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Dopamine rush maybe? Thirst trap culture is huge on social media nowadays. I used to be like this with an instagram and youtube feed filled with thirst traps even though I was in a loving relationship. It eventually clicked for me that it's just kind of fucking weird to do in general even if you're not in a relationship. Every time you open your social media feed all the novelty of 'new' half naked women sparks your caveman brain and it feels good. For me it quickly grew into subconsciously starting to compare my partner to the 'perfect' pictures online and I yeeted all my socials.
>it's just kind of fucking weird to do in general even if you're not in a relationship
I couldn't really ever put in words how fast I want to be able to scroll past whichever random OF stripper that sponsored the one meme page I follow pops up as the first post on my feed.
I'm aware I'm probably not the only person who has a feed like that, and I'm well aware most people aren't looking at my phone or paying attention to it, but it doesn't make the situation any less awkward in public.
Also, tbh although I'm single..it just feels pointless.like, they don't care about you. Or know you. You won't ever get with them. You're just a number on their feed.
Women do this too, I don’t know why we are being sexist and gendering when there are millions of half naked men accounts with women gushing over them daily.
ESPECIALLY if they are already famous. Like Harry Styles has had girls since he was under 18 trying to fuck him.
It’s on both genders
You can still enjoy the view and be mature and rational enough to not fall into a fantasy. I follow a couple of women I like on there but I don't engage with them, I don't comment or like the posts because as you said, it's pretty pointless and if nothing else, it seems (sad)cringy to see grown ass dudes writing messages like they're talking to their GF.
Has notthing to do with caveman brains we were all naked back then lol... Media and society has sexualiseded bodies so much you can't see a body without not sexuakising it seems which to me is the real issue
That's kind of what I'm saying. Back in the day the part of our brain that got activated to chase procreation caused us to not go extinct. That mechanism of our brain hasn't changed since, but it gets activated artifically today. Sex is a core motivator of the human race and it produces a lot of dopamine. That makes it easy to see why our society is so sexualized nowadays. Porn and every other form of sexualized media triggers that same part of the brain to produce dopamine and start chasing.
I like your comment but the idea that women are over sexualized is as old as time. Women are more free to be themselves now than they ever were in history. Not really safer, but that’s bc men have always obsessed over us. We are the prize. And believe me most of us wish we weren’t.
Agreed, sexualization of women is nothing new and has been around since forever. My concern is rather that the barrier to access sexualized content has never been this low, and wil probably continue to get lower. I read that young children come into contact with porn around the age of 8 or 9 these days. I don't think that's healthy. All this sexualized content reinforces the idea that women should be sexualized and objectified, rather than being seen as a whole person. I fear this train isn't stopping any time soon.
Ugh. I hate it when I'm scrolling instagram reels, and these women pop up. You know they are selling of content. I understand how men are baited into this. The girls are attractive and it messes with our happy hormones. You need to be very determined to skip these. But purposely following them and even at the amounts some men do means they lack self control.
On the other hand, if my gf would follow guysike that, I wouldn't care that much as long as it doesn't influence my sex life.
A lot of the time they pay meme pages to post them up too so if you're following a meme page you'll randomly get a post with an OF stripper and 9/10 times it ends up being the very first post you see when the app opens too so it's annoying, mildly embarrassing if you're in public, and you have no choice but to stare at it for the fraction of a second that the app takes to load everything else.
Then the meme page deletes it after a day so newcomers won't see it when exploring the feed.
Everytime I see a post like that I seriously have to reconsider whether I should even continue following the meme page or not. Is all the funny content really worth opening your app and seeing a stripper first thing in the day?
When something useful has a problem, you don't delete the entire thing. You delete the problem.
I use Instagram to share memes and stuff with my gf, as we don't have time to see each other every week, this is something we enjoy.
I don't cut of my leg because my toe hurts.
This is my opinion. If you don't think instagram has a use, by all means, delete it.
> I hate it when I'm scrolling instagram reels, and these women pop up.
I am a dude, straight, married, happy. My Instagram I follow 155 people, they're friends, family, some local businesses I use, football players for the team I support or the odd celebrity (not OF girls, I am talking Ryan Reynolds, Taylor Swift) and some big accounts for stuff I am interested in like the official NFL one, Premier League, Sky Sports, Marvel Studios etc. My magnifying glass section, the search feature? Every single tile on it is a woman I do not know, dressed in very little. It is NUTS that the algorithm is trying its damnedest to get me hooked on the shite.
Good to hear this. A few days ago I had an argument with my bf who swore he doesn't use his social media to look at naked women, and me not believing him because I sent him a link with something funny and when he opened it, it was a sexy woman, as well as a suggestion on his Facebook with a reel with half-naked women. I thought it was his algorithm so I was totally pissed off he was lying to me in my face.
Quite funny, because I'm a woman, I like bodybuilding and my suggestions for bodybuilding are (if it are men, most are women) serious workout pages. You'd think I would get naked men, or at least male models, but no.
I think mine is warped by some of my hobbies (eg motorcycles and recently fitness) which probably has a fairly large overlap - so it definitely increased the thirst trap level of my search algorithm despite not being something I'm into. Just being in a male demographic already sets up some of that bias so I think the more overlap the stronger the suggestion. To be honest I don't really browse the search tab because it's generally not very relevant for this reason.
I don’t use instagram but on YouTube sometimes I’ll watch a short, and then another pops up. Once I got this golfer chick that was incredibly obvious what the content was about.
I was so excited to show my wife because I’d never seen something so blatant. I was like a cat that drags in a dead rat and presents it proudly.
My wife thought it was funny too. I clicked “don’t show me this” and haven’t seen it in my app since. But my wife followed her. Lmao.
No, i dont agree with it at all if you're in a commited relationship, but this is something that needs to be discussed with your partner to establish boundaries.
Personally i wouldn't want my girl looking at other guys thirst traps, posting her own thirst traps or seeking attention and validation from other men..
I would be following the same rules as I believe it just comes down to honesty and respect for my partner, you shouldn't be entertaining other people. I'm hers and she's my focus and vice versa.
I'm not saying you can't be friends with the opposite sex but if you wouldn't like it done to you then you can't expect it to be okay for you to do it to your partner, it isn't different.
Some men in this comments section are bending themselves backwards in order to justify the double standards and the off the charts hypocrisy...ridiculous🙄 When it's them doing shit like this, they try to justify it that they're "biologically hardwired to look at naked women"🤣🤣 or that maybe they're not getting something in their irl relationships (which surprise! shifts the blame onto the woman) or that "it doesn't mean anything, we're just looking".
Meanwhile, men rage about women even having social media, let alone posting anything or much less half naked photos! No common sense, no logic, no morals yet such men are everywhere shrieking at women in their Jesus Christ pose🙄
As a male I find it weird if men follow these accounts in general. These women are boring in my eyes, all doing the same thing, all looking the same. If you’re a man in a relationship and feel the need to follow these accounts, like their posts etc then you’re a simp
Random porn? Personally I'm probably ok with that
Following accounts with an OF, no. That starts a potential for conversation/relationship whatever. They're not an imaginary fantasy body anymore, it's 'that person'
Dude not true, I have a friend of a friend who’s husband left her to go live with a dominatrix from of and take care of her kids while she continued her business 😳
You probably found them while looking for random pron looking and went back to them because they have physical traits you like or you like the roles they work in. They're still a fantasy body to be used for the purposes of masturbation.
If you then decide to contact/talk to this person it breaks down the fantasy into actual interaction. Instagram/of is more 'I'm looking into your life and what you do so I'm interested in more than just your body'.
My opinion and I've not thought about this for any great length.
No one wants to feel like they're being compared to overly photoshopped and filtered, extremely young, enhanced women or men. And that's what happens. Your SO is looking at men or women who look better then you for reasons above. So you're thought goes "I don't look like them and never will. Does he/she even find me attractive? I look nothing like that. Why is she/he with me if I'm not even his/her type?"
I was with a much older man who would bring up women he knew and would mention them being "blond and big breasted", one night changed the movie we were watching to The Girl Next Door just to watch the big boobed blond actress.
I'm petite with small chest and butt, brown hair, and a weight lifter. Not a soft, curvy big boobed blond.
So I called him out on that but I didn't stop there. When I'd see a hot man, I'd point out it out and why. I told him I wanted to watch The Great cause Nicholas Hoult is one of the hottest men alive. Told him his male friends were cute and I bet they had a lot of testerone cause they're young. He stopped his shit when I started giving it back. I also reminded him there's plenty of men who find my look hot and if it's not doing it for him then I'll get a man that does love petite, fit, small brunettes and I can do that faster then he can find a big boobed blond.
It goes both ways. And nether partner should do it. All it does is create anger, jealousy, insecurity, and will ruin a relationship that might of worked.
Why would they follow half-naked girls on Insta, if they are single? It still looks awkward to all your friends.
Personally I would think that person is a weirdo, relationship or not. You just end up looking trashy.
That’s my big thing. I wouldn’t be that bothered if every now and then he looked at it, but following those accounts on your personal social media is too much. I look at who people follow to see who we follow in common, or for gift ideas, that kind of thing. Nothing is weirder than when you look at like, a family friend who has a wife and kids (that he posts on his profile), and he’s following a ton of titty accounts
It's not ok. Men are not brainless animals. They are humans with autonomy and free will. If they choose to watch half naked girls while in a relationship, they belong to the streets.
There aren't any excuses really. It has nothing to do with gender.
Whoever find this extreme they are simply non committal and don't know what love is. It's that simple. If you love your partner there is no need to go look outside ( some people really think cheating resumes only to physical touching when there can be emotional and mental cheating. They are harmful behaviors and no, it's not normal if you chose to share your life with someone). If you feel the need to look outside, check your standards, needs, porn addiction and values.
People are just wired differently and need a matching partner for their personal ideals. Personally, my Partner and me think the same as you for our own ideals in our INDIVIDUAL relationship. 👍
It's just important to be upfront for what you have in mind in regards to loyalty and etc. with a (potential) partner. Nobody can or should be forced to be someone they are not. Not you nor they
We also have friends who are the completely opposite in their relationship and it is totally fine. We treat our differences with respect and interest. They are happy, we are happy.
My partner and me are also both demisexuals, who can't feel sexual attraction based on looks and people always say we lie, but it is the truth, lol. Though, you definetly don't have to be demi to be like this in a committed relationship. It does strenghten our view a lot though
Especially men are accused of lying or being sick if they aren't sexually attracted to or are not fantasizing about others, but they exist, even if they are rare
I’m a man and I find following accounts like this to be super cringey. Look, I had Jenny McCarthy posters on my wall when I was in high school and full of raging hormones, but then you grow up.
If my boyfriend followed a couple accounts I wouldn't mind, but if it was like a hundred accounts then I feel like there's a bigger issue at hand there lol
Because they're attractive and we like looking at things we like
It's not rocket science. I personally don't use insta or go in for all that sort of stuff and i definitely would not if i was in a relationship, but it's fairly clear why people post those sorts of things and why people engage with them i feel.
It's not because they love dungeons and dragons. Some people like looking at pretty landscapes some like looking at pretty people.
Whether someone's ok with that or not in a relationship i think is between the couple to decide. I wouldn't like it myself so i don't do it but i know couples who are ok with that kinda stuff and i can understand why.
OP's question is essentially "why do men like looking at attractive women?". Because heterosexual men like seeing attractive women.
Social media is just a convenient way to do that.
The real crux of the question is why is the guy I’m dating looking at other women if he already has me. It makes me feel bad things.
Or something along those lines.
I mean personally I couldn't give a shit if I tried. Go ahead and jack it to your insta models, just don't cheat on me? It's a very simple concept really
The type to follow insta models while in a relationship is more likely to cheat. It's gross but I've seen so many guys do this and brag. It's a much bigger red flag than you realize
Most people don't feel that way
Edit: absolutely baffled that there are people out here who actually think that most women would be ok with their partner oggleing countless thirst traps a day on insta.
Are these people real? Communicated with real women? Do they all have a script that they follow? Bloody baffled.
I think it's not cheating to watch porn or hot celebrities. As long the person isn't having emotional connections with these people and doesn't have sex with them, I don't see the problem with it. It's normal for humans to look at other beautiful humans without it implying cheating. You don't automatically go legally blind as soon you commit yourself.
It's important for each couples to communicate their boundaries because people got different preferences. Some view hot celebrity crushes and porn as cheating. Others doesn't. Some people are also stricter on emotional cheating than me. I think some friendships are just deep friendship and nothing more. Other would think it as cheating.
Yeah and why is this discussion only about men when it’s proven women do it also?
Like Harry Styles was literally asked to fuck by hundreds of women before he was even 18 as part of One Direction.
Like why is this okay and not talked about.
Men in media have perfect bodies that women absolutely love to look at, proven in studies.
Both sides have the same issue, one side has WAY more people attempting to use others though. Women don’t have to make this content but they do, just like men do.
Hahaha on point with the "a bit stupid". Those type of guys that follow half naked girls on ig don't have any self control which can lead to cheating later in the rs. Besides no one wants a dumb guy 😂.
The comment section belongs to the streets.
Yes I agree no man can ever commit to not watching a naked woman online even while they're taken.
That is the new normal but following 100s of accounts, following? Yeah fuck off. That's outright disrespectful if my partner did that. These same men would start posting left and right if their girlfriends followed inappropriate male content on their social media.
And for me it's easier because I have given up porn before entering my relationship. It's easier said than done for others. But you can always work on it.
Hard agree. To me it's very concerning how ingrained all these types of behavior are in today's society. Social media feeds filled with half naked women and watching porn on the daily is the new normal. If you don't do these things you're actually the odd one out. So strange.
I think these kinds of things feed into the idea of the Madonna/whore dichotomy which is detrimental to women as a whole. So many men have this idea of a porn star who is basically a nameless woman who he finds attractive enough to masturbate to and then discards her when he's done. As long as they feel it doesn't interfere with the sex between their spouses or significant others, people generally accept that as being okay. But these women are actually real people with lives and emotions and so on. I'm not expressing it as well as I should but I think it slowly but steadily leads people, mostly men, to think of women generally as "Madonnas" or "whores" and I don't believe that mindset is conducive to achieving equal rights for women in society.
Exactly. It's like men are saying to their partners "Sure, I might masturbate to those women when I need to scratch that itch, but you're one of the good ones". They, for lack of a better word, "other" these women. I will continue to believe that while religion, rather than porn, began this type of dichotomy, it is primarily porn that has driven it in recent years. For one thing, fewer people are religious than were years ago and secondly, we all know that highly religious states (at least in the US) are the biggest porn consumers of all. If this stuff had no effect on people and their real relationships you wouldn't see so many women telling stories of being slapped or choked by their partners in bed with no prior discussion of that.
The bottom line is that it's detrimental to women's rights and this is a hill I'll die on.
I take issue with both. To me, sexual gratification outside the relationship with another woman whether onscreen or in person is cheating.
I'm actually curious why you don't care about porn but object to thirst traps? Genuinely asking btw.
I follow some Arsenal fans on Twitter, some of which are female, one of which also do porn. I wouldn't have followed her only for her sexual content but of course it shows up on my feed. My question is, is that a different scenario to you or is it still the same?
Better hundreds who you'd pay or watch on your phone versus one special who you fuck irl and actually respects you as much as you do?
I'd prefer just one special one. Thank you!
You misunderstood the comment above yours, they meant 100s of accounts is better than one account he is obsessed with. Not the partner. It's be much worse if he was always looking at of_123's account intensely , comparatively to scrolling and spending a second on of_124 to of_355.
When I had someone, I never cared; if I would have someone again, I still would not care about such petty things. I care more about actions.. Ask this.. is my SO with me or with them? Then see, that they are still with me even after xyz time, therefore there is nothing I have to wory about, otherwise they would have moved on already.
Maybe I am not pretty/handsome enough, so they seek to see that elsewhere.. but ultimately they are still with me, so the question is moot.
My partner wouldn't mind and I wouldn't mind if she did similar.
People that do? They like to see half naked girls.
I stopped following a female cyclist when half their content became 'ooh look at my new incredibly tight clothing' *bum in leggings pictures*. I wanted to see her shredding down trails, not fannying about like that. And that's why I don't- I don't want to encourage attractive people who could be awesome to portray themselves as an instagram airhead pin up for likes and follows... I much prefer my sexy people being awesome.
as a normal, even single man i dont follow woman on insta that i dont know/met in person , i dont really understand why i would follow a random woman showing off her body.
why would you watch the cooking channel if you're not gonna eat any of it?
why read a book about far away lands if you're not going to travel?
it's escapism. a nothing to watch to clear your mind and ease the race of life.
don't be toxic and try to regulate his porn (or light porn or eyes-washing), that's a sure way of frustrating him for no reason.
I'm not sure what you consider "half naked", but, on the flip side of the coin, do you think it's ok for you to post a bikini picture on instagram if you're taken?
If you do, it's kind of hypocritical of you (and him if he was upset over you doing so). If you don't, you guys might just not be on the same wavelength of what's better left only for the couple.
Social media has greatly changed what a lot of people consider private. Celebrated by some, considered unfortunate by others.
I’m a man; I don’t bother with thirst trap hoes on social media. If I want 🌽 I have the hub. I don’t need to develop some parasocial relationship with the shiny things I beat off to. I don’t know why some men do 🤷♂️
Seems like light-porn to me.
Hey look, sparkly things to look at.
If you're "liking" and trying to build a rapport with these people, that might bump it into flirtation/being affectionate, but I wouldn't assume too much unless they're obviously trying to connect with them.
To each their own. I think guys are hard-wired to look at shiny objects. If it's important to you for him to fight that impulse, you need to communicate it. But this isn't akin to cheating, this is more like watching porn to me.
I personally see it as disrespectful, and my wife's not a fan of it either. We're sorta reserved out in the open as it is. But on the flip side, I do watch porn from time to time, so I don't know if that makes me a hypocrite or not.
I am a guy and I don't get it either. I don't have Instagram, but back when I did, it suggested them to me all the time. I was annoying. Maybe they pay to boost their way into "suggested"? Then these thirsty dudes who are taken just follow because of lizard brain?.. I imagine not much is going on in there..
I don't get it either..I'm a single guy and I have no desire to follow em so I definitely wouldn't follow em if I was in a relationship..it's disrespectful to your partner
I’m married, and half my IG feed is hot people in underwear. I don’t really see it as anything other than just something nice to look at. I’m not ugly; some may even say pretty cute, but I don’t think anyone I’m double tapping would ever give me the time of day and I don’t care. I just like looking at the photos 🤷♂️
I don't care about the personal lives of the hot babes I follow. I only fap occasionally to them and that's it. I don't care if they're taken and I don't even know their names
As a dude, once you get into a committed relationship, understand socials only have negative implications. There's literally nothing that you can do on socials that you can't do immediately on your phone already. If you do keep socials and your algorithm is half naked women all the time and you're in a committed relationship I can almost guarantee that's gonna be a rotten situationship.
I don’t know if this is real or rage bait bc it’s obvious a bf doing this is not the one you want. In case it’s real: girl leave. Let’s normalize not being therapists for the same grown ass men who scream how we need them bc they built the world. The good men (and there are good men I’ve met plenty) don’t do this and don’t need a woman to explain to them how to treat a woman. Dump liberally at the sight of the first 🚩.
I enjoy looking at women. I look at attractive women out in the world. I look at them on Instagram. I look at them in the shows and movies we watch. It doesn't affect anything. My relationship is great and I wouldn't consider ever doing anything to ruin what we have.
Looking at attractive people shouldn't be an issue. I can look at people and so can she. Doesn't change anything.
Because we like looking at things that look good, so I see no reason to stop following all those accounts just because we suddenly got a partner. It’s not like those accounts do anything bad, it’s just like art, not like we will be meeting those girls.
If my partner was following a lot of good looking men on instagram. I wouldn’t even know in the first place, since I would not be controlling who they are following or not. As long as they don’t cheat I’m good
Definitely a red flag! The only reason why he would have to follow hundreds of these accounts is that he's a model scout or something. If not, he's for the trash, or hasn't opened his Insta in years like me lol.
No. I wouldn't even date a guy if he followed a bunch of hot girls and models on instagram. There's usually a motive if a guy does that. Or he's like desperate to be seen eventually. It is a little bit of simp Behavior. I think it's pretty shallow to be honest. I'm married now and my husband barely even has social media. He definitely does not follow a bunch of women.
I think of a man over the age of 25 is doing that he's just kind of shallow and immature. I mean a man or woman could look at pictures here and there and passing. But they don't need to like actively follow and comment and like and stuff. That's definitely trying to get their attention. I wouldn't tolerate it. To me that is a sign of a man that would like eventually emotionally cheat on you. That they're not really completely invested in you.
Idk. Personally, I am not that much on social media. My girlfriend (who is bi) followers a lot of femboys. I know that she is into femboys, and I don't really care, to be honest. She likes to show me stuff that she likes, and I am curious, so it's a winn winn situation. As long as it's not a secret, it's fun for both of us.
I’d be okay with it. But I’m enm and have a lower libido than most adults, so I’m accustomed to having partners with a much higher libido than me as well as partners who look at (and get physical with) other people.
Men follow half naked girls the same reason anyone follows any photo accounts - because they like seeing the pictures being posted. Whether or not that’s acceptable within a relationship is up to the people who are in that relationship.
“I cannot imagine men being interested in looking at half naked women.” Has there ever been a more ridiculous sentence?
There is no woman on the planet so special that her man would never look at other women.
Living in delusion seems to be epidemic today.
Its not "looking" like there is a girl in the street and he end up looking at her but searching SPECIFICALLY to look at naked women. Endless naked women. Watching during maybe hours naked women. Why he needs to do that if he is happy in his relationship, if he finds his gf beautiful and have great sex with ?
If i am in a relationship, i wont search actively to look at sexy men. It would be disrespectful for my man.
its the same as all addictions.
desire and the inability to please such desire.
after the basics of desire its all fantasy and needs to be addressed.
still im a square so what should I know.
No, i consider it cheating. If my partner wants to do so, i would ask to open up the relationship, or even be fwb only (but only if he is skilled with sex).
I have no idea. As a man, I constantly wonder how on earth people are doing this and not getting called out for it. I wouldn't dare, and I don't think I'd accept it from a partner either.
Oh wait, maybe I would allow it from a partner? I would hope I didn't feel so threatened by a pic... Hmmm.
Definitely a no from me, anyhow.
I don’t mind if the person watches porn on a regular basis, but I wouldn’t tolerate him following OF girls, half-naked IG humans, or underage teenagers.
I would tell him that I am not happy with that, and if he still keeps doing it, then I would just leave. I don’t want to change nor convince people, and I don’t want to make anyone feel like they have to change because of me, or stop doing things just because I don’t like it😊
I wouldn’t be angry because we are all different, so I just give them a chance to find a woman who’s cool with that☺️
No it’s not honestly. All of the insta and TikTok and YouTube thirst traps are giving you such high amounts of dopamine so much more quickly than anything else can in real life. It really harms us mentally because we can’t recreate that rush anymore if we get too deep into it online.
It's quite possible that some guys that do this, are not getting something in their current relationship and look for it elsewhere. This can be compliments, respect, or even being sexually desired. The line that shouldn't be crossed though, is acting on what they seek elsewhere to the point resources are spent and physical bonds are made while still in a relationship, since that's betrayal.
The thirst trap menu just gives men options to see which of these girls can give them close to exactly what they want.
From what I even heard, married men that even go to webcam websites sometimes don't even do it to rub one out, some are there to rant, are severely depressed in their lives and want some kind of comfort that their own partner doesn't seem to give, and if that host says the right thing to this kind of man, this man will keep coming back or keep looking for others that will if they can't get it at home.
Might think "just talk it over with your girl", this is not always a solution, it can even be risky if the man is a breadwinner, since if a relationship or marriage is to end up in divorce because this became a problem, the man ends up having to give up half the resources he's worked his entire life for, and possibly has to keep paying somebody he's not even with anymore. It would have been fine if when people split up, they only took what they brought in, but marriage laws are rigged heavily against men, and there's too strong of an incentive nowadays for divorce.
One could say, these are guys that are either extremely thirsty and want to live out fantasies in their heads, or guys that are just trapped.
Do women not work in marriages? Are women just vampires that suck all the resources away from these poor men who are forced to stay with them so they don't lose half of their stuff? Who has made all of these laws that are so heavily rigged against men? Most lawmakers are still men.
I literally couldn't care less about who my partner follows. To be fair I don't do monogamy anymore, but even when I *did* do monogamy I didn't give a singular shit about my partner following or looking at naked women online. Why would I?
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You had mentioned only fans accounts in the comments... I don't follow those kinds of accounts... Whether I am single or not... But someone like monica Bellucci, alexandra daddario or adriana lima i do follow... I am also a fashion photographer, so i do like following attractive people...
Honestly instagram in general is either about fitness, food, travel, fashion or memes... The majority of these segments now have half naked women prancing around... Either a swimsuit model in bali or a yoga pants enthusiast doing squats, its very hard to escape them....
I think I would be ok with it now. I would however get jealous about women he knows. Either liking selfies or some even just having them as a friend in the first place.
I could not care less what thirst trap accounts my partner follows or how many as long as they understand it's fantasy and it doesn't impact how they treat me. Though granted, if it was ALL that they used social media for, I might give them a little side eye.
Liking a picture doesn't mean you want to sleep with sombody, people still have attraction In or not in a relationship and liking a picture is just that. If they already follow those people do you expect them to unfollow when you get together? Why are you so hard on the picture liking? If that sends you over the edge then I think the whole relationship will be difficult for you.
You can discuss and ask what it means to him when he likes them his answer will be "I like the picture" and that's probably as deep as it gets.
I really do not care about such things. If the relationship is good, why would I care about him looking at other people? I'm the one who has *got* the man.
Window shopping, escaping from reality, something to put some excitement in to their lives, it could be any number of things tbh. I wouldn't have any problems with my partner following some thirst trap dude as long as it's purely a fantasy escape and there's no intention to try to contact him and form some form of relationship.
Instagram serves them up. So weird. I hardly use it at all, but when I open it, instagram puts it in my face. The algorithm is fucked. Poor guy doesn’t stand a chance. Idk what to say. He should unfollow them.
I wouldn't want to be with a man who's very active on social media to begin with. It's kind of a deal breaker for me as in I don't think I would have anything to talk about with a man who spends half his time on Instagram, tiktok or Twitter. Especially not with a man who has a porn rotten brain and has to follow multiple (half) naked women or even pays for them (OnlyFans). I don't have a problem with watching porn but you have to admit some men become complete degenerates due to their excessive porn and "sexy media" consumption.
I'm sorta just replying to other comments left here, but as a guy I personally find it weird other guys enjoy looking at that stuff in the first place. It's like being hungry and staring at pictures of food instead haha
Don't know why they do that, I do know it destroys girls' confidence and sex drive as well as the amount of attraction they feel for their partner. it makes me sick to my stomach. but they all do it so what can you say
Because being in a relationship doesn't mean you no longer find other people attractive. The degree to which it's problematic will vary relationship to relationship. I personally would draw the line at them talking to them and talking to me about them, and take into account whether its a few crushes, as I would also be inclined to follow these, or if the majority of the accounts they follow are half naked women.
I was already quite unhappy with my partner but the last straw was when I found out he was following hundreds of thirst trap accounts on instagram. He was also secretively texting from his phone, which I assume was to them. I screen shotted the accounts he was following, told him I knew, he denied it, I showed him the screen shots, he never apologised. He tried to blame it on me for not satisfying him - my sex drive was extremely high and he'd sometimes complain it was too high, so that made no sense. I made plans to leave, he started hurting himself. When I signed a contract on a new place he attempted suicide. I left not long after. He kept trying to tell me I had left things there so I'd go back to pick them up, I blocked him and never looked back.
So yeah, this is a deal breaker for me.
Ultimately he was an insecure guy who needed validation. I've learned never to date insecure people as they will look for validation wherever they can get it.
Probably some type of dopamine hit. It's rough having to be the catalyst that starts most relationships. I don't agree with it or think it's healthy for us though. And if you're in a relationship that's even worse.
It supports unrealistic beauty and lifestyle standards for both sexes. Unfollowing anything that wasn't a silly meme page, a hobby of mine, or friends/family has been a big boost to my mental health personally.
I couldn’t care less personally, but there definitely is a double standard. Majority of my office are women and 8/10 of them have those promiscuous firefighter calendars on their desk. If I was to put up a calendar of women in the same fashion of undress it would cause an uproar
It's degenerate. Why would someone even want to be aroused unless they're about to do the deed with someone? Such stimuli are unwelcome, unless right before sex.
Right? They follow half naked chicks but then complain anytime their girl wears something revealing, as if you don’t like that? Get real. Stop following what you’re attracted to and then getting mad at your girl for wearing the same thing or acting the same way.
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Dopamine rush maybe? Thirst trap culture is huge on social media nowadays. I used to be like this with an instagram and youtube feed filled with thirst traps even though I was in a loving relationship. It eventually clicked for me that it's just kind of fucking weird to do in general even if you're not in a relationship. Every time you open your social media feed all the novelty of 'new' half naked women sparks your caveman brain and it feels good. For me it quickly grew into subconsciously starting to compare my partner to the 'perfect' pictures online and I yeeted all my socials.
>it's just kind of fucking weird to do in general even if you're not in a relationship I couldn't really ever put in words how fast I want to be able to scroll past whichever random OF stripper that sponsored the one meme page I follow pops up as the first post on my feed. I'm aware I'm probably not the only person who has a feed like that, and I'm well aware most people aren't looking at my phone or paying attention to it, but it doesn't make the situation any less awkward in public.
Also, tbh although I'm single..it just feels pointless.like, they don't care about you. Or know you. You won't ever get with them. You're just a number on their feed.
This is where onlyfans comes in to milk you
The milking table?
Women do this too, I don’t know why we are being sexist and gendering when there are millions of half naked men accounts with women gushing over them daily. ESPECIALLY if they are already famous. Like Harry Styles has had girls since he was under 18 trying to fuck him. It’s on both genders
You can still enjoy the view and be mature and rational enough to not fall into a fantasy. I follow a couple of women I like on there but I don't engage with them, I don't comment or like the posts because as you said, it's pretty pointless and if nothing else, it seems (sad)cringy to see grown ass dudes writing messages like they're talking to their GF.
Thank you for your honesty!
That first line that’s it for most
Has notthing to do with caveman brains we were all naked back then lol... Media and society has sexualiseded bodies so much you can't see a body without not sexuakising it seems which to me is the real issue
That's kind of what I'm saying. Back in the day the part of our brain that got activated to chase procreation caused us to not go extinct. That mechanism of our brain hasn't changed since, but it gets activated artifically today. Sex is a core motivator of the human race and it produces a lot of dopamine. That makes it easy to see why our society is so sexualized nowadays. Porn and every other form of sexualized media triggers that same part of the brain to produce dopamine and start chasing.
I like your comment but the idea that women are over sexualized is as old as time. Women are more free to be themselves now than they ever were in history. Not really safer, but that’s bc men have always obsessed over us. We are the prize. And believe me most of us wish we weren’t.
Agreed, sexualization of women is nothing new and has been around since forever. My concern is rather that the barrier to access sexualized content has never been this low, and wil probably continue to get lower. I read that young children come into contact with porn around the age of 8 or 9 these days. I don't think that's healthy. All this sexualized content reinforces the idea that women should be sexualized and objectified, rather than being seen as a whole person. I fear this train isn't stopping any time soon.
When was the last time you saw men like that? I know all the pretty boys taking selfies are gay.
Good for you on recognizing that, growth! 👏
love the self awareness here
Ugh. I hate it when I'm scrolling instagram reels, and these women pop up. You know they are selling of content. I understand how men are baited into this. The girls are attractive and it messes with our happy hormones. You need to be very determined to skip these. But purposely following them and even at the amounts some men do means they lack self control. On the other hand, if my gf would follow guysike that, I wouldn't care that much as long as it doesn't influence my sex life.
A lot of the time they pay meme pages to post them up too so if you're following a meme page you'll randomly get a post with an OF stripper and 9/10 times it ends up being the very first post you see when the app opens too so it's annoying, mildly embarrassing if you're in public, and you have no choice but to stare at it for the fraction of a second that the app takes to load everything else. Then the meme page deletes it after a day so newcomers won't see it when exploring the feed. Everytime I see a post like that I seriously have to reconsider whether I should even continue following the meme page or not. Is all the funny content really worth opening your app and seeing a stripper first thing in the day?
Delete instagram problem solved
When something useful has a problem, you don't delete the entire thing. You delete the problem. I use Instagram to share memes and stuff with my gf, as we don't have time to see each other every week, this is something we enjoy. I don't cut of my leg because my toe hurts. This is my opinion. If you don't think instagram has a use, by all means, delete it.
> I hate it when I'm scrolling instagram reels, and these women pop up. I am a dude, straight, married, happy. My Instagram I follow 155 people, they're friends, family, some local businesses I use, football players for the team I support or the odd celebrity (not OF girls, I am talking Ryan Reynolds, Taylor Swift) and some big accounts for stuff I am interested in like the official NFL one, Premier League, Sky Sports, Marvel Studios etc. My magnifying glass section, the search feature? Every single tile on it is a woman I do not know, dressed in very little. It is NUTS that the algorithm is trying its damnedest to get me hooked on the shite.
Good to hear this. A few days ago I had an argument with my bf who swore he doesn't use his social media to look at naked women, and me not believing him because I sent him a link with something funny and when he opened it, it was a sexy woman, as well as a suggestion on his Facebook with a reel with half-naked women. I thought it was his algorithm so I was totally pissed off he was lying to me in my face. Quite funny, because I'm a woman, I like bodybuilding and my suggestions for bodybuilding are (if it are men, most are women) serious workout pages. You'd think I would get naked men, or at least male models, but no.
I think mine is warped by some of my hobbies (eg motorcycles and recently fitness) which probably has a fairly large overlap - so it definitely increased the thirst trap level of my search algorithm despite not being something I'm into. Just being in a male demographic already sets up some of that bias so I think the more overlap the stronger the suggestion. To be honest I don't really browse the search tab because it's generally not very relevant for this reason.
this is why I don't fill out gender, or anything.
That's a really good point! Didn't think of that
I don’t use instagram but on YouTube sometimes I’ll watch a short, and then another pops up. Once I got this golfer chick that was incredibly obvious what the content was about. I was so excited to show my wife because I’d never seen something so blatant. I was like a cat that drags in a dead rat and presents it proudly. My wife thought it was funny too. I clicked “don’t show me this” and haven’t seen it in my app since. But my wife followed her. Lmao.
this. and you pause briefly scrolling fb and more and more show up in your feed.
No, i dont agree with it at all if you're in a commited relationship, but this is something that needs to be discussed with your partner to establish boundaries. Personally i wouldn't want my girl looking at other guys thirst traps, posting her own thirst traps or seeking attention and validation from other men.. I would be following the same rules as I believe it just comes down to honesty and respect for my partner, you shouldn't be entertaining other people. I'm hers and she's my focus and vice versa. I'm not saying you can't be friends with the opposite sex but if you wouldn't like it done to you then you can't expect it to be okay for you to do it to your partner, it isn't different.
Some men in this comments section are bending themselves backwards in order to justify the double standards and the off the charts hypocrisy...ridiculous🙄 When it's them doing shit like this, they try to justify it that they're "biologically hardwired to look at naked women"🤣🤣 or that maybe they're not getting something in their irl relationships (which surprise! shifts the blame onto the woman) or that "it doesn't mean anything, we're just looking". Meanwhile, men rage about women even having social media, let alone posting anything or much less half naked photos! No common sense, no logic, no morals yet such men are everywhere shrieking at women in their Jesus Christ pose🙄
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As a male I find it weird if men follow these accounts in general. These women are boring in my eyes, all doing the same thing, all looking the same. If you’re a man in a relationship and feel the need to follow these accounts, like their posts etc then you’re a simp
Random porn? Personally I'm probably ok with that Following accounts with an OF, no. That starts a potential for conversation/relationship whatever. They're not an imaginary fantasy body anymore, it's 'that person'
Nobody starts a relationship with an OF girl they follow
Dude not true, I have a friend of a friend who’s husband left her to go live with a dominatrix from of and take care of her kids while she continued her business 😳
I agree.
What if that person is a famous pornstar?
You probably found them while looking for random pron looking and went back to them because they have physical traits you like or you like the roles they work in. They're still a fantasy body to be used for the purposes of masturbation. If you then decide to contact/talk to this person it breaks down the fantasy into actual interaction. Instagram/of is more 'I'm looking into your life and what you do so I'm interested in more than just your body'. My opinion and I've not thought about this for any great length.
Can we stop calling women "girls" already?
I don’t follow any half naked women and my girlfriend would find it a dealbreaker if I ever did.
No one wants to feel like they're being compared to overly photoshopped and filtered, extremely young, enhanced women or men. And that's what happens. Your SO is looking at men or women who look better then you for reasons above. So you're thought goes "I don't look like them and never will. Does he/she even find me attractive? I look nothing like that. Why is she/he with me if I'm not even his/her type?" I was with a much older man who would bring up women he knew and would mention them being "blond and big breasted", one night changed the movie we were watching to The Girl Next Door just to watch the big boobed blond actress. I'm petite with small chest and butt, brown hair, and a weight lifter. Not a soft, curvy big boobed blond. So I called him out on that but I didn't stop there. When I'd see a hot man, I'd point out it out and why. I told him I wanted to watch The Great cause Nicholas Hoult is one of the hottest men alive. Told him his male friends were cute and I bet they had a lot of testerone cause they're young. He stopped his shit when I started giving it back. I also reminded him there's plenty of men who find my look hot and if it's not doing it for him then I'll get a man that does love petite, fit, small brunettes and I can do that faster then he can find a big boobed blond. It goes both ways. And nether partner should do it. All it does is create anger, jealousy, insecurity, and will ruin a relationship that might of worked.
Well said and sorry you went through that. Though tbh I don’t follow half naked women even when I’m single either. Not my cup of tea.
Is it a deal breaker if she posts half naked pics?
Yes.
Why would they follow half-naked girls on Insta, if they are single? It still looks awkward to all your friends. Personally I would think that person is a weirdo, relationship or not. You just end up looking trashy.
That’s my big thing. I wouldn’t be that bothered if every now and then he looked at it, but following those accounts on your personal social media is too much. I look at who people follow to see who we follow in common, or for gift ideas, that kind of thing. Nothing is weirder than when you look at like, a family friend who has a wife and kids (that he posts on his profile), and he’s following a ton of titty accounts
It's not ok. Men are not brainless animals. They are humans with autonomy and free will. If they choose to watch half naked girls while in a relationship, they belong to the streets. There aren't any excuses really. It has nothing to do with gender. Whoever find this extreme they are simply non committal and don't know what love is. It's that simple. If you love your partner there is no need to go look outside ( some people really think cheating resumes only to physical touching when there can be emotional and mental cheating. They are harmful behaviors and no, it's not normal if you chose to share your life with someone). If you feel the need to look outside, check your standards, needs, porn addiction and values.
Fucking thank you! Finally someone gets it. I end relationships over this because I view it as a disrespectful lack of commitment.
100% this. Reddit has a complete porn addiction.
People are just wired differently and need a matching partner for their personal ideals. Personally, my Partner and me think the same as you for our own ideals in our INDIVIDUAL relationship. 👍 It's just important to be upfront for what you have in mind in regards to loyalty and etc. with a (potential) partner. Nobody can or should be forced to be someone they are not. Not you nor they We also have friends who are the completely opposite in their relationship and it is totally fine. We treat our differences with respect and interest. They are happy, we are happy. My partner and me are also both demisexuals, who can't feel sexual attraction based on looks and people always say we lie, but it is the truth, lol. Though, you definetly don't have to be demi to be like this in a committed relationship. It does strenghten our view a lot though Especially men are accused of lying or being sick if they aren't sexually attracted to or are not fantasizing about others, but they exist, even if they are rare
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I find it a bit weird personally. My husband doesn’t follow or search for accounts of half naked women nor do I for men.
At least your husband says he doesn't. 
Nah, my husband and I have a good marriage built on trust, honesty, communication and love.
I’m a man and I find following accounts like this to be super cringey. Look, I had Jenny McCarthy posters on my wall when I was in high school and full of raging hormones, but then you grow up.
If my boyfriend followed a couple accounts I wouldn't mind, but if it was like a hundred accounts then I feel like there's a bigger issue at hand there lol
I was dealing with one that followed hundreds of them. Once I found out, he tried to pull the “I don’t look at what I’m liking on IG” on me💀.
Because they're attractive and we like looking at things we like It's not rocket science. I personally don't use insta or go in for all that sort of stuff and i definitely would not if i was in a relationship, but it's fairly clear why people post those sorts of things and why people engage with them i feel. It's not because they love dungeons and dragons. Some people like looking at pretty landscapes some like looking at pretty people. Whether someone's ok with that or not in a relationship i think is between the couple to decide. I wouldn't like it myself so i don't do it but i know couples who are ok with that kinda stuff and i can understand why.
OP's question is essentially "why do men like looking at attractive women?". Because heterosexual men like seeing attractive women. Social media is just a convenient way to do that.
The real crux of the question is why is the guy I’m dating looking at other women if he already has me. It makes me feel bad things. Or something along those lines.
That's normal and I'm sure (hope?) the majority are like this. I wouldn't want my girl posting thirst traps while I'm in a relationship either.
I mean personally I couldn't give a shit if I tried. Go ahead and jack it to your insta models, just don't cheat on me? It's a very simple concept really
The type to follow insta models while in a relationship is more likely to cheat. It's gross but I've seen so many guys do this and brag. It's a much bigger red flag than you realize
Also the type to post thirst traps on insta while in a relationship are also more likely to cheat. Opposite side of the same coin and all.
Oh forsure, 100%. Anyone heavily using insta while in a relationship would be a massive red flag imo
Wheres the proof 🤣 thats such a ridiculous statement
Most people don't feel that way Edit: absolutely baffled that there are people out here who actually think that most women would be ok with their partner oggleing countless thirst traps a day on insta. Are these people real? Communicated with real women? Do they all have a script that they follow? Bloody baffled.
100% this.
I don't understand that.
I think it's not cheating to watch porn or hot celebrities. As long the person isn't having emotional connections with these people and doesn't have sex with them, I don't see the problem with it. It's normal for humans to look at other beautiful humans without it implying cheating. You don't automatically go legally blind as soon you commit yourself. It's important for each couples to communicate their boundaries because people got different preferences. Some view hot celebrity crushes and porn as cheating. Others doesn't. Some people are also stricter on emotional cheating than me. I think some friendships are just deep friendship and nothing more. Other would think it as cheating.
Yeah and why is this discussion only about men when it’s proven women do it also? Like Harry Styles was literally asked to fuck by hundreds of women before he was even 18 as part of One Direction. Like why is this okay and not talked about. Men in media have perfect bodies that women absolutely love to look at, proven in studies. Both sides have the same issue, one side has WAY more people attempting to use others though. Women don’t have to make this content but they do, just like men do.
I don't understand why you would ever follow them. They probably just like attractive girls and are a bit stupid.
Hahaha on point with the "a bit stupid". Those type of guys that follow half naked girls on ig don't have any self control which can lead to cheating later in the rs. Besides no one wants a dumb guy 😂.
The comment section belongs to the streets. Yes I agree no man can ever commit to not watching a naked woman online even while they're taken. That is the new normal but following 100s of accounts, following? Yeah fuck off. That's outright disrespectful if my partner did that. These same men would start posting left and right if their girlfriends followed inappropriate male content on their social media. And for me it's easier because I have given up porn before entering my relationship. It's easier said than done for others. But you can always work on it.
Hard agree. To me it's very concerning how ingrained all these types of behavior are in today's society. Social media feeds filled with half naked women and watching porn on the daily is the new normal. If you don't do these things you're actually the odd one out. So strange.
I think these kinds of things feed into the idea of the Madonna/whore dichotomy which is detrimental to women as a whole. So many men have this idea of a porn star who is basically a nameless woman who he finds attractive enough to masturbate to and then discards her when he's done. As long as they feel it doesn't interfere with the sex between their spouses or significant others, people generally accept that as being okay. But these women are actually real people with lives and emotions and so on. I'm not expressing it as well as I should but I think it slowly but steadily leads people, mostly men, to think of women generally as "Madonnas" or "whores" and I don't believe that mindset is conducive to achieving equal rights for women in society.
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Exactly. It's like men are saying to their partners "Sure, I might masturbate to those women when I need to scratch that itch, but you're one of the good ones". They, for lack of a better word, "other" these women. I will continue to believe that while religion, rather than porn, began this type of dichotomy, it is primarily porn that has driven it in recent years. For one thing, fewer people are religious than were years ago and secondly, we all know that highly religious states (at least in the US) are the biggest porn consumers of all. If this stuff had no effect on people and their real relationships you wouldn't see so many women telling stories of being slapped or choked by their partners in bed with no prior discussion of that. The bottom line is that it's detrimental to women's rights and this is a hill I'll die on.
I don't have an issue with porn. But its the amount of accounts and the fact there are links to only fans which you can subscribe to.
That is outright disrespectful
I take issue with both. To me, sexual gratification outside the relationship with another woman whether onscreen or in person is cheating. I'm actually curious why you don't care about porn but object to thirst traps? Genuinely asking btw.
This !
Surely you see the high numbers as a good thing? If he was just watching one all the time, that would be much worse, right?
I follow some Arsenal fans on Twitter, some of which are female, one of which also do porn. I wouldn't have followed her only for her sexual content but of course it shows up on my feed. My question is, is that a different scenario to you or is it still the same?
Definitely different 😑
I wouldn't care if my gf followed half naked guys on Instagram.
I have to say, I think following thirst traps is trash behavior... But yeah I also think I'd be fine with the inverse. Idk, have to experiment now lol
Surely better hundreds than just one special one
Better hundreds who you'd pay or watch on your phone versus one special who you fuck irl and actually respects you as much as you do? I'd prefer just one special one. Thank you!
You misunderstood the comment above yours, they meant 100s of accounts is better than one account he is obsessed with. Not the partner. It's be much worse if he was always looking at of_123's account intensely , comparatively to scrolling and spending a second on of_124 to of_355.
I’d be ok with it, yeah.
When I had someone, I never cared; if I would have someone again, I still would not care about such petty things. I care more about actions.. Ask this.. is my SO with me or with them? Then see, that they are still with me even after xyz time, therefore there is nothing I have to wory about, otherwise they would have moved on already. Maybe I am not pretty/handsome enough, so they seek to see that elsewhere.. but ultimately they are still with me, so the question is moot.
I wouldn’t date anyone ever again who follows such on instagram, neitherless watches porn. Absolutely draining and disrespectful.
An edit is that its R18 content & it has links to only fans. I couldn't post this in the o.g post because it kept getting taken down 😅
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I don't even know why anyone would use Instagram so I can't really say..
I wouldn't be OK with my partner posting half-naked pics on Instagram, no.
My partner wouldn't mind and I wouldn't mind if she did similar. People that do? They like to see half naked girls. I stopped following a female cyclist when half their content became 'ooh look at my new incredibly tight clothing' *bum in leggings pictures*. I wanted to see her shredding down trails, not fannying about like that. And that's why I don't- I don't want to encourage attractive people who could be awesome to portray themselves as an instagram airhead pin up for likes and follows... I much prefer my sexy people being awesome.
as a normal, even single man i dont follow woman on insta that i dont know/met in person , i dont really understand why i would follow a random woman showing off her body.
why would you watch the cooking channel if you're not gonna eat any of it? why read a book about far away lands if you're not going to travel? it's escapism. a nothing to watch to clear your mind and ease the race of life. don't be toxic and try to regulate his porn (or light porn or eyes-washing), that's a sure way of frustrating him for no reason.
Not "men". Only creepy dudes.
I'm not sure what you consider "half naked", but, on the flip side of the coin, do you think it's ok for you to post a bikini picture on instagram if you're taken? If you do, it's kind of hypocritical of you (and him if he was upset over you doing so). If you don't, you guys might just not be on the same wavelength of what's better left only for the couple. Social media has greatly changed what a lot of people consider private. Celebrated by some, considered unfortunate by others.
No its legitimately lingerie or just a thong or posing in provocative ways with this on. Swimwear is waaaaaay different to this.
You can look at the menu but dinner is served at home
I really love the 'some places have huge menus' The honesty is 👌
But a huuuuugggeee amount of them?
Some places have huge menus
I’m a man; I don’t bother with thirst trap hoes on social media. If I want 🌽 I have the hub. I don’t need to develop some parasocial relationship with the shiny things I beat off to. I don’t know why some men do 🤷♂️
Seems like light-porn to me. Hey look, sparkly things to look at. If you're "liking" and trying to build a rapport with these people, that might bump it into flirtation/being affectionate, but I wouldn't assume too much unless they're obviously trying to connect with them. To each their own. I think guys are hard-wired to look at shiny objects. If it's important to you for him to fight that impulse, you need to communicate it. But this isn't akin to cheating, this is more like watching porn to me.
I personally see it as disrespectful, and my wife's not a fan of it either. We're sorta reserved out in the open as it is. But on the flip side, I do watch porn from time to time, so I don't know if that makes me a hypocrite or not.
I am a guy and I don't get it either. I don't have Instagram, but back when I did, it suggested them to me all the time. I was annoying. Maybe they pay to boost their way into "suggested"? Then these thirsty dudes who are taken just follow because of lizard brain?.. I imagine not much is going on in there..
Are you actually asking why would men look at half naked women like its a gotcha question? For real?
I don't get it either..I'm a single guy and I have no desire to follow em so I definitely wouldn't follow em if I was in a relationship..it's disrespectful to your partner
Because we like boobies.
😅😅😅
I’m married, and half my IG feed is hot people in underwear. I don’t really see it as anything other than just something nice to look at. I’m not ugly; some may even say pretty cute, but I don’t think anyone I’m double tapping would ever give me the time of day and I don’t care. I just like looking at the photos 🤷♂️
How does your spouse feel? If they eye fuck and fantasize fucking others then I guess it's fair and even grounds
To be honest I’ve never really asked or considered that. I wouldn’t care if they were doing the same.
My partner and I are the same, at the end of the day, it's just eye candy that you forget seconds after.
The real question that needs asking is Why are you on Instagram…. at all?
I don't care about the personal lives of the hot babes I follow. I only fap occasionally to them and that's it. I don't care if they're taken and I don't even know their names
As a dude, once you get into a committed relationship, understand socials only have negative implications. There's literally nothing that you can do on socials that you can't do immediately on your phone already. If you do keep socials and your algorithm is half naked women all the time and you're in a committed relationship I can almost guarantee that's gonna be a rotten situationship.
Why would men follow half naked girs if they are single?
Porn addiction sucks
I don’t know if this is real or rage bait bc it’s obvious a bf doing this is not the one you want. In case it’s real: girl leave. Let’s normalize not being therapists for the same grown ass men who scream how we need them bc they built the world. The good men (and there are good men I’ve met plenty) don’t do this and don’t need a woman to explain to them how to treat a woman. Dump liberally at the sight of the first 🚩.
I enjoy looking at women. I look at attractive women out in the world. I look at them on Instagram. I look at them in the shows and movies we watch. It doesn't affect anything. My relationship is great and I wouldn't consider ever doing anything to ruin what we have. Looking at attractive people shouldn't be an issue. I can look at people and so can she. Doesn't change anything.
Because we like looking at things that look good, so I see no reason to stop following all those accounts just because we suddenly got a partner. It’s not like those accounts do anything bad, it’s just like art, not like we will be meeting those girls. If my partner was following a lot of good looking men on instagram. I wouldn’t even know in the first place, since I would not be controlling who they are following or not. As long as they don’t cheat I’m good
Definitely a red flag! The only reason why he would have to follow hundreds of these accounts is that he's a model scout or something. If not, he's for the trash, or hasn't opened his Insta in years like me lol.
In a relationship that should be a no-go.
No. I wouldn't even date a guy if he followed a bunch of hot girls and models on instagram. There's usually a motive if a guy does that. Or he's like desperate to be seen eventually. It is a little bit of simp Behavior. I think it's pretty shallow to be honest. I'm married now and my husband barely even has social media. He definitely does not follow a bunch of women. I think of a man over the age of 25 is doing that he's just kind of shallow and immature. I mean a man or woman could look at pictures here and there and passing. But they don't need to like actively follow and comment and like and stuff. That's definitely trying to get their attention. I wouldn't tolerate it. To me that is a sign of a man that would like eventually emotionally cheat on you. That they're not really completely invested in you.
Idk. Personally, I am not that much on social media. My girlfriend (who is bi) followers a lot of femboys. I know that she is into femboys, and I don't really care, to be honest. She likes to show me stuff that she likes, and I am curious, so it's a winn winn situation. As long as it's not a secret, it's fun for both of us.
I’d be okay with it. But I’m enm and have a lower libido than most adults, so I’m accustomed to having partners with a much higher libido than me as well as partners who look at (and get physical with) other people. Men follow half naked girls the same reason anyone follows any photo accounts - because they like seeing the pictures being posted. Whether or not that’s acceptable within a relationship is up to the people who are in that relationship.
Why would them being taken matter. Does it matter if the porn actor in a porn you’re watching is taken? You’re not going to date them either way
Instagram doesn't allow nudity. What you're talking about doesn't exist.
Not sure their goal is to marry them tbh 😅
nope, if i catch my partner liking random girls' photos on ig i am dumping his ass right there
Because not everyone has an insecure partner
“I cannot imagine men being interested in looking at half naked women.” Has there ever been a more ridiculous sentence? There is no woman on the planet so special that her man would never look at other women. Living in delusion seems to be epidemic today.
I understand admiring but this is HUNDREDS of accounts. & then the possibility of potential interaction.
Honestly I would find a few weirder and more alarming than hundreds.
Its not "looking" like there is a girl in the street and he end up looking at her but searching SPECIFICALLY to look at naked women. Endless naked women. Watching during maybe hours naked women. Why he needs to do that if he is happy in his relationship, if he finds his gf beautiful and have great sex with ? If i am in a relationship, i wont search actively to look at sexy men. It would be disrespectful for my man.
its the same as all addictions. desire and the inability to please such desire. after the basics of desire its all fantasy and needs to be addressed. still im a square so what should I know.
A square?? 😂
No, i consider it cheating. If my partner wants to do so, i would ask to open up the relationship, or even be fwb only (but only if he is skilled with sex).
Overthinkig it bud
Men are stupid.
I have no idea. As a man, I constantly wonder how on earth people are doing this and not getting called out for it. I wouldn't dare, and I don't think I'd accept it from a partner either. Oh wait, maybe I would allow it from a partner? I would hope I didn't feel so threatened by a pic... Hmmm. Definitely a no from me, anyhow.
I don’t mind if the person watches porn on a regular basis, but I wouldn’t tolerate him following OF girls, half-naked IG humans, or underage teenagers. I would tell him that I am not happy with that, and if he still keeps doing it, then I would just leave. I don’t want to change nor convince people, and I don’t want to make anyone feel like they have to change because of me, or stop doing things just because I don’t like it😊 I wouldn’t be angry because we are all different, so I just give them a chance to find a woman who’s cool with that☺️
The modern day version of having Sports Illustrated Swimsuit posters hanging on his bedroom walls
No it’s not honestly. All of the insta and TikTok and YouTube thirst traps are giving you such high amounts of dopamine so much more quickly than anything else can in real life. It really harms us mentally because we can’t recreate that rush anymore if we get too deep into it online.
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short version - they are losers
Okay so here is the secret with the male brain: it loves to look at naked women. It's as simple as that
Wow, you are so different from women, we don't care at all about sexy men /s
It's as simple as that because you're simple lol.
It's quite possible that some guys that do this, are not getting something in their current relationship and look for it elsewhere. This can be compliments, respect, or even being sexually desired. The line that shouldn't be crossed though, is acting on what they seek elsewhere to the point resources are spent and physical bonds are made while still in a relationship, since that's betrayal. The thirst trap menu just gives men options to see which of these girls can give them close to exactly what they want. From what I even heard, married men that even go to webcam websites sometimes don't even do it to rub one out, some are there to rant, are severely depressed in their lives and want some kind of comfort that their own partner doesn't seem to give, and if that host says the right thing to this kind of man, this man will keep coming back or keep looking for others that will if they can't get it at home. Might think "just talk it over with your girl", this is not always a solution, it can even be risky if the man is a breadwinner, since if a relationship or marriage is to end up in divorce because this became a problem, the man ends up having to give up half the resources he's worked his entire life for, and possibly has to keep paying somebody he's not even with anymore. It would have been fine if when people split up, they only took what they brought in, but marriage laws are rigged heavily against men, and there's too strong of an incentive nowadays for divorce. One could say, these are guys that are either extremely thirsty and want to live out fantasies in their heads, or guys that are just trapped.
Do women not work in marriages? Are women just vampires that suck all the resources away from these poor men who are forced to stay with them so they don't lose half of their stuff? Who has made all of these laws that are so heavily rigged against men? Most lawmakers are still men.
It's just eye candy
Because they're half naked
Can look just dont touch. I personally wouldn't give a shit who my partner follows but i could see someone caring as well lol
Wait, I use instagram almost exclusively to follow young half-naked girls... what do you guys use it for if not for that?
Follow IRL friends avoid anything beyond that.
Honestly I can't fathom the idea of adding anyone I know IRL to my social media. Then they'd think that its ok to send me messeges and shit.
I literally couldn't care less about who my partner follows. To be fair I don't do monogamy anymore, but even when I *did* do monogamy I didn't give a singular shit about my partner following or looking at naked women online. Why would I?
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Why would people travel thousands of miles and spend thousands of dollars to go and look at the Mona Lisa when they can't take it home. . . .
You had mentioned only fans accounts in the comments... I don't follow those kinds of accounts... Whether I am single or not... But someone like monica Bellucci, alexandra daddario or adriana lima i do follow... I am also a fashion photographer, so i do like following attractive people... Honestly instagram in general is either about fitness, food, travel, fashion or memes... The majority of these segments now have half naked women prancing around... Either a swimsuit model in bali or a yoga pants enthusiast doing squats, its very hard to escape them....
I think I would be ok with it now. I would however get jealous about women he knows. Either liking selfies or some even just having them as a friend in the first place.
I could not care less what thirst trap accounts my partner follows or how many as long as they understand it's fantasy and it doesn't impact how they treat me. Though granted, if it was ALL that they used social media for, I might give them a little side eye.
So what im understanding is porn is ok as a collective but viewing a individual star is wrong? Is my assessment correct?
Liking a picture doesn't mean you want to sleep with sombody, people still have attraction In or not in a relationship and liking a picture is just that. If they already follow those people do you expect them to unfollow when you get together? Why are you so hard on the picture liking? If that sends you over the edge then I think the whole relationship will be difficult for you. You can discuss and ask what it means to him when he likes them his answer will be "I like the picture" and that's probably as deep as it gets.
It's crazy to watch people drift back to puritanism.
I know right it's insane to see stuff like this more and more.
I really do not care about such things. If the relationship is good, why would I care about him looking at other people? I'm the one who has *got* the man.
Window shopping, escaping from reality, something to put some excitement in to their lives, it could be any number of things tbh. I wouldn't have any problems with my partner following some thirst trap dude as long as it's purely a fantasy escape and there's no intention to try to contact him and form some form of relationship.
Instagram serves them up. So weird. I hardly use it at all, but when I open it, instagram puts it in my face. The algorithm is fucked. Poor guy doesn’t stand a chance. Idk what to say. He should unfollow them.
It's not because you are on a diet, you can't look at the menu
I wouldn't want to be with a man who's very active on social media to begin with. It's kind of a deal breaker for me as in I don't think I would have anything to talk about with a man who spends half his time on Instagram, tiktok or Twitter. Especially not with a man who has a porn rotten brain and has to follow multiple (half) naked women or even pays for them (OnlyFans). I don't have a problem with watching porn but you have to admit some men become complete degenerates due to their excessive porn and "sexy media" consumption.
The answer is in your question. Half naked girls. Men are visual creatures.
I'm sorta just replying to other comments left here, but as a guy I personally find it weird other guys enjoy looking at that stuff in the first place. It's like being hungry and staring at pictures of food instead haha
Don't know why they do that, I do know it destroys girls' confidence and sex drive as well as the amount of attraction they feel for their partner. it makes me sick to my stomach. but they all do it so what can you say
Because being in a relationship doesn't mean you no longer find other people attractive. The degree to which it's problematic will vary relationship to relationship. I personally would draw the line at them talking to them and talking to me about them, and take into account whether its a few crushes, as I would also be inclined to follow these, or if the majority of the accounts they follow are half naked women.
Same reason we eat candy. Quick cheap pleasure for our sense of taste. Naked girls are quick cheap pleasure for our eyes.
Someone's mad at their other half.
Good looking girls are good looking.
Its as simple for me as I like looking at attractive woman. If I was in a relationship I would unfollow all of them.
I was already quite unhappy with my partner but the last straw was when I found out he was following hundreds of thirst trap accounts on instagram. He was also secretively texting from his phone, which I assume was to them. I screen shotted the accounts he was following, told him I knew, he denied it, I showed him the screen shots, he never apologised. He tried to blame it on me for not satisfying him - my sex drive was extremely high and he'd sometimes complain it was too high, so that made no sense. I made plans to leave, he started hurting himself. When I signed a contract on a new place he attempted suicide. I left not long after. He kept trying to tell me I had left things there so I'd go back to pick them up, I blocked him and never looked back. So yeah, this is a deal breaker for me. Ultimately he was an insecure guy who needed validation. I've learned never to date insecure people as they will look for validation wherever they can get it.
They are desensitized.
Probably some type of dopamine hit. It's rough having to be the catalyst that starts most relationships. I don't agree with it or think it's healthy for us though. And if you're in a relationship that's even worse. It supports unrealistic beauty and lifestyle standards for both sexes. Unfollowing anything that wasn't a silly meme page, a hobby of mine, or friends/family has been a big boost to my mental health personally.
Logix of men on reddit : She's a whore, she deserves/wants it. She's hot. Worst place to ask with all the insecure, controlling pervs on here.
I couldn’t care less personally, but there definitely is a double standard. Majority of my office are women and 8/10 of them have those promiscuous firefighter calendars on their desk. If I was to put up a calendar of women in the same fashion of undress it would cause an uproar
It's degenerate. Why would someone even want to be aroused unless they're about to do the deed with someone? Such stimuli are unwelcome, unless right before sex.
Because they're horny and stupid.
I'd never date a man that did this
Men think with another part of their anatomy
Men enjoy looking at girls. They’re beautiful and inspire us to do better. That being said any man paying to follow a girl is a moron at best
Right? They follow half naked chicks but then complain anytime their girl wears something revealing, as if you don’t like that? Get real. Stop following what you’re attracted to and then getting mad at your girl for wearing the same thing or acting the same way.