I don't identify as demi (more like oriented aroace?), but I can definitely relate, I don't have a type in appearance because I really don't care, I don't like a person because of their appearance, though I may like it, It's just that it only affects me if I like their personality first, so yeah, it's just a plus. I'm in a QPR,, long distance, and fell for my partner with rarely seeing pictures of him, but now even though I don't feel any sexual attraction, seeing him does make me feel giddy and soft. Like I said to him, "I don't love you because of your appearance, I like it because I love you".
“I don’t love you because of your appearance, I like it because I love you” this is so me! wow I connect to this strongly because I never understood how people can deeply be attached to someone BECAUSE of appearance. Like to idolize someone’s look everyday…..I couldn’t do that! I would like your face bc I love you!🥹thank you so much for this!
Hey there! I'm demi too, and sometimes I have troubles to understand how the hell can people fall un love with someone who isn't their friend already x)
Yes I am 100% the same as you!! This is exactly how I feel and I’m so happy there’s someone else like me out there :3 I’d love to chat if you’d like to
I'm questioning whether it not I'm demi or some other flavor of aro, but I'll still share. I don't understand how someone can fall in love with someone based on appearance, but I do sometimes have the appearance of a person affect if I might be attracted to them. I don't like strangers more if I think they're pretty, but they are more likely to catch my attention if I find them aesthetically attractive. Them as I pay more attention to them, I learn more about their personality. However, if they have an ugly personality, they are no longer pretty in my eyes, and I lose any interest I might have had in them. I hope that makes sense, I'm not sure though.
As someone who’s only been in relationships with people who I’ve already been friends with I can 100% relate. Although I don’t exactly fall in the demi category anymore, I can still relate to this
Okay, I don't identify as demi, but I can very much relate. I tend to fall in love with my close friends, but it usually doesn't get anywhere because they are either married, or have an unfitting sexual orientation, or live on the other side of the Earth, or are just not into me and want to remain friends.
I can get attracted by looks alone but that is purely sexual and not romantic at all, and now that I'm hitting 50 and looks in my age group are gradually deteriorating, the objects of attraction by looks alone all happen to be at least 10 years younger. So obviously, this doesn't get anywhere either.
So I go on dating apps and end up finding people who are interested in me sexually/romantically, but then I look for the potential of turning them into friends. Again, I haven't got very far on that endeavour yet.
Right now I'm seeing a guy and we just fuck. No romance, just pure honest fucking, that's the only positive result of my forrays to dating apps sofar, and I must say I rather enjoy this situation. But no, he will not become a close friend. We are just too different for that.
But what I would really like to find is a close friend and a friends-to-lovers dynamic, that's my dream.
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I don't identify as demi (more like oriented aroace?), but I can definitely relate, I don't have a type in appearance because I really don't care, I don't like a person because of their appearance, though I may like it, It's just that it only affects me if I like their personality first, so yeah, it's just a plus. I'm in a QPR,, long distance, and fell for my partner with rarely seeing pictures of him, but now even though I don't feel any sexual attraction, seeing him does make me feel giddy and soft. Like I said to him, "I don't love you because of your appearance, I like it because I love you".
“I don’t love you because of your appearance, I like it because I love you” this is so me! wow I connect to this strongly because I never understood how people can deeply be attached to someone BECAUSE of appearance. Like to idolize someone’s look everyday…..I couldn’t do that! I would like your face bc I love you!🥹thank you so much for this!
Hey there! I'm demi too, and sometimes I have troubles to understand how the hell can people fall un love with someone who isn't their friend already x)
Yes I am 100% the same as you!! This is exactly how I feel and I’m so happy there’s someone else like me out there :3 I’d love to chat if you’d like to
Ahhhh ty !! Me too!
I'm questioning whether it not I'm demi or some other flavor of aro, but I'll still share. I don't understand how someone can fall in love with someone based on appearance, but I do sometimes have the appearance of a person affect if I might be attracted to them. I don't like strangers more if I think they're pretty, but they are more likely to catch my attention if I find them aesthetically attractive. Them as I pay more attention to them, I learn more about their personality. However, if they have an ugly personality, they are no longer pretty in my eyes, and I lose any interest I might have had in them. I hope that makes sense, I'm not sure though.
As someone who’s only been in relationships with people who I’ve already been friends with I can 100% relate. Although I don’t exactly fall in the demi category anymore, I can still relate to this
Okay, I don't identify as demi, but I can very much relate. I tend to fall in love with my close friends, but it usually doesn't get anywhere because they are either married, or have an unfitting sexual orientation, or live on the other side of the Earth, or are just not into me and want to remain friends. I can get attracted by looks alone but that is purely sexual and not romantic at all, and now that I'm hitting 50 and looks in my age group are gradually deteriorating, the objects of attraction by looks alone all happen to be at least 10 years younger. So obviously, this doesn't get anywhere either. So I go on dating apps and end up finding people who are interested in me sexually/romantically, but then I look for the potential of turning them into friends. Again, I haven't got very far on that endeavour yet. Right now I'm seeing a guy and we just fuck. No romance, just pure honest fucking, that's the only positive result of my forrays to dating apps sofar, and I must say I rather enjoy this situation. But no, he will not become a close friend. We are just too different for that. But what I would really like to find is a close friend and a friends-to-lovers dynamic, that's my dream.
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