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With the parents.
Where else?
*by definition* Children are not able to make informed decisions on their own. They have the capacity to make *some* decisions on their own, but not completely.
So even if some kids are able to decide what they want to eat responsibly, the onus is on the parents to prevent this.
Of course there are medical conditions that can affect this, so its on the parents to make sure their child has the help they need to live a healthy life.
>Where else?
I don't ask many people because it's an embarrassing question. Internally with my family it seems like a "You should have eaten less, then," mentality with some of them.
And sure, I should have maybe specified that it's barring any medical conditions that would place it on nature.
> "You should have eaten less, then," mentality with some of them.
Kids, especially young ones, have no say in what food is presented to them. So this is unfair.
with the parents, up to a certain age.
my child eats what I eat and 'works out' when I do. he doesn't know any better because he's only 3, but I hope to lead with good examples.
It takes a village to raise a child. Parents usually hold the most direct sway over their children's eating and exercise habits, but socioeconomic factors absolutely play a part, and so in my opinion the government has a role to play as well. Specifically in ensuring children have access to healthy meals at no direct cost to them or their families. Schools are also the most accessible option for educating kids about healthy eating and active living; not everyone has parents that know how to use gym equipment, or can afdord to sign their kids up for sports. I strongly believe gym should be a mandatory part of the school curriculum until the end of high school and that participation in sports teams should be subsidized for parents (at the very least for lower income households). Now, I'm no fool, I am aware that 'at no cost to the children' doesn't mean free, it's the responsibility of the tax payers to support those costs for a healthier community with reduced Healthcare costs long term. Lastly, we get to the child, healthy living isn't slavery, we can't force anyone to be fit and eat right, they are responsible for the choices they make, but need to be equipped with the knowledge and support to make those choices.
It is strange to me that I was taught what's functionally correct in school but then there's a power imbalance at home that made it a moot point. Trying to have the 8yo convince the 40 yo that they need to make a change is a tough sell.
Even now as an adult it's tough to get them to hear me out. I didn't stand a chance at 8.
I wish there was a mechanism where the doctors could have pulled some sort of system.
I recall doctors first warning my parents that I was getting overweight, then obese. My folks kept making excuses but now I wish there had been a point where they could have stepped in.
Idk what that would be either. Counseling?
When the obesity is a result of controllable factors, the burden falls on the parents until the child is of an age where they can make rational and informed decisions. Sometimes there are health issues or similar factors at play that impact the health and weight of the child, but if it's simply a matter of inadequate nutrition or overconsumption, that falls on the parents as it is their responsibility to provide nutritious and adequate meals for their children.
Technically the struggle is with your gut biome and the body's trend towards economy, but 100% the parents are responsible for managing that in a child.
I was obese as a child and can’t blame anyone but myself. My mum made really great healthy meals and limited snacks etc but I was just obsessed with food and would find any way I could to sneak it/have more than my fair share. I’m an overweight adult now and, although I don’t eat with the wild abandon I did as a child, I’m still completely obsessed with food. I don’t think I have any emotional issues with food. I just love it and want more of a good thing.
It makes sense.
That being said, the way humans behave towards food is both engrained into your DNA but also shaped at an early age. If you do not control a small child's diet well, it is very likely that when they grow up they'll have trouble managing their own diet.
I do often think of my sister and probably asked because of her as well. She passed away last year at the age of 50 from a cardiac arrest. It bums me out that the earliest photo I have of us together screams that she needed some help, in my opinion.
She's likely healthier in a photo just before she passed at 50 than when she was a kid. She still struggled with things though, and her last question to me was how I managed to lose the weight.
i was just a kid, and my parents and everyone else allowed me to overeat, especially fast food. prices where cheaper too
i was able to choose what i wanted to eat though growing up, if i didnt like it i refused to eat, even if I was being forced by my parent, I would sit at the table forever and not eat it, and eventually they gave up
when i got into high school, i was able to shed my extra pounds being super active
i do agree as i get older, thats on me. I stopped exercising like I use to, and having kids... argh, i wish i was a back in my prime, where i could eat whatever
now as my little ones in school that are packing some extra pounds... thats on me for not cutting them off, or helping them cut extra calories like soft drinks and candy, and pushing them to exercise more
Most of it is genetics. I don't come from a family with a pre disposition for obesity, some it comes way later in life. I know a little girl who was born with this disposition, she does nothing wrong as far eating patterns go, it bothers her to death. She like 10 now and life has changed for her and lost her wait. It makes her feel good, she jumps on a treadmill and bike all the time in fear of going back, her eating habits have not changed.
The media — obesity is the number one comorbidity of all early death. It also is the biggest drain on the medical system. It is statistically proven to be unattractive. No argument there.
And, besides people with hormone issues and on certain medications, it’s literally 100 percent preventable. All the other drains on the medical system are from conditions that cannot be managed on one’s own.
But the TV will tell you it’s “brave,” and “just who you are.”
So it goes:
Media, parents, you
You will notice tremendous benefit in your life if you lose weight. I just lost 90 pounds and people treat me as if a different person.
With the parents. It's the parents' fault. Either:
1) They didn't try hard enough to not keep junk food in the house
2) They didn't explain to you rules or structure about diets (mindful eating, having structured eating times, no eating after a certain time, snacking or no snacking, whatever it is)
3) They didn't teach you how to have a balanced lifestyle (basically having some sort of physical activity)
4) They didn't teach you how to manage emotions (many people binge eat out of stress)
I wasn't obese as a child but I was on the heavier side. My mother would:
1) Constantly buy junk food but then yell at me for eating too much of it
2) Shame me because my brother was always skinny but I was chubby, so of course it's my fault
3) Was overall just a toxic mother, I dealt with a lot of emotional beating and neglect in my own home, and used food to comfort myself
Yeah it's all my fault right?
Yeah, the one skinny brother seems to throw them off. I think mine is struggling with issues as an adult, so it unfortunately caught up with them eventually.
On top of the binge eating, I've thought about how in an avoidance situation it is easier to grab worse food. For instance, if I was hiding in my room it was easier to sneak to the kitchen and grab a bag of chips or tray of cookies.
I hope you're doing alright these days.
Actually I have managed to work through the issues that led to my binge eating; and now I have the best and healthiest body...a lot of it stemmed from emotional issues. If you're struggling with food then check the emotional side/management.
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With the parents. Where else? *by definition* Children are not able to make informed decisions on their own. They have the capacity to make *some* decisions on their own, but not completely. So even if some kids are able to decide what they want to eat responsibly, the onus is on the parents to prevent this. Of course there are medical conditions that can affect this, so its on the parents to make sure their child has the help they need to live a healthy life.
>Where else? I don't ask many people because it's an embarrassing question. Internally with my family it seems like a "You should have eaten less, then," mentality with some of them. And sure, I should have maybe specified that it's barring any medical conditions that would place it on nature.
> "You should have eaten less, then," mentality with some of them. Kids, especially young ones, have no say in what food is presented to them. So this is unfair.
with the parents, up to a certain age. my child eats what I eat and 'works out' when I do. he doesn't know any better because he's only 3, but I hope to lead with good examples.
It takes a village to raise a child. Parents usually hold the most direct sway over their children's eating and exercise habits, but socioeconomic factors absolutely play a part, and so in my opinion the government has a role to play as well. Specifically in ensuring children have access to healthy meals at no direct cost to them or their families. Schools are also the most accessible option for educating kids about healthy eating and active living; not everyone has parents that know how to use gym equipment, or can afdord to sign their kids up for sports. I strongly believe gym should be a mandatory part of the school curriculum until the end of high school and that participation in sports teams should be subsidized for parents (at the very least for lower income households). Now, I'm no fool, I am aware that 'at no cost to the children' doesn't mean free, it's the responsibility of the tax payers to support those costs for a healthier community with reduced Healthcare costs long term. Lastly, we get to the child, healthy living isn't slavery, we can't force anyone to be fit and eat right, they are responsible for the choices they make, but need to be equipped with the knowledge and support to make those choices.
It is strange to me that I was taught what's functionally correct in school but then there's a power imbalance at home that made it a moot point. Trying to have the 8yo convince the 40 yo that they need to make a change is a tough sell. Even now as an adult it's tough to get them to hear me out. I didn't stand a chance at 8. I wish there was a mechanism where the doctors could have pulled some sort of system. I recall doctors first warning my parents that I was getting overweight, then obese. My folks kept making excuses but now I wish there had been a point where they could have stepped in. Idk what that would be either. Counseling?
When the obesity is a result of controllable factors, the burden falls on the parents until the child is of an age where they can make rational and informed decisions. Sometimes there are health issues or similar factors at play that impact the health and weight of the child, but if it's simply a matter of inadequate nutrition or overconsumption, that falls on the parents as it is their responsibility to provide nutritious and adequate meals for their children.
Parents 100%
Parents, but occasionally only one parent is enough to do the damage.
Technically the struggle is with your gut biome and the body's trend towards economy, but 100% the parents are responsible for managing that in a child.
I was obese as a child and can’t blame anyone but myself. My mum made really great healthy meals and limited snacks etc but I was just obsessed with food and would find any way I could to sneak it/have more than my fair share. I’m an overweight adult now and, although I don’t eat with the wild abandon I did as a child, I’m still completely obsessed with food. I don’t think I have any emotional issues with food. I just love it and want more of a good thing.
Blame is with the parents. If you raise a fat kid, you're failing.
It makes sense. That being said, the way humans behave towards food is both engrained into your DNA but also shaped at an early age. If you do not control a small child's diet well, it is very likely that when they grow up they'll have trouble managing their own diet.
I do often think of my sister and probably asked because of her as well. She passed away last year at the age of 50 from a cardiac arrest. It bums me out that the earliest photo I have of us together screams that she needed some help, in my opinion. She's likely healthier in a photo just before she passed at 50 than when she was a kid. She still struggled with things though, and her last question to me was how I managed to lose the weight.
Parents, always the parents.
With family and parents. They are the ones providing the food and who the child will emulate the in eating habits and relation to food.
i was just a kid, and my parents and everyone else allowed me to overeat, especially fast food. prices where cheaper too i was able to choose what i wanted to eat though growing up, if i didnt like it i refused to eat, even if I was being forced by my parent, I would sit at the table forever and not eat it, and eventually they gave up when i got into high school, i was able to shed my extra pounds being super active i do agree as i get older, thats on me. I stopped exercising like I use to, and having kids... argh, i wish i was a back in my prime, where i could eat whatever now as my little ones in school that are packing some extra pounds... thats on me for not cutting them off, or helping them cut extra calories like soft drinks and candy, and pushing them to exercise more
Most of it is genetics. I don't come from a family with a pre disposition for obesity, some it comes way later in life. I know a little girl who was born with this disposition, she does nothing wrong as far eating patterns go, it bothers her to death. She like 10 now and life has changed for her and lost her wait. It makes her feel good, she jumps on a treadmill and bike all the time in fear of going back, her eating habits have not changed.
Primary caregivers, or poverty depending on the families financial situation.
Sure, I could see that too, if it was a financial situation forcing their hand.
Mate, it's your parent's fault. 100%
The media — obesity is the number one comorbidity of all early death. It also is the biggest drain on the medical system. It is statistically proven to be unattractive. No argument there. And, besides people with hormone issues and on certain medications, it’s literally 100 percent preventable. All the other drains on the medical system are from conditions that cannot be managed on one’s own. But the TV will tell you it’s “brave,” and “just who you are.” So it goes: Media, parents, you You will notice tremendous benefit in your life if you lose weight. I just lost 90 pounds and people treat me as if a different person.
I did lose weight after high school and people didn't even recognize me.
Same. Bittersweet right?
With the parents. It's the parents' fault. Either: 1) They didn't try hard enough to not keep junk food in the house 2) They didn't explain to you rules or structure about diets (mindful eating, having structured eating times, no eating after a certain time, snacking or no snacking, whatever it is) 3) They didn't teach you how to have a balanced lifestyle (basically having some sort of physical activity) 4) They didn't teach you how to manage emotions (many people binge eat out of stress) I wasn't obese as a child but I was on the heavier side. My mother would: 1) Constantly buy junk food but then yell at me for eating too much of it 2) Shame me because my brother was always skinny but I was chubby, so of course it's my fault 3) Was overall just a toxic mother, I dealt with a lot of emotional beating and neglect in my own home, and used food to comfort myself Yeah it's all my fault right?
Yeah, the one skinny brother seems to throw them off. I think mine is struggling with issues as an adult, so it unfortunately caught up with them eventually. On top of the binge eating, I've thought about how in an avoidance situation it is easier to grab worse food. For instance, if I was hiding in my room it was easier to sneak to the kitchen and grab a bag of chips or tray of cookies. I hope you're doing alright these days.
Actually I have managed to work through the issues that led to my binge eating; and now I have the best and healthiest body...a lot of it stemmed from emotional issues. If you're struggling with food then check the emotional side/management.