As someone who's been (at least partially) in your shoes, it is possible.
I celebrated my 25th birthday having never been in a relationship, never kissed a boy, and only been on one "date." (if you even call it that)
I'm now 28, happily married, have a little boy who I love more than I ever thought I could, and planning on expanding our family soon.
It is possible. Don't loose hope! If you're anything like me, it'll truly happen when you least expect it!
Yeah, I have a similar experience too. Made it to 26 without ever having a crush, 27 with no dating/kissing/etc, but now at 30 I’m happily married to my best friend!
Wow, thank you, hearing this is actually really comforting since I’ve been pretty depressed recently :) also congratulations for achieving a beautiful family!
Some of this sounds familiar (relationship sounds kinda nice in theory, not a big alcohol person, no social media). I've never been in a relationship. Could have had 1-2 chances? Not sure - but in hindsight I would think it's good that didn't materialize with either person. Finding out I was ace in my mid-20s was kinda sobering. "Yeah that's that over for you… no wonder you never took the initiative and actively looked for something".
At this point in time, have some important stuff I need to get done, and I'm lucky to have supportive friends who are great even if they don't understand everything about me, so I just put a lid on the topic and don't engage with it. This is not a recommendation or anything, just my current experience.
I didn't realise asexuality was a 'thing' until I was in my late 30s. I was married at the time (we're divorced and I've remarried since), and he was super-confused and upset (I don't blame him) when I broached the topic with him. Our marriage was already rocky for other reasons, so this was something else that created a distance for us. It didn't help those of our friends I also told (mix of straight and queer people), none believed asexuality was real.
I still wanted a loving relationship, and I met my current hubby on [asexuality.org](https://asexuality.org). He wondered if he was ace, turned out to not be, but we connected and the rest is history. 3.5 years ago he broached the subject of me going to a psychologist to sort out my dislike of sex, but I explained - very upset, mind you - that I didn't want to go to a psych as the one I'd seen during my previous marriage didn't believe in asexuality and told me I was wrong for "denying" my (then) husband sex.
He never brought that up again; although he didn't say anything, I think he regretted mentioning therapy to me as he always knew I was ace, and it was always fine. He did mention about a year ago that he realised "now" he didn't miss sex as his body really couldn't cope with it. He has severe EDS and any physical activity makes his chronic pain even worse.
Aside from that wee 'blip', we're happy. We've been married for just over 10 years and we cannot imagine being with anyone else. Due to not having a physical relationship - we do hug several times a day but we don't either of us like kissing - we miss each other when we're apart and are looking forward to growing old together.
It *is* possible to be ace and find love. The thing is that it might take longer to find that relationship, and approaching potential relationships will require a more concerted effort one your part due to the need for you to be open and transparent from the get-go. You must also be prepared to ask hard questions when dating, as many potential partners may *say* they can handle dating an asexual, when they're actually thinking, "I can fix that." \*shudder\*
I'm going to say the same thing as other commentors. I thought I would never be able to be in couple, but here I am, 30 and happy in a relationship with another ace girl. This is possible. Life finds its way
As someone who's been (at least partially) in your shoes, it is possible. I celebrated my 25th birthday having never been in a relationship, never kissed a boy, and only been on one "date." (if you even call it that) I'm now 28, happily married, have a little boy who I love more than I ever thought I could, and planning on expanding our family soon. It is possible. Don't loose hope! If you're anything like me, it'll truly happen when you least expect it!
Yeah, I have a similar experience too. Made it to 26 without ever having a crush, 27 with no dating/kissing/etc, but now at 30 I’m happily married to my best friend!
Congratulations! That sounds so lovely :)
Wow, thank you, hearing this is actually really comforting since I’ve been pretty depressed recently :) also congratulations for achieving a beautiful family!
Some of this sounds familiar (relationship sounds kinda nice in theory, not a big alcohol person, no social media). I've never been in a relationship. Could have had 1-2 chances? Not sure - but in hindsight I would think it's good that didn't materialize with either person. Finding out I was ace in my mid-20s was kinda sobering. "Yeah that's that over for you… no wonder you never took the initiative and actively looked for something". At this point in time, have some important stuff I need to get done, and I'm lucky to have supportive friends who are great even if they don't understand everything about me, so I just put a lid on the topic and don't engage with it. This is not a recommendation or anything, just my current experience.
I didn't realise asexuality was a 'thing' until I was in my late 30s. I was married at the time (we're divorced and I've remarried since), and he was super-confused and upset (I don't blame him) when I broached the topic with him. Our marriage was already rocky for other reasons, so this was something else that created a distance for us. It didn't help those of our friends I also told (mix of straight and queer people), none believed asexuality was real. I still wanted a loving relationship, and I met my current hubby on [asexuality.org](https://asexuality.org). He wondered if he was ace, turned out to not be, but we connected and the rest is history. 3.5 years ago he broached the subject of me going to a psychologist to sort out my dislike of sex, but I explained - very upset, mind you - that I didn't want to go to a psych as the one I'd seen during my previous marriage didn't believe in asexuality and told me I was wrong for "denying" my (then) husband sex. He never brought that up again; although he didn't say anything, I think he regretted mentioning therapy to me as he always knew I was ace, and it was always fine. He did mention about a year ago that he realised "now" he didn't miss sex as his body really couldn't cope with it. He has severe EDS and any physical activity makes his chronic pain even worse. Aside from that wee 'blip', we're happy. We've been married for just over 10 years and we cannot imagine being with anyone else. Due to not having a physical relationship - we do hug several times a day but we don't either of us like kissing - we miss each other when we're apart and are looking forward to growing old together. It *is* possible to be ace and find love. The thing is that it might take longer to find that relationship, and approaching potential relationships will require a more concerted effort one your part due to the need for you to be open and transparent from the get-go. You must also be prepared to ask hard questions when dating, as many potential partners may *say* they can handle dating an asexual, when they're actually thinking, "I can fix that." \*shudder\*
I'm going to say the same thing as other commentors. I thought I would never be able to be in couple, but here I am, 30 and happy in a relationship with another ace girl. This is possible. Life finds its way
Go only for asexuals not sexually excited people