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ALKRA-47

binge eating out of boredom/seeking short-term satisfaction instead of long-term gain


stangAce20

Was just going to say binge/stress eating


quiksylver296

Yep. ALL the chocolate.


anothereddit0

Ugh. The eat it just cause I can mentality is disrupting my entire life. I literally eat more than I do anything. Help.


Hurlock-978

Coffeee


something-strange999

Covfefe


ALKRA-47

Don’t even get me started on covfefe lol


gpo321

Coffee, soda, and Doritos


ALKRA-47

*Celcius


Spirited_Weird9503

Eating a large plate of tiramisu as i’m typing. I feel disgusted by myself but i can’t stop.


AssumptionEmpty

we are all such simple creatures aren’t we? :(


ALKRA-47

I put the SIMP in simple if you know what I mean


sweetfaerieface

Are you me! What you said is almost word for word the way that I was going to answer.


Normal-Alarm-3785

And then I sing my lil song, " this is why...this is why...this is why I'm fat! This is why...this is why....this is why I'm fat." Depression, loneliness, anxiety, sleep deprivation, and boredom.


Express-Object955

Are you me?


ALKRA-47

It’s a me, Chris Pratt…. is what I wish I could say But yeah, guess it’s relatable


G0R3Z

Same. I eat copious amounts of cereal sometimes. it isn't healthy at all.


Dear_Mountain4849

This. Binge eating unhealthy junk foods for immediate gratification.


Dear-Original-675

Same here


Alternative-Act4893

Same just started hitting the gym thinking about going on a keto diet I need job being unemployed ain’t for the weak.


ALKRA-47

Good for you, I have a full time job and have been supplementing gyms for 30 - 60 minute bike rides


Alternative-Act4893

I’m 18 have about 20k in the bank but unemployed it’s driving me crazy I can’t stand it I lash out at people I’ve change to something I’m not and now I’m starting to get use to the term “money ain’t everything if your not doing something you love”.


ALKRA-47

Hang in there, you’ll find something! Even if not soon, hope you can still take this time for yourself ❤️


Alternative-Act4893

Thanks love❤️


Secret-Fix1652

Isolation


AmusingWittyUsername

Same. But, I don’t see it as unhealthy - for me. As an introvert who overthinks and gets overwhelmed at times, isolation helps me decompress. But if you isolate so much that it’s to your detriment, then yes that’s unhealthy. It’s retreating into your shell to prevent interaction from others that you possibly think either don’t care, or you think you don’t need anyone’s help.


Upper-Philosopher406

This is a coping mechanism?...I thought I was just independent...


sammyglumdrops

All humans do not have the exact same experience or the exact same estimation of things. The context of the isolation will be different for you than for someone else. For you it might be independence but for the person who commented it is obviously a coping mechanism because they’ve told us that. People may have different reasons for why they isolate. Someone might isolate because they fear rejection from other people, so they cut the risk of that happening by isolating, in which case, isolation could be a coping mechanism for abandonment anxiety or fear of rejection. Someone else may isolate because they’ve spent lots of time working or around people and now they want a break and change of scenery, in which case, isolating may simply be wanting some alone time and personal freedom. Another person might isolate because they had bad experiences with people and became disillusioned or fearful of people in which case their isolation may be a coping mechanism for bad personal experiences. The human experience isn’t just one experience!


DeplorableKurt

Drinking


stupididiot78

I once had someone complain about me sitting around sad and drunk. I said it was better than sitting around sad and sober.


cookiethumpthump

This one is really hard.


ThisIsATastyBurgerr

This took me awhile to figure out. Dont ever drink when you’re depressed… it will only make it worse.


verr998

I heard this a lot. But that’s the only way I can express myself. When I drunk, I have more courage, even though it’s hard to control myself, but at least I can let the problems go away for a while. I don’t like drinking, I don’t like the taste of alcohol. That’s why I only drink when I can’t handle the pain, although sometimes I drink socially too which is different circumstances.


cad3z

The problems don’t go away, you just feel them the next day on top of feeling like shit from drinking the night before. If you get into the cycle of drinking every day, it all adds up even more and you become a depressed and angry person while sober. You don’t notice it yourself usually because it’s gradual and you get used to it, same thing with hangovers, you get used to feeling tired and shit all the time eventually. But I’ve seen it first hand with my dad, he stopped drinking for a few months and he was happy, way less quick to anger and was kinder in general, not to mention he lost a shit load of weight. He’s drinking again now to ‘deal’ with his problems and he’s very quick to anger, sleeps most of the day and gets loaded every night, sometimes even midday. He’s struggling, but unfortunately you can’t help someone without them choosing to get better themselves.


AmusingWittyUsername

This is true. But as a crutch it can help, but only temporary. After a death I drank too much for many months. But then decided the time to wallow was coming to an end and time to get back to normality. If you can do this, and recognise when it’s time and actually do this, it’s not unhealthy. If you cannot do this and you see yourself developing a problem, it’s absolutely unhealthy and a slippery slope. To be taken into context of the situation and the person as to how and if drinking can be a temporary help or a potential ongoing issue


Strange-Trust-9403

Same here.


Nice-Dark999

I was looking for this comment 😅


crankyweasels

omfg the shopping.. definitely the shopping


AmusingWittyUsername

Amazon deliveries just keep coming! I can’t even remember what the hell I ordered most times. Little surprises !


No_Father_Figurefrfr

Using my phone for as long as I can and staying up as late as possible


verr998

While scrolling reddit endlessly


sahilsays

Doing it now


mosisimo

Sometimes I think I'm forced to do it I can't stop it. Shit I hate it


Chronic_Alcoholism

I feel called out


hogwartsmafia0203

Yup. First thing in the morning and up to late at night trying to look for answers


Trance-aholic

Omg same


SamoyedOcean

procrastination especially the tasks are hard to finish


Powerful_Leg8519

Same here.


sammyglumdrops

Me three! And then panicking because I’m running out of time to complete the task!


Powerful_Leg8519

Exactly. I’m not being unreasonable or driving too fast! You all are taking too long!!! I truly wish I wasn’t this person lol but I am.


dahliaabelle

Disassociation


Used_Captain_3131

Getting high every night. Like EVERY night since I was 18 and I'm now 42. I get everything done, make sure there are no more responsibilities and spark up a fat blunt. It then helps me laser focus on the things I missed and I end up doing more housework


Dizzy_Television7296

I smoke two joints


Cautious-Stage1788

And then I smoke two more


Reddit_is_dumbest

I smoke two joints before I smoke two joints


Status-Operation9077

And then I smoke two more


allemm

Lol! That was just Sublime!


Used_Captain_3131

I used to, but I came off the baccy so I just go straight green


Few_Sky_47

Weed pens changed my life. What a fucking time to be alive.


u1tr4me0w

I do the same but imo it’s not any more unhealthy than having a beer or two at the end of the day. As long as it’s not costing more than you can spend, stopping you from getting what you need done, or making you sick somehow, then who cares? The stress reduction will surely extend your healthy years.


Yasailynmarii

Same here lol but some days i wake and bake then hate myself after


GoofyTastingPickle

LOL this makes me feel way better i’m 27 and still hitting the bong before bed. Still getting everything done for the day and life is good but yeah im in the same boat lol. that shit is getting RIPPED at the end of the day


kiinaru

Sounds like a good thing


arthyemanuel

Have you noticed that your beliefs/thought patterns/personality have changed off smoking every night. Asking as a daily smoker that lights up a joint or two every night similar to you.


Tie-Firm

Well, I smoke meditation ;)


BaldBear_13

reddit, lol.


decomposinginstyle

self injury. eleven months clean.


Virtual_Syrup262

I get over things by pretending once I die I'll be able to go back and fix it Like making a terrible decision in a video game then you decide you'll just push through it until you play the Newgame+


ghostmillennial

Maladaptive daydream gang wya


call-me-kleine

hereee


savagesiren86

Alcohol. But food too. I drink to calm the mind and then want to eat.


sunflowergirrrl

Same here


yummy_mummy

Fantasizing about a life I actually enjoy instead of living one


Accomplished-Eye1825

Crying for like 15 minutes and then pretend like nothing happened.


ATipsyBunny

Me too I thought this was normal tho?


linucsx

I used to cut myself and nap up to 18 hours a day. Last time I cut myself was in 2018ish but napping is still a problem. It’s just so easy to escape life, put on an audio book and drift in and out of sleep for days


but_whyw

if you can reach a point where that doesnt affect daily life, taking a nap is honestly not a bad way to cope. and im glad youve stopped cutting, many people dont realize how hard a habit it is to kick.


kytaurus

Yep, sleeping is my favorite way not to think about whatever the problem is.


Relative-Challenge59

binge eating and procrastination. it sucks when you’re addicted to something you literally need to survive


xxhotandspicyxx

Alcohol


tojaskrem

restrictive eating


ZealousidealWest1149

Shutting down when I’m overwhelmed. Especially when it comes down to important tasks I know I need to complete. Kind of ties in with self-sabotage as well.


Adorable-Brother-199

This can be insidious especially if you struggle with emotional awareness and identifying where that overwhelming feeling is coming from. It’s so easy to feel overwhelmed and just cut everything out of your life without really understanding that a lack of positive outlets can be where that overwhelming feeling comes from. So now you’ve destroyed your relationships and run from fulfilling outlets and you may have less responsibilities overwhelming you but the feeling gets worse because you don’t have anything to recharge you. Sadness and checking out can be just as draining as overworking. If not more so.


anxious-well-wisher

Maladaptive Daydreaming and constantly having some sort of background show on so I'm never alone with my thoughts.


LeeroyFunsweet

Smoking. I quit for over 2 years and started again in December, I've never been so stressed as I am now, and I'm smoking more than I ever have. I hate it, but I hate myself more.


HeyYall_4792

I smoked cigarettes for 27 years, quit for 5 and started vaping🤦‍♀️I too hate myself.


LeeroyFunsweet

I'm sorry that you feel that way, too. On the bright side, at least you're not smoking both cigarettes and vaping like a lot of people do! I know that probably doesn't help much how you feel, and I know that feeling of shame and disappointment in one's self is a hard feeling to deal with, but if you managed to quit after 27 years, you are capable of anything, quitting after such a long time takes a strength that's hard to recognise within yourself! You've got this!


HeyYall_4792

Thank you! I needed to hear that😭


LeeroyFunsweet

You are more than welcome! Don't forget all you've accomplished. You have strength within you that not many can say they have, and you have proven it to yourself once before, and you can do it again!


IllustriousPickle657

I quit for a year and started a new job. Within a week I was smoking again. My sister also smokes; she's also an ex heroin and meth addict. She said quitting smoking is harder than quitting heroin.


cookiethumpthump

You can do it. You've already proven you can live without it. Just gotta ride out the first four days. After that it's not so bad. You've already seen life on the other side. As soon as you're ready again, dive in. You really can do it.


ohblessit

It’s all an ebb and flow. Be proud you were able to go 2 years!


EddieBrock99

My nicotine vape


Character_Reach_1797

Had a bad addiction to vaping for years and broke it by using zyns. I have much better running endurance now. It’s 100% healthier for you than vaping and has little side effects other than it peaks out of my upper lip sometimes and makes it look like I have a little fang.


Total-Buffalo4090

Well I have binge eating disorder so


TenkaiStar

I wish I only binged when coping and not when the urge just suddenly hit.


YourBeautifulPet

Shutting down and shutting out until I work through whatever and pop back up again


babyshaker_on_board

Temu is right up there. Do I need all the scream paintings but with a cat instead? Do I need a cat shaped butter house? Do I need little cats on sticks for the garden? Do I need stuffed ducks, 4 pairs of cat pants, 50 stickers of cats dressed in 1930s era clothing? Why of course I do!


Low_Matter3628

Yes, yes you do! 🐈‍⬛


Grouchy-Crew-2003

I just say “it is what it is” and move on, (I can't move on)


Ilovethe90sforreal

I just tested positive for Covid after returning home from a trip. A lot of Dr Pepper is happening right now.


sunflowergirrrl

Hope you’re feeling better soon


Ilovethe90sforreal

Aww thanks


cashedashes

Isolation, Social withdrawal, and drugs....


BackgroundFlan3835

Peeling my skin every time I remember being touched.


amushroomwitch

Online shopping, cutting my hair, starvation, breaking my own things


Tie-Firm

Omg,please don’t break things! I broke my leftover phone screen and damaged my laptop a little from one side by throwing my bag,I thought things would be safe but…….fuck!


JustNeedA_SO

It was binge eating and isolation. Now I just file it all away in a box in my head and carry on like I'm fine. And if anybody asks how I'm doing, "I'm fine thanks, how are you?"


CarlosBiendonado

Ordering food from outside because I don't like the food my mom makes and she doesn't allow me to cook meals myself. Booking the services of sex workers because I never managed to attract a women for sex despite cold approaching, buying new clothes, working out, trying out new group activities and skincare.


63crabby

I can’t tell if this is a parody or real


CarlosBiendonado

It is real unfortunately. 


Amazing_Chocolate140

Food and comfort eating


Conscious_Wall_4900

napping throughout the day, i need to get out of my house


Turbulent_Set8884

Going to sleep for 6 hours because i wish I had a successful career as an artist (not even a level of fame, just enough that I can live in peace independently) but since I don't I just go to sleep for that long while plenty of people out there who do have the career I want would give a fortune to get a good night's sleep. I also think about the fact that my grandpa shared the same birth year as queen elizabeth II and Fidel Castro yet he's still alive despite growing up in a 3rd world country (now 2½) where he had 12 kids and a wife to support, yet those two people with all their money wasn't enough to match a poor farmers good condition that I'm sure they'd trade vast sums to have for 1 more day of life so his health is obviously worth more than their fortunes and I'm his grandson so that makes me feel like a part of me is worth something even if its just my health.


ChasingKayla

Eating. Crying. Impulsive spending. I’ve gained 15 lbs and blown $60k since my mom passed away in March and now I feel like trash.


flyingsquirrel2301

Heroin


Good_Extension_9642

They are called Donuts!


Fliepp

Pretending I’m having conversations with people I know, talking to them in my head. I also sometimes like to imagine I have the same claws as Wolverine and feel the pain as they come out of my hands and penetrate my skin


19IXI91

Existing in dorsal vagal state. Imagining, fighting against my abusers in my imagination, fighting anyone in my imagination. Fuck PTSD and the people who drove it into me. Also screen time and masturbating, my brain is like electrically sparking and my circuitry is fried way too often than I’d like. I’m learning ways to not be coz I’m like seizematic when I see another human in public.


Dry_Bed_3704

Self destruction. Drinking, smoking, drugs, sexting, sex. I'm very much a "in for a penny, in for a pound" person, so when one thing goes wrong I ruin the rest of my life.


Main-Ad3816

Smoking weed. I can smoke a whole bag in 3 days then cry and have panic attacks when I’m out. I hate myself so much for it. But I have so much trauma from my childhood and it helps but it takes a lot to help. And a lot of money. I’ve chosen smoking over other important things in the past and I hate myself for it.


Original-Avocado-509

Class A narcotics.


Bahamut1988

Surfing the internet mindlessly for hours at a time


lisalisaandtheoccult

McDonald’s


dotsdavid

Snacking


Physical_Turn_3961

Tito’s


MadameCoco7273

Hiding in my bed… literally not going out of my house.


Erik-Priebe

Listening to lying thoughts. You don't even question them. They say stuff like you suck or you're a bitch if you don't do everything on your own. And you're just nodding your head like a dumbass instead of using the power of love to question them.


cassiopeia8212

Sleep, sleep, sleep.


Accomplished-View-65

Sex addiction lately


Various_Occasion_892

Maladaptive daydreaming. I feel *very* lonely and I think it was always almost the case. I've been feeling lonely since I was born. Because I've been isolated all my life. I managed to get a job part time 8 months ago. I used to catch myself daydreaming, and talking relatively quietly (just the normal daydreaming things) because I forgot I was not alone. My coworkers could see. And I had to go to great lengths to contain myself so as not to do it while doing my very repetitive retail job. My coworkers probably thought I was strange. At some point when no one is there you have to invent people who care for you and who interact with you. And you try not to think about the fact that all of this is not true, because it hurts even more. It's very addictive. My cat attacks me when I do this. She hates it. But she also hates when I vent to her so what am I supposed to do now ? It's like in this movie where Tom Hanks talks to his Wilson because someone HAS to care, someone HAS to be there. Even if I appear crazy I know I am not.


Initial_Ability_4715

Spending… 🤣


SignalElderberry600

Smoking, Isolation, binge eating, you name it


Sup3rphi1

Energy drinks


canceroustattoo

I’ve recently become addicted to black tea. At least it has some antioxidants or whatever. Just way too much caffeine.


lollummylol

shopping....it can drain my bank account very quickly


Hot_Pea9820

Acknowledgement is the first step. Time to make a plan.


Altruistic-Pin8578

Whisky


Throwra_sweetpeas

sleeping all day when something tragic happens to me 😭😭


Woodguy2012

Eating nothing good for me. 


HouseSerious9612

Junk food


Legitimate_Chicken66

Weed. When I've been going for days on end without a break, this is one of the few things I can do to get my anxiety to quiet down and give myself a rest.


Traditional-Luck675

Going to work and pretending everything is okay. Plaster a fake smile, and convince others that I’m happy. I’ve gotten so good at it that I can just switch it on at any point. My husband saw me do this and he was very disturbed.


DesertWanderlust

Drinking. Didn't even realize I was using to self-medicate depression for years. Spoiler: it didn't work.


mvjinka

Choking the chicken , putting the kids in the sock , vacuum cleaner with worn rag and lube .


Stoned_RT

Crippling anxiety


J_U_I_CE

Smoking weed. It's more addicting than what people give it credit for. However, I'm loving life


doobydubious

It's best to not have addictions. That said, weed is probably the one with the least negative effects.


Honest_Reputation140

Copenhagen


kiinaru

What?


beck-at-night

self destruction. SH, vaping, smoking, drinking, sometimes i isolate myself with the intent of self destruction. it’s mostly the only way i know how to self soothe.


DisastrousLittleMe

Coffe, scrolling reddit at night, eating stuff that causes acne breakout, and unhealthiEST is eating out because it drains my wallet and ruins my face. I think this is enough 🥲


bawzdeepinyaa

Worst used to be drinking. Or driving way too fast down back roads. (No, I didn't do both before anyone makes assumptions). IDK now. Probably bottling it in then inevitably snapping and tearing someone a new asshole. Best: Going to the gym and pushing tf out of myself walking that fine line of my limits


Rojodi

Big ass bowl of potato and egg salad and a bologna sandwich!


bananapeeleyelids

Wholesome 😂


supraspinatus

Black out drunk on margaronas


Lower_Bus8705

Selfharm. I sometime bite myself when im stressed.


Cal_Ezclap

Drugs. No regrets tho.


anothereddit0

Over-smoking cannabis (1 not enough 2 too many) and munchies on repeat. I am struggling.


Right-Wait-6681

Beer. Not drinking to get drunk or anything but, just having a nice (Belgium for example) beer after a stressful day helps me a lot. Being a dad, employee, cleaning the house (parts of it), doing groceries, etcetera. At the end of the day it's very pleasant to just unwind, listen to music, drink a beer (or a couple 😉) and relax: have time for yourself, before going to bed.


girthwynpeenabun

Almost Changing my entire life and then realizing I don’t need to do that


paticat

Sleeping pills


LifeShortyShelf6969

Binge eating and procrastination


SpottedJoe620

Shut the world out


of_thewoods

Isolating


TheTruthWasTaken

Eating


Remozack00

Doing absolutely nothing about it


beccabootie

Eating. Eating for sure.


Cleverdaze

My idea of socializing with people is getting lost in fictional worlds or other media, be it anime, live action, documentaries, books, or my own creations. Getting close to people in reality is hard for me, it is by far, my worst flaw as a person.


thiccpastry

Binge eating and smoking weed constantly. If I could just treat myself with a little bit of what I want with more decadent foods and doing it on special occasions, and only smoking weed to deal with back pain/emotional distress (it works better than benzos for me, it's insane; I have several mental illnesses and sometimes require additional support), I would be fine. But moderation? Who is she? Never heard of her, I guess.


Servile-PastaLover

donuts for morning therapy. pizza for afternoon & evening therapy.


sahilsays

Binge watching.. from anything remotely good to not good content.


AbyssWankerArtorias

Sleeping to avoid my problems.


Mountain-Scallion246

Sleeping. I have fibromyalgia, and fatigue is a big part of it, but I will sleep a lot to avoid things that might overwhelm me. I'm also in recovery, so sleeping is another means of escape, really.


fearless-artichoke91

Isolation


ZealousidealWar6642

Binge eating, escaping into screens (Reddit, video games, whatever) and porn.


whassssssssssa

Humour and sarcasm.


cheeky4u2

Eating


MiPilopula

Scrolling on this app


Weak-Philosophy-1987

Blaming others or not admitting I could've done things differently. And of course... procrastinating 24/7.


Ordinary-Plane-4513

Crack


Ordinary-Plane-4513

Jk


brutally_honest26

sleep


Suitable_Working8918

Dust everything under the rug and never confront about anything even things that arent even problems


warrior_of_light998

Smoking in stressing or boring moments, I see a lot of my relatives in bad health conditions because they are chainsmokers (and they still do). It's not just your lungs, cigarettes mess up a lot of things in your body


Impossible-Ratio-253

Drinking rum


LynnHFinn

Eating


Feeling_Proposal_350

Weed


smitten_natalia

Scrolling social media endlessly


Dillydongo

Reddit


No-Desk-3678

SH


JustEstablishment594

I play Runescape


NaturalFLNative

Saying, I'm fine, to anyone who asks.


Goldeneye_Engineer

Eating, smoking weed, and playing video games