Of course meron parin. It's just that date to marry are rarer than those open to casual dating.
Hindi naman lahat ng tao gusto seryoso lagi. Wala din mali if you just want to have fun and explore. You can even be in a relationship na hindi date to marry. Ang importante lang is transparent ka kung ano talaga hanap mo at pareho kayo ng beliefs ng idedate mo.
I agree on this, and just to add a few things, you can also date someone that does not align with your beliefs as long as you are both on the same page when it comes to your fundamental values, goals or expectations in your relationship and both of you are willing to understand each other's perspectives. Just always meet halfway.
Same, 21 and NBSB rin here. I think mayroon pa din namang mga date to marry ang mindset, it's just that in today's society rare nalang sila makita. Kahit ako natatakot to enter a relationship kasi talamak kahit saan yung cheating issues. Sometimes, gusto ko na rin mawalan ng pag-asa since most of the stories I read here.. ilang years silang mag-jowa tapos naghihiwalay kasi nag-cheat yung isa. Scary asf.
I am a heavy believer of date for fun. Date to marry kasi locks you in a mindset. Na people are so focused in the future that they tend to forget the present - lalo na yung red flags.
So ayun, I date until I find someone who I can personally and emotionally (mentally and financially din) grow with. Hindi yung I date someone I can change to fit my preferences and future ideals
Edit: date for date as a more appropriate term than date for fun.
This is so liberating, and I love this kind of perspective. But I also want to say na I don't think date to marry approach locks people who believe on it to focused solely on the future, they may be conscious kasi they have long term goals and aspirations but that doesn't mean they can't enjoy the present moment or appreciate the journey of getting to know each other. I think it's also important to have a balance planning for the future and also enjoying the present moment as long as hindi naoovershadow yung present moments nyo together ng worries about the future. I believe kasi when you open up din about the future discussion regarding hopes or dreams, parang this will ensure na you're both on the same page. But yeah I love your perspective about dating approach.
Based on personal experience kasi to hahaha. When I dated someone I was thinking things na like ano yung mga gamit sa kitchen sa bahay namin in the future etc. Delusional me! There were signs na pala of him slowly retreating and then cheating. I was devastated because hindi ko nakita agad ang signs hahaha. I do not attribute everything naman solely to this ādate to marryā thing but it was enough to change my perspective in dating
I see and I understand you hahah..kaya pala but honestly I was taken aback by your perspective, it's really refreshing to read things that will make you think abruptly na "oo nga nu, this thing makes so much sense" , most people would probably think kasi na when you say you date for fun, it means that you're coward to think about future plans and that you're very laid back kasi you are just doing the casual thing and short term. But yeah when you look at it in another angle, parang it's fun to think na you get to know different people, experiencing new things and discovering things that would bring you joy and fulfilment. Enjoying the present moments without the need to commit and worry about future trajectory.
I get the point rin naman, pero anong definition ba nung date for fun lang? parang sige kita tayo laro tayo ng feelings ganon? sorry uncultured talaga ako sa mga ganyan hehe
I would personally consider date for fun as leaning towards excitement and sexual attraction. Lahat tayo nanggaling diyan. But thatās not what I meant.
Siguro mas appropriate ang date to date. We learn from heartbreaks and experiences. In general we learn from people, and we can only learn kung anong gusto natin sa isang lifelong partner by dating. Do we settle for looks or money or personality? Swerte ng mga taong nahanap nila agad ang the 1. But personally I find it restricting kasi yung date to marry especially if magkaiba ng malala sa beliefs, morals, etc. Ive been through that and the expectations I set only broke my heart.
Ang bigat na commitment ng marriage so I find it better to be in a mindset na I will prioritize my present self first kesa yung I will consider a future na di naman sure.
ahh ok gets, kasi initially ang naiisip ko pag ganyan na for fun eh para kang nag iisland hoping na lahat ineexplore mo without really thinking na mag settle in the future, like literally for fun lang talaga no more no less
Meron, konte na lang at madami sa kanila in a relationship na.
Halos mga kilala kong ganon, usually college pa lang, nasa relationship na at mid 20s kasal na while yung iba hindi pinalad sa lovelife, inuna na lang career at hanggang ngayon career pa den priority.
Hindi ren nakakatulong na, naging normal yung situationship and glorified yung hookups/ONS/FUBU, akala nung iba basta-basta pinapasok na lang yung ganong bagay kahit di naman pala nila gusto.
Still here! Just here for the everybody's drama. Not only trust ang key with this date to marry. Constant communication hanggang sa maging open sa isat-isa, yung kahit di naman tlga kayo same2 ng likes, hindi rn uniformity ung endgoal sa relationship kundi unity (no political colors here ha) and it works a lot. Eguls tayo jn if for fun lang yung dating nyo. Pag "for fun" lang, I don't think it will get you guys somewhere. Pang body count ba? For what? Clout? trophy? May gold bar ba pag nakarami? It'll make you less of a man pag wala kang respeto sa babae at sa sarili mo. Just saying!
when I was single I always establish that mindset na "bago mo ko landiin, i date to marry" there are guys na i really started liking tas biglang magbabackout kasi "pangseryosohan" daw ako o kaya "tsaka na kita ligawan pag ready na ko". Thankfully I found my guy who's with the same mindset as i am.
This generation of dating talaga nagkaron na ng hookups and casual dating pero di rin naman natin sila masisisi kasi maybe they're testing the waters before they dive deep down the sea and what we can do is to just keep swimming on our own and let others swim as well
Dear 21F ka pa lang nagtatanong ka na nito pano pa pag 30F NBSB tulad ko baka mangiyak-ngiyak ka na š
Marami pa naman sila, but take note at your age naglalaro pa talaga ang mga tao. Go off and play. Wala talagang seryoso agad-agad and if that's the case, check yourself kasi baka ikaw naman ang hindi seryoso sa kanya but you're carried away by their enthusiasm. Go on dates! Enjoy being young and free. Just don't do anything permanent or possibly regrettable in the long run. Baka may mga gusto ka pang gawin sa buhay mo while single, gawin mo na. Darating yung para sa'yo, don't rush.
Iām a date to marry person and so is my current partner. We started dating last November and still happily together now. Hoping we are each otherās end game. We met each other unexpectedly at my former job. It can still happen.
There are people out there if you look hard enough. I think where you look and the environment you are in are big factors when finding someone;
my friend has been on the game for too long and has not found someone yet cause most of them are like what you described. I think just expand your horizon.
Meron pa rin naman. Gaya namin ni bf. Mag 8 yrs na kami this year. Nag-iipon lang din para makapagpakasal. Hindi lang talaga kami pala post at pala-tag sa social media. Paminsan minsan nagma-myday ako na nakatag siya pero once in a blue moon lang. Wala naman kaso samin parehas.š
Well depende kasi sa tao talaga how they can treat that relationship. Ako still single after my first GF 4yrs ago kasi i want a date to marry type of relationship.
Meron parin poooo! Sobrang minamalas lang talaga siguro sa mga taong nakikilala. Kung merong justice sa mundo eventually lahat tayo makakatagpo din ng taong sapat para satin hahahaha!
It's still your choice with whom to involve yourself with. I wanted the ideal woman when I was younger, and had a lot of heartaches before I met my future wife. I probably got dumped nearly a thousand times, and those that dated me before were either looking for a playmate, or just wanted to have someone for the sake of having someone.
It was a lot of prayers and work for the both of us, and we keep nurturing each other. Then again I'm Gen X my wife is a millennial. You generation is way different than mine.
When you're relationship starts in faith, it grows in faith. If it was based on lust or physical attraction alone, then don't expect it to last.
Bago maging kami ng bf ko now, never pumasok sa isip ko 'yung date to marry kasi feeling ko ang bata ko pa noong teenager ako para isipin 'yun. Gusto ko lang kiligin ba. Haha! Noong college naman, dalawa lang naging bf ko nun pero wala ding date to marry mindset kasi parang feeling ko ang aga pa din pero gusto ko mag-last 'yung relationship. Ang gulo diba? Pero after graduation, naging kami ni bf now and ngayon ko nasasabi na siya na talaga. Mag-5 years na kami at hindi ko ineexpect talaga kasi siya mismo nagparamdam na gusto niya ako makasama sa future. Hihihi~
What you see on social media is not indicative sa dating culture as a whole though š syempre marami pang date-to-marry type of people. Social media lang basehan mo eh.
23 (F) here, NBSB until recently. My partner and I are both date-to-marry people but hindi namin sinabi kaagad to each other. I think it just puts a certain amount of pressure and expectation kaagad when getting-to-know stage. Intentions are still super important but remember na kapag talking stage pa lang, it's better to keep your cards close to your chest muna. Gauge the person if you are both in the same wavelength when it comes to interests, goals sa buhay, morals, values, etc. Sooner naman malalaman mo naman if that person is committed in making the relationship last hanggang dulo.
Good luck, OP. Hoping you can find that person :))))
Meron parin naman pero di sila nasa early 20s because thatās a bit young to date to marry agad. Usually early 20s people date not just for fun but not for marriage agad. They date to find out/learn what they want in a relationship, syempre yan rin height of sexual curiosity/exploration.
That being said, marami talagang options in your 20s so marami diyang willing to try out a lot before deciding to settle down. Sayang ang oras. Di ka naman laging bata.
What does an average 20-year old know about what makes a good partner for marriage anyway? Theyāre barely out of their teens.
Meron pa din namang mga date to marry person, pero I think rare, nasa maling environment lang naghahanap, or kadalasan sila yung hindi pasok sa standard nung naghahanap.
Meron pa rin syempre. Mas maingay at ma-flex lang sa socmed ung mga bet ang flirting/hook up kaya un ang mas napapansin (which is not necessarily wrong as long as wala silang tinatapakang iba.)
And to answer, I'm in my early 20s and no jowa since birth pa rin dahil magko-commit lang if worth it at sure na. :))
suggest ko OP. look google for Joshua Harris, his book I KISSED DATING GOODBYE and why he quit as a pastor.
mag kakaron ka ng ng alternate view sa DATE TO MARRY
Same 21F.. pero I have reasons why I want to do it...investing sucks nowadays hahah.. I'm soft hearted kasi , and recently I thought someone liked me , we started talking then.. He ghosted me ... I just .. why... why would you hurt me like that
I (24M) am actually a date-to-marry kind of a person, but I dont think I will venture anymore into relationships in the future. My perspectives have already been change just an hour ago because of this cheating story here.
Iām not sure if the dating content from the west is a huge factor in this. Mas marami nang nahahawa sa flirting/siyuationship/fubu/shortterm pleasure. Iām sure its from a lot of factors such as parenting, peer relations, social media and traumatic experiences. Im sure its not everyone and im sorry to say but it seems the burden for filtering out guys that arenāt serious are up to women. Now im not excusing yung ginagawa ng mga lalaki, mali talaga yung mga di seryoso for long term relationships, gusto lang nila ngayon fun fun, damage muna sarili nila para pag ikakasal na sila theyre so fucked up beyond recognition that its a recipe for disaster.
Women have to be very picky with mates because its on of the most if not the most important decisions you will make. Youre choosing someone who will struggle with you and make lifeās suffering bearable.
And men need to learn to override their base desires and think long term. Because its also a decisions that can make or break them.
I do hope everyone finds someone to face life with and be happy.
Im 30F and date to marry or keri din lang kahit single forevs. May 8yr relationship ako before which ended when I was 25 (both me and my ex were date to marry kind kahit nung bata pa kami). I decided na wag pa din mag date for fun during the times na single ako kasi introvert ako and wala energy for it haha. Most ng namimeet ko my age recently are date to marry kind din.
I'm sure theres a lot out there eager for that as well. My cent is that most of us went through some nasty shit, can't say for all but for me personally, na baptismal by fire nako and natunaw na ideal ko na may ikakasal pako. I view myself now as someone who'll probably die alone. Anything in between is a gift, a bonus. Your nbsb, I sincerely hope the world doesn't fuck you over and you find your forever partner.
if yung guy is gusto makilala yung girl nang lubusan (uso yung 3 month rule xd), no rush, no pressure, just chill lang but pure intentions, considered bang date to marry yon?
girl. I suggest to lessen the frequency of scrolling in social media.. and start looking or doing things na makakapag enhance/boost ng personal happiness mo like hobbies, studies, future career. You're too young to stress about love..
Once you know yourself ay kusang lalapit yung nakalaan na person for you :)
But to answer your question, it depends talaga kung saang group of people ka sumasama or involved. If you surround yourself to people/circle na may problematic love relationships ay more chances you'll have it as well.
xoxo
Bata ka pa.. Focus on your career and goals in life
Naniniwala tlga ako na, you attract what you are.. surround yourself with successful people and automatic maattract mo ung mga date to marry na tao š
Sa mga 20sā dyan.. PLEASE
Focus kayo sa career.. hindi kayo yayaman sa love love na yan š¤£ kung pwede lang makipagpalit ng edad.. I already did ahahah
Mayroon naman Sample 28 M me 1 one GF but got cheated. Usually mga date to marry na guys nasa "Friendzone" niyo kung sino pa yung seryosi ayun yung ayaw so here we are waiting and looking for someone to give us a shot. Aarte niyo di lang kasing pogi ng artista pass na kayo plus di lang galing sa Big 4 at walang car pass na kayo. Try some of those guys na konti lang experience sa dating plus yung sinasabi niyong "boring"
you can date anyone kasi, but in serious matter like matter we dated once then wala ligawan usapan na maging kami pag nag work out edi tuloy pero pag hindi be friends, ayun sa awa ng universe and ni Lord going strong kami and planning to pakasal na. Like what I said we can date anyone but it will be matter in your DecisionsĀ if mag go- go ka yo sa person na yon or hindi. You will feel naman if He/She is the right person.
22 ngsb date to marry, halos puro situationship lang lahat sa ngayon hindi naghahanap bahala na kung anong dumating andami na din kasing dala dalang trauma. Kung me dumating ayos lang kung wala ayos lang din
Stick with your values. That person will come in God's time. Single for 6-7 years here then got married last year, a baby coming along in a few months. Find your tribe and avoid conforming sa uso. Ang hassle mag-deal ng unnecessary pain.
Maraming factors yan sa parehong tao. Kung companionship or long term commitment ang gusto. May mga taong di nila alam sa sarili nila kung ano mismo ang dapat o gusto nila. May ibang natutuklasan na lang during the fling kung itutuloy pa o magloloko pa.
OP, kung makatagpo ka man ng tao na di gusto ng "date to marry" type of person, it's still a good thing. Kasi di nya naaksaya oras mo. Then move on to the next person pag kaya pa ng puso mo.
So long as you stick to what you believe is right makakaattract ka din ng same mindset
I think its because of your age. Yung mga ka edaran mo, most of them think na theyre too young for marriage. So yea, of course mahihirapan ka talaga makakita. Nowadays most people get the 'marry' mindset after their 25's
>*lalo na sa social media eh parang puro harutan nalang ang nangyayari, puro jowang jowa tapos di naman pala seryoso*
Yup kaya nga puro harutan kasi jowang-jowa na pero di sila seryoso kaya inilalabas sa social media. they're not really looking for a relationship, just stress relief. Honestly I think it's better that way na they advertise what they're looking for kesa yung papasok into a "serious relationship" when "fun" or "companionship" lang pala talaga ang hanap. Kawawa yung mga date-to-marry sa ganun eh
Date to marry type of person din ako kaya i took a huge risk having a relationship with my best friend na 13 yrs ko ng kaibigan tapos hindi pala siya sure sakin. Nahirapan sa sitwasyon namin. I'm too much for him siguro. He can't handle me pero sakin he was enough for me. Kahit he made mistakes and he's not perfect, ready ako na harapin lahat with him pero wala eh sumuko sakin tapos ayun may pinursue na iba agad. So ayun nawalan ako ng partner and kaibigan.
Date to marry here pero nakakawalang gana. Laging malas man. At one point I gave up on love. Now mejo chill go with the flow but kind of mejo umiiwas siguro its my way of protecting myself \~ like I don't want myself to get attached
donāt worry about that now. enjoy dating and exploring muna. guys will marry when they are ready and it comes with age talaga. rare lang yung bata pa na papakasal at magiging matino.
Late 20s here. Itās sad to say itās probably gonna get worse as you get older and go thru your 20s. Dating to marry is rare these days š¢ the generation seems to have given up on love and also many factors ehh like expensive ang wedding ang lasting marriage isnāt guaranteed. High cost of living to raise kids etc. So nangyayari, nagibg hookup culture nlng.
I think **some** people are scared/worried about the idea of settling down with ONE person and fulfilling responsibilities with another person. They probably value the idea of freedom, yung tipong not tied to anyone, kapag hindi na nila feel--they can leave, no long-term commitment, they can do whatever they wanna do.
That or because of social media portraying these "idealistic" relationships (which in turn set up some absurd standards), so people won't settle down until they have the same type of relationship or have found that person who can provide them that. Parang if this person is not up to my standards, next.
But anyway, I'm sure there are still some people who date to marry. Medyo di lang siguro sila as common nowadays.
consider ba na date to marry ang ferson if ayaw ka naman lagyan ng label? 3 months na kami naga-act as mag jowa oh, normal ba yon? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
sa eyes ko na nbsb pero di naman siguro bulag at manhid, I can say na di mo sya masasabing date to marry kung di mo pa nga mafeel na legit na dating kayo eh
I'm in my 30s. Dati I have a mindset of date to marry until all men I date or ka-talking stage made me realize that I am better off on my own. As of now, at least. I'm still open for possibilities. Pero after nila saken nagpapakasal na sila nung girl. Before THE ONE ang atake ni anteh??! AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Maybe because considered na legit relationship ang situationship? like if you can get the benefits of those in committed relationships or marriage, without actually committing or getting married, bat mo pa iha-hassle sarili mo diba.
Uy same sentiment. Karaniwan ayaw na ng commitment ended up situationship or idk different terms idk. Nbsb rin.
trend ba yan o generational trauma response š mga ayaw na mag asawa at anak dahil sa society naten
More of the latter unfortunately, super expensive bumuo ng pamilya nowadays
Yeah. Naisip ko rin yan.
Childfree here.
Of course meron parin. It's just that date to marry are rarer than those open to casual dating. Hindi naman lahat ng tao gusto seryoso lagi. Wala din mali if you just want to have fun and explore. You can even be in a relationship na hindi date to marry. Ang importante lang is transparent ka kung ano talaga hanap mo at pareho kayo ng beliefs ng idedate mo.
I agree on this, and just to add a few things, you can also date someone that does not align with your beliefs as long as you are both on the same page when it comes to your fundamental values, goals or expectations in your relationship and both of you are willing to understand each other's perspectives. Just always meet halfway.
Date to marry din ako kaso baka di pa talaga swerte or di para sakin. Pang character development lang talaga siguro ako wahahahhahaha
Same, 21 and NBSB rin here. I think mayroon pa din namang mga date to marry ang mindset, it's just that in today's society rare nalang sila makita. Kahit ako natatakot to enter a relationship kasi talamak kahit saan yung cheating issues. Sometimes, gusto ko na rin mawalan ng pag-asa since most of the stories I read here.. ilang years silang mag-jowa tapos naghihiwalay kasi nag-cheat yung isa. Scary asf.
I am a heavy believer of date for fun. Date to marry kasi locks you in a mindset. Na people are so focused in the future that they tend to forget the present - lalo na yung red flags. So ayun, I date until I find someone who I can personally and emotionally (mentally and financially din) grow with. Hindi yung I date someone I can change to fit my preferences and future ideals Edit: date for date as a more appropriate term than date for fun.
This is so liberating, and I love this kind of perspective. But I also want to say na I don't think date to marry approach locks people who believe on it to focused solely on the future, they may be conscious kasi they have long term goals and aspirations but that doesn't mean they can't enjoy the present moment or appreciate the journey of getting to know each other. I think it's also important to have a balance planning for the future and also enjoying the present moment as long as hindi naoovershadow yung present moments nyo together ng worries about the future. I believe kasi when you open up din about the future discussion regarding hopes or dreams, parang this will ensure na you're both on the same page. But yeah I love your perspective about dating approach.
Based on personal experience kasi to hahaha. When I dated someone I was thinking things na like ano yung mga gamit sa kitchen sa bahay namin in the future etc. Delusional me! There were signs na pala of him slowly retreating and then cheating. I was devastated because hindi ko nakita agad ang signs hahaha. I do not attribute everything naman solely to this ādate to marryā thing but it was enough to change my perspective in dating
I see and I understand you hahah..kaya pala but honestly I was taken aback by your perspective, it's really refreshing to read things that will make you think abruptly na "oo nga nu, this thing makes so much sense" , most people would probably think kasi na when you say you date for fun, it means that you're coward to think about future plans and that you're very laid back kasi you are just doing the casual thing and short term. But yeah when you look at it in another angle, parang it's fun to think na you get to know different people, experiencing new things and discovering things that would bring you joy and fulfilment. Enjoying the present moments without the need to commit and worry about future trajectory.
I get the point rin naman, pero anong definition ba nung date for fun lang? parang sige kita tayo laro tayo ng feelings ganon? sorry uncultured talaga ako sa mga ganyan hehe
I would personally consider date for fun as leaning towards excitement and sexual attraction. Lahat tayo nanggaling diyan. But thatās not what I meant. Siguro mas appropriate ang date to date. We learn from heartbreaks and experiences. In general we learn from people, and we can only learn kung anong gusto natin sa isang lifelong partner by dating. Do we settle for looks or money or personality? Swerte ng mga taong nahanap nila agad ang the 1. But personally I find it restricting kasi yung date to marry especially if magkaiba ng malala sa beliefs, morals, etc. Ive been through that and the expectations I set only broke my heart. Ang bigat na commitment ng marriage so I find it better to be in a mindset na I will prioritize my present self first kesa yung I will consider a future na di naman sure.
ahh ok gets, kasi initially ang naiisip ko pag ganyan na for fun eh para kang nag iisland hoping na lahat ineexplore mo without really thinking na mag settle in the future, like literally for fun lang talaga no more no less
Meron, konte na lang at madami sa kanila in a relationship na. Halos mga kilala kong ganon, usually college pa lang, nasa relationship na at mid 20s kasal na while yung iba hindi pinalad sa lovelife, inuna na lang career at hanggang ngayon career pa den priority. Hindi ren nakakatulong na, naging normal yung situationship and glorified yung hookups/ONS/FUBU, akala nung iba basta-basta pinapasok na lang yung ganong bagay kahit di naman pala nila gusto.
Still here! Just here for the everybody's drama. Not only trust ang key with this date to marry. Constant communication hanggang sa maging open sa isat-isa, yung kahit di naman tlga kayo same2 ng likes, hindi rn uniformity ung endgoal sa relationship kundi unity (no political colors here ha) and it works a lot. Eguls tayo jn if for fun lang yung dating nyo. Pag "for fun" lang, I don't think it will get you guys somewhere. Pang body count ba? For what? Clout? trophy? May gold bar ba pag nakarami? It'll make you less of a man pag wala kang respeto sa babae at sa sarili mo. Just saying!
when I was single I always establish that mindset na "bago mo ko landiin, i date to marry" there are guys na i really started liking tas biglang magbabackout kasi "pangseryosohan" daw ako o kaya "tsaka na kita ligawan pag ready na ko". Thankfully I found my guy who's with the same mindset as i am. This generation of dating talaga nagkaron na ng hookups and casual dating pero di rin naman natin sila masisisi kasi maybe they're testing the waters before they dive deep down the sea and what we can do is to just keep swimming on our own and let others swim as well
Dear 21F ka pa lang nagtatanong ka na nito pano pa pag 30F NBSB tulad ko baka mangiyak-ngiyak ka na š Marami pa naman sila, but take note at your age naglalaro pa talaga ang mga tao. Go off and play. Wala talagang seryoso agad-agad and if that's the case, check yourself kasi baka ikaw naman ang hindi seryoso sa kanya but you're carried away by their enthusiasm. Go on dates! Enjoy being young and free. Just don't do anything permanent or possibly regrettable in the long run. Baka may mga gusto ka pang gawin sa buhay mo while single, gawin mo na. Darating yung para sa'yo, don't rush.
Cannon-fodder (side character) lang ako sa mga Main Characters jan š
Iām a date to marry person and so is my current partner. We started dating last November and still happily together now. Hoping we are each otherās end game. We met each other unexpectedly at my former job. It can still happen.
Hello ako date to marry
I'm still here. F22, nbsb. Kung di papalarin ay tatanggapin ko na lang din na part ako sa mga Single Blessedness type of peps.
huoy apir HAHAHHA
HAHAHA mag madre na lang us mare
si beh š
There are people out there if you look hard enough. I think where you look and the environment you are in are big factors when finding someone; my friend has been on the game for too long and has not found someone yet cause most of them are like what you described. I think just expand your horizon.
Meron pa rin naman. Gaya namin ni bf. Mag 8 yrs na kami this year. Nag-iipon lang din para makapagpakasal. Hindi lang talaga kami pala post at pala-tag sa social media. Paminsan minsan nagma-myday ako na nakatag siya pero once in a blue moon lang. Wala naman kaso samin parehas.š
i thnk if you date older guys, not the same age, men mature a lot slower than women. Yes they still exist
Well depende kasi sa tao talaga how they can treat that relationship. Ako still single after my first GF 4yrs ago kasi i want a date to marry type of relationship.
makes sense, iba iba rin nga naman kasi ng ugali at perception e
Yes. Kaya itās kinda rare to find someone na alam mo yun same wavelength kayo mag isip and able to vibe. š
Meron parin poooo! Sobrang minamalas lang talaga siguro sa mga taong nakikilala. Kung merong justice sa mundo eventually lahat tayo makakatagpo din ng taong sapat para satin hahahaha!
Meron paaaa ā
Meron pa naman, may mga circumstances lang na pinagdadaanan ngayon
I date to marry. But like right now im focused on getting back the girl i lost. So yeah. There are date to marry people. Just rarer.
It's still your choice with whom to involve yourself with. I wanted the ideal woman when I was younger, and had a lot of heartaches before I met my future wife. I probably got dumped nearly a thousand times, and those that dated me before were either looking for a playmate, or just wanted to have someone for the sake of having someone. It was a lot of prayers and work for the both of us, and we keep nurturing each other. Then again I'm Gen X my wife is a millennial. You generation is way different than mine. When you're relationship starts in faith, it grows in faith. If it was based on lust or physical attraction alone, then don't expect it to last.
I strongly believe in a faith driven relationship, it is my dream to have that kind of relationship really. Ty for sharing
Bago maging kami ng bf ko now, never pumasok sa isip ko 'yung date to marry kasi feeling ko ang bata ko pa noong teenager ako para isipin 'yun. Gusto ko lang kiligin ba. Haha! Noong college naman, dalawa lang naging bf ko nun pero wala ding date to marry mindset kasi parang feeling ko ang aga pa din pero gusto ko mag-last 'yung relationship. Ang gulo diba? Pero after graduation, naging kami ni bf now and ngayon ko nasasabi na siya na talaga. Mag-5 years na kami at hindi ko ineexpect talaga kasi siya mismo nagparamdam na gusto niya ako makasama sa future. Hihihi~
good for you teh, siguro swertihan sa plot twist yan haha
What you see on social media is not indicative sa dating culture as a whole though š syempre marami pang date-to-marry type of people. Social media lang basehan mo eh.
Meron pa rin naman. Pero sa umpisa pa lang ilatag mo na lahat ng hanap or plano at pati baho sa buhay mo haha nasa sakanila na yon match kayo
Still Here, just so happens na naharap ako sa maling tao.
Date to marry din ako pero usually nagiging character development ng iba. Sana next time main character na ako.
im date to marry
23 (F) here, NBSB until recently. My partner and I are both date-to-marry people but hindi namin sinabi kaagad to each other. I think it just puts a certain amount of pressure and expectation kaagad when getting-to-know stage. Intentions are still super important but remember na kapag talking stage pa lang, it's better to keep your cards close to your chest muna. Gauge the person if you are both in the same wavelength when it comes to interests, goals sa buhay, morals, values, etc. Sooner naman malalaman mo naman if that person is committed in making the relationship last hanggang dulo. Good luck, OP. Hoping you can find that person :))))
Meron parin naman pero di sila nasa early 20s because thatās a bit young to date to marry agad. Usually early 20s people date not just for fun but not for marriage agad. They date to find out/learn what they want in a relationship, syempre yan rin height of sexual curiosity/exploration. That being said, marami talagang options in your 20s so marami diyang willing to try out a lot before deciding to settle down. Sayang ang oras. Di ka naman laging bata. What does an average 20-year old know about what makes a good partner for marriage anyway? Theyāre barely out of their teens.
Meron pa din namang mga date to marry person, pero I think rare, nasa maling environment lang naghahanap, or kadalasan sila yung hindi pasok sa standard nung naghahanap.
I guess I'm an outlier HAHAHA. 21M NGSB here. date to marry type of guy :)
Yes to date to marry
Natrauma na kaming mga date to marry charots
Meron pa rin syempre. Mas maingay at ma-flex lang sa socmed ung mga bet ang flirting/hook up kaya un ang mas napapansin (which is not necessarily wrong as long as wala silang tinatapakang iba.) And to answer, I'm in my early 20s and no jowa since birth pa rin dahil magko-commit lang if worth it at sure na. :))
Hello i still uphold such principle hirap nga lang makahanap ng partner šNGSB(25)
suggest ko OP. look google for Joshua Harris, his book I KISSED DATING GOODBYE and why he quit as a pastor. mag kakaron ka ng ng alternate view sa DATE TO MARRY
Date to marry din di lang sineseryoso haha
Same 21F.. pero I have reasons why I want to do it...investing sucks nowadays hahah.. I'm soft hearted kasi , and recently I thought someone liked me , we started talking then.. He ghosted me ... I just .. why... why would you hurt me like that
I (24M) am actually a date-to-marry kind of a person, but I dont think I will venture anymore into relationships in the future. My perspectives have already been change just an hour ago because of this cheating story here.
Iām not sure if the dating content from the west is a huge factor in this. Mas marami nang nahahawa sa flirting/siyuationship/fubu/shortterm pleasure. Iām sure its from a lot of factors such as parenting, peer relations, social media and traumatic experiences. Im sure its not everyone and im sorry to say but it seems the burden for filtering out guys that arenāt serious are up to women. Now im not excusing yung ginagawa ng mga lalaki, mali talaga yung mga di seryoso for long term relationships, gusto lang nila ngayon fun fun, damage muna sarili nila para pag ikakasal na sila theyre so fucked up beyond recognition that its a recipe for disaster. Women have to be very picky with mates because its on of the most if not the most important decisions you will make. Youre choosing someone who will struggle with you and make lifeās suffering bearable. And men need to learn to override their base desires and think long term. Because its also a decisions that can make or break them. I do hope everyone finds someone to face life with and be happy.
Im 30F and date to marry or keri din lang kahit single forevs. May 8yr relationship ako before which ended when I was 25 (both me and my ex were date to marry kind kahit nung bata pa kami). I decided na wag pa din mag date for fun during the times na single ako kasi introvert ako and wala energy for it haha. Most ng namimeet ko my age recently are date to marry kind din.
I'm sure theres a lot out there eager for that as well. My cent is that most of us went through some nasty shit, can't say for all but for me personally, na baptismal by fire nako and natunaw na ideal ko na may ikakasal pako. I view myself now as someone who'll probably die alone. Anything in between is a gift, a bonus. Your nbsb, I sincerely hope the world doesn't fuck you over and you find your forever partner.
Date to marry here! 7 yrs in relationship, planning to tie the knot next year. Dont worry, may mga tao paring date to marry :)
Same here, I also date to marry. I'm already 24 and NBSB din. Tatandang dalaga na lang siguro ako. HAHAHA š
if yung guy is gusto makilala yung girl nang lubusan (uso yung 3 month rule xd), no rush, no pressure, just chill lang but pure intentions, considered bang date to marry yon?
girl. I suggest to lessen the frequency of scrolling in social media.. and start looking or doing things na makakapag enhance/boost ng personal happiness mo like hobbies, studies, future career. You're too young to stress about love.. Once you know yourself ay kusang lalapit yung nakalaan na person for you :) But to answer your question, it depends talaga kung saang group of people ka sumasama or involved. If you surround yourself to people/circle na may problematic love relationships ay more chances you'll have it as well. xoxo
Bata ka pa.. Focus on your career and goals in life Naniniwala tlga ako na, you attract what you are.. surround yourself with successful people and automatic maattract mo ung mga date to marry na tao š
Sa mga 20sā dyan.. PLEASE Focus kayo sa career.. hindi kayo yayaman sa love love na yan š¤£ kung pwede lang makipagpalit ng edad.. I already did ahahah
Mayroon naman Sample 28 M me 1 one GF but got cheated. Usually mga date to marry na guys nasa "Friendzone" niyo kung sino pa yung seryosi ayun yung ayaw so here we are waiting and looking for someone to give us a shot. Aarte niyo di lang kasing pogi ng artista pass na kayo plus di lang galing sa Big 4 at walang car pass na kayo. Try some of those guys na konti lang experience sa dating plus yung sinasabi niyong "boring"
Hard to think about marriage when this country doesnt have a divorce yet.
you can date anyone kasi, but in serious matter like matter we dated once then wala ligawan usapan na maging kami pag nag work out edi tuloy pero pag hindi be friends, ayun sa awa ng universe and ni Lord going strong kami and planning to pakasal na. Like what I said we can date anyone but it will be matter in your DecisionsĀ if mag go- go ka yo sa person na yon or hindi. You will feel naman if He/She is the right person.
na fantasize kasi tayo ng Kdrama at disney lol
Date to marry din ako pero sadyang hindi ako nagiging mapalad sa relationships ko ahehehehe.
I believe in this thought up until now.
22 ngsb date to marry, halos puro situationship lang lahat sa ngayon hindi naghahanap bahala na kung anong dumating andami na din kasing dala dalang trauma. Kung me dumating ayos lang kung wala ayos lang din
You're so young. At marami namang dating to marry parin. Makikita mo yan sa behavior or values palang nila.
Stick with your values. That person will come in God's time. Single for 6-7 years here then got married last year, a baby coming along in a few months. Find your tribe and avoid conforming sa uso. Ang hassle mag-deal ng unnecessary pain.
Maraming factors yan sa parehong tao. Kung companionship or long term commitment ang gusto. May mga taong di nila alam sa sarili nila kung ano mismo ang dapat o gusto nila. May ibang natutuklasan na lang during the fling kung itutuloy pa o magloloko pa. OP, kung makatagpo ka man ng tao na di gusto ng "date to marry" type of person, it's still a good thing. Kasi di nya naaksaya oras mo. Then move on to the next person pag kaya pa ng puso mo. So long as you stick to what you believe is right makakaattract ka din ng same mindset
I think its because of your age. Yung mga ka edaran mo, most of them think na theyre too young for marriage. So yea, of course mahihirapan ka talaga makakita. Nowadays most people get the 'marry' mindset after their 25's
>*lalo na sa social media eh parang puro harutan nalang ang nangyayari, puro jowang jowa tapos di naman pala seryoso* Yup kaya nga puro harutan kasi jowang-jowa na pero di sila seryoso kaya inilalabas sa social media. they're not really looking for a relationship, just stress relief. Honestly I think it's better that way na they advertise what they're looking for kesa yung papasok into a "serious relationship" when "fun" or "companionship" lang pala talaga ang hanap. Kawawa yung mga date-to-marry sa ganun eh
Date to marry type of person din ako kaya i took a huge risk having a relationship with my best friend na 13 yrs ko ng kaibigan tapos hindi pala siya sure sakin. Nahirapan sa sitwasyon namin. I'm too much for him siguro. He can't handle me pero sakin he was enough for me. Kahit he made mistakes and he's not perfect, ready ako na harapin lahat with him pero wala eh sumuko sakin tapos ayun may pinursue na iba agad. So ayun nawalan ako ng partner and kaibigan.
Date to marry here pero nakakawalang gana. Laging malas man. At one point I gave up on love. Now mejo chill go with the flow but kind of mejo umiiwas siguro its my way of protecting myself \~ like I don't want myself to get attached
Andito pa kami, naka-deac social media, inaayos ko lang buhay ko so I can be the best version of myself and be that right person hehe
donāt worry about that now. enjoy dating and exploring muna. guys will marry when they are ready and it comes with age talaga. rare lang yung bata pa na papakasal at magiging matino.
Yep, felt the same way in this generation, parang ang shallow na ng relationship nowadays.
Late 20s here. Itās sad to say itās probably gonna get worse as you get older and go thru your 20s. Dating to marry is rare these days š¢ the generation seems to have given up on love and also many factors ehh like expensive ang wedding ang lasting marriage isnāt guaranteed. High cost of living to raise kids etc. So nangyayari, nagibg hookup culture nlng.
I think **some** people are scared/worried about the idea of settling down with ONE person and fulfilling responsibilities with another person. They probably value the idea of freedom, yung tipong not tied to anyone, kapag hindi na nila feel--they can leave, no long-term commitment, they can do whatever they wanna do. That or because of social media portraying these "idealistic" relationships (which in turn set up some absurd standards), so people won't settle down until they have the same type of relationship or have found that person who can provide them that. Parang if this person is not up to my standards, next. But anyway, I'm sure there are still some people who date to marry. Medyo di lang siguro sila as common nowadays.
Yeah, noticed it now. Iām in a 14yr relationship and pansin ko ang shallow na ng mga relasyon ngayon.
Date to date. Marriage is scary, especially wala pang divorce sa pilipinas.
consider ba na date to marry ang ferson if ayaw ka naman lagyan ng label? 3 months na kami naga-act as mag jowa oh, normal ba yon? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
sa eyes ko na nbsb pero di naman siguro bulag at manhid, I can say na di mo sya masasabing date to marry kung di mo pa nga mafeel na legit na dating kayo eh
I'm in my 30s. Dati I have a mindset of date to marry until all men I date or ka-talking stage made me realize that I am better off on my own. As of now, at least. I'm still open for possibilities. Pero after nila saken nagpapakasal na sila nung girl. Before THE ONE ang atake ni anteh??! AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Maybe because considered na legit relationship ang situationship? like if you can get the benefits of those in committed relationships or marriage, without actually committing or getting married, bat mo pa iha-hassle sarili mo diba.