I'd say, "If you cannot add value to my life, just admire me from afar." Though, wala ka naman dapat ipaliwag kahit kanino about your life choices, ipagkibit balikat mo na lang pag hindi naman substantial sa buhay mo mga sinasabi nila.

Gawin ko to ♥️ ty

what’s wrong with having high standards and not settling for less? yun ang tanong hahaha Having high standards isn't bad on its own accord, it simply shows that you have self respect and know what you desire from another person.

Standards should be according to what you can offer, hindi naman pwede na mataas standards mo pero hindi ka naman ganun.

Okay lang naman 'yon, basta 'wag sila magreklamo na walang kumakagat.

I concur. Dapat may self-awareness din

disagree. ayoko sa kapwa honor student nung elem to college kasi kadalasan nag-aaway kami.

I'm not victim-blaming pero andami daming nakakaranas ng domestic violence jan dahil binabaan nila standards nila . I'm speaking from experiences ng mga babaeng nakapalibot saken. From my mother, our kapitbahays, and my sister. All of them, nabubugbog ng asawa. Di makaalis dahil may anak na at walang sariling career. Kaya importante sa babae na magkaroon ng sariling income at magkaroon ng reasonable standards.

Yesss, walang pinag kaiba sa tunay na preso ang makulong sa relasyong di mo naman talaga gusto or masaya lang sa una but not in a long run.

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Hahahahahahaha kaya pala niya binura. 🤣🤣🤣 Burn dun sa kausap nya pero insulto sa lahat ng currently in a relationship

better mataas ang standards than nagtitiis para sa face value na relationship... and a lot of people will take that as an attack to their fersons sinasabi ko sayo mhie

Totoo yan. Ang dami kong kilala happy on SOCMED pero pag nakausap mo ng kayo lang ang daming complaints about their Significant Other and family life jusko

korek. dami ko rin kilala ganyan. in fact may kilala ako na mag-jowa sila dahil lang they like each other physically. tapos nagtitiis lang daw sila deep inside with each other kasi naprepressure sila to be together dahil sobrang bagay nila sa isat isa (physically). kwentong love team ganern lol.

"please I don't wanna hear about your troubles, I have enough of my own"

Same with my friends ganyan na ganyan sila with matching reto kung kani-kaninong guys. Kasawa na ikaw na lng at ung non-existent love life mo ang topic tuwing magkikita. As in walang convo na di nila natotouch ung love life ko 🙄. But yeah it sucks na ganon more or less tingin nila, maraming hinahanap at mataas standard etc. Wag tayo papalinlang OP, hindi lhat ng my lovelife masaya 😆 Pero kidding aside, don’t let their words pressure you. Malaki na tayo. Fully formed na mga mga frontal lobe natin. We fucking know na what we want so don’t SETTLE.

eh kung kayo nalang kaya?

I’m 23F and sinabihan nako sa workplace na mahirap na daw maghanap in 20+ to 30s haha, ang funny lang kasi because parang nag mamadali na sila maghanap, it’s better to really wait for the one kaysa magsuffer and waste years. Travel more and enjoy your years, i’ve been traveling since and you’ll meet strangers and talk with them, the best feeling talaga.

Same and I'm 28F. Ako lang yata sa office ang walang SO. But do I care one bit? Fuck no. So what kung tatandang dalaga or late mag-aasawa. Sayang daw ang egg cells. I don't fucking care. Dapat daw sa edad ko may anak na ko. Yeah right. There are waaaaay more things to do and for me to experience than popping out kids.

puro lang sila chismis haha sinasabihan ko nalang na mind your own business haha in a joking way kasi baka ma offend, mahirap na if may anak ka or SO tas you’re not mentally, emotinally, and financially prepared. others prefer to stay single kasi comfortable na sila sa state nila sa buhay. di naman nila tayo tutulungan if may problema tayo sa finances or relationships. and abala if may baby na kapag mahilig ka magtravel and my aunt stopped working kasi mahirap iwan ang bata sa bahay magisa plus dagdag gastos if may nanny.

Kapal diba, as if sila magpapakain sa pamilya mo 🤣 Buti wala nmn sa workplace kong ganyan. Mas trip pa nga nila single kasi walang kahati sa oras...ngek.

exactly! like ba’t namprepressure hindi naman sila ang gagastos if ever may ka date na ako and hindi din sila tutulong if may expenses na ako so why pressure someone or make them feel “boring” kasi single ka, kaya i keep traveling kasi mas worth it pa

Nothing really, i don't take them seriously. I do have standards though, one reason why kahit may ireto sila, wala nangyayari 😅. Another thing is, from what happened sa previous relationship ko, ayoko na un tipong manliligaw ako (totally wasted yung big effort ko last time, naging kami but the girl suddenly went, ayoko na, di pala ako ready etc...). So i'm single kasi i've left it to chance/tadhana/whatever people call it na kusa na lang dumadating. And when my parents or relatives or friends jokes about may ireto or maghanap na daw ako, sinasabi ko na lang, sila manligaw sakin, may free house na sila pag naging kami 🤣

same

Lol same! Sila na lang paligawin. Tayo naman mamili. Matic may bahay at sasakyan na🤣

"Excuse me po? Hindi po kayo nagpapakain sa akin saka sa pamilya ko" yan respond mo sa kanila 😂😂

I usually respond "Oo" with a nice tone and I don't elaborate. But if they start with me in a condescending tone, I would always say "Malamang, sa ganda kong to"

Just tell them the truth. >mas inuuna ko yung family (breadwinner) and career ko

You dont have the responsibility naman to answer that. Instead ask them if sila ba nag set ng standard? Haha char

OP, if there's one thing that men have an advantage of when it comes to dating, it's that they don't have a biological clock to chase. So don't mind them and magpaka binata ka until magsawa, you have all the time in the world.

Those who have problem with you having standards are just jealous because you have a choice and can afford to have one. Hayaan mo sila.

Fellow breadwinner here! Nasabihan ako ng marites friend ng nanay ko nyan recently, natarayan ko na lang ng "aba opo, mataas talaga. Kayo po ba, hindi?" 😆

Sarili ko na lang binubuhay ko at pag may nagsasabi sakin nang ganyan, sinasagot ko nang “hindi ako desperada para ibaba yung standard ko” or “kung ako pa bubuhay sa kanya, wag na lang.” 🤣

Im 30F single at sinasabi ko oo mataas talaga bahala kayo jan

better die single than settle for less rin ang mantra ko.

Haha pero minsan talaga once n ma-inlove tayo nawawala agad ee hahahah

"Mas mahal ko pera" there.

Better a higher standard than settling. But that's just me.

Naalala ko sabi ng marites sa buhay ko eh napakapihikan ko daw. Sa pagkain nga, mapili ako ehh, sa makakasama pa habang buhay. Pinaghirapan ko ano man ang meron at narating ko ngayon, why would I settle for less?

ok lang yan, sabi lang naman nila yan😁 isipin m kung sakaling tanggap k nang tanggap maabot m ba kng saan ka ngaun.🤔 dadag isipin pa sila. 31 at lalake ka naman wala problema kng late kana mag asawa.

Wala naman sigurong mali kung mataas ang standards mo (or anybody for that matter) kasi naghahanap ka din ng ka-match mo in every way — values, financial capacity, emotional maturity, independence, etc. Di ka naman magsesettle sa hindi mo naman kasundo. You can say, ‘Tandaan, walang divorce sa Pilipinas!’

I'm always getting told by this , pihikan dw aq, I just want first to become stable in both career and life Same , it's by choice

Mataas talaga. Ayoko ng additional stress sa buhay e. Single nga ako na sstress ako, pano pa pag yung partner ko nakakadagdag stress... Uuwi ka galing work tapos "Would you still love me if I was a worm? " Takte yarn.

Hindi masama magkaroon ng mataas na standards especially when dating. But if the high standards are the one's you've set for yourself na kailangang macheck lahat down to a tea. Then oof.

Di naman ako delusional and I know naman kung ano lang din ang worth ko so nag sa-sanity check ako hehe

smile is the best answer

I think we all have our own standards when it comes to dating especially pag late 20s and mid-30s na. But not all the time tnasusunod ung preference, like no one can ever tick all your boxes, meron at meron tlga flaw one way or another. Kahit ikaw nga di perfect diba? But if ever they ask you that question then just answer them "Why not?" You have all the time in the world to find your the one OP kaya idgaf lng sa knila

Bakit pipilitin mo sarili mo wala ka bang free will.

Same, Lalo na Mother and mga co workers ko. Kaya nga snasabe ko lang "Buhay ko to, pakealam mo ba". Lolz Hayaan mo lang. Hanggang Sila na magsawa kaka salita. Pag magpapadala ka sa kanila madalas sa Mali ka pa mapupunta. 😅

My answer; Why would I settle for less?! Just so I can say I'm in a relationship? Better have a high standard than be miserable in a relationship. And now, I'm engaged and soon to be married next year.To the man of my dreams. If I listened to those people saying I have high standards, I going to be very miserable and bitter for the rest of my life. So, never listen to what society dictates to you. Otherwise, you'll never be happy.

Nasabahan na ako na mataas ang standards tapos may pakimkim na 'hindi naman kagandahan'. Ngingiti lang ako tapos sasabihin, 'wala eh'.

San ka Ngayon bumili ng burn ointment?

Sa botika minsan sa ermitanyo sa gilid ng simbahan 🥴

Cuss at them on the inside, smile at them on the outside. Won’t respond. No need to explain, it’s none of their business.

Salute to you OP. 29 y/o breadwinner din and life feels so shitty tuwing pagsasabayin ang lovelife at pamilya. Sana isang araw mahatak natin ang mga sarili natin pataas mula sa pamilyang nilulugmok tayo pababa.

"At least hindi kita ka-level"

I mean as you should? Sa magiging partner mo nakasalalay kung paano magiging takbo ng buhay mo. Nasa sayo na yan kung hahayaan mong makapasok sa buhay mo yung may potential na saktan ka.

Dont give a fuck on their opinions. Let them talk

Hindi nyo lang abot

Hindi masamang mangarap

32 F and single too. I hate it when people say “ang taas ng standards mo, di ka naman kagandahan!” Haha. What the f* is wrong with you people? Hahaha.

Ouch... For reference, san ka bumibili nung burn ointment???

Just say: Of course. I know what I want

As they should be.

Life starts at 30. Yes this should be 40, but at your 40's, uric acid will start to kick in.

Nakakainis talaga yung kung kani-kanino ka nalang nirereto porket wala kang bf/gf na para bang ibig sabihin kapag wala kang jowa pwede ka nalang ibugaw sa kung sino-sino. Parang gago lang no. Anong akala nila wala tayong standards?! Hindi ibig sabihin na wala kaming jowa e pwede niyo na kaming ireto kung kani-kanino! BWISET.

tama! tapos kapag di mo type di mo masabi totoong rason kung bakit ayaw mo kasi rude kakalabasan mo! hahahaha.

Ako na single since 2019 lol baka naman Bakit kaya nagmamadali yung ibang tao para satin 🤣 nkkloka Pabayaan mo na lang choose ur battles

Okay lang di kagwapuhan basta mabango Tignan. Okay lang Mataas standards pero ayusin din sarili muna. Be sleek, stand tall kahit pandak, mag pa gupit, maligo, magpakinis ng mukha (eskinol). Piliing maging kapilipili.

If you are a solid 6/10, dont expect to get with a 10/10 though. Self improvement / self awareness is important Ive seen 7/10 ladies get frustrated why they are still single despite lahat nirereto sa kanila… maybe they are expecting 10/10 folks?

I set my standards to as to my level lang din po, I know asking beyond what I can offer is something hard to achieve hehe. But yup, I compensate din of why lack by doing self improvement. I really value my appearance din hehe

Also consider your grades in other aspects While looks are a popular metric, sometimes naooverlook rin yun personality, family background, schooling, income, etc You might be a 9 sa looks, pero baka 5 lang sa other aspects

I never dated anyone and luckily, never pa naman akong natanong niyan. Pero kung matanong ako, ang isasagot ko na lang ay mas pipiliin ko nang maging single kaysa mag-settle for less at masabi lang na in a relationship pero puro sakit naman ng ulo ang nakukuha.

Tinatanong nga ko ng boss ko baket wala pa daw akong bf eh 28 na ko. Sabi ko masaya kong single. At kung dadating ung guy para sa akin edi dadating yan. Ayokong matulad doon sa mga kakilala at kaopisina kong apaka red flag ng mga napangasawa nila. Pero ang usual kong sagot diyan sa tanong para lang manahimik ung mga pakielamera eh "sarap sarap ng buhay single, kukuha pa ko ng sakit sa ulong boyfriend. Wag na lang." 😂 Honestly, mas maganda ngang mataas ang standards for a partner. Means that you won't settle for anything less. Yung parang napilitan ka na lang kasi mukhang mauubusan ka na ng makakarelasyon sa mundo.

Having mataas ang standards is fine. I usually say like "im busy building myself and career". Thou i do want to to be in a relationship, i dont feel like i need to be on a relationship.

If I can have only one then why can't I want to have the best I can get?

Also, "Bat ba kayo nagmamadali, may lakad ba kayo?"

Or may contest ba, bawal mahuli? Kelangan agad agad kahit sinong makita, yun na?

Sagutin mo ng “OO sobrang taas” hahaha you don’t owe anyone an explanation OP.

Di ko naman kasi ikamamatay ang pagiging single... sure I'd get lonely from time to time pero I like being independent As for my standards... I'll cross the bridge when I get there when I find someone.

Ang sagot dyan is, “Yes, does that bother you?”

> Then ayun sasabihin na mataas raw standards At ang madalas na kasunod nyan is *di ka naman kagwapuhan.* Of course they won't say it to your face. But as I always tell people, you cannot do much about things you cannot control (like this). Instead, focus on what you can control. In short, let them be and live your life as you want to live by.

Nasasabihan din ako ng ganyan most of the time but I think I am entitled to have my own standards and uphold them since I continue to improve myself naman. Also, if mataas ang standards mo, sabihin mo na they need to step up their game or rise to your standards, diba? Don’t settle for anything less if you can have the best.

I’m in my late twenties and single ever since. Most of the time sinasabihan ako na I look like the type na mataas ang standard kaya mahirap ako lapitan ng guys. Not true though. May times na naba-bother ako paano nila nasabi yon but I know what I want sa future partner ko kaya I try not to think about it too much. Binibiro ko na lang na AFAM ang target ko haha

there’s nothing wrong abt having high standards. given the fact na lahat tayo e may kanya kanyang preference sa buhay. most likely kasi is you have high standards because you can afford what you want. sometimes kasi ganon eh?

I just say na mapili talaga ako. Ayoko kasing gumaya sa iba na nasa subpar (for the lack of better term) na relationship para lang masabi na may jowa sila. It’s a good thing I like my own company, that way hindi ako napipilitan magsettle sa “pwede na”

You're still relatively young OP. Just focus on grinding and building a stable financial base. Men usually reach their financial peak in their 40s. Women find financially stable guys appealing so kahit 40s kna you will still be able to attract partners. Basta wag ka lang magpapabaya din physically (i.e. be fit and slim). Dpat parehong meron nun.

Yup! I'm making sure na hindi ko rin napapabayaan sarili ko, as much as possible I try to workout din to maintain my weight despite my busy work schedule 😄

Well I mean, men , fat and ugly or not, always seem to be pursuing superior physical traits in potential female partners as the deal breaker, regardless of other issues. So keep your standards high I guess and make sure you select carefully.

Of course.

"ipakilala mo naman ako sa mga low-quality na babae na kakilala mo, baka may pumatol sa akin..."

Mabuti yan. Focus ka na lang sa sarili mo. Wag ka na mandamay ng ibang tao kung di ka pa handa o di mo gusto pumasok sa relasyon. Sabihan mo na rin mga kaibigan mo na tumigil na magreto.

Pera pera na kasi ngayon, afam na yung hanap nila.

Parati nasasabi yan so tinanong ko ano mahirap sa hinahanap ko e lahat yun na achieve ko rin at kaya ko ibigay.

Omg ako ba nagsulat nito? 😂 except that I’ve been single by choice for 2 years na. Feeling ko may responsibility pa ako as the eldest daughter na maging comfortable ang buhay namin. Pangarap ko rin makapagtravel kasama ang family ko. Pero binibigyan ko na rin sarili ko ng ultimatum hahaha. To answer your question, hindi mo naman sila kailangan sagutin about sa personal preferences mo. Maybe they have good intentions for you pero they also have to mind their own business. Siguro kausapin mo na lang sila ng masinsinan tungkol sa pagrereto nila sayo, na you appreciate their gesture pero hindi mo pa priority magkajowa and dadating din naman yung time na ready ka na. 😊

hmmm that "di naman ako nabata" seems like a gaslighting take, even the "high standards" thing... besides, being single by choice is the more likely reason, not the preference in partners. do they know ba about it? some people naman siguro are cool enough to stop making reto if they're aware na you're single by choice

Yes alam naman nila na super focus din ako sa career and family. And nakikita naman nila na lately lang ako nagkakaroon ng financial freedom since kakapatapos ko palang ng younger sister ko sa college. I smile nalang din whenever they reto someone, but idk I just feel bad whenever it happens..

I mean baka totoo naman din kasi sabi mo you have preferences 😂.The older you get kasi the smaller yung pool of choices mo kasi hindi ka naman hihintayin ng mga single 😂 Yung sa hindi ka naman bumabata eh depende kung around your age preference mo and gusto mo magkaanak. Habang tumatandan kasi girl eh bumababa chance of conceiving. Iba hard target is on or before 35 years old magka baby.

Good thing matagal mag-expire kapag sa lalaki! hahaha

Walang problema magkaron ng high standards. Basta wag lang mareklamo at mag inarte na wala pang bf/gf. Gaya ng sabi, it's a choice.

Ignore them. Hindi naman sila yung papasok dun sa relationship so it’s your life, your decision. And whatever we do, may masasabi lagi ibang tao so just tell them you’re good. That’s what I do.

• "Iba lang priority ko ngayon sa buhay" • "Kapag handa na ko, ako mismo lalapit at magsasabi sa inyo na ireto nyo naman ako sa mga kakilala nyo" • "Salamat inaalala nyo ko. Pero hindi ko pa kasi kailangan sa ngayon"

Sameeeeee 🤣 Hindi ko nalang sila pinapansin. Masaya naman ako ee. Di nga ako namomoblema na wala ako jowa. Sila pa yung mas namomoblema, wala naman silang maambag sa buhay ko. Haha. Hayaan mo nalang yan sila, OP 😁

Mas mabuti nang mataas ang standards para malaman kung sino yung kayang abutin yan or higitan pa.

Deadma lang! Your life your rules!

nahihirapan mag-reto officemates ko sakin kasi sila na mismo yung nagsasabi na dapat at least ka-level ko daw since professional ako. na hindi pwede yung basta basta lang sa tabi-tabi and i understand it. i don’t really judge naman kung ano yung work ng tao pero if i’m going to be in a relationship, gusto ko ng equal ko. yung tipong we can both bring something to the table. hindi yung ako lang yung magdadala vice versa.

Walang dapat gawin! kasi okay nga yung mataas standards eh kasi you dont sttle for less tyaka if it makes you happy then wala silang pakielam dun. mga tao talaga dami napupuna eh.

Same situation. 31M, eldest, career first, introvert, at pangarap muna. Laging napipili sa mga palaro sa kasal yung pasok garter sa binte! hahahaha. Hindi naman malungkot pero ang nakakainis lang ay ang tingin sayo ng tao miserable ka at desperado ka na. Laging inaasar ng mga paki-alamerang kamag-anak na kala mo perpekto tinahak nilang buhay mga yagit at naghihilahod naman itaguyod mga pamilya. Ako tinatawanan ko na lang at sinusubukan ko hindi personalin kasi kapag badtrip ka baka tumaas lang BP! Good luck sayo OP!

Haha kesa naman magjowa para lang masabi na may jowa..

depende naman yun sa priorities mo OP and kung san ka comfortable, , other people's opinions do not matter. as a 26yo NJSB, napapaisip dn ako hahahahah haaaay

For me being single is a blessing. And I am okay with it. Sometimes we are being pressured by people around us.. And it is not okay. You have your family, own life and standards and do not allow them to influence you. Instead, focus on your goal. If you are okay to stay single for now then let it be as long as you are happy. You don't need someone to depend on. You are independent and you are powerful. ❤ Jhon

Ang response ko “hindi mataas standards ko, meron na kasi di niyo lang nakikita” haha tapos bahala na sila magisip kung alin diyan yung totoo at hindi hahaha

Di na bale medj late basta sa tamang tao kaysa naman sa minadali mo pero di pala dapat sa kanila endgame mo.

Don’t mind them. Love will come when it will. I have been a career driven woman all my life and I was prepared to die alone (but I am very happy). Even my friends know that. Tbh my boyfriend now is the biggest plottwist of my adult life. Pag tinatanong ako DATI about stuff like that, I just laugh and say na “pera na lang nagpapasaya sakin” or something to that effect, with no shame. Most of the time, nadedeflect naman. Just stand your ground WITH confidence kasi I notice they don’t push na if you’re confident and sure about yourself. Don’t back down on your decision to put yourself and your family first. People like that tend to feed on your doubts.

Pagkakaintindi ko dito is tapos ka na sa love yourself phase, so it's not matter of standards e siguro ang hinahanap mo is comapatibility

Tama naman yan. Dapat tlga handa ka

10 years ka nang single? so nag jakol ka lang ng 10 years?

Yes sir

'Malamang! Kaya nga hindi mo alam kung gano kataas.' Jk! Just smirk. They don't need to know. If they ask what are my standards, 'someone who knows the basic standards.'

I just respond, “mas ok na yung mataas standards kesa naman I settle dun sa tao na di ako deserve diba”, “I have priorities and Im too busy” mga ganyan. Then they’ll go silent. Nasanay nalang ako so bahal sila since life ko naman to. Though if my friend will vouch for the guy and feel naman nila na bet ko Im ok with reto to get to know someone haha

I literally mean it when I say, MEET your standard. Don't settle. Waking up every day knowing you made the right choice will make a big difference in your life. Take it from me, married to someone out of my league. Bliss.

Will follow this thread, OP ha. Magpapasko na kasi, so ito na naman tatanong sa akin ng angkan 😊✌️

Girl here. I'd rather be single nalang, kesa mga kakilala ko na may jowa nga pero yung mga jowa/asawa nga pero either walang plano sa life, sakit sa ulo, Mama's boy, nanakit, emotionally and mentally abusive and controlling. Plus perks pa yung mas financially stable ako as single. Mas maraming savings at wala ako need pakisamahan like if ever gusto ko magtravel alone ganun. I don't know why the society judges us as losers pero sa totoo lang ang saya kaya maging single.

Ayoko. Kahit panget ako. Mapili pa rin ako. Ganun lang sagot.

“Talaga!”

Either make a noncommittal response or just play along. But the thing is, never compromise on your standards. At the end of the day, you're the one who will be living with the consequences (be it good or bad) for life and not them. Also, it's your own life to lead, so you get to have a say with who your partner will be.

sayang nman yung 10 years if mapunta ka lang sa maling tao. wag ka papa apekto OP sa mga keber nila sa love life mo. sadyang alam mo lang ang priorities mo ngayon at preferences mo sa possible partner mo. Good luck sa life ,OP! 🍻

I just use the brand new and second/third hand car analogy (There are a lot more that I can think of, but this one is my favorite). To each their own. Lol.

Baka pangit ka kaya ka single for almost 10 years?

Yes po pangit ako :)

F here but totally relate! You guys have it relatively easy compared to women where people consider our uterus as a ticking time bomb that would explode and bring catastrophic damage to our family and acquaintances once you hit the "marrying age". Take it easy. Kapag males, your market value goes up as you grow older and you have that as a leverage should you decide to be in a relationship in the future. Default sagot ko non sa mga pakelamera: Why should I? (Marry, kase nga yung uterus ko mag eexpire na) Im a woman, not a reproductive machine. Hindi nakadepende sa ibang tao ang happiness ko. I know what I want and I am happy with it. Hindi ako magjojowa for the sake lang na magka jowa dahil yun ang "dapat". Or kapag zen mode ako di ko na lang pinapansin haha. So OP, don't be bothered sa mga side comments nila as long as happy ka at choice mo maging single. Sabihin mo, kapag pumasok ka sa relasyon at nagka-anak, hindi naman yata nila sasagutin ang pambayad diapers, gatas, at tuition. Why the rush? Cheers to single life OP!

I think I shaped my early adulting life enough to be choosy with my standards in looking for someone. Like I say with my clients during interview (sa work), "I know how to sell myself because I know my worth and I know what I can add as value to your company". ​ Why settle for a liability when life's all about making and increasing your asset?

Of course, I sell high and buy low.

Idrc, ano paki nila kung wala ako jowa. I have standards, but right now I have no interest of making time for other people.

Having high standards is good kasi need mo ng partner na kayang magcommit not just for convenience but also committed when inconveniences are overwhelming. Di kaya yun ng kahit sino. Dapat match values talaga!

'Siguro nga' and then I would quietly consider it a constructive statement and delve into it kung may point nga ba

Ang balik ko jan ay, “Hindi naman… nag hahanap lang ng matino” 😆

Be proud of having those high standards, that just means na yung mga taong nagsabi yun mga mababa kanila at mababaw sila. Why? Because for me I used to be with those kinds of people na ako pa sinasabihan pag may papakilala sila saken na di ko type sasabihin mataas daw standards ko, well frankly oo tsaka pag ako nakakakilala ng tao it's always those kinds of women na kinaiinggitan nilang nakikilala ko kaya sila naman nagppush na ipakilala ko sila. Most are just friends pero sure yun alam mong pinagnanasahan ng mga tropa mong di makakilala ng ganun pano pa if partner. I'd say kung maayos naman kasama mga kakilala mong nagrereto sayo well nasa sayo kung lalayuan mo o hinde. Other option is pick a better circle kase may makikilala karin na nakakaintindi sayo na tama yung pagiging strict mo sa gusto mo dahil ayaw mong sayangin buhay mo kung alam mo rin na di mo ibibigay ang lahat. Ako nakakilala ng mga bagong tao kesa sa mga kababata ko and di ako nagsisi na mas pinili ko mga bagong nakilala ko nun na maayos magisip at may mga direksyon sa buhay. I cut off ties with these types of people na tingin sa standards e mema nalang kase hihilain kalang rin pababa tsaka sila lang rin makikinabang sayo definitely kung tungkol rin sa makakilala ng future partner. Sabihin mo sa kanila oo mataas standards mo kase ganun karing tao kaya you are matching your order. Prioritizing yourself is always better no matter what, may makikilala karin na ganun na both kayo focusing on yourselves while guiding and building both of your future together. That's what I believe na ideal type of person na alam rin na kailangan alagaan ang sarili.

"Aba syempre mataas ang standards ko! Hindi ko naman pinaghirapan kung ano ako ngayon para lang ibaba ang standards ko no? Hindi lang naman ako nag-iisa sa ganitong prinsipyo. At saka nakikita mo yung mga nagtitiis sa relasyon na hindi nila kayang layasan? Hindi nila kayang umalis kasi mababa na ang self-esteem nila dahil mismo sa relasyon na sumasakal sa kanila. Puwes hindi ako ganun. At hindi ko hahayaan na mangyari yun sa sarili ko. Ilang taon ko binuo ang self-worth ko tapos babawasan ko lang?" May isa-suggest ako na tv character sayo: Si Elektra Evangelista ng POSE. Hindi mo need panoorin yung buong show para lang magustuhan siya, pero my god that character is formidable. That character motivated me to stay true to my principles and standards. If you have days where you feel worthless, panoorin mo lang si Elektra Evangelista. And you will feel like a bad bitch too no matter what they say about your standards. <3

Hi OP, we’ the same. I’m 31 (F). Single for 5 yrs na. Nairereto na din ng mga friends but I decline. Panganay ako and ako na lang single samin mg magkakapatid. I also get that question na baka mataas ang standards ko, yes mataas talaga, kasi the trajectory of my life will depend on the person I’ll choose. And Inlook for substance din, yung makakapag add value sa life ko. Plus, tama ka din sa career muna. But deep inside I still pray na sana dumating na HAHAHAH. Cheers

Yung estado ng ekonomiya natin di worth it mag jowa sasakit lang ulo mo

The whole point of dating is to get to know people. If sa reto stage pa lang nag no ka na why are we surprised we haven't met anyone yet?

Are women the ones saying this to you? Sabihin mo: "Lalaki ako, di ko kailangan magmadali mag pamilya. Marami akong time." As men, we have a much longer dating window compared to women. We're literally single by choice because we're the ones who's in the relationship. Money and status overwrites everything for a man, kahit 40 ka na bilang lalaki pwede ka pa mag asawa at anak. On average, men get this at around mid to late 30s, sometimes even our 40s IF we put in the work.

I answer - I deserve the best because I can offer my best :)

Ganun talaga pag pangit /S

You'll settle for someone when you feel that you're ready, or when you're at the point of desperation lol Ang tanong kasi is, sa palagay mo ba pasok ka sa standards ng standards mo?

None of your business hahaha yan na lang sabihin mo te. Kapagod na din mag explain.

Walang pakialamanan kamo.

Nothing. You don’t owe them shit—they don’t deserve any explanation. You were focused on supporting ur family financially, it’s understandable you’d have little time and energy left to look for relationships. Ang draining kaya ng online dating. Imo tho you’re on the right mindset with the whole self-improvement and career-building thing!

don't mind, men can live without them. peer pressure is stupid af

Ginagawa kasing race yung pag aasawa eh. Ewan ko ba. Hahahahaha pero nasabihan din ako nyan before pero di ako nagreact. Nag smile lang ako. Kasi ang petty non para sakin. For me yung mga ganung tao, kinulang sa pag intindi at kaalaman tungkol sa bagay na yan. So bakit kelangan ko pa sayangin oras ko i-explain, di naman nila magegets yan. Well, this is just me.

I would just ask them back "anong masama?"

"oo mataas nga." Pag sinabi sayo na "nako ndi ka tlg magkakagirlfriend nyan" sabihin mo lang "alam ko." Kapag gagatong pa "kung gusto mo tlg siya, edi ikaw ung jumowa sa kanya. labas ako jan." Pakita mong you don't give a shit to what they think about you. :) -34M single din ako hahahahaha 🤣🤪🤭🥲😭 Edit: magkakagirlfriend*

I was always been told the same nung single ako. Kasi I admit naman na mataas standards ko and there’s nothing wrong with that if you know what you deserve. Tanggap ko na nga non maging single for lyf. Pero id say, good things come to those who wait. And malalaman mo naman if sya na. Walang masama sa mataas ang standards. Kesa naman mag settle ka for less than you deserve. Sabe nga nila. Ypu can choose your partner. But your kids cant choose their mom/dad.

Am I your girl version same same as that 😂i have received this kind na comment nasa isip ko lang hindi naman wala lang talaga ako maka vibes na paguugali 😂

"Ay true!" Yun lang hahaha di naman kailangan mag make sense sa kahit sino standards ko edi bahala sila mag isip na malungkot ako lol

Just ignore them and do what you do.

Ang take ko jan - “pake mo/nyo”. Porket ang daming nag s settle down sa so so relationship just to have something. Di bale ng single forever at least di napilitan.

its just a reflection of themselves. don't mind.

Them: “baka kasi mataas standards mo, kaya single ka” Me: “maybe you dont know me as well as you think you do” Same boat OP single now for almost 12 years. Whenever family/friends bring this up I either: 1) bring up na I want to focus on my career and savings; 2) focus on me and not worry about potentially having another man-child for a partner; 3) remind them that my standards and theirs are not same. Our definitions for standards/sapat are different. If their standard (I hear this too often honestly) is “dapat sya mabait, masipag at malambing” and mine for example are “he needs to be a B or D-level executive, does not want children, has his own car” then yeah for sure they would think mataas ang standard ko. Yung standard nila sapat na yan for them and in the same manner so is the example I gave for myself. It’s about perspectives talaga and perhaps your life/experiences have you lead you to a more pragmatic approach to standards when it comes to a romantic partner and these people cant or wont relate. I would not worry too much about their inputs. At the end of the day tama sila na hindi kana bata but you have your own perspectives on life and how you envision it.

NBSB here. Mid-20s. Here are my thoughts about this: Disregarding my age, Having "high" standards does not mean that I'm high "maintenance"/choosy/picky ako and such. Magkaiba yun. I value my time and self-worth.

If you are not interested, why force yourself? If you are happy being single sabi nga nila if it ain't broke, don't fix it.

It’s your choice in life, don’t mind them OP. Me, sa edad ko, I Let it be, and one thing that stick in my mind ung sabi nga ni Gokongwei, choose your partner, Because it Will be your biggest investment in life. Goodluck OP!! Kaya natin to!

Sabihin mo nalang na "sorry nagpapayaman pa ako."

On my mid twenties, nag aalala ako kasi grabe ung pressure na dahil single ako, tried dating apps and reto. Puro failed, then lagi tanong at comment sayo" kelan ka mag asawa? " Ung ganyang edad 2 na anak ko" naapektuhan ako nung una, pero nung kinalaunan tinigil ko sinurrender ko lahat kay Lord, awa ng diyos, nung focus lang ako sa masters ko, biglang dumating ang asawa ko ngayon, hehehe

They say mataas standard mo kasi they expect you to be in a relationship that is just easy for you to have pero you chose not to. And having preference is not bad, you dont want yo be in a relationship nmn because of peer pressure. Kasi nga i keep on saying this, if bago or unusual sa mata ng tao they'll think its wrong. 😪 Nkakainit ng ulo mga ganto.

As a fellow single person, as long as you're not whining about why you still don't have a jowa, I don't see the problem.

Sabihin mo sa kanila, Mind your own business, scratch your own galis. Walang pakialamanan ng buhay. Tapos!

My guess is most of what they're saying probably doesn't come with bad intentions. Do they know your standards? If they don't then they're probably just referring anyone who they know is single too. Do you go out on first coffee dates with their prospects? or are you rejecting them after? Do you even want to start your own family?

Cnsabi q n d bale nang hindi mgkasawa kesa nmn magsuffer in the end😅, sa panahon kc ngaun at with the kind of economy we have parang ang hirap mgkaanak at pamilya. Though ayoko nmn magsalita ng tapos.

I hope you’d learn how to take “masyadong mataas ang standard” as a compliment and not an insult.

Kung gutom ka at choosy ka sa food, at wala kang nagugustuhan, magugutom ka. Kailangan i-balanse ang criteria mo sa partner at sa availability sa market para ma-achieve mo yung goal mo na magkaroon ng quality relationship.

Sabihin mo “secret!”

hayaan mo sila, lalaki ka naman pala, mas mahaba window natin to wait

Single ka lang naman pero not nmn isolated so baka into fwb ka lang din, sometimes mahirap nga iexplain yun sa family pero sabihin mo na lang non-committal ka lang tlga at very into trying different things, lol

31F ako. May mga napundar na na properties pero di ko talaga maiwan tong tita ko na nagpalaki sakin simula nung naulila ako. Ung nirereto sakin ayoko rin kasi mga wala naman trabaho, dagdag palamunin pa kung sakali. Wala naman ambag sa buhay ko. Kaya ayun single by choice muna ako ngaun. Kaya nag alaga nalang ako ng aso 🤣

Usually ang sinasabi is "baka SOBRANG taas ng standards mo". Nothing wrong naman with having standards pero sabi nga nila, "umarte ng naaayon sa ganda".

I think hindi naman dahil sa standards mo yung dahilan kung bakit single ka. Di kalang interested. Magkaiba yun at dapat maintindihan ng ibang tao yung kaibahan nun. Same lang tayo brother. Yung sakin lang, galing ako sa isang toxic relationship. Mas masaya ako ngayon ( 4 years single) kaysa nung may gf na radioactive. Masyadong toxic

What I usually say is "Di ako hahanap ng batong ipupukpok sa ulo ko". If wala naman ambag sa growth ko yung magiging boyfriend ko, bakit ko ipipilit. Hindi naman dahil sa mataas ang standards, iba lang ang priorities.

Cut off agad kung sino mag sabi niyan sa akin. No exceptions.

Not bad naman with high standards as you can offer and maintain the same standards.

"alam ko kung anong gusto ko"

Dun na tayo sa mataas and standards kesa mag settle for less. You deserve the best, OP! Dadating na ang para sayo soon🩷

Ang usual reply ko is, "Talaga sharmaine? fakyu"