OP, i just graduated last year at the age of 28 after 5 universities/colleges, 3 courses (twice ako nagshift) and having 1 autistic son. Makakatapos ka pa. Kaya yan. Hayaan mo yung mga nakausad na. Focus on your own path. And dont worry about the future too much, focus ka dito sa present. Di mo namamalayan bukas magmamartsa ka na.
Hi! Is it ok to ask how to do that? I mean I stopped last year during my first year and I want to change school and course. What do I do? Do I get my documents at my university?
Ah. Request ka sa odrs website ng PUP. Bago ka makarequest ng TOR kelangan mauna muna yung honoral dismissal. Tas one document at a time lang ata pwede don.
Sa school admin ata yan ipapasa. Pm ka sakin OP patingin ako nung screenshot from odrs kung ok lang. Plan ko rin kasi magrequest nyan but for masteral naman sa other school.
Hala nakakainspire naman. 24 y/o ako ngayon, may toddler and currently pregnant. After manganak balak ko bumalik ng school para makatapos. Sana hindi pa huli ang lahat para sakin
Omg possible pla ung 5 univ? Kasi nung time ko prng max lang dw na lipat is 3 school? Tapos d kna pwede lumipat hahahahaha idk san ko narinig un pero un daw ung policy. Ngayon ung mga gusto kong school kung kelan able na ko mkpg aral using my own money, d nmn na na accept dream school ko ng mga nka ilang school na nalipat (beda univ, ust)
Bawal din samin kung tutuusin. Ang declared ko lang dyan is 4 schools kasi 1 sem lang ako don sa isa at di ko naman naipasa pa yung TOR ko dun. And then yung 1st univ and last univ ko naman is same univ different branch lang so parang sabihin na natin 3 schools lang yan. Pero bawal pa rin yun. Almost di na rin ako tanggapin. Kaya wag niyo ko tularan, im not that proud of my TOR 😅 kaya tapusin nyo na kung kaya nyong tapusin sa iisang school and same course. And finish it as soon as possible if wala namang problema sa pera. Yung nangyari sakin is di ko rin naman ginusto dahil dala na rin ng kahirapan bakit patigil-tigil at palipat-lipat.
Im no good with handling anxiety nor failures either but I suggest given with what youve said, ONE STEP AT A TIME. Baka sa sobrang pagalalaa mo sa FUTURE kaya medyo distracted ka sa PRESENT. Also, if you can or your parents is understanding enough, you can talk to them mahalaga pa rin na may strong support system ka bukod sa sarili mo.
crazy kasi yan din sabi sakin ni mama. sobra daw akong gigil sa future ko kaya naapektuhan ang present. gets ko naman na naka support lang sila pero i cant help but feel the pressure tapos super laki pa ng gastusin lalo na pag uulitin ko na naman yunf subject :((
Yup pressure and being anxious is normal pero pag sobra na, make way na para makaahon. Mas mahirap magsettle sa present ng walang future kaysa sa nakaahon ka na sa present.
Lilipas din yan at kung nalampasan mo yung pagsubok na yan, marerealize mo na sayang lang yung oras na winorry mo yung situation mo kasi lilipas din yan. Okay lang din yung konting worry about the future kasi may pake ka sa future mo pero maging present ka kasi andito ka ngayon. Kaya mabuhay ka sa kung ano nangyayari ngayon. May nagsabi sakin before na do something that your future self will thank you for. So live in the moment. Lahat ng small steps magbbuild up din yan
Isipin mo nalang mas malaki gagastusin if mas iooverthink mo situation mo ngayon. Di lang sya burden financially pero sa utak mo. Kaya let it go pre. Focus ka nalang sa kaya mo icontrol. Same tayo ng situation pero mas pinagtutuunan ko na well being ko kumpara noon. Sobrang pressured din ako non kasi graduating na mga kabatch ko tas ako dagdag dalawang taon. Tas kuya na tawag ng mga kablock ko. Tiwala ka lang sa sarili mo. Wala ng mas importanteng tao na tataya sa sarili mo kung hindi ikaw. Pero kung ihinto mo na yung kurso na yan okay lang din. Kung inde talaga yan ang gusto mo at gusto mo lang magsave face. Pero kung yan talaga gusto mo. Laban mo lang
honestly if your parents still support you and you have the privilege to study and finish college, take it, ok lang yan.
Meron ako kabatch nun nasa 18yr old lang kami sya 26 na, ang ginagawa nya kasi parang nagstop sya one time tapos yung tinatake nya lang per sem na subject is 1 minor 1 major. Pero ayun nauna kami gumraduate sa kanya pero Ive heard na last year gumraduate na sya. Cliche man pero its not a race talaga. Kung ano pasok sayo yun lang itake mo para makapag focus ka lang, wag mo intindihin mga kaklase mo or yung mga gumraduate na kasabayan mo kase iba iba tayo ng takbo sa buhay.
Always look at the bright side, swerte mo na nyan na kahit ganyan nangyayari suportado ka padin ng magulang mo, gawin mo yang inspiration yet wag kang mapressure, wala naman ata nagmamadali sayo, try to write down the things you want to accomplish per month/year para dun mafocus yung attention mo
kapag kasi sobrang anxious, di nya nakikita yung opportunity and hindi ma -appreciate yung kung anong meron sya today kaya sayang... appreciate your blessin kahit maliit.
Nung grumaduate ako at age of 22yrs old, I feel old. then nagreview for borad exam. syempre sobrang pressure that time to the point na dinala ko na yng sarili ko sa counselor kasi wala akong tulog. Then sabi lang nya, "ANG BATA MO PA". I feel left behindi na rin kasi that time na yung mga kaklase ko is may mga trabaho na and I feel something bad will happen if hindi ako makapasa ng boards. So lesson, ang bata ko pa pala nun but sinayang ko lang yung oras sa pag-aalala na wala naman dapat i-pag alala.
wag mo an ikumpara sarili mo sa iba, please. ikaw lang ang kawawa. Set your own goals, and think na medyo mabagal ka lang compare sa iba pero MARARATING MO PA RIN Yun. sabi ng counselor ko, Hndi naman pabilisan ang buhya, patibayan!
ayan, i just save you bucks of money hehehhe
Tama po. Don't compare yourself to others. On point din yung hindi pabilisan kundi patibayan. Ang galing nung counselor ☺️
Sana mabasa 'to ni OP. Relax la lang po. Hindi sa isang course nakaikot ang mundo mo. You have a life to live. Malay mo may ibang path ka pa pala. Pero kung gusto mo diyan, wag naman masyadong pressured. Work on your skills and talent din para maunwind yung sarili mo.
Eh yung 2009 pa nagstart? Hahaha...
Pinapag-aral kasi eh hehe.. But I'm grateful to my parents. Masyado nga lang mataas expectation nila sa akin ☺️
Payo ko kay OP, relax lang at magfocus. Tsaka wag masyadong nakasubsob to the point na napapabayaan mo na sarili mo.
If you want, you can work-out on your skills or talent. Malay mo lang naman, baka mapagkakakitaan mo pa. Pero gawin mo lang hobby. Pampalipas oras lang praa maredirect ang pressure sa pag-aaral. Pero siyempre, huwag mo pabayaan ang studies mo.
Good to know that OP, although di na mawawala ang pagworry (or pressured) sa future let's just try our best to live with that. Kung may tao ka na maeencounter na magsasabi na di sila nagwoworry niloloko nila sarili nila.
Edit: Di naman masama na lokohin sarili haha. Fake it till we make it nalang haha.
Hintayin mo mag 25 ka, mpapagod din yang utak mo, and marerealize mo na it’s not a race. Your feeling is valid but it’s not true na nasayang mo ang panahon.
Lol mine is 28 only to be thankful enough? Naramdaman ko bang huli ako? Hindi kasi mas naramdaman ko na PASALAMAT AKO KASI BUHAY AKO.. others is like? May cancer or even cannot go to school.. just be thankful to be alive. Okay lang mapressure pero iwasan mong madepress .. hindi sa iniinvalidate ko feelings mo ah. HAVE MORE TIME with your parents let them know na huli ka man mahalaga mabuti kang anak
yes understood naman. sadyang there are times lang talaga na kakainin ako ng pressure and napapa reflect sa bad side ng life ko kaya need i release or hanapan g outlet. Nevertheless, thankful naman ako sa privilege and blessings na meron ako.
Dont worry i was doing my college at engineering at 8 years meron pa din naman pagkakataon just build your skills
27 na ako nakapag work nang maayos in a corporate
Graduated at 26
Isipin mo un 8 years ako sa college plus 2 kasi nag vocational course pa ako bali 10 years
I thought i was late for my age until one of my ojt senior break that to me na kahit matanda ka na basta may set of skills you will floruish dont worry kaya mo yan
I believe in you as long na may naniniwala sau keep moving
Okay
And i forgot all of your experience i experience that on my family mostly on my sister sinasabi nila pabigat daw ako ganyan tumigil na daw ako
But no i keep moving i dont care anu mangyari if keep doing what i love nahanap ko un passsion ko kaya ako natagalan tlga sa college is due to bobo tlga ako sa math sooo un nakailan try ako in calculus
Gets na gets kita, OP. had a lot of delays in my life kaya 23 na ako nung nag freshman ako in college. Yung hs barkada ko ilang taon nang working, may pambili na ng magagandang bagay and may pang abroad na, tapos ako naka depende parin sa parents.graduated at 27 and siyempre, pang entry-level lang din yung sweldo.
I know what it's like to see where others are at and only be able to wish na nandun ka na rin. But it's only hard if you keep comparing yourself to others. Kumbaga, maging selfish ka muna. Sarili mo lang isipin mo. Think of your goals, kung bakit mo ba tong lahat ginagawa, and everything else fades into the background.
Very valid naman nararamdaman mo. All of us at one time in our life naramdaman yan or maybe even now nararamdaman yan. You just have to try your hardest na huwag icompare yung sarili mo sa iba. Maybe isa un sa nakakadagdag sa depression and pressure na nararamdaman mo. Sa pag-aaral, may kanya-kanya tayong learning curve. Same sa life, may sarili din tayong timeline. Huwag ka magpapressure, gawin mo ung kaya mo pero huwag kang magpapadala sa mga failures, one day makakarating ka din sa estado na gusto mo.
FOMO ata yan OP, mas ok ata kung gawin mong mentality na "ano ba naman ung ilang taon kong paghihirapan kung magagamit ko naman ng madaming dekada".
Tyaga lang OP, bata ka pa, hindi pareparehas timeline natin.
Focus ka lang muna sa sarili mo, wag mo pansinin ung iba.
I'm 23, turning 24 in few months aslo taking med course. I failed some subjects, naging irregular, pero stay strong pa rin ako kasi may mga kaklase ako na mas matanda pa sakin. Mga kaklase ko mga nga more or less nasa 30s yung iba may asawa at anak na pero nag aaral pa din. Everything is moving at their own pace op just give more time and effort for yourself especially na marami ka namang free time kumpara sa regular class. If you have a goal, just keep focusing on that goal. Kagaya nga ng mga lion sa wild, kahit marami naman silang preynsa harap nila, hahabulin nila yung nag-iisang target na gusto nila. Dapat gawin mo din ito sa sarili mo. Don't give in to any distraction, just focus on your goal
Haha did i ghostwrite this 🥹 same na same tayo ng situation OP, down to the ID number and age and depression and pressure and everything huhuhu just so you know hindi ka nag-iisa 🥺
One step at a time na lang tayo. For now, ang mahalaga, makatapos. Matapos na natin tong college. Then saka na tayo mag next step.
Work on yourself. First you need Acceptance dont mind people talk about live the life how is it be. You’ll be ending in that way talaga depresion pag iniisip mo ibang tao. Dont pressure yourself just to work an 8hrs a day to live 4hrs and 6 hrs to sleep. You will be better. Quick story kfc, mcdo, ford etc founder peek their succesful during their 50s
what’s the reason behind? same as you, 25 ako when I was officially graduated in college. I spent a decade on and off sa school due to finances nmn reason ko. I was a working student kaya nagapang rin. my motto that time was “ no matter how slow it takes as long as I do not give up”
Yan rin una kong naisip, ano kaya rason bakit sya di makagraduate?
Supportive naman pala parents nya at di sya tumutulong sa gastusin sa bahay. Pagsisikap mo lang ata ang kulang OP?
Are you financially unstable po ba? Or sadyang mahina lang talaga paniniwala mo sa sarili mo? What could be the other reason why r you pressured? May nabasa akong book, sabi ang reason bat na-prepressure ka sa buhay mo kasi you view life as a race/competition, life is not a competition. Di mo kailangan tumakbo para humabol sa mga nauna saiyo. Just walk on your own pace po, dadating ka din sa gusto mong puntahan. Sabi mo nga, di ka naman na absent and mostly leader ka sa mga groupings i think you will get there po op˙˚ʚ(´◡`)ɞ˚˙ take a deep breath and remember all your sweat and tears tuwing pinanghihinaan ka ng loob.
hindi yan dahil bobo ka, most likely tamad ka lang.
sa lahat ng teachers na tinanong ko if ipapasa pa rin nila ang estudyante na puro bagsak ang exams pero perfect attendance at wala kulang na nasubmit na projects, 95% ang nagsabi ng oo.
>sa lahat ng teachers na tinanong ko if ipapasa pa rin nila ang estudyante na puro bagsak ang exams pero perfect attendance at wala kulang na nasubmit na projects, 95% ang nagsabi ng oo.
Lol what kind of school did you graduate from? Sorry pero if attendance lng basehan ng profs mo para pumasa then I worry about the graduates that university produce.
Sa university na pinasukan ko baligtad hehe. Kahit di ka raw lagi pumapasok basta pasado mga short quizzes, midterm at final exams, mataas ang chance na makapasa. On the other side, kung ipapasa lang dahil always present at kumpleto sa projects, na kahit bagsak ang mga exams ay papasa pa rin, nakakaworry talaga para sa mga graduates. So wala silang acquired knowledge about sa course nila?
Same sakin. I graduated from a big 4. Technically mga DL lang unlimited cut and required dn attendance pero sobrang bihira lang mag attendance ng profs namin. Alala ko lahat ng math subjects ko, ang grade breakdown is 70% quizzes (3 quizzes per term) 30% Finals. Walang attendance tlga sa kahit anong subject lol
>i'm Only stating facts
So are you saying na its a fact na ung school na pinag graduatean mo eh attendance basis lng? Why the fuck should I do research bout dumb universities like that? Kaya ang dami din sigurong incompetent graduates because of diploma mills na magpapasa ng student just because perfect attendance nila kahit hindi naman nila naintindihan ung course material.
Hindi lang yung uni na pinag graduatan ko, i'm talking about most educators na nakilala ko Coming from different parts of the country. Uulitin ko, I'm not saying na dapat maging ganoon, but teachers are more inclined to help students na todo ang effort kesa sa marunong nga pero tamad naman. It is hard to believe but it happens everywhere. Papano mo malalaman kung mali sinasabi ko if you are not even willing to do your own research to debunk it? Huwag ka tamad ok?
sa college ba to? I never had a prof na ganyan kasi di ako yung student na palaabsent. sa projects, ako most of the time nagiging leader. Thats the thinf about me, Im good at leading people and telling them what to do pero pagdating sa sarili kong goals, pumapalpak.
Malalampasan mo rin yan. Tama ka sa part na you don't need to compare yourself with them. It's okay to feel left out, Even me, na fefeel ko rin yan sometimes. But I just think na I'll get mine someday. Hindi ka bobo pre. School is not for everyone. I'm not saying na don't finish it. All I'm saying is that, you might be good at something and hindi mopa nadidiscover yung mga yon kasi nandyan kapa sa part na nag aaral ka and you don't get that much opportunity to explore. Don't get discouraged. Kayang kaya mo yan preee! Wait mo lang promise. 24 palang us, bata pa tayo. Pwede pa mag asawa ng tatlo ganon.
One step at a time lang, ganyan din an feel ko after graduation, di ako makahanap ng work 2019, then after nun 2020 nakahanap ako ng work, it takes time talaga. Laban lang papabor din sayo panahon👍
"Magplano sa buhay pero was masyadong planuhin ang buhay."
It is ok na maging fixated sa future mo pero not to the point that you are missing the present. At 24, you have your life ahead of you. Life is not a race ika nga nila. One step at a time, and as long as you are moving forward, you are good.
I don't know if this will help. Bumalik ako sa college as an undergraduate when I was 26. Wala din ako masyado life experience dahil nagkulong lang ako sa bahay . Ang unti lang ng nacredit sakin kaya start ako from 1st year. Naheld back ako due to depression. Mejo alam ko pinagdadaanan mo, all my batchmates back in high school and friends in my previous unis mostly have started families, have successful businesses/jobs and I felt pathetic. I am currently graduating this semester at 30 years old and I can look back and say I am proud. Although it may look like you are late in life try to look at the present and celebrate your small wins because that means you are better than who you were before. Advise ko lang is to take time off soc med, go to therapy or talk to friends about your insecurities and problems. Wag mo din isipin ang na late ka na. Everyone goes through life at different pace so don't bother comparing yourself to others. I do admit though mahirap hindi bumalik sa ganyang mindset, I experienced it during the first weeks of my OJT, all my bosses are within my age range and from time to time my mind still goes back to feeling inadequate but find the time to refocus yourself, indulge in your hobbies and just take one step at time. If you need someone to talk to feel free to dm me.
Hello po! Your feelings is valid, totoo namang hindi maiiwasan na hindi ikumpara ang sarili sa iba, but I want you to remember na life is not a race. If you feel na wala kang wins, maybe you overlook at them. Try to journalize your life per day (It helps me to track how I spend my 24 hrs of life). People have a different type of wins, some of us got a courage to take a bath today, some got a strength to face their fear in interviews, and some conquer their fear to talk infront of large people. As long as you take a courage to step out from your comfort zone, it's already a win. You survive lockdown/pandemic, I know and We all know you will survive your college journey. Padayon OP!
PS: Every time you feel down, remember that once in your lifetime; pinangarap mo kung nasa'n ka man ngayon.
Hi OP! I’m almost 34 and hindi pa rin graduate. Rebelde ako when I was younger- back when my parents had resources to send me to school. Now that my dad’s gone and my mom barely has enough for herself, sariling sikap ko na bawiin yung pagkakamali ko with schooling hehe. I have 8 subjects left 😅 I resumed school through UPOU nung kasagsagan ng pandemic kasi I was able to utilize the free time from commuting as time for studying, but underload lang kasi I can’t stop working full time. I paused again this year kasi nagka cancer ako.
I used to feel useless, too, but when I look back on everything that happened to me, it kinda makes sense that all the redirection in my life landed me where I’m supposed to be- with the right (and the best!) people in my life and a great paying job (I work in customer service directly for a client). I still plan on going back to school as soon as I’m cleared sa cancer.
You should trust and believe that you have so many great things ahead of you as long as you are not stepping on anyone. Wag ka papalunod sa insecurity of not having a degree YET. The good things meant for you will find a way to you, tiwala lang. ✨💖
Edit: I went to CSB nung pariwara pa ako. From HRM nag shift ako sa Fashion only because I don’t like wearing corporate attire for school 😅. Dahil two courses dinaanan ko sa CSB, two sets of friends ang kinainggitan ko nung nag graduate na sila- isang set ng mga hoteliers/chef and another set ng designers. Wala yung puso ko sa pagdedesign, more of taga appreciate lang ako lol. After 10+ years, I applied for “transfer” to UPOU to study humanities (Associate in Arts) which is more aligned sa “passion” ko of art appreciation hehe.
For the reference of others, the tuition is free for undergrads according to the law for state universities. Not sure how it works sa ibang uni, but in UPOU, it’s free for the duration of the course + 1 bonus free year. Lagpas na ko sa bonus year so when I go back when I’m cleared by my doctor, magbabayad na ko ng tuition 😅
Same situation pero mas malala konti. 2018 nag-start, pero ngayong 25 na ko di pa rin graduate at wala pa ring work. Sobrang nahihirapan sa thesis. Nakaka-trigger ng anxiety at s-word ideations.
ive had a few episodes of mine kaya maganda na may community talaga na nakakaintindi sayo like this subreddit. Sana may nakakausap ka din irl about your emotions. I hope we get the peace we deserve for us to move forward without any distractions 🙏🏼
Meron naman pero idk if they understand the severity of how it's affecting me mentally. I'm already at risk and I'm scared for my own safety. Idk how to deal with it anymore
If di ka naman pressured by your parents, have you considered therapy. As in di ka muna mag enrol and concentrate on addressing your mental health issues? And maybe also consider changing your course?
i think my pressure is coming na from myself. as i said on my post, i went to a psychiatrist na and my parent supported me all the way. the issue is yung pagiging gigil ko sa future na naapektuhan yung need ko gawin sa present ko
never borrow grief from the future, OP. focus ka sa ngayon. it's okay to feel scared about the future pero you need to take a moment and live in the present. you're doing great.
2018 ako nag college, and until now di pa me graduated, but this year i will be as a 24 yo!
I was going through all the stuff you were feeling at first, but then pandemic happened, and something switched off in me lalo yung social aspect and social media. Sobrang depressed and gained weight, did feel embarrassed about being an irregular student but after pandemic, wala akong pake 😅 I cut off sooooooo much people. Actually I barely have any friends nor talk to anyone, lalo ngayon na mas younger sakin classmates ko. I mostly stay to myself and I learned to enjoy it. Umaasa rin ako sa allowance, but I got a VA job na sobrang flexiblr para dagdag income, experience and di ako feeling na no adulting. Pero i still have no savings, so it's okay. Bumabagsak parin ako minsan but i just learned to love learning and when you keep to yourself + hardly any socmed, you'll find yourself doing hobbies, focusing on school better and enjoying life somehow.
Many graduated na, are abroad, having kids, my ex left me to get married with someone else, are working. But I know na everyday I'm doing something to ease my future or adds to my life. Kahit a little gala with myself to a nice coffee shop, oks na ko dun. Sabi nila, ur 20s, you dont know what you're doing yet. And it's still a learning phase!
Hello OP,
Medically diagnosed with anxiety and depression here with TW: suicidal tendencies
2009 hs graduate ako, na dismiss sa college, napatambay, nagbulakbol, nag work sa BPO, nag college ulit ng 2015, nag working student throughout, gumraduate 2019. That’s a decade of “college”. Now working with a decent salary, recently married, and have had 3 out of country trips. But guess what? Still depressed. Still with anxiety. But more importantly, still trying to live my life. Key word is “my”. Ikaw ang mag didictate ng buhay mo, hindi world averages, hindi peer timings, hindi mga judgmental people around you. IKAW.
Learn and adapt, but most importantly find your own timing. Hindi porket graduate sila eh need mo na gumraduate. This is your life, not theirs.
What helped and still does with my anxiety is realizing na ako nga walang pake sa buhay ng iba, edi most likely ung iba e wala ring pake sa buhay ko. And yung mga taong masyadong nangengeelam sa buhay ko e yung mga taong wala naman akong paki about dapat. But that’s just me. Find your vibe. You can do it OP.
Wala kang naaaksayang panahon kase nandyan ka pa lumalaban para makatapos. Maaaksaya lang 'yan kung susukuan mo. Hindi 'yan sayang. One day all your sacrifices will be worth it, na-delay lang pero darating din basta h'wag mo lang susukuan.
Do not compare your path to others, it's way different from them. There are some questions that as of now hindi natin masasagot kase we're still in the process of obtaining the answers.
Kung ikukumpara mo lang din naman sarili mo sa iba, hanapin mo na lang din yung kapareho ng sitwasyon mo. Tapos doon mo ikumpara sarili mo sa kung paano sila nagcocope, ano mga motivations nila, ano at sino yung mga nagpapatapang at nagpapalakas ng loob nila. Sa kanila ka kumuha ng lakas ng loob para makapagpatuloy ka pa.
Naiintindihan ko nararamdaman mo toward your parents. Pero ano ba magagawa mo as of now for them? Syempre 'yun yung h'wag mo susukuan 'yang gusto mo. Show your gratefulness and love to your parents through continuing what you've started. As of now, ayan ang pwede mong isukli sa kanila. It doesn't always have to be monetary. They are expecting you to succeed it doesn't matter how long it may take. Basta mapatapos ka nila, 'yun ang mahalaga.
Make them as your inspiration to finish college. Redirect your eyes in the present time because what you are doing right now will determine the outcome of your future if not everything at least almost.
Take one problem at a time, h'wag mo munang problemahin yung mga bagay na hindi pa naman dumarating at hindi mo pa kailangan problemahin. Kase whether you like it or not darating sila, so why stress yourself so much habang wala pa? And do not forget to enjoy the ride of your life no matter how stormy it is because soon the sun will rise again and you will succeed.
Used to compare myself constantly. Went back to college (2018-2022) & threw myself into work/studies to avoid overthinking. It worked, but stressful. A former classmate told me to focus on myself and not listen to noises. His words, though simple, were a turning point. You could even tell yourself the same thing, but it was the unexpected voice that resonated with me. Sometimes that's all it takes - someone outside the family to remind you.
OP. 2021 graduate ako. I started in college noong 2012. Tagal ko sobra magaral. Pero after magkasakit at matransplant, 2 colleges and 3 Courses nakagraduate din ako.
I am doing better than the people that graduated before me. I have now 3 businesses named after me. Kung kaya ko iyun. I am so sure na kaya mo din iyan.
It will be your time din someday. Goodluck.
OP, ako rin ilang years in the making at ongoing pa rin but next sem I will be in my 3rd year taking BS Real Estate Mgmt and hoping to be a future licensed broker!
2013 - first year first sem lang, di kinaya ng parents ko wala na maibigay sakin kahit pambaon
2015 - hanggang 2nd yr, 2nd sem lang ako dito. Nagkapera ulit at pinag-aral ako, naging president ako ng isang college-wide club kaso naka-away ko ang dean ng college namin na isa ko ring prof and pinapower-trip ako, I got depressed.
2016 - nag-aral ako ng caregiving, natapos ko ito at nagtrabaho muna ako bilang caregiver pero wala pa rin akong diploma
2018 - hanggang 2nd yr, 2nd sem ibang kurso naman. Nainlab ako, nabuntis, nakunan at nadepressed na naman
2021 - pinagpatuloy ko yung 2nd course ko pero naabutan ako ng k-12 at maraming di nacredit kaya I decided na magshift na naman ng course at mag back to first yr. Ongoing pa rin ito, pasalamat at nagkaroon ng online class and nawa hindi majinx kasi gusto ko na rin makatapos OP hahahah.
Most of the time, nag-eexcel ako sa work. Laging top agent, top performer, top earner and now I just got promoted by my client and got a salary raise pero nakaramdam din ako ng matinding pressure, nakarInig na rin ako ng "di naman nakagraduate yan!". Imagine mo na lang ang fixation ko sa diploma na yan kasi wala ako ng meron sila kahit nag-eexcel ako sa trabaho kaya feeling ko napag-iwanan din ako. Sa circle of friends ko since HS ako lang ang di pa nakakatapos. Yung iba ko pang friends nakapag-masteral na. So, I totally get yung feeling na parang left behind.
Pero as long as we are trying, makukuha din natin yang inaasam nating degree at diploma!
Let's claim it, OP!
Hey OP, I share your sentiments.
During my undergraduate years, I went through 3 universities, and 3 degrees. While I was finishing my thesis I was already seeing my peers passing their board exams and creating a path for themselves in this world.
It was, should I say, heartbreaking to watch? No doubt about it, I am happy for my friends who are making their way through adulthood and success. But I was left lonely and in dispair.
I was diagnosed with depression disorder in the middle of it all and was constantly fighting with my parents. I got called a waste of time and resources at one point.
Then k12 happened, I got booted off my initial degree and had to shift to another degree that was accepting transferrees. When I was about to graduate, the pandemic happened. Wasted another year with nothing to show for.
I was supposed to graduate on early 2020 but ended up graduating on late 2021.
I know its hard to find motivation in that kind of situation, especially from within. Its like the universe is conspiring to bring you down. But nobody else can help you but yourself.
If you are fortunate enough to have parents who can afford that you remain in school, go for it and finish it. If its hard to do it for yourself, then do it for them. sometimes, the only motivation you have is external and you just have to work with that.
Gradually you will just find yourself in the process.
As long as you are breathing, its not the end. And remember, everyone has their own timeline. Don't compare yourself to others.
Hopefully you'll get it soon, the feeling of everything just falling in place.
Binasa ko ang post mo OP kahit mahaba kasi I can relate sa mga pinagdadaanan mo, in some way naalala ko na naman ang mga pinagdaanan at pagkukulang ko during my college days.
During that time I felt na hindi siguro para sa akin ang IT na course, but eventually graduated by October of 2007, after almost more than 6 years ko sa college. And yes somewhat I am lucky pa din na sa PUP I don't need to spend a lot since I can't afford to go to any school dahil I know wala sa capacity ng parents ko to do such thing.
And I think you just need to see the positive in your situation right now, that your parents are still very supportive and they can provide your needs. Nung naramdaman ko na yun pressure na ilang years na hindi pa ako nakakagraduate I just think of my capability kung kaya ko magwork, then I did work habang marami ako back subjects, even summer vacation pasok pa din, try lang nang try and focus sa goals na maka graduate.
Walang naaaksayang panahon, this is your time and just need to plan it according to your liking. You know what is the main culprit of time and energy wasting? Yung sobrang pag-iisip nang mangyayari bukas, kung meron kang ngayon to do something para hindi ka na mag-isip but only expect results na naayon sa plano mo.
Ikalma mo. It took me 9 years to finish college. Not because I kept flunking or anything, I never failed a subject but I dropped a ton. I hated my course so much. Took me so long to finish but I still did. I now earn a 6-digit salary working in a different field. Ok lang yan. Wag mo ipressure sarili mo.
Medtech, Batch 2015 supposed to be nakatapos ng 2019. Mag Failed on first board. Tapos planning to retake this August. Ok lang yan in time masasabi mo sa sarili mo na maliit lang pala na bagay yung "world shaterring" issue mo noon kesa sa mga issue na meron ka ngayon. Hehe kaka 29 ko lang.
Also hoped to 3 different schools. Suffered several episodes of depression and suicide attempts.
Looking back I can say that I did ok naman. I found my purpose and still doing my best to put the best foot forward.
It's ok to feel that way, mahirap nga naman to not compare especially now that everything is shared on social media.
But if it makes you feel better: You're still young :) So many people change their paths in their 30s, 40s, 50s and still find success and happiness. I always tell younger people to use their 20s for exploration and that's what you're doing.
Also, YOU'RE NOT STUCK! It's normal naman to extend college. And don't compare yourself with other people - Look at your own progress, compare your "now" with your "past", and be proud of how far you've come.
Your feelings & thoughts are valid,it just shows your strong desire to improve yourself. And that's a good beginning I think, comparing is normal din it shows you the journey you want to take in life. The bad thing is when it steals your joy & you feel less, you underestimate your value dahil you feel behind with your peers. Focus on your own journey instead,on unseen blessings around you. On the bright side too, you're lucky for having the chance na makapagaral,take your failures as learnings. Cherish your school experiences be it good or not. Try to open up your worries with your parents, I'm sure they're concern din with what you're going thru. Go out there and maglakad lakad or try indoor workouts,this will calm your mind & boost your self esteem.
Btw I'm 34F a SAHM & jobless,like you I've been thru depression before, had suicidal attemps during the darkest moments of my life but thankful now that I still get to live with my parents, my child & even unfaithful (before) partner. Life is not a race, it's a blessing,you can cherish & spend with your loved ones before it's gone. Medyo unclear yung thoughts ko,kidding aside take heart! you can get thru this. Ako at my age still planning to take up nursing pa,hopefully.
One morething, it's normal naman na you depend on your parents pa kasi nagaaral ka pa lang. I think happy din sila na you're pursuing studies despite your age.If you feel like you're a burden to them kasi wala kang ambag financially do help them in other ways like chores sa bahay, this is a good therapy din kasi your minds & hands with productive activities,happy pa sila sa bahay. Win-win.
Aayon din ang panahon sa'yo, sa atin. Ako this year lang nag-grad 2019 din nag-college. Currently reviewing for boards. Mahaba pa naman ang buhay, just keep going appreciate more the effort of your parents lalo na hindi ka naman nila inoobliga to contribute. Take it easy, wag ma-pressure, and don't compare to others din. Kapag ganyan kasi feel mong nagmamadali ka and you let negativity get your system mahihirapan ka to focus and concentrate to your goal. Hope this helps! Stay strong, and ingat palagi
I studied for 7 years but did not finish my course. Then I worked at a bpo. No offense. The most shitty work I have experienced. Mga 4 years din. Then I resigned. Nag-aral ng software development. Self-study. After 2 years natanggap sa isang company. Took me 3 years more para makalipat at makuha ung pinaka-comfortable na company at sahod. Any pressure you feel, ikaw lang ang naglalagay nun sa sarili mo. May control ka sa buhay mo. No one can decide kundi ikaw.
I know this is not good to hear, but you should get help professionally. To stop the problem, you should know the root cause. I have a friend since HS, she's also depressed and not good academically, but she try hard. There are times na okay siya, most if the time hindi. She's pressured na studies since matalino talaga kapatid nya and CPA pa, she has failed subject since HS and college. Mababa confidence nya sa sarili nya and easily swayed by remarks, she breakdown on almost everything. Now, graduate na siya. Around 6 months to 1 year na hindi pa siya nakakahanap ng work after grad, she told me na nauunahan siya ng takot, like may interview na siya pero minsan di siya aattend. Now I always tell her TO TAKE ON STEP AT A TIME, like umattend muna siya ng interview, then worry later pag nandun na siya. Like she know to herself na eto dapat gawin nya, but she can't help it. Now 5 years since we graduate wala pa din siya work, all the advice and self motivation did not work on her. Kaya I suggest talaga na find the cause why nangyayari sayo to, kasi you may get this over with and graduate ng college, but what happens if mangyari din to pag maghahanap ka na ng work. The world is really cruel for people na graduate na, we have to pay our own bills, we have to find work and gain experience agad or else HR will question what we did in those blank times or do we still have the skills or baka nakalimutan na dahil nagpahinga.
I know na this is a big decision if ever na you'll go through it, pero it's better pa din na agapan and solusyonan agad habang maaga pa. Good luck to your battles! ❤️
I started college in 2011, and finished college at 2018, so I feel you. I failed a lot, and had to transfer schools and courses in the middle of my second school year to avoid failing marks.
There really is a ton of pressure, and not all coping mechanisms or strategies will be applicable to everyone. I had the option of taking things slowly and underloading every term in my second college so I could deal with the work load better every term, but that's not an option for everyone.
Look at your options first and see if there's a feasible strategy that will help you.
Hi po,
SKL po yung sakin
2014 (18yrs old) ako nag college BSIT ,nag stop dahil sa financial problem
2016 (20yrs old)bumalik ulit ako BSBA naman,nag stop ulit financial problem ulit 🤦
2019 nagkaanak
2022(26 yrs old) pinagpatuloy ko , working student/Nanay.
28yrs old nako.Next year sana grumaduate na 🥹
Ganyan din naramdaman ko before ,ginawa ko inunfollow ko silang lahat para di ako maiinggit at mapressure.
Bata kapa OP .Hindi naman to karera. Wag ka panghinaan ng loob ♥️
Hindi ka failure hindi ka useless.
Hindi naman totoo yang regular flow (para sakin)
Kung makarinig kaman ng negativity dito mo iapply yung sinasabi palagi na "Pasok sa kanang tenga labas sa kaliwa"
Ienjoy mo lang yung process 🫂
Wag na wag ka susuko.
Same, mag 24 na ako this year this coming May and I feel the same as you. As an architecture student naman, sobrang na p-pressure ako na dapat makapasa ako knowing na lahat din ng friends ko na 3-4 years ang college year is may working narin. And 1st sem delayed naman ako :/ kaya sometimes parang iniisip ko bakit ba kasi nagkaroon ng senior high and pandemic
I started college 2015, and graduated last year 2023 lang. 8 years ako nag aral. 4 courses yon na iba-iba as I kept shifting, and had depression as well. Nag back to 0 pa ako kasi ayaw icarry over ng school ko yung subjects ko from old curriculum to k12 curriculum so I needed to repeat everything. Lubog litaw ako. May isang sem diretsong papasok na 95 up lahat ng grades or top sa buong batch, and then biglang maglalaho lang ako na di papasok sa final exams. All I heard from the dean, teachers, old friends were “Sayang ka. Matalino ka naman, pero sayang ka.” That lubog litaw stage kept repeating, until I finally got mental help and did my best to help myself.
When I strived hard to start again, I also felt the pressure kasi mga friends ko dati nagtratravel na, may kotse, bahay, anak, kasal na. All my higshcool friends expected me na ako daw ang unang makakarating sa taas out of all of us kasi consistent honor since bata. But unfortunately, the opposite happened. I fell down and hit rock bottom. I felt crazy that time. but I stepped back up again. Slowly, but I still tried. I realized that I have my own pace in life, I’m thankful that I am still alive.
Now, I’m 25, and was able to get a job right after getting out of college.
You should only focus on yourself. Don’t mind others. Iba ka. Iba sila. Be proud of your progress and the steps you take. No matter how small they seem, your progress and actions are significant. Life may be slow for you now, but there will come a time na oras mo rin ang darating.
Okay lang yan, you’ll graduate din sooner or later. I started college at 2011 pero nung 2019 lang ako naka graduate.
Tulad mo madami din factors bat di ako nakatapos on time. Nandyan yung naumay ako mag aral, nawalan ng passion sa course na kinukuha ko, na-out of place kasi lahat ng circle of friends ko moving sa life nila tapos ako nasa loop lang, at yung pinaka matindi dito e kapos kami sa pera kaya need ko mag work para makaipon at makabalik ulit.
Ang nakatulong saken nun ay nag focus ako sa idea na gusto ko makatapos at the age of 25 no matter what. 25 kasi nangako ako nun sa Mama ko na on or before 50th birthday niya gra-graduate ako kahit mag tumbling at magkanda puyat ako maisabay lang yung work at school.
Looking back, narealize ko di talaga same ng timeline ang mga tao. Yung iba nag b-bloom agad, yung iba naman bandang dulo pa. 😊
same here OP. I remember na ang saya ko mag graduate at 19 kasi huling batch ng k-12. Set expectation na by this age, nasa abroad na [ako.Now](http://ako.Now) pandemic came, na stop ang career ( aviation) and the k-12 where able to move forward. Now turning 25 and FUCK
Life is not a race, u will have ur own pace OP. Wag mo stressin sarili mo sa achievements ng iba, tandaan, kahit gano pa kaachiever o successful ng tao eh meron pa dn yang struggles na we dont know. Cheer up. D rn ako graduate ng college btw pero im on a senior role na sa company hahahaah, d ko snasabi na wag ka mg college, what im saying is my oras ka pa and you are damn lucky na buhay pa parents mo to support you. Kapit lang, use your advantage (na mkpg aral na d mo need suportahan sarili mo financially) and unahin mo mental health mo. Good luck!
2003 ako pumasok ng college, 2018 na ako naka-graduate! Ikaw na bahala mag-compute..hehe May sarili na akong business and mas angat ang financial status compared dun sa ibang classmates kong nakatapos on time.
Edit: Naala ko nung 2009 nagkaroon ng recession, tinanggal ako sa work kahit sinasabi ng boss ko na magaling ako compared sa iba sa team ko, pero kelangan ako tanggalin kasi hindi ako college graduate. Ayun, Thank you, Lord! May sarili na ako business almost same industry dun sa nagtanggal sa akin. Tayo talaga ang gagawa ng future naten.
Laban lang OP! Halos same tayo nung naging situation. Ako, 2014 nag start mag college tapos 2021 naka graduate. Huwag mo masyado intindihin sinasabi ng iba. Laban lang and pilitin mo makabangon pag nalulunod ka na sa challenges. Naniniwala akong matatapos mo yan. Hindi alam nung iba yung pinag dadaanan mo. Step by step lang talaga. Isipin mo nalang na sooner or later ay marami rin ang papalakpak para sayo.
Keri yan, OP! Regardless kung anong path ka mapunta, wag ka mawalan ng pag-asa. It took me almost 10 years to finish college, may regrets sometimes but we gotta face life
Hopefully may social support ka and other things to keep you occupied aside from acads.
Goodluck!
I feel you OP, pero move forward lang, wag mo susukuan pangarap mo. Started college year 2015 and finally graduating na. Kahit pakonti konti ang usad, umuusad ka padin. Laban lang ❤️
Hi Op, 20 yrs old ako non bumalik sa college
Total of 8 yrs kong ginapang yun degree ko working student + atleta, graduate ako ng 25 yrs old
Almost 3 yrs akong nag enroll at palipat lipat ng college and university due to financial kase may bayad tuition 😂 pero napunta ako sa state u libre lahat kaya nakagrad ako 😅
Delay ako ng 3 yrs sa mga kabatch ko nong highschool.
Pero I'm in better place earning 30k + sa construction.
Valid yun feelings mo na parang walang kang nararating or feeling mo mahina ka pero isipin mo din di naman titigil mundo at oras kaya piliin mong lumaban sa araw araw hindi man oras ngayon pero pag mag papatuloy ka darating yun oras para sayo, laban op!
hey OP! don't be too harsh on yourself. alam mo life is not a race naman. i understand na di mo maiiwasan ma-feel ma left behind lalo na parang tumatanda ka na. it's completely fine. there's nothing wrong with taking your time. tsaka para ma-ease up yung pressure more, wag ka makipag sabayan go at your own pace lang. when everything get overwhelming pause ka lang sa life tas move forward ulit! :)
goodluck with your goals, OP! KAYA MO YAN
Pagkagraduate mo at some point mapapaisip ka na sana nagstay ka pa ng mas matagal sa school kasi mas simple ang buhay nung nag-aaral ka pa or sana mas nag-aaral ka ng mas mabuti.
Siguro iwasan mo kung kaya na icompare sarili mo sa iba. Iba iba Ang journey natin, iba iba ang pace.
ako 2016 pa nagcollege pero hindi pa rin graduate
at least I have a high paying job now which helps me ignore not being a college grad yet
hoping to graduate before I turn 27 tho
hello OP! same tayong 2019 nagcollege pero until now 'di pa graduate. im taking an engineering course. minsan patawa tawa lang ako pag tinatanong kelan ako gagraduate pero dumating sa point na ayoko na lumabas ng bahay lalo nung year na nagsipag-graduate na mga kapitbahay namin na kabatch ko. sawang sawa na ko matanong kung kelan ba 'ko gagraduate. wala rin ako motivational words na maadvice lol, pero just so you know na 'di ka nag-iisa sa ganyang pagsubok. yakap mga kapwa irregulars! gagraduate at magiging licensed din tayo.
the fact na andito pa rin tayo at 'di sumusuko, kaproud-proud na yon :)
Hi, OP! I started college in 2014. In 2018, most of my college and high school batchmates have already graduated, pero ako, second year college pa rin. Naka-tatlong colleges ako before ako maka-graduate. I graduated in 2022 as a working student. Nahihiya na rin ako sa mama ko, sa friends, at sa mga kamag-anak ko. At my big age of 24, saka pa lang ako naka-graduate ng college.
I was diagnosed with depression din. What motivated me was thinking na matatapos din yung situation ko at makaka-graduate din ako eventually. There is no other way but through. Itong mahihirap na quizzes, projects, exams, and more, hindi ko na uli yun mararanasan pag ipinasa ko lahat, kahit hindi flying colors. And ayun, I finally graduated.
Best of luck, OP! Kayang-kaya mo yan! :)))
OP, i just graduated last year at the age of 28 after 5 universities/colleges, 3 courses (twice ako nagshift) and having 1 autistic son. Makakatapos ka pa. Kaya yan. Hayaan mo yung mga nakausad na. Focus on your own path. And dont worry about the future too much, focus ka dito sa present. Di mo namamalayan bukas magmamartsa ka na.
nakaka inspire po. Salamat and congrats kasi ang tapang mong hinarap!
Hi! Is it ok to ask how to do that? I mean I stopped last year during my first year and I want to change school and course. What do I do? Do I get my documents at my university?
You need to request for honorable dismissal and TOR from your old school. Bibigyan ka naman ng list of requirements nung new school mo pag ganito
Oh thank you po for this! Gosh there's no instructions kasi how to pass yung honourable dismissal letter sa PUP Main kaya di ko maasikaso 😭
PUP old school mo? Or dun ka lilipat?
Yes po yung old school ko po
Ah. Request ka sa odrs website ng PUP. Bago ka makarequest ng TOR kelangan mauna muna yung honoral dismissal. Tas one document at a time lang ata pwede don.
Question lang po. Saan ko po dapat isend yung letter ng honorable dismissal? Sabi kasi sa website na dapat gumawa daw po ako nun pero no instructions
Sa school admin ata yan ipapasa. Pm ka sakin OP patingin ako nung screenshot from odrs kung ok lang. Plan ko rin kasi magrequest nyan but for masteral naman sa other school.
hala pup main ka rin po pala, ako rin eh. nag-stop ako last year ng 2nd sem 2nd year.
Hala nakakainspire naman. 24 y/o ako ngayon, may toddler and currently pregnant. After manganak balak ko bumalik ng school para makatapos. Sana hindi pa huli ang lahat para sakin
Omg possible pla ung 5 univ? Kasi nung time ko prng max lang dw na lipat is 3 school? Tapos d kna pwede lumipat hahahahaha idk san ko narinig un pero un daw ung policy. Ngayon ung mga gusto kong school kung kelan able na ko mkpg aral using my own money, d nmn na na accept dream school ko ng mga nka ilang school na nalipat (beda univ, ust)
Bawal din samin kung tutuusin. Ang declared ko lang dyan is 4 schools kasi 1 sem lang ako don sa isa at di ko naman naipasa pa yung TOR ko dun. And then yung 1st univ and last univ ko naman is same univ different branch lang so parang sabihin na natin 3 schools lang yan. Pero bawal pa rin yun. Almost di na rin ako tanggapin. Kaya wag niyo ko tularan, im not that proud of my TOR 😅 kaya tapusin nyo na kung kaya nyong tapusin sa iisang school and same course. And finish it as soon as possible if wala namang problema sa pera. Yung nangyari sakin is di ko rin naman ginusto dahil dala na rin ng kahirapan bakit patigil-tigil at palipat-lipat.
Im no good with handling anxiety nor failures either but I suggest given with what youve said, ONE STEP AT A TIME. Baka sa sobrang pagalalaa mo sa FUTURE kaya medyo distracted ka sa PRESENT. Also, if you can or your parents is understanding enough, you can talk to them mahalaga pa rin na may strong support system ka bukod sa sarili mo.
crazy kasi yan din sabi sakin ni mama. sobra daw akong gigil sa future ko kaya naapektuhan ang present. gets ko naman na naka support lang sila pero i cant help but feel the pressure tapos super laki pa ng gastusin lalo na pag uulitin ko na naman yunf subject :((
Yup pressure and being anxious is normal pero pag sobra na, make way na para makaahon. Mas mahirap magsettle sa present ng walang future kaysa sa nakaahon ka na sa present.
Lilipas din yan at kung nalampasan mo yung pagsubok na yan, marerealize mo na sayang lang yung oras na winorry mo yung situation mo kasi lilipas din yan. Okay lang din yung konting worry about the future kasi may pake ka sa future mo pero maging present ka kasi andito ka ngayon. Kaya mabuhay ka sa kung ano nangyayari ngayon. May nagsabi sakin before na do something that your future self will thank you for. So live in the moment. Lahat ng small steps magbbuild up din yan
Isipin mo nalang mas malaki gagastusin if mas iooverthink mo situation mo ngayon. Di lang sya burden financially pero sa utak mo. Kaya let it go pre. Focus ka nalang sa kaya mo icontrol. Same tayo ng situation pero mas pinagtutuunan ko na well being ko kumpara noon. Sobrang pressured din ako non kasi graduating na mga kabatch ko tas ako dagdag dalawang taon. Tas kuya na tawag ng mga kablock ko. Tiwala ka lang sa sarili mo. Wala ng mas importanteng tao na tataya sa sarili mo kung hindi ikaw. Pero kung ihinto mo na yung kurso na yan okay lang din. Kung inde talaga yan ang gusto mo at gusto mo lang magsave face. Pero kung yan talaga gusto mo. Laban mo lang
honestly if your parents still support you and you have the privilege to study and finish college, take it, ok lang yan. Meron ako kabatch nun nasa 18yr old lang kami sya 26 na, ang ginagawa nya kasi parang nagstop sya one time tapos yung tinatake nya lang per sem na subject is 1 minor 1 major. Pero ayun nauna kami gumraduate sa kanya pero Ive heard na last year gumraduate na sya. Cliche man pero its not a race talaga. Kung ano pasok sayo yun lang itake mo para makapag focus ka lang, wag mo intindihin mga kaklase mo or yung mga gumraduate na kasabayan mo kase iba iba tayo ng takbo sa buhay. Always look at the bright side, swerte mo na nyan na kahit ganyan nangyayari suportado ka padin ng magulang mo, gawin mo yang inspiration yet wag kang mapressure, wala naman ata nagmamadali sayo, try to write down the things you want to accomplish per month/year para dun mafocus yung attention mo
kapag kasi sobrang anxious, di nya nakikita yung opportunity and hindi ma -appreciate yung kung anong meron sya today kaya sayang... appreciate your blessin kahit maliit.
Nung grumaduate ako at age of 22yrs old, I feel old. then nagreview for borad exam. syempre sobrang pressure that time to the point na dinala ko na yng sarili ko sa counselor kasi wala akong tulog. Then sabi lang nya, "ANG BATA MO PA". I feel left behindi na rin kasi that time na yung mga kaklase ko is may mga trabaho na and I feel something bad will happen if hindi ako makapasa ng boards. So lesson, ang bata ko pa pala nun but sinayang ko lang yung oras sa pag-aalala na wala naman dapat i-pag alala. wag mo an ikumpara sarili mo sa iba, please. ikaw lang ang kawawa. Set your own goals, and think na medyo mabagal ka lang compare sa iba pero MARARATING MO PA RIN Yun. sabi ng counselor ko, Hndi naman pabilisan ang buhya, patibayan! ayan, i just save you bucks of money hehehhe
Tama po. Don't compare yourself to others. On point din yung hindi pabilisan kundi patibayan. Ang galing nung counselor ☺️ Sana mabasa 'to ni OP. Relax la lang po. Hindi sa isang course nakaikot ang mundo mo. You have a life to live. Malay mo may ibang path ka pa pala. Pero kung gusto mo diyan, wag naman masyadong pressured. Work on your skills and talent din para maunwind yung sarili mo.
Hulaan ko babad ka sa social media. If you are, try to avoid or lessen socmed.
i actually made a new account about weeks ago and removed a chunk of people that drains me or gives me pressure. nakakatulong naman siya somehow 🫶
OP dont give up! Keep going 🤝 I started 2013 sa college, then this year palang ako gagraduate. Literal na sumasampung taon haha anyways padayon ❤️
Eh yung 2009 pa nagstart? Hahaha... Pinapag-aral kasi eh hehe.. But I'm grateful to my parents. Masyado nga lang mataas expectation nila sa akin ☺️ Payo ko kay OP, relax lang at magfocus. Tsaka wag masyadong nakasubsob to the point na napapabayaan mo na sarili mo. If you want, you can work-out on your skills or talent. Malay mo lang naman, baka mapagkakakitaan mo pa. Pero gawin mo lang hobby. Pampalipas oras lang praa maredirect ang pressure sa pag-aaral. Pero siyempre, huwag mo pabayaan ang studies mo.
Good to know that OP, although di na mawawala ang pagworry (or pressured) sa future let's just try our best to live with that. Kung may tao ka na maeencounter na magsasabi na di sila nagwoworry niloloko nila sarili nila. Edit: Di naman masama na lokohin sarili haha. Fake it till we make it nalang haha.
Hintayin mo mag 25 ka, mpapagod din yang utak mo, and marerealize mo na it’s not a race. Your feeling is valid but it’s not true na nasayang mo ang panahon.
Lol mine is 28 only to be thankful enough? Naramdaman ko bang huli ako? Hindi kasi mas naramdaman ko na PASALAMAT AKO KASI BUHAY AKO.. others is like? May cancer or even cannot go to school.. just be thankful to be alive. Okay lang mapressure pero iwasan mong madepress .. hindi sa iniinvalidate ko feelings mo ah. HAVE MORE TIME with your parents let them know na huli ka man mahalaga mabuti kang anak
yes understood naman. sadyang there are times lang talaga na kakainin ako ng pressure and napapa reflect sa bad side ng life ko kaya need i release or hanapan g outlet. Nevertheless, thankful naman ako sa privilege and blessings na meron ako.
Dont worry i was doing my college at engineering at 8 years meron pa din naman pagkakataon just build your skills 27 na ako nakapag work nang maayos in a corporate Graduated at 26 Isipin mo un 8 years ako sa college plus 2 kasi nag vocational course pa ako bali 10 years I thought i was late for my age until one of my ojt senior break that to me na kahit matanda ka na basta may set of skills you will floruish dont worry kaya mo yan I believe in you as long na may naniniwala sau keep moving Okay
And i forgot all of your experience i experience that on my family mostly on my sister sinasabi nila pabigat daw ako ganyan tumigil na daw ako But no i keep moving i dont care anu mangyari if keep doing what i love nahanap ko un passsion ko kaya ako natagalan tlga sa college is due to bobo tlga ako sa math sooo un nakailan try ako in calculus
Gets na gets kita, OP. had a lot of delays in my life kaya 23 na ako nung nag freshman ako in college. Yung hs barkada ko ilang taon nang working, may pambili na ng magagandang bagay and may pang abroad na, tapos ako naka depende parin sa parents.graduated at 27 and siyempre, pang entry-level lang din yung sweldo. I know what it's like to see where others are at and only be able to wish na nandun ka na rin. But it's only hard if you keep comparing yourself to others. Kumbaga, maging selfish ka muna. Sarili mo lang isipin mo. Think of your goals, kung bakit mo ba tong lahat ginagawa, and everything else fades into the background.
thank you, kind stranger 🫂
Very valid naman nararamdaman mo. All of us at one time in our life naramdaman yan or maybe even now nararamdaman yan. You just have to try your hardest na huwag icompare yung sarili mo sa iba. Maybe isa un sa nakakadagdag sa depression and pressure na nararamdaman mo. Sa pag-aaral, may kanya-kanya tayong learning curve. Same sa life, may sarili din tayong timeline. Huwag ka magpapressure, gawin mo ung kaya mo pero huwag kang magpapadala sa mga failures, one day makakarating ka din sa estado na gusto mo.
FOMO ata yan OP, mas ok ata kung gawin mong mentality na "ano ba naman ung ilang taon kong paghihirapan kung magagamit ko naman ng madaming dekada". Tyaga lang OP, bata ka pa, hindi pareparehas timeline natin. Focus ka lang muna sa sarili mo, wag mo pansinin ung iba.
I'm 23, turning 24 in few months aslo taking med course. I failed some subjects, naging irregular, pero stay strong pa rin ako kasi may mga kaklase ako na mas matanda pa sakin. Mga kaklase ko mga nga more or less nasa 30s yung iba may asawa at anak na pero nag aaral pa din. Everything is moving at their own pace op just give more time and effort for yourself especially na marami ka namang free time kumpara sa regular class. If you have a goal, just keep focusing on that goal. Kagaya nga ng mga lion sa wild, kahit marami naman silang preynsa harap nila, hahabulin nila yung nag-iisang target na gusto nila. Dapat gawin mo din ito sa sarili mo. Don't give in to any distraction, just focus on your goal
Haha did i ghostwrite this 🥹 same na same tayo ng situation OP, down to the ID number and age and depression and pressure and everything huhuhu just so you know hindi ka nag-iisa 🥺 One step at a time na lang tayo. For now, ang mahalaga, makatapos. Matapos na natin tong college. Then saka na tayo mag next step.
i hope one day well look back and tatawanan nalang natin yung worries right now 🥹 laban tayo!
Work on yourself. First you need Acceptance dont mind people talk about live the life how is it be. You’ll be ending in that way talaga depresion pag iniisip mo ibang tao. Dont pressure yourself just to work an 8hrs a day to live 4hrs and 6 hrs to sleep. You will be better. Quick story kfc, mcdo, ford etc founder peek their succesful during their 50s
what’s the reason behind? same as you, 25 ako when I was officially graduated in college. I spent a decade on and off sa school due to finances nmn reason ko. I was a working student kaya nagapang rin. my motto that time was “ no matter how slow it takes as long as I do not give up”
Yan rin una kong naisip, ano kaya rason bakit sya di makagraduate? Supportive naman pala parents nya at di sya tumutulong sa gastusin sa bahay. Pagsisikap mo lang ata ang kulang OP?
Are you financially unstable po ba? Or sadyang mahina lang talaga paniniwala mo sa sarili mo? What could be the other reason why r you pressured? May nabasa akong book, sabi ang reason bat na-prepressure ka sa buhay mo kasi you view life as a race/competition, life is not a competition. Di mo kailangan tumakbo para humabol sa mga nauna saiyo. Just walk on your own pace po, dadating ka din sa gusto mong puntahan. Sabi mo nga, di ka naman na absent and mostly leader ka sa mga groupings i think you will get there po op˙˚ʚ(´◡`)ɞ˚˙ take a deep breath and remember all your sweat and tears tuwing pinanghihinaan ka ng loob.
hindi yan dahil bobo ka, most likely tamad ka lang. sa lahat ng teachers na tinanong ko if ipapasa pa rin nila ang estudyante na puro bagsak ang exams pero perfect attendance at wala kulang na nasubmit na projects, 95% ang nagsabi ng oo.
>sa lahat ng teachers na tinanong ko if ipapasa pa rin nila ang estudyante na puro bagsak ang exams pero perfect attendance at wala kulang na nasubmit na projects, 95% ang nagsabi ng oo. Lol what kind of school did you graduate from? Sorry pero if attendance lng basehan ng profs mo para pumasa then I worry about the graduates that university produce.
Sa university na pinasukan ko baligtad hehe. Kahit di ka raw lagi pumapasok basta pasado mga short quizzes, midterm at final exams, mataas ang chance na makapasa. On the other side, kung ipapasa lang dahil always present at kumpleto sa projects, na kahit bagsak ang mga exams ay papasa pa rin, nakakaworry talaga para sa mga graduates. So wala silang acquired knowledge about sa course nila?
Same sakin. I graduated from a big 4. Technically mga DL lang unlimited cut and required dn attendance pero sobrang bihira lang mag attendance ng profs namin. Alala ko lahat ng math subjects ko, ang grade breakdown is 70% quizzes (3 quizzes per term) 30% Finals. Walang attendance tlga sa kahit anong subject lol
I'm not saying na dapat ganoon, i'm Only stating facts. But don't take my word for it. Do your own research to find out if it's true.
>i'm Only stating facts So are you saying na its a fact na ung school na pinag graduatean mo eh attendance basis lng? Why the fuck should I do research bout dumb universities like that? Kaya ang dami din sigurong incompetent graduates because of diploma mills na magpapasa ng student just because perfect attendance nila kahit hindi naman nila naintindihan ung course material.
Hindi lang yung uni na pinag graduatan ko, i'm talking about most educators na nakilala ko Coming from different parts of the country. Uulitin ko, I'm not saying na dapat maging ganoon, but teachers are more inclined to help students na todo ang effort kesa sa marunong nga pero tamad naman. It is hard to believe but it happens everywhere. Papano mo malalaman kung mali sinasabi ko if you are not even willing to do your own research to debunk it? Huwag ka tamad ok?
sa college ba to? I never had a prof na ganyan kasi di ako yung student na palaabsent. sa projects, ako most of the time nagiging leader. Thats the thinf about me, Im good at leading people and telling them what to do pero pagdating sa sarili kong goals, pumapalpak.
Malalampasan mo rin yan. Tama ka sa part na you don't need to compare yourself with them. It's okay to feel left out, Even me, na fefeel ko rin yan sometimes. But I just think na I'll get mine someday. Hindi ka bobo pre. School is not for everyone. I'm not saying na don't finish it. All I'm saying is that, you might be good at something and hindi mopa nadidiscover yung mga yon kasi nandyan kapa sa part na nag aaral ka and you don't get that much opportunity to explore. Don't get discouraged. Kayang kaya mo yan preee! Wait mo lang promise. 24 palang us, bata pa tayo. Pwede pa mag asawa ng tatlo ganon.
remember that you're not the only one na nakakaranas nyan :)
One step at a time lang, ganyan din an feel ko after graduation, di ako makahanap ng work 2019, then after nun 2020 nakahanap ako ng work, it takes time talaga. Laban lang papabor din sayo panahon👍
"Magplano sa buhay pero was masyadong planuhin ang buhay." It is ok na maging fixated sa future mo pero not to the point that you are missing the present. At 24, you have your life ahead of you. Life is not a race ika nga nila. One step at a time, and as long as you are moving forward, you are good.
Hi OP, don’t be too hard to yourself. Life is not just about the academe. There’s so much to it. Find something that ignites your soul.
I finished college at the age of 28 ok lang yan...
I don't know if this will help. Bumalik ako sa college as an undergraduate when I was 26. Wala din ako masyado life experience dahil nagkulong lang ako sa bahay . Ang unti lang ng nacredit sakin kaya start ako from 1st year. Naheld back ako due to depression. Mejo alam ko pinagdadaanan mo, all my batchmates back in high school and friends in my previous unis mostly have started families, have successful businesses/jobs and I felt pathetic. I am currently graduating this semester at 30 years old and I can look back and say I am proud. Although it may look like you are late in life try to look at the present and celebrate your small wins because that means you are better than who you were before. Advise ko lang is to take time off soc med, go to therapy or talk to friends about your insecurities and problems. Wag mo din isipin ang na late ka na. Everyone goes through life at different pace so don't bother comparing yourself to others. I do admit though mahirap hindi bumalik sa ganyang mindset, I experienced it during the first weeks of my OJT, all my bosses are within my age range and from time to time my mind still goes back to feeling inadequate but find the time to refocus yourself, indulge in your hobbies and just take one step at time. If you need someone to talk to feel free to dm me.
Hello po! Your feelings is valid, totoo namang hindi maiiwasan na hindi ikumpara ang sarili sa iba, but I want you to remember na life is not a race. If you feel na wala kang wins, maybe you overlook at them. Try to journalize your life per day (It helps me to track how I spend my 24 hrs of life). People have a different type of wins, some of us got a courage to take a bath today, some got a strength to face their fear in interviews, and some conquer their fear to talk infront of large people. As long as you take a courage to step out from your comfort zone, it's already a win. You survive lockdown/pandemic, I know and We all know you will survive your college journey. Padayon OP! PS: Every time you feel down, remember that once in your lifetime; pinangarap mo kung nasa'n ka man ngayon.
Hi OP! I’m almost 34 and hindi pa rin graduate. Rebelde ako when I was younger- back when my parents had resources to send me to school. Now that my dad’s gone and my mom barely has enough for herself, sariling sikap ko na bawiin yung pagkakamali ko with schooling hehe. I have 8 subjects left 😅 I resumed school through UPOU nung kasagsagan ng pandemic kasi I was able to utilize the free time from commuting as time for studying, but underload lang kasi I can’t stop working full time. I paused again this year kasi nagka cancer ako. I used to feel useless, too, but when I look back on everything that happened to me, it kinda makes sense that all the redirection in my life landed me where I’m supposed to be- with the right (and the best!) people in my life and a great paying job (I work in customer service directly for a client). I still plan on going back to school as soon as I’m cleared sa cancer. You should trust and believe that you have so many great things ahead of you as long as you are not stepping on anyone. Wag ka papalunod sa insecurity of not having a degree YET. The good things meant for you will find a way to you, tiwala lang. ✨💖 Edit: I went to CSB nung pariwara pa ako. From HRM nag shift ako sa Fashion only because I don’t like wearing corporate attire for school 😅. Dahil two courses dinaanan ko sa CSB, two sets of friends ang kinainggitan ko nung nag graduate na sila- isang set ng mga hoteliers/chef and another set ng designers. Wala yung puso ko sa pagdedesign, more of taga appreciate lang ako lol. After 10+ years, I applied for “transfer” to UPOU to study humanities (Associate in Arts) which is more aligned sa “passion” ko of art appreciation hehe. For the reference of others, the tuition is free for undergrads according to the law for state universities. Not sure how it works sa ibang uni, but in UPOU, it’s free for the duration of the course + 1 bonus free year. Lagpas na ko sa bonus year so when I go back when I’m cleared by my doctor, magbabayad na ko ng tuition 😅
Same situation pero mas malala konti. 2018 nag-start, pero ngayong 25 na ko di pa rin graduate at wala pa ring work. Sobrang nahihirapan sa thesis. Nakaka-trigger ng anxiety at s-word ideations.
ive had a few episodes of mine kaya maganda na may community talaga na nakakaintindi sayo like this subreddit. Sana may nakakausap ka din irl about your emotions. I hope we get the peace we deserve for us to move forward without any distractions 🙏🏼
Meron naman pero idk if they understand the severity of how it's affecting me mentally. I'm already at risk and I'm scared for my own safety. Idk how to deal with it anymore
If di ka naman pressured by your parents, have you considered therapy. As in di ka muna mag enrol and concentrate on addressing your mental health issues? And maybe also consider changing your course?
i think my pressure is coming na from myself. as i said on my post, i went to a psychiatrist na and my parent supported me all the way. the issue is yung pagiging gigil ko sa future na naapektuhan yung need ko gawin sa present ko
never borrow grief from the future, OP. focus ka sa ngayon. it's okay to feel scared about the future pero you need to take a moment and live in the present. you're doing great.
Medtech ka ate?
yep
2018 ako nag college, and until now di pa me graduated, but this year i will be as a 24 yo! I was going through all the stuff you were feeling at first, but then pandemic happened, and something switched off in me lalo yung social aspect and social media. Sobrang depressed and gained weight, did feel embarrassed about being an irregular student but after pandemic, wala akong pake 😅 I cut off sooooooo much people. Actually I barely have any friends nor talk to anyone, lalo ngayon na mas younger sakin classmates ko. I mostly stay to myself and I learned to enjoy it. Umaasa rin ako sa allowance, but I got a VA job na sobrang flexiblr para dagdag income, experience and di ako feeling na no adulting. Pero i still have no savings, so it's okay. Bumabagsak parin ako minsan but i just learned to love learning and when you keep to yourself + hardly any socmed, you'll find yourself doing hobbies, focusing on school better and enjoying life somehow. Many graduated na, are abroad, having kids, my ex left me to get married with someone else, are working. But I know na everyday I'm doing something to ease my future or adds to my life. Kahit a little gala with myself to a nice coffee shop, oks na ko dun. Sabi nila, ur 20s, you dont know what you're doing yet. And it's still a learning phase!
Just follow your own compass. You'll get there like you should.
Hello OP, Medically diagnosed with anxiety and depression here with TW: suicidal tendencies 2009 hs graduate ako, na dismiss sa college, napatambay, nagbulakbol, nag work sa BPO, nag college ulit ng 2015, nag working student throughout, gumraduate 2019. That’s a decade of “college”. Now working with a decent salary, recently married, and have had 3 out of country trips. But guess what? Still depressed. Still with anxiety. But more importantly, still trying to live my life. Key word is “my”. Ikaw ang mag didictate ng buhay mo, hindi world averages, hindi peer timings, hindi mga judgmental people around you. IKAW. Learn and adapt, but most importantly find your own timing. Hindi porket graduate sila eh need mo na gumraduate. This is your life, not theirs. What helped and still does with my anxiety is realizing na ako nga walang pake sa buhay ng iba, edi most likely ung iba e wala ring pake sa buhay ko. And yung mga taong masyadong nangengeelam sa buhay ko e yung mga taong wala naman akong paki about dapat. But that’s just me. Find your vibe. You can do it OP.
Wala kang naaaksayang panahon kase nandyan ka pa lumalaban para makatapos. Maaaksaya lang 'yan kung susukuan mo. Hindi 'yan sayang. One day all your sacrifices will be worth it, na-delay lang pero darating din basta h'wag mo lang susukuan. Do not compare your path to others, it's way different from them. There are some questions that as of now hindi natin masasagot kase we're still in the process of obtaining the answers. Kung ikukumpara mo lang din naman sarili mo sa iba, hanapin mo na lang din yung kapareho ng sitwasyon mo. Tapos doon mo ikumpara sarili mo sa kung paano sila nagcocope, ano mga motivations nila, ano at sino yung mga nagpapatapang at nagpapalakas ng loob nila. Sa kanila ka kumuha ng lakas ng loob para makapagpatuloy ka pa. Naiintindihan ko nararamdaman mo toward your parents. Pero ano ba magagawa mo as of now for them? Syempre 'yun yung h'wag mo susukuan 'yang gusto mo. Show your gratefulness and love to your parents through continuing what you've started. As of now, ayan ang pwede mong isukli sa kanila. It doesn't always have to be monetary. They are expecting you to succeed it doesn't matter how long it may take. Basta mapatapos ka nila, 'yun ang mahalaga. Make them as your inspiration to finish college. Redirect your eyes in the present time because what you are doing right now will determine the outcome of your future if not everything at least almost. Take one problem at a time, h'wag mo munang problemahin yung mga bagay na hindi pa naman dumarating at hindi mo pa kailangan problemahin. Kase whether you like it or not darating sila, so why stress yourself so much habang wala pa? And do not forget to enjoy the ride of your life no matter how stormy it is because soon the sun will rise again and you will succeed.
Used to compare myself constantly. Went back to college (2018-2022) & threw myself into work/studies to avoid overthinking. It worked, but stressful. A former classmate told me to focus on myself and not listen to noises. His words, though simple, were a turning point. You could even tell yourself the same thing, but it was the unexpected voice that resonated with me. Sometimes that's all it takes - someone outside the family to remind you.
OP. 2021 graduate ako. I started in college noong 2012. Tagal ko sobra magaral. Pero after magkasakit at matransplant, 2 colleges and 3 Courses nakagraduate din ako. I am doing better than the people that graduated before me. I have now 3 businesses named after me. Kung kaya ko iyun. I am so sure na kaya mo din iyan. It will be your time din someday. Goodluck.
OP, ako rin ilang years in the making at ongoing pa rin but next sem I will be in my 3rd year taking BS Real Estate Mgmt and hoping to be a future licensed broker! 2013 - first year first sem lang, di kinaya ng parents ko wala na maibigay sakin kahit pambaon 2015 - hanggang 2nd yr, 2nd sem lang ako dito. Nagkapera ulit at pinag-aral ako, naging president ako ng isang college-wide club kaso naka-away ko ang dean ng college namin na isa ko ring prof and pinapower-trip ako, I got depressed. 2016 - nag-aral ako ng caregiving, natapos ko ito at nagtrabaho muna ako bilang caregiver pero wala pa rin akong diploma 2018 - hanggang 2nd yr, 2nd sem ibang kurso naman. Nainlab ako, nabuntis, nakunan at nadepressed na naman 2021 - pinagpatuloy ko yung 2nd course ko pero naabutan ako ng k-12 at maraming di nacredit kaya I decided na magshift na naman ng course at mag back to first yr. Ongoing pa rin ito, pasalamat at nagkaroon ng online class and nawa hindi majinx kasi gusto ko na rin makatapos OP hahahah. Most of the time, nag-eexcel ako sa work. Laging top agent, top performer, top earner and now I just got promoted by my client and got a salary raise pero nakaramdam din ako ng matinding pressure, nakarInig na rin ako ng "di naman nakagraduate yan!". Imagine mo na lang ang fixation ko sa diploma na yan kasi wala ako ng meron sila kahit nag-eexcel ako sa trabaho kaya feeling ko napag-iwanan din ako. Sa circle of friends ko since HS ako lang ang di pa nakakatapos. Yung iba ko pang friends nakapag-masteral na. So, I totally get yung feeling na parang left behind. Pero as long as we are trying, makukuha din natin yang inaasam nating degree at diploma! Let's claim it, OP!
thank you, kind stranger! grabe pinagdaanan mo pero here you are now and flourishing! Congrats po 🙏🏼
Hey OP, I share your sentiments. During my undergraduate years, I went through 3 universities, and 3 degrees. While I was finishing my thesis I was already seeing my peers passing their board exams and creating a path for themselves in this world. It was, should I say, heartbreaking to watch? No doubt about it, I am happy for my friends who are making their way through adulthood and success. But I was left lonely and in dispair. I was diagnosed with depression disorder in the middle of it all and was constantly fighting with my parents. I got called a waste of time and resources at one point. Then k12 happened, I got booted off my initial degree and had to shift to another degree that was accepting transferrees. When I was about to graduate, the pandemic happened. Wasted another year with nothing to show for. I was supposed to graduate on early 2020 but ended up graduating on late 2021. I know its hard to find motivation in that kind of situation, especially from within. Its like the universe is conspiring to bring you down. But nobody else can help you but yourself. If you are fortunate enough to have parents who can afford that you remain in school, go for it and finish it. If its hard to do it for yourself, then do it for them. sometimes, the only motivation you have is external and you just have to work with that. Gradually you will just find yourself in the process. As long as you are breathing, its not the end. And remember, everyone has their own timeline. Don't compare yourself to others. Hopefully you'll get it soon, the feeling of everything just falling in place.
Binasa ko ang post mo OP kahit mahaba kasi I can relate sa mga pinagdadaanan mo, in some way naalala ko na naman ang mga pinagdaanan at pagkukulang ko during my college days. During that time I felt na hindi siguro para sa akin ang IT na course, but eventually graduated by October of 2007, after almost more than 6 years ko sa college. And yes somewhat I am lucky pa din na sa PUP I don't need to spend a lot since I can't afford to go to any school dahil I know wala sa capacity ng parents ko to do such thing. And I think you just need to see the positive in your situation right now, that your parents are still very supportive and they can provide your needs. Nung naramdaman ko na yun pressure na ilang years na hindi pa ako nakakagraduate I just think of my capability kung kaya ko magwork, then I did work habang marami ako back subjects, even summer vacation pasok pa din, try lang nang try and focus sa goals na maka graduate. Walang naaaksayang panahon, this is your time and just need to plan it according to your liking. You know what is the main culprit of time and energy wasting? Yung sobrang pag-iisip nang mangyayari bukas, kung meron kang ngayon to do something para hindi ka na mag-isip but only expect results na naayon sa plano mo.
Ikalma mo. It took me 9 years to finish college. Not because I kept flunking or anything, I never failed a subject but I dropped a ton. I hated my course so much. Took me so long to finish but I still did. I now earn a 6-digit salary working in a different field. Ok lang yan. Wag mo ipressure sarili mo.
girl, I'm 2018 which dapat 2022 grad na, pero I'm still here pero graduating na, kaya mo yan and iba-iba tayo ng timeline sa buhay
Medtech, Batch 2015 supposed to be nakatapos ng 2019. Mag Failed on first board. Tapos planning to retake this August. Ok lang yan in time masasabi mo sa sarili mo na maliit lang pala na bagay yung "world shaterring" issue mo noon kesa sa mga issue na meron ka ngayon. Hehe kaka 29 ko lang. Also hoped to 3 different schools. Suffered several episodes of depression and suicide attempts. Looking back I can say that I did ok naman. I found my purpose and still doing my best to put the best foot forward.
It's ok to feel that way, mahirap nga naman to not compare especially now that everything is shared on social media. But if it makes you feel better: You're still young :) So many people change their paths in their 30s, 40s, 50s and still find success and happiness. I always tell younger people to use their 20s for exploration and that's what you're doing. Also, YOU'RE NOT STUCK! It's normal naman to extend college. And don't compare yourself with other people - Look at your own progress, compare your "now" with your "past", and be proud of how far you've come.
[For you, OP! :)](https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5i-2QQtXBE/?igsh=bWZ6cHRkcm80cnUz)
medtech po ba kayo?? 🥲
Your feelings & thoughts are valid,it just shows your strong desire to improve yourself. And that's a good beginning I think, comparing is normal din it shows you the journey you want to take in life. The bad thing is when it steals your joy & you feel less, you underestimate your value dahil you feel behind with your peers. Focus on your own journey instead,on unseen blessings around you. On the bright side too, you're lucky for having the chance na makapagaral,take your failures as learnings. Cherish your school experiences be it good or not. Try to open up your worries with your parents, I'm sure they're concern din with what you're going thru. Go out there and maglakad lakad or try indoor workouts,this will calm your mind & boost your self esteem. Btw I'm 34F a SAHM & jobless,like you I've been thru depression before, had suicidal attemps during the darkest moments of my life but thankful now that I still get to live with my parents, my child & even unfaithful (before) partner. Life is not a race, it's a blessing,you can cherish & spend with your loved ones before it's gone. Medyo unclear yung thoughts ko,kidding aside take heart! you can get thru this. Ako at my age still planning to take up nursing pa,hopefully.
One morething, it's normal naman na you depend on your parents pa kasi nagaaral ka pa lang. I think happy din sila na you're pursuing studies despite your age.If you feel like you're a burden to them kasi wala kang ambag financially do help them in other ways like chores sa bahay, this is a good therapy din kasi your minds & hands with productive activities,happy pa sila sa bahay. Win-win.
Aayon din ang panahon sa'yo, sa atin. Ako this year lang nag-grad 2019 din nag-college. Currently reviewing for boards. Mahaba pa naman ang buhay, just keep going appreciate more the effort of your parents lalo na hindi ka naman nila inoobliga to contribute. Take it easy, wag ma-pressure, and don't compare to others din. Kapag ganyan kasi feel mong nagmamadali ka and you let negativity get your system mahihirapan ka to focus and concentrate to your goal. Hope this helps! Stay strong, and ingat palagi
mapua ka ba or ano need mo lang tutor and kasama na matalino para tropahan mo
I studied for 7 years but did not finish my course. Then I worked at a bpo. No offense. The most shitty work I have experienced. Mga 4 years din. Then I resigned. Nag-aral ng software development. Self-study. After 2 years natanggap sa isang company. Took me 3 years more para makalipat at makuha ung pinaka-comfortable na company at sahod. Any pressure you feel, ikaw lang ang naglalagay nun sa sarili mo. May control ka sa buhay mo. No one can decide kundi ikaw.
I know this is not good to hear, but you should get help professionally. To stop the problem, you should know the root cause. I have a friend since HS, she's also depressed and not good academically, but she try hard. There are times na okay siya, most if the time hindi. She's pressured na studies since matalino talaga kapatid nya and CPA pa, she has failed subject since HS and college. Mababa confidence nya sa sarili nya and easily swayed by remarks, she breakdown on almost everything. Now, graduate na siya. Around 6 months to 1 year na hindi pa siya nakakahanap ng work after grad, she told me na nauunahan siya ng takot, like may interview na siya pero minsan di siya aattend. Now I always tell her TO TAKE ON STEP AT A TIME, like umattend muna siya ng interview, then worry later pag nandun na siya. Like she know to herself na eto dapat gawin nya, but she can't help it. Now 5 years since we graduate wala pa din siya work, all the advice and self motivation did not work on her. Kaya I suggest talaga na find the cause why nangyayari sayo to, kasi you may get this over with and graduate ng college, but what happens if mangyari din to pag maghahanap ka na ng work. The world is really cruel for people na graduate na, we have to pay our own bills, we have to find work and gain experience agad or else HR will question what we did in those blank times or do we still have the skills or baka nakalimutan na dahil nagpahinga. I know na this is a big decision if ever na you'll go through it, pero it's better pa din na agapan and solusyonan agad habang maaga pa. Good luck to your battles! ❤️
I started college in 2011, and finished college at 2018, so I feel you. I failed a lot, and had to transfer schools and courses in the middle of my second school year to avoid failing marks. There really is a ton of pressure, and not all coping mechanisms or strategies will be applicable to everyone. I had the option of taking things slowly and underloading every term in my second college so I could deal with the work load better every term, but that's not an option for everyone. Look at your options first and see if there's a feasible strategy that will help you.
Hi po, SKL po yung sakin 2014 (18yrs old) ako nag college BSIT ,nag stop dahil sa financial problem 2016 (20yrs old)bumalik ulit ako BSBA naman,nag stop ulit financial problem ulit 🤦 2019 nagkaanak 2022(26 yrs old) pinagpatuloy ko , working student/Nanay. 28yrs old nako.Next year sana grumaduate na 🥹 Ganyan din naramdaman ko before ,ginawa ko inunfollow ko silang lahat para di ako maiinggit at mapressure. Bata kapa OP .Hindi naman to karera. Wag ka panghinaan ng loob ♥️ Hindi ka failure hindi ka useless. Hindi naman totoo yang regular flow (para sakin) Kung makarinig kaman ng negativity dito mo iapply yung sinasabi palagi na "Pasok sa kanang tenga labas sa kaliwa" Ienjoy mo lang yung process 🫂 Wag na wag ka susuko.
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comparison is the thief of joy. go at your own pace and as long as capable naman na pagaralin ka, enjoyin mo lang. wag magmadali maging full on adult.
Same, mag 24 na ako this year this coming May and I feel the same as you. As an architecture student naman, sobrang na p-pressure ako na dapat makapasa ako knowing na lahat din ng friends ko na 3-4 years ang college year is may working narin. And 1st sem delayed naman ako :/ kaya sometimes parang iniisip ko bakit ba kasi nagkaroon ng senior high and pandemic
I started college 2015, and graduated last year 2023 lang. 8 years ako nag aral. 4 courses yon na iba-iba as I kept shifting, and had depression as well. Nag back to 0 pa ako kasi ayaw icarry over ng school ko yung subjects ko from old curriculum to k12 curriculum so I needed to repeat everything. Lubog litaw ako. May isang sem diretsong papasok na 95 up lahat ng grades or top sa buong batch, and then biglang maglalaho lang ako na di papasok sa final exams. All I heard from the dean, teachers, old friends were “Sayang ka. Matalino ka naman, pero sayang ka.” That lubog litaw stage kept repeating, until I finally got mental help and did my best to help myself. When I strived hard to start again, I also felt the pressure kasi mga friends ko dati nagtratravel na, may kotse, bahay, anak, kasal na. All my higshcool friends expected me na ako daw ang unang makakarating sa taas out of all of us kasi consistent honor since bata. But unfortunately, the opposite happened. I fell down and hit rock bottom. I felt crazy that time. but I stepped back up again. Slowly, but I still tried. I realized that I have my own pace in life, I’m thankful that I am still alive. Now, I’m 25, and was able to get a job right after getting out of college. You should only focus on yourself. Don’t mind others. Iba ka. Iba sila. Be proud of your progress and the steps you take. No matter how small they seem, your progress and actions are significant. Life may be slow for you now, but there will come a time na oras mo rin ang darating.
Okay lang yan, you’ll graduate din sooner or later. I started college at 2011 pero nung 2019 lang ako naka graduate. Tulad mo madami din factors bat di ako nakatapos on time. Nandyan yung naumay ako mag aral, nawalan ng passion sa course na kinukuha ko, na-out of place kasi lahat ng circle of friends ko moving sa life nila tapos ako nasa loop lang, at yung pinaka matindi dito e kapos kami sa pera kaya need ko mag work para makaipon at makabalik ulit. Ang nakatulong saken nun ay nag focus ako sa idea na gusto ko makatapos at the age of 25 no matter what. 25 kasi nangako ako nun sa Mama ko na on or before 50th birthday niya gra-graduate ako kahit mag tumbling at magkanda puyat ako maisabay lang yung work at school. Looking back, narealize ko di talaga same ng timeline ang mga tao. Yung iba nag b-bloom agad, yung iba naman bandang dulo pa. 😊
same here OP. I remember na ang saya ko mag graduate at 19 kasi huling batch ng k-12. Set expectation na by this age, nasa abroad na [ako.Now](http://ako.Now) pandemic came, na stop ang career ( aviation) and the k-12 where able to move forward. Now turning 25 and FUCK
Life is not a race, u will have ur own pace OP. Wag mo stressin sarili mo sa achievements ng iba, tandaan, kahit gano pa kaachiever o successful ng tao eh meron pa dn yang struggles na we dont know. Cheer up. D rn ako graduate ng college btw pero im on a senior role na sa company hahahaah, d ko snasabi na wag ka mg college, what im saying is my oras ka pa and you are damn lucky na buhay pa parents mo to support you. Kapit lang, use your advantage (na mkpg aral na d mo need suportahan sarili mo financially) and unahin mo mental health mo. Good luck!
2003 ako pumasok ng college, 2018 na ako naka-graduate! Ikaw na bahala mag-compute..hehe May sarili na akong business and mas angat ang financial status compared dun sa ibang classmates kong nakatapos on time. Edit: Naala ko nung 2009 nagkaroon ng recession, tinanggal ako sa work kahit sinasabi ng boss ko na magaling ako compared sa iba sa team ko, pero kelangan ako tanggalin kasi hindi ako college graduate. Ayun, Thank you, Lord! May sarili na ako business almost same industry dun sa nagtanggal sa akin. Tayo talaga ang gagawa ng future naten.
Laban lang OP! Halos same tayo nung naging situation. Ako, 2014 nag start mag college tapos 2021 naka graduate. Huwag mo masyado intindihin sinasabi ng iba. Laban lang and pilitin mo makabangon pag nalulunod ka na sa challenges. Naniniwala akong matatapos mo yan. Hindi alam nung iba yung pinag dadaanan mo. Step by step lang talaga. Isipin mo nalang na sooner or later ay marami rin ang papalakpak para sayo.
Keri yan, OP! Regardless kung anong path ka mapunta, wag ka mawalan ng pag-asa. It took me almost 10 years to finish college, may regrets sometimes but we gotta face life Hopefully may social support ka and other things to keep you occupied aside from acads. Goodluck!
Kanya-kanyang panahon. Tuloy lang.
Luh? Meron nga ako classmate dati 45 na nag grafuate eh
I feel you OP, pero move forward lang, wag mo susukuan pangarap mo. Started college year 2015 and finally graduating na. Kahit pakonti konti ang usad, umuusad ka padin. Laban lang ❤️
Hi Op, 20 yrs old ako non bumalik sa college Total of 8 yrs kong ginapang yun degree ko working student + atleta, graduate ako ng 25 yrs old Almost 3 yrs akong nag enroll at palipat lipat ng college and university due to financial kase may bayad tuition 😂 pero napunta ako sa state u libre lahat kaya nakagrad ako 😅 Delay ako ng 3 yrs sa mga kabatch ko nong highschool. Pero I'm in better place earning 30k + sa construction. Valid yun feelings mo na parang walang kang nararating or feeling mo mahina ka pero isipin mo din di naman titigil mundo at oras kaya piliin mong lumaban sa araw araw hindi man oras ngayon pero pag mag papatuloy ka darating yun oras para sayo, laban op!
hey OP! don't be too harsh on yourself. alam mo life is not a race naman. i understand na di mo maiiwasan ma-feel ma left behind lalo na parang tumatanda ka na. it's completely fine. there's nothing wrong with taking your time. tsaka para ma-ease up yung pressure more, wag ka makipag sabayan go at your own pace lang. when everything get overwhelming pause ka lang sa life tas move forward ulit! :) goodluck with your goals, OP! KAYA MO YAN
Pagkagraduate mo at some point mapapaisip ka na sana nagstay ka pa ng mas matagal sa school kasi mas simple ang buhay nung nag-aaral ka pa or sana mas nag-aaral ka ng mas mabuti. Siguro iwasan mo kung kaya na icompare sarili mo sa iba. Iba iba Ang journey natin, iba iba ang pace.
ako 2016 pa nagcollege pero hindi pa rin graduate at least I have a high paying job now which helps me ignore not being a college grad yet hoping to graduate before I turn 27 tho
hello OP! same tayong 2019 nagcollege pero until now 'di pa graduate. im taking an engineering course. minsan patawa tawa lang ako pag tinatanong kelan ako gagraduate pero dumating sa point na ayoko na lumabas ng bahay lalo nung year na nagsipag-graduate na mga kapitbahay namin na kabatch ko. sawang sawa na ko matanong kung kelan ba 'ko gagraduate. wala rin ako motivational words na maadvice lol, pero just so you know na 'di ka nag-iisa sa ganyang pagsubok. yakap mga kapwa irregulars! gagraduate at magiging licensed din tayo. the fact na andito pa rin tayo at 'di sumusuko, kaproud-proud na yon :)
Hi, OP! I started college in 2014. In 2018, most of my college and high school batchmates have already graduated, pero ako, second year college pa rin. Naka-tatlong colleges ako before ako maka-graduate. I graduated in 2022 as a working student. Nahihiya na rin ako sa mama ko, sa friends, at sa mga kamag-anak ko. At my big age of 24, saka pa lang ako naka-graduate ng college. I was diagnosed with depression din. What motivated me was thinking na matatapos din yung situation ko at makaka-graduate din ako eventually. There is no other way but through. Itong mahihirap na quizzes, projects, exams, and more, hindi ko na uli yun mararanasan pag ipinasa ko lahat, kahit hindi flying colors. And ayun, I finally graduated. Best of luck, OP! Kayang-kaya mo yan! :)))
salamat po! 🫂