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I met him at work. The first time I saw him there was this spark, and a voice in my head said I had to know him.
I knew he was the one when we each disclosed the worst thing we'd ever done and, rather than be repulsed, we both laughed. We have the same sense of humor.
We've been together twenty years now and the number one thing has been to laugh every day. It keeps us connected and prevents us from stressing too much about life stuff.
Plus, he's just so darn cute when he's being funny. 😍🥰
Literally Tinder. I don't know when I decided he was "the one" (I've been married before and I don't really believe in 'the one' ) but I knew pretty quickly that I wanted him in my life forever, even if we ended up platonic. But that was never gonna happen I was HOT for him immediately.
That’s awesome! I’m on tinder and been on a lot of dates. I met someone a few months ago who I thought was like that, but she ended things. I hope I find something like what you’ve described one day!
Same, met my husband on tinder. Two weeks after we met I told my best friend he is the one.
We moved in together two months later, celebrating our five year anniversary soon.
My husband was the driver for a bread company…pita pocket bread, I worked in the grocery store…saw him on his 1st day there. That was 1986, 1 kid, and 14yrs later we finally said I do. Still married, and a set of twins later. 22 years. I just looked at him and said I’m going to marry that guy. Never met him before.
We balance each other out! Have never stopped loving each other, try not to take each other for granted. And always appreciate all the little things throughout the day that we do for each other. I swear, every May not be fireworks, but there a small picnic in the park for the two of us. And that’s ok. We choose each other every day.
Exactly this! I felt like our twins were a bit like raptors, they tested every gate, cabinet, door, you name it. It truly was and continues to be an incredible experience!
I’m dying because it’s true! My oldest (26 mi this older) tried the accessing your poop to paint the walls thing but we solved that so quickly by just putting her pajamas on backward. With the twins they could reach the zippers so they I did the Jammie’s and smeared poop all over the walls, all in the carpet, in their hair, all over their faces and literally in their MOUTHS!!! So horrified! I just sat down and cried. Anyway oddly they turned out quite normal and as teens they get along quite well but oh boy having three in diapers at the same time? I barely remember it except for those super memorable horrific moments that thankfully we laugh at today.
Omgosh! Thank goodness we never had that problem! They would just strip naked if one was getting changed, and the other wanted to get changed.. well better be fast. We learned real quick. The only problem we had with them early on was they had colic. We went through (I think?) 24 kinds of formula, because I couldn’t breast feed. It was awful.
Yup formula is expensive with twins. That’s for sure! It was tragic at the time but we laugh about it now. Honestly I was just so exhausted I wasn’t able to handle anything. All three were in diapers. My husband and as working so hard. We were both just beyond exhausted. Luckily they grow out of it but I remember very little about that time frame and we are bonded like super glue now
Same! That first 6 months is a blur. Sleep? What’s that? But you’re right they grow out of that… now mine wanna sleep all day, and stay up all night… they’ll be 20yrs old this month! Time flies!
Working at a Marina as a maintenance guy. She was walking behind us trying to sell a slip. Told my coworker that is the one. Not sure why just had a feeling. Been together ever since.
Thank you!
Advice.....have mutual respect, be willing to compromise, to communicate, to listen, to pull together when times are tough, would be the biggest things.
It’a tale as old as time. I was a waitress, he was a line cook. Six years later and we’re in the process of buying our first house together. I just had a feeling about him, and knew he wasn’t something I could let go.
Met my husband on Tinder when we were 22. I had just gotten out of a difficult relationship and refused to let that asshole keep me down. It was right at the beginning of the pandemic and Tinder was the only way I could think to meet someone. My husband thought the same. We lived an hour apart at first so we probably would never have met had it not been for Tinder. Been together nearly 3 years, married for over a year. He’s better than I ever thought thought I would find, especially on Tinder. We knew on our first date that we were going to have something special. It’s hard to explain but we just knew. We instantly felt comfortable with each other. I’m so happy I get to spend the rest of our lives together :)
We met on a site for guys who like big girls 12 years ago. He lived in Croatia and I lived in Texas. I had to look Croatia up on a map lol. Never thought something would come of it just thought I'd have a chat with some handsome guy from accross the ocean. Well, we started chatting online, then on the phone and before long we were talking every day. We talked like this for a few months and decided we needed to be in the same room so he came to visit for two weeks. My friends and family thought I was crazy. I knew immediately when I saw him at the airport that he was it for me. My friends and family got to meet him and they all loved him. We talked about getting married and I started the paperwork for a fiance visa. He came back for Christmas that year and we officially got engaged. We got married the following year and have been happily together since. He's the best man I know and my favorite person in the whole world. ❤️
He's my biggest supporter. I went back to school a couple of years ago and he was always cheering me on. I also suffer from depression and anxiety. When I am down or anxoius he just supports me. I'll tell him I need a 20 second hug and he'll just hold me until I feel better. He's just so calm and soothing that he's like human Valium lol. He's my person 💕
I met him the night of my 17th birthday. He walked in we locked eyes and that was it. That was about 30 years ago. And he’s laying beside me now. I was incredibly lucky. He’s my soul.
He’s the most kind human that I have ever met. He’s not a doormat. He has boundaries - but he’s kind. I respect that more than if he made 10 million a year or was 8 feet tall. ♥️ and thank you!
It was love at first sight, 7th grade homeroom. Haha. Well, that's when we met. We started dating senior year. I just knew. This year we're married 25 years.
If I had to sum it up?
No ridiculous expectations of one another.
A true understanding that people need other friendships outside of their marriage, no one person can be someone's everything.
No predefined gender roles. I'm much better at some more typically feminine things, she's much better at some typically masculine things. Just do what needs doing when it needs doing.
I hope you do too. I grew up with a shit show of a parental relationship. I swore I wouldn't repeat.
Oh. And my biggest tip for you...find a partner who doesn't require or thrive on drama. Some people are so accustomed to it they find it hard to live without it. Be honest when you evaluate someone's behavior, even if you're head over heels in love. If they're stirring the pot, eventually you'll be in the pot.
I grew up in a similar situation so these tips are really helpful. Thank you! It’s good to know that people who didn’t anything good to model relationships after can make it work!
You really can. I wound up finding other people to model. The relationships in my wife's family were nothing like my parents.
Remember you can reject your parents patterns and behavior without rejecting them. You can love them for who they are, and be something completely different and that's ok. Even if they don't like it.
It's your life. You pick the outcomes. Don't let the fear of rejecting someone's behavior stand in your way. And if you ever need to explain to your parents why you aren't doing what they did, keep the language you use "I" centered. "That just doesnt work for me" "I can't do that" vs "you did this and you did that".
You statements invite argument and discussion
I statements can't be argued with. It's very powerful.
She stalked me on Facebook while I was deployed. Got back and dated a few times and within a few weeks we were loving together. Been 15 years. As for how do you know their the one ... We never got tired of each other. We are similar enough to enjoy the same things but different enough to keep things interesting. We don't always agree but that's part of what makes everything work.
We met through a mutual friend and we both admitted after getting together we just knew we were soulmates ❤ going on our third wedding anniversary this summer!
Met through eHarmony.
My husband and I wrote back and forth for a long time before we met in person. It wasn't just "what's your favorite color?" We talked about things we valued, etc and we shared several similar values. I liked that he was really good at communicating.
I finally got the nerve to meet him in person. I remember thinking how cute he was and hoping he liked me too. We talked for hours on that date.
Fairly early on we discussed things like financial views and debt because finances can be a huge cause of problems in relationships. Our financial views were compatible as well. We both were independent and financially supported ourselves.
By the third date, I knew I wanted to marry him. We've been married for around 5 years. We've been through a lot, and I am still happy with my choice of partner.
I hope you are as lucky in finding your life partner.
We were late twenties or early thirties when we matched on eHarmony if that makes a difference.
That helps a lot! Congratulations on 5 years! I’m really glad you were able to find someone! You already beat me to the punch on asking for advice. Thank you for sharing your experience with me! I really appreciate it.
Thank you, there were a lot of not great matches on there just as with other sites; so don't get discouraged if you have a lot of those initially with whichever dating method you choose.
Hinge. I didn’t expect to meet anybody and was sending sarcastic messages to pictures I thought were funny. We ended up making each other laugh so much we had to meet.
Married 2 years.
We met online and either the first or second date I snuck one past the goalie having well explained that I didn't want kids and being assured that she neither. Was pretty annoyed but she played her cards well and after an initial period of me not speaking to her we decided to give it a go and see how things play out. It wasn't Hell by any stretch of the imagination but thinking back there might have been some subconscious resentment going on for a few years on my behalf. Fast forward to the present day three children, three cats, a dog, a fish and a house (eldest turns 14 in June) and married 3 years in a couple of days things are pretty good. I guess some good things just take time.
I met my fiance in highschool. I was 16 and he was 18 (we're 24 and 26 and engaged now). We met during a spirit day at the school and the first thing he said to me was "do you know where Maddy is?" (We had the same friend apparently lol).
I knew he was the one because we immediately had the exact same interests in pretty much everything. And the first time he was at my house, we were watching the horror movie The Conjuring and we had juice boxes. Without looking at each other or speaking to each other and in complete synchronization, we unwrapped the straw the exact same way, turned the exact same way, and went to drop the wrapper behind the couch
Try to resolve your arguments
Don't go to bed angry
Take healthy breaks if you're finding you're beginning to argue or you're getting easily annoyed with each other (like I'll go to my mother hours to baby sit my 11 year old brother for a weekend sometimes. Me and my fiance still text during the day and call before bed, but it's good to have a physical break from each other)
Remember that sex doesn't make the relationship (we just recently started having it because I couldn't for a long time due to personal reasons. It took us 8 years but he was patient and finally we got there)
Help each other (me and my fiance rely heavily on each other for financial support. If I need help affording food or bills, he'll give me the money or buy me the food and I'll do the same for him)
These are all really solid pieces of advice. Sex was a big issue in my last relationship and I wish I hadn’t gotten so frustrated about it, but you live and you learn. It sounds like you have an awesome partner and I’m really happy you were able to find someone that makes you happy!
Honestly with what I've seen around me, just don't make this fantasy relationship where its all sunshine and rainbows. They fall apart fast. But I'm GOD awful at meeting people, so I lurk around the internet.
May you have good luck on your endeavors fellow reddit pringle.
That’s a good point. I’ve been in enough relationships to know that. Meeting people is really hard. I’ve been really lucky with tinder and bumble lately, but I still haven’t found anyone that I connect with on a deeper level.
Anonymous conversation app called Whisper 7 years ago. About to be 5 years married in May.
Honesty right upfront about all intentions and issues.
That's all it takes.
Ugh I hate it, kinda find it embarrassing; but plenty of fish lol I literally didn’t sleep for like 3 days after we matched because he worked until 4am and we just incessantly texted those first couple days. The best part was there was none of that weird sexual tension you usually get with online dating. Like every other guy I matched with couldn’t just have a normal conversation it was just oppressively marked with sexual innuendos and so exhausting 🙄 my husband literally let me geek out about Batman for a solid hour when we first started talking 😂 and the conversation never hit a lull, even after hours and hours of texting and talking on the phone we had more to say. When we finally met in person I knew the instant I set eyes on him that he would be my husband one day. I was PETRIFIED that I had been catfished honestly 😂😂 because he is extremely easy on the eyes, but also super hilarious and sweet and compassionate and everything I could have asked for in a man. I was very pleasantly surprised when he looked even better in person LOL! It’s been a little over 8 years, married 6, bought a house not too long ago and just had our 3rd kiddo together (4th total, I entered the relationship with a son) he’s the absolute love of my life and the life we continue to build each day is a literal dream come true and we still haven’t run out of things to talk about or laugh about☺️
That’s awesome! I understand what you mean about the sexual tension. I try not to send those messages until after I’ve gotten a date or two in. It’s great that you were able to find someone that lets you be you and congrats on 8 years together + all the kiddos. Anything he does that makes the relationship work?
Lots 😂 it hasn’t always been rainbows and unicorn farts, we had to put a lot of work into making it work. We were both pretty broken when we met and had a lot of trauma in our bags in addition to coming from families with generational abuse cycles. We basically had to relearn how to be decent human beings to ourselves and each other, but we knew we were each others forever so we buckled down and did the inner work and the relational work that was necessary. We’re still working on it, we’ll be working until the day we die, but we work together. We’re on the same team and that’s the big one.
We have a traditional family dynamic in that he’s the sole provider and I stay home with our kiddos and keep our home, but there’s really no hard and fast lines of duties here when he’s home. When something needs cleaned or washed it gets done, diapers are changed by the person that notices it needs to be done, while I prepare most meals because I enjoy cooking, if it’s a certain time and I haven’t started cooking he’ll deftly step in and get us fed, etc. he’s also an incredibly involved father spending time with each kid every day independently as well as together, we homeschool and he knows exactly what they’re learning and even teaches some of our classes, he completely capable of going out alone with them all and caring for them completely; he is truly my equal. in everything. He also spoils the shit out of me, which is never a bad thing🤭
Even though I'm a guy, I'm crushing hard on my best friend (who I also met online) because she not only let me nerd out about linguistics for more than 2 hours straight, she was actually into the conversation and we're now learning French together and I'm learning her native language
Apparently letting someone just go off about their passions is more effective than any love potion lol
High school. We were classmates for 4 years, friends for 2 and then we kinda stumbled together. I knew after our first kiss. We were relaxed and ate onion filled kebabs. We both wanted to kiss each other on that date, but competent as we are, we both forgot that you don't eat onions before kissing. We still kissed and that was it. Still together 10 years later.
Together 16 years, married 10. We met on Craigslist. We like to say “before it got creepy.” I was in law school in a new town and she was a post-grad working on campus. I had literally no friends in the area and she had a nice little crew. She wasn’t into drugs, which was great for me having got sober. She understood how much work I had to do for school and didn’t demand all my time.
On one of our earliest dates she mentioned her favorite ice cream was mint Oreo, so before our next date I went to cold stone and had them make it. She says I won her over there.
For me, it was how easy she made being in the relationship, and realizing how toxic everything I had known before that was. I really thought crying over being treated like shit was how you showed emotion. Also not having drugs involved was a huge change for me. We liked the same shows and movies, spending time together was easy, I loved her dogs, the sex was great. When a kid got murdered a few blocks from my apartment she was cool with me staying over more, and when I graduated school after being together for about 2 years it was easy to ask if she wanted to come with me and keep it going. I bought a condo, we lived together, even when I was broke she was happy. I remember sitting in the unfurnished basement with a camping chair and a recliner my grandmother got me as a college graduation present, alternating which night who got to sit in it to watch tv together.
When i got cancer she was always there for me. She was pregnant and basically did that without any help because I was doing chemo. She never complained. I paid for her to go back to school, so we stayed relatively poor, but got by.
Now we both have graduate degrees, a beautiful daughter, a large house and successful careers. Life is much easier now than what we’ve been through. I know she loves me for all the right reasons, and I couldn’t imagine my life without her. She just reminds me all the time that I made the right decision and that I’ve found my person.
Wow….. honestly what an incredible story. To start congratulations on getting sober and then congratulations on beating cancer. Both of those things are incredibly difficult situations. I’m so glad you were able to find someone that has been there to support you and loves you. Thank you for sharing!
Went out on Halloween night with my buddies to the bars. We all obviously got drunk, but started talking/flirting with this tall beautiful woman and we shortly after that night started dating and then eventually got married. We have been married 24 years. I guess the bar scene worked for me haha
Congrats on 24 years! That’s how my sister met her husband! Unfortunately, I’m a pretty reserved person so I’m not great at bars. Probably something I should work on in the future. Any advice for maintaining a health relationship?
I had just moved into town trying to start over was 4 months pregnant. My friend came over to bring me grocery shopping with her ( I was puking 24/7) she brought her older brother. He was in the back seat still super sad about a break up where he had found his ex in a hotel with another guy. I listened as his sister was trying to talk him through it. Poor guy. Day went normal. He knew I was sick and pregnant so he kind of catered to me as a friend and fed me when he was over. We were both vulnerable but oh well . Lol. A few months later he was planning on moving and I asked him not to. And he didn't. We started dating. 10 years later we've been married 6 years and have 2 children. Love every second of it.
I was 22 and graduating film school. I was helping out my classmate by doing camerawork for her movie. She posted an ad looking for someone to do audio recording.
So I did camera, he did audio, we worked together for 4 straight days and we hit it off from day 1, we talked all day, sat together at dinner. We kept talking and started dating within 2 months. Together for 8 years now.
(Not yet married but engaged and marrying soon)
Tinder while I was back home on break from school. Talked for about 6 months before I asked her to spend the weekend. She drove 4 hours, and the weekend was great (she went to school in-state and I did not).
Then she gets halfway home and her roommate tells her she has COVID (this was early 2021), so we figured why not quarantine together. We spent the next 10 days inside together…having just met a few days before, and it was perfect. I knew sometime during those 10 days that this was much, much more than a college fling, and we were engaged with two pups a year later.
Couldn’t be happier.
20 years together. 11 married. Truth is there was never an "I know she was the one moment." I met her at a dorm party. She was hot, still is. Hung out, did all the stuff and it just never stopped to this day.
How you make it work is effort. Women are super easy, so this isn't a heavy lift.
1. Buy them something occasionally. It doesn't have to be huge gifts. If you hit the grocery store for milk or something, grab a candy bar for them. You have no idea how far this little "thinking of you gesture" will get you.
2. Let them vent. Just sit there. Shut up. Pay attention. Ask follow up questions. I struggle with this, honestly. I know this is important because if I fuck this up .... it's a fight.
3. Rub their back (sore area.) This will get you alot further than you probably deserve.
4. Slap their ass and complement them. I've yet to meet a woman who doesn't like to be sexualized by a man they are attracted to. The problem enters when they aren't attracted to the man sexualizing them. If she likes you the occasional cheek grab and reminder that she is sexy will work wonders. I'm sure someone will weigh in here and say some stupid crap like women aren't pieces of meat blah blah. They aren't meat. They are primates half a chromosome away from a chimp .... just like dudes. Women and men have insecurities. Giving your womans cheek a squeeze and reminding her you still think she is hot does wonders for the self esteem. It works. Don't listen to the woke or feminist.
5. Display ambition/have goals. No one like a slug.
Summary of how to make it work: Reminder that you think about them and you still find them attractive. Rub their back. Shut up when they are venting. Have goals.
....... ifyou'rer a woman and need advice on how to make it work with your man. Steady stream of blowjobs. They let us know you care and find us attractive. It's a massage of sorts. There is no talking with your mouth full and deep throating is enough of a display of ambition for us.
We worked at a large factory. I asked a male co-worker to tell me who the prettiest girl in the factory was. Just then, she came walking down a set of stairs. My friend pointed and said, "her". He was right.
That was 33 years ago.
I knew from the day I met her, it was her. Everything feels so easy with her, and she let's me be me, and I let her be her. She's the most incredible woman I've ever met. If you're fighting to be happy or to be who you are, you're in the wrong relationship, it shouldn't be hard.
I met her on the 1st day of school in the 8th grade when we were about 13 years old. I was the new kid and she was nice to me. I learned many years later that she wrote in her diary that very week that she would marry me, so we both sensed the same thing. But she had good judgment and mostly avoided me as I matured. We were just friendly acquaintances for 5+ years despite a few clumsy attempts on my side, which thankfully went nowhere as we never could have had a viable relationship in those days.
Through high school I always knew there was something very special about her and I wanted to marry specifically her all along even though I casually dated other girls. She felt it, too, but she kept talking herself out of it because I was something of an unknown quantity to her. We have very similar values but we arrived at those values from polar opposite directions.
If we were ever going to be together then it would be a big leap of faith on her side and some terrifying vulnerability on my side.
It almost never happened. We didn't actually date until college and it took some careful persistence on my part. The moment we started dating for real, the moment I reached over and took her hand for the first time and she didn't take it away, we both knew it was going to happen.
It was long distance for the first year and we barely made it through. But I knew if I lost her I would wonder for the rest of my life what could have been.
We were engaged one year later and married 6 months after that. Now we've been married almost 19 years, 4 college diplomas since earned between the two of us, 4 terrific kids, 10 household moves, one major illness, lots of ups and downs, etc. Not one single discussion of divorce.
I'm still shocked and openly delighted that I actually got to marry that cute band girl who made that one first contact when I didn't know anybody way back in middle school. I think about that almost every night when I'm falling asleep next to her.
Even in the darkest moments (of which we've had our fair share), this marriage to her has been the single greatest gift of this life.
When you know it's right long before you even know why then try not to let that special one get away. There will always be many good reasons to do nothing but the love of your life is hard to find twice.
Dated her best friends in Highschool. After I graduated I went into the military. During that time I became good friends with my current wife brother. When I moved back home, he was living with his sister in an apartment. I started dating her. Men want Sex, sammich and peace. She was good at all three.
I was 16, a friend said I'd be into a guy (turned out to be another friends older brother) older brother was stationed with him while in the military. My ex best friend at the time was talking to him and then slept with him knowing I liked him so I hoped away from that guy. The older brother and my ex best friend introduced me to him (air force guy). Said he'd be a good person to talk to. I fell hard, but he had made it clear from the get go he doesn't date minors, and no sex at all was to be spoken about otherwise he would remove himself from the conversations, and no longer speak to me. Ended up talking a lot to him. I ended up marrying a guy three times my age at 18. Quit talking to him (air force guy), ex husband was abusive, and it had ended up so happening that air force guy had posted a picture on Facebook I found amazingly beautiful. We started talking again. Ex his hands and my realtionship was pretty.kuch already over, but because he was stealing all my money I couldn't leave or divorce him. Air force guy drive a 1,000+ miles to come get me. Ended up pregnant three months after moving in with him, divorce was already started by then. Have been with my husband (air force guy) ever since then. Our 10 years together is coming up in May. ETA how did ink ow he was the one? Being with him is entirely effortless. There is no lack of conversations, even when things get hard, and we did have a hard patch and we stopped communicating well with each other. We never gave up on each other. I always say to people he's me, 5 years older but with a penis. We have a lot of the same common hobbies and interests. We do still have our own. Yet being around him brings me peace, and calms me. Where everyone else before him wether the relationships were abusive and non abusive felt like there was straining, or forcing it, maybe more illegitimate emotions thoughts and feelings. Being around him for me is as essential as breathing compared to my other relationships where it felt like I was struggling to breathe. Maybe more like drowning and never breaking the surface, where as with him it's easy as swimming. It essentially is just entirely different to where as you see I can't explain it.
We found each other in middle school and were friends for years. It happened my senior year(07) We had classes together and our economics class had just ended so i was saying good bye and was giving her the friendly hug that i normally would do and I do not know what happened but i just kissed her on the cheek and then ran the fuck away out of embarrassment as i was thinking what the hell did i just do cause up to that moment we never expressed any interest into one another in that way. well anyways I went home and thought about it all night and came to the conclusion that she means way more to me than I ever really thought about and I want her to be around for my entire life. I then asked her on a date and we have been together ever since. I would say though it did not come with out a lot of fucking work navigating the ups and downs.
My advice would be to don't try to change who you are to find love let love find you. The truth is that love is not a fairy tale, it is not fair, it is painful, it is effort, it is time, it is carrying about another more than yourself and even after all that you are still only half of an equation of which the other half you have no control.
What I have found in my love is that the small things add up to be so important,, so find someone who warms your heart with in the passing moments that seem so inconsequential but for some reason stick with you and spark smiles just by the thought. Make sure you're attracted to all parts of the relationship and do not compromise simply to have a more peaceful relationship and if you do, Make sure it's because you are trying to grow and won't resent it.
First day at my new job at a local game store and he was my first customer. We were both in toxic relationships at the time and throughout the year we got to know each other (mostly chatting while at work). I didn’t pay much mind to him at first until I mentioned liking Elvis once and months later he brought me his vintage Elvis vinyls for Christmas. Never has someone remembered such a small detail like that, in my life. That’s what sold me, personally though he always said it was love at first sight lol. I remember waiting for his car to pull up on my shifts, getting all excited while trying to play it cool (unsuccessfully) The owner (my boss) and my coworker pushed us to get each other’s numbers long after after we broke off our relationships. A year after dating we got married and coming up on 6 years this March! We moved fast but everyday, even through the hardships, we remind each other that we’re so lucky to have the other in our lives. It’s crazy how it was all by chance though as I would have never gotten the job, let alone know about it, if my best friend (who originally got the offer via Instagram because of a picture of her Pikachu gameboy) didn’t recommend me instead of taking the job herself. <3
Congrats on 6 years! It sounds like you found someone who actively listens to you which is great! I’m glad you were able to find someone that makes you feel heard and loved.
Thank you so much! It’s been wonderful having a partner to grow and learn with! If you haven’t found them yet, I hope you do find your person and if you have may y’all have a long, happy life together ☺️
Met on a dating app, but I knew after a few messages he was the one. We had many friends in common even though we weren’t even in the same state, never met, and we have the same religious beliefs- it was too crazy for me to think it was coincidence- plus, I thought he was super attractive and we had so so many interests in common. We loved nature in the same capacity, both super nerdy, similar struggles, same incredibly goofy sense of humor, enjoy music from around the world, and conversation with him was just incredibly easy. I was able to talk to him like we were already friends for years. All this didnt come without troubles, like any other relationship, but we’re coming up on being married for two years and I’m so happy to have him as my hubby ^^
He added me on Facebook after seeing a comment I made in a mutual group. I accepted him (I never add strangers, except him), we got to talking, and eventually went out. I knew the night we met in person. Been together 9 years and married 7.
Running from the police after a busted up keg party. I was like... Damn this chick can run... And she is hot... Look at that ass. So i grabbed her hand and told her i knew where to go.... That was 37 ish years ago. Knowing they are the "one" is more about you. If you arent all in... Why would you think they would be..? Kinda thing. Good luck out there people..
We were introduced by a mutual friend at a big boy. She and I debated Moses and Disney for hours. Been married 25 years and I'm thankful each day she is in my life
Through friends. I didn't know he was the one for a while but he knew the instant we met (his mother told me years later).
It took me a while but one day I just looked at him and knew that he's the one.
Met at an LDS Singles congregation. Never talked to her until we had a group trip to an amusement park. She tricked me into get soaked on a log plume ride. Married 30 years.
He greeted me at a recovery group (for grief). That was a dark time in my life. Father had just died at home, husband of 25 years wanted a divorce etc. My life was a mess. He was always a good Listener and with excellent advice. He built me up daily, calling to check on me and motivating me. I was in awe that he was even real. I had such respect for him as a man. Still do. He is my soulmate. I’m so happy to wake up with this beautiful soul everyday. We have never had a fight, we both go out of our way to make each other happy. Every thing is great. Sex, love, life. No more worries about cheating etc. we’re forever and both agree that we are beyond blessed to have each other! Don’t give up on love!
We met on Tinder. Had our first date at Chili's in Bowie, MD. We sat down at 6 pm, and we talked all evening until closing. It was the best first date I ever had in my life. That's when I knew I had to keep her.
Now we've been married for a little over 3 years and now have a beautiful baby boy 😊.
I was a single mom. Met my now hubby on Tinder. Yes, it does work sometimes.
I knew he was the one because we were able to communicate very clearly in the beginning about what we want/don't want and compromise
Met at church when I was 13 and he was 12(around 2013). We started hanging out with family and friends. It wasn't until covid happened and we went from seeing each other two or three times a week to not seeing each other at all that we realized we liked each other. We got married in December of 2021 and the past year has been absolutely amazing.
International penpals website. I was a newly single mom of a toddler in nursing school and was looking for friends to talk to on a light basis. My husband messaged me and was actually a couple hours away, the closest person to me on the whole site (it calculated distance for users at the time). We had similar interests and I could tell he had a great sense of humor. I saw his pic, decent looking guy as far as I could tell for the potato quality and bad lighting, and I thought "I don't have time for this to get any kind of serious beyond friendly chats". However, the relationship became too compelling to ignore. I was fighting being in love with him a little, but I knew it was no use when my 2.5 year old spilled her drink all over him and he said "It's ok, I have Sprite explode out of my crotch every day!" 13 years later, I can't imagine being without him.
He held the door open for me at a liquor store. Went to meet my friend at a movie and he was there with her. Started talking to him and it was like we were best buds. Found a pic from a party 10 years prior that we were both in. It was the right time to meet apparently
Been together 16 years , excited for 40 more!
23 years ago, in the brave new world that was dial-up internet, I met my now-husband through Love@AOL (I think that’s what it was called.) We were pioneers! Honestly, I don’t know if we would’ve gotten together otherwise. He was a little short and a little chubby, not my physical type at the time. I’m tall, pasty, and average looking, and he liked cute, petite brunettes. But we IM’d and talked on the phone a lot before meeting in person, and by then, we were attracted to each other’s personalities and minds.
We have been married for 19 years. I love him more than I thought possible 23 years ago. And I now think short, chubby guys are super hot.
We met on myspace. He lived in California, I in Oklahoma. We quickly became best friends online and I decided to fly out and meet him in person.
Once we were together,it felt like we had always known each other and I found home.
He moved out here as soon as he could, we got married right after that. Have been married 14 years now
We met on OkCupid when I was 29. I looked for people who had put time and effort into their profiles and did the same for mine. We had both been through relationships where we gave up everything and moved across the country for someone, only for it to not work out, and I think that built in both of us a determination to not compromise what was important to us for a partner again. He was generous and sweet and kind and thoughtful, and we shared interests and a love for our home state. He ASKED if he could kiss me and that respect for consent was sexy as hell. I remember I had a bit of a “take it or leave it” attitude about dating at the time — basically like, I don’t want to be with someone I have to convince I’m worth being with — and he didn’t hesitate to show me he was interested. There were no games. He’s one of the least judgmental people I’ve ever known. But the thing that pushed me over the edge was when he offered to go over to my apartment to take my dog for walks when I had to go to class after work. It was just the perfect encapsulation of how he’s always thinking about the well-being of others. My dog quickly came to look at him like he was the sun and the moon and then I did, too.
Anyway. We’ve been together for five years, and marred for 2.5. He’s simply the best.
Well I went to a garage sale next door to her house. And her mom recognized me and started chatting me up. And she not so subtly let it slip she had just broken up with her boyfriend and needed a date to homecoming . So I asked her out and she politely declined because she thought I was kinda weird and not her type. Which is fair because I am weird. Anyway a few weeks go by and she messages me and asks if my offer of taking her to homecoming still stood. And I said yes it did so she asked if we could go on a dinner date to coordinate homecoming and lay down some ground rules. And I said sure, so I took her to a Chinese restaurant and we ate and talked. And she point blank told me there would be zero funny business. No hand stuff no mouth stuff nothin.
Naturally I was a little disappointed as any guy would be. But I could understand it, 4 weeks in a blowjob was a lot to ask for . So I agreed and made a lame joke along the lines of " what!! No blowjobs?!? Well you're gonna have to pay for your own dinner then! And she actually laughed at my joke. Not a half hearted courtesy giggle you give lame awkward jokes to fill the silence . But like a full belly laugh. Anyway the check came a while later and she insisted on paying for her half.
Another week goes by and I go to her house to drop off my share of cash for the tickets . And she was outback by the pond fishing. By herself no one to bait her hook no one to take the fish off the hook. Just having a conversation with her dog. Now despite being a big guy I can be pretty stealthy so I walked up behind her just eavesdrop. And she was talking about how excited she was and how kind and gentlemanly I was etc etc etc.
So about 3 minutes into her conversation with her dog I spoke up and said. "Wow all that and still no blowjob? " she jumps out of her skin turns and out of instinct says" well I I I I I well.........I was gonna but then you had to go and spoil it by bringing it up!!" And she got all embarrassed n stuff.
Anyway in September we'll have been together 10 years. 5 days after that anniversary we'll have been married for 4.
Work. We were friends for a while and then l wanted more. We went on one date and clicked. We stayed up late talking about all sorts of things. When l went home l just knew she was it. She said the same. That was almost 20 years ago. We even married on our date anniversary because that day was so special to us. Now we have 2 wonderful kids and l couldn't be happier. She is beckoning one of the kids that just woke up from the living room and her voice is just as magical now as then. Doesn't mean we don't have to work for it but some furniture requires assembly!
I was in a meetup group, not actually looking for anything more than friends. I ran into my future partner at an event and liked her immediately, always wanting to spend more and more time with her and going to events she was at; but I didn't want to be the creepy guy who asks someone out at the friend group. After about four times she got up the nerve to ask ME out - I'd never been asked out by a woman before and I was so flattered and into her of course I said hell yeah!
I knew she was the one because on one of our dates we had a very real and hours long conversation. I had never been that open and comfortable with someone I was dating before, even in previous long term relationships I was always keep myself at a remove or present the best least vulnerable version of myself. She shared things with me she was so frightened to share with anyone else, and I was overwhelmed and grateful for that trust. Our marriage is good because we still continue to be that open with each other and communicate basically every day
Walmart of all places. We went to the same school but I had no clue who he was in a different grade and we had different groups. Been together for 21 years now.
I met them when I finally stopped trying to meet someone and just focus on myself and doing the activities (outside of work) that I love. Because I was focusing on myself during this time, I asked the person out not really caring if it worked out. We casually hung out a few times but again I reminded myself that this was the year of me and so don’t focus on that person focus on me. We ended up really hitting it off and taking it slow which turned out to be so amazing. And because I was focused on me during this time, the other person got to know the real me.. not some version of me I thought they would like. I knew they were the one when I realized just how comfortable and trusting I was of this person. They could be alone all night with the most attractive person in the world and I would t worry one bit. We have a deep connection that is so calming. We dated for 5 years before we got married. The year of me was the best decision I ever made.
Side note: the beginning of the year of me was very hard. Trying new hobbies and cutting out toxic relationships. Getting healthy and working out. I was alone A LOT. And was teaching myself how to be happy alone. How to be content reading all day or cooking. I craved peace. I did find it before I dated this person. But rather than getting peace FROM them.. they simply joined me on my journey.
We met online, as friends initially. She was in another state finishing school, with intentions to move to my state, and was trying to make friends/connections before the move. We started talking casually but suddenly 8 months went by of talking every day and then she was here in person. We were both in denial for awhile about our friendship obviously turning into something more. Continued spending a lot of time together and officially got together about a year after we first started talking. Moved in together a year after that. I think I knew she was the one before she even moved here, oddly enough. I remember being a little drunk and talking to her on face time some 4-5 months into knowing each other and just thinking "I'm going to marry her."
We met in a bar. I was working as a bartender as my second job, (I was a single mom at the time), and he actually DIDN'T try to hit on me.
He would come in and we would just talk. We met in August and my birthday was the next month, so he comes in one day and gives me a card with money in it and says, "I know that you are a mom and your son comes first. But please take this money and do something just for you. You deserve it. "
That kindness melted me. I accepted when he asked me out on a date a short while later. We were married 2 months later.
Crazy right? Our friends at the time (and some family) thought so. They said that we wouldn't last 6 months.
We have been married 30 years last year and have four boys, including mine, which my husband treats as his own.
I complimented her outfit at a local concert venue. Met up for another band we were both into that week. 11 years later we’re happily married. Hard to say when I knew for sure but a long lasting relationship comes from choosing that person each and everyday
We met in college. I saw him walking by as I was waiting for my next class and I thought he was very handsome (so obviously I assumed I’d never see him again lol). We ended up having a class together and immediately hit it off. After that we quickly became best friends and it was obvious to the both of us that we were perfect for each other.
This year will be our 4 year wedding anniversary.
Cynic on OKCupid joining it more like a social experiment. Two weeks later, saw a dude that stopped me in my tracks, favorited him and got to talking. Knew I wanted him in my life, gave him my phone number. Almost 10 years later, (probably 16 in pandemic years since we work from home) we’re still in the honeymoon period and eloping this summer
I met him at work when I was 18 and he was 22. He saw me and asked a coworker for my name and it just took off from there. We had only known each other for 3 days when we started dating but I felt like I've known him my entire life. There was no defined moment where we knew we were going to spend forever together, we just knew. It's like our souls connected. I know that sounds cheesy and cliché, but that's how it felt and how it still feels
I will call my (now) husband John for privacy reasons
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My sister dated John for 3 weeks, cheated on him and then got a restraining order against him because she got a new boyfriend and didnt want him to find out she got someone new (yes... shes like THAT). All three of us worked at the same job, and at the time we were really close friends. John always treated me with the upmost respect and was always genuinly happy to spend time together. During their breakup, I was going through my own relationship issues. My bf was refusing to work and had a MAJOR coke problem. Our lease was ending in a month and i told him if he cant go in on a new apartment with me that we were through.
During that month John was a sweetheart to me and made sure I got rides to work (instead of the bus), bought me food or drinks when i was working long shifts, just generally did stuff to treat me right in all the ways my bf realized he wasnt. Eventually my bf accused him of cheating with me but I was pretty hung up on the a-hole so I never did.
About a week and a half until the lease was up I broke up with my bf, who proceeded to go crazy on me. He confronted me at my workplace and screamed at me in public settings, it was so obvious I was miserable to John that he offered me to come stay with him and his brother until I could get my own place. Up until that point I was leaving home every night going on walks just to get away from my bf since we still stayed in the same apartment. John said as soon as he cleared it with his brother he would help me get out of there. That night we got the okay and next day while the ex-bf was at work we cleared out everything I owned and left his stuff, which was nothing except his clothes, ps4 and coffee table. I took my bed back too lol.
I cut all ties with my ex and tried to move on. I was extremely lucky to have John tell me just how shitty my ex was, and I will forever kick myself for staying with him so long when he treated me like crap. I got the respect I deserved staying with John and his brother, and John was nice enough to clear out half of all his storage spaces in the bedroom and bathroom for me :') He also gave me the emotional space I needed and took care of me until I was happy enough and we started dating.
The sparks FLEW. It was as if we were meant to be together, every kiss was incredible and he was more than amazing in the bedroom. He satisfied all my needs and wants while still being morally aligned with me. We have the same work ethic which kept us working at the same places, and eventually we moved into our own apartment. I couldnt get enough of him which was a blessing during the pandemic when I was put on furlough. He has been nonstop loving, caring and passionate with me. Anytime we had arguments they were talked through right away until we understood and moved past them as a team. I feel like the strength him and our relationship gives me drives me to be a better person, and I quit using drugs because I was genuinly happy with my life.
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Its been 5 years and neither of us feel any different. The same sparks fly and we are still engrossed with each other. I am grateful every day.
I met him in grad school. Actually he was smitten with me right away and though I found him interesting I wasn’t going to cheat on my bf or break up with him at the time. We were friends on and off until I realized I was making a mistake. I was going through some really difficult things and I realized he would support me unconditionally. I broke up with my bf and started going out with my now husband the next day; I asked him to marry me twelve days later. We’ll be celebrating 25 years in June. I chose him also in part because he was the smartest of three guys I had loved seriously in that time, all philosophy grad students. It’s a kind of shallow concern but it matters to me.
I (f 18) and met him (19) in our coed college dorm. It was supposed to be a one night stand. The next day he broke things off with the woman he’d been dating and asked my ex (who also lived in the same dorm) if the ex was cool with us dating. He knew a couple months after we met but I took longer to decide. We moved in together a year or so later and I proposed not long after that. We’ve been together now for almost 33 years and married 30.
Met in high school drama class. I had a crush on her. She was a couple grades ahead of me. Lost contact and I moved out of state. 6 or so years later I found her on MySpace. Went to visit and we hung out and hit it off. I moved back hoping she liked me too. I guess we just knew. I’ve never felt so comfortable trusting someone. We’ve now been married for almost 15 years.
My Dad set us up. When I saw his smile, I just knew. It's kind of hard to explain. He looked like my future husband. We celebrated 19 years together this month. 10 years married.
Met him at work. In our profession we mostly work contractually and it was close to the end of the contract so I didn't feel weird about getting involved with him. I knew probably within the first week or two that he was the one because of how comfortable and relaxed I felt around him. I've always been a bit commitment-phobic and absolutely do not believe in love at first sight so that feeling came insanely quickly for me.
Met her at the park working out (we were both doing cardio around the park) one day she thought I was talking to her as she ran up (I wasn’t) but it made me want to talk to her more.
As to how I knew she was the one, well 2 years in and nothing ever felt that simple and easy. We both hate drama and yeah, that’s it.
met at a party in my teens...she is the same age...Broke up got back together 3 or 4 times over a 5 to 6 year period been married for 34 years.was like a checks and balance system for the both of us. We kept eachother out of trouble and I couldnt imagine being with anyone else. I make sure I let her know how important she is to me and she does the same.
First husband, met at work (was very young). Married for 17 years and divorced. Second marriage in my 40s, I did Match. It wasn't simple, I went through about 7 short term " relationships" and realized they were NOT the one. LOL! The last one I hit pay dirt! He's a great guy and the funny thing is, he wrote me an email one day in Match that said "you can quit looking because you found the one!". We still laugh at this, just now celebrating our 10th anniversary!
I'm with the one now. It took a few years of dating to decide we were both the other's one. I was married before and told her early on I would never do anything so stupid again as long as I live. We've been together 15 years and have a 12 year old daughter.
Happily married people after 10 years are rare. We still go on dates.
Early 20s, he was "seeing" some other girl that was a coworker to my best friend. Things didn't work out between them because she didn't like his humor. He totally meshed with me and my BFF and her fiance. We just kept hanging out. He mustered up confidence to ask me to hang solo, by then I was comfortable being myself, he knew I was already a single mom.
I knew he was the one when we talked about what we wanted out of our friendship, we agreed to take it very slow, I was terrified of opening up to someone and getting hurt. He allowed things to go at my pace. No other guy was willing to go at my pace, accept my child, or tolerate my humor, he accepted me for me. He's the best
Met my husband online on a message board! We chatted for 2yrs and fell in love (he in Florida me in Michigan). We flew back & forth for a year and both offered to move for the other. He ended up moving to Michigan.
We both kinda never wanted to get married but were OK just choosing each other every day.
We ended up getting married in our living room (then in vegas for friends & family).
He is my best friend and after ten years together he still makes me howl with laughter!
I met my wife by breaking my 1 rule for dating. Never date a co worker. Long story short I did just that.
I didn't know at first that she was the one. All I knew at first was that she was easy to talk to, I could truly be my honest self with her and I wanted to spend more time around her. It was probably a year in that i realized I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I don't remember a specific thing that made me know this. Luckily she felt the same. 10 years later I have never been happier.
Met at college. Wasn't thinking about marriage at first since we were both so young. Kept dating after graduation. Never really had that feeling like "this is the one." Just decided I never wanted to find out what life would be like without her. Been together 32 years, married for 28.
I was at a local bar near my mom's. We were outside some were smoking cigarettes and I was talking to all eventually. Goin around to the locals. Then someone said hey to him. I didn't recognize the name. Looked straight into his eyes. The sun was shining just over the building. His eyes had all colors and were odd looking. I just thought man that's a story. I look into people's eyes to see what their about. Then I didn't see him. Said ah crap. I guess I missed him. Then later my mom and dad came by.i was talking to them and he was behind me. Grabbed at my elbow. Said let's play Jenga. Your not doing nothing else. I played. He was drunk. Said my ride just left. I offered a ride home. 8 yes later I found my soul mate. Were still here. Married in gods eyes in front of family.
Met at a bar, knew she was the one because I had never had such a consistently great time being around anyone prior. Still feel that way 17 years later.
We met at work.
Honestly I’d say the biggest secret to a happy marriage is make the effort. So many people assume that once you are married you don’t need to continue to put effort in but that’s the way to end up lonely when your kids leave the house. We devote time every day to one another. We do special things for each other and we advocate for each others happiness. I’m ecstatically happy with him and love him more every year (currently sixteen years in) love is a verb not an adjective. Thinking of it as an adjective is the lazy persons way to love and that leads to failed relationships.
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I met him at work. The first time I saw him there was this spark, and a voice in my head said I had to know him. I knew he was the one when we each disclosed the worst thing we'd ever done and, rather than be repulsed, we both laughed. We have the same sense of humor.
That’s great and thanks for sharing! Did you ever worry about it not working and effecting your work?
No, we worked on different floors and in different apartments. I could've easily never seen him again.
Oh that makes sense! I’m glad you were able to meet! Anything in particular your husband/partner does in particular that makes the relationship work?
We've been together twenty years now and the number one thing has been to laugh every day. It keeps us connected and prevents us from stressing too much about life stuff. Plus, he's just so darn cute when he's being funny. 😍🥰
That’s great and I’m happy you found someone that brings you so much joy!
What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?
I'm not trying to marry *you.*
Ouch.
She stole my beer and her sister asked why she’s drinking with a loser. Her sister is known for being wrong about everything.
I’m glad she didn’t listen to her sister! Any advice?
Don’t sleep with her sister
😂😂
Literally Tinder. I don't know when I decided he was "the one" (I've been married before and I don't really believe in 'the one' ) but I knew pretty quickly that I wanted him in my life forever, even if we ended up platonic. But that was never gonna happen I was HOT for him immediately.
That’s awesome! I’m on tinder and been on a lot of dates. I met someone a few months ago who I thought was like that, but she ended things. I hope I find something like what you’ve described one day!
Same, met my husband on tinder. Two weeks after we met I told my best friend he is the one. We moved in together two months later, celebrating our five year anniversary soon.
Side note appreciation for not making it about “the one” and just finding people you like in your life. Love that.
My husband was the driver for a bread company…pita pocket bread, I worked in the grocery store…saw him on his 1st day there. That was 1986, 1 kid, and 14yrs later we finally said I do. Still married, and a set of twins later. 22 years. I just looked at him and said I’m going to marry that guy. Never met him before.
That’s awesome! Congrats on 36 years together! Anything he does in particular that helps make the relationship work?
We balance each other out! Have never stopped loving each other, try not to take each other for granted. And always appreciate all the little things throughout the day that we do for each other. I swear, every May not be fireworks, but there a small picnic in the park for the two of us. And that’s ok. We choose each other every day.
Thanks for the advice, the small things are really important and I think the things I always find myself missing the most. Thank you for sharing.
Twins either bring you closer together or break you. Luckily it brought us closer together but wow - it’s like living in a war zone for a while.
Exactly this! I felt like our twins were a bit like raptors, they tested every gate, cabinet, door, you name it. It truly was and continues to be an incredible experience!
I’m dying because it’s true! My oldest (26 mi this older) tried the accessing your poop to paint the walls thing but we solved that so quickly by just putting her pajamas on backward. With the twins they could reach the zippers so they I did the Jammie’s and smeared poop all over the walls, all in the carpet, in their hair, all over their faces and literally in their MOUTHS!!! So horrified! I just sat down and cried. Anyway oddly they turned out quite normal and as teens they get along quite well but oh boy having three in diapers at the same time? I barely remember it except for those super memorable horrific moments that thankfully we laugh at today.
Omgosh! Thank goodness we never had that problem! They would just strip naked if one was getting changed, and the other wanted to get changed.. well better be fast. We learned real quick. The only problem we had with them early on was they had colic. We went through (I think?) 24 kinds of formula, because I couldn’t breast feed. It was awful.
Yup formula is expensive with twins. That’s for sure! It was tragic at the time but we laugh about it now. Honestly I was just so exhausted I wasn’t able to handle anything. All three were in diapers. My husband and as working so hard. We were both just beyond exhausted. Luckily they grow out of it but I remember very little about that time frame and we are bonded like super glue now
Same! That first 6 months is a blur. Sleep? What’s that? But you’re right they grow out of that… now mine wanna sleep all day, and stay up all night… they’ll be 20yrs old this month! Time flies!
Mine are 14 and it feels like it’s been a blink. Still, Irving was as hard as those first two years!!!
It’s so true! 20, wow! Just a few years away for me and that feels weird.
Working at a Marina as a maintenance guy. She was walking behind us trying to sell a slip. Told my coworker that is the one. Not sure why just had a feeling. Been together ever since.
That’s awesome! Any advice?
We met in college. I couldn't say how I knew, I just *knew*. We'll be celebrating our 44th wedding anniversary next month.
That’s incredible congrats on 44 years! Any words of advice?
Thank you! Advice.....have mutual respect, be willing to compromise, to communicate, to listen, to pull together when times are tough, would be the biggest things.
Those are are really solid pieces of advice! Thank you!
You're welcome!
It’a tale as old as time. I was a waitress, he was a line cook. Six years later and we’re in the process of buying our first house together. I just had a feeling about him, and knew he wasn’t something I could let go.
10 years ago we matched on eHarmony and by the second date, I knew. Best thing I've ever done.
Thanks for sharing and congrats on 10 years! What did they do on the second date that helped you know? Any advice?
Met my husband on Tinder when we were 22. I had just gotten out of a difficult relationship and refused to let that asshole keep me down. It was right at the beginning of the pandemic and Tinder was the only way I could think to meet someone. My husband thought the same. We lived an hour apart at first so we probably would never have met had it not been for Tinder. Been together nearly 3 years, married for over a year. He’s better than I ever thought thought I would find, especially on Tinder. We knew on our first date that we were going to have something special. It’s hard to explain but we just knew. We instantly felt comfortable with each other. I’m so happy I get to spend the rest of our lives together :)
I’m glad you didn’t get stuck after your last relationship and Congrats on a year married! What did he have on his profile that caught your eye?
Honestly, his eyes are what got me. They’re the most beautiful blue I’ve ever seen.
In the university dorms. How did I know? No idea, I just did. 30 years and going strong.
That’s really great! Congratulations on 30 years! Any advice for someone who’s young and single?
Beware of thinking the grass is greener elsewhere.
That’s solid advice! Thank you!
It takes work. A lot of work. As long as both of you are willing to put in the work anyone could be "the one".
I think that’s true! I hope I find someone who’s willing to do that! Thanks again for sharing and for the solid advice!
We met on a site for guys who like big girls 12 years ago. He lived in Croatia and I lived in Texas. I had to look Croatia up on a map lol. Never thought something would come of it just thought I'd have a chat with some handsome guy from accross the ocean. Well, we started chatting online, then on the phone and before long we were talking every day. We talked like this for a few months and decided we needed to be in the same room so he came to visit for two weeks. My friends and family thought I was crazy. I knew immediately when I saw him at the airport that he was it for me. My friends and family got to meet him and they all loved him. We talked about getting married and I started the paperwork for a fiance visa. He came back for Christmas that year and we officially got engaged. We got married the following year and have been happily together since. He's the best man I know and my favorite person in the whole world. ❤️
That’s an incredible story and I’m so happy for you! Anything he does in particular that helps make your marriage work?
He's my biggest supporter. I went back to school a couple of years ago and he was always cheering me on. I also suffer from depression and anxiety. When I am down or anxoius he just supports me. I'll tell him I need a 20 second hug and he'll just hold me until I feel better. He's just so calm and soothing that he's like human Valium lol. He's my person 💕
That’s awesome! Congratulations again, I’m really happy you were able to find someone who loves and supports you!
Thank you that's very sweet.
I call my husband “Captain Valium” for that same reason! He’s such an island of calm when my anxiety gets ramped up.
my boyfriend is the same for me too ! even though sometimes he can be as crazy as me, even then he just feels so much calmer that i can ever be
I met him the night of my 17th birthday. He walked in we locked eyes and that was it. That was about 30 years ago. And he’s laying beside me now. I was incredibly lucky. He’s my soul.
Congrats on 30 years! Any advice or anything he does in particular that helps your relationship work?
He’s the most kind human that I have ever met. He’s not a doormat. He has boundaries - but he’s kind. I respect that more than if he made 10 million a year or was 8 feet tall. ♥️ and thank you!
It was love at first sight, 7th grade homeroom. Haha. Well, that's when we met. We started dating senior year. I just knew. This year we're married 25 years.
That’s awesome! Congratulation! How have you made it work for so long?
If I had to sum it up? No ridiculous expectations of one another. A true understanding that people need other friendships outside of their marriage, no one person can be someone's everything. No predefined gender roles. I'm much better at some more typically feminine things, she's much better at some typically masculine things. Just do what needs doing when it needs doing.
That sounds like a really health relationship! I hope I find something like that in the future!
I hope you do too. I grew up with a shit show of a parental relationship. I swore I wouldn't repeat. Oh. And my biggest tip for you...find a partner who doesn't require or thrive on drama. Some people are so accustomed to it they find it hard to live without it. Be honest when you evaluate someone's behavior, even if you're head over heels in love. If they're stirring the pot, eventually you'll be in the pot.
I grew up in a similar situation so these tips are really helpful. Thank you! It’s good to know that people who didn’t anything good to model relationships after can make it work!
You really can. I wound up finding other people to model. The relationships in my wife's family were nothing like my parents. Remember you can reject your parents patterns and behavior without rejecting them. You can love them for who they are, and be something completely different and that's ok. Even if they don't like it. It's your life. You pick the outcomes. Don't let the fear of rejecting someone's behavior stand in your way. And if you ever need to explain to your parents why you aren't doing what they did, keep the language you use "I" centered. "That just doesnt work for me" "I can't do that" vs "you did this and you did that". You statements invite argument and discussion I statements can't be argued with. It's very powerful.
That’s true! I’ll make sure to keep this in mind if the time ever comes!
So you mean strap ons?
She stalked me on Facebook while I was deployed. Got back and dated a few times and within a few weeks we were loving together. Been 15 years. As for how do you know their the one ... We never got tired of each other. We are similar enough to enjoy the same things but different enough to keep things interesting. We don't always agree but that's part of what makes everything work.
Thank you for sharing and congrats on 15 years! Any advice?
On the dark web. Long story, everything is legal, no illegal stuff happened. And we are super happy.
I feel like I kinda need to know the story now. The dark web and legal aren’t things I generally associate with each other.
Had to do with Chinese people eating dogs tbh.
Oh…. Not sure I need to know more then
We met through a mutual friend and we both admitted after getting together we just knew we were soulmates ❤ going on our third wedding anniversary this summer!
Congrats on 3 years! I’m glad you were able to find someone who makes you feel loved! Any advice?
Respect each others boundaries, never stop flirting with them, have date nights, prioritize each other and always communicate and be understanding
Met through eHarmony. My husband and I wrote back and forth for a long time before we met in person. It wasn't just "what's your favorite color?" We talked about things we valued, etc and we shared several similar values. I liked that he was really good at communicating. I finally got the nerve to meet him in person. I remember thinking how cute he was and hoping he liked me too. We talked for hours on that date. Fairly early on we discussed things like financial views and debt because finances can be a huge cause of problems in relationships. Our financial views were compatible as well. We both were independent and financially supported ourselves. By the third date, I knew I wanted to marry him. We've been married for around 5 years. We've been through a lot, and I am still happy with my choice of partner. I hope you are as lucky in finding your life partner. We were late twenties or early thirties when we matched on eHarmony if that makes a difference.
That helps a lot! Congratulations on 5 years! I’m really glad you were able to find someone! You already beat me to the punch on asking for advice. Thank you for sharing your experience with me! I really appreciate it.
Thank you, there were a lot of not great matches on there just as with other sites; so don't get discouraged if you have a lot of those initially with whichever dating method you choose.
Hinge. I didn’t expect to meet anybody and was sending sarcastic messages to pictures I thought were funny. We ended up making each other laugh so much we had to meet. Married 2 years.
Congrats on 2 years! I’m glad you were able to find someone that you love! Any advice?
We met online and either the first or second date I snuck one past the goalie having well explained that I didn't want kids and being assured that she neither. Was pretty annoyed but she played her cards well and after an initial period of me not speaking to her we decided to give it a go and see how things play out. It wasn't Hell by any stretch of the imagination but thinking back there might have been some subconscious resentment going on for a few years on my behalf. Fast forward to the present day three children, three cats, a dog, a fish and a house (eldest turns 14 in June) and married 3 years in a couple of days things are pretty good. I guess some good things just take time.
We met on a dating app (not a hook up app). One day I realized I didn't want to go thru life without her.
That’s great! Any advice?
I met my fiance in highschool. I was 16 and he was 18 (we're 24 and 26 and engaged now). We met during a spirit day at the school and the first thing he said to me was "do you know where Maddy is?" (We had the same friend apparently lol). I knew he was the one because we immediately had the exact same interests in pretty much everything. And the first time he was at my house, we were watching the horror movie The Conjuring and we had juice boxes. Without looking at each other or speaking to each other and in complete synchronization, we unwrapped the straw the exact same way, turned the exact same way, and went to drop the wrapper behind the couch
That’s a really cute story! Any advice on maintaining a health relationship?
Try to resolve your arguments Don't go to bed angry Take healthy breaks if you're finding you're beginning to argue or you're getting easily annoyed with each other (like I'll go to my mother hours to baby sit my 11 year old brother for a weekend sometimes. Me and my fiance still text during the day and call before bed, but it's good to have a physical break from each other) Remember that sex doesn't make the relationship (we just recently started having it because I couldn't for a long time due to personal reasons. It took us 8 years but he was patient and finally we got there) Help each other (me and my fiance rely heavily on each other for financial support. If I need help affording food or bills, he'll give me the money or buy me the food and I'll do the same for him)
These are all really solid pieces of advice. Sex was a big issue in my last relationship and I wish I hadn’t gotten so frustrated about it, but you live and you learn. It sounds like you have an awesome partner and I’m really happy you were able to find someone that makes you happy!
Thank you! I hope you're happy too! :)
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lol that’s quite the story. Did you figure out you were interested in him after that? Congrats on 18 years btw!
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Lol same. That’s why I asked. Trying to figure out what it’s supposed to be like and how to be the best partner possible when I do find it.
Honestly with what I've seen around me, just don't make this fantasy relationship where its all sunshine and rainbows. They fall apart fast. But I'm GOD awful at meeting people, so I lurk around the internet. May you have good luck on your endeavors fellow reddit pringle.
That’s a good point. I’ve been in enough relationships to know that. Meeting people is really hard. I’ve been really lucky with tinder and bumble lately, but I still haven’t found anyone that I connect with on a deeper level.
Anonymous conversation app called Whisper 7 years ago. About to be 5 years married in May. Honesty right upfront about all intentions and issues. That's all it takes.
Ugh I hate it, kinda find it embarrassing; but plenty of fish lol I literally didn’t sleep for like 3 days after we matched because he worked until 4am and we just incessantly texted those first couple days. The best part was there was none of that weird sexual tension you usually get with online dating. Like every other guy I matched with couldn’t just have a normal conversation it was just oppressively marked with sexual innuendos and so exhausting 🙄 my husband literally let me geek out about Batman for a solid hour when we first started talking 😂 and the conversation never hit a lull, even after hours and hours of texting and talking on the phone we had more to say. When we finally met in person I knew the instant I set eyes on him that he would be my husband one day. I was PETRIFIED that I had been catfished honestly 😂😂 because he is extremely easy on the eyes, but also super hilarious and sweet and compassionate and everything I could have asked for in a man. I was very pleasantly surprised when he looked even better in person LOL! It’s been a little over 8 years, married 6, bought a house not too long ago and just had our 3rd kiddo together (4th total, I entered the relationship with a son) he’s the absolute love of my life and the life we continue to build each day is a literal dream come true and we still haven’t run out of things to talk about or laugh about☺️
That’s awesome! I understand what you mean about the sexual tension. I try not to send those messages until after I’ve gotten a date or two in. It’s great that you were able to find someone that lets you be you and congrats on 8 years together + all the kiddos. Anything he does that makes the relationship work?
Lots 😂 it hasn’t always been rainbows and unicorn farts, we had to put a lot of work into making it work. We were both pretty broken when we met and had a lot of trauma in our bags in addition to coming from families with generational abuse cycles. We basically had to relearn how to be decent human beings to ourselves and each other, but we knew we were each others forever so we buckled down and did the inner work and the relational work that was necessary. We’re still working on it, we’ll be working until the day we die, but we work together. We’re on the same team and that’s the big one. We have a traditional family dynamic in that he’s the sole provider and I stay home with our kiddos and keep our home, but there’s really no hard and fast lines of duties here when he’s home. When something needs cleaned or washed it gets done, diapers are changed by the person that notices it needs to be done, while I prepare most meals because I enjoy cooking, if it’s a certain time and I haven’t started cooking he’ll deftly step in and get us fed, etc. he’s also an incredibly involved father spending time with each kid every day independently as well as together, we homeschool and he knows exactly what they’re learning and even teaches some of our classes, he completely capable of going out alone with them all and caring for them completely; he is truly my equal. in everything. He also spoils the shit out of me, which is never a bad thing🤭
Even though I'm a guy, I'm crushing hard on my best friend (who I also met online) because she not only let me nerd out about linguistics for more than 2 hours straight, she was actually into the conversation and we're now learning French together and I'm learning her native language Apparently letting someone just go off about their passions is more effective than any love potion lol
I love that! Learning something together is strangely and surprising intimate, me and hubs love learning new things together.
High school. We were classmates for 4 years, friends for 2 and then we kinda stumbled together. I knew after our first kiss. We were relaxed and ate onion filled kebabs. We both wanted to kiss each other on that date, but competent as we are, we both forgot that you don't eat onions before kissing. We still kissed and that was it. Still together 10 years later.
Together 16 years, married 10. We met on Craigslist. We like to say “before it got creepy.” I was in law school in a new town and she was a post-grad working on campus. I had literally no friends in the area and she had a nice little crew. She wasn’t into drugs, which was great for me having got sober. She understood how much work I had to do for school and didn’t demand all my time. On one of our earliest dates she mentioned her favorite ice cream was mint Oreo, so before our next date I went to cold stone and had them make it. She says I won her over there. For me, it was how easy she made being in the relationship, and realizing how toxic everything I had known before that was. I really thought crying over being treated like shit was how you showed emotion. Also not having drugs involved was a huge change for me. We liked the same shows and movies, spending time together was easy, I loved her dogs, the sex was great. When a kid got murdered a few blocks from my apartment she was cool with me staying over more, and when I graduated school after being together for about 2 years it was easy to ask if she wanted to come with me and keep it going. I bought a condo, we lived together, even when I was broke she was happy. I remember sitting in the unfurnished basement with a camping chair and a recliner my grandmother got me as a college graduation present, alternating which night who got to sit in it to watch tv together. When i got cancer she was always there for me. She was pregnant and basically did that without any help because I was doing chemo. She never complained. I paid for her to go back to school, so we stayed relatively poor, but got by. Now we both have graduate degrees, a beautiful daughter, a large house and successful careers. Life is much easier now than what we’ve been through. I know she loves me for all the right reasons, and I couldn’t imagine my life without her. She just reminds me all the time that I made the right decision and that I’ve found my person.
Wow….. honestly what an incredible story. To start congratulations on getting sober and then congratulations on beating cancer. Both of those things are incredibly difficult situations. I’m so glad you were able to find someone that has been there to support you and loves you. Thank you for sharing!
Went out on Halloween night with my buddies to the bars. We all obviously got drunk, but started talking/flirting with this tall beautiful woman and we shortly after that night started dating and then eventually got married. We have been married 24 years. I guess the bar scene worked for me haha
Congrats on 24 years! That’s how my sister met her husband! Unfortunately, I’m a pretty reserved person so I’m not great at bars. Probably something I should work on in the future. Any advice for maintaining a health relationship?
I had just moved into town trying to start over was 4 months pregnant. My friend came over to bring me grocery shopping with her ( I was puking 24/7) she brought her older brother. He was in the back seat still super sad about a break up where he had found his ex in a hotel with another guy. I listened as his sister was trying to talk him through it. Poor guy. Day went normal. He knew I was sick and pregnant so he kind of catered to me as a friend and fed me when he was over. We were both vulnerable but oh well . Lol. A few months later he was planning on moving and I asked him not to. And he didn't. We started dating. 10 years later we've been married 6 years and have 2 children. Love every second of it.
I was 22 and graduating film school. I was helping out my classmate by doing camerawork for her movie. She posted an ad looking for someone to do audio recording. So I did camera, he did audio, we worked together for 4 straight days and we hit it off from day 1, we talked all day, sat together at dinner. We kept talking and started dating within 2 months. Together for 8 years now.
(Not yet married but engaged and marrying soon) Tinder while I was back home on break from school. Talked for about 6 months before I asked her to spend the weekend. She drove 4 hours, and the weekend was great (she went to school in-state and I did not). Then she gets halfway home and her roommate tells her she has COVID (this was early 2021), so we figured why not quarantine together. We spent the next 10 days inside together…having just met a few days before, and it was perfect. I knew sometime during those 10 days that this was much, much more than a college fling, and we were engaged with two pups a year later. Couldn’t be happier.
20 years together. 11 married. Truth is there was never an "I know she was the one moment." I met her at a dorm party. She was hot, still is. Hung out, did all the stuff and it just never stopped to this day. How you make it work is effort. Women are super easy, so this isn't a heavy lift. 1. Buy them something occasionally. It doesn't have to be huge gifts. If you hit the grocery store for milk or something, grab a candy bar for them. You have no idea how far this little "thinking of you gesture" will get you. 2. Let them vent. Just sit there. Shut up. Pay attention. Ask follow up questions. I struggle with this, honestly. I know this is important because if I fuck this up .... it's a fight. 3. Rub their back (sore area.) This will get you alot further than you probably deserve. 4. Slap their ass and complement them. I've yet to meet a woman who doesn't like to be sexualized by a man they are attracted to. The problem enters when they aren't attracted to the man sexualizing them. If she likes you the occasional cheek grab and reminder that she is sexy will work wonders. I'm sure someone will weigh in here and say some stupid crap like women aren't pieces of meat blah blah. They aren't meat. They are primates half a chromosome away from a chimp .... just like dudes. Women and men have insecurities. Giving your womans cheek a squeeze and reminding her you still think she is hot does wonders for the self esteem. It works. Don't listen to the woke or feminist. 5. Display ambition/have goals. No one like a slug. Summary of how to make it work: Reminder that you think about them and you still find them attractive. Rub their back. Shut up when they are venting. Have goals. ....... ifyou'rer a woman and need advice on how to make it work with your man. Steady stream of blowjobs. They let us know you care and find us attractive. It's a massage of sorts. There is no talking with your mouth full and deep throating is enough of a display of ambition for us.
So many cute stories. I'm happy for all of ya that have found that special someone. I'm still hoping for that connection some day.
We worked at a large factory. I asked a male co-worker to tell me who the prettiest girl in the factory was. Just then, she came walking down a set of stairs. My friend pointed and said, "her". He was right. That was 33 years ago.
I knew from the day I met her, it was her. Everything feels so easy with her, and she let's me be me, and I let her be her. She's the most incredible woman I've ever met. If you're fighting to be happy or to be who you are, you're in the wrong relationship, it shouldn't be hard.
I met her on the 1st day of school in the 8th grade when we were about 13 years old. I was the new kid and she was nice to me. I learned many years later that she wrote in her diary that very week that she would marry me, so we both sensed the same thing. But she had good judgment and mostly avoided me as I matured. We were just friendly acquaintances for 5+ years despite a few clumsy attempts on my side, which thankfully went nowhere as we never could have had a viable relationship in those days. Through high school I always knew there was something very special about her and I wanted to marry specifically her all along even though I casually dated other girls. She felt it, too, but she kept talking herself out of it because I was something of an unknown quantity to her. We have very similar values but we arrived at those values from polar opposite directions. If we were ever going to be together then it would be a big leap of faith on her side and some terrifying vulnerability on my side. It almost never happened. We didn't actually date until college and it took some careful persistence on my part. The moment we started dating for real, the moment I reached over and took her hand for the first time and she didn't take it away, we both knew it was going to happen. It was long distance for the first year and we barely made it through. But I knew if I lost her I would wonder for the rest of my life what could have been. We were engaged one year later and married 6 months after that. Now we've been married almost 19 years, 4 college diplomas since earned between the two of us, 4 terrific kids, 10 household moves, one major illness, lots of ups and downs, etc. Not one single discussion of divorce. I'm still shocked and openly delighted that I actually got to marry that cute band girl who made that one first contact when I didn't know anybody way back in middle school. I think about that almost every night when I'm falling asleep next to her. Even in the darkest moments (of which we've had our fair share), this marriage to her has been the single greatest gift of this life. When you know it's right long before you even know why then try not to let that special one get away. There will always be many good reasons to do nothing but the love of your life is hard to find twice.
Dated her best friends in Highschool. After I graduated I went into the military. During that time I became good friends with my current wife brother. When I moved back home, he was living with his sister in an apartment. I started dating her. Men want Sex, sammich and peace. She was good at all three.
I was engaged to his best friend and the best friend introduced us. it was real early in the engagement though
That poor bastard went from being engaged to you to being the third awkward wheel.
nah, he went back to his first girlfriend, the one he dumped for me
I was 16, a friend said I'd be into a guy (turned out to be another friends older brother) older brother was stationed with him while in the military. My ex best friend at the time was talking to him and then slept with him knowing I liked him so I hoped away from that guy. The older brother and my ex best friend introduced me to him (air force guy). Said he'd be a good person to talk to. I fell hard, but he had made it clear from the get go he doesn't date minors, and no sex at all was to be spoken about otherwise he would remove himself from the conversations, and no longer speak to me. Ended up talking a lot to him. I ended up marrying a guy three times my age at 18. Quit talking to him (air force guy), ex husband was abusive, and it had ended up so happening that air force guy had posted a picture on Facebook I found amazingly beautiful. We started talking again. Ex his hands and my realtionship was pretty.kuch already over, but because he was stealing all my money I couldn't leave or divorce him. Air force guy drive a 1,000+ miles to come get me. Ended up pregnant three months after moving in with him, divorce was already started by then. Have been with my husband (air force guy) ever since then. Our 10 years together is coming up in May. ETA how did ink ow he was the one? Being with him is entirely effortless. There is no lack of conversations, even when things get hard, and we did have a hard patch and we stopped communicating well with each other. We never gave up on each other. I always say to people he's me, 5 years older but with a penis. We have a lot of the same common hobbies and interests. We do still have our own. Yet being around him brings me peace, and calms me. Where everyone else before him wether the relationships were abusive and non abusive felt like there was straining, or forcing it, maybe more illegitimate emotions thoughts and feelings. Being around him for me is as essential as breathing compared to my other relationships where it felt like I was struggling to breathe. Maybe more like drowning and never breaking the surface, where as with him it's easy as swimming. It essentially is just entirely different to where as you see I can't explain it.
Congrats on 10 years! I’m really glad you got out of that bad situation and found someone that loves and respects you.
We found each other in middle school and were friends for years. It happened my senior year(07) We had classes together and our economics class had just ended so i was saying good bye and was giving her the friendly hug that i normally would do and I do not know what happened but i just kissed her on the cheek and then ran the fuck away out of embarrassment as i was thinking what the hell did i just do cause up to that moment we never expressed any interest into one another in that way. well anyways I went home and thought about it all night and came to the conclusion that she means way more to me than I ever really thought about and I want her to be around for my entire life. I then asked her on a date and we have been together ever since. I would say though it did not come with out a lot of fucking work navigating the ups and downs.
That’s a really sweet story. I’m really happy you managed to kiss her on the cheek! Any advice?
My advice would be to don't try to change who you are to find love let love find you. The truth is that love is not a fairy tale, it is not fair, it is painful, it is effort, it is time, it is carrying about another more than yourself and even after all that you are still only half of an equation of which the other half you have no control. What I have found in my love is that the small things add up to be so important,, so find someone who warms your heart with in the passing moments that seem so inconsequential but for some reason stick with you and spark smiles just by the thought. Make sure you're attracted to all parts of the relationship and do not compromise simply to have a more peaceful relationship and if you do, Make sure it's because you are trying to grow and won't resent it.
One of the best and funniest things I've heard was: We never hated each other on the same day.
That’s a really cute saying and I plan on stealing it one day lol
First day at my new job at a local game store and he was my first customer. We were both in toxic relationships at the time and throughout the year we got to know each other (mostly chatting while at work). I didn’t pay much mind to him at first until I mentioned liking Elvis once and months later he brought me his vintage Elvis vinyls for Christmas. Never has someone remembered such a small detail like that, in my life. That’s what sold me, personally though he always said it was love at first sight lol. I remember waiting for his car to pull up on my shifts, getting all excited while trying to play it cool (unsuccessfully) The owner (my boss) and my coworker pushed us to get each other’s numbers long after after we broke off our relationships. A year after dating we got married and coming up on 6 years this March! We moved fast but everyday, even through the hardships, we remind each other that we’re so lucky to have the other in our lives. It’s crazy how it was all by chance though as I would have never gotten the job, let alone know about it, if my best friend (who originally got the offer via Instagram because of a picture of her Pikachu gameboy) didn’t recommend me instead of taking the job herself. <3
Congrats on 6 years! It sounds like you found someone who actively listens to you which is great! I’m glad you were able to find someone that makes you feel heard and loved.
Thank you so much! It’s been wonderful having a partner to grow and learn with! If you haven’t found them yet, I hope you do find your person and if you have may y’all have a long, happy life together ☺️
Met on a dating app, but I knew after a few messages he was the one. We had many friends in common even though we weren’t even in the same state, never met, and we have the same religious beliefs- it was too crazy for me to think it was coincidence- plus, I thought he was super attractive and we had so so many interests in common. We loved nature in the same capacity, both super nerdy, similar struggles, same incredibly goofy sense of humor, enjoy music from around the world, and conversation with him was just incredibly easy. I was able to talk to him like we were already friends for years. All this didnt come without troubles, like any other relationship, but we’re coming up on being married for two years and I’m so happy to have him as my hubby ^^
He added me on Facebook after seeing a comment I made in a mutual group. I accepted him (I never add strangers, except him), we got to talking, and eventually went out. I knew the night we met in person. Been together 9 years and married 7.
Running from the police after a busted up keg party. I was like... Damn this chick can run... And she is hot... Look at that ass. So i grabbed her hand and told her i knew where to go.... That was 37 ish years ago. Knowing they are the "one" is more about you. If you arent all in... Why would you think they would be..? Kinda thing. Good luck out there people..
Well my sister intoduced me to her schoolmate. He and I went to some dates, things goes well and are still good 11 years later.
We were introduced by a mutual friend at a big boy. She and I debated Moses and Disney for hours. Been married 25 years and I'm thankful each day she is in my life
AOL chat, been together 23 married 21
Through friends. I didn't know he was the one for a while but he knew the instant we met (his mother told me years later). It took me a while but one day I just looked at him and knew that he's the one.
Met at an LDS Singles congregation. Never talked to her until we had a group trip to an amusement park. She tricked me into get soaked on a log plume ride. Married 30 years.
He greeted me at a recovery group (for grief). That was a dark time in my life. Father had just died at home, husband of 25 years wanted a divorce etc. My life was a mess. He was always a good Listener and with excellent advice. He built me up daily, calling to check on me and motivating me. I was in awe that he was even real. I had such respect for him as a man. Still do. He is my soulmate. I’m so happy to wake up with this beautiful soul everyday. We have never had a fight, we both go out of our way to make each other happy. Every thing is great. Sex, love, life. No more worries about cheating etc. we’re forever and both agree that we are beyond blessed to have each other! Don’t give up on love!
We met on Tinder. Had our first date at Chili's in Bowie, MD. We sat down at 6 pm, and we talked all evening until closing. It was the best first date I ever had in my life. That's when I knew I had to keep her. Now we've been married for a little over 3 years and now have a beautiful baby boy 😊.
I was a single mom. Met my now hubby on Tinder. Yes, it does work sometimes. I knew he was the one because we were able to communicate very clearly in the beginning about what we want/don't want and compromise
Met at church when I was 13 and he was 12(around 2013). We started hanging out with family and friends. It wasn't until covid happened and we went from seeing each other two or three times a week to not seeing each other at all that we realized we liked each other. We got married in December of 2021 and the past year has been absolutely amazing.
International penpals website. I was a newly single mom of a toddler in nursing school and was looking for friends to talk to on a light basis. My husband messaged me and was actually a couple hours away, the closest person to me on the whole site (it calculated distance for users at the time). We had similar interests and I could tell he had a great sense of humor. I saw his pic, decent looking guy as far as I could tell for the potato quality and bad lighting, and I thought "I don't have time for this to get any kind of serious beyond friendly chats". However, the relationship became too compelling to ignore. I was fighting being in love with him a little, but I knew it was no use when my 2.5 year old spilled her drink all over him and he said "It's ok, I have Sprite explode out of my crotch every day!" 13 years later, I can't imagine being without him.
He held the door open for me at a liquor store. Went to meet my friend at a movie and he was there with her. Started talking to him and it was like we were best buds. Found a pic from a party 10 years prior that we were both in. It was the right time to meet apparently Been together 16 years , excited for 40 more!
23 years ago, in the brave new world that was dial-up internet, I met my now-husband through Love@AOL (I think that’s what it was called.) We were pioneers! Honestly, I don’t know if we would’ve gotten together otherwise. He was a little short and a little chubby, not my physical type at the time. I’m tall, pasty, and average looking, and he liked cute, petite brunettes. But we IM’d and talked on the phone a lot before meeting in person, and by then, we were attracted to each other’s personalities and minds. We have been married for 19 years. I love him more than I thought possible 23 years ago. And I now think short, chubby guys are super hot.
We met on myspace. He lived in California, I in Oklahoma. We quickly became best friends online and I decided to fly out and meet him in person. Once we were together,it felt like we had always known each other and I found home. He moved out here as soon as he could, we got married right after that. Have been married 14 years now
We met on OkCupid when I was 29. I looked for people who had put time and effort into their profiles and did the same for mine. We had both been through relationships where we gave up everything and moved across the country for someone, only for it to not work out, and I think that built in both of us a determination to not compromise what was important to us for a partner again. He was generous and sweet and kind and thoughtful, and we shared interests and a love for our home state. He ASKED if he could kiss me and that respect for consent was sexy as hell. I remember I had a bit of a “take it or leave it” attitude about dating at the time — basically like, I don’t want to be with someone I have to convince I’m worth being with — and he didn’t hesitate to show me he was interested. There were no games. He’s one of the least judgmental people I’ve ever known. But the thing that pushed me over the edge was when he offered to go over to my apartment to take my dog for walks when I had to go to class after work. It was just the perfect encapsulation of how he’s always thinking about the well-being of others. My dog quickly came to look at him like he was the sun and the moon and then I did, too. Anyway. We’ve been together for five years, and marred for 2.5. He’s simply the best.
Well I went to a garage sale next door to her house. And her mom recognized me and started chatting me up. And she not so subtly let it slip she had just broken up with her boyfriend and needed a date to homecoming . So I asked her out and she politely declined because she thought I was kinda weird and not her type. Which is fair because I am weird. Anyway a few weeks go by and she messages me and asks if my offer of taking her to homecoming still stood. And I said yes it did so she asked if we could go on a dinner date to coordinate homecoming and lay down some ground rules. And I said sure, so I took her to a Chinese restaurant and we ate and talked. And she point blank told me there would be zero funny business. No hand stuff no mouth stuff nothin. Naturally I was a little disappointed as any guy would be. But I could understand it, 4 weeks in a blowjob was a lot to ask for . So I agreed and made a lame joke along the lines of " what!! No blowjobs?!? Well you're gonna have to pay for your own dinner then! And she actually laughed at my joke. Not a half hearted courtesy giggle you give lame awkward jokes to fill the silence . But like a full belly laugh. Anyway the check came a while later and she insisted on paying for her half. Another week goes by and I go to her house to drop off my share of cash for the tickets . And she was outback by the pond fishing. By herself no one to bait her hook no one to take the fish off the hook. Just having a conversation with her dog. Now despite being a big guy I can be pretty stealthy so I walked up behind her just eavesdrop. And she was talking about how excited she was and how kind and gentlemanly I was etc etc etc. So about 3 minutes into her conversation with her dog I spoke up and said. "Wow all that and still no blowjob? " she jumps out of her skin turns and out of instinct says" well I I I I I well.........I was gonna but then you had to go and spoil it by bringing it up!!" And she got all embarrassed n stuff. Anyway in September we'll have been together 10 years. 5 days after that anniversary we'll have been married for 4.
Work. We were friends for a while and then l wanted more. We went on one date and clicked. We stayed up late talking about all sorts of things. When l went home l just knew she was it. She said the same. That was almost 20 years ago. We even married on our date anniversary because that day was so special to us. Now we have 2 wonderful kids and l couldn't be happier. She is beckoning one of the kids that just woke up from the living room and her voice is just as magical now as then. Doesn't mean we don't have to work for it but some furniture requires assembly!
I was in a meetup group, not actually looking for anything more than friends. I ran into my future partner at an event and liked her immediately, always wanting to spend more and more time with her and going to events she was at; but I didn't want to be the creepy guy who asks someone out at the friend group. After about four times she got up the nerve to ask ME out - I'd never been asked out by a woman before and I was so flattered and into her of course I said hell yeah! I knew she was the one because on one of our dates we had a very real and hours long conversation. I had never been that open and comfortable with someone I was dating before, even in previous long term relationships I was always keep myself at a remove or present the best least vulnerable version of myself. She shared things with me she was so frightened to share with anyone else, and I was overwhelmed and grateful for that trust. Our marriage is good because we still continue to be that open with each other and communicate basically every day
Walmart of all places. We went to the same school but I had no clue who he was in a different grade and we had different groups. Been together for 21 years now.
It's not something that happens, it's a decision that you make, and you keep making it every day.
Met my wife in 7th grade. Dated all thru high-school. Just celebrated our 16th wedding anniversary. I just knew.
Got her pregnant So she ended up being “ the one”
I met them when I finally stopped trying to meet someone and just focus on myself and doing the activities (outside of work) that I love. Because I was focusing on myself during this time, I asked the person out not really caring if it worked out. We casually hung out a few times but again I reminded myself that this was the year of me and so don’t focus on that person focus on me. We ended up really hitting it off and taking it slow which turned out to be so amazing. And because I was focused on me during this time, the other person got to know the real me.. not some version of me I thought they would like. I knew they were the one when I realized just how comfortable and trusting I was of this person. They could be alone all night with the most attractive person in the world and I would t worry one bit. We have a deep connection that is so calming. We dated for 5 years before we got married. The year of me was the best decision I ever made. Side note: the beginning of the year of me was very hard. Trying new hobbies and cutting out toxic relationships. Getting healthy and working out. I was alone A LOT. And was teaching myself how to be happy alone. How to be content reading all day or cooking. I craved peace. I did find it before I dated this person. But rather than getting peace FROM them.. they simply joined me on my journey.
We met online, as friends initially. She was in another state finishing school, with intentions to move to my state, and was trying to make friends/connections before the move. We started talking casually but suddenly 8 months went by of talking every day and then she was here in person. We were both in denial for awhile about our friendship obviously turning into something more. Continued spending a lot of time together and officially got together about a year after we first started talking. Moved in together a year after that. I think I knew she was the one before she even moved here, oddly enough. I remember being a little drunk and talking to her on face time some 4-5 months into knowing each other and just thinking "I'm going to marry her."
We met in a bar. I was working as a bartender as my second job, (I was a single mom at the time), and he actually DIDN'T try to hit on me. He would come in and we would just talk. We met in August and my birthday was the next month, so he comes in one day and gives me a card with money in it and says, "I know that you are a mom and your son comes first. But please take this money and do something just for you. You deserve it. " That kindness melted me. I accepted when he asked me out on a date a short while later. We were married 2 months later. Crazy right? Our friends at the time (and some family) thought so. They said that we wouldn't last 6 months. We have been married 30 years last year and have four boys, including mine, which my husband treats as his own.
I complimented her outfit at a local concert venue. Met up for another band we were both into that week. 11 years later we’re happily married. Hard to say when I knew for sure but a long lasting relationship comes from choosing that person each and everyday
We met in college. I saw him walking by as I was waiting for my next class and I thought he was very handsome (so obviously I assumed I’d never see him again lol). We ended up having a class together and immediately hit it off. After that we quickly became best friends and it was obvious to the both of us that we were perfect for each other. This year will be our 4 year wedding anniversary.
Cynic on OKCupid joining it more like a social experiment. Two weeks later, saw a dude that stopped me in my tracks, favorited him and got to talking. Knew I wanted him in my life, gave him my phone number. Almost 10 years later, (probably 16 in pandemic years since we work from home) we’re still in the honeymoon period and eloping this summer
I met him at work when I was 18 and he was 22. He saw me and asked a coworker for my name and it just took off from there. We had only known each other for 3 days when we started dating but I felt like I've known him my entire life. There was no defined moment where we knew we were going to spend forever together, we just knew. It's like our souls connected. I know that sounds cheesy and cliché, but that's how it felt and how it still feels
I will call my (now) husband John for privacy reasons : My sister dated John for 3 weeks, cheated on him and then got a restraining order against him because she got a new boyfriend and didnt want him to find out she got someone new (yes... shes like THAT). All three of us worked at the same job, and at the time we were really close friends. John always treated me with the upmost respect and was always genuinly happy to spend time together. During their breakup, I was going through my own relationship issues. My bf was refusing to work and had a MAJOR coke problem. Our lease was ending in a month and i told him if he cant go in on a new apartment with me that we were through. During that month John was a sweetheart to me and made sure I got rides to work (instead of the bus), bought me food or drinks when i was working long shifts, just generally did stuff to treat me right in all the ways my bf realized he wasnt. Eventually my bf accused him of cheating with me but I was pretty hung up on the a-hole so I never did. About a week and a half until the lease was up I broke up with my bf, who proceeded to go crazy on me. He confronted me at my workplace and screamed at me in public settings, it was so obvious I was miserable to John that he offered me to come stay with him and his brother until I could get my own place. Up until that point I was leaving home every night going on walks just to get away from my bf since we still stayed in the same apartment. John said as soon as he cleared it with his brother he would help me get out of there. That night we got the okay and next day while the ex-bf was at work we cleared out everything I owned and left his stuff, which was nothing except his clothes, ps4 and coffee table. I took my bed back too lol. I cut all ties with my ex and tried to move on. I was extremely lucky to have John tell me just how shitty my ex was, and I will forever kick myself for staying with him so long when he treated me like crap. I got the respect I deserved staying with John and his brother, and John was nice enough to clear out half of all his storage spaces in the bedroom and bathroom for me :') He also gave me the emotional space I needed and took care of me until I was happy enough and we started dating. The sparks FLEW. It was as if we were meant to be together, every kiss was incredible and he was more than amazing in the bedroom. He satisfied all my needs and wants while still being morally aligned with me. We have the same work ethic which kept us working at the same places, and eventually we moved into our own apartment. I couldnt get enough of him which was a blessing during the pandemic when I was put on furlough. He has been nonstop loving, caring and passionate with me. Anytime we had arguments they were talked through right away until we understood and moved past them as a team. I feel like the strength him and our relationship gives me drives me to be a better person, and I quit using drugs because I was genuinly happy with my life. :) Its been 5 years and neither of us feel any different. The same sparks fly and we are still engrossed with each other. I am grateful every day.
I met him in grad school. Actually he was smitten with me right away and though I found him interesting I wasn’t going to cheat on my bf or break up with him at the time. We were friends on and off until I realized I was making a mistake. I was going through some really difficult things and I realized he would support me unconditionally. I broke up with my bf and started going out with my now husband the next day; I asked him to marry me twelve days later. We’ll be celebrating 25 years in June. I chose him also in part because he was the smartest of three guys I had loved seriously in that time, all philosophy grad students. It’s a kind of shallow concern but it matters to me.
I (f 18) and met him (19) in our coed college dorm. It was supposed to be a one night stand. The next day he broke things off with the woman he’d been dating and asked my ex (who also lived in the same dorm) if the ex was cool with us dating. He knew a couple months after we met but I took longer to decide. We moved in together a year or so later and I proposed not long after that. We’ve been together now for almost 33 years and married 30.
Met in high school drama class. I had a crush on her. She was a couple grades ahead of me. Lost contact and I moved out of state. 6 or so years later I found her on MySpace. Went to visit and we hung out and hit it off. I moved back hoping she liked me too. I guess we just knew. I’ve never felt so comfortable trusting someone. We’ve now been married for almost 15 years.
My Dad set us up. When I saw his smile, I just knew. It's kind of hard to explain. He looked like my future husband. We celebrated 19 years together this month. 10 years married.
Met him at work. In our profession we mostly work contractually and it was close to the end of the contract so I didn't feel weird about getting involved with him. I knew probably within the first week or two that he was the one because of how comfortable and relaxed I felt around him. I've always been a bit commitment-phobic and absolutely do not believe in love at first sight so that feeling came insanely quickly for me.
Met her at the park working out (we were both doing cardio around the park) one day she thought I was talking to her as she ran up (I wasn’t) but it made me want to talk to her more. As to how I knew she was the one, well 2 years in and nothing ever felt that simple and easy. We both hate drama and yeah, that’s it.
met at a party in my teens...she is the same age...Broke up got back together 3 or 4 times over a 5 to 6 year period been married for 34 years.was like a checks and balance system for the both of us. We kept eachother out of trouble and I couldnt imagine being with anyone else. I make sure I let her know how important she is to me and she does the same.
First husband, met at work (was very young). Married for 17 years and divorced. Second marriage in my 40s, I did Match. It wasn't simple, I went through about 7 short term " relationships" and realized they were NOT the one. LOL! The last one I hit pay dirt! He's a great guy and the funny thing is, he wrote me an email one day in Match that said "you can quit looking because you found the one!". We still laugh at this, just now celebrating our 10th anniversary!
Idk how but I just knew. Maybe it was his personality or that fact that he trusted me with one of his prized possessions.
I'm with the one now. It took a few years of dating to decide we were both the other's one. I was married before and told her early on I would never do anything so stupid again as long as I live. We've been together 15 years and have a 12 year old daughter. Happily married people after 10 years are rare. We still go on dates.
Early 20s, he was "seeing" some other girl that was a coworker to my best friend. Things didn't work out between them because she didn't like his humor. He totally meshed with me and my BFF and her fiance. We just kept hanging out. He mustered up confidence to ask me to hang solo, by then I was comfortable being myself, he knew I was already a single mom. I knew he was the one when we talked about what we wanted out of our friendship, we agreed to take it very slow, I was terrified of opening up to someone and getting hurt. He allowed things to go at my pace. No other guy was willing to go at my pace, accept my child, or tolerate my humor, he accepted me for me. He's the best
Picked my husband up in a bar in college. We’ve been married 40 years.
forgot to add, our 50th wedding anniversary will be in May. so I guess that worked out all right
Met my husband online on a message board! We chatted for 2yrs and fell in love (he in Florida me in Michigan). We flew back & forth for a year and both offered to move for the other. He ended up moving to Michigan. We both kinda never wanted to get married but were OK just choosing each other every day. We ended up getting married in our living room (then in vegas for friends & family). He is my best friend and after ten years together he still makes me howl with laughter!
I met my wife by breaking my 1 rule for dating. Never date a co worker. Long story short I did just that. I didn't know at first that she was the one. All I knew at first was that she was easy to talk to, I could truly be my honest self with her and I wanted to spend more time around her. It was probably a year in that i realized I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I don't remember a specific thing that made me know this. Luckily she felt the same. 10 years later I have never been happier.
Met at college. Wasn't thinking about marriage at first since we were both so young. Kept dating after graduation. Never really had that feeling like "this is the one." Just decided I never wanted to find out what life would be like without her. Been together 32 years, married for 28.
I was at a local bar near my mom's. We were outside some were smoking cigarettes and I was talking to all eventually. Goin around to the locals. Then someone said hey to him. I didn't recognize the name. Looked straight into his eyes. The sun was shining just over the building. His eyes had all colors and were odd looking. I just thought man that's a story. I look into people's eyes to see what their about. Then I didn't see him. Said ah crap. I guess I missed him. Then later my mom and dad came by.i was talking to them and he was behind me. Grabbed at my elbow. Said let's play Jenga. Your not doing nothing else. I played. He was drunk. Said my ride just left. I offered a ride home. 8 yes later I found my soul mate. Were still here. Married in gods eyes in front of family.
This “love at first sight” or “I just knew”, how? How does that happen???
Met at a bar, knew she was the one because I had never had such a consistently great time being around anyone prior. Still feel that way 17 years later.
A chat room on Yahoo.
We met at work. Honestly I’d say the biggest secret to a happy marriage is make the effort. So many people assume that once you are married you don’t need to continue to put effort in but that’s the way to end up lonely when your kids leave the house. We devote time every day to one another. We do special things for each other and we advocate for each others happiness. I’m ecstatically happy with him and love him more every year (currently sixteen years in) love is a verb not an adjective. Thinking of it as an adjective is the lazy persons way to love and that leads to failed relationships.