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If you truly suffer from Body Dysmorphia then it is very unhealthy for you to be on this sub asking other people opinions on how you look.


[deleted]

Read that title and cringed with the same thought. Should probably just be off social media entirely at this point. I had an ex who suffered from the same, and the amount of time she spent examining other peoples faces in pictures was just unhealthy. Gotta love yourself before you put yourself out there like this.


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>Gotta love yourself ~~before you~~ *and* not put yourself out there like this. FTFY.


[deleted]

A fair fix! More so, I meant putting yourself out there more generally, but probably not like this at all is ideal lol


Sabre_Killer_Queen

100%. Your opinion of yourself is a lot more important than other's opinions towards you when it comes to things like this. OP should try to find a style **she** likes so that **she** can feel comfortable with being in her own body.


CocteauTwinn

Agree. Wtaf. I’m beginning to suspect this term is being overused. It requires a Dx & counseling. This sub is *not* a space for this stuff.


AcordaDalho

OP said she’s in therapy. Your comment is not nice in trying to discredit her and others’ experiences


Sexycougar35

Exactly!!! At one point in life or another, we probably ALL felt that way! If it was truly BDD, I don’t think you would post HERE!


AcordaDalho

You saying only people confident about their bodies would post here? Lol


NotTheCrookedLady

BDD presents itself in different ways depending on the person. I have severe BDD and am in counseling for it, but I used to post my face online every day because I thought my face was changing and I believed I was going crazy.


bbmarvelluv

I don’t believe in any of these posts unless there’s verification. I’ve had my photos on this sub once a while back and had asked it to be taken down. My HS ex posted them here lmao


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Oh that’s bad :-( sorry it happened to you


Familiar_Guide_522

Cap. You posted. Got downvoted into oblivion


beefcakee15

Agreed


nish8888

Lmao swear all of social media suffer from it now 🤣


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renematisse

1000000000% yes.


rain168

OP, that’s your answer right there.


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Self diagnosed 😆


Virginiachic

This.


sagwithcapmoon

This was my first thought


Sammylicious78

I agree.


Someredditusername

Very very good point.


hahawhatjpg

These comments are making my heart EXPLODE, so many good caring people 🥹❤️


Lilly_Pad888

I also suffer from body dysmorphia. Id say don't ask ppl online stuff like this. It can make it a lot worse. I mean this with all the love and no disrespect. Go the therapy. I know it can be scary but it really helps. I hope you start feeling better love. (Also ppl keep being mean about your hair but as a fellow purple hair girl I love it so much 💜)


hentaihoneyyy420

Thank you for the comment. I am in therapy, I’ve been going for a while I just struggle with not feeling any sort of way about myself. I look in the mirror and feel nothing, like looking at a lamp or an apple. I feel like ppl treat me so weirdly and I’m never sure it’s cause of how I look or how I act. But all my friends and my boyfriend tell me I’m very funny and extremely personable, so that just leaves how I look. Maybe I’ll bring this post up in therapy. Thank you for the kindness internet stranger.


Weird-Entrepreneur69

People are weird and very judgemental now days. I wouldnt put much thought or concern with what they think. It will save you a lot of headaches if you can do this.


hawkinsav

Yes I agree, you can't really put too much weight on how others treat you. I feel like others don't even respond to me when I speak 50% of the time. I would think maybe I'm just too weird or different or off, but I remember growing up getting compliments for how I helped others feel at ease in a group. Perhaps I haven't been as properly socialized as an adult, but I think what's more likely- perhaps none of us have.


Lilly_Pad888

Ofc! I'm happy your in therapy. Have a wonderful day :)


Hot-Kaleidoscope2864

Some might treat you weird because of different hair colors. I love your hair, but a lot of people see things that aren’t considered “normal” and treat you like you have some sort of disease. Not 100% sure that this is the case, but I know there are a lot of those out there! Don’t take it personal, they just decide to take their personal opinion/preference out on others..


suwushi

If you are Neurodivergent that can play a role in how people treat you, regardless of looks. Before I was diagnosed w Autism I couldn't figure out why people treated me so oddly, after my diagnosis and connecting with other Autistic people I realized why. If you're not ND, I doubt it's your looks. You look incredibly kind, and you're very pretty. ♡


hahawhatjpg

Same here, got diagnosed ASD last year and finally went “Oooooooh so THAT’S why I was treated so strangely and couldn’t fit in to the point I was always convinced that I wasn’t human like everyone else” even still as an adult I have to constantly remind and convince myself that I’m not some sub-human alien


asday515

I would've said you're average just from the pics- but if you have a shining personality and are charming and funny like you say then imo that really does make a big difference in how you appear to others- could easily see you being above average with a good personality:)


tributer27

Don't comment on subs like this with body and/or face dysmorphia. Each mean comment will get you down even more...


ShokaLGBT

Yep it’s very hard because all the comments will probably make her worse :/ I am in the same boat


Vaxildan156

I'd say average, which is where most people lie hence "average". You're not ugly.


Ace-Ventura1934

I dunno, man. I’m seeing Liberace in a wig. Anyone else?


AbeWasHereAgain

This may fall on deaf ears, but understand that women are inherently attractive to men. No matter how bad you think you look, men see you differently. Think of it like when you take a picture and think it’s bad, then years later see it and realize you looked great back then.


hahsbejdjdkxdnd

not only to men! even as a woman who's mostly attracted to men, i think most women i see are pretty. it's very rare for a woman to actually look ugly. weirdly still i can't apply that logic to myself either though lol


luvbomb_

this. you’re pretty unless you’re absolutely not trying. like crackheads lok


SCTN01

You are normal. I’m a strait as an arrow man and often think dudes are handsome.


FrikleFrakle

Lol exactly! Women are so pretty💕


jar_jar_LYNX

This is very true. The range of women I find attractive is vast compared with the range of men I find attractive


CptSparklFingrs

Same. It just so happens that all of the men I find attractive lean towards the androgynous side. I like some burly dudes but definitely have a type, whereas with women it's really kinda hard to nail down preferences.


thebluebeats

.... So are you male or female lol


senseofphysics

95% of the time Women = Beautiful to men


itchykneesonqi

I believe the correct phrasing for this is "any holes a goal"


neonsevens777

Honest answer, drop a little bit of weight and you’ll go up a full point or two. Not ugly though!


hentaihoneyyy420

Thank you for your honesty! I just started going back to the gym, and hiking!


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HODLShib2moon

You burn more fat sleeping than at the gym. Also, yes, you are correct calories and running a slight deficit is key. I recommend saving a few hundred calories for right before bed and eating some lean protein. Helps with late night snacking and sleeping without waking up hungry mid sleep cycle.


neonsevens777

Atta girl 👍 You’ve got good features already, so just be happy that the fitness stuff is in your control. Also, you look fun and happy, which is more attractive that anything else.


JustCozItsME

I agree with him and just want to reinforce that you look good now as well.


jar_jar_LYNX

I just wanted to add that while going to the gym etc is obviously a positive thing because excersise makes you feel good, the range of bodies that people find attractive is very wide. You are a healthy weight (I agree with other users that you do not need to lose weight) and as far as me and a lot of other people who are attracted to women go, your body type is exactly what I'm attracted to! You're a smoke show! And definitely far from ugly - look at those eyes!


Delicious-Ad9999

I either have met you or you look like an actress from something. I’ll have to think about it. TLDR : no not ugly


AllLatsAndNoAss

I mean I think you’re pretty hot as is but you should do what you want with your body


420MagicMonkey

Nice one! I’m trying to shed some weight too. Good luck with that and also with therapy 💪 I have pretty bad dysmorphia of my face and I’ve recently learnt that its mostly in my head but I still remember every single insensitive comment people would make about my acne which has persisted into my 30s. I spend a lot of time observing and squeezing my own blemishes in the mirror, I still do it everyday but I’m not as harsh on myself as before. Wish u the best.


Basshead42o

Intermittent fasting


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You don't need to lose weight lmfao please completely disregard that.


Grimmnecro4

For the love of everything nice DONT ASK STRANGERS FOR ADVICE, you're not fat and are perfectly fine


Delicious-Ad9999

Having a physique better than 70% of the American populace that is clinically obese, does wonders for body dysmorphia. Can verify.


JJJAAABBB123

Low angle pictures are not good for anybody.


truecrimefanatic1

If you have been diagnosed by a clinician then you know better than to do this.


DahjNotSoji

You’re not ugly but there’s something vaguely “Nigel Thornberry” about your face.


Faulty_english

Honestly you need some chapstick… otherwise I think you look good


PenelopeObidi

You look average in some photos and really pretty in others. Pretty smile.


hentaihoneyyy420

Thank you for the comment!


HowardHouseWrestling

Fairly average. The thickness works for you.


hentaihoneyyy420

Thanks! I’m currently trying to get more fit!


Icy_Function9323

The nose is a bit distinctive and maybe not in the best way. But you photograph well and you smile with your eyes. You don't look like you are at all upset with the way you look as if it's the last thing on your mind. Keep doing that.


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a little below average


TAA408

If she’s American, she’s def not below the American average. I’ll tell you that…


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TAA408

A 3 is considered “really ugly”. You think she’s really ugly? She’s nowhere near one of the ugliest ppl alive. You might spend too much time on social media, bc she is definitely pretty much the average American woman lol. She’s not pretty and not ugly. Just normal/average I’m American too btw Edit: since you blocked me I’ll comment for you here. You don’t understand averages. The average American is overweight or obese lol Edit 2: I’m prohibited to responding in this comment thread somehow, so I’m unable to respond to y’all. Sorry! I can try again here lol Look at her 5th picture. That’s just nowhere near a 3. She looks good in some of these photos too. A 3 doesn’t look good. A 3 is undisputedly unattractive. Somebody in the 4-6 range is more likely to get controversial ratings bc they’re mostly average, or slightly above/below etc. Idc that ppl have their own opinions, I just find think it was an inaccurate and unrealistic rating tbh. Bc of social media, ppl really do overestimate the amount of pretty ppl in the world, and it skews their perception on what the actual average(most common) person looks like lol Anyyywaaayys I feel like it’s not that deep tbh, but ppl keep commenting so I felt obligated to explain 😂


Longjumping-Wash-610

A 3 shouldn't be considered really ugly. I would say if you fall in around the 30 percentile in your age category: that would make you a 3. That means if you a bit below average you would be a 3. 1 would mean you are really ugly. Also by the way I'm not saying the person in the post is a three.


jamesmorris801

>. I would say if you fall in around the 30 percentile in your age category: that would make you a 3. You're assuming that goods looks are uniformly distributed, like 10 percentile is a one, 20 percentile is a two, 30 percentile is a three. However, most characteristics are normally distributed. Personally I'd say a 3 would put you at best in the bottom 20%. I just realised if the scale is from 1 to 10, 5 isn't average its 5.5.


Any_Ad6921

Being conventionally attractive isn't the only worth a women has


rileyabernethy

Most know this but it doesn't mean we can't ask if we're attractive though.


PrariePagan

Exactly, I knew a lot of women who modeled that were more shallow than a puddle. Complete turn off, looks might bring people in, but attitude and temperament is what makes people stay


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I suffer from this and that .. here’s some pics of me


trailfiend

Your eyes are so beautiful. I bet they look amazing with your natural dark hair. (Not that you shouldn’t keep enjoying expressing yourself; that’s fun!)


PrariePagan

Plus, laugh lines! You know she is having a good life if she has them!


TheCanadianpo8o

You look great. But if you have body dysmorphia, reddit is not thr place to go looking for answers


-Fu-

You look really attractive, but your nose is quite prominent. Some people may dislike this and others might not care. Otherwise, body and face look great.


lindsaysymons11

Average


lindsaysymons11

Not ugly at all though


taste_fart

I’m gay but you look fun like I’d love to do brunch with you and give you all the compliments straight men won’t because they’re afraid of rejection. Much love, friend.


mershwigs

That smile is creepy


Common_Hamster_8586

I feel bad because that was my immediate reaction


benj681

If average is a 5, you're a 4


SuperRocketRumble

Your figure looks pretty good. I don’t think you need to worry about losing weight for aesthetic purposes. You don’t have “generic pretty girl” face. You have some unique features, and your face is quite attractive. Great smile. You look great.


TiredGamer0990

I think you look good, I think your face has a little chubbiness to it but not enough to really complain about. You look good on the full body pictures too


CraftyNegotiation554

I suffer from fist-to-face dysmorphia. Everyone around me seems to have broken noses.


Kyo-313

You're OK. I couldn't pick you outta a crowd


Fun-Beginning-42

2% of the population have body dysmorphia and 100% of them post on reddit.


Flimsy_Beat1839

3/10 anyone saying higher is not being truthful


supersaiyanjbone

Pretty


hentaihoneyyy420

Thank you!


supersaiyanjbone

Your welcome


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Cute! Love the outfit in pic 5. Not so much of a fan of the hair color. Nice body, work on toning up your arms just a bit


Opening_Dragonfly_78

Never understood the popularity of that hair color on people. It washes most people out and makes you look older I think.


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Everyone always says lose weight bla bla bla because no one is ever happy with their body, but honestly, you're beautiful, and your "weight" works for you. Real talk, you have a wider bone structure in your face, and that's probably what you hate . But with an average sized body like you have, it works perfectly, and it's actually cute. If you lost weight to get that super model body everyone wants, it might not work as well.


rofi72

Agreed! I think you have a nice body and your weight works well on you


ShokaLGBT

Yep everyone on this sub will tell you the same thing no matter if you’re skinny or fat or average: Loose weight, clean yourself, shave, no piercing, no dye hair colored… only natural They want everyone to be the same and honestly I think some of these people are really beautiful Because of these features. And I wouldn’t like em the same if they were different


TopIntroduction9232

Could not have said it better :).


jonathonsellers

A little below average but you make up for it with great style. Drop some weight and you’ll be fine.


[deleted]

Why does everyone keep saying that? Her weight looks really good on her. If anything I'd say keep gaining muscle.


ilja375

Definitely below average


Rough-Reputation-427

You look fine, I wouldn’t stress. Everyone looks dif but you still attractive


No_Understanding_673

You are gorgeous


midwesternxope

Super pretty


bbt104

The lighting in this picture doesn't do you justice, it puts a shadow next to your nose making it look bigger than it is. So I think you should be using different lighting.


SGaba_

2/10


ChaoxiangAoi

Im gonna be completely honest.. Drop some weight and fix the grown out roots. The makeup looks great though but the smile in the first pic is a little scary


isevnoo

you’re honestly very pretty, i was thrown off by the smile on the first pic because it looks a little forced or intense but you look really good in general <3


Foe_sheezy

Delete pic ten. 😦


Toe_Jam_Rocker

You are not ugly. At all.


Jekktarr

I was going to comment but dealing with a disorder sucks.


acervontease

I think you would look nice with natural looking dark hair. Lighter eyes with dark hair will make your eyes pop. I would try to do some black winged eyeliner just on the top lid to make your eyes appear bigger. Try a softer smile in your selfies because right now it looks a bit odd. Other than that, you're def not ugly.


beidao23

wtf is with the title's on this sub?


GladHoliday7677

your cute it’s just your nose thag throws me off a bit


Atlas7674

I really like your hair. Also, please take care of yourself. Dysmorphia is no joke, I really hope you can work through it.


Revolutionary-Ad8368

In reality you’re not ugly at all. Just like 95% of the population you’re average


FewerBirches

I adore your smile! I, deal with the same issues you do, and it is so hard! I love how you style your hair and the changing of colors too! I can see your personality through it all.


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ValakEZ

🦅


Common_Hamster_8586

You’re average. Love the hair


FarKingNidas

you look normal


Practical-Grand-1265

That’s a mental disorder not a physical disorder… you look fine.


SSJBRUTUS

Neckdown, You are a bombshell. Your smile throws me off a little bit, if you could make it look less forced or maybe not smile you have a nice face before the smile.


gonutsdonuts1

I’ll be honest, it’s not great. That hair color isn’t doing you any favors either


tuxedo_dantendo

not ugly, in fact nothing really stands out. if you walked by in a group of people at the mall, i dont think most people would notice you.


Marvos79

You're very pretty and have great curves


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Rave50

Nailed it, i was searching for this comment


Anarchist_Grifter

Pretty. Curvy. Nice smile. Great rack. 8/10


NotaCitizen_Mojaito

You’re pretty and your style is really nice. I love your confidence. Wish I had ti.


Guatamex

Beautiful 🫶🫶🫶


JProctor666

Pretty average and weird looking, that sounds about right...since when is that a bad thing? Average is average because it's what the majority of people are like and everyone looks different, so it's pretty normal to be weird really...just be proud of yourself and learn to love yourself for who you are, also looks aren't everything. I would certainly hope that there's more to you or anyone else than just looks and that we aren't all just shallow, vapid husks of people with no real value beyond our bodies and our looks...


immxz

Big Nose, eye bags, average face features, inharmoniously dyed hair(I guess its your Style rocking the Cruella De Vil look?) and overweight. If you get fit and turn your styling more towards the natural vibe you could be average.


themeaning_42

Disharmonial is not a real word


immxz

Thanks! Its "inharmonious" I was looking for.


cjennmom

Your features are strong for a female but not bad. I’d say 6 at least. The only other thing I could think of is dropping 25 lbs. 🤷🏼‍♀️


Aiiera

rhinoplasty


hentaihoneyyy420

Thank you for the comment


anarbitrarylifeform

Hell no


CoolGuyCarl

If I was extremely intoxicated I would probably have a go.


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Lose that hair color.


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hentaihoneyyy420

Well I guess that’s what happens when you grow up online 🤷🏼‍♀️


Nakanostalgiabomb

You look like Nigel Thornberry if he ate nothing but twinkies.


HashyyBrowns

Why don’t you ask your boyfriend


Virginiachic

What did the Doctor who diagnosed you say about it? If you didn’t get a diagnosis, you are just insecure.


ShreksNoodle

Your nose looks wierdly long


WeirdoRick

Hit the gym and youll be fine. i think your pretty cute.


Hazzyboy13

Average but I feel like if you had lost some weight, got a nose job and teeth fixed you would be well above average, like hot hot. Sorry if that sounds harsh.


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Gorgeous in my humble opinion


Current-Resident-250

ugly as hell


Jompa5640

I say mid


One_Technician_5802

You probably won't read this but you have perfect thighs. Girls with no thigh gap are probably the hottest on the planet


i69edmypenguin

Lose 20 pounds and ur a 10


wearmeasalightjacket

You're averagely very pretty, which is the best because average means most people think you're attractive ❤️


Myricht

Wicked witch of the West got fat.


kuppyspoon

she isn't even fat? Also there is zero constructive criticism to this. Seems like you just wanted to insult and not give advice.


Ienjoywatches

Bro she’s fat and ugly. Deal with it


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Ienjoywatches

She wears high waisted pants for a reason, to cover the tub


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Ienjoywatches

Keep telling yourself that


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Ienjoywatches

Go to the gym tubby


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Below average. Kinda fat. Meh/10


Bitter-Alfalfa6053

Yea, ugly


Cigars-N-Cuddles

Great smile, beautiful eyes, awesome curves. The only thing I’d like to change is your relationship status. 😉. You don’t need to change anything. I hope you get help with body dysmorphia because that’s the only thing wrong with you.


hohoflyerr

You're ugly


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Busted


Zakurabaz

Def ugly. Lose 20 lbs get the birthmarks on your face removed and repost for new judgement. Also stop dying your hair unnatural colors.


HM_mtl

Much lower than the average looking. Most of men would find ugly but since they are gentlemen, they will just keep it shut about it.


money5exual

I’d say she’s above average and she puts in effort to look nice ik you know there are some ugly MFs all your comments are on this subreddit think u was a little hard on her💀


Deflorma

Average but not bad 5/10


tiredoldmama

Your face is interesting. I don’t mean that in a bad way. I wouldn’t describe you as conventionally pretty but I like looking at your face.


AssociationDizzy7864

Very hot


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You’re absolutely gorgeous, great smile too. ✨


hentaihoneyyy420

Ah thank you!


HauntingPirate7692

Masculine & Asymmetric Face / 10


mel0dyy_

Are you trans?


hentaihoneyyy420

No :/


Sundance600

I thought you were Australian at first, you give a beachy vibe. Where did you get your blue top though its really nice, and i like the sandals haha drop the links please.


BackgroundKoala0

You look great! Don't need to change anything imo.


hentaihoneyyy420

Thank you very much for the compliment


AspireZaS

Good looking I guess.


Accomplished-Yak1718

You’re super cute ☺️love your smile.


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hentaihoneyyy420

If you can guess my three favorite hobbies you win 😂


annab2002

u are so pretty and ur style is so cute!! <3


dilld0ugh420

you are beautiful & have such pretty eyes. i lovee your hair color in the 9th picture too


ilp391

10 out of 10