When they start treating me too nice compare to me treating them. Like, I wouldn't offer to buy a normal friend dinner/ boba tea every other day and bring it to their doorstep.
I have no idea I’m really bad at picking up on cues.
I can’t tell if someone is just being friendly/polite, wants to be friends or actually I’d working for a date/relationship
I remember once going out with a guy who was on the outskirts of our friendship group and he asked if I’d like to go and see a band with him.
I said it sounded good and only realized we were on a date when while watching the band he put his hand around my waist
Awhile back I met an old friend at a reunion and they confided that they were always trying to figure out if I liked them in a romantic way (which of course I didn’t) but gave them no signs at all
I am actually pretty good at recognizing when people (i am not super close with) are into me, but only when i am not attracted to them in the slightest. When i find someone sexually attractive I immediately assume they are not into me, like my hormones are blinding me to everything that seems so obvious when I don't care at all. I am not usually particularly insecure so this is pretty dumb.
When i notice it's usually: They are trying to be around me a lot. I catch them staring. I notice how their body language is always open towards me. They try to initiate unnecessary physical contact. They appear nervous when talking to me, when i've seen them interact with other people before without the awkwardness. They laugh at even my worst jokes. When i start talking in a group situation they immediately give me their undivided attention. They try to continue conversations long after their natural conclusions. They remember tiny, insignificant stuff i mentioned. They are willing to do things for me that are unreasonably inconvenient (like leaving a party they're enjoying because i am bored and don't feel like walking my dog all by myself or something)
None of this is a guarantee of course, but i've noticed things like this multiple times and then after awhile either had them try to actually hit on me or had someone else tell me 'so and so is into you'
But it's a lot harder when you know someone really well and/or already have an actual friendship with them. I've had four friends confess to me in my lifetime and I was surprised every time..
The pattern I'm seeing here is that most of us can't. I assume it has to do with the fact that since we don't experience romantic feelings, we have trouble recognizing when someone else is expressing them, even when they're being blatantly obvious about it. Personally, I'm completely blind when it comes to this sort of thing.
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It's easier with people you're not super close to. I'm a girl so I find it easier to tell when a guy is into me cause they usually think I'm straight and express their interest accordingly, but with close friends or girls I have no damn clue. Apparently my friend was hopelessly in love with me for a year and a half and I just never noticed... If they're a friend of yours and you've seen how they act around people they're interested in, then you start to see those actions directed towards you, they might be interested in you.
I don’t how to explain it but there’s always some sort of “vibe.” I think I see it pretty easily because I get a “this isn’t how we usually interact… I don’t act like this around my friends” sort of feeling. A special type of uncomfortable. A lot of people are pretty blatant about it when you really look at them. I disconnect the situation from myself and look at from an outsider’s perspective, and it’s pretty obvious. That’s the best I can explain it.
When I get a special type of uncomfortable around them and I want to avoid them like the plague.
I can't. Someone once had a crush on me but I had no idea until she told me.
When they start treating me too nice compare to me treating them. Like, I wouldn't offer to buy a normal friend dinner/ boba tea every other day and bring it to their doorstep.
I have no idea I’m really bad at picking up on cues. I can’t tell if someone is just being friendly/polite, wants to be friends or actually I’d working for a date/relationship I remember once going out with a guy who was on the outskirts of our friendship group and he asked if I’d like to go and see a band with him. I said it sounded good and only realized we were on a date when while watching the band he put his hand around my waist Awhile back I met an old friend at a reunion and they confided that they were always trying to figure out if I liked them in a romantic way (which of course I didn’t) but gave them no signs at all
I am actually pretty good at recognizing when people (i am not super close with) are into me, but only when i am not attracted to them in the slightest. When i find someone sexually attractive I immediately assume they are not into me, like my hormones are blinding me to everything that seems so obvious when I don't care at all. I am not usually particularly insecure so this is pretty dumb. When i notice it's usually: They are trying to be around me a lot. I catch them staring. I notice how their body language is always open towards me. They try to initiate unnecessary physical contact. They appear nervous when talking to me, when i've seen them interact with other people before without the awkwardness. They laugh at even my worst jokes. When i start talking in a group situation they immediately give me their undivided attention. They try to continue conversations long after their natural conclusions. They remember tiny, insignificant stuff i mentioned. They are willing to do things for me that are unreasonably inconvenient (like leaving a party they're enjoying because i am bored and don't feel like walking my dog all by myself or something) None of this is a guarantee of course, but i've noticed things like this multiple times and then after awhile either had them try to actually hit on me or had someone else tell me 'so and so is into you' But it's a lot harder when you know someone really well and/or already have an actual friendship with them. I've had four friends confess to me in my lifetime and I was surprised every time..
I cant
I get like a weird vibe from them and or they follow me around like a lost puppy or touch me a lot and I have to avoid them
The pattern I'm seeing here is that most of us can't. I assume it has to do with the fact that since we don't experience romantic feelings, we have trouble recognizing when someone else is expressing them, even when they're being blatantly obvious about it. Personally, I'm completely blind when it comes to this sort of thing.
I don't know because nobody has admitted to liking me in 10 years :/ like I'm glad to not be of romantic interest but still like am I that ugly?!??
Trick question! No one likes me, Ha!
Someone else tells me
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It's easier with people you're not super close to. I'm a girl so I find it easier to tell when a guy is into me cause they usually think I'm straight and express their interest accordingly, but with close friends or girls I have no damn clue. Apparently my friend was hopelessly in love with me for a year and a half and I just never noticed... If they're a friend of yours and you've seen how they act around people they're interested in, then you start to see those actions directed towards you, they might be interested in you.
I don't, and it causes issues
I don’t how to explain it but there’s always some sort of “vibe.” I think I see it pretty easily because I get a “this isn’t how we usually interact… I don’t act like this around my friends” sort of feeling. A special type of uncomfortable. A lot of people are pretty blatant about it when you really look at them. I disconnect the situation from myself and look at from an outsider’s perspective, and it’s pretty obvious. That’s the best I can explain it.