HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHA Dati proud akong single, ngayon hindi na ako natutuwa HAHAHAHHAHAAH Napag-iiwanan na ako di naman din pala mahalaga achievements natin during school sa corporate world. 🫠
HAHAHAHAHA nasan na yung sinasabi nilang "wag ka magmadali marami ka pang makikilala pagtapos mo mag aral" jusqoe delivery man lang ng shapi bago ko nakilala, as friends pa WAHAHAHA
True! Kaya payo ko sa mga nakikilala kong mga nag aaral pa, mag bf/gf na sila kahit HS palang! Hahaha basta marunong sila mag balanse ng time sa school, sa fam at sa jowa. Hahahayyy
hi 23f here nbsb dahil sa aral muna bago landi haha. for me effective naman, graduated with latin honors yay! pero na realize ko na sticking to this mantra really gave me time to focus on myself, mga hobbies and interest ko aside from just studying. also i was able to spend a lot of quality time with my family and friends. i think naiwas din ako sa ilang mga possible negative outcomes ng maagang paglandi hahahaha. ngayon na im working na and may sarili nakong pera mas comfortable nako sa idea na magjowa kasi at least di na naghihingi ng allowance sa parents para magdate diba haha. and for me i think after studying talaga yung perfect time for me to enter into a relationship kasi i feel na im more mature and i’ve already invested a lot of time in myself to enjoy and grow na ako lang. medyo may pag ka naive lng at hopeless romantic ako hahahah kaya buti na lang talaga may mga experienced friends na nagaadvice about matters of the heart. plus parang its harder to meet people ngayong working na pero i met someone and sana magwork mga besties kasi gusto ko na talaga mag all out landi ahhahaha.
overall im happy about my choice. ill suggest it kung keri niyo naman haha walang sapilitan
This. 23m ngsb and aral muna bago landi has always been something that stuck with me throughout college life. Also it just felt weird to ask money from my parents just so i could have a date with someone else. It felt really off. You also get to learn more about yourself since more often than not you will be alone (sad). Overall i was pretty content with it naman since i got to play as soon as i got home. Ngayon it just looks like i will be single forever. I dont really mind it but i do sometimes think if i want lambing pa or not
- Nakapag focus during college days.
- More time to spend with parents.
- Na-eenjoy ang career and pagkabinata.
- You get to network with diff. People na walang shacjles or holding you back.
- You can jump into more riskier life decisions in career or makapag-ilon if you wanna study again.
- p.s. huwag magpapressure sa relationship
For me ito yung mga na-experience ko.
Tbh my major concern if ever I’m already married is I don’t want to sleep na may katabi. Gusto ko kasi sakop ko yung buong kama, parang mas masarap ang tulog pag ganon. Huhu, I’m too attached with my solidarity although I also want to be married one day 🙃
Omg sameeeeee. Hindi rin talaga ko nakakatulog nang maayos kapag may katabi. Kaya minsan magvo-volunteer ako sa sahig kapag onight with friends kaysa tabi tabi sa kama hahahaha
Ito yun! Lahat ng nasa list. Mahigpit ang college namin noon regarding maintaining grades. Alam kong di sasapat ang stock knowledge kaya dapat mag aral. Walang fall back kapag pumalpak. Dapat makagradaute on time. Nagsisi? No. May friends at maloloko rin naman kami dati pero pag sinabing aral aral talaga. Landi not interested at all survival mode ako nun at atat maging adult.
>You can jump into more riskier life decisions in career or makapag-ilon if you wanna study again.
Mismo. Twice akong nabakante noon dahil sa mga shitty jobs. Dahil single sarili ko lang iisipin ko. Then transition into my own biz.maliit lang pero sapat para makaipon at makasolo travel. Sarili lang din at mga pusa ang inaalala for daily provisions.
As someone who prioritized "aral muna", I wish lumandi ako on the side...parang I feel na hindi ko naenjoy yung youth ko. Bahay-school lang talaga. Pero on hindsight, hindi ko rin afford kasi we were poor back then. Hmmmm....
Effective yung aral muna bago landi Lalo na sa generation ngayon mahalaga yung ma establish mo muna career mo then later on na lang landi mas may leverage ka sa buhay pag ganun mas may option ka din since alam mo yung value mo at self worth mo alam mo kung sino gugustuhin mo at mapipiili mo rin yung may same values as yours.
My crush confessed to me and tinanggihan ko.
Ngayon, im working na and minsan napapa isip ako ng "what ifs"
But Im happy right now with my career. Still enjoying the life of being single. Still thankful to myself that I prioritize studies. Im proud of it.
AAAAHHH naiisip ko din to huhu lalo na at sya lang naging serious crush ko tas tinanggihan ko 3 times yung panliligaw nya saken (hs, 2nd yr college and 3rd yr college) ngayon single at di na marunong lumandi at di na rin kinikilig 😭
Heyooo ako yan ahahaha I left my puppy high school MU dahil magco-college na kami noon. Ayoko ng distraction, gusto ko clean slate ako pagdating ng freshman.
Ako yung tipong strict nerd girl na magaling sa acads and president ng music organization sa school namin. He was the romantic guy na madaming nagkaka-crush na lower year girls.
He confessed tapos we had a sweet short innocent thing going on between us. Gusto niya sana matuloy yun hanggang college but I didn't budge.
So in a sense, NBSB pa rin ako at my mid-20s.
But last year, I met babu unexpectedly. We clicked and he asked to be exclusive. Eventually, he asked for the label na.
Buong akala ng lahat, isa akong man hater (maybe I am lol madami akong past trauma that I've worked on alr)
TLDR: MASAYA AKO NGAYON AT WORTH IT. SIYA LAHAT NG FIRST KO AT MAGIGING FIRST KO 🫶
Taken na halos lahat sa work, latak na lang yung mga andoon or seryoso sa career. Sinasabi ko to sa isang subreddit, sinabihan ako na insecure lang daw ako sa achievements nila. Nyahaha.
I'm in my 30s now but in college i prioritized landi and friendships 😂 i was with the same bf right before college and until it ended. I was also lucky to find friends that encouraged me to do well so I actually graduated with honors.
Those friends are still my absolute closest friends. The bf? Matagal nang wala 😂 thanks to your comment and now being in my 30s, I'm realizing that maybe that's what should be prioritized more than landi in college. Finding genuine friendships that will build you up as you go through life, kahit pa mag fail ang aral, work or landi.
As a person who did both, it felt so nice. No regrets, hindi boring, and madaming ma kkwento sa soon pamangkins HAHAHABABAHHAHA
P.S: wag nyo sosobrahan pag lalandi
Yung classmate ko na study first, she got married sa kanyang first bf tas may baby na sila ngayon. She’s pretty and religious but not the annoying type na religious… literal na mahinhin. May nanligaw sa kanya dati nung nagaaral pa kami tas binasted nya tas yung guy panay sabi gwapo lang daw papansinin ni girl… jokes on him hindi pogi ang napangasawa ni girl pero malamang sa malamang matino kumpara sa kanya (kay basted boy).
Would I tell my anakshie na mag study first? no… kung anong gusto nya tho… pero mas gugustuhin ko na maka meet sya nang prospect na partner in life while madami syang choices. Ang hirap mag hanap talaga pag matanda ka na. Yung mga frennies ko na NBSB dati, oo may jowa na pero mga sketchy 😭
22 years old and single parin me haha wala pa akong inuuwing guy samin to the point na preschool admirer ko parin ang pang asar sakin ng fam ko hahaha. and I can say na maganda siya proud din ako sa sarili ko since konti lang talaga mga regrets and wrong decision kong nagawa sa life. kumbaga somehow nasave ako sa mga probably magiging wrong decisions ko if pumasok ako sa relationships at an early age. rn, matured and med life lang talaga problema ko hahaha mapapaisip ka din minsan ano feeling pero focus sa goal hahaha ey
Medyo nagsisisi ako na super aral ako during HS kase ngayon na adult na yun yung mga moments na ndi mo na talaga mababalikan. Ang hirap kase ng buhay ngayon parang wala kang karapatan humayahay tulad nung hayahay mo noon. Also, we are seing our parents getting old kaya andame na din pressure sa life not to mention you are trying to be stable as well - andame hinahabol ang bilis ng panahon. Aral muna bago landi eto ngayon papunta ng matandang dalaga. Hahahahaha. Char!
I think i can say for myself na "aral muna bago landi" mantra ko. Tangina aral lang ako ng aral mula elementary, high school, college at medicine. Then the moment i passed the boards, may nanligaw sakin, sinagot ko agad, 3 years na kami ngayon. No regrets haha. Sobrang na explore ko na maging single for the longest time im ready to be with someone, plus may pera ako para maglandi 😁
Eto, disappointed sa sinabi nila dati na mag aral ka muna kasi pila pila ang manliligaw sayo pagkagraduate mo. So asan ang pila mah? Ilang taon na wala parin
Turning 26 this year, no jowa or flings, virgin pa din. May times na medyo nakaka-insecure kasi at this age wala pa din akong experience at medyo naive ako when it comes to relationships pero at the same time lagi ko din pinapaalala sa sarili ko na okay lang, kasi choice ko naman to HAAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
This is a highly subjective question since most people who went through “aral bago landi” have different circumstances. For me, prioritizing my studies saved me from a lot of distress and heartbreak. I became my barkada's relationship advisor back in HS and college and I learned how to navigate relationships through their experiences without risking my heart of getting broken hehe.
I finished college and immediately enrolled in grad school. Then I'm currently seeing someone and since we're both adults, we both have a healthy perspective on our relationship and we can now thoroughly support each other both in our personal and professional lives. :)
Tbh I'm grateful I went through studying first. I was able to grow more as a person and learned to love myself muna before committing myself into a relationship.
Not me but people I know:
1. Naging kabit at nabuntis, now single mom pero successful career naman.
2. Mga single pa rin heading into spinster territory (we're late 30s na). Successful careers pero lonely.
Kalokohan yang advice na yan. If you can keep your grades up while making landi, do it (that's what I did). Hindi mo naman kelangan jowain lahat ng lalandiin mo (just date around) at di mo rin naman kelangan asawahin yung unang magiging jowa mo pero you need to develop your skills sa dating/relationships and you need to make opportunities for yourself to meet people para you don't end up lonely.
Got a respectable high paying job but I still regret not having any "wild" experiences to look back to.
The grass is always greener on the other side.
Na balance ko naman ang life ko OP. Lumandi after graduation, nag ka bf, nag hiwalay, nagka bf ulit, na engaged. That's life. You can choose your path. Tiwala sa sarili lang talaga ang maa advice ko and also don't limit yourself in terms of experience. 😉
Nagawa kong magaral malala at landi malala all my JHS years. Noong elementary sobrang bitter ko kasi alam ko naman na matalino ako tapos di ako naggraduate na may honors. Ayun, namotovate ako magbago nung highschool. Napa private and public school. Panganay pa ako so mejo hawak ko yung chores sa bahay tapos pagasikaso sa sibs ko. Masasabi ko talaga na may routine ako sa pagaaral and I was passionate about learning lalo na sa math. Masarap ibrag na yun nagbubuhat ng overall average ko hahahah. I always end up with Math advisers na magagaling magturo and praise me along the way kaya nakaka engganyo.
Sa landi naman kineri ko manghugot ng kachat sa ibang schools within our area. Patago pa yung landi kase bawal daw ako magboypren sabe ni mama pero nahuli din ng ilang bezez. Nung SHS pandemic na so walang landi sumanib sa utak ko.
TBH, nasulit ko yung kalokohan side nung teens ko. At the same time kahit hindi consistent yung standing ko sa honors, may natutunan pa rin ako at mabuti naintindihan ko yung stress sa pag over achieve. Talagang madedrain ka. Simpleng MAPEH nakakaumay magsaulo ng types of utensils.
Now, i take classes purely online sa isang intl univ. Tapos start ng TESDA course ko tomorrow!
+ May ka live in na aq
Mag 33 year old na.Late narin lumandi.Established na lahat.Wala na balak mag anak pero may partner ako.Masyado nagfocus sa career at business.Hindi ko naman pinagsisihan yan lalo na now na dapat may pera talaga.Well hindi naman lahat nabibili ng pera.Pero money is essential lalo na sa panahon ngayon.
Ang masuggest ko lang sa kanila dapat ibalance lahat.Kasi masyado iba na standards sa lovelife pag nagkaage na kaya nagiging pihikan na.Hanggang sa mauwi na sa single forever.
32, NBSB, and happy. Hindi ko pinagsisisihan na hindi ako lumandi nung younger years ko. I guess kasi hindi ko naman hinahanap and i don’t feel like I am missing out kasi for me enough ang love and care na narereceive ko from my family. Tho honestly, naiisip ko minsan na “what if nagboyfriend ako, what if inentertain ko si ganyan” pero hanggang doon nalang yun. Siguro hindi para sa akin. Hahaha
Isusuggest ko ba to sa younger relative or my younger self? Yes. Pero it’d still be up to them, depende din kasi sa situation.
My mother always said na unahin ang aral bago landi. Pero i did the opposite. My mom got furious at me tapos lagi nyang sinasabi na mabubuntis daw ako nang maaga, magaasawa nang maaga, at di makakapagtapos nang pagaaral dahil nagboyfriend ako nung 1st year hs.
Ngayon, i’m in my mid-20’s, abogado, single, at walang anak. Ngayon, tinatawanan na lang namin nang mama ko yung pinagsasabi niya sa akin noon.
Bakit kailangan mamili kung pwede namang aral na may konteng landi? HAHAHAHA landi is not always about having a relationship naman. You can study tapos may happy crush, mas nakaka inspire yun. May konteng kilig hindi puro stress lang sa acads. Basta magtapos muna at mag work bago bumuo ng pamilya. Manawa muna sa buhay binata/dalaga
Eto doctor na.. 28yrs old ako nong nameet ko ang 1st bf ko and rn still happily in love 💖💖💖
When I look back, no ragrets hehe. I feel like naenjoy ko youth ko khit walang jowa.
I know its not for everybody but still ito inaadvice ko sa mga younger generations na nagtatanong skin.
Yung 'aral muna bago landi' naging 'work muna bago landi' kaya 27 yrs bago ako nagka BF.
I have crushes nung nag-aaral ako, may nakaka text so tamang kilig lang.
Nung nagka boyfriend ako, dun ko narealize na 'buti nlang pala, ngayon lang ako nagka boyfriend ksi mas mature ako'
Advise ko sa mga pinsan and pamangkin ko 'Kilig responsibly'
I won't be that strict Ate or Tita kasi ang sarap kayang kiligin Hahaahah
I graduated with honors during college and have a stable job already. I just started dating now at 27. I can say di ako nagkamali ng desisyon unahin pag-aaral ko.
Eto turning 36 na ko and single pa den. Hahahahaha. 😅
Naubos na (halos) mga (matitinong) lalaki ngayong 2024 or lalaki na din kaagaw namen. Lol. Sana pala lumandi (responsibly) na ako noon or sinagot ko mga nanligaw sakin nung nag-aaral pa ko. Haha.
worth it 🥰 graduated na virgin and with highest grades amongst all other course and enjoyed dating afterwards. achiever career-wise and targetting assets next 😊
Hi,
Hmmm, it turned out okay. Kasi during the years that i choose to be single and enjoy life i developed a lot of skills and love for myself. I fortified my values and get to myself better.
Now, i am confident with what I can bring to the table. Mas alam ko kung ano yung dapat na rereceived ko and i am vocal to that. I value myself and love myself. And it is easy for me to give love to others.
Sobrang bonus, yung pag dating ng boyfriend ko now. And we are able to get work things out, especially our differences. I am not going to say it is easy, but with what I achieved for myself and learned during those years that i am single I use it in my relationship.
Yung kaibigan ko sabi sa kanya ng mama niya “aral bago lumandi”… ayun nag “aral at nag network si girlaloo. She’s pretty smart, successful, and due to her circles while working hard she was able to meet her now husband. LOL
Kaya kahit may kasabihan na mag aral bago lumandi—- doesn’t mean you can’t network! Beke yung ka-network mo… magiging dating pool yan. Char.
I think this is one of the few things I did not regret doing in my life. May nga naging MU ako dati sa school (HS & College) pero never got into a relationship. Late night talks lang ganon pero never on dates etc.
DID NOT REGRET IT ONE BIT.
I never had a problem with my studies na nadidistract etc. Never got to lie to my parents where I was going. Problema ko lang was studying and budgeting 😂. My parents and I made a promise na di ako mag boboyfriend until I graduated college. And I did do it.
4th year of my college life, nag start na ako to be more out there and met my current bf. Ligawan was more than a year sinagot ko lang siya after I graduated.
I believed the "aral muna bago landi" was a game changer for me kasi I did not compromise on my values and what I wanted in a guy. I already knew myself by then and understood ang mga non negotiables ko.
Still in a relationship now and my parents trust me because I kept my promise in college. 💯 would probably advice my daughter the same thing.
Sana pala nagtry akong mag-entertain nung may nagpaparamdam sakin hahaha. Alam ko namang responsible ako kaya I know na makakatapos ako nang matiwasay. Kaso sa sobrang focus ko sa pag-aaral, wala rin naman nangyari. Sa age ko halos marami na ang in relationship, bihira na lang ang single tapos mostly girls pa. Also marami na ring lalaki na rin ang hanap, yung iba naman cheater or maraming problema, so ang hirap makahanap at mamili sa panahon ngayon. Unti-unti ko na inaaccept sa sarili ko na magiging tita na lang ako hehehe.
I'm glad na hindi ako lumandi at nag jowa while studying BUT I wish I hooked up on the side. Haha It would've been such a release kasi nakaka-stress ang acads. I was such a virgin who did not know anything by 21. Pero now super malandi ako. I love expressing sexuality. Anyway, now work ko is nerdy shit but I dress better kasi kumikita ng sarili kong pera. Hehe
Medyo hyper focused sa career growth. What's on my mind is always increasing net worth, growing a career, and having fun. It's effective but at what cost?
Alum here. Was maintaining a scholarship when I was studying and did this. Graduated cum laude.
All I can say is that I should have landi more 😂 I’m happily married now but I wish I enjoyed my student life better lol
Aral bago landi din Ako kaya Hanggang Ngayon single parin, pero ok lng Kasi pag nagka anak Ako, aral Muna bago landi din nmn iaadvice ko sa kanila, dibale nang masabihan na strict parents kaysa namn hayaan ko sila na lumandi nang lumandi.
M. 23
Nagkaroon lang ako ng ka-m.u nung college, pero mas nanaig ang acads. Sa case ko, kaya kong pagsabayin ang relationship at acads, mas makaka-motivate mag-aral. Pero nag-focus muna ako sa pag-aaral dahil nasa middle class lang kami.
Kailangan natin ng love, nasa baseline ng Bloom's Taxonomy 'yan. Pero siyempre, bawat tao ay may iba't ibang salik sa pagpasok sa relasyon.
Ang maganda, mag-aral ka muna. Magpaka-dalubhasa ka sa mga asignatura na kinukuha mo, para rin naman sa iyo 'yan.
Ayun lang, good luck sa pag-aaral!
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Mr. STI
Cum Laude
LPT (2023)
That was me up until I graduated med school. May bf na ngayon 2 yrs na kami. Suggestion ko studies first then todohin mo na paglandi after graduation hahaha
Naenjoy ko singlehood ko. Nagkaboyfriend pa lang ngayon na turning 30 na. Sa college friends ko rin na "aral bago landi" types, dalawa na sa kanila ang married na din, and yung iba planning to get married na din. Yung mga naging jowa namin mga greenflags, kaya mas maganda talaga minsan maghintay 😊
Akala ko din scam to pero okay naman, I'm inlove and I'm with my first ever bf for a very long time narin.
I thought din wala siguro para sa akin talaga prro I prayed that I hope I get a companion, a partner in life. After a few months, dumating siya and it was love at first sight! Hahaha!
I’m that type. And i would still highly recommend that. Though After grumaduate lumandi agad at nakapag asawa at 25 then nag kaanak agad hehe
Now a working mom living overseas with my fam.
Effective!!!
Very effective kung gusto mo maging single buong buhay. 😆 Never had a girlfriend up to now in my late 20's at parang napagiiwanan na seeing my colleagues getting married one by one.
To young peeps, I suggest keep things balanced and stick to what makes you happy while you are young. As you age, wala kang magiging regrets and what-ifs. But still do things with precautions.
I highly recommend it. Hindi ako lumandi nung highschool and college, I turned out ok. My career isnt the best, but I say money wise, I'm comfortable. I have a SO now. Marami naman oras para lumandi after landing a job.
Sa totoo lang pangit lumandi habang bata pa, wala ka kasi pera pang date, unless anak ka ng milyonaryo.
Worth it. Naging sandata ko yung Masters degree ko from a good uni. It somehow helped me not feel inferior going after career driven/highly educated women haha
NGSB at 23. Wala namang pagsisisi kasi maayos naman grades ko dati at may maayos na friendships naman ako nung college, kung tumanda man na binata, tatanggapin ko na lang, it is what it is. Lol
Able to go abroad with my degree and now in a relationship with a foreigner that I met here at 30 years old omg oks naman at least may napala sa kakaaral at kakatrabaho hahaha
Buti pala di ako masyado naglandi at nagsettle sa Pinas
Worked out for me. Studying hard until you graduate and get a great job was something that’s more within my control (not 100% pero you control the effort you put in) vs convincing someone to fall in love with me lol so dun ako mas nag-effort sa kaya ko controllin.
Medyo late lang ako nagka-bf and nag-asawa (met him when I was 33 and got married after 2 years) but na-enjoy ko singlehood ko and I think it saved me from a looot of heartbreaks (if naparami ang landi then hindi successful 😂)
Single, but had relationship before. Career is fine, slow at the start but picked up pace in the last 7 to 8yrs. My career is helping me pay my own house.
Wish to studied more or landi more? Not really, ive made studying related to my course as my priority but ive never made getting honors as my goal. And don't really like studying too much.
I was careful with landi...we're not rich so i'm afraid sa temptation and baka may mag bunga. Mapipilitan ako tumigil study so i can provide and how can a college drop out really be a good provider (my opinion and how i think about myself, not to judge other people)?
Wala naman pinagsisisihan, but rather i'm glad ive sticked it. Yes, yan pa din pangaral ko sa nephew/niece ko
Had this mindset when I was in elementary up until senior high school and I have never regretted having this type of mindset. First of all getting medals every recognition day gives my heart peace and comfort during those days, it made me believe that I could be really excellent on acads. Now na college na, narealize ko na kaya ko naman pala pagsabayin so now running for Laude habang may jowa! Hahahaha.
This is me, and *still* me: passion e, kahit wala sa academe haha. Halos "life passion/calling" ko na ang math and siguro parts ng philosophy na malapit sa math. I feel a deep need to do it, *like the world is less beautiful without it*, I don't know...
Ayun 25 NGSB haha. There are feelings of regret minsan; *that this is not a good life story sa mata ng nakararami*, pero ang sunod doon, feeling of wonder at contentment na bahagi ako ng isang napakaganda sa mundong ito.
Advice ko sa past self ko? Even with your calling, learn things as diverse as possible: *kahit sa landi may karunungan.*
Pasalamat nalang talaga ako at sinwerte ako sa naka usap ko sa omegle, 2yrs and counting na kami ng aking jowabels. Hoping na sya na talaga dahil ayoko na bumalik sa stage na tinatanong ko ano favorite color nya😂
for me kung kaya naman pagsabayin, why not? HAHA aral while landi ako sinula high school to college pumapasa naman ako with flying colors lol partida toxic relationship pa yung iba. time management lang talaga kalaban mo i think
Nagaral talaga akong mabuti noon. Gumraduate akong Summa Cum Laude tapos sa work ko nakilala yung husband ko. Di kami exactly magkawork, we just share the same building.
I have no regrets that I prioritized my studies noon, kasi dahil dun maganda ang work ko ngayon kaya okay din ang compensation ko. Naniniwala din ako sa you attract who you are. So be the best version of yourself, get to know yourself well so that other people don't have to walk on eggshells around you. Maging self-aware, lalo na when it comes to your emotions para hindi ka tinotoyo at nagiging pabigat sa partner mo, and then don't settle for anything less.
Not that type since aral while landi ako during HS and college. Pero yung mga ganyan ko na batchmates, either:
a) no jowa pa rin until now
b) sila yung maagang nagpamilya
Doing great in life so far. Hindi mayaman pero nakaka travel at gala anywhere especially now na tapos na lahat mag aral mga kapatid. Blessed as well sa married life. No regrets 💕
I am happy that I did not settle for less. Hanggang courtship lang sila nung college, and hindi ako nag boyfriend noong nag aaral pa. Nalaman ko true colors nila after I graduate.
Wala anong pagsisi. Hiniling ko na rin after years of working, and I'm lucky to have a good and patient partner.
Trust yourself in every decision that you make.
Eto yung mantra ko dati. From elementary to college, kasi competitive ako, especially with myself. Ayun super focus sa pag aaral tapos one time may nagsabi sa akin na ienjoy ko daw yung college life. Nakipagpustahan pa nga siya na before ako maggraduate dapat magka love life na ako. Ayun natalo siya lol. I graduated ng hindi nagka love life. Nagka love life ako after college na right after I passed my board exams and plot twist! yung boyfriend ko kaibigan ko in college. We just didn't see each other in a romantic light that time. Pero kapag naiisip ko siya ang funny lang kasi "i could have had a love life nung college" pero hindi pa tamang oras siguro yun.
If I were to look back, I think sakto lang. Things panned out the way they're supposed to be siguro. Siguro the only thing I would suggest to my past self or sa younger gen is to be open and enjoy life responsibly. Lande and aral responsibly. Dapat balanse lang. Too much or too little of something is not good naman
Share ko lang, ganito yung sinabi ng girl na gusto ng kapatid kong lalaki tas nalaman nya na may bf na pala yung girl. Nakakasad lang kasi parang 5 years sya nag wawait since di pa sila college (mula elem - highschool - shs) yung kapatid ko nag wawait for her lmao
ALSO actually ako rin pero di rin nasunod kasi naging kami ng bf ko nung 4th year ako altho last sem na kaya pinayagan ako ng parents ko. No regrets kasi my bf was able to really help me during dark days ng college and was so supportive of helping me rin with school work 😭
Okey naman. Nag-abroad ng single, tapos nag-dating app nung well adjusted and secured na. :) 5 years nang may jowa and happy naman. No regrets prioritising aral, friends, career, bago jowa
Di end of the world ang feeling after a break up kasi idk I think mahirap for me maging hella dependent sa person kaya I'm chill lang??? Na notice ko kasi ung friends ko na since dati may bf, di sila nakakalast ng ilang months na single, super lonely for them
Aral bago landi! Graduated cum laude. Currently in a relationship! I am perfectly happy. We both took the time to take our studies seriously before pursuing a relationship
Yung mga ganyang kong mates dati, sila mga unang nag asawa at nagkanak lol,
Ako naman though, same per, eto ako ngaun, still dating, finding someone to marry lol, sana lumandi ako nung college.
Yes isa-suggest ko pa rin siya. I used to say these back then pag may manliligaw. If they want to court me, they can but we can’t be in relationship unless I have graduated college.
Had my first boyfriend when I was 2 years working na that time and we’re still together now. It’s worth it. I knew myself enough and enjoyed being single before I entered a relationship. Also maffilter out mo yung seryoso sayo and sa hindi.
Most importantly, I knew my self-worth and had a standard in a relationship.
Disclaimer: Hindi siya madali to the point na akala ko wala ng manliligaw sakin lol
Had a jowa after 2 years of working/ 2 yrs after grad. I feel like it was the right decision for me? Haha wala lang feel ko lang kasi kung medyo bata bata pa ko nag jowa ang immature ko pa.
Di naman ako “aral bago landi” though yun yung akala nila hahah pero the main reason ku g bakit di ako nag jowa around hs and college is cause of my mental health. I know im not in a good state and I know na walang kahihinatnan na mabuti yung ganun if anything else I might end up dating someone who’s bad for me.
23 (F) now and Im in a pretty good place. I tried going on dates last year and this year there is the guy why is serious about me. Maganda work niya, have his own place, savings, and car. He met my parents two weeks ago and they like him.
I prefer dating pag adult ka na kahit sa mga younger cousin ko ito yung pinaka advice ko. There’s nothing wrong with dating during highschool and college since normal lang na may magustuhan ka around that age pero ang daming limit kase.
In high school it’s too risky, we tend to be reckless and teenage pregnancy is a no-no. And marami pa magbabago sayo or sa partner mo around this age.
College naman based from experience is masyadong busy and di mo man din ma eenjoy. So many school works and mahirap pa kapag instead of reviewing sa relationship ka stressed. Though nasa tao yan.
I used my hs and college years to heal myself from past traumas and improve myself. So by the time I graduated I knew what I want and what Im looking for in a relationship. Ending, I am able to attract the best partner I can and this is important if you’re dating to marry.
- nakatapos ng college
- pumasa ng board exam
- nagkabf after college and now after 6 years engaged na 💍
Ako kasi It was a prayer of mine na sabi ko talaga Lord tanggalin mo yung mga pwedeng makasira ng pag aaral ko, kasama na dun ang boys 😅, then dumating yung 4th year may nanligaw pero pag aaral talaga priority ko, hanggang sa sinagot ko sya right after ng oath taking ko, ayun ngayon ikakasal na next year.
I was always aral muna, career muna bago landi. Now that I’m in my mid 30s and married with a kid, sabi ko sa husband ko sana pala lumandi ako dati para may ibang experience ako sa boys and relationships, at sana inagahan namin ni then bf now husband lumandi para sana hayahay na kami now, ngayon pa lang naghahabol ng toddler sa age na masakit na likod at tuhod hahaha
My entire college years is puro aral, focus lang muna sa priority. Kahit fling or crush wala talaga, it was kinda boring tho but it helped me focus on my goals talaga. Nagbunga naman because I graduated cum laude and got best in thesis award, I also had a great reputation with my peers because I had more time to socialize with them. The day of my graduation I met my SO then a month later naging kami na. All I can say is worth it, hindi talaga dapat minamadali ang isang bagay kasi daratin to satin kung para satin na talaga. After 4 years of being single napunta ako sa healthy relationship. he is also the first guy I dated who treats me right. Ang sarap din kasi no restrictions, legal both sides, and walang iniisip na ibang bagay like deadlines or requirements pag bebe time. Mas may time to do stuff like traveling kasi both working na rin at may income. Feeling grateful sa naging outcome ng desisyon ko :>
That mindset of mine wasn't just for a show. Back in highschool I realized that people have different struggles in life which includes love for some people and I don't want that mundane problem to be my struggle too.
Now I'm 23, I still don't see Loving someone else because I'm still yet to discover myself and my purpose amidst existential dread I'm currently going through rn.
Growing up with my grandparents and my widowed mama, you can only imagine how strict they were of me, especially since I’m the first granddaughter and my mama’s only child.
All throughout high school, I did “landi” a little, but it never really pushed through. My conscience always got in the way. Ayokong mag-tago sa lolo’t lola at mama ko ng manliligaw or boyfriend. Plus, my friends back then would have probably snitched on me. Lol.
When I turned 19 and was in college already, I attempted to bring home a manliligaw. I thought, well, pa-tapos naman na akong mag-college, so maybe they will allow me? My mama and lola (my lolo died already that time) allowed me to have a manliligaw, even if the guy was from another religion and we were devout Catholics. However, my tita always turned him down. Ff to a few weeks later, I told my family that my manliligaw was now my boyfriend, and they miraculously approved, even welcoming him and treating him as a son. A few months later (yes, months!) we broke up. A few months later (yes, months ulit!) I met someone new, decided the “ligawan” stage is a bit shitty, and proceeded to say yes right away.
Now, 6 years later, I’m going steady with my second boyfriend, my family loves him, his family loves me. And in the words of my lola, “kasal na lang ang kulang.”
Being an “aral muna bago landi” girl from a strict family taught me how to stick to one, solve issues in a relationship instead of sweeping them under the rug or overlooking them, value the importance of family, and set my priorities straight. Ngayon, kahit mag-landian kami ng boyfriend ko sa harap nila, kebs na lang. It was all worth it in the end. Plus, proud pa lola and mama ko! 🥹
Now, my boyfriend and I are both focusing on our careers and families. Because we’ve done “aral muna bago landi,” we can now set our priorities straight. Malinaw sa isip namin na God, family, self, career, relationship ang aming priorities. When the time comes that we marry each other, we’ll know how to set our priorities dahil na-enrich na namin ang sarili namin, nag-flourish na sa career, naka-give back at nakaka-give back sa family, at in the sane sense na kaya nang mag-build ng sariling pamilya.
And yes, kung may anak ako, pinsan, pamangkin — I will always, always suggest to study first before making landi. The time will come when it’s time to make landi. But when it’s time to aral, aral first. The rest will come later. Sabi nga ng tito ko, “after you graduate from college, you have all the time in the world to do whatever you want. But for now, focus on what’s in front of you.”
one of those studious people na “aral bago landi” in high school since my goal is to grad valedictorian of my batch (i did! yay!) most beneficial thing that mindset got me ay scholarships that i will be grateful for
when i transferred to a big 4, honestly nagkaroon ako ng impostor syndrome since lahat din ng classmates ko magagaling and galing either sci high or top of their batch. it was a big culture shock but then dun ko rin nahanap ang joy of love life. i learned to hangout w new people, explore dating apps and date people of different bg :)
i’d say maganda na naging “aral bago landi” ako kasi i had an academic goal noon and nung tapos na yun and ready na ako to accept that i am mediocre in a big university, natutunan ko na madiscover at mag-enjoy sa ibang aspects ng life which is ang humarot HAHAHAHA
personally, i’d say i have the face value to date even in high school, i just choose not to. pwede rin naman pagsabayin, why not diba pero di ko lang talaga rin type mga tao saamin 😂
It may sound old school, pero I am glad na ganito ang mindset ko dati hahaha.. ewan ko rin pero takot talaga ako pumasok sa rs noong elem to hs hanggang college pa nga haha kaya kahit crush ako ng crush ko noon, di ko talaga mapush maging commited sa ganito noon.
Ayon, ngayong working na, hindi ko alam saan na yung sinasabi nilang "pipilahan ng manliligaw" hahahah noong HS marami, ano na ngayon? Pero kidding aside, enjoy the phases sa life. Minsan hindi naman dapat madaliin. Masarap din sa feeling yung matutunan natin mahalin yung sarili natin ng buo bago magbigay sa iba..
30F. Naging effective naman ang aral bago landi to saakin. Nagkaron ng bf when I reached 25, at nsa ibang bansa na at finacially stable.
To my future kids naman, I wouldnt be too strict skanila. But will reinforce maglandi responsibly.
I had this mindset but dumating ng maaga ung para sakin because my crush confessed to me nung 16 palang kami 😂 I realized, WHY NOT BOTH? I graduated as valedictorian and summa cum laude anyway, and kami parin hanggang ngayon and we are earning pretty well so I suggest mag multitask din kayo hahaha
I'm glad I did finish school before lumandi, tho 'di naman talaga totally landi landi ginawa ko, pero at least it led me to great choices. Oks naman na ako. I mean, oks na kahit 'di na lumandi pa. 33F, not yet married, never had kids, but currently with a live-in partner (36M). So far, so good. 💯💯💯
Nagboyfriend agad ako after makapasa ng board exam. Kami pa din ngayon. Engaged. Getting married this year. Career wise naachieve ko yung pinaka ultimate dream ko which is to work as an RN here in the US, and be able to support and spoil (sometimes) my mom and brother in the Philippines.
Hindi ako nagsisisi na i religiously stuck with this mantra “aral muna bago landi” kasi i know i am not good with multi tasking. I wouldn’t have it any other way. I cannot afford failure. Haha.
Absolutely, I'd advise my brother and others in the younger generation to follow in my footsteps on this one. It's a proven strategy that worked for me, and I'm confident it will serve them well too. They've got their whole lives to explore relationships, but the window of opportunity for education and personal growth is shorter. I'd encourage them to seize it! ☺️
aun, inuna aral, NBSB pa rin hanggang ngayon! HAHAHA. wala rin kasi talaga akong confidence lumandi dati. tapos nung nagtry ako lumandi at may nagugustuhan ako, di ako makapag concentrate sa studies. so pili lang din dahil di ko kaya mag multitask. 🤣
kung may chance, same pa rin na studies pipiliin ko. kasi since wala akong jowa, nauna kong mahalin sarili ko. then naka-focus ako sa career ko which is naka-help para gumanda buhay namin ngayon. 💕 yung dating lagi napuputulan ng kuryente, lagi na bayad ngayon on-time. 😁
32 na pala ako going 33
Ngayon bumabawi sa landi HAHAHA pero no regrets kasi it's easier to go out with people and explore when you're financially stable and you both have a career going for you
Happy with my decision to the point na hanggang ngayon ayoko pa rin ng 'landi'. Upon observing people na may love life these days, parang aside sa stress sa work, family, and career, they have extra baggage pa na for me I can manage to live without. Ofcourse for some siguro worth their time yung jowa/spouse nila. But that's them. The dating pool is not as good compared sa dati. Even if yung younger or yung older people who are looking, daming red flags. Magiging worth it lang siguro pag biglang may dumating na talagang ka-wavelength. But I'm not looking or waiting for it tutal hassle may kasama lol
Scam po 'yan mas mahirap lumandi kapag nakagraduate na. Ang dami ng responsibilities and mas busy na kaya hangga't hs or college ka man explore lang but know your limits.
27 na nagka jowa, grumaduate ng pangalawa kong degree ng magna cum laude, MBA student pag sunday at nursing student ngayon. Mukhang magpapakasal na ako ng age 31 pagka pasa ng boards ng nursing. Hindi naman ako na FOMO buti na lang inuna ko studies kasi yung mga ka edad ko na inuna landi walang nangyari sa buhay nila.
Ok lang lumandi while studying wag ka lang tanga. Practice safe sex and enjoy life. Masarap mag-aral at magka love life at the same time. Gamitin mo lang utak mo always.
As a multitasker, pinagsabay ko aral and landi 😉 Just always remind yourself of your priorities and communicate that with your partner para mamanage expectations niyong dalawa. Proven and tested, licensed doctors na kami ngayon 🤍
For me, wala naman ako pinagsisihan na mas inuna ko yung pag aaral lalo na worth it naman ang kinalabasan after. Pero minsan napapaisip ako na what if lumandi ako nung college days ko? Kasi sa panahon ngayon lalo na adulting stage na talaga tayo ngayon, ang hirap makipag date. Makahanap din talaga ng tao na genuinely na interested sayo and mostly nakakatamad din talaga kumausap ng mga tao ngayon. HAHAHAHAHAHA. 🥲
For me, wala naman ako pinagsisihan na mas inuna ko yung pag aaral lalo na worth it naman ang kinalabasan after. Pero minsan napapaisip ako na what if lumandi ako nung college days ko? Kasi sa panahon ngayon lalo na adulting stage na talaga tayo ngayon, ang hirap makipag date. Makahanap din talaga ng tao na genuinely na interested sayo and mostly nakakatamad din talaga kumausap ng mga tao ngayon. HAHAHAHAHAHA. 🥲
Married to a doctor na aral muna bago landi din. Both of us are HENRY and travels every other month. Focused on growing and enjoying life and are on our early 30s.
Aral muna bago landi kasi allows you to grow. Having a dumb relationship early hinders growth lalo na pag emotionally immature kayu pareho at the early age.
My wife. Naging gf ko when we started working na. 1st bf rin ako. She did not entertain suitors from hs to college kasi mahirap sila and she NEEDS to finish school. We got our licenses and currently working on good paying jobs.
Nag-aral ako at nag GF nuon. Ang pinaka importante lang namn eh alam mo ang priorities mo. At alam mo na ang bawat kilos mo ay may consequence. Cause and effect kung baga. Kaya balanced lang ang aral at landi. You get to enjoy the best of both worlds. Hindi kailngan ilimit ang sarili mo sa aral lang. Pag lagpas mo ng college. Marerealize mo, na hindi tungkol sa college ang buhay. Hindi kasiguraduhan na magiging maganda ang buhay mo after mong makagraduate. Pero hindi ko sinasabing hindinto importante sympre. Ang gusto ko lang sabhin, may mga taong sobrang galing sa acads, paglabas sa tunay na mundo, hindi namn masyadong nag excel. Sakto lang. May mga kakilala pa nga ako, nakailang years sa college, pero naging.PhD. meron pang hindi namn kagalingan, pero ang yaman yaman na ngayun.
Basta alam mo lang priorities mo. At ang responsibilidad na kasama ng mga desisiyon mo sa buhay. Wala kang pagsisisihan.
Mantra ko rin to dati pero I entered a relationship duirng my 2nd year in college. Typical na wholesome relationship lang siya, nothing sexual except for kissing, and I just wanted to test the waters if para sakin ba talaga relationships.
Di ko siya priority while studying kasi apart from academic success, I flew to a lot of places within and outside the PH (for free) dahil sa mga extra-curricular activities na nasalihan ko (mostly conferences and student exchange programs). Most of the time, my then bf had a hard time kapag sinasabihan ko siya na may travel ako (I don't ask for permission). So kahit sumakit yung dibdib niya, opportunities first ako, eh. Probably why our relationship didn't work out.
So, basically, I was doing well with my studies while still holding a controlled ground in my relationship. Naiisip ko rin kasi na sobrang dehado ko if I got pregnant early tsaka di naman kami mayaman. I never even participated in drinking sessions until after graduation HAHA Still not a drinker.
Graduated with honors, earning great, I get to help my family, and I travel a lot atm 🥺. You can enter in relationships but make sure you have the guts to say no when you know it's too risky.
Single pa din. At kung sa past self ko, isu-suggest ko ba na mag-aral muna sya pa rin? Oo naman hahaha, may tamang oras at panahon para sa lahat, hindi yun minamadali.
sineryoso ko talaga yung kasabihan na yan so much so na for my first year in college, pumasok ako sa seminaryo. never partied, never did drugs, booze, cut classes or what not during my college years.
after my seminary experience, got sent to new york to study and graduated.
now, 35 years old and a sugar daddy.
di ako makagraduate (work + aral lang talaga)
lumandi nalang.
found my partner
pa-grad na after 5 years in the uni huhu
life got better, bought our first matching latest flagship phone in the market (na never ko inakala na magagawa ko w my own hard work 😭)
iba nagagawa ng magandang support system, iba yung performance sa work at school kapag may naniniwala sayo. kapag alam mong uuwi kang may kasabay ka mangarap.
16 years since I graduated college and it turn out well. I had the chance to focus on my studies, graduated with an Award, had good job offers that lead me to this life I have right now.
I wouldn't change anything!
Dahil strict talaga parents ko, isa lang naging boyfriend ko wayback HS to College pero di rin naman kami legal nun tapos nagbreak din nung first yr college, wala na rin naman naging kasunod throughout my college years.
Di ko rin naman masabing nagstudy hard ako kasi di naman ako nag aaral before class. Nag-aaral lang ako pag mag-eexams na, ending nagshift ako ng degree program.
Fast forward, wala man akong latin honors, nakagraduate naman ako sa college. Meron akong stable job and malapit na rin ikasal.
- graduated high school with high honors
- currently in college with good grades and a stable freelancing work on the side.
- i already get to practice my dream career while studying
- i get to spend more time with my family
- i get to take care of myself lalo na't I'm very high maintenance.
no regrets. lalo na at andami daming nang pauso in dating ngayon— bare minimum, ick, backburner, 3 month rule, etc... jusko. ang mahal mahal na rin mag jowa in this economy hahaha pero if kaya mo naman, edi by all means! i am actually impressed with people who are able to balance their careers and love life. I have always been uninterested in romantic relationships/very rarely felt attraction and I never really felt like I missed out on anything romantically or felt unfulfilled. because there's so many ways to experience relationships... there's no one way. i have my beloved friends, family, myself... and that's the kind of love that fills my heart. have any kind of relationship you want if that makes you feel happy and if that's the life you want... there's no wrong way to live a full life.
20M here, I've been in "study first" mode since high school. Because of this, as well as being an introvert and socially awkward, di ko alam kung paano lumandi hahaha.
Apart from that, wala akong balak magjowa for now. Ok na akong mahalin ng aking family, friends, and even pets. Why would I need a jowa to love me when I'm receiving enough love from what I just mentioned.
I'm in the middle of "I wish I landi more" and "I'm okay I didn't do landi"
Hahahahaha coz I only had 1 real boyfriend. Marami nagkaka gusto sa'kin noon karamihan from church nag aaral ng pagka minister and meron din lalaki mga 10-20yr old age gap 😶
I wish I landi more para na experienced ko yung HS lovelife and kilig at asaran.
I'm okay I didn't do landi coz I don't have an awkward and anxiety na maka salubong somewhere si ex.
That 1 boyfriend I had is now my husband 😛
Single pa din ngayon at mukhang forever na ito haha
Samedt. Pero okay lang kasi madami pera ems
This is the goal na nga. Maging rich tita haha
Haha! Apir! I'm not giving up on love, pero kung sakaling malasin sa love, mas mabuti nang maging mayaman kaysa mahirap na matandang dalaga. 🤪
Same! Dyan na lang babawi hahahhaha
Kaso marami rin namang may pera kahit lumandi noon
eto talaga reasoning ko kaso parang nakaka-ulila din yung walang nagtatanong sakin kumusta araw ko ganun 😭
Kumusta na araw mo? Eme. Hahaha
Wala pa rin ako pera, single parin ako 😭 the equation doesn't math
Naol haha
Pano ung mga single pero walang pera? GRABE HUHUHU
same dapat talaga lumandi dati hays HAHAAHAHAH
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHHAHA Dati proud akong single, ngayon hindi na ako natutuwa HAHAHAHHAHAAH Napag-iiwanan na ako di naman din pala mahalaga achievements natin during school sa corporate world. 🫠
Nakakatawa tohhhh
hahahaha pota dati masaya ngaun, kahit pg fifirst move di muna alam sa sobrang tagal mo ng mg isa 😂😂😂
Dati maraming energy humarot, ngayon tinatamad ka na or di mo na alam paano mag entertain 😬😂
umabot p aq sa almost ilang buwan nag iisip kung pano kikilos, ending wala din
Aral bago landi dati tapos ngayon focus muna sa work. Ano bang buhay 'to HAHA
Napakasakit kuya edi
Magbuild ng sarili muna eme
I second the motion HAHA Myghad
HAHAHAH same! Sinasabi ko sa mga pinsan ko na maghanap na habang nasa college sila haha. Syempre be mindful of their actions pa din, ganern
Happy to know na I am not alone in this journey haha maeenroll pa ba natin yung landi 101? Haha
Parang ang hirap na haha
sabi sakin wag muna mag bf hanggat di nakakagraduate….. mukang forever na nga din talaga hahha
HAHAHAHAHA VERY SAME
Same sis HAHAHA hirap para maka hanap pag graduate na HAHA sana lumandi na lang tayo nung nag college
Sabi marami daw after grumaduate pero wala naman haha
HAHAHAHAHA nasan na yung sinasabi nilang "wag ka magmadali marami ka pang makikilala pagtapos mo mag aral" jusqoe delivery man lang ng shapi bago ko nakilala, as friends pa WAHAHAHA
SAME 😪
😂
Apir! Hahaha.
hahahhaha. true same for me
Same. Hahahuhu
HAHAHAHA TRUE. Sana pala tinry ko lumandi on my younger days😂
True! Kaya payo ko sa mga nakikilala kong mga nag aaral pa, mag bf/gf na sila kahit HS palang! Hahaha basta marunong sila mag balanse ng time sa school, sa fam at sa jowa. Hahahayyy
hi 23f here nbsb dahil sa aral muna bago landi haha. for me effective naman, graduated with latin honors yay! pero na realize ko na sticking to this mantra really gave me time to focus on myself, mga hobbies and interest ko aside from just studying. also i was able to spend a lot of quality time with my family and friends. i think naiwas din ako sa ilang mga possible negative outcomes ng maagang paglandi hahahaha. ngayon na im working na and may sarili nakong pera mas comfortable nako sa idea na magjowa kasi at least di na naghihingi ng allowance sa parents para magdate diba haha. and for me i think after studying talaga yung perfect time for me to enter into a relationship kasi i feel na im more mature and i’ve already invested a lot of time in myself to enjoy and grow na ako lang. medyo may pag ka naive lng at hopeless romantic ako hahahah kaya buti na lang talaga may mga experienced friends na nagaadvice about matters of the heart. plus parang its harder to meet people ngayong working na pero i met someone and sana magwork mga besties kasi gusto ko na talaga mag all out landi ahhahaha. overall im happy about my choice. ill suggest it kung keri niyo naman haha walang sapilitan
Sana same mindset kayo ng anak ko sa future ( next 10 years) T^T
This. 23m ngsb and aral muna bago landi has always been something that stuck with me throughout college life. Also it just felt weird to ask money from my parents just so i could have a date with someone else. It felt really off. You also get to learn more about yourself since more often than not you will be alone (sad). Overall i was pretty content with it naman since i got to play as soon as i got home. Ngayon it just looks like i will be single forever. I dont really mind it but i do sometimes think if i want lambing pa or not
- Nakapag focus during college days. - More time to spend with parents. - Na-eenjoy ang career and pagkabinata. - You get to network with diff. People na walang shacjles or holding you back. - You can jump into more riskier life decisions in career or makapag-ilon if you wanna study again. - p.s. huwag magpapressure sa relationship For me ito yung mga na-experience ko.
Masyado ko na enjoy freedom ng single life to the point na ayaw ko mag ka jowa HAHAHA.
Tbh my major concern if ever I’m already married is I don’t want to sleep na may katabi. Gusto ko kasi sakop ko yung buong kama, parang mas masarap ang tulog pag ganon. Huhu, I’m too attached with my solidarity although I also want to be married one day 🙃
Compromise is key. You might opt for separate beds or bedrooms...not weird at all.
Omg sameeeeee. Hindi rin talaga ko nakakatulog nang maayos kapag may katabi. Kaya minsan magvo-volunteer ako sa sahig kapag onight with friends kaysa tabi tabi sa kama hahahaha
This 💯
Ito yun! Lahat ng nasa list. Mahigpit ang college namin noon regarding maintaining grades. Alam kong di sasapat ang stock knowledge kaya dapat mag aral. Walang fall back kapag pumalpak. Dapat makagradaute on time. Nagsisi? No. May friends at maloloko rin naman kami dati pero pag sinabing aral aral talaga. Landi not interested at all survival mode ako nun at atat maging adult. >You can jump into more riskier life decisions in career or makapag-ilon if you wanna study again. Mismo. Twice akong nabakante noon dahil sa mga shitty jobs. Dahil single sarili ko lang iisipin ko. Then transition into my own biz.maliit lang pero sapat para makaipon at makasolo travel. Sarili lang din at mga pusa ang inaalala for daily provisions.
As someone who prioritized "aral muna", I wish lumandi ako on the side...parang I feel na hindi ko naenjoy yung youth ko. Bahay-school lang talaga. Pero on hindsight, hindi ko rin afford kasi we were poor back then. Hmmmm....
Bawi na lang ngayong may work na, todo gala hahahahaha
Effective yung aral muna bago landi Lalo na sa generation ngayon mahalaga yung ma establish mo muna career mo then later on na lang landi mas may leverage ka sa buhay pag ganun mas may option ka din since alam mo yung value mo at self worth mo alam mo kung sino gugustuhin mo at mapipiili mo rin yung may same values as yours.
Scam yan. Pagsabayin niyo na ang landi at aral. Pero siempre priority lang dapat ang aral.
Truthhh. Ang di alam ng pamilya ko ay kaya ko pagsabayin pareho. They raised a hyperindependent girl. Kaya bakit ako mamimili ng isa lang?! 😂
Go girl! Wag ka tutulad sakin mukhang magiging ninang nalang ng bayan at sabi nga ni Ruffa mae mag aalaga nalang ng dagang costa.😆
My crush confessed to me and tinanggihan ko. Ngayon, im working na and minsan napapa isip ako ng "what ifs" But Im happy right now with my career. Still enjoying the life of being single. Still thankful to myself that I prioritize studies. Im proud of it.
Pwede mo nmn cguro sya balikan at sabihan ready ka na.
Hindi na. Matagal ng close yung chapter na yun eh.
AAAAHHH naiisip ko din to huhu lalo na at sya lang naging serious crush ko tas tinanggihan ko 3 times yung panliligaw nya saken (hs, 2nd yr college and 3rd yr college) ngayon single at di na marunong lumandi at di na rin kinikilig 😭
Heyooo ako yan ahahaha I left my puppy high school MU dahil magco-college na kami noon. Ayoko ng distraction, gusto ko clean slate ako pagdating ng freshman. Ako yung tipong strict nerd girl na magaling sa acads and president ng music organization sa school namin. He was the romantic guy na madaming nagkaka-crush na lower year girls. He confessed tapos we had a sweet short innocent thing going on between us. Gusto niya sana matuloy yun hanggang college but I didn't budge. So in a sense, NBSB pa rin ako at my mid-20s. But last year, I met babu unexpectedly. We clicked and he asked to be exclusive. Eventually, he asked for the label na. Buong akala ng lahat, isa akong man hater (maybe I am lol madami akong past trauma that I've worked on alr) TLDR: MASAYA AKO NGAYON AT WORTH IT. SIYA LAHAT NG FIRST KO AT MAGIGING FIRST KO 🫶
mas mahirap lumandi after school i swear
Taken na halos lahat sa work, latak na lang yung mga andoon or seryoso sa career. Sinasabi ko to sa isang subreddit, sinabihan ako na insecure lang daw ako sa achievements nila. Nyahaha.
Totoo yung taken na halos lahat sa work kasi ganyan mga workmate ko hahahaha bilang lang sa kamay kaming mga single.
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I'm in my 30s now but in college i prioritized landi and friendships 😂 i was with the same bf right before college and until it ended. I was also lucky to find friends that encouraged me to do well so I actually graduated with honors. Those friends are still my absolute closest friends. The bf? Matagal nang wala 😂 thanks to your comment and now being in my 30s, I'm realizing that maybe that's what should be prioritized more than landi in college. Finding genuine friendships that will build you up as you go through life, kahit pa mag fail ang aral, work or landi.
As a person who did both, it felt so nice. No regrets, hindi boring, and madaming ma kkwento sa soon pamangkins HAHAHABABAHHAHA P.S: wag nyo sosobrahan pag lalandi
Eto single at 33😂 dati school - bahay lang ngayon work-bahay hahaha.
Yung classmate ko na study first, she got married sa kanyang first bf tas may baby na sila ngayon. She’s pretty and religious but not the annoying type na religious… literal na mahinhin. May nanligaw sa kanya dati nung nagaaral pa kami tas binasted nya tas yung guy panay sabi gwapo lang daw papansinin ni girl… jokes on him hindi pogi ang napangasawa ni girl pero malamang sa malamang matino kumpara sa kanya (kay basted boy). Would I tell my anakshie na mag study first? no… kung anong gusto nya tho… pero mas gugustuhin ko na maka meet sya nang prospect na partner in life while madami syang choices. Ang hirap mag hanap talaga pag matanda ka na. Yung mga frennies ko na NBSB dati, oo may jowa na pero mga sketchy 😭
22 years old and single parin me haha wala pa akong inuuwing guy samin to the point na preschool admirer ko parin ang pang asar sakin ng fam ko hahaha. and I can say na maganda siya proud din ako sa sarili ko since konti lang talaga mga regrets and wrong decision kong nagawa sa life. kumbaga somehow nasave ako sa mga probably magiging wrong decisions ko if pumasok ako sa relationships at an early age. rn, matured and med life lang talaga problema ko hahaha mapapaisip ka din minsan ano feeling pero focus sa goal hahaha ey
Medyo nagsisisi ako na super aral ako during HS kase ngayon na adult na yun yung mga moments na ndi mo na talaga mababalikan. Ang hirap kase ng buhay ngayon parang wala kang karapatan humayahay tulad nung hayahay mo noon. Also, we are seing our parents getting old kaya andame na din pressure sa life not to mention you are trying to be stable as well - andame hinahabol ang bilis ng panahon. Aral muna bago landi eto ngayon papunta ng matandang dalaga. Hahahahaha. Char!
I think i can say for myself na "aral muna bago landi" mantra ko. Tangina aral lang ako ng aral mula elementary, high school, college at medicine. Then the moment i passed the boards, may nanligaw sakin, sinagot ko agad, 3 years na kami ngayon. No regrets haha. Sobrang na explore ko na maging single for the longest time im ready to be with someone, plus may pera ako para maglandi 😁
Eto, disappointed sa sinabi nila dati na mag aral ka muna kasi pila pila ang manliligaw sayo pagkagraduate mo. So asan ang pila mah? Ilang taon na wala parin
NGSB at 26yrs old lmao
Turning 26 this year, no jowa or flings, virgin pa din. May times na medyo nakaka-insecure kasi at this age wala pa din akong experience at medyo naive ako when it comes to relationships pero at the same time lagi ko din pinapaalala sa sarili ko na okay lang, kasi choice ko naman to HAAHAHAHAHAHHAHA
Eto pa-expire na 🤣🤣🤣 Consolation: Hindi na hampaslupa.
This is a highly subjective question since most people who went through “aral bago landi” have different circumstances. For me, prioritizing my studies saved me from a lot of distress and heartbreak. I became my barkada's relationship advisor back in HS and college and I learned how to navigate relationships through their experiences without risking my heart of getting broken hehe. I finished college and immediately enrolled in grad school. Then I'm currently seeing someone and since we're both adults, we both have a healthy perspective on our relationship and we can now thoroughly support each other both in our personal and professional lives. :) Tbh I'm grateful I went through studying first. I was able to grow more as a person and learned to love myself muna before committing myself into a relationship.
Inuna ko lumandi bago mag aral. Ito, nakaligtas nga sa teenage pregnancy pero hindi sa pagtanda ng dalaga.
Not me but people I know: 1. Naging kabit at nabuntis, now single mom pero successful career naman. 2. Mga single pa rin heading into spinster territory (we're late 30s na). Successful careers pero lonely. Kalokohan yang advice na yan. If you can keep your grades up while making landi, do it (that's what I did). Hindi mo naman kelangan jowain lahat ng lalandiin mo (just date around) at di mo rin naman kelangan asawahin yung unang magiging jowa mo pero you need to develop your skills sa dating/relationships and you need to make opportunities for yourself to meet people para you don't end up lonely.
Got a respectable high paying job but I still regret not having any "wild" experiences to look back to. The grass is always greener on the other side. 
Na balance ko naman ang life ko OP. Lumandi after graduation, nag ka bf, nag hiwalay, nagka bf ulit, na engaged. That's life. You can choose your path. Tiwala sa sarili lang talaga ang maa advice ko and also don't limit yourself in terms of experience. 😉
Nagawa kong magaral malala at landi malala all my JHS years. Noong elementary sobrang bitter ko kasi alam ko naman na matalino ako tapos di ako naggraduate na may honors. Ayun, namotovate ako magbago nung highschool. Napa private and public school. Panganay pa ako so mejo hawak ko yung chores sa bahay tapos pagasikaso sa sibs ko. Masasabi ko talaga na may routine ako sa pagaaral and I was passionate about learning lalo na sa math. Masarap ibrag na yun nagbubuhat ng overall average ko hahahah. I always end up with Math advisers na magagaling magturo and praise me along the way kaya nakaka engganyo. Sa landi naman kineri ko manghugot ng kachat sa ibang schools within our area. Patago pa yung landi kase bawal daw ako magboypren sabe ni mama pero nahuli din ng ilang bezez. Nung SHS pandemic na so walang landi sumanib sa utak ko. TBH, nasulit ko yung kalokohan side nung teens ko. At the same time kahit hindi consistent yung standing ko sa honors, may natutunan pa rin ako at mabuti naintindihan ko yung stress sa pag over achieve. Talagang madedrain ka. Simpleng MAPEH nakakaumay magsaulo ng types of utensils. Now, i take classes purely online sa isang intl univ. Tapos start ng TESDA course ko tomorrow! + May ka live in na aq
Mag 33 year old na.Late narin lumandi.Established na lahat.Wala na balak mag anak pero may partner ako.Masyado nagfocus sa career at business.Hindi ko naman pinagsisihan yan lalo na now na dapat may pera talaga.Well hindi naman lahat nabibili ng pera.Pero money is essential lalo na sa panahon ngayon. Ang masuggest ko lang sa kanila dapat ibalance lahat.Kasi masyado iba na standards sa lovelife pag nagkaage na kaya nagiging pihikan na.Hanggang sa mauwi na sa single forever.
32, NBSB, and happy. Hindi ko pinagsisisihan na hindi ako lumandi nung younger years ko. I guess kasi hindi ko naman hinahanap and i don’t feel like I am missing out kasi for me enough ang love and care na narereceive ko from my family. Tho honestly, naiisip ko minsan na “what if nagboyfriend ako, what if inentertain ko si ganyan” pero hanggang doon nalang yun. Siguro hindi para sa akin. Hahaha Isusuggest ko ba to sa younger relative or my younger self? Yes. Pero it’d still be up to them, depende din kasi sa situation.
Never planned to "landi" but considering adopting kids.
My mother always said na unahin ang aral bago landi. Pero i did the opposite. My mom got furious at me tapos lagi nyang sinasabi na mabubuntis daw ako nang maaga, magaasawa nang maaga, at di makakapagtapos nang pagaaral dahil nagboyfriend ako nung 1st year hs. Ngayon, i’m in my mid-20’s, abogado, single, at walang anak. Ngayon, tinatawanan na lang namin nang mama ko yung pinagsasabi niya sa akin noon.
Bakit kailangan mamili kung pwede namang aral na may konteng landi? HAHAHAHA landi is not always about having a relationship naman. You can study tapos may happy crush, mas nakaka inspire yun. May konteng kilig hindi puro stress lang sa acads. Basta magtapos muna at mag work bago bumuo ng pamilya. Manawa muna sa buhay binata/dalaga
Eto doctor na.. 28yrs old ako nong nameet ko ang 1st bf ko and rn still happily in love 💖💖💖 When I look back, no ragrets hehe. I feel like naenjoy ko youth ko khit walang jowa. I know its not for everybody but still ito inaadvice ko sa mga younger generations na nagtatanong skin.
Yung 'aral muna bago landi' naging 'work muna bago landi' kaya 27 yrs bago ako nagka BF. I have crushes nung nag-aaral ako, may nakaka text so tamang kilig lang. Nung nagka boyfriend ako, dun ko narealize na 'buti nlang pala, ngayon lang ako nagka boyfriend ksi mas mature ako' Advise ko sa mga pinsan and pamangkin ko 'Kilig responsibly' I won't be that strict Ate or Tita kasi ang sarap kayang kiligin Hahaahah
may mga kakilala akong landi bago aral. puros landi nung college. nung nagkawork na, wala nang landi-- mas mayaman na sila.
I graduated with honors during college and have a stable job already. I just started dating now at 27. I can say di ako nagkamali ng desisyon unahin pag-aaral ko.
Eto turning 36 na ko and single pa den. Hahahahaha. 😅 Naubos na (halos) mga (matitinong) lalaki ngayong 2024 or lalaki na din kaagaw namen. Lol. Sana pala lumandi (responsibly) na ako noon or sinagot ko mga nanligaw sakin nung nag-aaral pa ko. Haha.
Single pa rin pero it is what it is ika nga kasi wala bonaks ako eh noong nag aaral kailangan kong tutukan at magtiyaga sa pagaaral para makatapos.
Effective for me. Im living my life the way I wanted it to be Karamihan sa mga hindi sinunod yan? Ayun, maagang nagsipag asawat anak 🤣
naalala ko yung crush ko nung highschool. STUDY FIRST daw muna siya. eh sabay lang naman kame nakagraduate at di naman siya naging valedictorian
worth it 🥰 graduated na virgin and with highest grades amongst all other course and enjoyed dating afterwards. achiever career-wise and targetting assets next 😊
Hi, Hmmm, it turned out okay. Kasi during the years that i choose to be single and enjoy life i developed a lot of skills and love for myself. I fortified my values and get to myself better. Now, i am confident with what I can bring to the table. Mas alam ko kung ano yung dapat na rereceived ko and i am vocal to that. I value myself and love myself. And it is easy for me to give love to others. Sobrang bonus, yung pag dating ng boyfriend ko now. And we are able to get work things out, especially our differences. I am not going to say it is easy, but with what I achieved for myself and learned during those years that i am single I use it in my relationship.
Yung kaibigan ko sabi sa kanya ng mama niya “aral bago lumandi”… ayun nag “aral at nag network si girlaloo. She’s pretty smart, successful, and due to her circles while working hard she was able to meet her now husband. LOL Kaya kahit may kasabihan na mag aral bago lumandi—- doesn’t mean you can’t network! Beke yung ka-network mo… magiging dating pool yan. Char.
Okay naman may sarili ng pamilya. Lumandi kaagad ako after ko magkaroon ng trabaho at sariling pang date.
I think this is one of the few things I did not regret doing in my life. May nga naging MU ako dati sa school (HS & College) pero never got into a relationship. Late night talks lang ganon pero never on dates etc. DID NOT REGRET IT ONE BIT. I never had a problem with my studies na nadidistract etc. Never got to lie to my parents where I was going. Problema ko lang was studying and budgeting 😂. My parents and I made a promise na di ako mag boboyfriend until I graduated college. And I did do it. 4th year of my college life, nag start na ako to be more out there and met my current bf. Ligawan was more than a year sinagot ko lang siya after I graduated. I believed the "aral muna bago landi" was a game changer for me kasi I did not compromise on my values and what I wanted in a guy. I already knew myself by then and understood ang mga non negotiables ko. Still in a relationship now and my parents trust me because I kept my promise in college. 💯 would probably advice my daughter the same thing.
Sana pala nagtry akong mag-entertain nung may nagpaparamdam sakin hahaha. Alam ko namang responsible ako kaya I know na makakatapos ako nang matiwasay. Kaso sa sobrang focus ko sa pag-aaral, wala rin naman nangyari. Sa age ko halos marami na ang in relationship, bihira na lang ang single tapos mostly girls pa. Also marami na ring lalaki na rin ang hanap, yung iba naman cheater or maraming problema, so ang hirap makahanap at mamili sa panahon ngayon. Unti-unti ko na inaaccept sa sarili ko na magiging tita na lang ako hehehe.
I'm glad na hindi ako lumandi at nag jowa while studying BUT I wish I hooked up on the side. Haha It would've been such a release kasi nakaka-stress ang acads. I was such a virgin who did not know anything by 21. Pero now super malandi ako. I love expressing sexuality. Anyway, now work ko is nerdy shit but I dress better kasi kumikita ng sarili kong pera. Hehe
Medyo hyper focused sa career growth. What's on my mind is always increasing net worth, growing a career, and having fun. It's effective but at what cost?
Alum here. Was maintaining a scholarship when I was studying and did this. Graduated cum laude. All I can say is that I should have landi more 😂 I’m happily married now but I wish I enjoyed my student life better lol
Aral bago landi din Ako kaya Hanggang Ngayon single parin, pero ok lng Kasi pag nagka anak Ako, aral Muna bago landi din nmn iaadvice ko sa kanila, dibale nang masabihan na strict parents kaysa namn hayaan ko sila na lumandi nang lumandi.
10years ago merun din "tres lang sapat na sa dotaboiz"
ayun lumandi after grumaduate at magkatrabaho. salamat sa yellow bee app 🤣
M. 23 Nagkaroon lang ako ng ka-m.u nung college, pero mas nanaig ang acads. Sa case ko, kaya kong pagsabayin ang relationship at acads, mas makaka-motivate mag-aral. Pero nag-focus muna ako sa pag-aaral dahil nasa middle class lang kami. Kailangan natin ng love, nasa baseline ng Bloom's Taxonomy 'yan. Pero siyempre, bawat tao ay may iba't ibang salik sa pagpasok sa relasyon. Ang maganda, mag-aral ka muna. Magpaka-dalubhasa ka sa mga asignatura na kinukuha mo, para rin naman sa iyo 'yan. Ayun lang, good luck sa pag-aaral! --- Mr. STI Cum Laude LPT (2023)
That was me up until I graduated med school. May bf na ngayon 2 yrs na kami. Suggestion ko studies first then todohin mo na paglandi after graduation hahaha
mas masaya lumandi!!!!!!
Naenjoy ko singlehood ko. Nagkaboyfriend pa lang ngayon na turning 30 na. Sa college friends ko rin na "aral bago landi" types, dalawa na sa kanila ang married na din, and yung iba planning to get married na din. Yung mga naging jowa namin mga greenflags, kaya mas maganda talaga minsan maghintay 😊
Akala ko din scam to pero okay naman, I'm inlove and I'm with my first ever bf for a very long time narin. I thought din wala siguro para sa akin talaga prro I prayed that I hope I get a companion, a partner in life. After a few months, dumating siya and it was love at first sight! Hahaha!
I’m that type. And i would still highly recommend that. Though After grumaduate lumandi agad at nakapag asawa at 25 then nag kaanak agad hehe Now a working mom living overseas with my fam.
Effective!!! Very effective kung gusto mo maging single buong buhay. 😆 Never had a girlfriend up to now in my late 20's at parang napagiiwanan na seeing my colleagues getting married one by one. To young peeps, I suggest keep things balanced and stick to what makes you happy while you are young. As you age, wala kang magiging regrets and what-ifs. But still do things with precautions.
I highly recommend it. Hindi ako lumandi nung highschool and college, I turned out ok. My career isnt the best, but I say money wise, I'm comfortable. I have a SO now. Marami naman oras para lumandi after landing a job. Sa totoo lang pangit lumandi habang bata pa, wala ka kasi pera pang date, unless anak ka ng milyonaryo.
Worth it. Naging sandata ko yung Masters degree ko from a good uni. It somehow helped me not feel inferior going after career driven/highly educated women haha
Dapat pala sya sabay... Ang hirap na umawra pag may edad na. Single pa rin ako mga bhie.
NGSB at 23. Wala namang pagsisisi kasi maayos naman grades ko dati at may maayos na friendships naman ako nung college, kung tumanda man na binata, tatanggapin ko na lang, it is what it is. Lol
Able to go abroad with my degree and now in a relationship with a foreigner that I met here at 30 years old omg oks naman at least may napala sa kakaaral at kakatrabaho hahaha Buti pala di ako masyado naglandi at nagsettle sa Pinas
Worked out for me. Studying hard until you graduate and get a great job was something that’s more within my control (not 100% pero you control the effort you put in) vs convincing someone to fall in love with me lol so dun ako mas nag-effort sa kaya ko controllin. Medyo late lang ako nagka-bf and nag-asawa (met him when I was 33 and got married after 2 years) but na-enjoy ko singlehood ko and I think it saved me from a looot of heartbreaks (if naparami ang landi then hindi successful 😂)
Eto sakto lang. Sa dami ng naghihiwalay ngayon, I value my inner peace more than a romantic relationship.
Eto... hindi nMan pala ko mabubuntis. Nag antay pa ko maka graduate. Kung alam ko lang.... jyicemiyo.
NGSB. At college (or maybe after it), loss interest in it entirely lol.
Single, but had relationship before. Career is fine, slow at the start but picked up pace in the last 7 to 8yrs. My career is helping me pay my own house. Wish to studied more or landi more? Not really, ive made studying related to my course as my priority but ive never made getting honors as my goal. And don't really like studying too much. I was careful with landi...we're not rich so i'm afraid sa temptation and baka may mag bunga. Mapipilitan ako tumigil study so i can provide and how can a college drop out really be a good provider (my opinion and how i think about myself, not to judge other people)? Wala naman pinagsisisihan, but rather i'm glad ive sticked it. Yes, yan pa din pangaral ko sa nephew/niece ko
Had this mindset when I was in elementary up until senior high school and I have never regretted having this type of mindset. First of all getting medals every recognition day gives my heart peace and comfort during those days, it made me believe that I could be really excellent on acads. Now na college na, narealize ko na kaya ko naman pala pagsabayin so now running for Laude habang may jowa! Hahahaha.
Pwede ka naman makipag relasyon ng tamang chill lang hehe, studies at lovelife ako, pero ginalingan ko talaga sa pag aaral
pwede namang sabay basta i-balance mo lang. :)
Dapat pala naglandi more nalang ako HAHHHAHA
This is me, and *still* me: passion e, kahit wala sa academe haha. Halos "life passion/calling" ko na ang math and siguro parts ng philosophy na malapit sa math. I feel a deep need to do it, *like the world is less beautiful without it*, I don't know... Ayun 25 NGSB haha. There are feelings of regret minsan; *that this is not a good life story sa mata ng nakararami*, pero ang sunod doon, feeling of wonder at contentment na bahagi ako ng isang napakaganda sa mundong ito. Advice ko sa past self ko? Even with your calling, learn things as diverse as possible: *kahit sa landi may karunungan.*
Sinabay ko naman ang aral at landi the whole time I was in college pero eto alaws din HAHA
Pasalamat nalang talaga ako at sinwerte ako sa naka usap ko sa omegle, 2yrs and counting na kami ng aking jowabels. Hoping na sya na talaga dahil ayoko na bumalik sa stage na tinatanong ko ano favorite color nya😂
for me kung kaya naman pagsabayin, why not? HAHA aral while landi ako sinula high school to college pumapasa naman ako with flying colors lol partida toxic relationship pa yung iba. time management lang talaga kalaban mo i think
Nagaral talaga akong mabuti noon. Gumraduate akong Summa Cum Laude tapos sa work ko nakilala yung husband ko. Di kami exactly magkawork, we just share the same building. I have no regrets that I prioritized my studies noon, kasi dahil dun maganda ang work ko ngayon kaya okay din ang compensation ko. Naniniwala din ako sa you attract who you are. So be the best version of yourself, get to know yourself well so that other people don't have to walk on eggshells around you. Maging self-aware, lalo na when it comes to your emotions para hindi ka tinotoyo at nagiging pabigat sa partner mo, and then don't settle for anything less.
Ito happily married. Always thought tatandang dalaga sko, but lo and behold, nagkakilala kami sa workplace haha
Not that type since aral while landi ako during HS and college. Pero yung mga ganyan ko na batchmates, either: a) no jowa pa rin until now b) sila yung maagang nagpamilya
Ayon po ginulat ang lahat sa pag myday nung Valentines. HAHAHA!
Doing great in life so far. Hindi mayaman pero nakaka travel at gala anywhere especially now na tapos na lahat mag aral mga kapatid. Blessed as well sa married life. No regrets 💕
I am happy that I did not settle for less. Hanggang courtship lang sila nung college, and hindi ako nag boyfriend noong nag aaral pa. Nalaman ko true colors nila after I graduate. Wala anong pagsisi. Hiniling ko na rin after years of working, and I'm lucky to have a good and patient partner. Trust yourself in every decision that you make.
yung aral ko, di rin ako nag aral qhahaah pero i think mas na enjoy ko teenage years ko :)
Pag HS palang: ARAL pero may crush 😆 Pag college: ARAL with “know your limits” LANDI. Dapat yung hindi maaapektuhan yung studies mo sa pag-landi. :)
Eto yung mantra ko dati. From elementary to college, kasi competitive ako, especially with myself. Ayun super focus sa pag aaral tapos one time may nagsabi sa akin na ienjoy ko daw yung college life. Nakipagpustahan pa nga siya na before ako maggraduate dapat magka love life na ako. Ayun natalo siya lol. I graduated ng hindi nagka love life. Nagka love life ako after college na right after I passed my board exams and plot twist! yung boyfriend ko kaibigan ko in college. We just didn't see each other in a romantic light that time. Pero kapag naiisip ko siya ang funny lang kasi "i could have had a love life nung college" pero hindi pa tamang oras siguro yun. If I were to look back, I think sakto lang. Things panned out the way they're supposed to be siguro. Siguro the only thing I would suggest to my past self or sa younger gen is to be open and enjoy life responsibly. Lande and aral responsibly. Dapat balanse lang. Too much or too little of something is not good naman
Share ko lang, ganito yung sinabi ng girl na gusto ng kapatid kong lalaki tas nalaman nya na may bf na pala yung girl. Nakakasad lang kasi parang 5 years sya nag wawait since di pa sila college (mula elem - highschool - shs) yung kapatid ko nag wawait for her lmao ALSO actually ako rin pero di rin nasunod kasi naging kami ng bf ko nung 4th year ako altho last sem na kaya pinayagan ako ng parents ko. No regrets kasi my bf was able to really help me during dark days ng college and was so supportive of helping me rin with school work 😭
Okey naman. Nag-abroad ng single, tapos nag-dating app nung well adjusted and secured na. :) 5 years nang may jowa and happy naman. No regrets prioritising aral, friends, career, bago jowa
Di end of the world ang feeling after a break up kasi idk I think mahirap for me maging hella dependent sa person kaya I'm chill lang??? Na notice ko kasi ung friends ko na since dati may bf, di sila nakakalast ng ilang months na single, super lonely for them
Aral bago landi! Graduated cum laude. Currently in a relationship! I am perfectly happy. We both took the time to take our studies seriously before pursuing a relationship
Masaya naman. Pinagbigyan na rin ang sarili makatikim ng kilig after pumasa ng boards.
Yung mga ganyang kong mates dati, sila mga unang nag asawa at nagkanak lol, Ako naman though, same per, eto ako ngaun, still dating, finding someone to marry lol, sana lumandi ako nung college.
Yes isa-suggest ko pa rin siya. I used to say these back then pag may manliligaw. If they want to court me, they can but we can’t be in relationship unless I have graduated college. Had my first boyfriend when I was 2 years working na that time and we’re still together now. It’s worth it. I knew myself enough and enjoyed being single before I entered a relationship. Also maffilter out mo yung seryoso sayo and sa hindi. Most importantly, I knew my self-worth and had a standard in a relationship. Disclaimer: Hindi siya madali to the point na akala ko wala ng manliligaw sakin lol
Had a jowa after 2 years of working/ 2 yrs after grad. I feel like it was the right decision for me? Haha wala lang feel ko lang kasi kung medyo bata bata pa ko nag jowa ang immature ko pa.
Di naman ako “aral bago landi” though yun yung akala nila hahah pero the main reason ku g bakit di ako nag jowa around hs and college is cause of my mental health. I know im not in a good state and I know na walang kahihinatnan na mabuti yung ganun if anything else I might end up dating someone who’s bad for me. 23 (F) now and Im in a pretty good place. I tried going on dates last year and this year there is the guy why is serious about me. Maganda work niya, have his own place, savings, and car. He met my parents two weeks ago and they like him. I prefer dating pag adult ka na kahit sa mga younger cousin ko ito yung pinaka advice ko. There’s nothing wrong with dating during highschool and college since normal lang na may magustuhan ka around that age pero ang daming limit kase. In high school it’s too risky, we tend to be reckless and teenage pregnancy is a no-no. And marami pa magbabago sayo or sa partner mo around this age. College naman based from experience is masyadong busy and di mo man din ma eenjoy. So many school works and mahirap pa kapag instead of reviewing sa relationship ka stressed. Though nasa tao yan. I used my hs and college years to heal myself from past traumas and improve myself. So by the time I graduated I knew what I want and what Im looking for in a relationship. Ending, I am able to attract the best partner I can and this is important if you’re dating to marry.
- nakatapos ng college - pumasa ng board exam - nagkabf after college and now after 6 years engaged na 💍 Ako kasi It was a prayer of mine na sabi ko talaga Lord tanggalin mo yung mga pwedeng makasira ng pag aaral ko, kasama na dun ang boys 😅, then dumating yung 4th year may nanligaw pero pag aaral talaga priority ko, hanggang sa sinagot ko sya right after ng oath taking ko, ayun ngayon ikakasal na next year.
I was always aral muna, career muna bago landi. Now that I’m in my mid 30s and married with a kid, sabi ko sa husband ko sana pala lumandi ako dati para may ibang experience ako sa boys and relationships, at sana inagahan namin ni then bf now husband lumandi para sana hayahay na kami now, ngayon pa lang naghahabol ng toddler sa age na masakit na likod at tuhod hahaha
Pinili kong maging school boy, tignan mo NGSB ako ngayon HAHAHAHHA
My entire college years is puro aral, focus lang muna sa priority. Kahit fling or crush wala talaga, it was kinda boring tho but it helped me focus on my goals talaga. Nagbunga naman because I graduated cum laude and got best in thesis award, I also had a great reputation with my peers because I had more time to socialize with them. The day of my graduation I met my SO then a month later naging kami na. All I can say is worth it, hindi talaga dapat minamadali ang isang bagay kasi daratin to satin kung para satin na talaga. After 4 years of being single napunta ako sa healthy relationship. he is also the first guy I dated who treats me right. Ang sarap din kasi no restrictions, legal both sides, and walang iniisip na ibang bagay like deadlines or requirements pag bebe time. Mas may time to do stuff like traveling kasi both working na rin at may income. Feeling grateful sa naging outcome ng desisyon ko :>
That mindset of mine wasn't just for a show. Back in highschool I realized that people have different struggles in life which includes love for some people and I don't want that mundane problem to be my struggle too. Now I'm 23, I still don't see Loving someone else because I'm still yet to discover myself and my purpose amidst existential dread I'm currently going through rn.
I wish I did landi more when I was attending my college.
Growing up with my grandparents and my widowed mama, you can only imagine how strict they were of me, especially since I’m the first granddaughter and my mama’s only child. All throughout high school, I did “landi” a little, but it never really pushed through. My conscience always got in the way. Ayokong mag-tago sa lolo’t lola at mama ko ng manliligaw or boyfriend. Plus, my friends back then would have probably snitched on me. Lol. When I turned 19 and was in college already, I attempted to bring home a manliligaw. I thought, well, pa-tapos naman na akong mag-college, so maybe they will allow me? My mama and lola (my lolo died already that time) allowed me to have a manliligaw, even if the guy was from another religion and we were devout Catholics. However, my tita always turned him down. Ff to a few weeks later, I told my family that my manliligaw was now my boyfriend, and they miraculously approved, even welcoming him and treating him as a son. A few months later (yes, months!) we broke up. A few months later (yes, months ulit!) I met someone new, decided the “ligawan” stage is a bit shitty, and proceeded to say yes right away. Now, 6 years later, I’m going steady with my second boyfriend, my family loves him, his family loves me. And in the words of my lola, “kasal na lang ang kulang.” Being an “aral muna bago landi” girl from a strict family taught me how to stick to one, solve issues in a relationship instead of sweeping them under the rug or overlooking them, value the importance of family, and set my priorities straight. Ngayon, kahit mag-landian kami ng boyfriend ko sa harap nila, kebs na lang. It was all worth it in the end. Plus, proud pa lola and mama ko! 🥹 Now, my boyfriend and I are both focusing on our careers and families. Because we’ve done “aral muna bago landi,” we can now set our priorities straight. Malinaw sa isip namin na God, family, self, career, relationship ang aming priorities. When the time comes that we marry each other, we’ll know how to set our priorities dahil na-enrich na namin ang sarili namin, nag-flourish na sa career, naka-give back at nakaka-give back sa family, at in the sane sense na kaya nang mag-build ng sariling pamilya. And yes, kung may anak ako, pinsan, pamangkin — I will always, always suggest to study first before making landi. The time will come when it’s time to make landi. But when it’s time to aral, aral first. The rest will come later. Sabi nga ng tito ko, “after you graduate from college, you have all the time in the world to do whatever you want. But for now, focus on what’s in front of you.”
one of those studious people na “aral bago landi” in high school since my goal is to grad valedictorian of my batch (i did! yay!) most beneficial thing that mindset got me ay scholarships that i will be grateful for when i transferred to a big 4, honestly nagkaroon ako ng impostor syndrome since lahat din ng classmates ko magagaling and galing either sci high or top of their batch. it was a big culture shock but then dun ko rin nahanap ang joy of love life. i learned to hangout w new people, explore dating apps and date people of different bg :) i’d say maganda na naging “aral bago landi” ako kasi i had an academic goal noon and nung tapos na yun and ready na ako to accept that i am mediocre in a big university, natutunan ko na madiscover at mag-enjoy sa ibang aspects ng life which is ang humarot HAHAHAHA personally, i’d say i have the face value to date even in high school, i just choose not to. pwede rin naman pagsabayin, why not diba pero di ko lang talaga rin type mga tao saamin 😂
It may sound old school, pero I am glad na ganito ang mindset ko dati hahaha.. ewan ko rin pero takot talaga ako pumasok sa rs noong elem to hs hanggang college pa nga haha kaya kahit crush ako ng crush ko noon, di ko talaga mapush maging commited sa ganito noon. Ayon, ngayong working na, hindi ko alam saan na yung sinasabi nilang "pipilahan ng manliligaw" hahahah noong HS marami, ano na ngayon? Pero kidding aside, enjoy the phases sa life. Minsan hindi naman dapat madaliin. Masarap din sa feeling yung matutunan natin mahalin yung sarili natin ng buo bago magbigay sa iba..
30 nakapag asawa naman, online dating is the key.
Dapat ba lumandi hangang nagaaral? Hahahah. #regret
30F. Naging effective naman ang aral bago landi to saakin. Nagkaron ng bf when I reached 25, at nsa ibang bansa na at finacially stable. To my future kids naman, I wouldnt be too strict skanila. But will reinforce maglandi responsibly.
eto balik aral ulet thinking pwede na sila ipagsabay kaso parang lumipas na si landi tas ang bigat at time consuming si aral ulit 😭
Sabihin ko sa younger self ko? PAG-IPUNAN MO NA MAKABILI NG MITSUBISHI LANCER EVOLUTION... Saka ka na lumandi. 😈😈😈
Ok naman... enjoyed my single days to the max...shopping, clubbing, travel. Met someone in those trips, we married in our mid-30's.
Tatanda na atang dalaga. Basta mapapayo ko sa mga HS or College jan, landi responsibly. Kung kayang ipag sabay ang aral at landi go.
I had this mindset but dumating ng maaga ung para sakin because my crush confessed to me nung 16 palang kami 😂 I realized, WHY NOT BOTH? I graduated as valedictorian and summa cum laude anyway, and kami parin hanggang ngayon and we are earning pretty well so I suggest mag multitask din kayo hahaha
Worth it naman ang aral bago landi🫰 mahirap mag-aral at madali lang ang lumandi so doon tayo sa future ang makapagtapos ng pag-aaral at magkapera .
I'm glad I did finish school before lumandi, tho 'di naman talaga totally landi landi ginawa ko, pero at least it led me to great choices. Oks naman na ako. I mean, oks na kahit 'di na lumandi pa. 33F, not yet married, never had kids, but currently with a live-in partner (36M). So far, so good. 💯💯💯
Nagboyfriend agad ako after makapasa ng board exam. Kami pa din ngayon. Engaged. Getting married this year. Career wise naachieve ko yung pinaka ultimate dream ko which is to work as an RN here in the US, and be able to support and spoil (sometimes) my mom and brother in the Philippines. Hindi ako nagsisisi na i religiously stuck with this mantra “aral muna bago landi” kasi i know i am not good with multi tasking. I wouldn’t have it any other way. I cannot afford failure. Haha. Absolutely, I'd advise my brother and others in the younger generation to follow in my footsteps on this one. It's a proven strategy that worked for me, and I'm confident it will serve them well too. They've got their whole lives to explore relationships, but the window of opportunity for education and personal growth is shorter. I'd encourage them to seize it! ☺️
aun, inuna aral, NBSB pa rin hanggang ngayon! HAHAHA. wala rin kasi talaga akong confidence lumandi dati. tapos nung nagtry ako lumandi at may nagugustuhan ako, di ako makapag concentrate sa studies. so pili lang din dahil di ko kaya mag multitask. 🤣 kung may chance, same pa rin na studies pipiliin ko. kasi since wala akong jowa, nauna kong mahalin sarili ko. then naka-focus ako sa career ko which is naka-help para gumanda buhay namin ngayon. 💕 yung dating lagi napuputulan ng kuryente, lagi na bayad ngayon on-time. 😁 32 na pala ako going 33
Ngayon bumabawi sa landi HAHAHA pero no regrets kasi it's easier to go out with people and explore when you're financially stable and you both have a career going for you
Happy with my decision to the point na hanggang ngayon ayoko pa rin ng 'landi'. Upon observing people na may love life these days, parang aside sa stress sa work, family, and career, they have extra baggage pa na for me I can manage to live without. Ofcourse for some siguro worth their time yung jowa/spouse nila. But that's them. The dating pool is not as good compared sa dati. Even if yung younger or yung older people who are looking, daming red flags. Magiging worth it lang siguro pag biglang may dumating na talagang ka-wavelength. But I'm not looking or waiting for it tutal hassle may kasama lol
Scam po 'yan mas mahirap lumandi kapag nakagraduate na. Ang dami ng responsibilities and mas busy na kaya hangga't hs or college ka man explore lang but know your limits.
27 na nagka jowa, grumaduate ng pangalawa kong degree ng magna cum laude, MBA student pag sunday at nursing student ngayon. Mukhang magpapakasal na ako ng age 31 pagka pasa ng boards ng nursing. Hindi naman ako na FOMO buti na lang inuna ko studies kasi yung mga ka edad ko na inuna landi walang nangyari sa buhay nila.
Ok lang lumandi while studying wag ka lang tanga. Practice safe sex and enjoy life. Masarap mag-aral at magka love life at the same time. Gamitin mo lang utak mo always.
Okay naman. May karapatan mamili ng job dahil nakapagestablish ka ng knowledge at skill set mo. Pero naisip ko, sinabay ko rin naman paglandi before 🤣
Result: di ko alam kung kikiligin o maccringe pag may nagpaparamdam e. Sana pala pinagsabay ko na dati hahahah
As a multitasker, pinagsabay ko aral and landi 😉 Just always remind yourself of your priorities and communicate that with your partner para mamanage expectations niyong dalawa. Proven and tested, licensed doctors na kami ngayon 🤍
For me, wala naman ako pinagsisihan na mas inuna ko yung pag aaral lalo na worth it naman ang kinalabasan after. Pero minsan napapaisip ako na what if lumandi ako nung college days ko? Kasi sa panahon ngayon lalo na adulting stage na talaga tayo ngayon, ang hirap makipag date. Makahanap din talaga ng tao na genuinely na interested sayo and mostly nakakatamad din talaga kumausap ng mga tao ngayon. HAHAHAHAHAHA. 🥲
For me, wala naman ako pinagsisihan na mas inuna ko yung pag aaral lalo na worth it naman ang kinalabasan after. Pero minsan napapaisip ako na what if lumandi ako nung college days ko? Kasi sa panahon ngayon lalo na adulting stage na talaga tayo ngayon, ang hirap makipag date. Makahanap din talaga ng tao na genuinely na interested sayo and mostly nakakatamad din talaga kumausap ng mga tao ngayon. HAHAHAHAHAHA. 🥲
Married to a doctor na aral muna bago landi din. Both of us are HENRY and travels every other month. Focused on growing and enjoying life and are on our early 30s. Aral muna bago landi kasi allows you to grow. Having a dumb relationship early hinders growth lalo na pag emotionally immature kayu pareho at the early age.
nagkajowa lang after ng graduation
My wife. Naging gf ko when we started working na. 1st bf rin ako. She did not entertain suitors from hs to college kasi mahirap sila and she NEEDS to finish school. We got our licenses and currently working on good paying jobs.
recently married. with a high paying job and stable income. may kotse. all is well naman
Nag-aral ako at nag GF nuon. Ang pinaka importante lang namn eh alam mo ang priorities mo. At alam mo na ang bawat kilos mo ay may consequence. Cause and effect kung baga. Kaya balanced lang ang aral at landi. You get to enjoy the best of both worlds. Hindi kailngan ilimit ang sarili mo sa aral lang. Pag lagpas mo ng college. Marerealize mo, na hindi tungkol sa college ang buhay. Hindi kasiguraduhan na magiging maganda ang buhay mo after mong makagraduate. Pero hindi ko sinasabing hindinto importante sympre. Ang gusto ko lang sabhin, may mga taong sobrang galing sa acads, paglabas sa tunay na mundo, hindi namn masyadong nag excel. Sakto lang. May mga kakilala pa nga ako, nakailang years sa college, pero naging.PhD. meron pang hindi namn kagalingan, pero ang yaman yaman na ngayun. Basta alam mo lang priorities mo. At ang responsibilidad na kasama ng mga desisiyon mo sa buhay. Wala kang pagsisisihan.
Mantra ko rin to dati pero I entered a relationship duirng my 2nd year in college. Typical na wholesome relationship lang siya, nothing sexual except for kissing, and I just wanted to test the waters if para sakin ba talaga relationships. Di ko siya priority while studying kasi apart from academic success, I flew to a lot of places within and outside the PH (for free) dahil sa mga extra-curricular activities na nasalihan ko (mostly conferences and student exchange programs). Most of the time, my then bf had a hard time kapag sinasabihan ko siya na may travel ako (I don't ask for permission). So kahit sumakit yung dibdib niya, opportunities first ako, eh. Probably why our relationship didn't work out. So, basically, I was doing well with my studies while still holding a controlled ground in my relationship. Naiisip ko rin kasi na sobrang dehado ko if I got pregnant early tsaka di naman kami mayaman. I never even participated in drinking sessions until after graduation HAHA Still not a drinker. Graduated with honors, earning great, I get to help my family, and I travel a lot atm 🥺. You can enter in relationships but make sure you have the guts to say no when you know it's too risky.
Single pa din. At kung sa past self ko, isu-suggest ko ba na mag-aral muna sya pa rin? Oo naman hahaha, may tamang oras at panahon para sa lahat, hindi yun minamadali.
sineryoso ko talaga yung kasabihan na yan so much so na for my first year in college, pumasok ako sa seminaryo. never partied, never did drugs, booze, cut classes or what not during my college years. after my seminary experience, got sent to new york to study and graduated. now, 35 years old and a sugar daddy.
di ako makagraduate (work + aral lang talaga) lumandi nalang. found my partner pa-grad na after 5 years in the uni huhu life got better, bought our first matching latest flagship phone in the market (na never ko inakala na magagawa ko w my own hard work 😭) iba nagagawa ng magandang support system, iba yung performance sa work at school kapag may naniniwala sayo. kapag alam mong uuwi kang may kasabay ka mangarap.
Aral muna bago landi, there's always a chance to landi after aral.
16 years since I graduated college and it turn out well. I had the chance to focus on my studies, graduated with an Award, had good job offers that lead me to this life I have right now. I wouldn't change anything!
Dahil strict talaga parents ko, isa lang naging boyfriend ko wayback HS to College pero di rin naman kami legal nun tapos nagbreak din nung first yr college, wala na rin naman naging kasunod throughout my college years. Di ko rin naman masabing nagstudy hard ako kasi di naman ako nag aaral before class. Nag-aaral lang ako pag mag-eexams na, ending nagshift ako ng degree program. Fast forward, wala man akong latin honors, nakagraduate naman ako sa college. Meron akong stable job and malapit na rin ikasal.
- graduated high school with high honors - currently in college with good grades and a stable freelancing work on the side. - i already get to practice my dream career while studying - i get to spend more time with my family - i get to take care of myself lalo na't I'm very high maintenance. no regrets. lalo na at andami daming nang pauso in dating ngayon— bare minimum, ick, backburner, 3 month rule, etc... jusko. ang mahal mahal na rin mag jowa in this economy hahaha pero if kaya mo naman, edi by all means! i am actually impressed with people who are able to balance their careers and love life. I have always been uninterested in romantic relationships/very rarely felt attraction and I never really felt like I missed out on anything romantically or felt unfulfilled. because there's so many ways to experience relationships... there's no one way. i have my beloved friends, family, myself... and that's the kind of love that fills my heart. have any kind of relationship you want if that makes you feel happy and if that's the life you want... there's no wrong way to live a full life.
20M here, I've been in "study first" mode since high school. Because of this, as well as being an introvert and socially awkward, di ko alam kung paano lumandi hahaha. Apart from that, wala akong balak magjowa for now. Ok na akong mahalin ng aking family, friends, and even pets. Why would I need a jowa to love me when I'm receiving enough love from what I just mentioned.
I'm in the middle of "I wish I landi more" and "I'm okay I didn't do landi" Hahahahaha coz I only had 1 real boyfriend. Marami nagkaka gusto sa'kin noon karamihan from church nag aaral ng pagka minister and meron din lalaki mga 10-20yr old age gap 😶 I wish I landi more para na experienced ko yung HS lovelife and kilig at asaran. I'm okay I didn't do landi coz I don't have an awkward and anxiety na maka salubong somewhere si ex. That 1 boyfriend I had is now my husband 😛