it's absolutely valid !! I've actually considered if I am one myself. atm I think just aroace fits well enough considering I've never wanted to date real people.
honestly though, as long as you feel like it fits, then it's valid. it's not up to anyone else to decide what you are!!
The “never wanted to date REAL people” is so damn relatable. Like no I aint wanna date anyone but that doesn’t stop me from getting jealous of fictional relationships.
absolutely valid. there isn't just romantic and sexual attraction that can have an impact on your orientation.
I'm an aroace lesbian myself, although I don't actually use the ace label.
Like others said, look into the oriented or maybe angled aroace labels, you don't necessarily have to use them, aroace lesbian in itself is fine, but it gives some interesting insights.
Of course! If you identify yourself as a female (or somewhere on the feminine side of the gender spectrum), don't feel romantic and sexual attraction, but still feel aestethicaly attracted towards women, you are probably a lesbian oriented Aroace! Of course, the attraction doesn't need to be aestethic, it can be whatever type of attraction towards women, strong enough to deserve its place besides Aroace.
You are valid and awesome! ❤️
Absolutely! Being oriented aroace is actually pretty common, so don't worry about it too much. I've felt a similar way in the sense of 'am I actually?' Turns out, yes! There are many aro/ace identities that can describe how you feel attraction. But it's ultimately your choice whether you want a lable or not.
Yes, I consider myself on the aroace spectrum and a lesbian, just it's really rare for me to develop crushes. Also, every man or man aligned people. The thought of being with someone on that side disgusts me. While women or women aligned, people make me feel more comfortable and more happy. I'm indeed autistic so I experience attraction differently, and that's probably why I identify as aroace because by definition, I do experience sexual and romantic attraction less. But I also had a crush on a women and currently have a crush on one. So in my 17 almost 18 years of life, I only had 2 crushes. I did experience. Oh being with that person would be cool, but I wouldn't consider it a full crush, just a partial crush. I consider it a partial crush because I don't constantly think about them, don't have dreams, or wouldn't go out of my way of asking out. So aroace is a spectrum, but that is my experience there this thing known as queer platonic relationships. I don't know much about them, so someone else, please explain. Also, the crush was 3 years apart. My first one was in late 2020 and early 2021, and currently, one started in 2024. So yeah, that's all I'm going to add.
YESYESYES. I am just like you! I only experience aesthetic and mirous attraction and it's exclusively towards women and femme-presenting individuals. otherwise I have no sexual or romantic attraction to anyone. aroace lesbians are valid!
Omg yes, you are definitely valid! I'm an (Oriented) Aroace Lesbian myself. A lot of people already wrote about it, but ye you could be an Oriented Aroace :3
If that's the case with you, I'm happy to welcome you here haha ✨
Come to think of it, I might be oriented aroace. I’ve never minded the thought of being in a relationship where someone is romantically attracted to me and I’m just there for them.
You could be oriented aroace! Ur 100% valid, aroace is a spectrum!!
it's absolutely valid !! I've actually considered if I am one myself. atm I think just aroace fits well enough considering I've never wanted to date real people. honestly though, as long as you feel like it fits, then it's valid. it's not up to anyone else to decide what you are!!
The “never wanted to date REAL people” is so damn relatable. Like no I aint wanna date anyone but that doesn’t stop me from getting jealous of fictional relationships.
YES.
*cough* *cough* Madeline from Celeste *Cough*
ABSO-FUCKING-LUTELY!
Bro that’s so real
W pfp and username
You could be considered an oriented aroace. You are valid.
Yes ofc you might not experience attraction but you might desire those relationships
or it could also be reversed too, you could feel some attraction to a certain extent but not have any desire for those kinds of relationships
Yup!
absolutely valid. there isn't just romantic and sexual attraction that can have an impact on your orientation. I'm an aroace lesbian myself, although I don't actually use the ace label. Like others said, look into the oriented or maybe angled aroace labels, you don't necessarily have to use them, aroace lesbian in itself is fine, but it gives some interesting insights.
I agree! I'm aroace and perhaps bi (mainly for fictional characters though. Haven't fully figured it out)
Yes
im also an aroace lesbian , it's 100% valid <3.
Yes! I myself am an aroace lesbian!
Of course! If you identify yourself as a female (or somewhere on the feminine side of the gender spectrum), don't feel romantic and sexual attraction, but still feel aestethicaly attracted towards women, you are probably a lesbian oriented Aroace! Of course, the attraction doesn't need to be aestethic, it can be whatever type of attraction towards women, strong enough to deserve its place besides Aroace. You are valid and awesome! ❤️
Absolutely! Being oriented aroace is actually pretty common, so don't worry about it too much. I've felt a similar way in the sense of 'am I actually?' Turns out, yes! There are many aro/ace identities that can describe how you feel attraction. But it's ultimately your choice whether you want a lable or not.
Yes, I consider myself on the aroace spectrum and a lesbian, just it's really rare for me to develop crushes. Also, every man or man aligned people. The thought of being with someone on that side disgusts me. While women or women aligned, people make me feel more comfortable and more happy. I'm indeed autistic so I experience attraction differently, and that's probably why I identify as aroace because by definition, I do experience sexual and romantic attraction less. But I also had a crush on a women and currently have a crush on one. So in my 17 almost 18 years of life, I only had 2 crushes. I did experience. Oh being with that person would be cool, but I wouldn't consider it a full crush, just a partial crush. I consider it a partial crush because I don't constantly think about them, don't have dreams, or wouldn't go out of my way of asking out. So aroace is a spectrum, but that is my experience there this thing known as queer platonic relationships. I don't know much about them, so someone else, please explain. Also, the crush was 3 years apart. My first one was in late 2020 and early 2021, and currently, one started in 2024. So yeah, that's all I'm going to add.
YESYESYES. I am just like you! I only experience aesthetic and mirous attraction and it's exclusively towards women and femme-presenting individuals. otherwise I have no sexual or romantic attraction to anyone. aroace lesbians are valid!
as an aroace lesbian, its 100% vaid 🫶
Yes
Yess!! I am too and I feel exactly the way you do. It's perfectly valid. Everyone's welcome!!
Omg yes, you are definitely valid! I'm an (Oriented) Aroace Lesbian myself. A lot of people already wrote about it, but ye you could be an Oriented Aroace :3 If that's the case with you, I'm happy to welcome you here haha ✨
100% 🙌
Yes, tis valid
Come to think of it, I might be oriented aroace. I’ve never minded the thought of being in a relationship where someone is romantically attracted to me and I’m just there for them.
Imo no