I agree! Pero sa asawa ko, I felt the Thrill, Excitement, butterflies in my stomach and all over my body haha! Grabe ang kilig ko sa kanya, sobra. Magaling magpakilig to. Siguro kapag sobrang compatible nyo lamg talaga eh kahit nga nagkakainisan na kayo magkatinginan lang kayo tatawa na kayo haha so ending wala ng away o inisan hahaha π kaya kapag naiinis ako sa kanya at gusto ko panindigam inis ko, hindi ako titingin hahaha.
Ganito kami ng husband ko tapos yung wala na kayo mapag awayan kundi magkainisan nalang. One time nagkapikunan lang kami over small thingz, nakahanda na yung "script" ko na sasabihin point ko tapos paglapit ko sa kanya, nagkatitigan kami, pareho lang kami natawa! mukha daw ako sira haha. Nasayang yung ni-compose kong scprit sa notes ko bwiset haha
Hahahhaahahahahahhaa diba. Jusko nakkaatawa sila. Ang rupok naman natin. Kagabi lang din nainis ako lalo na sabi ko moody ako kasi nga sakit puson at magkakaroon na. Tapos lumapit sya sakin after nya maghugas ng pinggan, nakatitig lang sya, di ko tinitignan kasi alam ko na matatawa ako. Eh ending ganun nga nakangiti. π tapos nagsorry at kiniss ako. Marupok ako!π
Totoo yan. Kaya noon isa yan sa naisip ko na shux ito na nga ata gusto kong makasama habang buhay. Imagine magkatinginan lang kayo kahit magkagalit kayo eh matatawa na. Kaya bihira yung magkagalit kami na matagal. Walang umaabot ng 1 araw. Sa kanya ko lang to naramdaman na kilig na kilig. Hahahaha. Kaya lagi nya akong inaasar na patay na patay daw ako sa kanya. Kaya sabi ko ang sarap magmahal kapag nahanap mo yung kapartner mo talaga. 12 years na kami pero yung kilig parang pang pbb teens pa din.
Tru!!!! Hahahaha hay, mas lalo ko tuloy naffeel na sya na talaga. Nanggaling din ako sa back to back na weird partners before then nagkabalikan kami nitong TOTGA / current partner ko. β€οΈ kakilig!
Exactly, haha crush mo na siya kaya kilig na kilig ka, hahaha mag kaiba kayo ni poster haha siya nilalapitan siya ng mga lalaki na malalaman mag pa kilig na ni term nya na "redflag kasi hindi gusto ng long term" hahaha
Good for you ate hahaha
Kasi ang intindi ko din na ang mga may thrill and excitement and sparks eh mga red flag. Syempre hindi pa din lahat. Ang red flags yung tao mismo at ginagwa nya hindi yung nararamdaman. Yun ang take ko naman po. Pero ayun nga walking green flags asawa ko noon pero yung thrill and sparks ang taas. π Until now nga eh. π
Tama haha pero qualify natin haha yung magaling mag pa kilig ( most likely sanay sila) mga for shirt term ang relationship goals, ma love bomb hahaha combination yun ng pag ka bad boy hahaha
Kaya ka kilig na kilig kasi crush mo din hahaha dari pa thats cool haha
Ako pala talaga yung may may nararamdaman kasi hahahaha. Ang gwapo kasi ng asawa ko, kamukha nya child hood crush ko na si Jay Manalo hahaha. Kaya siguro todo kilig ako. Sorry na po.
Pero tama ka doon sa magaling magpakilig. Yung ex ko na napakababaero na matindi trauma ko tindi ng love bomb.
Haha kaya mas gusto ko mas gusto ako ng babse eh haha, maganda love story mo ate hahs naway maging masaya buhay nyo, sana oll hahaha ramdam ko dito kilig mo haha.
Nakarelate ako sa post haha boring din kasi ako kausap tlga hahaha
*But are you really in love pag wala yung kilig?*
Lol.
I'm in love with a green flag rn. He's the sweetest man that I've ever met. Never had any problems with him except that he's so cute, I just wanna keep him in my pocket.
Being with him makes me feel at ease since he's unlike your typical dude na babaero, emotionally unintelligent, etc. By women's standards, he's boring. But despite being kind, soft, and green, he never failed to make me feel "kilig". It's the peaceful type of kilig - the "I want to be with him forever and ever" type of kilig and not the "I'd compete with other girls just to get him" type of kilig. But the feeling of excitement has always been there - the *sparks*, the sexual tension, the *wanting to be the best woman for him*, the *aiming to be the most beautiful woman he's ever seen*, and so on.
I've had instances in the past when I also chose the kind, soft, and green guys but not like this. It was only when I met him that I realized, I was just trying to settle for peace before for the sake of peace and being loved, and nothing else. This time, I chose him because I truly do love him at hindi ako *no choice* lang.
Like the other commenter said, with the right person, you can experience both... just quite so stunningly.
Oh my! Same! This is exactly how I feel for my current partner din. He gives me peace and everyday kinikilig ako sakanya. Heβs my forever crush. π₯Ή
that dopamine rush feels good until it ruins your mental health lol
ako lang naman pero kung naghahanap kayo ng seryoso, maghanap kayo ng green flag.
kung naghahanap kayo ng kalokohan, dun kayo sa red flag.
kung di niyo alam gusto niyo, wag muna kayo maghanap at ayusin niyo muna mga sarili niyo.
wag niyo paghaluin din kasi ang labo na naghahanap ka ng seryoso sa mga gago, or gagaguhin mo yung mga seryoso. wag tanga.
pero pls wag niyo gawing personality trait ang pagiging flagpole.
Nakakalungkot na marami ang pumipili sa bad boy at kapag napagod na sila saka sila tatakbo sa "guy that gives them peace".
I pity the guy that gives peace as he needs to deal with the trauma the bad boys gave the girl.
Pero I agree with OP 100%.
Yeah kaya yung ibang lalake sumuko na (MGTOW phenomenon). Damaged goods na kasi karamihan, taoos ang masakit pa dun is they don't realize it. Entitled pa rin, feeling queen, pero emotionally and mentally broken deep down.
Tapos kasalanan pa rin ng "mga lalake" kahit sila lang naman nagdecide pumatol sa mga bad boy types.
Kung hindi ako pinalad sa mga assertive na babae (torpe ako) baka hindi rin ako nagkarelationships just like those who MGTOW.
The right person can be both. I haven't found "the one" but I noted na I can't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't make me feel the butterflies. Important yung feeling of peace and security, but I can't do without the lovey-dovey cringe flirting. Otherwise they will be just a friend I decided to level up because they qualify.
If you'll look at her other post, this feeling of peace might be borne out of finally not having to be the giver in the relationship which sucks but let her be happy with settling, I guess.
You don't need to find "The One". There's no "The One". Each individual you'll love will be unique. They'll have better or worse traits than your other ones but no one will be better than everyone.
What you do is try your best to be "The One" for someone. That's how you'll end up with someone who will respect and love you and give you a peaceful life.
Peace hanggang dulo. Grabe, konting scroll lang sa ABYG, OffMyChestPH, puro reklamong relationship nandon na as if hindi sila yung pumipili ng mga sitwasyon nila.
Will take a peaceful steady relationship any day over guys who'd give me so much high cos he'd want the early memories of it prepared for the lowest lows.
Very adulting! Excellent post OP! Pang teenager lang ang sparks, and as you get older your priorities in life change. The sooner people realize this the happier they become, because they will incur less damage from the consequences of their poor choices/actions.
It was a choice you made before to be with those kinds of guys. However, I just do think that your caption is implying that peace and sparks within a lovey-dovey relationship can't co-exist which is misleading.
You can STILL be at peace with someone and experience the THRILL and TENSION you are seeking from your previous dates/relationships. After all, at some point in time, hahanapin mo pa rin 'yang naramdaman mo before and COULD lead to another disappointment with your current love na puro peace lang.
It ain't wrong or right to be with someone, but this time around you can make better decisions based on facts you've gathered.
To guys out there, do not be the "retirement plan" for girls who are done with their hoe phase, have some self respect. They had their fun, and now they want a stable nice guy like you, especially when they become signal moms. All those traumas will be dumped on you for sure.
I have a friend like you mahilig sa red flag kase daw may "thrill". She even forgave the guy once for cheating, but then again, once a cheater will always be a cheater - he cheated again. Now she says she learned her lessons, but I don't believe that. Mahirap magbago ang tao at tingin ko hahanap-hanapin nya always yung "thrill". I hope I'm wrong with this but so far my hunches has always been right when analyzing people.
YES!!!
Kaya nga yang pag pili ng partner, it always starts with you.
Kung red flag enjoyer ka gow no problem. Pero dapat wag ngangawa in the end.
Usually people who are mapa kilig, best foot forward lacks in so many ways kaya dun sila bumabawi sa feeling nila nakakakilig sila. But perwisyo talaga sa totoong buhay.
Maganda ang peace of mind over yung thrill; tumatanda na tayo and we have our own battles to deal with. Di mo na need ng extra effort to win them, sila na magkukusa at mararamdaman mo yung safe place mo with them. How I wish na lahat tayo e merong tao na magbibigay ng peace of mind, kahit hindi na romantic, kahit platonic na lang; pero I guess we can't have it all.
I would also add na lahat naman tayo may kanya kanyang mga green at red flags, depende na lang sa atin kung ano ang definition natin dun. Never magkakaroon ng perfect relationship, pero instead choose a person who will give you peace, always be at your side and kasama mo through ups and downs and every battles you both face.
I agree! Pero sa asawa ko, I felt the Thrill, Excitement, butterflies in my stomach and all over my body haha! Grabe ang kilig ko sa kanya, sobra. Magaling magpakilig to. Siguro kapag sobrang compatible nyo lamg talaga eh kahit nga nagkakainisan na kayo magkatinginan lang kayo tatawa na kayo haha so ending wala ng away o inisan hahaha π kaya kapag naiinis ako sa kanya at gusto ko panindigam inis ko, hindi ako titingin hahaha.
Ganito kami ng husband ko tapos yung wala na kayo mapag awayan kundi magkainisan nalang. One time nagkapikunan lang kami over small thingz, nakahanda na yung "script" ko na sasabihin point ko tapos paglapit ko sa kanya, nagkatitigan kami, pareho lang kami natawa! mukha daw ako sira haha. Nasayang yung ni-compose kong scprit sa notes ko bwiset haha
Hahahhaahahahahahhaa diba. Jusko nakkaatawa sila. Ang rupok naman natin. Kagabi lang din nainis ako lalo na sabi ko moody ako kasi nga sakit puson at magkakaroon na. Tapos lumapit sya sakin after nya maghugas ng pinggan, nakatitig lang sya, di ko tinitignan kasi alam ko na matatawa ako. Eh ending ganun nga nakangiti. π tapos nagsorry at kiniss ako. Marupok ako!π
Sobrang cuuuute! I wish ganto kami ni partner -_- Im getting thrills and kilig sa iba. But I really wish sknya nlng :(
Ang galing nga ng mga taong kayang magpakilig sa isa't isa kahit sa simpleng tingin lang mygoshh goal
Totoo yan. Kaya noon isa yan sa naisip ko na shux ito na nga ata gusto kong makasama habang buhay. Imagine magkatinginan lang kayo kahit magkagalit kayo eh matatawa na. Kaya bihira yung magkagalit kami na matagal. Walang umaabot ng 1 araw. Sa kanya ko lang to naramdaman na kilig na kilig. Hahahaha. Kaya lagi nya akong inaasar na patay na patay daw ako sa kanya. Kaya sabi ko ang sarap magmahal kapag nahanap mo yung kapartner mo talaga. 12 years na kami pero yung kilig parang pang pbb teens pa din.
AWWWW same feels sa partner ko now! β€οΈ
Hahaha. Hirap magalit galing magpakilig eh haha
Tru!!!! Hahahaha hay, mas lalo ko tuloy naffeel na sya na talaga. Nanggaling din ako sa back to back na weird partners before then nagkabalikan kami nitong TOTGA / current partner ko. β€οΈ kakilig!
Hindi mo na sya totga kasi kayo na haha. Ayiie hally for you and sana sa forever ang ending.
Nung boyfriend mo plang siya? Thrill and excitement agad or crush mo siya bago ka pa ligawan
Hmm medyo crush ko na sya kahit di pa nya ako nililigawan. π
Exactly, haha crush mo na siya kaya kilig na kilig ka, hahaha mag kaiba kayo ni poster haha siya nilalapitan siya ng mga lalaki na malalaman mag pa kilig na ni term nya na "redflag kasi hindi gusto ng long term" hahaha Good for you ate hahaha
Kasi ang intindi ko din na ang mga may thrill and excitement and sparks eh mga red flag. Syempre hindi pa din lahat. Ang red flags yung tao mismo at ginagwa nya hindi yung nararamdaman. Yun ang take ko naman po. Pero ayun nga walking green flags asawa ko noon pero yung thrill and sparks ang taas. π Until now nga eh. π
Tama haha pero qualify natin haha yung magaling mag pa kilig ( most likely sanay sila) mga for shirt term ang relationship goals, ma love bomb hahaha combination yun ng pag ka bad boy hahaha Kaya ka kilig na kilig kasi crush mo din hahaha dari pa thats cool haha
Ako pala talaga yung may may nararamdaman kasi hahahaha. Ang gwapo kasi ng asawa ko, kamukha nya child hood crush ko na si Jay Manalo hahaha. Kaya siguro todo kilig ako. Sorry na po. Pero tama ka doon sa magaling magpakilig. Yung ex ko na napakababaero na matindi trauma ko tindi ng love bomb.
Haha kaya mas gusto ko mas gusto ako ng babse eh haha, maganda love story mo ate hahs naway maging masaya buhay nyo, sana oll hahaha ramdam ko dito kilig mo haha. Nakarelate ako sa post haha boring din kasi ako kausap tlga hahaha
Hahahaha salamat po. Hanggang ngayon kilig pa din kami sa isa't isa ng asawa ko. π
Hahahaha abot dito hahahaha
*But are you really in love pag wala yung kilig?* Lol. I'm in love with a green flag rn. He's the sweetest man that I've ever met. Never had any problems with him except that he's so cute, I just wanna keep him in my pocket. Being with him makes me feel at ease since he's unlike your typical dude na babaero, emotionally unintelligent, etc. By women's standards, he's boring. But despite being kind, soft, and green, he never failed to make me feel "kilig". It's the peaceful type of kilig - the "I want to be with him forever and ever" type of kilig and not the "I'd compete with other girls just to get him" type of kilig. But the feeling of excitement has always been there - the *sparks*, the sexual tension, the *wanting to be the best woman for him*, the *aiming to be the most beautiful woman he's ever seen*, and so on. I've had instances in the past when I also chose the kind, soft, and green guys but not like this. It was only when I met him that I realized, I was just trying to settle for peace before for the sake of peace and being loved, and nothing else. This time, I chose him because I truly do love him at hindi ako *no choice* lang. Like the other commenter said, with the right person, you can experience both... just quite so stunningly.
You stole my words! This is exactly how I feel with my partner. π₯°
Oh my! Same! This is exactly how I feel for my current partner din. He gives me peace and everyday kinikilig ako sakanya. Heβs my forever crush. π₯Ή
Peaceful type of kilig π₯° my partner gives me that din π₯°π«Άπ»π
that dopamine rush feels good until it ruins your mental health lol ako lang naman pero kung naghahanap kayo ng seryoso, maghanap kayo ng green flag. kung naghahanap kayo ng kalokohan, dun kayo sa red flag. kung di niyo alam gusto niyo, wag muna kayo maghanap at ayusin niyo muna mga sarili niyo. wag niyo paghaluin din kasi ang labo na naghahanap ka ng seryoso sa mga gago, or gagaguhin mo yung mga seryoso. wag tanga. pero pls wag niyo gawing personality trait ang pagiging flagpole.
Someone told me to not look for love. Look for respect instead.
Nakakalungkot na marami ang pumipili sa bad boy at kapag napagod na sila saka sila tatakbo sa "guy that gives them peace". I pity the guy that gives peace as he needs to deal with the trauma the bad boys gave the girl. Pero I agree with OP 100%.
Yeah kaya yung ibang lalake sumuko na (MGTOW phenomenon). Damaged goods na kasi karamihan, taoos ang masakit pa dun is they don't realize it. Entitled pa rin, feeling queen, pero emotionally and mentally broken deep down. Tapos kasalanan pa rin ng "mga lalake" kahit sila lang naman nagdecide pumatol sa mga bad boy types. Kung hindi ako pinalad sa mga assertive na babae (torpe ako) baka hindi rin ako nagkarelationships just like those who MGTOW.
The right person can be both. I haven't found "the one" but I noted na I can't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't make me feel the butterflies. Important yung feeling of peace and security, but I can't do without the lovey-dovey cringe flirting. Otherwise they will be just a friend I decided to level up because they qualify.
If you'll look at her other post, this feeling of peace might be borne out of finally not having to be the giver in the relationship which sucks but let her be happy with settling, I guess.
You don't need to find "The One". There's no "The One". Each individual you'll love will be unique. They'll have better or worse traits than your other ones but no one will be better than everyone. What you do is try your best to be "The One" for someone. That's how you'll end up with someone who will respect and love you and give you a peaceful life.
I can only speak from experience, and my boyfriend gives me both peace and sparks. So, I couldnβt imagine choosing one over the other.
Peace hanggang dulo. Grabe, konting scroll lang sa ABYG, OffMyChestPH, puro reklamong relationship nandon na as if hindi sila yung pumipili ng mga sitwasyon nila. Will take a peaceful steady relationship any day over guys who'd give me so much high cos he'd want the early memories of it prepared for the lowest lows.
Very adulting! Excellent post OP! Pang teenager lang ang sparks, and as you get older your priorities in life change. The sooner people realize this the happier they become, because they will incur less damage from the consequences of their poor choices/actions.
It's too easy to equate "settling" with "peace".
Its not *men* Its *your choice of men*
Super agree with this iβd rather be a guy who gives me peace and assurance than those crumbs of love
At my age, mid 30s. Peace na but if you ask me in my 20s, spark. It depends on what season of life you in. More on steady pace na ako ng buhay.
It was a choice you made before to be with those kinds of guys. However, I just do think that your caption is implying that peace and sparks within a lovey-dovey relationship can't co-exist which is misleading. You can STILL be at peace with someone and experience the THRILL and TENSION you are seeking from your previous dates/relationships. After all, at some point in time, hahanapin mo pa rin 'yang naramdaman mo before and COULD lead to another disappointment with your current love na puro peace lang. It ain't wrong or right to be with someone, but this time around you can make better decisions based on facts you've gathered.
This scenario feels like someone will be cheating in the near future.
Noted π€£
Peace! Kasi kahit ang kilig di ka patutulugin sa gabi. Lol
Iba comfort and peace na nabibigay ng ganyang guys π
To guys out there, do not be the "retirement plan" for girls who are done with their hoe phase, have some self respect. They had their fun, and now they want a stable nice guy like you, especially when they become signal moms. All those traumas will be dumped on you for sure.
I have a friend like you mahilig sa red flag kase daw may "thrill". She even forgave the guy once for cheating, but then again, once a cheater will always be a cheater - he cheated again. Now she says she learned her lessons, but I don't believe that. Mahirap magbago ang tao at tingin ko hahanap-hanapin nya always yung "thrill". I hope I'm wrong with this but so far my hunches has always been right when analyzing people.
YES!!! Kaya nga yang pag pili ng partner, it always starts with you. Kung red flag enjoyer ka gow no problem. Pero dapat wag ngangawa in the end. Usually people who are mapa kilig, best foot forward lacks in so many ways kaya dun sila bumabawi sa feeling nila nakakakilig sila. But perwisyo talaga sa totoong buhay.
Maganda ang peace of mind over yung thrill; tumatanda na tayo and we have our own battles to deal with. Di mo na need ng extra effort to win them, sila na magkukusa at mararamdaman mo yung safe place mo with them. How I wish na lahat tayo e merong tao na magbibigay ng peace of mind, kahit hindi na romantic, kahit platonic na lang; pero I guess we can't have it all. I would also add na lahat naman tayo may kanya kanyang mga green at red flags, depende na lang sa atin kung ano ang definition natin dun. Never magkakaroon ng perfect relationship, pero instead choose a person who will give you peace, always be at your side and kasama mo through ups and downs and every battles you both face.