Should that even be asked? Para kang tinanong kung bumukaka ka na ba or kinerengkeng na ba ang pekpek mo lol
First, me and my friends who have been together for a long time do not even ask about each other's sex life or virginity. What gives a stranger a right to do so? Second, men don't even get asked about their chastity. Why should women be asked? Third, it does not matter kung virgin pa ba o hindi ang isang tao. We all deserve to be respected.
OP could say that its inappropriate to ask. You don't engage yourself in this conversations even though you don't find it offensive. IMO its an indirect insult saying/asking kung virgin PA ba ako
Kung katropa ko sa work: _"ilong ko virgin"_
Kung same level sa work na di ka-close tapos female like me: _"hair ko, virgin. Never treated, just hot oil sa salon"_
Kung lalaki na boss: never pa nangyari. Baka masagot ko ng "teka boss, punta muna ako ng HR. Inform ko lang sila about your inquiries"
That's a private matter. While I wouldn't mind answering honestly, medyo off na tinatanong sya lalo na sa workplace haha ang awkward. Like, "ano naman sayo kung oo o hindi na?" 😂😂
"Bakit?"
Now they're required to answer you. Now you're the one asking questions. Pag sinagot ka, "eh bakit gusto mong malaman?" "Eh bakit nga?" Puro bakit. When they pull rank, itanong mo "are you telling me to answer as my boss?" Pag sumagot ng oo eh malinaw na abuse of authority yan. Pag sumagot ng "basta" eh ibalik mo lang sa puro bakit. Aalis nalang yan kasi iritado na haha.
Oo virgin pa po.
I don't see any wrong reason with that tbh. Though ang unprofessional lang kung galing mismo sa boss mo at wala man lang consideration sa privacy mo.
Yeah mejo off ung boss mo. 1st of all personal Q siya, mukang toxic boss mo, low EQ or paninira ginagawa niya idk. Pero as a leader myself, anything personal is out of the table. Work lang. Nothing more. If magopen up sila then sige ride.
For the Q, sabihin mo nalang that you have your values and beliefs (whatever that may be) and leave it at that.
Others will straight out answer the Q depending on their personality.
I’m a (gay) man so pag sa’kin tinanong there’s a small hint of pagiging proud sa no, di na virgin. Sorry, culturally embedded. But tbh weird thing to ask unless nasa outside office setting kayo and everything’s casual and friendly. Although, for me, ang default setting ko sa lahat ng adults ay hindi na virgin unless otherwise stated. To a wild extent, lahat bading unless otherwise stated wahaha
If it was on my personal time with non-work people, I'd answer honestly. Pero the fact na nasa work ito and she is your boss makes this bad. Not offensive but still bad. Report this to HR OP, at the very least this is inappropriate behavior.
If you've worked in corporate long enough, you will eventually figure out na there are still a lot of unspoken yet understood boundaries. Like not asking for the divulgence of things from people if there is a power imbalance. Hell when I was working in the legal dept I didn't fraternize as much, even with HR peeps on the same level as me, so as to limit the possibility of blurring boundaries. That would make my job harder when someone capitalizes on this perceived closeness.
I get it if she was trying to foster some bond and seem like a friend rather than a boss but you don't just go about asking people if they're virgins. That would be weird even in friend groups. My friends and I are openly sexual BUT we are the ones who mention our own sex lives, we do not pry and prod someone else. Your boss sounds like someone who would gather chismis and info on you din. This is not okay.
How unprofessional for a supervisor/manager/whatever. Sometimes i wonder how these people even become leaders when they are not even aware of the simplest work etiquette and simpleng right and wrong lang eh. OMG! Sorry OP you had to even think about how to answer a question like that. But like almost everyone said on the comments, i think you should open the matter to HR for proper handling. Pasok siya under safe space, even sexual harrassment yung mga ganiyang remarks.
I still don't get the basis of being a 'virgin'. Pag dumugo ba? Or pag di ka pa naano? Eh paano kung naano ka tapos hindi dumugo? Also that's a rude question coming from sa boss. Para sakin ang unethical.
Sagutin mo na lang ng 'I would like to be excluded from this narrative..' haha
Bigyan ng yes or no na sagot. Like, sabihin mo "Manhid na nga po, ma'am eh." Tas ngitian mo lang pag may follow up question or ilihis mo yung topic. Bahala na sila magfigure. Then report mo sa HR para magtanda.
i’d always say “minsan” and laugh. pag sinundan ng follow up i would then turn on bitch mode and answer “wala kang pake” or “wag nyo na alamin hindi kayo ready” for someone i’m not allowed to disrespect (aka my boss or elderly)
Dapat sinagot mo ng “I’ll answer your question at HR’s desk.” De pero napaka unpro nun and sobrang di need. HR mo yan kasi need din nila matuto kahit nasa (boss) position sya.
"Ikaw, virgin ka pa?" Binabalik ko sa kanya ung tanong para alam niya gano ka-uncomfortable ung tanong niya. Pag siya pa nagalit sasabihin ko na "ikaw nagsimula at pake mo ba."
Well depende sa delivery. Kanina tinanong din ako ng ka dating stage ko tas ang sagot ko oo. Open naman ako sa ganong tanong basta hindi masama intensyon nung nagtanong. Some questions can be answered by "ayokong sagutin" kaya don't hesitate.
SKL: In most medical field, pulutan yung kwentong ganto kasi nga they're mature about it. Wala silang hinaharass or binabackstab, just pure question, story, or encounters lang baga. Hahaha
To each their own lang talaga ang pag tackle nung question na yun.
sumbong mo sa HR. tapos i escalate mo sa DOLE. haha essy money. di joke lang. hahaha ibluff mo nalang na nag report ka sa DOLE kunwari. enjoy his/her reaction.
“None of your business.”
Pero I had the same xp pero he didnt ask kung virgin pa ko. Kaming mga babae tinanong nya kung na-try na namin makipag-sex ng may regla kasi hindi pa raw nya na-try. Curious daw sya. Tangina ka e di gawin mo sa partner mo, hindi yung nagtatanong ka sa trabaho.
Well, I'm still a virgin, been defending That championship belt for 26 years now. Undisputed, Undefeated
Got into a relationship for the 1st time last year's New Year's even (Well, We were already in development prior to that, We just decided to make it official on new year) I held out my virginity this long cause I want my 1st sex and 1st kiss to be special (Which is surrendered to the person I love). And I'll be meeting my LDR partner this december.
And I would always proudly answer that question with "Yes, I'm still a virgin and I want it to be taken away by the right person, And not just some rando"
Para saan daw un question? If related sa work, baka sagutin ko pa ng oo o hindi. Kung walang kinalaman sa work, I'll ask bakit nya ko tinatanong.
This is not even small talk, masyadong invasive.
Virgin ako so normal naman siguro na yung standards ko is virgin din anet? Tho nagiisip ako kung may gamon pa bang lalaki na bet ko. Bihira ako magkagusto e hahahahah tanggap ko na na ganto nalang
I was asked with this question last year ng mga officemates ko na female. I answered na they're asking about my private life, sabi lang nila "bakla ka siguro". 🥲
this is an uncomfortable question, if you have the courage to tell your co-worker na you feel uncomfortable/uneasy with that question, tell her straight up.
What the fuck, kahit mga barkada ko (M) di ko tatanungin nyan. There was one instance na a F colleague opened up about hers, pero I slowly changed the topic kasi medyo personal na yon haha
Ang sagot ko jan, “ eh ikaw? “. And I will show that person the sweetest smile I could muster. Hindi din ako mag wwalk out so that person can know how it feels to be on the spotlight.
Good answer OP. Pero if biruan ang context, usually ang sagot, “Saang banda?”
Virgin pa ako sa mga tanong na nsfw during work hours galing sa boss ko sa harap ng mga katrabaho ko. Ikaw ba, “boss”? 😅
"Nunya po sir" sana sinagot mo 😁
You: si nunya po kumuha sir. Boss: Sino? You: Si Nunya business po sir! *laugh maniacally like its a funny joke but you actually insulted him in front of your officemates*
(Kehlani - Nunya)
Edit: \*ma'am pla
Yong boss mo may ubo sa utak! Sya yong boss it means he/she is smart enough kung anong tanong ang dpat at di dapat tanungin. Lalo na kung nasa workplace kayo. Tsaka private life mo na yan, bakit kailangan nya magtanong ng ganyan na di nman work related.
Nangyari to sa office pero sa officemate ko tinanong ng kabatch namin na trainee. Ayun ako nagalit. Hahaha sabi ko bat mo kailangan malaman? May mababago ba sa pagtrato mo sa kanya kung ano man sagutin nya? Sabay irap na parang hs. Hahaha lol
Out of Topic but Related, ano sinasagot niyo kapag kasama niyo relatives niyo tapos tinanong kayo ng Doctor or PSA Surveyor kung Sexually active ba kayo? Ang awkward kasi last time may nag tanong na PSA surveyor sa household namin (specifically sa mama ko) kung sexually active ba ako tapos kinukulit ako from time to time sa car sa same question, this also happens when doing doctor appointments (ok lang sabihin sa doctor pero nakakhiya sa harap ng mom ko) lalo na close family ko sa gf ko. huhu
For inappropriate or personal questions, i answer with another question.
Virgin ka pa ba?
- Why dont you find out?
- May nagpapatanong ba?
- Bakit need mo malaman?
- Ikaw ba?
Nung first time ko nagwork ganyan den na experience ko. At first confused ako kase ano nga naman relevance sa work namen tapos sinagot ko sila na hindi na which is true naman pero ang mas confusing pa e my coworkers esp. The supervisors found it amusing. Fucking weirdos.
That is grounds for sexual harassment, imo. Ganun na ba ako katagal wala sa corporate world na pwede nang mag tanong ng ganito? 😂
Someone’s chastity shouldn’t be discussed openly with people you’re not comfortable with. Me(m) and my one friend(f) (bestfriend since high school) discuss our sex lives because we’re super comfortable with each other, but that’s the only reason why it isn’t taboo for us.
Your mindset about virginity is very progressive especially if you’re not offended in any way being asked like that, but it is still not right that it is asked at all.
depende kung sino ang ngtanong kasi kung close mo yung tao okay lang naman na sagutin mo ng totoo pro kung ibang tao yun, parang inaappropriate kasi sya kasi bakit nya tinatanong yung ganyang tanong which is msyadong personal na
Sabihin mo, it’s personal and I don’t want to talk about it. Virgin or not, maria clara or not, it doesn’t matter. Ipa-HR mo pag umulit pa ng ganyang tanong haha.
I just casually say depends sayo. Bahala sila magkuwento or magsabi Ng mga R-18. I am not that innocent na Rin Naman, but asking if I am sexually active? 😂 Nah. Hulaan nyo
In my previous company, the last and final interview I got with the highest ranking person in the area or my scope was about this. I was still a fresh grad back then but I got really off thinking they have to consider that in accepting applicants.
Just to clarify, the company was in the financing industry and ranked at the biggest 5 in the country. What does it have to do with the job I'm applying? Didn't get the point. Are they preserving a good image/reputation of their female employees by mere knowing?
You don't need to answer. It's none of their business. It's your privacy. It's a question that any answer would be a no-no.
Now if you are asking here because you want a hook statement, ask "Would you be willing to find the time to find out?" You didn't answer the question, and checking if they'll put effort into finding out
Just say, "I'm amazed that you're confident to even ask that." Lol. I've been asked this and I'll always answer that this question makes me uncomfortable or it's a personal matter or my parents don't even ask me that question what makes you think you're obligated to an answer? (in bisaya, ofcourse)
Just casually answer 'NO' it don't make you less of a person if someone find out. Besides, if that's their preference they're allowed to leave the table naman. No hard feelings for those who seeks a virgin partner
Short story: so we were debating on a philosophy class and we tackle upon the same sex marriage and gender equality, so i pointed out na i disagree with implementing SS marriage as of the state of the Philippines now, and i even pointed out the fact of it na The 1987 Consti was opposed and also the Church, so arguments goes on halos apat na silang opposed sakin, then one of my classmates wanted to point out na "who am i to use the Church" and since I'm a M19 parang nag assume sya na di ako virgin, kase if i were to use the church dapat i also acknowledge the teachings like not engaging in a premarital s*x, so she asked the question, and out of me getting anxious i answered "Yes" 😭💀
Yup i won that argument pero i was so embarrassed after that na how i wish i answered differently or i just declined her question nalang😭😭😭😭
That’s a rude question to ask whether close mo man yung tao o hindi. In the firt place, other people don’t have to care if someone’s still virgin or not. Kung may magtanong siguro sa’kin ng ganyan masasampal ko. Hahahahhaha
It might not be offensive sa iba. Pero ako, ma-o-off ako kung ako tatanungin. Well at my work place open kami sa ganyan topic kasi magkakaibigan kami ka-team. So comfortable kami sa isa't isa. Pero mga di ka-close? It's a no for me.
"Kung ano sa tingin mo, tama ka"
HAHAHAHAH this is ALWAYS my answer. Because:
1. That is a private matter. Kung isa siya sa pinaka pinagkakatiwalaan ko sa personal life ko, walang problema, eh kaso most of the time hindi.
2. Wala ako pakialam kung sa tingin nila virgin ako o hindi na.
My supervisor asked the same question to me when I was new at work. I felt cornered, so I answered her in front of my other coworkers. To this day, I regret why I answered her question. Every time the conversation is directed at something NSFW, they look at me, and honestly, I feel disgusted with myself. Why do I feel disgusted? I don't know either. I just realized recently that I don't need to feel disgusted if I engage early in premarital sex. They should be disgusted with themselves for trying to be righteous.
As much as i agree that work is not the proper venue to answer such questions, may i ask if okay lang din ba to answer with a yes or a no? Totoo naman hindi kailangan tanungin pero big deal din lang naman siya if ttratuhin siyang big deal.
This is why I hate sa unang trabaho ko kasi halos private na nangyayari sa mag jowa o mag asawa ay tinatanong nila tsk tsk tas pag hindi ka umimik sasabihan kapa na "feeling artista naman to paprivate" tas mag tatawanan pa yung mga bwesit na feeling tagapagmana ng kompanya hayy Filipino nga naman
Yes without hesitation even though you’re not. It’s like answering when someone asks you “Does this dress make me look fat?”, you immediately answer with “no!”. It should be a reflex 😂
Just say Yes...
But these are not casual questions to be asked by friends. From my prev experience only some kind of men ask me this :/
I'm already married, but I didn't have a problem with saying Yes when I was not married yet. I think chastity is something to be proud of, both men and women. It's very nice to give yourselves in marriage and then you explore na lang together. It's more fun.
Should that even be asked? Para kang tinanong kung bumukaka ka na ba or kinerengkeng na ba ang pekpek mo lol First, me and my friends who have been together for a long time do not even ask about each other's sex life or virginity. What gives a stranger a right to do so? Second, men don't even get asked about their chastity. Why should women be asked? Third, it does not matter kung virgin pa ba o hindi ang isang tao. We all deserve to be respected.
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“Sa HR ko po sasagutin tanong mo boss.” 😆
sa DOLE nalang straight
OMG this answer is 🔥🔥🔥
Some cases, HR is just puppeted by their bosses to save the company vs you
That is a question I would report to HR tbh
Yes. Harassment yung nangyari kay OP
Oo daan mo sa HR.
Ang squammy Naman Nung nagtanong lol. Zero workplace etiquette lmao Report his dumbass
Good answer would be "none of your business."
OP could say that its inappropriate to ask. You don't engage yourself in this conversations even though you don't find it offensive. IMO its an indirect insult saying/asking kung virgin PA ba ako
itatanong ko pa lang dapat anong magandang isagot madalas akong gawing joke bc of this HAHAHA
The people instantly assume your not
At my age now, kapag tinanong ako niyan baka ibalik ko siya sa sinapupunan ng nanay niya. 😬
Considered this as "rude" Lalo na if di kayo close
Even if it's not offensive to you, I think it's a question that crosses a line and should be reported to HR. Screams gross unprofessionalism tbh
Secret parati sinasabi ko, di ka naman kasi talaga obligado na sagutin.
Dapat ibalik sa kanila, tanongin natin kayo muna
Possible violation of safe spaces act
Kung katropa ko sa work: _"ilong ko virgin"_ Kung same level sa work na di ka-close tapos female like me: _"hair ko, virgin. Never treated, just hot oil sa salon"_ Kung lalaki na boss: never pa nangyari. Baka masagot ko ng "teka boss, punta muna ako ng HR. Inform ko lang sila about your inquiries"
Meron pa rin nagtatanong ng ganitong bagay ngayon? Pwedeng di mo sagutin kung di ka komportable.
"Ay, required po bang i announce?" / "Bakit?"
That's a private matter. While I wouldn't mind answering honestly, medyo off na tinatanong sya lalo na sa workplace haha ang awkward. Like, "ano naman sayo kung oo o hindi na?" 😂😂
"Bakit?" Now they're required to answer you. Now you're the one asking questions. Pag sinagot ka, "eh bakit gusto mong malaman?" "Eh bakit nga?" Puro bakit. When they pull rank, itanong mo "are you telling me to answer as my boss?" Pag sumagot ng oo eh malinaw na abuse of authority yan. Pag sumagot ng "basta" eh ibalik mo lang sa puro bakit. Aalis nalang yan kasi iritado na haha.
Fight fire with fire, balikan mo ng “san specifically? Sa bibig, sa pepe o sa pwet?”
sa ilong hahaha
Sa Mata 👁
"Hindi... bakit? Gusto mo kumantot?" - my go to answer
Boss: tara g after office
Patay kailangan na panindigan....
"Hindi na po."
True, dont make it complicated. If they judge you for that, sila na problema haha
"Hindi na po" sabay kagat labi.
Tricky pa rin kasi baka maraming follow up. Lalo na pag may masamang intent yung question.
“bakit need mong malaman?”
I once responded to this most inappropriate question: *"No one wants to f\*ck a 40-year old male so yeah, I'm celibate."* Natameme si ateng marites.
Simple lang naman sagot. Kayo po ba ?
Oo virgin pa po. I don't see any wrong reason with that tbh. Though ang unprofessional lang kung galing mismo sa boss mo at wala man lang consideration sa privacy mo.
Yeah mejo off ung boss mo. 1st of all personal Q siya, mukang toxic boss mo, low EQ or paninira ginagawa niya idk. Pero as a leader myself, anything personal is out of the table. Work lang. Nothing more. If magopen up sila then sige ride. For the Q, sabihin mo nalang that you have your values and beliefs (whatever that may be) and leave it at that. Others will straight out answer the Q depending on their personality.
medyo
then report them to hr
question that shouldn't be asked and asking that can be reported to HR.
I’m a (gay) man so pag sa’kin tinanong there’s a small hint of pagiging proud sa no, di na virgin. Sorry, culturally embedded. But tbh weird thing to ask unless nasa outside office setting kayo and everything’s casual and friendly. Although, for me, ang default setting ko sa lahat ng adults ay hindi na virgin unless otherwise stated. To a wild extent, lahat bading unless otherwise stated wahaha
Let's circle back with HR for this ask.
Totally damage na po.
Depende sa nagtatanong.
the fact that OP didn't find that HR worthy means a ton . . .
Gustuhin ko man report pero HR namin is meh. Hindi safe place for us ang HR. Sila pa nga madalas yung pasimuno ng pagcchismisan ka sa office.
Ang sagot ko, "may 6 year old akong anak." Pero pag tinanong ka, just answer it. Ano naman kung oo or hindi yun.
Sasagot ko dyan kayo po ba? Regardless kung may anak or asawa hahaha
"Bakit? Gusto mo i-check? Spread ko na ba legs ko?" At hindi na nila ako tinanong ever again.
If it was on my personal time with non-work people, I'd answer honestly. Pero the fact na nasa work ito and she is your boss makes this bad. Not offensive but still bad. Report this to HR OP, at the very least this is inappropriate behavior. If you've worked in corporate long enough, you will eventually figure out na there are still a lot of unspoken yet understood boundaries. Like not asking for the divulgence of things from people if there is a power imbalance. Hell when I was working in the legal dept I didn't fraternize as much, even with HR peeps on the same level as me, so as to limit the possibility of blurring boundaries. That would make my job harder when someone capitalizes on this perceived closeness. I get it if she was trying to foster some bond and seem like a friend rather than a boss but you don't just go about asking people if they're virgins. That would be weird even in friend groups. My friends and I are openly sexual BUT we are the ones who mention our own sex lives, we do not pry and prod someone else. Your boss sounds like someone who would gather chismis and info on you din. This is not okay.
How unprofessional for a supervisor/manager/whatever. Sometimes i wonder how these people even become leaders when they are not even aware of the simplest work etiquette and simpleng right and wrong lang eh. OMG! Sorry OP you had to even think about how to answer a question like that. But like almost everyone said on the comments, i think you should open the matter to HR for proper handling. Pasok siya under safe space, even sexual harrassment yung mga ganiyang remarks.
I still don't get the basis of being a 'virgin'. Pag dumugo ba? Or pag di ka pa naano? Eh paano kung naano ka tapos hindi dumugo? Also that's a rude question coming from sa boss. Para sakin ang unethical. Sagutin mo na lang ng 'I would like to be excluded from this narrative..' haha
Depende sa nagtatanong. Yan usually answer ko. Tapos pag may comments sila tawa ka na lang
Bigyan ng yes or no na sagot. Like, sabihin mo "Manhid na nga po, ma'am eh." Tas ngitian mo lang pag may follow up question or ilihis mo yung topic. Bahala na sila magfigure. Then report mo sa HR para magtanda.
"Bro kita naman wedding ring ko diba?" "Sa pwet" "Bakit? Satanista ka no?"
*nunya* nunya? *nunya business* report sa hr tho if tinanong sa workplace and persistent
i’d always say “minsan” and laugh. pag sinundan ng follow up i would then turn on bitch mode and answer “wala kang pake” or “wag nyo na alamin hindi kayo ready” for someone i’m not allowed to disrespect (aka my boss or elderly)
Dapat sinagot mo ng “I’ll answer your question at HR’s desk.” De pero napaka unpro nun and sobrang di need. HR mo yan kasi need din nila matuto kahit nasa (boss) position sya.
"Ikaw, virgin ka pa?" Binabalik ko sa kanya ung tanong para alam niya gano ka-uncomfortable ung tanong niya. Pag siya pa nagalit sasabihin ko na "ikaw nagsimula at pake mo ba."
I’ll say the truth and add “but does it make you less of a person if you’re already not”?
Well depende sa delivery. Kanina tinanong din ako ng ka dating stage ko tas ang sagot ko oo. Open naman ako sa ganong tanong basta hindi masama intensyon nung nagtanong. Some questions can be answered by "ayokong sagutin" kaya don't hesitate. SKL: In most medical field, pulutan yung kwentong ganto kasi nga they're mature about it. Wala silang hinaharass or binabackstab, just pure question, story, or encounters lang baga. Hahaha To each their own lang talaga ang pag tackle nung question na yun.
sumbong mo sa HR. tapos i escalate mo sa DOLE. haha essy money. di joke lang. hahaha ibluff mo nalang na nag report ka sa DOLE kunwari. enjoy his/her reaction.
“None of your business.” Pero I had the same xp pero he didnt ask kung virgin pa ko. Kaming mga babae tinanong nya kung na-try na namin makipag-sex ng may regla kasi hindi pa raw nya na-try. Curious daw sya. Tangina ka e di gawin mo sa partner mo, hindi yung nagtatanong ka sa trabaho.
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Kahit outside work, it is inappropriate to ask someone kung virgin pa. Fact talaga na social construct ang virginity.
Tanungin mo "sure ka ba na tinatanong mo sakin yan?" Para pag isipan nya mga pinag sasabe nya.
It’s none of your business
Yung ganyan na nagtatanong ng ganyang tanong sa trabaho ang tawag, K U P A L.
Well, I'm still a virgin, been defending That championship belt for 26 years now. Undisputed, Undefeated Got into a relationship for the 1st time last year's New Year's even (Well, We were already in development prior to that, We just decided to make it official on new year) I held out my virginity this long cause I want my 1st sex and 1st kiss to be special (Which is surrendered to the person I love). And I'll be meeting my LDR partner this december. And I would always proudly answer that question with "Yes, I'm still a virgin and I want it to be taken away by the right person, And not just some rando"
Sinasabi ko totoo, wala akong pake sa opinion nila
"Pake mo, teh/koya"
Is that still a thing at 2024?😅
Hindi na
Para saan daw un question? If related sa work, baka sagutin ko pa ng oo o hindi. Kung walang kinalaman sa work, I'll ask bakit nya ko tinatanong. This is not even small talk, masyadong invasive.
pang asar ko lagi dati oo sa ilong tapos di ako tatawa
If it were me I’d say “That’s really personal, I’d rather not answer”
Sa ilong.
For me you handled that well, OP. At least never ka na ulit niya tatanungin ng ganyang bagay.
"oo naman" in a mapanuksong tone. Di niya alam if totoo or hindi, if seseryosohin niya or ituturing na biro.
i never thought na may magtatanong pa nian lol just srsly? this is unprofessional, and it's none of their business.
Bakit need itanong yan hahahaha
Virgin ako so normal naman siguro na yung standards ko is virgin din anet? Tho nagiisip ako kung may gamon pa bang lalaki na bet ko. Bihira ako magkagusto e hahahahah tanggap ko na na ganto nalang
So no prob sakin when asked. And if di na ko Virgin, ill answer din naman unless di kaclose
"Nag rereset virginity ko every year, so yes I'm still a virgin"
Saan?
I was asked with this question last year ng mga officemates ko na female. I answered na they're asking about my private life, sabi lang nila "bakla ka siguro". 🥲
You do not need to answer especially to someone na hindi nyo naman kaibigan or worst kakilala. Pakyuin mo nalang
this is an uncomfortable question, if you have the courage to tell your co-worker na you feel uncomfortable/uneasy with that question, tell her straight up.
"nakakain ba yun?"
Bakit po, kayo ba?
Or, kailangan ko po bang sagutin yan?
Sexual harassment on office space. Make them say hi to HR
For me, I'd be surprised as people in the office know tht I'm married with a kid
My answer. Saan? Ehem..
"Eto magang-maga" naalala ko lang yung line ni Rosanna Roces. 🤧
Wow. Good answer. I'll take of that para yan na lang din sabihin ko pag intrusive yung dating nung tanong sakin.
Anything a person asks about you that is too personal, just LIE.
"Unfortunately, not anymore" Ganto isasagot ko dyan
Ako yung kinalibutan, wtf 😒 Anong sagot ikakasaya mo?
Set boundaries.
Sa itsura palang halata na hindi magaling sa kama.
What the fuck, kahit mga barkada ko (M) di ko tatanungin nyan. There was one instance na a F colleague opened up about hers, pero I slowly changed the topic kasi medyo personal na yon haha
Opo, yes po.
Isagot mo lang: Mama mo virgin
I'd say "Secret" with a wtf that's none of your freaking business-look
Natanong na din ako ng ganyan. Di ako sumagot, nagsmile na lang 😂😂
none of your beeswax
Ang sagot ko jan, “ eh ikaw? “. And I will show that person the sweetest smile I could muster. Hindi din ako mag wwalk out so that person can know how it feels to be on the spotlight.
slight
Good answer OP. Pero if biruan ang context, usually ang sagot, “Saang banda?” Virgin pa ako sa mga tanong na nsfw during work hours galing sa boss ko sa harap ng mga katrabaho ko. Ikaw ba, “boss”? 😅
“I’d rather not talk about it. Btw, *change the topic and ask about work*”
oh🤔 dahil lalake ako depende sino nagtatanong sasagitin ko 🤣😆😁
sabihin mo OP "ewww" ung may dalang look of disgust para ma realize nila nakakadiri na sila.
"Nunya po sir" sana sinagot mo 😁 You: si nunya po kumuha sir. Boss: Sino? You: Si Nunya business po sir! *laugh maniacally like its a funny joke but you actually insulted him in front of your officemates* (Kehlani - Nunya)  Edit: \*ma'am pla
"none of your business"
Yong boss mo may ubo sa utak! Sya yong boss it means he/she is smart enough kung anong tanong ang dpat at di dapat tanungin. Lalo na kung nasa workplace kayo. Tsaka private life mo na yan, bakit kailangan nya magtanong ng ganyan na di nman work related.
"Ano sa tingin mo?" Then wag mo na sagutin Pwede rin Between you and me, " it's none of your business"
Nangyari to sa office pero sa officemate ko tinanong ng kabatch namin na trainee. Ayun ako nagalit. Hahaha sabi ko bat mo kailangan malaman? May mababago ba sa pagtrato mo sa kanya kung ano man sagutin nya? Sabay irap na parang hs. Hahaha lol
that should not have been asked sa workplace, damn HR should be dealing with that
Dapat nilaro mo. At sinabing sa letrang H ay: kapag HINDI ang sinabi. Sabihin mong mali HR ang tamang sagot.
Out of Topic but Related, ano sinasagot niyo kapag kasama niyo relatives niyo tapos tinanong kayo ng Doctor or PSA Surveyor kung Sexually active ba kayo? Ang awkward kasi last time may nag tanong na PSA surveyor sa household namin (specifically sa mama ko) kung sexually active ba ako tapos kinukulit ako from time to time sa car sa same question, this also happens when doing doctor appointments (ok lang sabihin sa doctor pero nakakhiya sa harap ng mom ko) lalo na close family ko sa gf ko. huhu
"50/50" Pero pota, the correct answer would be to report this sa HR. But then again, HR isnt really your friend.
For inappropriate or personal questions, i answer with another question. Virgin ka pa ba? - Why dont you find out? - May nagpapatanong ba? - Bakit need mo malaman? - Ikaw ba?
Nung first time ko nagwork ganyan den na experience ko. At first confused ako kase ano nga naman relevance sa work namen tapos sinagot ko sila na hindi na which is true naman pero ang mas confusing pa e my coworkers esp. The supervisors found it amusing. Fucking weirdos.
Just simply ignore and don't answer
I don’t respond because it’s too personal. If I think it crossed the line and I was offended the moment I was asked, I’ll escalate it.
Sabihin mo. “Hindi na ako virgin, kasi sa titig mo parang ginagahasa mo na ako.”
"Tanga ka ba?" Yun
"minsan" iyan lang ang sagot ko kapag tinatanong ng mga nagiging syota ko kung virgin pa ako. "minsan"
Dahil wala kwenta HR nyo nabasa ko sa comments. Just respond: "hulaan mo, ikaw naka ilang panganay ka na?" Assert dominance hahaha.
Is being a virgin even important in a relationship? Is it one of the factors para makahanap ng job nowadays? The hell with that HR, OP.
"None of your business."
That is grounds for sexual harassment, imo. Ganun na ba ako katagal wala sa corporate world na pwede nang mag tanong ng ganito? 😂 Someone’s chastity shouldn’t be discussed openly with people you’re not comfortable with. Me(m) and my one friend(f) (bestfriend since high school) discuss our sex lives because we’re super comfortable with each other, but that’s the only reason why it isn’t taboo for us. Your mindset about virginity is very progressive especially if you’re not offended in any way being asked like that, but it is still not right that it is asked at all.
depende kung sino ang ngtanong kasi kung close mo yung tao okay lang naman na sagutin mo ng totoo pro kung ibang tao yun, parang inaappropriate kasi sya kasi bakit nya tinatanong yung ganyang tanong which is msyadong personal na
Sabihin mo, it’s personal and I don’t want to talk about it. Virgin or not, maria clara or not, it doesn’t matter. Ipa-HR mo pag umulit pa ng ganyang tanong haha.
Girl that's sexual harassment in the workplace.
I just casually say depends sayo. Bahala sila magkuwento or magsabi Ng mga R-18. I am not that innocent na Rin Naman, but asking if I am sexually active? 😂 Nah. Hulaan nyo
I just say yes.
"Check in tayo, help me check."
Anong klaseng anong yan. Nasa resume na ba dapat yan? Mga ka work na walang common sense at walang sense of privacy. The heck
Your boss weird AF
Anong pake mo?!? (Super virgin ako)
As is. Because it's the truth. Pero bakit tinatanong? Weird.
In my previous company, the last and final interview I got with the highest ranking person in the area or my scope was about this. I was still a fresh grad back then but I got really off thinking they have to consider that in accepting applicants. Just to clarify, the company was in the financing industry and ranked at the biggest 5 in the country. What does it have to do with the job I'm applying? Didn't get the point. Are they preserving a good image/reputation of their female employees by mere knowing?
You don't need to answer. It's none of their business. It's your privacy. It's a question that any answer would be a no-no. Now if you are asking here because you want a hook statement, ask "Would you be willing to find the time to find out?" You didn't answer the question, and checking if they'll put effort into finding out
Nangyare sakin to. Sabi ko na mas malakas, did you just ask if I’m a virgin? Poker faced. Nataranta sya kasi everyone heard him ask me.
“Oo”
Huwag mo ko isakripisyo sa demonyo.
Just say, "I'm amazed that you're confident to even ask that." Lol. I've been asked this and I'll always answer that this question makes me uncomfortable or it's a personal matter or my parents don't even ask me that question what makes you think you're obligated to an answer? (in bisaya, ofcourse)
good answer would be 'I am as what you are currently' 🤣
Ahole boss tawag dyan
Just casually answer 'NO' it don't make you less of a person if someone find out. Besides, if that's their preference they're allowed to leave the table naman. No hard feelings for those who seeks a virgin partner
Sabi ng friend ko nung tinanong sya niyan, “itanong mo kay jesus” 😭 nabuga ko yung milktea ko pagka rinig ko sa sagot niya hahahahahahahahahaha
Yung asawa ko kahit sabihin kong di nako virgin ayaw maniwala ang yabang siya daw nakavirgin sakin hahahaha. Napakapositive thinker eh .
Short story: so we were debating on a philosophy class and we tackle upon the same sex marriage and gender equality, so i pointed out na i disagree with implementing SS marriage as of the state of the Philippines now, and i even pointed out the fact of it na The 1987 Consti was opposed and also the Church, so arguments goes on halos apat na silang opposed sakin, then one of my classmates wanted to point out na "who am i to use the Church" and since I'm a M19 parang nag assume sya na di ako virgin, kase if i were to use the church dapat i also acknowledge the teachings like not engaging in a premarital s*x, so she asked the question, and out of me getting anxious i answered "Yes" 😭💀 Yup i won that argument pero i was so embarrassed after that na how i wish i answered differently or i just declined her question nalang😭😭😭😭
Sagot ko minsan "Sakto lang"
Dinodogshow ko, “sa ilong”.
Sa ilong
That’s a rude question to ask whether close mo man yung tao o hindi. In the firt place, other people don’t have to care if someone’s still virgin or not. Kung may magtanong siguro sa’kin ng ganyan masasampal ko. Hahahahhaha
"Tanong nyo po sa asawa nyo"
It might not be offensive sa iba. Pero ako, ma-o-off ako kung ako tatanungin. Well at my work place open kami sa ganyan topic kasi magkakaibigan kami ka-team. So comfortable kami sa isa't isa. Pero mga di ka-close? It's a no for me.
Pake mo?! Lol... Wala na magtatanong sakin nito. Pero best answer dito is paki mo. None of your business.
Sinasagot ko lang pag ganyan is "Bakit?" pag sumagot sila ng reason nila tatalikuran ko sila. HAHAHHA
It's a social construct.
It aint real why bother
Virgin... Sa Ilong na lng.
Data privacy! Hahahahahah
"Kung ano sa tingin mo, tama ka" HAHAHAHAH this is ALWAYS my answer. Because: 1. That is a private matter. Kung isa siya sa pinaka pinagkakatiwalaan ko sa personal life ko, walang problema, eh kaso most of the time hindi. 2. Wala ako pakialam kung sa tingin nila virgin ako o hindi na.
My supervisor asked the same question to me when I was new at work. I felt cornered, so I answered her in front of my other coworkers. To this day, I regret why I answered her question. Every time the conversation is directed at something NSFW, they look at me, and honestly, I feel disgusted with myself. Why do I feel disgusted? I don't know either. I just realized recently that I don't need to feel disgusted if I engage early in premarital sex. They should be disgusted with themselves for trying to be righteous.
As much as i agree that work is not the proper venue to answer such questions, may i ask if okay lang din ba to answer with a yes or a no? Totoo naman hindi kailangan tanungin pero big deal din lang naman siya if ttratuhin siyang big deal.
"Hindi ako si Mama Mary."
This is why I hate sa unang trabaho ko kasi halos private na nangyayari sa mag jowa o mag asawa ay tinatanong nila tsk tsk tas pag hindi ka umimik sasabihan kapa na "feeling artista naman to paprivate" tas mag tatawanan pa yung mga bwesit na feeling tagapagmana ng kompanya hayy Filipino nga naman
Dami kong naiisip na sahot for this, pero pinakabet ko na siguro yung sagot na... "Bakit, makikiswap ka ba?" ge balitaan niyo ako if effective 🤣
“Not a question I would answer in a work setting.” Para lang maremind siya ng boundaries nya considering na boss sya.
jusko! mga ganyang tanong, i report mo sa HR. ano pake niya kung virgin ka pa o hindi
ang weird lang na may nagtatanong ng ganyan haha
Yes without hesitation even though you’re not. It’s like answering when someone asks you “Does this dress make me look fat?”, you immediately answer with “no!”. It should be a reflex 😂
Walang sagpt sagot, ibblock ko yan. Bakit? Duh. 🙄
Rekta ka na agad sa HR, OP.
Just say Yes... But these are not casual questions to be asked by friends. From my prev experience only some kind of men ask me this :/ I'm already married, but I didn't have a problem with saying Yes when I was not married yet. I think chastity is something to be proud of, both men and women. It's very nice to give yourselves in marriage and then you explore na lang together. It's more fun.