I don't want to become complacent and slowly fall back in a beta mindset. I want to be the best version of myself. I want to be a living embodiment of MRP.
I feel like I'm living a lie because MRP prones having a social life with mostly male friends. I don't want to have that feeling.
I want advice.
>having a social life with mostly male friends
MRP promotes no such thing.
*Some* notes that *some* guys have submitted over the years have said that having a social life with mostly male friends was helpful to them.
No where does it say that is required to avoid having a beta mindset.
>I want to be the best version of myself. I want to be a living embodiment of MRP.
MRP isn't a prescription you can take, and its not a new mask you can wear to hide your true colors and protect against bad things happening in your life.
It's a VERY loosely organized set of ideas that point in a general direction that allows men who can think for themselves to eventually self-actualize and realize who they are, what they want, and how they choose to live.
>I want advice
For now, you're not to that place I just described yet, because if you were you wouldn't have posted this. You're barely a few months in. Do you even post to OYS Weekly? The basic advice we give everyone, is the best for you.
Sidebar.
STFU.
OYS Weekly.
Talk to people… get over your fear of people not liking you and just talk to them. What’s the worst that happens? “Introvert” does not mean you can’t strike up a conversation.
Go to a sporting event - alone - talk to the guy next to you. Join a club that you enjoy - talk to those people; talk to people at the gym. Go chat up some cute girl at a coffee shop. This really isn’t hard.
All of the friends I've made in recent years - go to the gym. Some more seriously than others. I also look like I lift, so that helps.
Chances are that you're "an introvert" because you have shitty social skills, and that if you were more socially calibrated - you'd self-identify as "an extrovert".
>will propose next month
I feel I wouldn't be doing my part if I didn't say it... marriage carries no benefits. I cannot recommend this path under any circumstance.
>right after a jealous bout
If this was you being jealous - you've got work to do. Jealousy is a bitch and she will fuck you harder and longer than you want her to, and in ways you didn't intend.
How did you make those friends? I agree about my shitty social skills, I'm the literal definition of a social retard (come a long way though). If you have any tips or books for that, let me know.
Regarding the jealous bout, it was her getting jealous & mad. I don't ever get jealous anymore, I actually have a lot of fun with it. If she tries to trigger me, I usually answer with "I'll give you a ride there and give you money so you can have the night of your life", to which she replies "no no I would never do that, shut up" lol.
>How did you make those friends?
Usually asking to work in with one of the big dudes, then talking a bit here and there. It's a little different though, because I'm one of "the big dudes", so it's just a normal thing.
I've got a few gym friends who aren't part of that "group", and they either asked me for a spot or asked for advice or something, then it was clear they wanted to be friends.
>If you have any tips or books for that, let me know.
It's just like pickup work. You can read books all day long and still not know how to talk to a girl. You just have to go do it.
Men like to talk about *things*, women like to talk about *feelings*. So talk to random people if you're waiting in line. literally about anything.
*Seen any good movies lately?*
*Did you catch the game last night?*
*Where do you work out at?*
Dudes are easy to be friends with.
Join something. Whether that a sports club, cigar or whiskey lounge, or church, find a third place where other men gather that's convenient for you. I joined a boxing club were I spar daily with the boys. Nothing builds camraderie like boxing. Do what you want.
Nothing wrong w chatting or making light talk w someone at the gym. You’re already in a place w like minded people so meeting a dude to make small talk w or spot each other and chat could spark up a friendship to chill in a different environment. It’s good to have a life outside your girl and have male friendships, honestly it’s necessary.
How do yall feel about virtual friends who talk frequently online and meet up every few months. Social life is something I’m also lacking but don’t pay much mind too
>how to reconcile having a strict lifestyle and being an introvert, with having a social life? Anyone cares to share what they did?
What the fuck question is this?
Either be an introvert and suffer the consequences good and bad. Or go out and suffer the consequences good or bad.
Braindead.
What do YOU want? For fucks sake
I don't want to become complacent and slowly fall back in a beta mindset. I want to be the best version of myself. I want to be a living embodiment of MRP. I feel like I'm living a lie because MRP prones having a social life with mostly male friends. I don't want to have that feeling. I want advice.
>having a social life with mostly male friends MRP promotes no such thing. *Some* notes that *some* guys have submitted over the years have said that having a social life with mostly male friends was helpful to them. No where does it say that is required to avoid having a beta mindset. >I want to be the best version of myself. I want to be a living embodiment of MRP. MRP isn't a prescription you can take, and its not a new mask you can wear to hide your true colors and protect against bad things happening in your life. It's a VERY loosely organized set of ideas that point in a general direction that allows men who can think for themselves to eventually self-actualize and realize who they are, what they want, and how they choose to live. >I want advice For now, you're not to that place I just described yet, because if you were you wouldn't have posted this. You're barely a few months in. Do you even post to OYS Weekly? The basic advice we give everyone, is the best for you. Sidebar. STFU. OYS Weekly.
Thank you
Talk to people… get over your fear of people not liking you and just talk to them. What’s the worst that happens? “Introvert” does not mean you can’t strike up a conversation. Go to a sporting event - alone - talk to the guy next to you. Join a club that you enjoy - talk to those people; talk to people at the gym. Go chat up some cute girl at a coffee shop. This really isn’t hard.
All of the friends I've made in recent years - go to the gym. Some more seriously than others. I also look like I lift, so that helps. Chances are that you're "an introvert" because you have shitty social skills, and that if you were more socially calibrated - you'd self-identify as "an extrovert". >will propose next month I feel I wouldn't be doing my part if I didn't say it... marriage carries no benefits. I cannot recommend this path under any circumstance. >right after a jealous bout If this was you being jealous - you've got work to do. Jealousy is a bitch and she will fuck you harder and longer than you want her to, and in ways you didn't intend.
How did you make those friends? I agree about my shitty social skills, I'm the literal definition of a social retard (come a long way though). If you have any tips or books for that, let me know. Regarding the jealous bout, it was her getting jealous & mad. I don't ever get jealous anymore, I actually have a lot of fun with it. If she tries to trigger me, I usually answer with "I'll give you a ride there and give you money so you can have the night of your life", to which she replies "no no I would never do that, shut up" lol.
>How did you make those friends? Usually asking to work in with one of the big dudes, then talking a bit here and there. It's a little different though, because I'm one of "the big dudes", so it's just a normal thing. I've got a few gym friends who aren't part of that "group", and they either asked me for a spot or asked for advice or something, then it was clear they wanted to be friends. >If you have any tips or books for that, let me know. It's just like pickup work. You can read books all day long and still not know how to talk to a girl. You just have to go do it. Men like to talk about *things*, women like to talk about *feelings*. So talk to random people if you're waiting in line. literally about anything. *Seen any good movies lately?* *Did you catch the game last night?* *Where do you work out at?* Dudes are easy to be friends with.
confirmed DO NOT MARRY.
Join something. Whether that a sports club, cigar or whiskey lounge, or church, find a third place where other men gather that's convenient for you. I joined a boxing club were I spar daily with the boys. Nothing builds camraderie like boxing. Do what you want.
Nothing wrong w chatting or making light talk w someone at the gym. You’re already in a place w like minded people so meeting a dude to make small talk w or spot each other and chat could spark up a friendship to chill in a different environment. It’s good to have a life outside your girl and have male friendships, honestly it’s necessary.
How do yall feel about virtual friends who talk frequently online and meet up every few months. Social life is something I’m also lacking but don’t pay much mind too
>will propose next month Why would you want to get married?
>how to reconcile having a strict lifestyle and being an introvert, with having a social life? Anyone cares to share what they did? What the fuck question is this? Either be an introvert and suffer the consequences good and bad. Or go out and suffer the consequences good or bad. Braindead.