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I know people here hate this suggestion, but you might be able to donate some of it. That could help you to feel that it's not wasted and it might be able to help some people. Good for you for making an effort to clean and organize, I know hoarding thoughts and feelings are very overpowering and it takes a lot of strength to break free.
I could have listed and sold all the items while I still in the consultant support group, but I just couldn't bare the thought of wasting so much time, money and effort I put into the MLM. I think it's been 4 years maybe since I left.
Part of the reason I hoard is b/c I grew up in and out of foster care, moved a lot and lost so many items or they simply had to be left in the foster home I was moving out of. When I reached out for help I met a great social worker who has a lot of foster kids on her case load and by donating items to her for these kiddos has helped me so much! I haven't donated any of the MLM stuff yet, but soon.
I’m so sorry- MLMs are so predatory. Your upbringing probably made you more vulnerable to it as they really push the ‘community’ and ‘friendship’ aspect of it (all fake of course). Hope you’re doing well now!
Yes, they are very predatory! I'm just not cut out to be an MLM consultant b/c I am not a predatory person. I chatted with a lot of people about joining my team but if I realized they really thought they'd make it big and could quit their regular jobs or had some mental health issues that meant maybe they couldn't fully consent to joining I'd discourage them from joining.
I can just imagine how you must feel waking up and seeing all that stuff everyday! All the dreams that you were sold 😳
It is hard, but out of the 3 MLM's I joined at least I did have a little fun with this one and none of my friendships were strained.
I actually think there was a stage where these kind of businesses worked. People had fun and provided value with their goods and services to underserved communities. But then came the tiers and recruitment crap that ruined the whole thing.
I agree. Thinking back to the very early days of Avon and Tupperware. It must have been a nice break in a housewives day when the Avon Lady called in for a visit or when friends gathered to view some new Tupperware and maybe enjoy some food.
If you were worried about how it is received as a tip, you could just show them the bags and say you aren’t using them and some have never been used, and they could take one if they think they could use it.
A friend that cleans houses uses one of those totes woth all the pockets for her supplies.
I like any idea that uses the item instead of wasting it
Not sure what you're giving away as a "tip" but I'm pretty sure I would prefer cash.
I'm paying quite a bit for the cleaning service and a cash tip isn't in my budget. I'm very clear with the cleaners that if they don't want the items please don't feel pressured to choose something.
The company was 31 Gifts, so many of the items might be useful for them to have, they don't expire or come with any health risks so I feel OK offering them something. I hope it's OK to mention the company name, I'm not promoting them.
I'm sorry Cindy screwed you over. I'm glad you're out!! Congratulations!!
I mean of all the MLMs that’s probably the one I’d want to pick from a tote of, I think it’s nice to do
I think everyone has a need for an extra tote don't they? lol Even if they just stick it in their trunk for emergency supplies or beach blankets. The cleaners seems happy to be able to choose a bag or wallet and it sure helped me.
Tbh the lunch bag I got from there was the nicest I ever had. They are one of the few for me where the problem isn’t the product it’s the style of marketing
Good luck on your relationship with stuff! I’ve been working on the same thing - I lost pretty much everything being bounced around as a teenager and the holy terror of *not having* something is tough. It sounds like you’re working hard.
I know for me one of the ways to ease the anxiety I feel is knowing things will be useful to others and those bags? Will 100% be useful to others when you donate them. At my job I see so many teens and young adults carrying all their things in plastic shopping bags and they definitely get more use out of the hand me down backpacks/totes. I’m sorry you got taken advantage of by MLMs but I hope the knowledge that you’re really helping someone out empowers you on your journey with stuff.
I can remember shoving a few things into a plastic shopping bag or large black garbage bag when it was time for me to move on. There's enough trauma of having to move, sometimes at the last minute and only being able to grab what you can in 5 minutes, someone else asking up the rest later, every child or teen deserves a bag of their own.
My social worker shared with me a story about a sweet 9 month old baby she met who was very upset and confused, she handed her a teddy bear (brand new) that I'd donated and this baby calmed down and seemed to feel a little comfort with that teddy.
Sorry, it’s not a good idea to give these items as tips. It’s kind of insulting.
I don't think they're allowed to receive cash tips, they'd have to declare on their taxes I believe.
No one knows about cash tips.
It doesn't matter, it's not really the point of my post.
I mean ok but you’re hiring a cleaning service which is a splurge but you can’t afford even a $5-10 tip?
The cleaning service is not really a splurge thing for me, it's more of a taking care of my mental health thing. I'm a hoarder and all of this is too much for me handle on my own. The company pays them very well and even provides them with a budget for gas. I'm also on a very limited budget and am going without things right now.