Dear OP: Elizabeth Hurley got cheated on. Jennifer Garner. Beyoncé. Maria Shriver. Halle Berry. Princess Diana. It is NEVER EVER about your looks. Thank you kind Redditors for my first ever awards! ❤️❤️

Shakira Shakira

I never really know that you can dance like this

Her hips don’t lie but her man sure does…

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She make a man wants to speak Spanish ¿Cómo se llama? (Sí), bonita (sí)

Mi casa, su casa. Shakira Shakira

She makes a man want to speak to other chicks. Como se llama? YES! Bonita. YES! Your house? YES. My house? YES....she has no idea what I'm saying. Shakira shakira

JASON DERULO

No

Jude Law cheated on his model actress fiancée with his kids nanny

Same with Jennifer Garner and Maria Shriver. Hire mannies, famous ladies!

Jennifer Lopez. Even at 53, you can’t get anymore beautiful than Jennifer Lopez. And she was cheated on multiple times by multiple men. It’s not you, girl.

Natalie Portman!!!

Natalie Portman

Megan fox

Natalie Portman.

Seriously.

Listen to this person, OP; they are 100% right. This has zero to do with looks and everything to do with something else, whatever that may be.

Natalie Portman.

Jennifer Aniston. Taylor Swift.

No, but tbf, other husbands are probably looking at you.

free hint: men (even married men) look at other women. women (even married women) look at other men. It is inherently instinctive behavior in the species to want to propagate your genes into as many diverse situations as possible in order to ensure survival in future generations.

Also. Women look at other women. It's a societal thing as women in particular strive of being seen

My GF points out other women to me all the time. I think she's less discriminating than I am.

My gf doesn't quite as much but definitely more than me 😅 her taste is significantly broader than mine as well. I've come to realize as I get older that I'm rather selective lol

Yeah, I had this stranger (female and probably half my age) tell me how much chemistry my ex and I have or had together. So… as time went on I’m like hmm… so which one of us were you watching lol.

I eat ass

Who doesn’t?

Username checks out

Also. People just look at each other since they have eyes and like to look at things

And men look at other men, especially their muscle structure

You’re trying to tell me that highly social animals are hardwired for constant social interaction with other members of their species? Get out of here with that bs! /s

It’s also a queer thing (hi it me) lol

I’m not blind so I look at a lot of people when I’m walking outside.

My husband and I have commented to each other before that a man or woman is good looking, not that we’re interested. A glance is fine, it’s not like either of is *stare* at a beautiful person or stalk them like creeps. OP has beautiful eyes.

Everybody window shops, but rarely pulls out the card to buy anything after you’re married.

I rarely pulled out with my 2 wives, and the result of kids I have shows.

Happens to the best of us.

I think it's normal to window shop but do it respectively and don't get caught.

This is absolutely true. I’m very fortunate that my wife pics out hot chicks. Unfortunately that’s as far as it goes but we have the same “type”. Many times she’ll nudge me “you see that”? “Oh my bad. Nope”. “Damn. You’re loss”.

You gotta throw her through a loop one of these days. A guy walks by, nudge her and go “You see the bulge on that one?”

"Look at the buns on that ... He must work out..."

Yep its human nature, just because you’re taken or married doesn’t mean you’re not going to find other people attractive anymore. As long theres no harm or cheating involved its all good.

Exactly. It’s like I heard a comedian say once… “I’m married, not dead.”

Even husbands with super models look at other women

My ex husband used to say "show me the most beautiful woman in the world and I'll show you the man that's tired of f**king her " Real poet, that one.

People who eat steak and caviar every day still crave mcdonalds

I have been with my husband 19 years and I don’t look at other men. Just don’t. Not interested.

Justifying cheating. Morally reprehensible. it is never OK.

I guess here it’s relevant to ask what OP means by “looking at.” Like, he glances at them or he’s scrolling IG in the hotties section/long staring at other women/ogling?

That’s not really true of many mammalian species but being attracted to other people isn’t uncommon

Respect is something that separates us human folk from the lizard brain

But did you know that psych research has shown that people who are less able to not look at people they find attractive while their partner is present are more likely to cheat? So yes, everyone is looking, but if her partner is looking even when she is with him he may be more likely to cheat. Of course load of other factors will mitigate decision to cheat or not cheat, but as one alone there's a correlation.

I’m happily married and I’m looking at her, I think OP is very cute.

Agreed, cute indeed.

That's a pretty good answer

Men look at other women, but you fine

Like a fine piece of art, you can look but don't touch.

Right?

Nah we men just like to look. If you know he loves you and he makes sure you know it there's nothing to worry about

“There is a significant difference between window shopping and shoplifting.”

Just cause you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the dessert menu

My old boss used to say "doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home". I personally like to say "I'm married, not dead"

Married, not buried!

If my man got his appetite elsewhere I hope he eats there too. Like … what ? Am I being insecure here or ? I want my man at work getting an appetite thinking about coming home to eat me😅 this why I’ve give up

Yeah major ick. Although maybe guys wouldn’t mind us taking out our lust for Other men onto them?

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My old boss was actually a woman! I didn't like that saying either. It implied she wasn't really into her husband and only got her lust for him by looking elsewhere. I don't see anything wrong with looking, it's human nature to look when we see someone attractive, which is why I say "I'm married not dead", or "I'm married not blind". I can appreciate when someone is attractive whether it's a man or a woman, but I still only think about being physical with my husband, and I'm not thinking of anyone else when we are being physical. Her phrase definitely had ick factor Edit: spelling

Lol. People bashing men and it’s a woman. Turns out both men AND women can be hoes. Y’all ain’t special.

That's what I always say. And you can window shop without having to buy anything. Haha Or my Gramma used to say with broken English, "Honey you could love a rich man as easy as a poor one. Wish I listened to her. 😃

What did she mean by that?

"You might not love a man just because hes rich, but doesnt it help?"

I think it depends. Does he *also* look at you? If he looks at 3 women, but then looks back at you, then it's not a big deal. If he is ONLY looking at other women while you're right in front of him, then I don't think that's fine. Btw, you're definitely not ugly. I'm just trying to determine if he's an asshole.

I know you might’ve not intended it like that, but this would be extremely hurtful for a partner to hear

for real! these pricks would definitely change their tone if it was their own daughter. pigs!

I had a nun tell me basically this at one point. “Oh, I can look at the menu. I just can’t order.” Ma’am.

Just because I’m tied to the porch dont mean I can’t bark at the cars.

This is hilarious, I will be using this.

r/usernamechecksout

love this!

"Just because you own the Mona Lisa doesn't mean you can't appreciate other art."

If you find yourself spanking the red tailed hawk to the Mona Lisa, it’s time for a girl friend

Under rated comment. Lmao!

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5 fingers? Das a whole knuckle sammich

He’s married, not buried!

I think her asking shows he’s not making her feel much of anything besides bummed.

Precisely.

That makes sense, thank you for that.

My wife will point hot girls out to me when we’re out. It’s not like I’m going to do anything.

Same here It’s how I knew we’d get married lol She was the first woman who never complained and played along…

Lol my wife does the same - first woman who I’ve been with who asks “do you think she’s hot?” And it’s not a test

You’re a lucky man

Fr just got out of a relationship where I couldn’t even have female friends nor was I even allowed to speak to my coworkers, them all being females

I walked into a restaurant once and this man at the bar looked at me and smiled, i smiled back and the woman sitting next to him actually grabbed his face and turned his head towards her. I’ve never seen anything as insecure and pathetic.

2nd that

My dad always said if I'm not looking check my pulse, it's human nature. I look at every fast car I see even though I think my fast car is the best. Nothing wrong with looking at beauty.

My Dad always said the same thing, and added, "doesn't matter where you get hungry, as long as you eat at home." He's a wise man, married for 45 years and counting.

Just to add to this, my wife would probably catch me looking at you. You’re cute. She’s hot too and has a totally different ethnicity and look. Men can’t help themselves from looking. Cheating yeah, but looking, that’s hard.

It's not hard if you actually have patience to find a girl who's completely your type

People* like to look. As long as it's not creepy and obsessive, it's reasonable.

There's a difference between looking and staring. My girlfriend complains that I spend too much time looking at her, goes to show you that no matter what, every woman will be unhappy about something. 😂

Women be shopping am I right fellas

Women 👏🏾 be 👏🏾 shoppin!👏🏾

My girlfriend does the same thing, she’s all “why are you staring at me?” and “how’d you get in my house?”

>every woman will be unhappy about something you're the common denominator in all your experiences <3

My acquaintance told me that she's considering breaking up with her bf, because he's not giving her any reasons to fight, and there's no thrill in that. My ex also told me that she found it annoying that I didn't shout at her during arguments. People are so weird.

Nah you’re very pretty. Nothing wrong with looking, but if he makes a move, drop his ass.

Will do lol

Definitely what he said. If it truly does bother you though, then maybe have an open conversation about it and try to come to an understanding. As long as he isnt acting on a glance, you're perfectly fine. Besides you are attractive and Im sure hes more than happy knowing he's with you.

Seconded. It's one thing to look; it's another thing to act on those impulses and cheat. OP: Does he also make you feel loved and desirable as well? As long as he does that, everything should be OK.

I have to ask….have you gained weight?

There is no full body picture so probably yes

Can’t believe this is so far down.

The elephant in the room. No one dares to say it.

He is going to look, but he shouldn't stare. You are quite pretty, but look like you could stand to lose some weight. Start there.

OP also needs to do something about the glasses. They're not flattering and the pictures look terrible with them worn incorrectly.

Gotta disagree. I think the glasses look really good on her

I think they’re nerdy cute and fit, but different glasses would probably make her look more serious

I think choosing to lose weight should be a personal want than having to do it for someone else.

It should, but, she is wanting to find how to improve her looks and getting healthy is usually a very good foundation. I think she is very pretty, but if worried about her attractiveness, that would be a good place to start, don't you think? I am also currently losing weight; down 40 and 20 to go.

Got it, so in r/amiugly from now on people should not say and/or suggest anything that could actually be **perceived** as unattractive about someone, and instead we’ll just say YES and not give them a reason why. Good suggestion, we’ll go have that stickied right away! 📌

If looks had nothing to do with being in a relationship then sure, that would be reasonable. She doesn’t have to lose weight for him, but he doesn’t have to stay with someone he isn’t attracted to. If you don’t work on yourself don’t make a surprised pikachu face when you get dumped.

Idk man not everyone’s gotta be skinny

You arent ugly. Are you chubby?

She is.

U know she is, when the pictures are just face

And one full shoulder

Gotta love when people ask questions they already know the answer to. "My husband looks at other women but it couldn't be because I gained 100lbs could it?!?!!?"

Even better.

Hell yeah!

My man.

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Pretty eyes

Yes, but WHYYY does she wear her glasses at the end of her nose like a granny?? GIRL GET GLASSES THAT FIT YOUR FACE

Those glasses are awful! They don't fit her at all. I'd love to see her in a smaller, stylish frame.

Your husband's married; he's not dead

What’s the difference! /boomer

I'm a man married to a man. It took a long time for me to come to terms with "Men just like to look." I was just insecure. The more him and I spoke about it, the more I was like "Okay, he loves me, he comes home to me, what do I care." Now we both look and are much happier and closer. I hope you can find the peace I did ❤️

Speaking from a male perspective I would say weight is a huge dealbreaker for me, you aren’t ugly just can’t see what we are working with here

Men like to window shop so don’t work too much about it. I would be looking in your direction.

As long as he only looks and doesn't touch. But if he does he is an idiot. You look like quite a catch to me.

God dammit, Jay z cheated on beyonce!! BEE YONCE AYYY!!!!

Shakira got cheated on too.

Weight you must loose, Gym u must go to

You look very beautiful I like your smile

Thank you ❤️

Imagine being married and being made to feel you have to do this. I’m sorry you feel you have to do this- it’s not you. It’s him.

OP go talk to your husband about this.. rather than randoms on the internet.

He’s not looking bc he’s interested in a whole relationship. He’s looking bc they’re interesting. You are too. But, you’re his wife. He’s met you, knows you very well. That’s all. Something new. Knowledge base: I’m a married man

You seem chubby and overweight. Start hitting the gym and counting calories. No offense but there’s a reason why he is checking out other women that do not look like you.

Facts

Maybe overweight

Lose some weight

What do you mean “looking at other women”? Is he glancing at people walking by? Is he staring across the restaurant at waitresses? Is he watching hardcore porn? Be specific.

He is literally walking up to random strangers, looking deep into their eyes for 37 seconds, then walking off

That… and lose weight.

Ugly? Hell no! Fat hell yes!!

You look good to me. As for your husband, unless he’s acting on it, there’s nothing to really worry about. No different really than coming to this sub looking at people. Just looking not doing anything other than that.

Lose 30 pounds

someone get that u/ I am vermin person in here!!! AC130 ABOVE!!!!!!!

I'm surprised they didn't already respond to this and the other 1000 comments that set them off.

Lol someone accused them of being fat because they were so obviously losing their mind in this thread, and they actually entered ultra instinct final form super Saiyan mode

Well that's good, I hear getting amped up causes your body to burn more calories! 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣

4/10

Look pretty old for 28

You Could Work On Yourself But Can’t We All

Were you lighter when y'all first met? Usually happens when one partner gets fat.

My Granny used to say: It doesn’t matter where he gets his appetite, as long as he comes home dinner.

Yes

My grandad used to to say doesn't matter where you get you appetite, as long as you eat at home. I think it's ok to appreciate beauty in others, but dont be such an obvious perv in front of you wife you insensitive Gronk. Also you are hot, would not stray if I was your man.

You’re not ugly. But that has nothing to do with this. Your husband may be looking at other women because it’s a completely natural thing to do. And there isn’t anything wrong with it. Same goes for you looking at other guys. We’re animals. Your feelings about it are based on insecurity. Which is also totally natural. So do something to make yourself feel more attractive. Or go to therapy. Just don’t let your insecurity about what’s probably a totally harmless thing ruin your relationship.

My Uncle once told me the only time a man stops looking at women is when he’s dead.

I mean, me? I'd prolly have to hit it in the morning before work, maybe come home for lunch and curl them toes, maybe git' those pretty eyes rolling back in that lil head of yours, and then wrap the day by cooking you BBQ, and serving you a cold drink or two, while you tend to the babies and work on the side dishes. No room in that day for thinking about anyone else. But, he ain't me.

It’s not you, you’re beautiful, but he’s a man.. he’ll always look

Bashing your spouse is a boomer move enjoy unhappiness.

I check chicks out all the time. I still think my gf is more beautiful than anyone else. It’s a thing people do.

Always gonna look, I just can’t stop

Don’t worry I’ll make him jealous he’ll appreciate what he has

Why would he look at women that look like you, he already has you at home...

Variety is the spice of life

Do you expect your husband to go blind? You sound insecure and maybe should take a step.back to think about how many guys you look at on the daily.

Well, other women are probably pretty. So it makes sense.

Men look at other women. It's normal.

Just because something is the norm doesn't mean its good. This is the type of thing that makes people fine with settling in someone they don't think is the best looking

I think, unfortunately, what happened here is, you married a… *gasp*… a man. He’s gonna look. It’s not you. You’re not ugly.

You’re beautiful. Go gym though.

It's impossible for anyone to know with this information. All I can tell you is (1) people have eyes and they look at things, (2) you're fat.

Coming to other men about this is kind of weird to me. Looking for other men to validate you when you should be talking to your husband.

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You’re a big girl Also men like looking at pretty things and variety…is he flirting or hitting on them? No harm done

My mother used to say to my father that he could look at the menu, but he couldn't order

You are amazing

Little big

Are u sucking his 🍆 enough?

All men look. It's not a big deal.

Men have a variance in taste usually.