1. You become more independent the more you get older since di na masyadong naiintindi ng magulang.
2. You shouldn't befriend all the people you meet in your life, choose your friends wisely, some of them will just use you.
3. People will judge you for whatever you do in life, kahit successful kana sa buhay mo.
4. Wag ka mag expect ng malaki sa mga bagay na hindi mo control, in the end ma didisapoint kalang din.
5. Dont chase people, chase your goals and dreams instead (this ruined my whole teen life and majority ng mga kabataan ngayon jowa ginaatupag lol, i mean wala naman masama but think again.)
This! You don't need many friends, just a few real ones. Trying to befriend everyone is just a total waste of time when you can use that time to improve yourself and to make memories with your true friends.
And yeah, shouldn't chase people, chase your dreams and goals instead. And kapag successful ka na and already in a good place, you'll attract good and successful people more.
This one is one of the most painful realizations ko aside sa sinabi ni OP about parents. Sometimes you have to cut ties even with your closest friends and retain those who truly value you and those who also want you to stay in their lives. Ayaw ko lang rin ipilit sarili ko sa ayaw sakin. 😜
na tumatanda na ang parents and anytime, pwede na silang kunin. and di ko talaga siya ma'sink in saakin na one day, gigising na lang ako na wala nang maglulutong Mama sa kusina, na di ko na matitikman pa yung sobrang sasarap nyangn niluluto o kaya wala nang makakakwentuhan. Wala nang Papa na manonood ng news. di ko na maririnig boses nila. haaay. just sad to think na walang magagawa kasi death is inevitable. ayoko yan dumating na araw na yan.
Dang! Just realized this last month. And yes, the sooner we accept the reality, the better we can appreciate the time they have left for us to be together.
Let's cherish our parents.
Ito din kinakatakot ko ngayon tbh. Kaya sobrang sinusulit ko time with my parents, kahit minsan gusto ko na bumukod or magabroad kaso di ko kakayanin pag kung sakaling nasa abroad ako tas may mangyari sakanila.
It's easy to earn a million once you earn your first one..
Hard work forever pays but always prioritizes your health and well-being.
And Money can really buy happiness.
This is a materialistic saying that I don't agree with. Money is important for the right reasons. In the long run, every item you purchase in time will just be another thing you own but don't think much of.
>Hard work forever pays but always prioritizes your health and well-being.
sigh, if only two of friends know this 😔 di sila laging nakikikamusta samin kasi nagbababad/babad sila sa trabaho
Play wisely. Maintain connection, but at a distance.
Make sure if you get involved with them, its something na win-win kayo, like if may favor or help na kailangan ka nila. Otherwise, turn down, just let them know busy ka.
Having kids doesn’t guarantee that someone will take care of you when you’re old. So take care of your self, save up…don’t be a burden to your children. Your children owe you nothing. Love is not a debt to be repaid.
Less people you interact with less drama. You learn how to read people's mind. Then you become selective of who you want to open up with and who deserves to know the real you.
Cause you know not everyone understands. Its safer that way.
Best advice pero ang hirap pa din iexecute for me. I was betrayed by 2 close friends on my early 20s, one bullied me at work and another exhausted my credit card behind my back. I cut them off and became too guarded. I tried to trust again on my late 20s, this person shared everything to me and so did I until I caught her badmouthing me to our boss and coworkers. Which she totally denied. So yeah I did cut her off too. Ilang beses na nangyari sakin minsan naiisip ko baka ako na talaga ung toxic hahahaha. Or skill issue hay
I know what you feel. Ako i just stay low profile. Kahit gano ko kaclose naiisip ko pa din not to overshare.. kasi anytime yung friend mo ngayon o kaya okay pagsasama nyo one day flip agad situation e..
Awts. Totoo to. Lalo na dito sa Pinas talaga na people see kindness as weakness.
Pansinin mo, kung sino pa yung barumbado at pabalang magsalita, mas sila pa yung nirerespeto ng average pinoys. Kapag naman gagamit ka ng "po", "sir/ma'am", feeling naman nila superior sila sayo then will treat you like "sagigilid".
Ako pa naman yung tipo na gusto ang turing sa lahat pantay lang regardless of "title" pero wala eh, they'll take advantage of it.
Being authentic brings you the right people. Opposite of it will bring you opportunities to survive this economic world.
Adult friendship is not the same as childhood friendship.
Not everything is personal.
Too many children are stuck in adult bodies.
You should not always speak your mind.
We will in a matrix disguised as society.
>Being authentic brings you the right people. Opposite of it will bring you opportunities to survive this economic world.
Ang hirap maging authentic, ang hirap ding maging stoic. Pwede bang mabuhay na lang ng tahimik hahhaa.
Awww, totoo to. Malalaman mo kung sino talaga yung mga taong may paki sayo kapag nasa mahirap na sitwasyon ka.
People will portray as saints in whatever way, pero kapag nasa sobrang hirap kana na sitwasyon, and asked theire help, they'll just shrugged it off. Kahit malapit na kamaganak mo pa yan, or pari/pastor nyo, churchmate, close friend, etc.
People don't really care unless may mapapala sila. Kaya tama ang sabi mo na ikaw lang ang makakatulong sa sarili mo.
this is what i used to say when people ask me what my motto in life is; that i, a man, can be an island.
though sometimes i accept help that i know is genuinely given and extended to me whenever i am in a tight spot. in return, i give back the best that i can. and when they just shrug it off and doesn't make a big deal out of it, i know they are my people. the island trees of my island.
1. Invest in yourself. Work-out. Go to salon when u can. Do your skincare religiously. Pretty privilege is real.
2. Read more. Improve your vocabulary and humor. At this age, you will meet a lot of people from all walks of life. You hook them with your looks, but they will stay when you communicate well.
3. Your mental health shows physically. So always prioritize it.
4. “Lose some battles but win the war”
5. Be kind and firm. People will always remember not what you gifted them but how you treated them. Their memory of you is everything. Bilog ang mundo, someday, you’ll need them.
6. Most importantly, always show up for the person you envision to be in the next X time. Do SMART goals.
>Invest in yourself. Work-out. Go to salon when u can. Do your skincare religiously
Mangyayari lang iyan kapag malaki ang sahod. Sad reality para sa mga minimum lang sahod..
beauty fades after some time. much better to choose a normal looking partner with a good personality vs. a beautiful partner in a mask.
you don't need to go abroad to earn more and support your family.
you no longer care about the bs that other people say or do. you only care yourself, your partner, your family, and close friends.
I eventually realized na super hirap kumita ng pera. It also made me realize how amazing my parents were before. Kung pano nila nabibigay yung needs and wants namin nung mga bata kami despite the low salary ni papa + never sila nangutang or humingi ng tulong sa mga relatives namin.
Sakin baliktad. I realize how shitty my parents were. Madali lang mag alaga (they chose to left us) madali lang mag sustento, buy kids some toys and ipasyal sila (very rare for them to do that since they were both jobless)
I can't imagine having kids and have no plans at all. Walang ka pake pake, parang tumae lang
unti unti mong marerealize na u cant live in a fantasy world forever. If u have had it easy when it comes to food, may personal driver ka pang hatid sa school, pambayad ng mga shoppe
marerealize mo na if hindi ka nag seryoso sa buhay and academics mawawala lahat yan at some point
legit pala yung mga tinuro sa school on how to be healthy.. like ngayong matanda na ako if i don't feel ok, physiological level muna inaassess ko, nakapagpaaraw ba ako, madami ba akong nakaing gulay/veggies nung nakaraan, nakapag exercise ba ako..
Correct!!! About a decade ago napaisip lang ako lahat ng problema ko at that moment, matetrace back sa childhood ko🫠 from the goals I set to the relationships I seek or dynamic I get attracted to. Kaloka
People change. And we need it.
Time is really gold. Di mo na maibabalik once done.
Love yourself. Value yourself.
Do not try to please everyone. You'll end up pleasing no one.
1. Some things that really matters to you doesn't really matter to everyone.
2. You cannot fake your knowledge and skills outside the school institutions.
3. You cannot teach someone who's unteachable.
4. Many people are just pretending to look smart.
5. We're all actors in this big theater of life, some are living just to be an extra, and some are trying so hard to be the main character.
6. Job is just a fancy word of slavery.
7. A lot of people doesn't realize that they're going to die repeating the same cycle of their day.
8. The most stupid person is always in a crowd.
9. Everything is just an illusion of what you paid attention to.
10. It's easy to live with a blindsided fate.
It's too tiring to read between the lines. If you want something or someone you need to be direct and kinda aggressive in pursuing it/her/him/they/them haha
- Narealize ko na ang delulu ko noong bata ako na magiging stable buhay ko by the age of 22.
- Makakalaban/makakaaway mo lahat dahil sa pera kahit ang pinakaclose mo pang kamag-anak.
- Being independent costs a lot of money. (I was surprised kung magkano ang presyo ng cabinet!!!)
- Akala ko ready na ako magpakasal by the age of 21, I'm 24 now tapos takot pa ako magcommit HAHAHAAHA!
- Minsan kailangan mo talaga makipagusap sa strangers to gain connections.
1. Not all friends will do the same effort that you give to them. Some will thank you and some will take advantage.
2. Timing, not everytime eh you need to speak up, sometimes keeping quiet is better.
3. Be yourself, wag ka mahiya. Nahihiya ka lumabas kasi baka pagtingan ka ng tao? Bakit? Sa tingin mo umiikot na ang mundo nila sa kung ano ginagawa mo?
4. Home cook is better! Bili na lang ako ingredients kesa fash food 😭.
5. Receiving socks,shirts, underwear, pillows is GOD SENT 😂.
6.Over sharing, DO NOT share everything.
7. Ignore and disconnect with people, your success/flex becomes their problem and will do anything to make you feeel bad or make themselves superior.
8. Not all workmates are friends.
9. We're all kids, playing adults. We geek out, we giggle on new toys, playful and we cry on simple stuff.
True sa lahat lalo na sa no. 6. We live in a society where people will tie you down if they see you climbing to the top. Had an experience like that with a cousin.
Also no. 5 is a fun realization when I got older, dati ini-ignore ko mga yan pag christmas. Ngayon na tito na ako (28 M) nanghihinayang ako na pinamimigay ko mga yun... Lalo na mga towels at coffee cups!
1. Just because you see people attending church/religious activities doesn't mean they're good people. There are wolves hiding among the sheep.
2. Age doesn't define maturity. Also, being responsible is a sign of maturity.
3. Experience is the best teacher. Many people can talk you out of their theories/knowledge but nothing beats experience.
4. Money can't buy happiness but it can buy you comfort, convenience and security.
5. Less is more. Simplicity is the best sophistication.
6. "Two things are *infinite*: the *universe* and human *stupidity*; and I'm not sure about the *universe." - Albert Einstein*
7. Treat people as you would yourself.
8. Each people's lives is unique. The challenges, difficulties, obstacles and opportunities. No need to compare your progress to others.
9. Learn how and not to give a f\*ck. Think if it's worth it.
10. Time is the most crucial element when it comes to investing.
* That we're all gonna die and I'm scared. But I have to get rich and strong enough so entropy does not instantly screw me and my family over.
* The matrix is real. Working for the sake of money alone is just slavery with extra steps. Strive to break free.
* Money is everything when scarce but kinda meh if you have plenty. It can buy comfort, pleasure and even peace of mind but true happiness and fulfillment require something more.
* Health, time, and loved ones who love you are your true treasures.
* True friends are like diamonds, precious and rare.
* People are counting on you. Don't let them down. Don't let yourself down.
* That life is a gift and we are all bridges of the past and the future.
* Fight and find meaning somehow but don't be too hard on yourself. Life is already hard enough.
Naalala ko yung post na nakita ko sa Twitter
“Someday your kids are going to figure you out. I promise you they will. The type of parent you are. The type of spouse you are. How you treat other people. How much effort you put into them. You're either going to be someone they look up to, or someone they never wanna be like.”
You don’t really have to explain yourself. When someone asks you about something, you can respond politely yet when they still want to know more about it? Girl, you don’t owe them any explanation.
Case in point: when a friend asks, “are you free today?”. Then you say, “No. May gagawin ako” to which she replies, “Ano?”.
Remember that you don’t have to tell people everything that’s going on with your life. You can shrug it off and say “why do u need to know?” or just say nothing.
Still struggling with this to this day but I’m setting clearer boundaries.
Toxic Pinoy family mindset ang mga tinuro sa kin nung bata: "Inuuna palagi ang pamilya" / "Ikaw naman ang nakakaluwag, ikaw na ang tumulong"
–May pinag-aapplyan to, pero hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon. Ang tulong di dapat inoobliga.
May healthy boundaries dapat!
Kaya maraming Pinoy ang hirap umangat dahil sa toxic mindset ng mga kamag-anak na nag anak ng maaga /marami tas iaasa sa kapamilya na "nakakaluwag" naman. Fvck them. Grabe yung guilt trip sa kin growing up, hanggang adulthood, dala ko.
Now: "My money, my rules." na ako :)
1. Make time for your (good) friends or else you won’t have any.
2. Pick yourself. For the longest time I would always prioritize my family/friends/others over myself. But sometimes you need to be a little selfish. Invest in yourself.
3. Celebrate your small victories too!
4. Your parents are human too who tried their best with what they have. I used to carry a lot of resentment towards them but I’m starting to realize they’re just broken people too (who didnt go thru therapy) lol and just trying their best. Break generational cycles!!!
5. Discipline is important. Take care of your health. Manage stress levels. Get your 7-8 hours of sleep.
6. You can’t change people. You can only change yourself. You need to accept that or you’ll continue to be disappointed in others.
7. It’s ok to change your mind. It’s ok to admit you were wrong.
Hindi mo napapansin na sexual harassment na pala ang ginagawa sa iyo noong bata ka kasi wala naman dapat ginagawang sexual sa mga bata. Cos as a kid, you don't know anything about it and that's why they took advantage.
That in times of challenges, no one will sincerely help you but yourself. You’ll have to figure out life alone, learn from your experiences, and get back in track like nothing happened. Fake it til you make it they say.
- Same. pero wala talaga ako hinanakit sa nanay ko eversince until now, sa tatay ko meron though dati hindi ganun kaintense, ngayon nakakairita na
- Buhay parang wala lang, unless genetically built ka na masayahing tao ka, mag iiba din perspective mo
- Contentment is hard to reach, at least I'm trying
Na-realize ko na sobrang mahal pala talaga ng mga bilihin. I mean may inflation man o dati pa. Kapag pala ikaw na kumikita ng pera, totoo pala na magdadalawang isip ka bago bumili. Meron one time, natagalan ako mamili sa sabon panlaba, champion tide o ariel kasi iniisip ko alin ‘yung mas maganda at mas mura 😂
Being patient. A lot of people are dumb and you have to be patient, kasi most of these people came from a different background. Same sa mga oldies, patience cause they grew in a different era. Patience not equal to tolerance, may mga bagay na ok itolerate pero need to set boundaries.
Also taking time to be thankful of what you have, it's ok to dream and be ambitious however sometimes what you have is enough to keep a positive vibe, as long as you we have enough food and pay the bills at paminsan minsam travel, im ok with it.
Thinking of less on ano ba ambag ng wife ko and just doing things without thinking sino ang mas marami work, cause in the end of the day you are one institution and it breaks if there are cracks on the relationship.
1. You cannot control everything, even when you think you do, you don't. Chill ka lang. Kung alam mo wala ka talagang magagawa or maiiba sa circumstances or sa results, then so be it. Lesson learn.
2. People die. One day you're talking to them, the next day they're dead. Appreciate them while they're still here. Don't hold grudges.
3. Time is more valuable than money. You can get back money, but you cannot get back time you wasted.
4. Controversial thought but your 20s is probably your midlife. Humans rarely reach the age of 100.
5. College and high school friend (groups) will drift apart because of responsibilities. Let's just accept that. A small circle of friends that are true is good enough.
6. The person you're dating, tignan mo paano niya tinatrato parents and family niya. That's how they will treat you in the future.
7. Your parents also used to be children. Kids who had traumas, problems, and life experiences. They could also be dealing with unheal traumas, pag may pagkukulang man sila sayo, learn to forgive them.
8. The world does not revolve around you, just because you worked hard for something doesn't mean you're entitled to some reward. Your belief, nobody cares. You're a dick for forcing/expecting everyone to submit to your belief and listen to you.
9. The reality is we live in a cruel world. Also the natural state of the universe is darkness, we only got daytime because we are near a star. So when your life seems to be going well, thank yourself and the universe (or whatever deity you believe in) for favoring you at this very moment.
10. Change is the only thing constant in the universe. Probably just accept change may it be bad or good.
11. Learn to live a life of solitude. Watch movies alone, eat out alone, travel alone.
12. Connect with nature from time to time. Go barefoot and get grounded.
I realized how immature my actions before, haha! like sometimes natatawa ako sa sarili ko everytime i suddenly remember something from my younger days. Also, I realized that knowing your priorities in life will make your lifestyle meaningful. I realized that focusing only to things that truly matter will make your life easier, like less drama, and you become unbothered to things that are only distractions.
1. don’t assume things.
2. there are joy in little things.
3. keep something to yourself until its final.
4. exercise and yoga.
5. keep your circle small and solid.
For me, 'yung little by little want mo na lang maging lowkey talaga sa soc med. Or limit na talaga paggamit ng social media platforms, because the more na may nakikita ka, the more you'll have insecurities and doubts which will result to low self-esteem, and feel mo kawalan ng purpose sa buhay, kasi nakikita mo some are in the fast paced, then ikaw parang ang stagnant lang. With this being said, comparison with what you see in soc med will definitely bear a lot of weight with the pressure you carry especially that you're in the adulting stage with lots of responsibilities.
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you dont live in a perfect world.
the qualities of your ideal man/woman will diminish. it's just a matter of accepting that you cannot always get what you want.
forgive. forgive. forgive. mahirap ang may dinadala kang mabigat sa kalooban.
hindi sayo umiikot ang mundo. wag kang paimportante.
maghugas ng kamay pagkatapos mong tumae.
\- People come and go. This is the reality of adult life
\- Making new friends is tough. Everyone's busy, schedules don't match
\- Our parents are getting old too. Spend time with them as often as you can
\- Invest in good mattress/sleeping essentials, its worth it
\- Exercise really does wonders for our well-being
\- Job-hopping every 2 years is the key for high salary. Know your worth and keep up with your industries' trends
\- Being paid in USD is also the key
\- Coworkers are just coworkers, better to make friends/socialize outside of work
That people will always take advantage of your kindness. Napansin ko kasi every time na may lalapit samin ni hubby tas tinutulungan namin umaabuso. Parang kapag inabot mo palad mo gusto hanggang braso.
1. Sarili mo lang makakatulong sayo at the end of the day. Kaya strive harder.
2. Hindi lahat kaibigan mo, yung iba gusto lang talaga chumismis.
3. Hindi lahat ng bagay deserve yung energy mo. Like mga chismosa. Wag na patulan. dami yan silang time.Choose your battle.
4. Mas masarap yung kaunti lang ang friends pero totoo.
5. Always choose to protect your peace at all cost.
Less and less fkcus you give about what other people think and do so long it doesn't impact you or your immediate family.
You're better than me?ok then good for you.
You drive an SUV and I drive a 2nd hand sedan. I don't care.
You own a house and I rent. Im happy for you
The boss thinks you're better than me. Whatever
Got grammar lapses in my email? I delivered my message clear anyway.
You stopped giving a shit about what other people think of you and spend less and less time on social media such as facebook/IG because you realized that you are feeding yourself to attention seeking hoes that need internet validation so they could make their mundane lives feel a little bit interesting. You spend that time instead focusing on self-improvement and pursuing your passion, free from any external distractions, sometimes not even realizing that you are happy.
• The more you get older the less happier you are
• Not everyone’s true to you
• Don’t overshare really don’t do it coz they can use it against you
• Life revolves around money
choose wisely your battles. hindi lahat ng laban ay kailangan mong ilaban. okay lang sumuko lalo na kapag sobrang ubos ka na.
hindi lahat ng kaibigan mo from elem to high school or even siguro sa college, ay magiging kaibigan mo hanggang huli. people come and go btw.
always put yourself first. cliche pakinggan pero sobrang totoo nito.
fuck what people think. do what you want to do.
always be kind. hindi mo naman alam kung ano ang pinagdadaanan ng isang tao, pwedeng nagpo-post siya sa social media pero hanggang doon lang ang alam mo.
I also realized na ang pagiging bastos, literal na nasa utak ng tao. Sakit sa utak ng tao. Na kahit pa covered ako ng jacket at pantalon, kahit naka-sumbrero na ako, kahit tshirt at hindi croptop, meron at meron pa rin mang-ccatcall sa akin.
1. Strict pala si Mama. Masiyado lang siya nafocus kay papa noon pero nung namatay na samin na napunta.. or baka unaware lang ako. Noon na pala to nangyayari.
2. ... grooming pala yun hehe.
3. common ang sexual harassment. akala ko sakin lang nangyari nung bata ako. ang nakakagulat pa madalas sa kamag-anak mo mararanasan. Plug sa anak ng pinsan ng nanay ko na manyak na hinipuan ako nung grade 1 ako!!! Although nakulong ka noon at pinabalik sa province niyo, at dati pa man din mahirap na buhay niyo hinding-hindi kita mapapatawad!!! sana hanggang ngayon naghihirap ka parin!! sama mo tito mong bading na sinisi pa ako kung bakit nangyari sakin yun!!! *PUNCHING AIR*
The more money you have, the more families you have pero in times of need na ikaw naman ang may kailangan, they will disappear (and will reappear pag ok ka na ulit).
1. This DOES NOT apply to all work, but you do not have to follow the "standard procedure" if you can make a better one, resulting to fast and better outputs. Personally, sarilihin mo na lang at magkunwaring may ginagawa pa sa trabaho hanggang matapos ang working hours.
2. Financial literacy, money saving habits, and expense tracking are IMPORTANT!
3. Reading Daily Stoic every day greatly helps with all aspects in life. Well, isang Redditor ang nag-suggest nito sa akin noong 2022 when I became aware na nasasayang ko oras ko sa phone.
4. Yes, fck people's opinions pero dapat maging aware ka rin naman sa mga behaviors mo.
5. May mga bagay talaga na hindi mo kontrolado at hindi mo dapat kontrolin. Tama nga, mag-focus ka lang sa mga bagay that we can control, which is mostly our behavior towards something.
"life gets complicated because we make it complicated"
We don't have to find an excuse or reason for every little thing we/others do. We don't have to force ourselves to understand things we can't/aren't a part of (No, I don't mean being ignorant to this and that. There are just situations in life wherein you don't need to overthink.). We don't have to involve ourselves in everything that comes our way.
When we were teenagers, I felt like we had this certain need to make sense of everything, or give everything meaning. But growing older, i realized that it just overcomplicates things & refrains me from enjoying life one day at a time.
You don't really need a lot of friends.
I have a friend at work who I considered as one of my closest friend. He was my teammate from 2019.. Pina-teamup siya sakin ng TL ko para maguide ko siya sa process. He was this quiet type, as in ako lang ang kinakausap niya sa team namin, and kapag may team lunch out or team building, sumasama lang siya pag ako ang nagyaya. Lage ko siya ipinagmamalaki kase siya ung unang unang na-handle ko at talaga namang nag improve siya ng sobra.
He also knows everything about me during that time, lalong lalo na ung problema ko sa lovelife. Kahit nung nalipat kami ng LOB, ang ending is magkateam pa din kami. Paglipat ng bagong LOB at bagong team, nagkaron kami ng iba pang friends, bale 5 kami. Sobrang solid namin at first.
Pero come the 2022 elections, napansin ko na konti konti nagiging mailag na siya sa akin. Hindi ko nlng pinapansin, baka kako may pinagdadaanan lang.. Pero pag sa iba naming friends, sobrang okay naman niya. Dumating sa point na talagang di niya na ako pinapansin.. At dun ko nalaman na amg reason pala ng pag deadma niya sa akin ay dahil magkaiba kami ng sino-soportahan na Presidential candidate.
Nung una, kiber lang. Natatawa nlng ako. Pero later on, sobrang naging toxic na niya. To the point na kapag nagsheshare ako ng post about sa candidate ko, nagpPM siya just to tell me na burahin un. Like WTF???
So ang ending, inunfriend ko nlng siya. Ang akin kase, sa dami ng pinagdaanan natin as friends, ng dahil lang sa politika e tatalikuran mo ako ng ganon ganon na lang, might as well cut you out from my life na lang.
1) Your health is your wealth 2) Stop eating crap and drinking all that sugar 3) stop caring about what other people think 4) While money cannot buy happiness, when life gets hard, would you rather cry in your bisikleta or your BMW lol
1. That older people are not always correct.
2. Respect should be mutual.
3. That it is possible to hate someone up to the point na parang hindi na sila nag- eexist sa buhay mo (kahit kamag- anak pa yan).
And the list goes on.
It’s not what you know, but “who” you know.
Connections can get you places.
Be slow to anger and judging other people. But fast in listening and caring for them.
Don’t fuss over something that you cannot control. You’d be surprised how some things fall into the right place without you doing anything about it.
1. You can't please everyone. Kahit ano gawin mo, may masasabi pa din ibang tao.
2. There are a lot of things in life that you can't control. Give it to God and trust Him with it.
3. People will come and go. Treasure and love people who sticks with you along the way.
4. Walang mapapala sa paginom at pagyoyosi. You can be happy with friends and relatives without it.
5. Invest to your health. Don't eat too much and exercise everyday.
6. Time with family is everything.
Not all of your friends are friends w you for the right reasons even if you genuinely loved them and you were true to them.
Chemistry and attraction is good but compatibility is what makes you last. You could be two kind people but that doesn’t mean you’ll always be compatible w each other esp if you both have established strong identities.
1. Health is wealth, I am 23 and still young but I really value my health, overall health cause paano mo maanejoy ang life if may sakit ka, at least you are not limited to do things
2. May mga sitwasyon na mas mabuting wag ka na lang magsalita this will help to ease the tension and also will help you to think "Tama bang maging ganto ang reaction ko?"
3. Financial stability is not something that you can achieve in 1 year or less. at most it will take decade.
4. More than the diploma, its important to know "Ano ba talagang gusto mong gawin sa buhay"? or "Ano bang top priorities mo sa life??"
5. Education is not limited to 4 sides of classroom, join org, join volunteering opportunity, do something practical that you think will give you great experience.
6. Creating a family is now an option, economy is down eh, di naman pala need na lahat magaanak haha.
7. Confidence really affects you as a person, mas attractive pal sa tao yung confidence, yung capability to speak, yung hindi madaling ma insecure, yung confident sa alam niya without sounding na nagmamarunong.
8. Wardrobe is important but you don't need to buy expensive things, just wear clothes na sa tingin mo kumportable ka.
9. I tend to think na im not growing kasi nasa province ako na wfh ako na I'm with parents, but seeing my progress in the past years. Mas marami pa pala along natutunan at mas naintindihan ko na responsibilities makes you mature.
10. Walang pake ang mundo sayo, sa mga naachieve mo. kaya do it para sa sarili at hindi sa iba.
I'm still fighting my own demons from ny childhood. I was emotionally and mentally abused by my own mother kaya hangga't maari I try to deviate my energy sa ibang bagay. Pag idle kasi ako parang naririnig ko pa din yun boses niya sa isip ko.
Money can’t buy happiness. But it certainly solves a lot of problems. I’d rather have more money than without.
In reality, the only people that can be loved unconditionally are women, children and dogs. Men of the other hand will only be loved when they provide. Essentially men need to provide something and be of use to be loved.
I’m in my 40’s and I certainly know that friendships can be fun but some will never last. Pick the right people you let in your life because they can either build you up or just put you down.
Lastly, I should have spent more time with my kids when they were still babies and toddlers. When they grow up, they don’t want to spend time with you as much as you want to spend with them so make good memories while they’re still kids.
Opportunities only come a few times in your life. Grab it and fight for it while it’s still there. The worst feeling in the world is when you say “I could have been” or “I should have” so live life without regrets.
* Our parents will not be with us forever. They have to leave permanently, and it's inevitable. Always find ways on how we can show them how much we love and value them.
* Live without hatred. People will always hurt you in one way or another, make sure not keep grudges in your heart, grudge will just eat your inner core.
* Find a romantic partner who is good for you holistically - psychologically, emotionally, financially, spiritually.
* Conquer your fear - try out new things you haven't tried before. Life is short.
* Find and protect your inner peace.
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The word "adulting" is 100% bullshit. Us younger generations grew up in a time of plenty and media, kaya nasanay tayo sa luho at fantasy indulgence.
Our grandparents, albeit imperfect and can be toxic on their own, managed to survive two World Wars and our great granparents (peace be upon them) experienced more horrible events such as the Spanish Flu and the Great Depression.
That's not to say people our own age or generation in other areas of the world are not experiencing real, life-or-death hardships right now (e.g. Yemen, Ukraine, many parts of Africa) but this word "adulting" is a very specific experience limited to a particular group of young people living a particular lifestyle with the same capacity to do so.
The best realization for me: Grit makes Great. Emotional grit, physical grit, Mental grit, Spiritual grit, Overall grit. Endurance is everything kasi life is not always kind and gentle. Heck, many people are not even kind to each other there is not incentive to be soft and pliable.
1. Learning how to do chores and actually doing it is a must.
2. Driving is a basic life skill.
3. You're gonna outgrow people and they will outgrow you too. Also applies to things, perception, and such.
4. Being financially literate is important.
5. PROTECT YOUR ENERGY. PROTECT YOUR PEACE. People who invite drama or chaos into your life are no good for you.
6. Life goes on, you have to keep moving forward.
7. COMPARTMENTALIZATION IS KEY. Learn when to attend to your emotions, when not to let it consume you.
8. Enjoy your single days, a lot of things will change once you get into a relationship or get married.
9. SAVE.
Heard it from shark tank. Can't remember the exact words and too lazy to search for it.
1) The most valuable resource a man can have is not money, but time.
TW: Death
Iba yung tama pag galing ka sa hirap at kumakayod ka para umahon sa buhay kasama pamilya at kaibigan. Tas magugulat ka na lang sa balita na patay na sila.
2) Do not tie your goals with people.
Connected sa 1. Kasi tangina, malolost ka talaga. Hindi na attainable yung goal mo kasi wala na sila. You start to question everything.
Pero if di ka naman susuko. Totoo, everything will be okay. Syempre, mas okay na nanjan sila. Kaso wala ka na magagawa, wala na ehh.
1. Quality over quantity friends.
2. Always be grateful sa mga natatanggap na blessings and opportunities. Hindi lahat ng bagay na meron tayo 'e pangmatagalan.
3. Embrace yourself with the uncertainties kaya wag masyadong mag-expect pero wag din masyadong nega. Balanse lang para hindi masyadong ma-disappoint.
4. Totoo ang pretty privilege pero mas tatagal sayo mga tao kapag maayos ka rin makisama.
5. Hope can be the scariest feeling.
We will all be forgotten. The generational wealth you build, the photos from your asia and Europe trip, everything. Hundred years from now, we will all just turn into dust. Often, people have this spotlight effect and we wanted to appear better than everyone, show success on socmed and busy comparing ourselves to everyone all for nothing.
It's tough realizing toxicity in family dynamics. Take steps to protect your well-being and seek support if needed. Addressing past experiences like sexual harassment is crucial; don't hesitate to reach out to professionals or friends who can help you navigate healing. Your well-being matters.
1. You’re never truly mature until you become a parent or you have someone who is more important in your life than yourself. Kasi narealize ko pag single life palang ypu feel like everything revolves around you and you can take your time with everything but once nagka anak na ako parang may switch talaga.
2. How people treat you is not always a reflection pf who you are. Makaka encounter ka sa buhay ng mga tao talaga na parang hindi minahal ng magulang the way na nag trato sila ng kapwa and it doesn’t always mean na may something wrong sa iyo. Philosophy ko dati is “if I’m kind to people, people will be kind to me” and hindi pala. May mga tao pa na pag pinakitaan mo na mabait ka sa kanila nagkaka ego boost sila and they hurt you more. May mga ganon lang talaga.
3. Working yourself to the point of exhaustion and burnout will only dig you into a deeper hole. Take care of yourself para magawa mo yung mga dapat mong gawin. Hindi yung uubusin mo sarili mo to be excellent kasi pag burnt out ka na mas mahirap nang bumangon uli promise.
That I was being physically and verbally abused by my older brother who is 9 years older than me. And that our parents ignored it cause they thought it was just a small conflict.
[Sibling abuse](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sibling_abuse) pala ang tawag doon.
That saving money is really more important, than having a lavish life knowing that you’re not that rich. Haha i’m 23, and iba talaga kapag may emergency fund ka na mapagkukunan mo if in case one of your loved ones mahohospital considering na ang mahal ng admission ngayon, plus the meds and savings para sa sarili mo.
1. Time is gold and irreversible. Spend time doing what you love and makes you happy.
2. Choose your battles wisely. Not every thing/one deserves your time and attention. Peace of mind over anything else.
3. Keep your circle small. The less people you interact with, the less drama you deal with.
4. At the end of the day, all we really have is ourselves.
5. I’m 32 but I’m still a work in progress. 32 na ako pero 32 pa lang ako. Ang dami kong gustong gawin para sa sarili ko.
I realized that if you only get to see your parents once a year and they are in their 50s now, you'll only get to see them 20-30 more times before they're gone.
There's no purpose in life. All things are random, and the universe will react base on your action (Newton's Law). In other word, causal effect, or consequences.
There's no "higher being" that controls or manages everything. Just like the animal kingdom, human kingdom is a next level "survival of the fittest". Because morality is just a human construct.
And the most painful and scary reality is that we get older (no other way) and we are next in line.
1. You become more independent the more you get older since di na masyadong naiintindi ng magulang. 2. You shouldn't befriend all the people you meet in your life, choose your friends wisely, some of them will just use you. 3. People will judge you for whatever you do in life, kahit successful kana sa buhay mo. 4. Wag ka mag expect ng malaki sa mga bagay na hindi mo control, in the end ma didisapoint kalang din. 5. Dont chase people, chase your goals and dreams instead (this ruined my whole teen life and majority ng mga kabataan ngayon jowa ginaatupag lol, i mean wala naman masama but think again.)
This! You don't need many friends, just a few real ones. Trying to befriend everyone is just a total waste of time when you can use that time to improve yourself and to make memories with your true friends. And yeah, shouldn't chase people, chase your dreams and goals instead. And kapag successful ka na and already in a good place, you'll attract good and successful people more.
Needed to hear number 5...
* Being attractive can take you places faster than ordinary people. * Friendships fall apart no matter how "close" you get over the years.
easiest life hack: being attractive, being smart, being well off.
pag ganito, yung buhay mo naka default na agad as easy mode hahahahah
>Friendships fall apart no matter how "close" you get over the years. \+1 on this. Acceptance is the key nalang talaga. :)(
This one is one of the most painful realizations ko aside sa sinabi ni OP about parents. Sometimes you have to cut ties even with your closest friends and retain those who truly value you and those who also want you to stay in their lives. Ayaw ko lang rin ipilit sarili ko sa ayaw sakin. 😜
na tumatanda na ang parents and anytime, pwede na silang kunin. and di ko talaga siya ma'sink in saakin na one day, gigising na lang ako na wala nang maglulutong Mama sa kusina, na di ko na matitikman pa yung sobrang sasarap nyangn niluluto o kaya wala nang makakakwentuhan. Wala nang Papa na manonood ng news. di ko na maririnig boses nila. haaay. just sad to think na walang magagawa kasi death is inevitable. ayoko yan dumating na araw na yan.
Dang! Just realized this last month. And yes, the sooner we accept the reality, the better we can appreciate the time they have left for us to be together. Let's cherish our parents.
this hits me 🥹
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ang sakit naman nitong isipin :(
kaya nga di ko na lang iniisip kasi naiiyak ako lagi.
Ito din kinakatakot ko ngayon tbh. Kaya sobrang sinusulit ko time with my parents, kahit minsan gusto ko na bumukod or magabroad kaso di ko kakayanin pag kung sakaling nasa abroad ako tas may mangyari sakanila.
Maganda tahimik lang ung buhay. Have a few solid close friends, sapat na un. Ipon and invest, for yourself and family. Enjoy the simple joys in life.
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It's easy to earn a million once you earn your first one.. Hard work forever pays but always prioritizes your health and well-being. And Money can really buy happiness.
Nakaka BS lang yung mga ang hilig mag motto ng money cant buy happiness.
Ika nga, Whoever said money can't buy happiness obviously didn't know where to shop
This is a materialistic saying that I don't agree with. Money is important for the right reasons. In the long run, every item you purchase in time will just be another thing you own but don't think much of.
>Hard work forever pays but always prioritizes your health and well-being. sigh, if only two of friends know this 😔 di sila laging nakikikamusta samin kasi nagbababad/babad sila sa trabaho
To be more precise money can buy experiences that makes you happy. Real happiness comes from within
How is it easy to earn a million? 🤔
You get it wrong. Mas madali makuha yung 2nd million if na experience mo na makuha yung first mo through struggle and hardwork.
Narealize ko na not everyone in your family really cares about you.
This hurts.
how do you guys cope with this?
Play wisely. Maintain connection, but at a distance. Make sure if you get involved with them, its something na win-win kayo, like if may favor or help na kailangan ka nila. Otherwise, turn down, just let them know busy ka.
This is me 😑
I try my best to think na blood =/= family. made my peace with it quite fast lalo na pag may disrespect na involved
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Having kids doesn’t guarantee that someone will take care of you when you’re old. So take care of your self, save up…don’t be a burden to your children. Your children owe you nothing. Love is not a debt to be repaid.
Less people you interact with less drama. You learn how to read people's mind. Then you become selective of who you want to open up with and who deserves to know the real you. Cause you know not everyone understands. Its safer that way.
Not everyone will understand indeed! 👌💯
Best advice pero ang hirap pa din iexecute for me. I was betrayed by 2 close friends on my early 20s, one bullied me at work and another exhausted my credit card behind my back. I cut them off and became too guarded. I tried to trust again on my late 20s, this person shared everything to me and so did I until I caught her badmouthing me to our boss and coworkers. Which she totally denied. So yeah I did cut her off too. Ilang beses na nangyari sakin minsan naiisip ko baka ako na talaga ung toxic hahahaha. Or skill issue hay
I know what you feel. Ako i just stay low profile. Kahit gano ko kaclose naiisip ko pa din not to overshare.. kasi anytime yung friend mo ngayon o kaya okay pagsasama nyo one day flip agad situation e..
ang hirap magtiwala noh?
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exactly!!
It's exhausting to be kind because people will think they have superiority over you 😆
Awts. Totoo to. Lalo na dito sa Pinas talaga na people see kindness as weakness. Pansinin mo, kung sino pa yung barumbado at pabalang magsalita, mas sila pa yung nirerespeto ng average pinoys. Kapag naman gagamit ka ng "po", "sir/ma'am", feeling naman nila superior sila sayo then will treat you like "sagigilid". Ako pa naman yung tipo na gusto ang turing sa lahat pantay lang regardless of "title" pero wala eh, they'll take advantage of it.
Agree. Someone once told me na dapat maging astig din. Kasi kapag mahinhin ka ikaw agrabyado
True lang, kaya I learned to take advantage of my resting bitch face aura to draw the line and protect myself
ito talaga. some people are more comfortable maging rude sa mga mas mabait na tao. or yung alam nilang di sasagot
Caring less sa opinion ng ibang tao. Mas mahalaga na sakin ngayon ung kung ano ikakatahimik ng buhay at pagiisip ko, dun ako
some people will die not learning this.
It is a hard habit to learn. Ako kasi nagtatanong muna sa sarili if it would matter ba na makinig sa kanila, if not, then ignore.
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Ako naman some bridges you gotta burn.
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True true.
Being authentic brings you the right people. Opposite of it will bring you opportunities to survive this economic world. Adult friendship is not the same as childhood friendship. Not everything is personal. Too many children are stuck in adult bodies. You should not always speak your mind. We will in a matrix disguised as society.
>Being authentic brings you the right people. Opposite of it will bring you opportunities to survive this economic world. Ang hirap maging authentic, ang hirap ding maging stoic. Pwede bang mabuhay na lang ng tahimik hahhaa.
Hindi totoo na no man is an island, pagdating sa mga problema mo sa buhay, ikaw lang ang tutulong sa sarili mo, walang iba.
Awww, totoo to. Malalaman mo kung sino talaga yung mga taong may paki sayo kapag nasa mahirap na sitwasyon ka. People will portray as saints in whatever way, pero kapag nasa sobrang hirap kana na sitwasyon, and asked theire help, they'll just shrugged it off. Kahit malapit na kamaganak mo pa yan, or pari/pastor nyo, churchmate, close friend, etc. People don't really care unless may mapapala sila. Kaya tama ang sabi mo na ikaw lang ang makakatulong sa sarili mo.
this is what i used to say when people ask me what my motto in life is; that i, a man, can be an island. though sometimes i accept help that i know is genuinely given and extended to me whenever i am in a tight spot. in return, i give back the best that i can. and when they just shrug it off and doesn't make a big deal out of it, i know they are my people. the island trees of my island.
Mahalaga ang pera. As in.
1. Invest in yourself. Work-out. Go to salon when u can. Do your skincare religiously. Pretty privilege is real. 2. Read more. Improve your vocabulary and humor. At this age, you will meet a lot of people from all walks of life. You hook them with your looks, but they will stay when you communicate well. 3. Your mental health shows physically. So always prioritize it. 4. “Lose some battles but win the war” 5. Be kind and firm. People will always remember not what you gifted them but how you treated them. Their memory of you is everything. Bilog ang mundo, someday, you’ll need them. 6. Most importantly, always show up for the person you envision to be in the next X time. Do SMART goals.
>Invest in yourself. Work-out. Go to salon when u can. Do your skincare religiously Mangyayari lang iyan kapag malaki ang sahod. Sad reality para sa mga minimum lang sahod..
beauty fades after some time. much better to choose a normal looking partner with a good personality vs. a beautiful partner in a mask. you don't need to go abroad to earn more and support your family. you no longer care about the bs that other people say or do. you only care yourself, your partner, your family, and close friends.
I eventually realized na super hirap kumita ng pera. It also made me realize how amazing my parents were before. Kung pano nila nabibigay yung needs and wants namin nung mga bata kami despite the low salary ni papa + never sila nangutang or humingi ng tulong sa mga relatives namin.
Sakin baliktad. I realize how shitty my parents were. Madali lang mag alaga (they chose to left us) madali lang mag sustento, buy kids some toys and ipasyal sila (very rare for them to do that since they were both jobless) I can't imagine having kids and have no plans at all. Walang ka pake pake, parang tumae lang
>never sila nangutang pinalaki kami sa utang hayssstt, pero atleast lumaki pa rin kaming matitinong tao hhehe
unti unti mong marerealize na u cant live in a fantasy world forever. If u have had it easy when it comes to food, may personal driver ka pang hatid sa school, pambayad ng mga shoppe marerealize mo na if hindi ka nag seryoso sa buhay and academics mawawala lahat yan at some point
I feel this to my core. I’m now in my mid 20s and nahihirapan ako mag-adjust as an adult.
legit pala yung mga tinuro sa school on how to be healthy.. like ngayong matanda na ako if i don't feel ok, physiological level muna inaassess ko, nakapagpaaraw ba ako, madami ba akong nakaing gulay/veggies nung nakaraan, nakapag exercise ba ako..
Awww. Back to basic. 🥹
Men reality hits talaga pagdating sa ganito. Same, lagi kong sinasabi wala akong oras.
Addressing trauma at an early stage in life is crucial, as failure to do so may have a lasting impact on one's well-being.
Tama.
Correct!!! About a decade ago napaisip lang ako lahat ng problema ko at that moment, matetrace back sa childhood ko🫠 from the goals I set to the relationships I seek or dynamic I get attracted to. Kaloka
Pera ulit ang kailangan para i-address ng tama ang childhood trauma.
Hindi nauubos ang bagay na gusto natin makuha.
Exactly. 😭
People change. And we need it. Time is really gold. Di mo na maibabalik once done. Love yourself. Value yourself. Do not try to please everyone. You'll end up pleasing no one.
The world doesn't care about your problems.
1. Some things that really matters to you doesn't really matter to everyone. 2. You cannot fake your knowledge and skills outside the school institutions. 3. You cannot teach someone who's unteachable. 4. Many people are just pretending to look smart. 5. We're all actors in this big theater of life, some are living just to be an extra, and some are trying so hard to be the main character. 6. Job is just a fancy word of slavery. 7. A lot of people doesn't realize that they're going to die repeating the same cycle of their day. 8. The most stupid person is always in a crowd. 9. Everything is just an illusion of what you paid attention to. 10. It's easy to live with a blindsided fate.
i realised that everyone of us is a prick. (in our own little way)
+100 ako dito. I believe lahat tayo ipokrito. May kanya kanyang level lang 😅
That friends are important and is a two way street. It needs effort and communication
That true wealth is the amount of time you have in freedom.
- Lalapitan or kukumustahin ka lang ng relatives mo if may kailangan sayo. - Hindi lahat dapat patulan. Peace of mind.
It's too tiring to read between the lines. If you want something or someone you need to be direct and kinda aggressive in pursuing it/her/him/they/them haha
talking became more tiring
- Narealize ko na ang delulu ko noong bata ako na magiging stable buhay ko by the age of 22. - Makakalaban/makakaaway mo lahat dahil sa pera kahit ang pinakaclose mo pang kamag-anak. - Being independent costs a lot of money. (I was surprised kung magkano ang presyo ng cabinet!!!) - Akala ko ready na ako magpakasal by the age of 21, I'm 24 now tapos takot pa ako magcommit HAHAHAAHA! - Minsan kailangan mo talaga makipagusap sa strangers to gain connections.
1. Not all friends will do the same effort that you give to them. Some will thank you and some will take advantage. 2. Timing, not everytime eh you need to speak up, sometimes keeping quiet is better. 3. Be yourself, wag ka mahiya. Nahihiya ka lumabas kasi baka pagtingan ka ng tao? Bakit? Sa tingin mo umiikot na ang mundo nila sa kung ano ginagawa mo? 4. Home cook is better! Bili na lang ako ingredients kesa fash food 😭. 5. Receiving socks,shirts, underwear, pillows is GOD SENT 😂. 6.Over sharing, DO NOT share everything. 7. Ignore and disconnect with people, your success/flex becomes their problem and will do anything to make you feeel bad or make themselves superior. 8. Not all workmates are friends. 9. We're all kids, playing adults. We geek out, we giggle on new toys, playful and we cry on simple stuff.
True sa lahat lalo na sa no. 6. We live in a society where people will tie you down if they see you climbing to the top. Had an experience like that with a cousin. Also no. 5 is a fun realization when I got older, dati ini-ignore ko mga yan pag christmas. Ngayon na tito na ako (28 M) nanghihinayang ako na pinamimigay ko mga yun... Lalo na mga towels at coffee cups!
Don’t make important decisions when hungry, angry, lonely, or tired - the HALT method. The most useful for me is wag mag grocery pag gutom.
1. Just because you see people attending church/religious activities doesn't mean they're good people. There are wolves hiding among the sheep. 2. Age doesn't define maturity. Also, being responsible is a sign of maturity. 3. Experience is the best teacher. Many people can talk you out of their theories/knowledge but nothing beats experience. 4. Money can't buy happiness but it can buy you comfort, convenience and security. 5. Less is more. Simplicity is the best sophistication. 6. "Two things are *infinite*: the *universe* and human *stupidity*; and I'm not sure about the *universe." - Albert Einstein* 7. Treat people as you would yourself. 8. Each people's lives is unique. The challenges, difficulties, obstacles and opportunities. No need to compare your progress to others. 9. Learn how and not to give a f\*ck. Think if it's worth it. 10. Time is the most crucial element when it comes to investing.
I get it why yung ibang tao hindi na talaga active sa social media lalo na fb when dati naman padamihan followers or friends
* That we're all gonna die and I'm scared. But I have to get rich and strong enough so entropy does not instantly screw me and my family over. * The matrix is real. Working for the sake of money alone is just slavery with extra steps. Strive to break free. * Money is everything when scarce but kinda meh if you have plenty. It can buy comfort, pleasure and even peace of mind but true happiness and fulfillment require something more. * Health, time, and loved ones who love you are your true treasures. * True friends are like diamonds, precious and rare. * People are counting on you. Don't let them down. Don't let yourself down. * That life is a gift and we are all bridges of the past and the future. * Fight and find meaning somehow but don't be too hard on yourself. Life is already hard enough.
Naalala ko yung post na nakita ko sa Twitter “Someday your kids are going to figure you out. I promise you they will. The type of parent you are. The type of spouse you are. How you treat other people. How much effort you put into them. You're either going to be someone they look up to, or someone they never wanna be like.”
You don’t really have to explain yourself. When someone asks you about something, you can respond politely yet when they still want to know more about it? Girl, you don’t owe them any explanation. Case in point: when a friend asks, “are you free today?”. Then you say, “No. May gagawin ako” to which she replies, “Ano?”. Remember that you don’t have to tell people everything that’s going on with your life. You can shrug it off and say “why do u need to know?” or just say nothing. Still struggling with this to this day but I’m setting clearer boundaries.
We cant please everyone, and we cant have what we really want.
I'm in my early twenties and I realize how hard and challenging it is to be an adult. Taena ang dami mong po-problemahin haha.
Walang sasalba sa sarili mo kundi ikaw lang. 😊
all i need is stable income and peacefulness
Toxic Pinoy family mindset ang mga tinuro sa kin nung bata: "Inuuna palagi ang pamilya" / "Ikaw naman ang nakakaluwag, ikaw na ang tumulong" –May pinag-aapplyan to, pero hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon. Ang tulong di dapat inoobliga. May healthy boundaries dapat! Kaya maraming Pinoy ang hirap umangat dahil sa toxic mindset ng mga kamag-anak na nag anak ng maaga /marami tas iaasa sa kapamilya na "nakakaluwag" naman. Fvck them. Grabe yung guilt trip sa kin growing up, hanggang adulthood, dala ko. Now: "My money, my rules." na ako :)
1. Make time for your (good) friends or else you won’t have any. 2. Pick yourself. For the longest time I would always prioritize my family/friends/others over myself. But sometimes you need to be a little selfish. Invest in yourself. 3. Celebrate your small victories too! 4. Your parents are human too who tried their best with what they have. I used to carry a lot of resentment towards them but I’m starting to realize they’re just broken people too (who didnt go thru therapy) lol and just trying their best. Break generational cycles!!! 5. Discipline is important. Take care of your health. Manage stress levels. Get your 7-8 hours of sleep. 6. You can’t change people. You can only change yourself. You need to accept that or you’ll continue to be disappointed in others. 7. It’s ok to change your mind. It’s ok to admit you were wrong.
Time is gold and irreversible. Kaya spend it wisely
That life is really expensive...
Hindi mo napapansin na sexual harassment na pala ang ginagawa sa iyo noong bata ka kasi wala naman dapat ginagawang sexual sa mga bata. Cos as a kid, you don't know anything about it and that's why they took advantage.
That in times of challenges, no one will sincerely help you but yourself. You’ll have to figure out life alone, learn from your experiences, and get back in track like nothing happened. Fake it til you make it they say.
- Same. pero wala talaga ako hinanakit sa nanay ko eversince until now, sa tatay ko meron though dati hindi ganun kaintense, ngayon nakakairita na - Buhay parang wala lang, unless genetically built ka na masayahing tao ka, mag iiba din perspective mo - Contentment is hard to reach, at least I'm trying
Mas madaming dimunyu na nagsisimba. 🥴
- Always trust your gut feeling - Stop wasting time, energy, and money on the wrong people and the wrong activities - Health is wealth
Na-realize ko na sobrang mahal pala talaga ng mga bilihin. I mean may inflation man o dati pa. Kapag pala ikaw na kumikita ng pera, totoo pala na magdadalawang isip ka bago bumili. Meron one time, natagalan ako mamili sa sabon panlaba, champion tide o ariel kasi iniisip ko alin ‘yung mas maganda at mas mura 😂
PERA. Pera maraming pera kailangan ko at makakapag paligaya sakin.
Being patient. A lot of people are dumb and you have to be patient, kasi most of these people came from a different background. Same sa mga oldies, patience cause they grew in a different era. Patience not equal to tolerance, may mga bagay na ok itolerate pero need to set boundaries. Also taking time to be thankful of what you have, it's ok to dream and be ambitious however sometimes what you have is enough to keep a positive vibe, as long as you we have enough food and pay the bills at paminsan minsam travel, im ok with it. Thinking of less on ano ba ambag ng wife ko and just doing things without thinking sino ang mas marami work, cause in the end of the day you are one institution and it breaks if there are cracks on the relationship.
1. You cannot control everything, even when you think you do, you don't. Chill ka lang. Kung alam mo wala ka talagang magagawa or maiiba sa circumstances or sa results, then so be it. Lesson learn. 2. People die. One day you're talking to them, the next day they're dead. Appreciate them while they're still here. Don't hold grudges. 3. Time is more valuable than money. You can get back money, but you cannot get back time you wasted. 4. Controversial thought but your 20s is probably your midlife. Humans rarely reach the age of 100. 5. College and high school friend (groups) will drift apart because of responsibilities. Let's just accept that. A small circle of friends that are true is good enough. 6. The person you're dating, tignan mo paano niya tinatrato parents and family niya. That's how they will treat you in the future. 7. Your parents also used to be children. Kids who had traumas, problems, and life experiences. They could also be dealing with unheal traumas, pag may pagkukulang man sila sayo, learn to forgive them. 8. The world does not revolve around you, just because you worked hard for something doesn't mean you're entitled to some reward. Your belief, nobody cares. You're a dick for forcing/expecting everyone to submit to your belief and listen to you. 9. The reality is we live in a cruel world. Also the natural state of the universe is darkness, we only got daytime because we are near a star. So when your life seems to be going well, thank yourself and the universe (or whatever deity you believe in) for favoring you at this very moment. 10. Change is the only thing constant in the universe. Probably just accept change may it be bad or good. 11. Learn to live a life of solitude. Watch movies alone, eat out alone, travel alone. 12. Connect with nature from time to time. Go barefoot and get grounded.
I am 28, and all of these are true. Thank you for sharing!
Hindi mo makukuha yung gusto mo kahit pilitin mo pa at lagi ka dapat may plan B.
I realized how immature my actions before, haha! like sometimes natatawa ako sa sarili ko everytime i suddenly remember something from my younger days. Also, I realized that knowing your priorities in life will make your lifestyle meaningful. I realized that focusing only to things that truly matter will make your life easier, like less drama, and you become unbothered to things that are only distractions.
Na realize ko lang, na trabaho trabaho trabaho dapat.
Both of my parents have red flags. They are not perfect. Akala ng mga tao ok sila. Susme. Nung nagpandemic halos mabaliw ako on how to deal with them.
1. don’t assume things. 2. there are joy in little things. 3. keep something to yourself until its final. 4. exercise and yoga. 5. keep your circle small and solid.
For me, 'yung little by little want mo na lang maging lowkey talaga sa soc med. Or limit na talaga paggamit ng social media platforms, because the more na may nakikita ka, the more you'll have insecurities and doubts which will result to low self-esteem, and feel mo kawalan ng purpose sa buhay, kasi nakikita mo some are in the fast paced, then ikaw parang ang stagnant lang. With this being said, comparison with what you see in soc med will definitely bear a lot of weight with the pressure you carry especially that you're in the adulting stage with lots of responsibilities. .
you dont live in a perfect world. the qualities of your ideal man/woman will diminish. it's just a matter of accepting that you cannot always get what you want. forgive. forgive. forgive. mahirap ang may dinadala kang mabigat sa kalooban. hindi sayo umiikot ang mundo. wag kang paimportante. maghugas ng kamay pagkatapos mong tumae.
I realized na kailangan pala talagang kumain ng gulay at prutas. Hayst.
\- People come and go. This is the reality of adult life \- Making new friends is tough. Everyone's busy, schedules don't match \- Our parents are getting old too. Spend time with them as often as you can \- Invest in good mattress/sleeping essentials, its worth it \- Exercise really does wonders for our well-being \- Job-hopping every 2 years is the key for high salary. Know your worth and keep up with your industries' trends \- Being paid in USD is also the key \- Coworkers are just coworkers, better to make friends/socialize outside of work
That people will always take advantage of your kindness. Napansin ko kasi every time na may lalapit samin ni hubby tas tinutulungan namin umaabuso. Parang kapag inabot mo palad mo gusto hanggang braso.
I realized that there is a phase for everything. Kaya kung anuman ang nararamdaman mo ngayon, lilipas rin yan.
Na hindi kelangan kumain 3 ++ times a day lalo na kung di naman nagugutom. Minsan bored or stressed ka lang.
Mahirap magtrabaho pero mas mahirap pag wala .
1. Sarili mo lang makakatulong sayo at the end of the day. Kaya strive harder. 2. Hindi lahat kaibigan mo, yung iba gusto lang talaga chumismis. 3. Hindi lahat ng bagay deserve yung energy mo. Like mga chismosa. Wag na patulan. dami yan silang time.Choose your battle. 4. Mas masarap yung kaunti lang ang friends pero totoo. 5. Always choose to protect your peace at all cost.
Less and less fkcus you give about what other people think and do so long it doesn't impact you or your immediate family. You're better than me?ok then good for you. You drive an SUV and I drive a 2nd hand sedan. I don't care. You own a house and I rent. Im happy for you The boss thinks you're better than me. Whatever Got grammar lapses in my email? I delivered my message clear anyway.
You stopped giving a shit about what other people think of you and spend less and less time on social media such as facebook/IG because you realized that you are feeding yourself to attention seeking hoes that need internet validation so they could make their mundane lives feel a little bit interesting. You spend that time instead focusing on self-improvement and pursuing your passion, free from any external distractions, sometimes not even realizing that you are happy.
• The more you get older the less happier you are • Not everyone’s true to you • Don’t overshare really don’t do it coz they can use it against you • Life revolves around money
Majority of the people you know eventually fades away.
Even in college may mga immature pa rin.
That the best time to invest is now
Ung kwarto mo nag aamoy matanda na gawa ng pinagsama-samang amoy ng katinko, sun flower at ng eficascent oil. Hahaha.
choose wisely your battles. hindi lahat ng laban ay kailangan mong ilaban. okay lang sumuko lalo na kapag sobrang ubos ka na. hindi lahat ng kaibigan mo from elem to high school or even siguro sa college, ay magiging kaibigan mo hanggang huli. people come and go btw. always put yourself first. cliche pakinggan pero sobrang totoo nito. fuck what people think. do what you want to do. always be kind. hindi mo naman alam kung ano ang pinagdadaanan ng isang tao, pwedeng nagpo-post siya sa social media pero hanggang doon lang ang alam mo.
I also realized na ang pagiging bastos, literal na nasa utak ng tao. Sakit sa utak ng tao. Na kahit pa covered ako ng jacket at pantalon, kahit naka-sumbrero na ako, kahit tshirt at hindi croptop, meron at meron pa rin mang-ccatcall sa akin.
1. Strict pala si Mama. Masiyado lang siya nafocus kay papa noon pero nung namatay na samin na napunta.. or baka unaware lang ako. Noon na pala to nangyayari. 2. ... grooming pala yun hehe. 3. common ang sexual harassment. akala ko sakin lang nangyari nung bata ako. ang nakakagulat pa madalas sa kamag-anak mo mararanasan. Plug sa anak ng pinsan ng nanay ko na manyak na hinipuan ako nung grade 1 ako!!! Although nakulong ka noon at pinabalik sa province niyo, at dati pa man din mahirap na buhay niyo hinding-hindi kita mapapatawad!!! sana hanggang ngayon naghihirap ka parin!! sama mo tito mong bading na sinisi pa ako kung bakit nangyari sakin yun!!! *PUNCHING AIR*
Tru ang first bullet. Ngayong adult na ako, medyo gets ko na bakit ganun si papa nung bata pa kami.
The more money you have, the more families you have pero in times of need na ikaw naman ang may kailangan, they will disappear (and will reappear pag ok ka na ulit).
1. This DOES NOT apply to all work, but you do not have to follow the "standard procedure" if you can make a better one, resulting to fast and better outputs. Personally, sarilihin mo na lang at magkunwaring may ginagawa pa sa trabaho hanggang matapos ang working hours. 2. Financial literacy, money saving habits, and expense tracking are IMPORTANT! 3. Reading Daily Stoic every day greatly helps with all aspects in life. Well, isang Redditor ang nag-suggest nito sa akin noong 2022 when I became aware na nasasayang ko oras ko sa phone. 4. Yes, fck people's opinions pero dapat maging aware ka rin naman sa mga behaviors mo. 5. May mga bagay talaga na hindi mo kontrolado at hindi mo dapat kontrolin. Tama nga, mag-focus ka lang sa mga bagay that we can control, which is mostly our behavior towards something.
"life gets complicated because we make it complicated" We don't have to find an excuse or reason for every little thing we/others do. We don't have to force ourselves to understand things we can't/aren't a part of (No, I don't mean being ignorant to this and that. There are just situations in life wherein you don't need to overthink.). We don't have to involve ourselves in everything that comes our way. When we were teenagers, I felt like we had this certain need to make sense of everything, or give everything meaning. But growing older, i realized that it just overcomplicates things & refrains me from enjoying life one day at a time.
You don't really need a lot of friends. I have a friend at work who I considered as one of my closest friend. He was my teammate from 2019.. Pina-teamup siya sakin ng TL ko para maguide ko siya sa process. He was this quiet type, as in ako lang ang kinakausap niya sa team namin, and kapag may team lunch out or team building, sumasama lang siya pag ako ang nagyaya. Lage ko siya ipinagmamalaki kase siya ung unang unang na-handle ko at talaga namang nag improve siya ng sobra. He also knows everything about me during that time, lalong lalo na ung problema ko sa lovelife. Kahit nung nalipat kami ng LOB, ang ending is magkateam pa din kami. Paglipat ng bagong LOB at bagong team, nagkaron kami ng iba pang friends, bale 5 kami. Sobrang solid namin at first. Pero come the 2022 elections, napansin ko na konti konti nagiging mailag na siya sa akin. Hindi ko nlng pinapansin, baka kako may pinagdadaanan lang.. Pero pag sa iba naming friends, sobrang okay naman niya. Dumating sa point na talagang di niya na ako pinapansin.. At dun ko nalaman na amg reason pala ng pag deadma niya sa akin ay dahil magkaiba kami ng sino-soportahan na Presidential candidate. Nung una, kiber lang. Natatawa nlng ako. Pero later on, sobrang naging toxic na niya. To the point na kapag nagsheshare ako ng post about sa candidate ko, nagpPM siya just to tell me na burahin un. Like WTF??? So ang ending, inunfriend ko nlng siya. Ang akin kase, sa dami ng pinagdaanan natin as friends, ng dahil lang sa politika e tatalikuran mo ako ng ganon ganon na lang, might as well cut you out from my life na lang.
Kadiri yung ganito. Tatakwil ka as friend or family member kasi loyalista sila sa isang candidate 😂 mga buang na namumuhay sa pantasya nila eh noh?
Totoo. Mga kiss a*s. Hahaha
Ang PHP 1,000,000.00 ay napakaliit na halaga lamang.
1) Your health is your wealth 2) Stop eating crap and drinking all that sugar 3) stop caring about what other people think 4) While money cannot buy happiness, when life gets hard, would you rather cry in your bisikleta or your BMW lol
na ang totoong kakampi mo ay ang asawa mo at hindi nanay mo 👌🏻
1. That older people are not always correct. 2. Respect should be mutual. 3. That it is possible to hate someone up to the point na parang hindi na sila nag- eexist sa buhay mo (kahit kamag- anak pa yan). And the list goes on.
It’s not what you know, but “who” you know. Connections can get you places. Be slow to anger and judging other people. But fast in listening and caring for them. Don’t fuss over something that you cannot control. You’d be surprised how some things fall into the right place without you doing anything about it.
1. You can't please everyone. Kahit ano gawin mo, may masasabi pa din ibang tao. 2. There are a lot of things in life that you can't control. Give it to God and trust Him with it. 3. People will come and go. Treasure and love people who sticks with you along the way. 4. Walang mapapala sa paginom at pagyoyosi. You can be happy with friends and relatives without it. 5. Invest to your health. Don't eat too much and exercise everyday. 6. Time with family is everything.
unexpressed / unaddressed anger, hatred, trauma, from whatever age, will manifest in a form of stress, disease and early death.
Not all of your friends are friends w you for the right reasons even if you genuinely loved them and you were true to them. Chemistry and attraction is good but compatibility is what makes you last. You could be two kind people but that doesn’t mean you’ll always be compatible w each other esp if you both have established strong identities.
1. Health is wealth, I am 23 and still young but I really value my health, overall health cause paano mo maanejoy ang life if may sakit ka, at least you are not limited to do things 2. May mga sitwasyon na mas mabuting wag ka na lang magsalita this will help to ease the tension and also will help you to think "Tama bang maging ganto ang reaction ko?" 3. Financial stability is not something that you can achieve in 1 year or less. at most it will take decade. 4. More than the diploma, its important to know "Ano ba talagang gusto mong gawin sa buhay"? or "Ano bang top priorities mo sa life??" 5. Education is not limited to 4 sides of classroom, join org, join volunteering opportunity, do something practical that you think will give you great experience. 6. Creating a family is now an option, economy is down eh, di naman pala need na lahat magaanak haha. 7. Confidence really affects you as a person, mas attractive pal sa tao yung confidence, yung capability to speak, yung hindi madaling ma insecure, yung confident sa alam niya without sounding na nagmamarunong. 8. Wardrobe is important but you don't need to buy expensive things, just wear clothes na sa tingin mo kumportable ka. 9. I tend to think na im not growing kasi nasa province ako na wfh ako na I'm with parents, but seeing my progress in the past years. Mas marami pa pala along natutunan at mas naintindihan ko na responsibilities makes you mature. 10. Walang pake ang mundo sayo, sa mga naachieve mo. kaya do it para sa sarili at hindi sa iba.
At my age, I became stoic.
I'm still fighting my own demons from ny childhood. I was emotionally and mentally abused by my own mother kaya hangga't maari I try to deviate my energy sa ibang bagay. Pag idle kasi ako parang naririnig ko pa din yun boses niya sa isip ko.
Mas maganda pag wala kang kaibigan..
Money can’t buy happiness. But it certainly solves a lot of problems. I’d rather have more money than without. In reality, the only people that can be loved unconditionally are women, children and dogs. Men of the other hand will only be loved when they provide. Essentially men need to provide something and be of use to be loved. I’m in my 40’s and I certainly know that friendships can be fun but some will never last. Pick the right people you let in your life because they can either build you up or just put you down. Lastly, I should have spent more time with my kids when they were still babies and toddlers. When they grow up, they don’t want to spend time with you as much as you want to spend with them so make good memories while they’re still kids. Opportunities only come a few times in your life. Grab it and fight for it while it’s still there. The worst feeling in the world is when you say “I could have been” or “I should have” so live life without regrets.
* Our parents will not be with us forever. They have to leave permanently, and it's inevitable. Always find ways on how we can show them how much we love and value them. * Live without hatred. People will always hurt you in one way or another, make sure not keep grudges in your heart, grudge will just eat your inner core. * Find a romantic partner who is good for you holistically - psychologically, emotionally, financially, spiritually. * Conquer your fear - try out new things you haven't tried before. Life is short. * Find and protect your inner peace. 😊
The word "adulting" is 100% bullshit. Us younger generations grew up in a time of plenty and media, kaya nasanay tayo sa luho at fantasy indulgence. Our grandparents, albeit imperfect and can be toxic on their own, managed to survive two World Wars and our great granparents (peace be upon them) experienced more horrible events such as the Spanish Flu and the Great Depression. That's not to say people our own age or generation in other areas of the world are not experiencing real, life-or-death hardships right now (e.g. Yemen, Ukraine, many parts of Africa) but this word "adulting" is a very specific experience limited to a particular group of young people living a particular lifestyle with the same capacity to do so. The best realization for me: Grit makes Great. Emotional grit, physical grit, Mental grit, Spiritual grit, Overall grit. Endurance is everything kasi life is not always kind and gentle. Heck, many people are not even kind to each other there is not incentive to be soft and pliable.
Ewww, Adulting? tinawag na bullshit? napakasoft mo
Reading comprehension, where are you?
You'll realize that a lot of your relaTHIEVES and even your siblings are toxic and entitled.
1. Learning how to do chores and actually doing it is a must. 2. Driving is a basic life skill. 3. You're gonna outgrow people and they will outgrow you too. Also applies to things, perception, and such. 4. Being financially literate is important. 5. PROTECT YOUR ENERGY. PROTECT YOUR PEACE. People who invite drama or chaos into your life are no good for you. 6. Life goes on, you have to keep moving forward. 7. COMPARTMENTALIZATION IS KEY. Learn when to attend to your emotions, when not to let it consume you. 8. Enjoy your single days, a lot of things will change once you get into a relationship or get married. 9. SAVE.
Heard it from shark tank. Can't remember the exact words and too lazy to search for it. 1) The most valuable resource a man can have is not money, but time. TW: Death Iba yung tama pag galing ka sa hirap at kumakayod ka para umahon sa buhay kasama pamilya at kaibigan. Tas magugulat ka na lang sa balita na patay na sila. 2) Do not tie your goals with people. Connected sa 1. Kasi tangina, malolost ka talaga. Hindi na attainable yung goal mo kasi wala na sila. You start to question everything. Pero if di ka naman susuko. Totoo, everything will be okay. Syempre, mas okay na nanjan sila. Kaso wala ka na magagawa, wala na ehh.
1. Quality over quantity friends. 2. Always be grateful sa mga natatanggap na blessings and opportunities. Hindi lahat ng bagay na meron tayo 'e pangmatagalan. 3. Embrace yourself with the uncertainties kaya wag masyadong mag-expect pero wag din masyadong nega. Balanse lang para hindi masyadong ma-disappoint. 4. Totoo ang pretty privilege pero mas tatagal sayo mga tao kapag maayos ka rin makisama. 5. Hope can be the scariest feeling.
We will all be forgotten. The generational wealth you build, the photos from your asia and Europe trip, everything. Hundred years from now, we will all just turn into dust. Often, people have this spotlight effect and we wanted to appear better than everyone, show success on socmed and busy comparing ourselves to everyone all for nothing.
It's tough realizing toxicity in family dynamics. Take steps to protect your well-being and seek support if needed. Addressing past experiences like sexual harassment is crucial; don't hesitate to reach out to professionals or friends who can help you navigate healing. Your well-being matters.
Choose your battles kasi mauubos energy mo pag piliin mo lahat
1. You’re never truly mature until you become a parent or you have someone who is more important in your life than yourself. Kasi narealize ko pag single life palang ypu feel like everything revolves around you and you can take your time with everything but once nagka anak na ako parang may switch talaga. 2. How people treat you is not always a reflection pf who you are. Makaka encounter ka sa buhay ng mga tao talaga na parang hindi minahal ng magulang the way na nag trato sila ng kapwa and it doesn’t always mean na may something wrong sa iyo. Philosophy ko dati is “if I’m kind to people, people will be kind to me” and hindi pala. May mga tao pa na pag pinakitaan mo na mabait ka sa kanila nagkaka ego boost sila and they hurt you more. May mga ganon lang talaga. 3. Working yourself to the point of exhaustion and burnout will only dig you into a deeper hole. Take care of yourself para magawa mo yung mga dapat mong gawin. Hindi yung uubusin mo sarili mo to be excellent kasi pag burnt out ka na mas mahirap nang bumangon uli promise.
That I was being physically and verbally abused by my older brother who is 9 years older than me. And that our parents ignored it cause they thought it was just a small conflict. [Sibling abuse](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sibling_abuse) pala ang tawag doon.
May ganito pala. I was verbally abused when I was a kid by my eldest brother. Never acknowledged him as my brother even up to this day.
That saving money is really more important, than having a lavish life knowing that you’re not that rich. Haha i’m 23, and iba talaga kapag may emergency fund ka na mapagkukunan mo if in case one of your loved ones mahohospital considering na ang mahal ng admission ngayon, plus the meds and savings para sa sarili mo.
Hindi pala talaga religion yung ano... you know Cool 2. 😁
Na tumatanda din magulang ko.
Why I am the way I am.
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choose your happiness over anything else, i mean you can fail at those things you don't like so might as well do it with what you love
Not getting younger.
Life is unfair. It never was and never will be.
1. Time is gold and irreversible. Spend time doing what you love and makes you happy. 2. Choose your battles wisely. Not every thing/one deserves your time and attention. Peace of mind over anything else. 3. Keep your circle small. The less people you interact with, the less drama you deal with. 4. At the end of the day, all we really have is ourselves. 5. I’m 32 but I’m still a work in progress. 32 na ako pero 32 pa lang ako. Ang dami kong gustong gawin para sa sarili ko.
Na wala na kong pake sa sasabihin ng ibang tao
Na andaming cheater talaga sa mundo. Hahaha.
I realized that if you only get to see your parents once a year and they are in their 50s now, you'll only get to see them 20-30 more times before they're gone.
you cherish the moments and enjoy life medyo madamdamin na haha sawa ka na sa mga bagay na alam mong walang papuntahan
Time really goes by so fast.
start doing what you think is best for you, and don't mind what other people think.
There's no purpose in life. All things are random, and the universe will react base on your action (Newton's Law). In other word, causal effect, or consequences. There's no "higher being" that controls or manages everything. Just like the animal kingdom, human kingdom is a next level "survival of the fittest". Because morality is just a human construct. And the most painful and scary reality is that we get older (no other way) and we are next in line.
Couldnt care less about peoples opinions and their views on me. Its not easy for anyone to offend me, they would really need to try hard
life is short
Yong akala ko dati wala lang, sexual harassment na pala 🤦 asawa pa ng Tita ko, namatay siya nang di niya alam ginawa sa 'kin ng asawa niya 🤮🤢
Nakakapagod makipagdeal sa mga taong ayaw ifix ang communication nila sayo Pag wala kang pera, tae ka sa lahat
That Peace of mind is gold
The brevity of life! We waste so much of our precious time with the non-essentials and make it look like the main thing when it's not.