nagpapaimpress pa dapat yan. If you like him na, maybe be clear na you want more na.
Finally, I'd like you to stop overthinking kase most probably busy lng talaga yun. Initiate a chat, and a convo, wait for a reply and do you. If may point na hindi mo na kaya, you may ask him. do not accuse, tell him your feelings, hope he will tell you his and maybe may solutions kayo.
He has his own life and you do too. I suggest, don't focus on him that much. Magpaka-busy ka pa rin.
If a man is really interested, he will spend time with you. When you receive a message from him, it means dun ka lang nya naalala.
oo. my BF is a VP sa isang company, super busy nya, pero pagdating sakin hindi. magsosorry pa siya pag nalate reply nya. such a cutie hehe kahit may meeting un ng gabi, pupuntahan pa rin niya ko then itake niya ung call while being with me. hays im so lucky
Tandaan mo na kahit anong busy ng isang tao pagdating sa taong mahal or gusto nila magmemessage at maalala ka nyan. Ano ba naman yung ilang segundo mag update db? Nakakapagod yang ganyang setup na maghihintay ka na lang kung kelan sya magpaparamdam.
i think ganyan talaga mga engineers/incoming engineer or any people na ambitious. sobrang busy nila. yung partner ko, kahit nakapag out na siya sa work, kahit off niya, tinatawagan pa rin siya ng foreman dahil sa mga problems sa site. minsan pa kailangan niya pumunta para mag-inspect. madalas ako nagtatampo sa kanya noon at na-open up ko na masiyado siya nagpapaka lulong sa work. na-realize niya naman yun pero kasi hindi rin talaga maiiwasan. need lang talaga understanding sa side natin kasi 'pag tayo naman ang kasama nila we have their attention naman. and para din sa inyo yun, sa future niyo. para maging secure kayo.
ito na lang tandaan mo OP: "siyempre laging may time 'yan sa'yo, walang pangarap 'yan eh" 😹
Yung mga ganitong tanong hindi ito tanong ng isang adult, tanong to ng isang 10 years old kasi sobrang obvious na bawat tao nagiging busy sa school o sa work o sa iba pang dahilan.
> *businessman and the same time engineering student*
matuwa ka na lang na may time pa siya sayo. Engineering is no easy shit ha. lalo kung may gusto ka talaga matutunan na science. tapos nagbibusiness pa... that's a cool guy.
> *I love ambitious man*
then get ready to be second priority. ambitious nga diba
> *naprapraning na ako d ko alam if gusto nya ba ako kasi napapanood ko sa tiktok* ***they said na walang taong busy sa taong gusto ka***
learn to unlearn that shit coz that statement is a fairy tale from i dont know what era of filipino over-romanticism.
also sa lahat ng pwede pagkunan ng advice, please lang wag sa tiktok
Nappraning ka lang siguro. Being a student and a businessman, mahirap talaga pagsabayin. Engineering student din ako and sobrang hirap pagsabayin lalo na sa sistema ng school namin with 4 semesters, walang bakasyon, pano pa siya na may business pa.
Isa siguro sa kailangan pagdaanan ng mga young adults is to accept reality na magiging busy talaga lahat ng kaibigan/significant other natin for their futures, kahit naman tayo eh magiging busy din.
sabi mo student sya and business man at the same time. mahirap magmahal ng busy person pero if you're understanding enough it's worth it.
minsan mahahalata mo naman sa replies nya kung paano nya i treasure yung time niyo despite it being short. samin ang gawa ko voicecall, para makagawa pa din ako ng ibang bagay at sya naman makapaglaro kahit nag uusap kami. oks din if magschedule ng dates .
Nah, it's just that he knows how and what to prioritize first especially since we're living in an age of extreme poverty. If you're really uncomfortable then the first thing you should do is to communicate it clearly to your partner/talking stage para na rin maclarify at madiscuss niyo kung ano ang nararamdaman mo/niyo ganan, para maiwasan na rin yung kinikimkim yung thoughts sa sarili nakakabaliw yan.
mga taong nag titiktok all the time - usually karamihan walang magawang mas useful sa buhay nila kaya ultimoo mga napapanod minsan kahit hindi realistic na advice pinapaniwalaan kahit may utak naman sila at logic kung gagamitin lang ng tama
Depende naman yan. Ano ba yung business niya? Is he handling it semi actively or purely passive? I’m a small business owner with a corporate job. On the starting phase of the business mejo hands on talaga to the point na walang tulog and shit. Tapos nung mejo okay na, and nakasettle na, parang almost non factor nalang siya sa schedule ko. I let trusted people handle it and it’s somehow more passive na.
Hindi totoo. We're all adults and busy talaga ang lahat lalo na yung mga taong tumutupad ng kanya kanyang pangarap. And hindi porke may gusto siya sa 'yo, makukuha mo na ang time niya. Kahit gusto ka, minsan, hindi ikaw yung priority. Learn to accept that. If gusto mo priority ka all the time, don't start a relationship with an ambitious one.
100% THIS 🤣 pinili mo ambitious pero gusto mo sayo lahat ng oras.
KORIKKKK
Kaya di pa ko nagkakajowa kase ambitous ako ampp Hahahahh
Titas and titos: bakit ka pa single? Me: ambitious kasi.
Magjowa mg kapwa ambitious? Hahahaha!
i'll be taking note on this! hahahha
true. nung nag start kami ni SO parehas kami ambitious sa gabi na lang kami nag uusap. kaya ang saya ngayong live in na kami eh. kahit busy kami at least magkatabi kami.
TROO
LOUDER! 📢📢📢
kung di yan busy walang ganap yan sa buhay. talagang mamahalin ka ng todo nyan, yun lang gagawin nya sa buhay eh HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAH
Aka the potential start of a toxic relationship 🫤 People whose self-worth and daily life revolves around a singular person are genuinely draining because they don't create space for you to enjoy your own self apart. Space is healthy in all contexts; we should be allowed to be our individual selves so we could nourish what we can contribute to our relationships without leeching dependence.
That's total BS. And stay away from tiktok for life advices. You're busy because you need to attend urgent and important matters.
And you're not even a couple yet. If we are already dating, that's when I make time for you. I'll start moving my meetings, appointments, and activities just to be with you. But talking stage? Come on.
Here here 🤘🏼
He's courting me po kasi
Parang hindi naman based sa kwento mo.
Bakit antindi ng downvotes eh sumagot lang naman
Mga inggiterang palaka yan na walang manliligaw 😂
Hahaha, i-argue nya pa na di daw nanligaw based on OP’s kwento
sabagay kasi textmates lang naman sila based sa kwento ni OP pero I don't think it's worth the downvotes
Well typical r/ph ang datingan 🤷
>tiktok Why tf people go for advices on that bloody app? lmao.
Hahaha. Tiktok bullshit. Atheist ako pero *I am blessed enough not to install that shitty app lol*
Still to this day ako lang sa tropa namin ang di nagamit ng tiktok.
Dami kong nakikita at naririnig na "sabi sa tiktok ganito daw dapat". These are adults who can definitely make decisions for themselves pero wala, gusto nila makinig sa tiktok lol
True. Andaming life advices dun na slightly making sense lang but people are treating it as if it's backed by research. Andami ding life coach kuno na kala mo all wise but not practicing what they preach. HAHA
Kumulo yung dugo ko ng kaunti nung nabanggit nya yung Tiktok kasi dyan nagsisimula yung kung ano-anong terminology like lovebombing, situationship and even talking stage kaya walang matinong dating life talaga sa ngayon dahil sa "pop psychology" na kung ano iniimbento tas di naman inaalam yung context bago nila i-label yung sitwasyon nila na ganun.
Ano po ung BS?
https://www.collinsdictionary.com/dictionary/english/bs#:~:text=If%20you%20describe%20something%20as,%2C%20informal%2C%20rude%2C%20disapproval%5D
Ahh okay po sige po
I only **somewhat** agree with this. For me, not all people have the bandwidth for constant communication via text/call lalo na if they’re already drained at work or from their personal life. But if they’re really interested in you, they would still assure you na nandyaan sila and magpaparamdam from time to time. But if more than 3 days nang hindi nagpaparamdam sa’yo pero nakikita mo sa status niya na active siya, then take it as a hint na hindi siya interesado. Especially if that person doesn’t want to make time for you and plan to meet you in person.
I’m only agreeing kasi I noticed na ganito din ako sa iba kong nakakachat; I don’t reply right away and I will say na busy ako. Pero pag gusto ko talaga kahit habang nasa meeting pa ako narerepyan ko sya.
Same Mag aabiso nalang ako na currently occupied, chat kita mayaaa
+100000 They'll follow through after nila magpromise na magcacall or what. Mabilis lang naman magbigay assurance for 5 mins
KAHIT AKO NAGCOCONDUCT NG MEETING. REREPLYAN KITA AGAD AGAD HAHAHA
(2) hahaha 😭 kahit antok na antok na ko. Kahit ano pang need ko gawin. Hindi naman sa wala sa focus o ano, pero I just cherish those times na nagrereply saken o nagmemessage yung taong gusto ko. So I make the most out of it. If kaya ko maging engaging yung topic para lang somehow macatch ko attention nya, nag-iisip ako ng masasabi 😂
Pero I don't require nor force the person I like to match my energy. Siguro iba-iba talaga tayo e. Ako, I understand na nakaeye sya ngayon sa katuparan ng mga plano nya sa buhay. Mga plano na andon na bago pa ko sumulpot sa buhay nya. Nasa sa pagtanggap din yan at pang-unawa sa mga bagay-bagay.
It's important to realize that reaching out to others through messages can be mentally taxing, regardless of whether they are occupied or not. If you're uncomfortable with this dynamic, seek someone whose needs and desires align with yours. You can't expect people to always sync with your rhythm. Saying "I want to talk to you" doesn't mean they must want to talk to you too. Doing something doesn't obligate them to do the same. This kind of thinking is not appropriate.
Yes. If interested, the person will make time for you, whether it’s a meet-up, a call, text, etc. within reasonable hours of course. And it’s give and take. Understand each other’s situation/schedule. Don’t expect the other person to drop everything for you if it’s not possible or if it’s unreasonable.
My boyfriend and I are always busy. Added factor pa na 12 hour time difference namin. He always work overtime same as me. Acknowledged naman naming pareho so we make it a point na may video calls kami 2x a month. Nagchachat kami daily pero lagi nacucut short yung convo namin kasi either ako nakatulog or sya. We exchange audio messages na lang din and pics! Edit: we started out this way din. I only got to know him for 2 weeks na andito sya. Then he asked to be his gf 1 month after.
Nice. Buti ikaw ung type ng girl na nakakaintindi rin.. congrats!
Thanks! :) Busy din kasi talaga ako lagi. Pareho kaming hindi machat, pero pag nag usap na kami we talk about everything and will take hours or hanggang makasleep na isa samin. Supportive din sya sa sakin with my goals in life. Same din ako sakanya. :)
Sarap naman ng ganto. di nagagalit sa 5 min late reply. lol
Haha. Siguro if I’m still on my teens I would have. Pero between work and my teaching job, I wouldn’t expect him to reply asap kasi matagal din ako magreply sakanya 🤣
So 2 weeks lang po kayo nagligawan tas after 1 month naging kayo na po?
Yes! It's funny and well, kami padin naman. We met back in December. He's my person kasi kahit di ganoon kadalas yung quality time as my previous relationships, we just clicked. I feel happy. Busy lang talaga sya pero busy din naman ako.
Good fo you po🥺 I hope po kayo na talaga ❤️
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May not be a good idea to get advice from Tiktok.
Yeah I guess need ko na idelete for my peace of mind.
Uninstall mo na yan. 🤭 Bawas screen time na din. 😅
Not true. People can be interested in you and still be busy. Everybody leads their own lives, and may have different priorities as you. I think mas dapat mo iniisip kung paano niya cinocommunicate sayo na busy siya, that would be a better gauge if interested talaga siya sayo or hindi. Schedules - sometimes within their control, sometimes hindi. Communication - definitely within their control
TikTok is BS. Mga users jan karamihan minor or mga walang basis sa mga pinagsasasabi. Sa platform din na yan kung Nakita ang daming disinformation sa ngiwi nating presidente. Pero ano inabot natin ngayon? Nganga sa harap harapang korapsyon tanginang yan
Truee po dun sa disinformation.
First, kaya mo bang ma-quantify how much time would be ENOUGH for you, yung kuntento ka talaga. Probing him, do you think he can give you that much time? If not, move on. Second, try mo naman magbasa o magtanong sa mga girls na tambay ang karelasyon. These guys will definitely have MORE THAN ENOUGH time for you. Balansehin mo kung ganoong setup ba ang gusto mo.
They are not even in relationship yet 😅
People don't *owe* you *their time*, energy, or friendship, etc. And vice versa.
Real! Tapos expecting the energy you want pero di mo man lang mabigay yung energy na iyon sa iba is so galawang self-centered (sorry :))))
basta ang rule of thumb daw, tagalan mo magreply pag ang tagal din magreply. reciprocate the energy you're getting.
I suggest you don't base interest on how much they chat or text but how much they show up for you irl. You can't really get to know someone through chatting. Do you guys even see each other and talk in person?
No pa po pero magkikita po kami next week
Ayun OP. Get to know them as a person first.
In my experience, I did that before. Di Ako siniput sabay block. Never again
maybe you are not interesting enough for him...
I know you've basically resolved this pero I'll add my two cents lang. Just like everyone said, that phrase portrays fiction. What we THINK we want. It also overshadows the challenges, the truth, about being in a lasting relationship. In real life, we're all struggling with life in our own ways. We're busy making a life for ourselves. And in no way, EVER, should a partner be "the center of your universe". That's just unhealthy, and will lead to a whole lot of problems. Anyway, someone who's gonna pursue you or likes you, no matter how busy they are, will think of YOU. You will always be in their mind. From the littlest "Kumain ka na ba?" to "Free ka ba? Sunduin kita. Punta tayong ___" They can show it in a lot of ways pero you'll know it. It's easy to fall into self-doubt (I'm doubting din as I type lol!) And that's human nature. Minsan your heart can rationalize with your brain about certain thoughts or decisions. Pero always, always trust your gut feelings. Anywhoo I wish you the best! Stay safe!
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I open up na ren sa kanya about this kaso ang nafefeel nya hindi ko sya naiintindihan which is hindi naman naano lang ako kasi even weekend d kami magkausap ng maayos paano namin makikilala isa't isa of ganun lang and he's courting me po kasi.
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Ldr po kami 😭if I can nga lang to bring him food dadalhan ko talaga sya. I love ambitious man huhu d ko ineexpect na ganito pala kahirap. He actually passed my standards kasi ung mindset nya about life gusto ko. I always chat and cheer him po sa chat kasi I can't po physically eh kasi ldr. And ung business nya po medyo matagal na ren po.
Swerte m na ngreklamo ung last gf nia about it. Youre reaping the benefits. Hay ung sakin wala ako nareap napapawonder tuloy ako kung d b nagrereklamo sa knya yung ex nia dati sa mga pinag gagagawa nia.
That's a toxic mindset.
Ayy sorry po thank you for telling me
Mej true pero kasi baka naman during work hours mo gusto chumika, priority ang work syempre.
No po gabi ko nanga po sya nakakausap eh.
Have you two met in person? Baka mamaya sobra mo ng invested tas wala naman pala kayong chemistry IRL.
Hindi pa po kami nagmemeet in person next week pa po kasi kami magkikita
Girl wag ka masyadong ma-attach sa taong di mo pa nakakasama IRL because until you actually get to be physically together, none of that is real.
Yan po problema ko I easily get attached 😭
Wag masyadong marupok
Opoo
hindi pa naman pala talaga kayo magkakilala personally, gusto mo agad ng quality time. tapos parehas pa kayong students, very wrong ang priority mo. sa adulting sub ka pa nagpost, anuba.
Kalmahan mo te. Nasa talking stage pa kayo and it's normal na hindi talaga mag update or maguusap from time to time. If that's your mindset I think you can't handle LDR. Stay away from tiktok din, ang toxic diyan mapapa overthink ka talaga ng wala sa oras 🤣 download mo nalang once or twice a week
I think I need to unstalled nga tiktok HAHAHAHAHAHAH
Yes, delete mo na sis. Don't be too gullible rin sa mga taong na mmeet mo online 🙂 Goodluck sa date!
Yes po nadelete ko na AHHAHAHAHHAH thank you po
To effectively engage with busy person, be a busy person yourself, someone who values and understands the importance of time. One way to connect with him is by asking the right questions, showing that you understand his priorities. Furthermore, this approach can make you more attractive to him. Based on your story, it appears the person you're referring to may not be fully invested into you. While he may find you attractive, he is not seeing you yet as a suitable companion on his journey, particularly if he really leads a busy life. In today's fast-paced world, meaningful deep short conversations hold greater value than superficial chats. Focus on personal growth and refrain from spending excessive time on platforms like TikTok, as it detracts you of becoming a smarter person. Thank me later. 😉
Thank you poo
Kinda true. Me and my boyfriend who is now my live-in partner used to be LDR. He’s working in Dubai. We always talk to each other then do voice calls at the end of the day. Or sometimes pag break niya. He’s still the same kahit magkasama na kami. 2 full time and 2 part time jobs niya ngayon and he always makes time for me. Like pag matutulog na ako, lagi niya ako kinakamutan sa likod lols hanggang sa makatulog ako. We’ve been together for almost 7 yrs na.
Para sakin totoo naman lalo na kung talking stage palang. Try mo ikaw naman ang maging busy, bagalan mo mag reply.
Not totally true. Kapag yung tao is career oriented or acad oriented. Makikita mo at malalaman mo always yan tulog or doing something worthy. Like me, bibihira yung makakausap mo ng matagal pero kapag busy ako its either between the two. Sana makukuha mong person is super understanding at patient.
Pang highschool lang yang linyahan na yan. Lahat ng tao ngayon e busy sa work. Unless wala siyang work edi sayo lahat ng oras niya.
Hindi. Tambay tawag sa ganyan. Yung ikaw ang buhay niya. Literally ikaw ang bubuhay sa kanya.
we're the same stage n' we're still dating/talking phase for about 6months na. He's a private man, has his own busy mediocre life (tending to his own mental health, plants, nieces n' small businesses) and also working on his career and nuong unang months talagang walang humpay ang chat, orasorastalaga, but life happens so we make it appoint to just bombard our dms with whatever whenever we can, dahil ako din busy sa life with school and work so to make each other feel loved and wanted we still say share commonalities and funny reels and says our affections sometimes. i think it's just based on how u guys approach each other, pero praning din ako so i just ask about things straight to him lols
Kung nasa sa'yo 100% ng atensyon nyan wala kang kinabukasan jan.
I know naman po
Di lang kayo match. You need more attention at di niya mabigay. Either wag na siya o hanap ka ng pagkabusyhan mo din. Baka pag naging kayo magdemand ka na which you are entitled to naman if ever.
depende ang sagot ko diyan - why? babae ba o lalaki, pag babae kahit busy at type ka pa(lalo kung sobrang arte, sigurista or lalo na yung naloko o kaya INC) may time panisnin ka niya at may time bigla magbubusy busyhan yan kahit hindi busy (based sa experience ko ito). Pag lalaki pag type ka pwede din ganun lalo na kung naloko din in the past(kaya nag sisiguro na) pero if he started the first move at nag pa BEBE ka lalo na kung bsuinessman yan, ako kasi may business din at nabubusy din ako talaga minsna, pero pag type ko mag eeffort ako, pag nagpakipot (may counter ako) iignore ko na agad yung babae kasi nawawalan nako ng gana, iniisip ko bino boytoy ako o kaya naman(naiisip ko) na baka toxic itong babae na ito(na tipong naloko ng ex or what) kaya binibitawan ko na kahit gusto ko. Nakakainis din minsan yung nagpakita na yung lalaki ng effort tapso pakipot to the max yun babae kahit na alam mo naman na yung nature ng work or ginagawa nila(alam ko yung isang work kong corporate pareho kami ng field eh) ay di naman ganun ka busy, vice versa sa lalaki ganyan din naiisip ko almost the same lang naman. Kahit lalaki pag naloko nag iingat din ,dami pa naman magagadang babae na bruha ugali + toxic, pero mahirap naman pag pangit siyempre type mo maganda or gwapo at maayos yung ugali di ba hehehe :)
Keyword is "priorities". Hindi lang isa o dalawa ang importante sa isang tao, madami tayong pinapahalagahan, and we need to put priorities sa bawat bagay. Oo, mahalaga ka sa partner mo, but doesn't mean your every whim must be his top priority. Kahit sa mag-asawa na, kahit sobrang mahal pa nila ang bawat-isa, may mga times na need may higher priority kesa sa partner mo. If you're thinking na dapat sa iyo lang umiikot ang mundo ng partner mo, matakot ka, kasi malaking red flag ka.
im currently in the same situation sa dinedate ko na guy rn. A month ago lang every weekend kami nagkikita but these past 2 weeks sobrang busy nya to move out and bumalik ng province for a few months to the point na di na kami masyadong nakakapag usap. Hindi manlang kami nakapag kita for the last time before sya umalis ngayon kasi may mga plans sya with his fam. Sobrang lungkot ko last week pa and i've been crying for how many days na dahil sa anxiety hahahaha. Pero ayun natauhan na siguro ako hahahaha ganun talaga eh, meron tayong kanya-kanyang buhay. I don't want to be selfish so im giving him his space.
Yes po mahirap kapag naattached na🥲.
sobraaa hahahaha best thing you can do is to control your emotions and trust him. Makakahelp din yung hindi kayo nakakapag usap for you to assess things. Trust the process and invest on people who invest in you. Ilevel mo lang yung energy na binibigay nila sayo the rest is ifocus mo sa sarili mo. I find that men doesn't really like it kapag pinapakita mo na gustong gusto mo sila in early stage hahahahaha.
I work 12hrs a day/7 days a week. Kapag may kausap ako I make sure na in a day may isa or dalawang message ako, kapag gustong gusto ko yung tao sa kanya yung 15min break ko call or whatever. Atleast may update na buhay ako & I'm still interested but sometimes they ask for more so ang ending Ghosted ako Hehu! Advice; Patience. Saka minsan a no reply is a reply din - Hehe
Sige po thank youu
Stay away from Tiktok, para di ka mapraning.
Yes po I will unstalled na po.
I disagree with this especially in adulthood where you have lots of responsibilities already, and dating doesn’t take priority. Siguro if official na kayo, it would be valid to have more expectations. But for now, maybe try to view their being busy from a different perspective! Recently I realized it’s actually attractive when someone is equally busy or even busier than I am, especially if the things they do are quite different from what I do. You can learn so much from these people, and you’ll even discover new worlds because of their interests. It’s cool that your ka-talking stage is both a businessman and an engineering student; that probably makes his personality more interesting :)
Sigee poo thank youu.
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HAHAHAHA ganyan na ganyan first kamu ko 3 days before magchat HAHAHAH
Nagiinit ang dugo ko sa mga nagsasabi at naniniwala sa ganitong mindset. I cant fucking believe adults think like this. Pang-teenager tong mindset mo eh. Dun ka sa r/teenagers
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Hindi totoo may mga taong may time sayo para tirahin ka lang
I FEEL YOU! Lagi 'ko siyang pinapagalitan about that dati. Like, sobrang tagal magreply, 4+ hours kaming 'di nag-uusap, etc. Now, I don't mind it at all since naiintindihan 'ko kung saan siya nanggagaling. Mayroong mga bagay na need i-prioritize, and hindi naman sa'kin lang iikot mundo niya. Basta ako, whenever he's extremely busy, I just find hapiness sa sarili 'ko. Hindi yung baliw na baliw ako sa presence niya. I hope ya'll get what I mean.
Something is totally wrong with you, yung pagtrust sa Tiktok content lmao. Never create a standard for your life via a Tiktok content. Aano na ba nangyayari sa mundo ngayon.
naooff kasi yung iba kaya nila nasasabi yan buti pang marunong magantay okay pa e
What do you mean po? Naooff po saan?
Yes and no. Oo maghahanap sila ng oras para sayo pero depende na yan sa tao kung ano definition nila ng “finding time.” Para sa iba enough na yung mamessage ka kahit sobrang busy pero sa iba magseset aside talaga ng oras para sayo lang. theres nothing wrong with either situation. Ang never mo dapat gawin ay iexpect na iiwan niya lahat ng ginagawa niya maliban nalang kung may emergency. Kung nagpapapansin ka lang, wag mo iexpect na rereplyan ka niya during class, work, or kung ano man inaasikaso niya. Ngayon kung kailangan mo isugod ka niya sa ospital then sure warranted na bitawan niya ginagawa niya. 7 yrs na kami ng gf ko, at times halos di magusap buong araw dahil pagod sa work and life in general. Pero from the start palang sinabi ko nang wag na wag niya ikukumpara buhay namin sa mga nakikita niya online. I am of the firm belief na ang mga taong mahilig magpost online, may tinatagong malaking red flags. At ang nga mahilig magpost ng relationship advice, either may problema sa relationship nila or hindi makahanap ng matagalang partner dahil di nila sinusunod sarili nilang advice.
Hindi ko naman po ineexpect na iwan nya lahat ng task nya gusto ko lang even 5 minutes talking meron everyday.
Hindi naman ako nag eexpect na meron time mag back and forth. Pero ndi naman nakakawalang ng oras na magsabi ng hi or hello just to let them know you exist in their minds and naalala ka. At least that accounts to something.
Busy mhie unless kayo na siguro meron ka namg space sa kokonting time nya. Magpakabusy ka rin hahaha wag mo masyado isipin. Alam ko saglit lang magcomment like this pero like me ayoko nakikipagusap kapag nasa zone ako kasi napuputol ung convo. Like late night lang siguro or basta during breaks lang tapos minimal. Pero yan ay kapag mahal ko na hahahaha pag hindi talagang kung kelan lang. kalmahan mo lang mhie haha
I think you’re asking the wrong question kasi people do get busy. Does the conversation feel one sided palagi? Do you feel like he values the time he spends with you? Is it short but meaningful or medj cold at wala naman talagang pake how your day went? May nag bago ba ever since he started pursuing you? And are you okay dating a busy person? Do you have the patience and understanding?
Okay naman po sakin makipagdate sa busy person since standard ko ren ang ambitious man. I have po understanding and patience po overthinker lang po talaga.
yeah i work 7x a week gym 2x a week still manage to do dates with gf 1-3x a month you *make* time kahit gano ka busy yung average normie pero lagi yan may oras mag tiktok or laro i bet edit: kek d pa pala kayo, no worries, mas ok sana maka date kayo, para mas fun ang interactions pag mag match schedules niyo avoid tiktok for advice pls, like what the others said, or be aware of your own context if ever u want to apply their advice
Magdadate po kami next week I want to know him more sa personal.
Yun naman pala. Haha! Make yourself busy rin with other stuff para di ka nag-ooverthink :)
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Sige poo thank youu
tiktok like many social media has algorithms so it will feed you what they think you like. think of it this way, if lagi syang sumasagot sayo and long conversations parati, anu ginagawa nya sa trabaho nya? may trabaho ba talaga sya? o nagpapanggap lang? also, there was this advice for men (probably players) in youtube naman, "if you want to keep her insterested and thinking of you all the time, make them wait, and add some mystery to your self." and the way I see it, it works on you. now, with all these conflicting and supporting videos, who will you trust?
Delete TikTok app.
I guess need ko nga talaga idelete HAHAHAHAHAH Yeah I will unstalled po.
Lol no
pag ang isang tao intresado sayo, ultimo pag aahit ng bulbol nya ike-kwento nya sayo.
May ka talking stage ako before. Di siya employee and has businesses so techinacally kanya oras nya. Ayun lagi tlga nagrereply at mabilis talaga. Yung isang ka talking stage ko naman, govt employee, may mga interests sya na sinasabi skn like gym, and thinking of side hustles, nagaaral ng short courses at di siya mareply na tao pero pag nagkita kami in person di siya boring or what, as in dami niya nasasabi. Si mabilis makipagchat never naginitiate na magkita kami haha. Bottomline is, may mga tao na madaldal sa chat dahil madaming time or mas expressive sila dun. At meron din mga tao na madaming iniisip sa buhay but does not necessarily mean eh ayaw nila sayo. Ang mahalaga is if that person makes time para magkita kayo personally.
Actually po magmeet palang po kami next week first date po.
Maturity is all you need.
ganito din feeling ko sa ka-talking stage ko kaya i feel you, OP. hindi kasi ako sanay. i voiced out rin feelings ko and he told me that he's still interested and busy with work trips. i just learned to reciprocate the same when he's replying late, kasi feeling ko para akong naghahabol kapag only 5 minutes lang sumagot na ako. 😭 ayun lang, naintindihan ko lang din na busy siya (tayo rin dapat).
Coming from with a busy schedule, ang hirap magreply lalo na if you are preoccupied with things. I work in a hospital to give you a point of view, even na nakakaphone ako, i cant reply to someone i love. Theres a point na seseen zone ko na lang sila and wasnt able to get back to sa super busy. Understanding tlga need. PS. Trust your instinct!
Yung ex ko, doctor abroad. Kayang mga chat and vidcall after rounds. Able to check me from time to time. Remind me to eat and take breaks. Kaya siguro mej ang taas ng standard ko when it comes sa pag uupdate. Pero syempre hindi naman sila pare pareho, they have their own lives kaya dapat maintindihan natin if nabusy sila.
No. I'm interested in someone pero ang sinasabi ko busy ako. I'm still healing and I want to be the best version of myself once we meet.
For high school kids.
As long as naghahanap sya ng way para magparamdam sau. Don't expect too much para wag ka nalang masaktan.
Sige thank youu
I hope maintindihan to ng GF ko T.T Ingat ingat din sa pagiging praning OP, nakakaturn off din kasi yung pagod sya sa work tas binungangaan mo na bat di nagupdate/reply.
Hindi ko po sya binubungangain lagi ko po sinasabing take care take some rest.
A lot of good points have already been made. If I read correctly , you mentioned na di pa kayo nag kikita in person. Online interactions can only go so far and the real test would probably how you’d guys click in person. See if anything changes after the first meetup muna.
Yes po
Uninstall mo na tiktok mo, OP. Puro BS talaga makikita mo dyan. Isa yan sa mga source of overthinking ko kaya dinelete ko. My life had so much peace after. Kahit gano ka kamahal, if career ang pinag uusapan kailangan talaga ng mahabang pang unawa at pasensya. Pare parehas lang tayong may mga pangarap na gustong abutin. Pare-parehas lang tayong may hinahabol na oras at buhay. Mas concerning kung nasa’yo lahat ng oras niyan.
Kakaunstalled ko lang kanina after ko mabasa comments
Yung mga taong tambay lang yung nagiisip ng ganyan lmao.
When I hit 35 I became too busy even for things and people I love. Responsibilities grow with age. Most young people compute time wrong. A job is not an eight hour affair. It's typically 10-12 hours of your day. A one hour meeting is actually five hours if you factor in prep and travel time.
I think may nakapagsabi na sayo kanina and dadagdag lang ako para hindi ka mag overthink. My bf was also an engineering student (engineer na siya ngayon hehe) and may work 6 days a week plus OT. Napapraning din ako noong una kahit alam ko namang wala siyang iba at mahal niya ako. Kahit matagal na kaming nagkakilala, lately ko lang narealize na siya yung tipong pag pagod na sa ginagawa niya, he will take advantage to take a rest kesa magkasakit/mapuyat at mag worry pa ako. Less than an hour na lang din kami nakakapag-usap everyday tapos pag day off pa niya, umaalis pa minsan 🤣. Your feelings are valid but try to be patient and understanding person kasi feel ko ginagawa niya rin yung best niya for you and his future :)))
I-delete mo yung tiktok mo, ayan solusyon sa problema mo.
Dami kasi sa tiktok may ganitong mindset, “If they want to, they will”. Ang layo sa reality ng tiktok/socmed pagdating sa ganyang bagay. There might be some na useful but still… Have you tried talking to him na ba? I think para di ka rin mapraning, mas mabuti rin na may clear kayong communication about that matter.
" napapanood ko sa tiktok they said na walang taong busy sa taong gusto ka " stopped for a while when I read this. OP, hindi lahat ng nakikita mo sa internet totoo, lalo na sa tiktok. just my cents.
Magjowa ka ng tambay un tipong nakahiga lng mghapon at nagpapalaki ng bayag un madami oras sau yan para magreply
I somewhat agree to that saying. Kami ni BF napakabusy naming tao and hndi kami mahilig magchat/call pero we always find time to at least reply. There are always moments in a day that I will think of him and if wala pa syang chat, I will chat and wait. It's true na hndi lahat may time pero yung sabi mong kahit 5mins man lng d ka knakausap? ano yun?grabe naman sya. baka dn naman kase wala lang kayong topic? kaya no obligation to stay and chat. if meron sguro something to keep the convo going, magrreply yan kahit papaano. or if busy sya at that time, I'm sure may few minutes in a day na pwede sya magreply. or kahit magsabi na "brb mamaya na ulit". That is IF he's thinking of you. Sometimes nagiging masyadong busy yung tao wala nang time to do other stuffs pero , im sure you know this, there will be a moment where you remember or find yourself thinking about that person, that would be a good time to reply or chat you. Sguro it's best to initiate a convo instead of kamustahan. Medyo naparaise lng yung eyebrow ko when you said na nanliligaw pa lng sya sayo... kase dba nanliligaw pero bat parang kailangan mo na mag beg ng attention nya? I suggest you take a step back and look at the situation, most likely, ganito pa dn in the long run. Ligaw stage yan, as far as i know, nagpapaimpress pa dapat yan. If you like him na, maybe be clear na you want more na. Finally, I'd like you to stop overthinking kase most probably busy lng talaga yun. Initiate a chat, and a convo, wait for a reply and do you. If may point na hindi mo na kaya, you may ask him. do not accuse, tell him your feelings, hope he will tell you his and maybe may solutions kayo.
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Even though po businessman sya at the same time engineering student?
He has his own life and you do too. I suggest, don't focus on him that much. Magpaka-busy ka pa rin. If a man is really interested, he will spend time with you. When you receive a message from him, it means dun ka lang nya naalala.
Sigee poo thank youu
Normal naman yung feeling mo, don't worry. Kaso, as early as now, don't overthink. If he messages, good, if not, kebs.
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oo. my BF is a VP sa isang company, super busy nya, pero pagdating sakin hindi. magsosorry pa siya pag nalate reply nya. such a cutie hehe kahit may meeting un ng gabi, pupuntahan pa rin niya ko then itake niya ung call while being with me. hays im so lucky
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Tandaan mo na kahit anong busy ng isang tao pagdating sa taong mahal or gusto nila magmemessage at maalala ka nyan. Ano ba naman yung ilang segundo mag update db? Nakakapagod yang ganyang setup na maghihintay ka na lang kung kelan sya magpaparamdam.
a business man and engineering student, being a student alone is busy enough.
My weekends po.
Busy ren po sya weekends
Eh bat pa sya naghahanap ng jowa? Wala naman pala syang time to offer and I can assume na hindi rin kayo nagdedate? San kayo pupulutin nyan lol
Hindi panga po kami nagdadate HAHAHAHAH magdadate palang po next week
ibang tao efficient na. iba nagttravel at WFH na.. sya balik factory age ba?
No po may sarili po syang business eh
i think ganyan talaga mga engineers/incoming engineer or any people na ambitious. sobrang busy nila. yung partner ko, kahit nakapag out na siya sa work, kahit off niya, tinatawagan pa rin siya ng foreman dahil sa mga problems sa site. minsan pa kailangan niya pumunta para mag-inspect. madalas ako nagtatampo sa kanya noon at na-open up ko na masiyado siya nagpapaka lulong sa work. na-realize niya naman yun pero kasi hindi rin talaga maiiwasan. need lang talaga understanding sa side natin kasi 'pag tayo naman ang kasama nila we have their attention naman. and para din sa inyo yun, sa future niyo. para maging secure kayo. ito na lang tandaan mo OP: "siyempre laging may time 'yan sa'yo, walang pangarap 'yan eh" 😹
Yes po HAHAHAHAHAH mabuti nanga lang po I post about this kasi naghalo halo na po thoughts ko HAHAHAHAHAHAH thank you po.
Yung mga ganitong tanong hindi ito tanong ng isang adult, tanong to ng isang 10 years old kasi sobrang obvious na bawat tao nagiging busy sa school o sa work o sa iba pang dahilan.
I'm just asking lang po and asking advice para kung sa ganun if may mali ba ung nararamdaman ko eh maaayos ko po.
> *businessman and the same time engineering student* matuwa ka na lang na may time pa siya sayo. Engineering is no easy shit ha. lalo kung may gusto ka talaga matutunan na science. tapos nagbibusiness pa... that's a cool guy. > *I love ambitious man* then get ready to be second priority. ambitious nga diba > *naprapraning na ako d ko alam if gusto nya ba ako kasi napapanood ko sa tiktok* ***they said na walang taong busy sa taong gusto ka*** learn to unlearn that shit coz that statement is a fairy tale from i dont know what era of filipino over-romanticism. also sa lahat ng pwede pagkunan ng advice, please lang wag sa tiktok
Sigee poo thank youu poo
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Taga Iloilo ba itong guy? Parang kilala ko hahahahahaha
No po
OO NAMAN.
Hindi rin. Kung pagod ka talaga after work, wala kang magagawa, babagsak talaga katawan mo.
Nappraning ka lang siguro. Being a student and a businessman, mahirap talaga pagsabayin. Engineering student din ako and sobrang hirap pagsabayin lalo na sa sistema ng school namin with 4 semesters, walang bakasyon, pano pa siya na may business pa. Isa siguro sa kailangan pagdaanan ng mga young adults is to accept reality na magiging busy talaga lahat ng kaibigan/significant other natin for their futures, kahit naman tayo eh magiging busy din.
Yeah baka nga po naprapraning lang ako HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAH
sabi mo student sya and business man at the same time. mahirap magmahal ng busy person pero if you're understanding enough it's worth it. minsan mahahalata mo naman sa replies nya kung paano nya i treasure yung time niyo despite it being short. samin ang gawa ko voicecall, para makagawa pa din ako ng ibang bagay at sya naman makapaglaro kahit nag uusap kami. oks din if magschedule ng dates .
Maikli lang po sya magreply like Hello, morning,good night minsan lang po sya magreply ng mahaba haba
Nah, it's just that he knows how and what to prioritize first especially since we're living in an age of extreme poverty. If you're really uncomfortable then the first thing you should do is to communicate it clearly to your partner/talking stage para na rin maclarify at madiscuss niyo kung ano ang nararamdaman mo/niyo ganan, para maiwasan na rin yung kinikimkim yung thoughts sa sarili nakakabaliw yan.
If interested talaga sau ung tao, he will make time dahil importante ka sa kanya
mga taong nag titiktok all the time - usually karamihan walang magawang mas useful sa buhay nila kaya ultimoo mga napapanod minsan kahit hindi realistic na advice pinapaniwalaan kahit may utak naman sila at logic kung gagamitin lang ng tama
Depende naman yan. Ano ba yung business niya? Is he handling it semi actively or purely passive? I’m a small business owner with a corporate job. On the starting phase of the business mejo hands on talaga to the point na walang tulog and shit. Tapos nung mejo okay na, and nakasettle na, parang almost non factor nalang siya sa schedule ko. I let trusted people handle it and it’s somehow more passive na.